Agreed. I had what I'm pretty sure now was undiagnosed PPD. My husband went back to work after just 2 weeks and I had very little help, I sobbed every day for a yr because it was so hard. My helpers came on the weekends when my husband was already home (I really needed the help when he was gone at work 😞) and usually it consisted of my mom or my MIL holding my LO while she napped for an hr or two, and I eventually started cutting the grass for my break because the sound of the lawnmower drowned out the phantom cries I heard if I just tried to relax with a bath, nap, or by reading a book. It was ROUGH.
@@sangnamja9727 no i rather not paid in to this bull shirt , if my wife cant get up to move around and be lazy , she going get blood clots . also if she too lazy to bond with the baby she a bad mother . not only you would trust complete stranger with a new born , thing like creep , mishandling of a baby , baby swap and babynapped,. Do people like you not know what a midwife is for .
The fact that a mother being cared for and taking time to HEAL makes people think they’re a bad mom has more to say about humanity as a whole than the mother.
@symptomoftheuniverse3862 we live under capitalism. Everything is gonna be a class thing. But there's no shame in women who can afford it making things easier for themselves if they can. The aim shouldn't be to limit good things for women. It should be to extend that access to all mothers
1000% not a bad mom! You are treating your body with the respect that it deserves to ensure your beautiful baby gets the best version of you. This isnt just self care its family care!
You carried a child for months, your body changed and then you had to push the kiddo out. Your mind and body need healing so that you can move forward with your kiddo. You definitely deserved this break it’s to help you recover and heal, it takes a village. Moms are something else in a good way. I am not a mom but man I have so much respect for mothers. ❤
Brooke. This is how it used to be in the old days. Mothers used to be allowed to rest a lot, and you had to stay in the hospital for a week or more. And when you are allowed to leave, you were given a large box of goodies to start you off. You then had free clinics where you and your baby would be well looked after with lots of free goodies.
You’re an EXCELLENT MOM for allowing yourself to be cared after giving birth. Getting help is how it should be after bringing another life into the world.
You’re definitely not a bad mother for wanting to ensure you heal and be in the best possible state of mind to care for your child im sure if we could ALL mothers would do this I know I would 😂❤❤❤
I was in hospital over a week after my second one they wasn’t that hands on but it gave me time to get myself in the right headspace the thought of having to deal with two children was daunting as my eldest was 4 and so hyper so I tried to just chill with my newborn but saw my boy everyday when he came to visit
@@blossomwinteri did the same. Everyone told me i must be thrilled leaving the hospital because i was admitted days before birth. But i just took every chance to prepare mentally and physically for life with two kids. I even cheered as they said i had to stay a day longer because they wanted to be sure my babys jaundice was gone. The mother in the next bed cried as she was told the same...
Ikr because I’ve seen people started drinking or wearing jeans week after giving birth and its crazy for me because my culture mothers need to rest for atleast a month and not do chores and alot of work
@@faradissI was very baffled when I first heard about that but TBH now that I'm older it sounds amazing and I really want that... unfortunately it's not really possible where I live 😅
I would think mothers that had C-sections would really benefit from this kind of care and healing time. Yes, all mothers could use this but the double whammy of birth and surgery, these services would be available, highly recommended, and covered by healthcare.
A mother’s health should be the top priority, if the mother isn’t well then the baby won’t be well either. Taking the time to be physically and mentally strong enough to care for your baby makes you a fantastic mom! ❤
if mother isn't fit don't have kids or make a video about it and post it to the internet. poor me it so hard, no real mother would want to be away from there baby unless there lazy or unfit
@doglover-xg1kh this is unnecessary. If you are a parent, you are lucky you didn't need to take time to heal and gather your health/strength back after childbirth. But not everyone had that experience, as we are all unique and react to things differently. Don't judge others unless you have had their exact same experiences with their exact same psychosocial make up; which you haven't, of course, because you aren't them! Sit down and be quiet. Judging things you have absolutely no right to doesn't make you better than anyone else. You simply show yourself to be ignorant and lacking in common human decency, and empathy.
@marvin2678 well, that's are more complicated social issue. Not as simple as just women not wanting kids, not wanting kids because of strict gender expectations of women after birth. The state of the economy and how expensive south Korea is, puts young couples off children ect. Complected
@@OolongTea2000Well that’s not exactly true. They just don’t want to have kids not because of the economy. There’s a reason why poor people have a lot of kids. The poorer the people the more kids they have. The more well off people are the less kids they have. This is why some African countries are booming with kids. Or even in the US for example black people in ghettos have a lot of kids because they’re poor compared to gated rich whites
@@marvin2678I think the reason why they have postpartum services like this in Korea is because of the alarming birth rates. The Korean government obviously wants to increase those birth rates but you can’t blame women for not wanting kids when you consider the state of the economy
I'm crying tears of joy that mother's get to experience this. This is a blessing. U shouldn't feel guilty. This is wonderful for your growth as a mother.
Completely agree, I really wish I would've had this with my daughter. I had complications, had PPD and truly didn't believe she was mine. She was on oxygen til 7mos. I've been a single mom from the start, I had to ask my dad for help because I was crumbling. I really really wish this would've been an option, maybe the PPD wouldn't have been so bad?? In general tho, I think this is a great idea!!!
after a 60 hour labor rest was rhe only thing I needed, but baby still needed to be fed every 1.5 hours I don't know if I would have even made it home without the nursery at the hosptial keeping my little one overnight and only bringing her for feedings.
Great idea, with my first mom was there to cook , help, I needed that. By the time 3rd one came I was all alone, no help, no good meals, I was very stressed, baby had not had bowel movement going on day six, I was worried husband oblivious to my condition, them the postpartum depression tried to overcome me, feeling bad, the wicked one comes and says just do it, tried to get me to take my babies life, go ahead, they’ll just say crib death, at that moment I ran to the shower turned it on full force so the others would not hear me crying. I prayed LORD help me satan wants to take my baby, I was crying and praying in the shower. I got relief and I called the doctor about the baby, she said if the baby does not BM tomorrow bring her in. I gathered myself and fed the baby and went downstairs to feed myself. That was the roughest day of my births. The next day I wake up to find baby yellow poo all over the little diaper, I was so relieved. That was a stressful time with a new baby and two toddlers, thank GOD we made it, that baby is 24 this month, we’re all doing fine. Thanks be to GOD.
EVERY MOM DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS !!❤ In INDIA, the Pregnant Women go to their Mom's home when shes around 5 or 6 months pregnant, their mom will take care of her soooo well till the baby is of 2 or 3 months. The Second Pregnancy is helped by her mother in law. I think that's great ❤❤❤❤ Btw this is how it was with my mom, and my grandmoms too In future it'll be the same for me ❤
Mothers need to hug their babies most of the time cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263I think they cry for breathing purposes. Hugging babies too often can cause an unhealthy dependency to form where the baby constantly craves touch/warmth, which in turn can hinder their independence.
It's actually the decline of the society. In Asia the new mother and the new born are taken care of by the rest of the family. The mother is ensured to have warm fulfilling meals, herbs to heal and the new born baby is atvthe care of other members of the family except the feedibg part. The fact that now this is a bussiness is realky sad and speaks volumes about the deyerioration of the famiky structure.
I love the way korea actually cares about new mothers, and their babies! This looks very enjoyable for both of you, and a great way to gain your energy and strength back.
I would have loved a spot there. I didn’t have a bad time in fact it was great giving birth. I was so very tired afterwards. This would have been a dream. Although this Mom wanted a little more to do you can always go and bond with your baby. No stress is a wonderful way to start your journey.
It is because the Korean government is concerned that their citizens are not having babies, the birth rate it's SO low that they need to pay for the family for them to make babies and treating pregnant woman like a queen (honestly it should be like that in every country 😅)
@@TheReal_Enclave The video is focused on the care SHE received. The nurses supporting her is a part of ‘together.’ I know mothers who had to do it all ALONE. Not even partner showed up to help. The staff here are part of her ‘village.’
Literally! The "4th trimester" isn't just for the precious new baby, but also for that placenta sized wound on the uterine walls the mother now has, among other things. You really do need SO much more rest than our society deems the norm.
@Asta-Chen They did that child drop off thing in the USA and people started dumping kids of all ages there even teenagers until they changed the law to state you could only drop off fresh babies there.
No, you’re not a bad mom for wanting the best care for your child and yourself after living a 9month period Making and carrying another human. You deserve all the time you need to heal.❤
No definitely not a bad mother, If you should be called anything it’s an amazing mother. This should honestly be offered to all mothers because this sounds frikken amazing 🤩
Definitely not a bad mom! Clearly South Korean is very family oriented. I wish I had the famous Korean seaweed soup post partum. I suffered from so much exhaustion during my son's infancy. Turns out I had post partum hypothyroidism that went ignored and undiagnosed for years and now I'm messed up for life. Korea is definitely onto something. South Korean physicians and government know how to take care of its mom and baby. ❤
It is a thing! The hospital I gave birth to my kids offered to take them when I rest. Well my oldest was in the nicu so he stayed there. My youngest was able to stay in the room with me 🥰
@JazzieLuvzYa I know hospitals offer to take your kid. I'm talking about a postpartum facility. Because most people can't afford a hospital bill, especially in the US, for more than absolutely necessary. So, for a vaginal birth with no issues, 24 hours is what many people do. I think an actual facility for new moms for the days following would be absolutely amazing! I've seen some other videos, possibly hers as well, about how they have nannies for so super cheap for the first several months after birth too that's covered by your medical stuff as well. America is definitely behind the times with medical needs!
You are definitively NOT a bad mom for prioritizing self care and healing after one of the most physically traumatic things a woman can go through. It makes you the best possible mom for your baby, actually. I’d do it in a heartbeat!!
They have that option for the baby to stay in nursery at the hospital here in America. I did that for my last baby Nevaeh cause I was on some really bad medicine from high blood pressure and I couldn't take care of her when she first was born. So I let the baby go to nursery
@@motherdemitria9480it’s not the same as Korea. In America you are released from the hospital in 24-72 hours after giving birth unless you had other complications. In Korea, the aftercare is minimum one week after childbirth up to one month. It is very affordable for all mothers and most take that option. Sending your baby to the nursery is NOT the same nor what is being discussed here.
@@purelove4444 that’s not what is being discussed. We don’t have the option here. In Korea they provide low cost after care for childbirth up to 30 days. It’s called Sanhujori.
Nope. You’re a good Mom, you know what you need, better for the baby. Speaking of which - THAT IS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BABY I BELIEVE I’VE EVER SEEN!!!! ♥️
Except for when they convicted a teen mother who had no friends or family and had to give birth alone in a bathtub because she had nobody to help her, almost died and her baby died and she was sentenced because it died. Korea: a country where you will be heavily judged for being a mother who is very young/single mother
@@michellehart6780 yes, it is a cultural difference. It shows signs of weakness if women are to make noises or lash out in pain win in labor. Different cultures have different practices in different views on birth.
@@MulcheddI'd have a breakdown if I had to constantly be touching someone even a baby I couldn't do it it can be next to me but I won't be touching it more than I have to the feeling of skin revolts me
@@MulcheddThis is standard in Korea, one of the most child-focused cultures I know. And adoptive families can’t bond through touch sometimes but they make up for it later. She has time with her baby now but not in a way to be stressed. It is wonderful that she is cared for and supported at this time. ❤️
@@MulcheddNo I think it’s ok, bc many women in the west don’t really have the opportunity to care of their body. You are just biter that you can’t do that where you live
I think it's such a great idea!!! Letting the mother rest for a couple of days, feeding good food and making sure she's healthy will help her so much to take good care of her baby. I wish everyone could have that ( and I'm not saying that young mom who don't have access to those clinics don't take good care of their babies, just that it must be easier on you when you're well rested and fed )
Can you imagine this being universal for all mothers? How much more joy would be experienced during the transition to motherhood ❤ this should be the standard!
Mothers need to hug their babies a lot cuz babies were used to be in the womb that gave the the feeling of hugging thru all of their time there that's why they miss the feeling of hugging when they come out of the womb and cry.
@@wolfan9263 Nope, this is what we're not gonna do. A baby will be fine if the mother recovers mentally before fully caring for them. Don''t act like this is such a bad thing
In Igbo culture, in Africa, there is something called “omugwo”, this is a culture where by new mothers get to rest while their own mothers or mother in-laws come to help them take care of their newly born. It is actually essential that the mother has her rest ❤
In Kikuyu culture in Kenya, we call it kùhiùhìrio and its more or less what you've described. The mother or MIL and maybe sisters do everything for the new mum including laundry. My mum and I did it for my sister.
i wish i had that. my mother in law tried to rearrange my house when my baby was only 4 weeks old. i was so stressed and angry that my milk almost dried up. my mother visited after and she made sure i was stress free and loved holding her grandbaby
There’s no way you’re being a “bad mother” dear. The fact that you’re even questioning it shows what a great mama you already are. You are doing what your baby needs you to do and heal. What a gift for your sweet precious little baby. Keep doing what feels best and right for your angel and you! Congratulations truly ❤
In the US, it's all about your health insurance. They kick you out of the hospital 24 after delivery if there were no complications. Korea is on the right track ❤.
The same thing happened to my mom, I was born with some complications since I was not big but very long(21 inches) so I had to be born via c-section but then my mom got kicked out of the hospital like the next day because there was "not enough room"
Don’t forget about your 6 week checkup where they give you a survey asking if you’re suicidal or homicidal and then pressure you to get on hormonal birth control
This isn’t a hospital. This is a private care facility. Likely not covered by her insurance or any kind of government welfare. In many countries in Asia the women of the extended family would visit a new mother and care for her in this way. These care facilities have popped up for new mothers who don’t have a large extended family of women who could visit and care for them and baby but they are only for women who have $$$. It is not for the working class.
Because Korea has a population crisis so this is just a incentive for women to have more kids. Don’t let social media fool you into fantasy land. Korea has way more other new mother benefits all to just bribe women to have more kids.
You're a great mom because you know that you need help and you're not too stubborn to ask for it. You recognise that your wellbeing and your baby's wellbeing are worth far more than what society thinks of you.
My hubby and I stayed with my parents for the first 3 weeks after having my first baby and they were such a help and support to me in those weeks. Wish we had this where I live ❤
the best mom actually giving yourself time to heal so you can give your baby proper care is probably the best thing you could do for the child. lucky baby
I WISH I could have had this experience after I gave birth to my son - this experience looks utterly heavenly. You're not a bad mum having people helping you by taking care of your baby and you. This is you making sure you are there for your baby whilst healing and getting stronger. This was you being an INCREDIBLE mother.
@@annesmith9910 The job that I worked at offered maturity leave without pay and also had in place a policy if you don’t use it you lose it…meaning if you had time off accumulated and or sick leave rather it roll over to the next quarter timeframe you lose all that time and have to start over with zero sick leave or approved leave time if you didn’t use it within that quarter timeframe. This policy applied to all employees…so when it came time for me to go into labor my time had already expired out and I was fresh into a new starting quarter, and I was a full time worker pulling 80hrs every two weeks.
@@autumnramble yes it really is…Thankfully at that time my child’s father qualified for paid maturity leave at his job and was able to stay home with our child for a few weeks. I unfortunately had to go right back to work days after giving birth.
People who think you’re a bad mother are just jealous they weren’t given this level of care. I had a horrible post partum with both my kids, but I’d never shame another mother for being treated like she should be! Congrats on your baby!
They kicked me out of the hospital with mine even though I still couldn’t walk on my own. My doctor said quote “If she wants to stay she will have to pay for her room out of her own pocket”
this is how babies are treated in orphanages. newborns need to be with their moms for bonding. no I'm not jealous, I spent my entire pregnancy not working and was prepared with frozen meals and lots of friends and family bringing me fresh meals
@@y.peffle2802what about dad? You know their other half. The babies here clearly still get to spend time with their mom, but you wouldn’t want to overwhelm someone who just played the most beautiful game of russian roulette. The baby will be right back to being attached to the mom 24/7 right after she heals up a bit from her hard work. While this would be better if the family member’s and dad was the one doing this for her, it’s good for moms to get rest, your baby will naturally be attached to you regardless.
@@y.peffle2802 so what? Stop with your “holier than thou” attitude. Your experience is different. A lot of new moms wish they had this kind of help. Breastfeeding every 2 hours is exhausting. I just wish I had time to sleep and recharge after giving birth and not worry about cleaning up, washing mine and the baby’s clothes, rushing my showers, cooking and cleaning the kitchen.
I love this! This is needed and is always neglected during postpartum recovery. Moms in America receive zero support once admitted from the hospital unless they have awesome family support at home.
This was actually the standard in many western countries a few decades ago, but we now view it as more important that mothers stay with their child as much as possible and cares for it even when at hospital. Feeding, bathing, changing diapers etc. are supposed to be done by the parents from day one.
Exactly. I live in the US unfortunately and I had to go home the day after I gave birth because I also had a toddler to take care of. I had to do everything right away, although I was in huge amounts of pain and sleep deprivation etc... Sure would have been nice to have help like in the video.
@pravachan4355 We would also have less children period since Korea seems to be struggling to keep up their birth rate. Also this is available anywhere if you want and have the money. This facility is a private hotel that is for new mothers. Which means you pay for it regardless of insurance.
I think that this is a service that should be considered as vital care for all mothers and newborns. I’m not saying new mothers either because I think that what you described would be a very beneficial service for all mothers who have just given birth especially for a mother with children at home. The time to allow you to heal and recover from birth (and the pregnancy) while knowing that your newborn is safe and well cared for would be a blessing.
@@stephaniep4590in my country we stay in hospital generaly for 3 days, sometimes a week if the baby doesn't adapt well. You don't go home right away. Most mothers started to request to go home early during covid, after 48 hours. Cause it's a hospital, not a hotel. But we do have a paid option with single room and better food
@@makinka0cpin korea postpartum centers they teach you how to change your babies diaper, how to breastfeed properly, how to get the baby’s gas out, how to hold them properly etc. so you have a lot of time to be with your baby but since she didnt mention any of that training maybe she didnt want to take that service? if she did I can understand why she felt her baby was away too much.
Me too I think I'm still with postpartum after having 2 back to pack and then a yr and a half after that my last one it's been 5yrs but I just still feel off... I wish I would of gotten the help
A bad mom? Heck NO! The service is amazing and allows both mama and baby to recover from the trauma of birth and begin to settle into a healthy rhythm. Congratulations! Beautiful baby! ❤️
@@kiwipops the word gets thrown around too carelessly. Yes it can be when things go wrong but in this case she seemed to have gone through the process smoothly yet some people still seem to think of it as trauma like giving birth is a bad thing.
You are definitely a great mother because you decided to take care of yourself while someone else was able to help you take care of your child. You're going to be caring for the child for the rest of their life so getting a little bit of help at the beginning is totally fine
I dont know, the baby is just born into a completely unknown world and needs to spend it separately from the mother. The only voice and heartbeat the baby knows. Seems not fair towards the baby tbh
This is after birth and wont last a long time, When a woman gives birth their body unsuprisingly has a rough time catching up. It exausts all its fuel and energy, And the pain of the hours of birth stresses out the mother and leaves them tense. This is only for a week, Your describing it like throwing a child in an orphanage. Also babies dont even fully hear for 2 months, So your heartbeat logic is non existent, And the baby is cared for by nurses and the mother, Your just finding stuff to complain about when this recovery method is best for the baby since sleep deprived and tense breastmilk isnt all that nutriciouz. TDLR: Keep your thoughts to yourself you complaining twat
They NEED these in the US rather than sending you home after a day or 3 days if you have a c section. It would help decrease postpartum depression and help mothers heal faster.
Moms need this level of care. Giving birth is hard physically and mentally. This helps ease the risk of post partum depression too, I bet. Way to be an awesome mom!😊
This needs to open in the USA. Many families would pay handsomely for this. I hope the fathers are included as well in the child's care. They need the bonding time with their babies as well.
A mother who goes through months of carrying her child and delivering a child deserves all the rest and pampering. You are a wonderful mother. I just wish we have this service in my country.
@@DionneGudgin-bf4ny it's not about doing 'nothing' it's also about all the mood swings, excruciating pain, restrictions and emotional boost (incl. severe negative emotions) that you feel during that period of time. it's exhausting even if you do absolutely nothing!
More women need to do this, husbands just don't do what they should to help around during this crucial time. There's are responsibilities at home that keep you from resting this way.
But who subsidizes it so the women who actually need it can get this service, rather than the women who'd be going home to hire a live-in-nanny anyway? Like cute concept but it's also straight from the playbook of making things easier for people who already have it comparatively easy.
I just wanted to hold and cuddle my babies when they were born. Luckily my mother stayed with us for 1 month and cooked all our meals, did our laundry and cleaned the house! This allowed my husband and i to bond with our babies without the stress of household responsibility. For me this was the perfect setup and i will forever be greatful for my mom's help ❤
As long as the baby is still getting all the needed attention, and you have time to bond with it (which it seems you do) then this sounds wonderful! This should be available everywhere.
This is what every woman should get after childbirth. I can't imagine the toll it takes on your body. Sleepless night, tired mind and body. You all moms out there who just delivered absolutely deserve this. And of course other moms as well.
Fr... It might not be necessary in smaller places because family likes to get in your business. But if you live in big cities like this, best look for professional help while recovering postpartum.
