korean beauty standards ☕️ how my self image has changed & my ex-model husband's experience 

So much admiration for Jake for sharing his past with us! I can’t begin to imagine how difficult that time must have been for him, and it’s such a relief to hear he recovered. I remember when you first started to include him in your videos and he was so reluctant to be identified, now he’s talking so openly about very personal experiences 🤍 You’re both such beautiful souls and I hope you and your loved ones are always healthy & happy!

It amazes me how Jake went from not showing up to open up and share bits of him on such a delicate topic. You’re such a match! Love to you both from Portugal xxx

Huge respect for Jake for opening up like this on a public platform. I suffered from ED myself so I can imagine how hard it was for him to talk about it. I love how we can see that you were hurting when he was sharing his experience, I love you two together, the amount of love you share and how visible it is. So glad Jake recovered, keep growing together. Love you 💚

Hey Sissel I have a recommendation for your extra beauty and makeup products. Freelance Makeup artists that work on their own as well as makeup artist students that are building up their makeup kit. Also women/teens in the safe-houses who ran away from domestic abused families/situations, female teenagers in foster-care/orphanage system can use these gifted products. I’m sure this would be super useful to them and they would tremendously appreciate your help.

i love how you can see the love for Jake in Sissels eyes, like she is looking at him like he is her world both are so cute

I love how your videos have a perfect balance of being super aesthetic but still so real and vulnerable

I'm turning 32 next year and in retrospect, 25 feels soooo young. At that age, I felt like a total adult because I finally got the responsibility and freedom that I wished for when I was younger. But looking back, I feel like I matured even more between 25 and 30 than I did between 20 and 25 ..... Maybe in 5 years you will look back and feel the same way? Who knows :)

i can definetily feel the care you put into your videos, portraying this topic in such a well rounded and kind way... it also shows in the way Jake feels safe in talking about it with you (and your community).

I love that beauty standards are starting to change to a more healthy fitness look.

We can count ourselves so lucky, that Jake now feels also comfortable with your community Sissel, so he can share his story🫂💕 Huge respect for that💪 Sissel, your channel is such a comfort channel, we all appreciate and love you for forming such a comfy vibe in your videos💞

Your videos are just so incredibly helpful and relaxing. A real breath of fresh air 🤍. And it is so interesting to see how two different cultures can be. I wish you the best 🌿. Stay healthy !

The conversation with THE HUSBAND🥹 made me tear up, the way you look at him.. pure love❤

Jake is so strong sharing his experience. Thank you guys ♡

She needs to do a asmr video hahah her voice is so soothing especially while talking about mental awareness

PERHAPS MY MOST FAV EP! love hearing your openness, raw conversations and wisdom. Jake's too!

Oh I loved this video ! Jake's story and point of view about all this was so interesting. Thanks to both of you for offering us an open discussion 💚

I loved the editing style of this. Your videos are just so refreshing and also encouraging. Thank you for sharing, Sissel! God bless! ❤

Can I say how much I love your glasses? So cute! But also, I love how honest you are about how you've grown as a person and how you approach beauty in the present day. Keep glowing, girl!

the editing and the way you filmed everything was so nice and relaxing

I had such a difficult day today and you’re the first person made me smile ☺️. Thank you for that 💚. I’m in love with your vlogs 🥰

i have so much admiration for the both of you, thank you for opening up and trusting us with your experiences. I've been struggling a bit with my body image and this healed me a bit. Sending love from Sweden

What people consider is beautiful is in the eyes the beholder. None of us are meant to look the same & we are all different with our body types & our looks.

I always enjoy your take in the different aspects of life. For instance, I myself have lived in 4 different countries over my 25 years of life and it is really overwhelming having to adapt to the differences in culture and then feel whole, but I love how you always acknowledge the things you don't necessary like, about Korea in this case, but also respect the fact that it's part of the culture and you have to adapt to it to the best of your abilities and comfort, which where I live now not at lot of people have the ability or even care about trying. So THANK YOU for always brining that positive more optimistic point of view to life. Much love to you and Jake 💞💞

1:42 leaving the suitcases alone in a random place is just so korea 😅

Of course you have changed! we all do it, you have grown as a person, more mature, with more experience! and your skin now looks amazing 😊

Thank you Jake for sharing your experience with an ed. I know how difficult it must be to speak about it especially because the stigma around men's experiences of it.

I could relate so much with this video. Thank you! I liked in korea for almost 5 years and the first year and a half were the most challenging years of discovering myself. Thanks for the video!!

Sissel, your videos are like therapy for me, it’s like my mind is in peace after watching this. I used to have an eating disorder, anorexia nervosa, that was like 7 years ago. Now I gained like 20 kilograms, I’m at the other end. I’m scare of going to Korea because of my weight, people told me that Koreans treat you well if you are pretty and skinny. These videos give me some peace and confidence, thank you sissel

I'm continually impressed by the depth and diversity of thoughts and ideas in your content. To simply label them as 'vlogs' would be an injustice, in my view. Your videos represent an entirely unique genre, shedding light on issues and topics that often go unspoken. What sets you apart is your ability to address these matters in a truly insightful manner. Watching your latest videos feels like revisiting your older ones, yet there's a noticeable evolution in your perspective and approach to content creation. I'm genuinely excited by what I see and can't wait for what's to come. Keep up the exceptional work Sissel

I love your glasses! They look so good on you and they're the perfect colour hehe Styling them with a hair pin looks so cute 💚💚 As a person who's experienced both Scandinavian and Korean culture my whole life, it was so refreshing to learn how to give comments to people based on their outfits/items instead of getting comments about weight/ appearance in a negative way. Personally I see the western/foreign culture of that being more healthy for me but at the same time I know Koreans don't always have bad intentions regarding their comments so I have to relate to it becoming quite messy mentally hahaha love u

Watching your videos makes me so happy and relax. It’s like a piece in my mind. 😊❤

Happy Wednesday, Sissel!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🇺🇸🌷🇰🇷💚💚💚💚💚💚🎇👍. You look fabulous with the makeup on. I like it!😊⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍

Your vlogs are so beautifly filmed and edited. It is a pleasure to watch. They also relax me a lot.

It´s crazy to think that i started to follow you because of your videos about kpop and now you give me so much more insight about life, relationships, hope and so much more. Thank you youtube for making me discover you and you make such a great match with Jake. 😊💚

This is beautifully filmed and edited 😍

Awww the ending it was such a beautiful way to end this kind of video 💚

I've been working in fashion industry for more than 13 years already and I can say how triggering it may be. Same as in Korea, sometimes people are too straight-forward about models appearances and they aren't being delicate about bringing some points. It's especially cruel when they're talking to really young girls who may think that there's something really wrong with them. I'm glad that the industry is changing and is more open to variety/diversity of looks, yet this problem still exists. And same in Korea for sure. And I hear it a lot from my clients (I'm a model coach and photographer) that random people are often pointing on their weight and appearance. I personally haven't experienced this while living here, but I can say even though I understand that there's just this cultural aspect here, it's still uncomfortable and hurtful sometimes. Thank you for bringing this topic Sissel! And thanks to Jake for talking about his ED past. I know some people are ashamed of this things, especially guys, but bringing awareness is crucial! Sending hugs and love 💞

I remember watching your vlogs when you were living in denmark, i cant believe its been 5 years since you moved! Much love from the US! 🩷

I remember the time when Jake didn't even show his face, and now he shares such a personal story that touches every single one of your viewers. Thank you so much, Jake, for sharing this part of your life. It really made me emotional because I am going through a lot right now, and it involves the relationship that I have with my body. It made me feel hope that one day, I will find the strength to become healthier. Thank you Jake and Sissel, for this amazing video. Your videos are a safe place, and they have and always will be in a special place to my heart 💓 P.S. Sorry if I said something wrong. English is not my first language:)

I enjoyed this video so much. It was great to hear your reflections and see how your perspective evolves and continues to do so. I am really admirative of Jake as well for sharing his own experience on a topic that continues to be taboo! You've managed to create a truly safe and caring environment with this channel, both for yourself and your viewers, and I cannot express how good it is to have this kind of content. Thanks so much (from France) and take care 🤍

That was a genuine real moment...❤ the authenticity

Thank you for always sharing your honest feelings and experiences with us. I also appreciate Jake being so open with us and I’m glad he has recovered now. :) I’m born and raised in Vancouver, Canada so I’m glad he had a positive experience here. Do you think you two will ever visit Canada together?

Id love to see yearly Korean beauty standards video. See how the standards and the trends change. I think in Asian cultures when they mention about your weight it’s like acknowledging change maybe. Definitely not trying to be rude.

You always make me feel warm and soft, as if you made me a tea and cover me with a soft cotton blanket while i am laying down with a bad mood Luv❤

First of all I love the vibes in this vlog!!💌And second of all thank you for you honesty! I kind of needed this right now, because about a year ago I almost ate nothing just to fit into the beauty standards. Luckily I recovered, but I noticed that lately I kind of get into the same habit again of not eating that much. This vlog reminded me that you don't have to be skinny to be beautiful💚 thank you Sissel❤

Thank you for both of you for sharing your experience and being open about it. We are planning to move to South-Korea with a teenager and these are important to know!

Omg that art store is so precious! I can tell gift giving is one of your love languages bc you are always so thoughtful! 🫶🏻 ty for the great start to my day :)

Jake talking about his own experience was so cute because i know how hard it is for guys to open up

A very interesting video to watch and important topic discussed Sissel. It was interesting hearing about Jake's experience too!

so happy to see your growing over these years in Koreo . I used to dream about visiting the country but is so so expensive

Girl Your vlogs are a therapy🫶🥰🥰🥰and you are so adorable and beautiful , much love 💜💜💜

Yes, that’s what it is. When we say to you like ‘oh, you lost weight,’ it isn’t of judgement of beauty standard but more of concern if everything is going ok with you.

I definitely think the beauty standards are extreme in Korea. Most of the RU-vidrs I follow in Korea (majority are foreigners) have all had some incidences when in Korea about their look or in particular their size being of a negative nature. I appreciate yours and Jake’s honesty with this topic as it’s for sure a work in progress issue.

I really really enjoyed this video. I'm in my mid 40s & believe you are an old soul at heart. ❤ You are so wise beyond your years.

Towards the end I loved how you said you've learned to view the culture in a more wholesome light when it comes to weight. It's something I'm struggling with in Italy now, because it seems like so many interactions I'm trying to brush/laugh things off I wouldn't have to normally like weight...so it feels good knowing I'm not alone and remembering every culture has its own things like this. Cheers from Italia! xx

Always wish you will have longer vlogs for us every Wednesday ❤❤❤. Hah....can't wait till next week Sissel😅

I admire ur videos and how real and honest u are thank you so much for sharing❤❤❤

13:19 initiate sissel simp mode

You guys look so good together ❤️

Love Jakes harty laugh!!

This video was very helpfull. I am going to travel to seoul in two weeks and have freckles and am tall for a girl. I was worried koreans where going to think I am ugly and possibly treat me differently because I am a foreigner in their country. But this has soothed me. :)

I feel related to this video , because I was so affected by the idea that I need to be so skinny in someway when the first time I came to Korea, and it stresses me a lot both physically and mentally. However, as you said , we need to always remind ourselves about how great our own body, never let the words changes you

This was super interesting to watch! Thanks for sharing!!!

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So true and relatable. I just saw some Koreans ladies here in London and they looked so dolled up for everyday/travel this morning when I went to work! You can see the effort they put into the outfit for sure. Then you have British people going out on weekends…. Not sure I like that look (not all) either haha. Like you said, culture play a massive role 🤎☝️ Also thanks for sharing perspective Sissel and also Jake for personal past story. I am more petite but got boobs and hips and a bit over the standards of Asian thin and beauty standard and my partner don’t mind at all, but my mum think I am getting round and Asian standards I must be fat 😅 but I am not (just not workout fat)but they have standards and seem to like the stick look which I dislike…. It’s just different and I think as a women we should always change if we want to and dress things that we feel good in and fit 💚 It’s so true with being open with talking about weight compared to the west and I agree it’s not negative in Asia as in the west just can be awkward and uncomfortable especially depending on the tone and words haha this is the longest comment written hahahaha x

loved that expression about a plop of blood. so cool to hear some mention online what all of us females understand totally. thanks for saying that.

you're friends with the owner of my favorite korean brand? waaaah that's so cool. beauty of joseon is truly such a wonderful brand. you look REALLY good in dark grey tee btw. darker colors really look great on you. 💕

All my respect to Jake because he seems like a private person, so to share his past was very admirable.

The way she says 'there's a very logical and hormonal explanation to why I am feeling what I am feeling right now' at 14:42 while she's holding her stomach gave me such a pregnancy vibes. Idk. Maybe its just in my head, but I think Jake and Sissel are such a beautiful and full of light couple that I'd love to see them having a baby and bringing more light to our lives. Well, everything in due time, of course. Loved the video, as always, Sissel. Thank you and Jake for sharing such emotional things with us.

Thank you for your daily vlogs, love your content and for being so you , even when you are having a bad period day shared.😂

I really enjoyed this video :)

Short version: When it comes to physical appearance, "caring" =/= actually caring, even when considering cultural differences. Long version: As someone who grew up with both (the "Western" perpective and a Central Asian family which is incredibly similar to Korean culture) I have to say that the different kind of "togetherness" in Asian countries you describe is simply a false excuse for something inexcusable. Many people claim to "care" about others when they mention changes in appearance or even actively bully someone to "motivate" them, but they´re just lying to themselves to justify their actions. Many don´t feel deep care and worry for others; they´re just bothered by imperfection and have learned it´s fine to overstep boundaries (in many Asian countries the concept of boundaries doesn´t even exist). Aditionally, a lot of the "advice" given by "caring" family members, friends, strangers is based on false beliefs or incorrect information, which makes it even worse. Example: Option 1: Caring: You notice something off about a person dear to you - their energy level, mental state, physical appearance.. So you take time to sit down and ask how they´re doing and offer help. Option 2: "Caring": You notice someone has gained weight, so you say: "You´ve gained weight. You look like a pig. Disgusting. You should lose weight to look pretty again." See the difference? Anyone you claims that option 2 is caring is wrong. Personally, I generally don´t see a point in mentioning things others are aware of or are already struggeling with. Someone gained weight? Okay. They know, see, and feel it. Why bother insulting them for it? But this is difficult to explain to people who grew up with the notion of "health = weight/size" as opposed to "health = physical AND psychologcal health" (which includes how people feel and how they´re treated).

TMI. Just think of the incredible gift you have. To be able to make a human being. Your child to come ,will be so beautiful. The combination should be fabulous. It’s all worth it. My son is my life. ❤️🙏🏼

When you mentioned the clot i actually started laughing so hard HAHAHHAHA ur so real for that lmao

My family is very Austrian but we live in the US and for some reason all of the women in my family always has some sort of comment on appearance when they see you. I’m the only one that never mentions or cares enough to say anything. It drives me crazy. It’s not just weight, it’s hair or skin or clothes. Something has to be mentioned every time I see any of them. I have never understood why my family insists on doing this so it’s interesting to hear it’s common in Korea too.

Your videos are exactly what I need after a long day of studying❤

SMITH AND DAUGHTERS!! That restaurant is from my hometown! i know the chef!! eat there all the time :)

I don't know how to explain or discrip it, but if your "real/ true me" is awakening, because your view of the life had changed. You had learned or understand sth. your personality will completly change to the person/ me to have to be . In some moments you feel, the life ist different, maybe a little bit easier and sometimes hard to be steadfest in the new situation. Thats what happend to me, since i got my little sweet daughter. I hope you can understand what I mean.

I just love how whenever I watch your videos you‘re on your period and I‘m happen to be on my period, too 😂❤Also perfectly synced up to the blue moon for todays evening! Magical 🥰

Very interesting video, though I wish you’d have gone a bit deeper into the topic of beauty standards and societal pressure

5:21 Could you give me the inform. of the Lamp?

I can relate the vid. Before I move to here I was exposed to all the videos describing SK as a scary dystopian world with toxic culture only. I realized many of them were pretty exaggerated after living here. I mean if you are scared to travel to Korea due to your weight after watching too many videos about Korean beauty standard, it is time to stay away from internet. I can say this cause I was the one who watched EVERY videos talking about Korean beauty standard. What I can tell you is, no one cares about the weight of traveller. Now I look back how I was naive to take all the contents so seriously. Now I understand such scary videos attract more views and make more money! There are toxic beauty standard but it is exaggerated in this online world!

I love your white tops so much😫💛 where do you get them from?

My comment is not about korean beauty standards it is just a general observation concerning modern beauty standards and work out in specific, The good thing about the new trend to work out is that it is so much healthier than to just get as skinny as possible. Nevertheless, I have the impression that this trend hasn't really started for health reasons, but simply because of a change of taste: being skinny isn't en vogue anymore, being muscular is. So, the gym it has to be. Working out is the new requirement to make your body presentable, to make it fit into the new standard. Being a sporty person is great. 'Self-Optimization' on the other hand can be like a drug, and going to the gym for hours several times a week, in order to look and feel more beautiful is not that far away from dieting yourself away for the same reasons... Like I already said: it is more healthy than the skinny trend, which I like. But I'd like it even more if it prooved not to be just a new beauty-standard. People without a four times a week work out routine aren't necessarily unhealthy nor unfit, they just don't have a work-out-body.

Nice , interesting videos, thank you!

Thank You for sharing.

do you eat yogurt at that time of the month? very helpful

I hope more people just try and live a healthy life and not worry about size so much. As a kid and teen I was skinny. Then as I aged I just naturally started to fill out a bit. Now I have had three kids. My body will never be the same. It’s not a perfect body but it’s a body that produced three beautiful kids. They are healthy and happy. So I might not be a size 6/8 any more but I’m ok with that. Now I just want to be healthy and strong enough to live a good life.

So nice artwork- where is the store? I’m going to Seoul in September and would love to visit!

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Where exactly is this amazing print shop? I cannot find it on Google.

Watching you wear all your pretty shoes inspired me to buy a pair of my own!

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The glasses look so great on u :). I can't believe u r friend with the owner of Beaty of jesoen (hope I wrote this right):)

Where do you buy your Kaine and Pyunkang yul products?

Aww.. thanks for sharing

I usually enjoy Sissel's videos but this one in particular comes off extremely deluded. For many reasons. First, she seems to imply at the beginning that the stereotype that Korean beauty standards are incredibly harsh is not true, but gives zero explanation as to how Korean beauty standards actually differ in harshness from what she was expecting before she came to Korea. Second of all (I want to add here that I am happy for Jake for becoming healthier, I commend him, but) he implies that Korean standards have now loosened up and Korean people are now into "being" healthy because they go to the gym. As someone who has been living in Korea for almost three years now, I absolutely love it here and am planning on settling down here, and I am all for clearing up wrongful stereotypes about Korea. But let me tell you, the beauty standard stereotype is not exaggerated in any way, shape, or form. Sissel and Jake seem to be surrounded by kind, well-meaning, happy, and healthy people, which could contribute to this opinion. However, make no mistakes, this is their small (and might I add, financially privileged) social circle, and does not reflect Korean society. Every single one of my Korean friends has been told that they should get plastic surgery BY THEIR OWN PARENTS. It starts there. When girls post a picture to Instagram, people have no problem at all publicly commenting things like "wow your cheeks are so fat" "cover up, these clothes are not for your body type" "not pretty" and even harsher things. These are all comments I have seen myself under my friends' pictures. It also seems like Sissel at the end of the video attempts to suggest that these comments are well-intended. Come on, seriously? There was a recent k-drama "mask girl" which touches on this very issue. People who are considered ugly in this society are treated like second-class citizens, and therefore most people struggle viciously to fit the beauty standard. They even get discriminated against in job interviews. I have lived in 5 different countries and never have I witnessed a society that is as obsessed with appearance as South Korea is, it's not the plastic surgery capital of the world for nothing. When it comes to Jake's comment, we must make a distinction between "being" healthy, and "looking" healthy. Koreans are now obsessed with muscle bodies, yes, and they want to look healthy, but they could not care less about actually being healthy. They do not exercise for the health benefits, and still heavily restrict their diets to achieve a certain look. Orthorexia is still an eating disorder. Not only this, but Koreans are the biggest consumers of luxury goods in the WORLD. They might not be able to afford rent, but rest assured they WILL walk around in Balenciaga shoes and a Chanel purse. This further comes to show that their outward appearance and how they are perceived by others is very high in their priorities list, and oftentimes higher than health. Please do not be deceived by this video and come to Korea expecting any less than extremely harsh beauty standards. I feel like this comment is very messy because I wrote it quickly in the heat of the moment, but yeah, this is my opinion.

Do you wear Sarahs earrings? From 2hearts1seoul ❤

One question du have a Danish/korean driver's license and do u drive in Korea ?

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