Koj Muaj Tug Lawm Los Kuv Mam Nrhiav Dua Tshiab. 3/20/2023 

After what he did to you and you still associate yourself with him? If you still can’t leave him then stop lecturing because it means nothing if you are still hung up on him.

Ok sister with your level of education and your adopt daughter. Why! Would you put yourself in this situation. You have your daughter that all you need. You don’t need this guy. Kick his ass out of your house and your life. It hurt me so much much what he put you through. Leave him no man worth all the (sh) he put you through.

Sister, you say that he hurts you, betrays you, marry someone else ... but you still stay. You have to know and believe that you are valuable enough to deserve better and leave him for good. Good luck.

Please respect yourself! This is America, it is a big disappointment to listen to this story. No woman should tolerate a man like this!

Remember to love yourself and respect. No man is worth the stress . Best of luck.

You're well educated and financially independent, but I'm speechless that you allowed that piece of trash to treat you like that. How are we going to convince those who are less educated and less well-off advocates for self-love with you as an example.

If I have a successful career and a husband like that I’d dump him. He obviously doesn’t love you. Having a kid doesn’t require a niam yau! If he love you he will find another way like a surrogate who can carry your child for you. Idk why you allow that kind of man in your life. He can’t love that child because it’s not his blood which proves how narrow his mind and heart is that he can’t even open his heart to a child that is not his. Hmong people need to stop this excuse to have a niam yau!

I don’t understand why an educated woman allows a man to treat her this way. Even if you can’t have children, you should still not stoop yourself that low to allow him to do this to you. I’d change the locks on him when I got back home. End my misery right away. No questions asked or no more words from me. No need to waste a spit out of my mouth and my mind. This is why men gives themselves so much power. I’d rather go find my own happiness rather it be one night stands with other people. I can live a happy life alone without him.

All the talk but you’re still with him………may you find peace, the strength to move on and find your happiness.

It’s hard to listen to women who sound strong or claim they don’t care, but can’t leave their cheating husband.

Hmong women, we need to do better. Self love and care please! Stop letting others treat you like trash.

How sad. If u can't love an adopted child or can't treat the child with your whole heart then please don't adopt (talking about the jerk of the man).

Sister, divorce traditionally and be done with him. Before he dies from stroke from finding his niam mos ab in bed with someone else AND you have to be reliable for 50% as niam hlob. You claim to no longer have a husband but can't walk your talk. If he dies, you are still liable. Love yourself......move on.

If you claim to not care anymore about him, why are you still "traditionally married" to him or even allowing contact with him? quit causing drama for yourself If you're gonna cut ties, cut ALL ties for good.

These kinda stories just always blows my mind. We Hmong women need to see our worth. Just a reminder, people are only going to treat you how you allow them to treat you

Only people like you understand your pain…only men like him understand his wants. Everyone has wants and need. Do what’s right and let god judge 😃

I feel your pain and heartache sister. How can someone claim to love you but intentionally hurt you? You should’ve culturally divorced him the day you gave him the divorce papers. You need to culturally divorce him ASAP so you can move on. He thinks he can have both worlds, you and his niam yau. He does not deserve you. Love and respect yourself. Don’t continue to put yourself in this drama life for the sake of your health. Good luck.

these pathetic stories put so much shame on us poj niam hmoob. How much poop can her head contain to be that shameful of herself to keep sticking with a dude, who treated her like shit, DIVORCED her, and remarried Already? Just speechless 😶 Yuav txog thaum twg cov poj hmoob no mam yaj tag mus lau es thiaj tsis ua khib nyiab tsuas poj niam hmoob rau phaum phaum tom ntej na?

Txhob tu siab tus txiv phem ces nws yeej yuav nrhiav kev rhuav kom tau lub Neej li o..kuv twb muaj 3leej Tub 1leeg ntxhais ...me nyuam loj tag tsim txiaj tag Los nws tseem nrauj peb cov niam tub thiab tmseem mus yuav ib niag pog laus tshaj kuv lawm thiab....yus rov hlub hlub yus tus kheej txhob ua niag neeg tag nqi....nyob rau luag tsim o poj hmoob aw...

Viv ncaus thaum luag tsi hlub yus lawm cas pheej quaj22 na sawv khov take care your self 😊

Hate these stories especially whenthe wife let's the husband hurt them emotionally arghhhh!

I always believe that our Hmong sisters allowed their husbands to do it, that's why they do it.

This is America. Move on and love your daughter and yourself. Enjoy yourself. Don’t care about him

Sister awe, this is AMERICA. You don't need any kids to survive or grow old. Love yourself and your daughter, let him go.

I don’t understand why you allow him to treat you like a doormat. Even if you can’t have kids, you should still love yourself and not allow him to do whatever he wants. I will never understand why some women can love a man that much to tolerate his infidelity.

May….I WANT TO KNOW THIS LADY.Hi!….Leej muam dai siab❤….

Cas kuv mloog xwb kuv twb xav muab koj faus ciaj lawm os niag dab aw cas koj phim tuag ua luaj niag txiv liam aw Tus txiv neej liam li koj ces ntuj nyob qis2 xwb os

Ua cas nej pheej uv tau yam mob siab mob hlwb ua luaj li os tej tug niag txiv neej qias neeg li koj niag ko ces yeej khua cia nws tuag nyob qab choj lawm xwb os Cas koj yuav hlub nws koj tsis hlub koj tus kheej

It’s not about self love, it’s not about being independent. You all know that’s bs. Even the self proclaimed independent women out there are secretly looking for a man and always looking at your man! As humans, we all want and need someone by our side. Stop grouping an entire community too! Humans in general need companionship and someone to love. This “love yourself” and “put yourself” first crap doesn’t apply in reality! Especially to someone who knows they are the one who cannot bear children. It’s even more difficult to let go or love yourself when you love the other person as much as you love yourself. And that’s human nature!!! Don’t go proclaiming she can buy herself flowers or take herself dancing because we all know the woman who sings that song has a bf and constantly cannot go two seconds without a man! It’s all bs! All we can do as humans is slowly realize that we are no longer loved and we are forced to let go because we have no choice! That’s the reality of it!

Everyone has a desire in life no matter what. His desire in life is not you. If he loves and care for you he wouldn't treat you that way. It's okay to be divorce- I don't understand why some ladies find it so shameful to be a divorcee. It's shameful to see a educated woman like you to let your husband treat you that way. Love yourself and live a happier life. Divide your life earning and part yourself from him. There are better men out there or better yet be by yourself. He's nothing but a piece of unworthy ---! One last note if you have a broken marriage don't bring in a innocent person into your broken marriage and let them see how your high and mighty husband treat you. Do you ever think about what you're showing her?

Poj hmoob koj zoo rau qhov koj lav tau tus me nyuam los es koj lub neej muaj quav dev los koj tsis tso tus me nyuam ko tes Tab sis xyov ua cas twb nyob teb chaw vam meej lawm koj tseem ua tsis tau rau tus txiv thiab tus poj niam ko tsa taw li

I just don't feel bad for all these types of stories anymore. It's like you put yourself in this kind of situation.. Have you not ever heard of "surrogacy". If you say you have a degree and have 2 rental house etc why not go for a surrogate? It's expensive, yes! But it is worth everything in this world to have your real own child into your arm to love and cherish forever. Best of wish for you.

Koj uv taus tus neeg ko ntev kawg li poj hmoob aw Koj twb ua tsis tau ib yam dab tsi kom nws pov2 khawv li 😡

Sister, you're an educated woman. Why do you allow your husband to cheat on you like this? You should've gave him the ultimatum that if he's going to seek another woman, you two need to divorce and he leave with nothing. That kind of man only love you on conditions. A man who truly love you will understand you and love you regardless of you able to bear a child.

Niag txiv liam cas tseem kab hais tias coj koj niag pog poob mus xya me nyuag rau luag zov thiab os

The cultural standard to prioritize having children and descendents is so stupid. Even if you bring those children into the world you don't even love them what's the point. It's better some people don't have kids when they don't know how to love those around them.

Ua cas yuav pab 😢 tus niam tsev no mob siab ua luaj os .tus niam laus aw ua cas peb cov tsis muaj menyuam no ma yuav raug tus txiv tsim yus nplooj siab mob ua luaj os.kuv mloog es kuv nim tu tu siab nrog koj nim los los kua muag

These stories are so cliche and boring.

Niag txiv dev niag pog ruam niag niam ntiav liam nej 3 leeg mas xyov li lau

I don't understand why you're still arguing or have any association with your husband after a year after signing the divorce papers.

All i hear about you two is “me, me, me, my, my”. All I can think about is the mess you two dragged your adopted child into your selfish mess. Maybe there is a reason you both weren’t supposed to have a child. Raise yourself before you should attempt to raise a child together

Poj hmoob ruam quaj quaj quaj tas li

Feel sorry for this lady. She needs to be strong and go on with her life. Forget about this man!!!!

Girl, you are only book smart. I get it that you love him, but why torture yourself for someone who has no respect.

Women call me up we will make your husband jealous lol

Man!! He must have a diamond D for her to stay this long.

I hope you find happiness one day. Remember to love yourself first.

I wished our Hmong sisters would learn how to love themselves. We need to let go of this notion, that being a divorced Hmong woman is bad. And the notion that we need a man. It's perfectly fine to be by yourself, and become independent. That's better than having someone that demeans and disrespects you on a daily basis. Love yourself.

tu.tu..siab.likuv..tsitaumuajibtuhlibkoj..os..kuvxavmuajniam.tsevtiastiag..oskojpuabtxog...oslov..

Man like him never love you. Someone that love you will love you in every circumstances…

Ntaub Ntawv SibNrauj Neb twb Suam Npe Tim Ntsej Tim Muag ntawm Nom Tswv Mekas lawm ces tas li ntawd lawm xwb os. Tus yuav mus qhov twg los tau, yuav yuav Pojniam yuav Txiv los tau, tham hluas Nkauj, tham hluas Nraug los ok it’s free after you both signed the Divorce documents done is done

Koj tus txiv siab phem tshaj nplaws nrauj los zoo

Woua,tus thaub laug hmoob meskas,tsis yog ua neeg laug zoo,huas nyiaj neeg vwm ruam neeg ntxim ntxhub.kuv maj ntxhub cov txiv neej hmoob ruam nuav.

Txiv neej txoj niag kev siab phem ces tsis muaj me nyuam los yuav yuav niam yau, muaj me nyuam puv tsev. Muaj tub ua doctor muaj ntxhais ua lawyer los yeej tseem yuav niam yau quj qees li. Twb sib nrauj tag cas tseem cia nws khoo koj thiab? Cheem koj tseem hluas kav tsij mus yuav txiv los ma. Nws cov niag tsaub ces nws lam yug tau xwb nws yeej yuav mob stroke ua ntej tsis tau zog noj li os. Nyob teb chaws no ces txawm muaj me nyuam thiab tsis muaj los yeej kawg 401k thiaj li pab tau yav thaum laus xwb.

Get away from him. You say ya’ll divorce and he doesn’t mean anything to you, but you still with him… women like you talk the talk but cannot walk the walk. Just stay with him until he knock you out like he said… 🙄

Niag thaub hmoob ameka ruam noj quav , nej twb sib nrauj tag nram xam lawm na ..! Yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj pheej hais tias tshuav ntawm hmoob ! Quavdev aw...cov niag ntsej muag txiv neej hmoob xuab hais rau cov xuab li koj xwb ov .

Tus me ntxhais koj yog nkauj hmoob xeem dab tsi? Thiab koj hnub nyug pes tshawg lawm? kuv tus tub tus poj niam tau tso nws tseg rau xyoo 2020 lawm nkawd muaj 5 tug me nyuam nawb. Peb xav nrhiav ib tug nyab kom txhob muaj me nyuam los tu tus tub lawm xwb os.

Niam tais aw pab tu siab txog txij luag mus yuav ib tug lawm ces yus tag nqi rau hnub nws yuav niam yau lawm yus. Nrhiav tus hlub2 yus xwb koj yuav tau hlub koj tus ntxhais qhia nws kOM ua neeg zoo kOM Tom ntej thiaj muaj tus hlub koj xwb txiv neej ces yog nws tsis muaj mi nyuam ces nws kOM yus nyob. Nrog nws ho yog yus tsis muaj ces nws yeej mus yuav ib los hlub rau yus ntsia xwb kav tsij mus nrhiav tus hlub yus xwb nyob tsis ntxiv dab tsi lawm thov kOM koj mus nrhiav tau tus hlub tiag xwb mog

Yog tus koj hlub phem li koj hais- cas kev tho tos, koj ho nyob ma? Tej zaum tseem tshuav qhov koj hlub2 nco2 thiaj tseem nyob.😊

Poj hmoob ruam, koj hais tias koj twb muaj daim ntawv nrauj tiamsis koj pheej hu nws ua mi koj txiv. Koj txhob tuaj khav2 tias koj tsis k mas lod, nrauj tsis tau ces uv twj ywm es ua npua lag ntseg xwb mas. Koj Yeej yuav mag tej niag qws vim koj ruam dhau lawm.

Txiv neej hmoob mas lawv xav kom yus uv lawv 💯 xwb yog yus ua ces yus phem xwb! Nrauj tag lawm ces nyis mus nyias os ua zoo tsam tuag lub txias zias os! Yus txoj sia tseem ceeb dua os mog..

Ib tsoom phooj ywg txhob vam2 ua ntawv sib nraug dag hauv xam luag tsis nrog peb ua si ntawv nrauj tawv rawv ces luag yuav ua txij ntuj los ua twj ywm xwb txhob ua pa

I'm confused. What kind of doctor are you? A doctor who wouldn't divorce a dog? Hmmm... ???

Cov mi viv ncaws uas tsis muaj mi nyuam, teb chaw no Dr twb keej es, nug nej tej viv ncaus niam hlob niam ntxawb, seb lawv puas kam yug 1 tug rau nej, tab sis yuav neb 1 niam txiv li mi nyuam rau lawv pab suab xwb os, tsis yog lawv tus os.

Ua cas yuav mus ruam ua luaj li.muab koj niag txiv pov khib nyiab xwb mas!kuv mloog mas kuv tseem xav rho qws rau koj tsaj.koj tsis muaj siab los?

Nco ntsoov tias tiam no yog tiam 22 lawm es yog koj hlub koj tus kheej ces muab nws nrauj mus es koj lub neej thiaj li kajsiab thiab koj tus kheej tsis muaj mob stroke os. Ntawv nrauj twb muaj lawm ces tham hluas nraug tau lawm os. Cov txiv mos ab ces nkim sij hawm xwb os

Txiv neej siab, siab phem os, yog peb poj muaj tsis taus me nyuam lawv yuav lwm tus hos yog tim tus txiv tsis nusj los peb poj niam yeej hlub yeej yuav lawv, kav liam os me niam hluas ntawd tus tswv txoj dab neeg no los yog cov tsis muaj me nyuam peb cov viv ncaus hmoob coob coob li no pebvtwb muaj tsheej pab me nyuam tsheej pab tub pab ntxhais los peb cov txiv twb tsis yuav peb thiab mog tus txiv siab phem ces yeej siab phem mog, yus tsis muaj los yeej muaj tus hlub yus thisb os nawb mog

Niam lau aw koj hai dab neeg tu siab heev li os 😭😭😭 g mj me nyuam lo yuav2 niam yau ho mj me nyuam lo yuav2 yau thb

Ua neeg nyob no es yog poj niam muaj tsis taus me nyuam xwb es txiv neej rua muag plias mus yuav ib tug tshiab hlub rau tus poj niam ntsiag na. Yog li yog tim tus txiv neej es tus poj niam cia li mus yuav kiag ib tug los puag rau tus txiv ntsia na, puas mob siab nawj? Cas nej pheej xav kom nej zoo siab xwb es nej tsis xav tias, “Yog nws ua rau kuv ne kuv ho yuav zoo li cas?”.

Have integrity and respect yourself. Even if you just see this two adequately, you don't run into issues like this. You also know traditional Hmong culture segregate a very vital part of it out, so you must go beyond the culture and set limits before things get out of control. There is no need to trouble with practices that have been know not to work well by more advanced cultures. If we are to assimilate well into the US culture, we must adhere its history of trials and successes. Sister, I am very proud of you for adopting another race for your child. Remember that a child in your care is your child and no one else's. You teach and love her well, and she will return the same kindness. The opportunities in this county are bountiful and rich, and she can have a very fair chance at a good life. Good luck and trust in goodness.

Yog vim li cas es peb hmoob meskas yuav vwm ua luaj rau hmoob noog xav kom hlub tus kheej nrog poj niam menyuam yog g hlub no hov thxob yuav los tsim txom lawv lub hlwb os sawv daws cas nej yuav g paub sib hlub li nas lovv

Me niam hluas Aw yog xav tias muaj tus zoo es xav yuav txiv no mam nrhiav cov Nyob meskas xwb txhob mus tos ib niag tim nplog tuaj yuav kav tsis ntev lawv xav tuam choj xwb os mog peb cov poj niam ces yeej chim ib yam nawb

Cas thaum koj sign daim ntawv nrauj cas koj tsis ntxias kom nws muab txhua yam ua koj npe tso kom nws txhob tau ib nyuag qhov dab tsi li naw.

Tus niam tsev tau tus txiv liam npaum ko cas ho tsis nrauj ntawm hmoob kom Tag tag txhob tias nws lub npe es hnub koj tus txiv tuag koj thiaj li tsis tau tha os lav tsij mus nriav tus hlub tshiab tus qub ces txhob tos lawm mog qub neeg ces qub siab cia kom koj tus qub txiv mob siab mob plawv tuag mus zoo dua tus phem muab xa dab mus tus tshiab maj maj lo nyob hauv koj lub siab os tus niam tsev

Thaum ub kuv tus phooj ywg twb yuav nws tus txiv tau 10 lub xyoo nws tsis muaj nws hloov txiv tshiab nws twb muaj lawm os

I truly believe that some of the Hmong men’s were used their beautiful wife bearing childless for an excused for committing adultery and marrying multiple wife’s! The options of adoption was there for couples to adopt a loving child into the family for adored and loves, teaching, educating as family values because of that reason but Hmong men’s used the bloodline always! Why there are so many problems still existed in the hmong community from bloodline? For example when you are getting older and unable to take care for yourself, the bloodline children’s weren’t able to takeoff work for you. When die the funeral service will carry your casket to the grave or other relatives can carry it for you here in America, they have everything in place for you. When you die leaves everything to someone who’s loved you or to the Government instead because no matter what you had when die who care you will not carry everything with you to hell or Heaven anyway. Just enjoy life with your spouse while you have each others!!

Luag twb nrauj koj tag ntawbntawv koj twb muaj ne cas koj ho pheej hais tías koj tseem yog nws tus thiab tseem hu nws tias koj txiv no na tej zaum koj tsis tso nws xwb pob kuv xav na

nrog koj tu siab heev tus niam laus aw leej twg raug txij kev no es nkag siab tias tu siab npaum cas thaum luag tsis hlub yus nco ntsoov hlub yus tus kheej lawm xwb

Tus niam tsev tau 1 tug txiv siab phem li ko cas koj tseem nyob na cas koj tseem yuav nws lub npe kom koj tau tu quav tu zis na nrsuj mus kom tag kom tu tu qab mas koj tseem hluas kav tsij mus ua hluas nkauj mus nriav tus tshiab txhob nyob tos tos tus tsis hlub koj mas nploog koj zaj no mas zoo li koj tseem khuv xim tus qub txiv na nrauj npe nrauj xeem kom tu kom txhob tsu tha tus txiv siab phem ko tsam niam yai khiav mus ces koj mag tu wuav tu zis os nrauj mus kom tag tag txiv zoo tseem muaj os

Ruam ua luaj yus tsi paub thiab luag yeej tsi hlub es yus yuav ua dev les ua dab tsi nab poj hmoob aw. Ua kiag ib tsi txhob mob lawm mog hlub yus tus kheej tso nawb.

I honestly am annoyed at listening to this story. She brags about how she doesn’t care, lectures about how she should handle him, but at the same time won’t officially divorce him. She only signed the papers because she didn’t have a choice. I don’t feel sorry for indecisive people that continuously put themselves in that situation.

Sister I'm not sure what kinda job you doing, but it sounds like you are a Dr, nurse. You had your little girl with you just leave him you can support her. No need to waste your life with the cheater

lol, you (husband) let your bird out of the cage, please don't have a heart attack. she's no longer your wife. your divorce document is legit in this country. you rely on her to be your mistress so depend on if she's loyal to you or not. play dumb, live with it.

You need to be traditionally Hmong divorce with him already! No string attached! Why you still let him control you like that?! Self love!

To the lady of this story: if you are so well off why only gave him $15k and it ran out so quickly. This lady act so og and gave up all her rights. Still living a polygamist life.

你好，nyob zoo os.kuv xav kom koj pab kuv hais ib zaj neej neeg es ua cas thiaj xav tau tuaj koj os

Come on sister…i dnt know why you need to stick around him and be humiliated publicly. Why couldn’t you just cut ties and live your best life without him? You letting him make you seem worthless. Please see your worth and just end your misery and move on

I’m not listening to this story anymore. These kind of stories are very annoying. If he is all that bad to you, why do you continue to stay with him. You don’t want to do anything with him anymore, why do you continue to stay with him? I don’t care what happens to the end of this story. I’m shutting it down.

Leave him and go find you a meka husband. You deserve the best. Don’t let your infertility get to you.

Sorry brother, Step aside. It’s over for you. Maybe I can send you a video of us.. 🎉lol

txhob tu siab os xam tias koj yug Tsis muaj nws thiaj yuav peb es tub ntxhais los muaj lawv twb tseem mus yuav ib tug lawm

Noj quav nyuj laus txiv neej hmoob li lub pob zeb.. poob rau dej!

Sister, I am in the same boat. My ex has his wife on Laos, and I divorced him when I found out he was cheating. Lots of men out there who doesnt want kids anymore. Please leave and find a 2nd chance at love.

Koj twb ua tsis tau ib yam kom tsig nyog koj tus txiv yuav niam yau es. Tus txiv zoo li koj tus ko nyob zoo zn tsi nad.

Cov txiv dev zoo li ces zoo cia cov poj niam ua taus taus ua kom tuag sawv ntsug kiag xwb

Ua neeg nyob yog yus tsis muaj mivnyuam lawm ces nwg yuav2 niam mo ab los cias nwg yuav nwg es yus mus yus.

Puas Yog Koj noj2 Tshuaj Tij Thaiv tsi pub muaj menyuam?

Yg poj niam g muaj ces yeej siab phem li no o yg txiv neej g muaj ces yus yeej ua g tau li cas li o

Prisoner of a culture and tradition that only accommodate Hmong man. It is up to you to break free from your own prison

Niam lau thov koj pab hais ib txoj rau kuv og kuv lub neej tu siab og