4:26 The message said, "I'm sorry. Please take care of the baby with God's love. I won't forget the baby, " along with the details of the baby's birthday and the time of giving birth. Thank you for watching our video.
I shed tears this entire documentary. As a mom who placed my newborn baby for adoption, I feel the exact pain in my heart as those mothers who surrendered their precious babies out of desperation 😢😢
I think because it is a lot of time and money to raise a baby into adult. People only see the number but do not want to be part of the process. I am a mother myself, I understand why people don’t want kids
@@annat6249I don’t understand why they can’t just stop themselves from being pregnant In the first place. To me it seems more cruel to bring a child to this world so they can suffer the trauma of being abandoned their whole lives. The parents always complain, and no one remembers how painful it is to be a child who isn’t nurtured, who is not wanted.
Here in the USA, the problem is that our social institutions have broken down and young people are no longer taught, and do not expect to live morally, nor face the consequences of living immorally. I expect it is rather like that in S.Korea too.
@@delynndehardt1859but that is the fault of the generations preceding who had it great for them by the best generation. They didn't provide for their children and due to increasing lifespan also burden the next generation financially.
The dates shown in the video are from 2016. Those babies will be 7 years old now. I really hope that wherever they are, they feel loved. The volunteers are honestly angels. I can't imagine how fulfilling yet emotionally draining their work must be; I really hope their mental health is taken care of
It’s Korea. Their mental health probably won’t be taken care of. Mental health/illness isn’t taken seriously in Asian cultures and I know that first-hand because I was only diagnosed with clinical anxiety at age 20 and clinical depression at 23. I had denied ever having symptoms of these conditions in my life up to those points and my mom was shocked when I told her of my depression diagnosis because she thought “how could you have depression, TOO?” My dad literally never thought emotions were something that need to be nurtured in children, so it’s no surprise that my [older] siblings and I developed mental illnesses over the years
@@torilllundborn7899 not sure you mean ofTrishley, but agree along with you anyway,lots cuties good babies shows how by touch and love needs mets quick best out comes.
I could imagine myself to working like that in the future.Once in 2012 I almost had the possibility to working in a kitchen of a foster care and helping with foster children.Then another decision was made and other things were happening.But I think it can be a fullfilled life to working like that.
For making a baby you need 2 human beings. Why all the people blames the mother when the father has the same responsibility? What a society. As a woman, i understand the fear, the guilt and all of that. We can't just blame it all on the mother. Even more when we don't know the context. I hope all those babies grow healthy and strong. Lots of love from Chile.
I as a woman made it to where I didnt have a baby when I couldnt take care of or wanted…as in the end im the one that is left having the infant…..its just a fact
@@DylanDkoh It happens many times and is super common. First of all it isn't easy to abort the baby because they can be shamed by the society that she was pregnant before marriage so and so if they go to doctor. so parents dont want others to know she was pregnant.and Sexual harrassments are so common too would the family let others find that their daughter is sexually harrassed? secondly maybe the guys convinced the girl that he will also take care of the baby and girl wanted to start life with him but they ditch everything at the end so the teens have to leave the baby on streets.Women cant raise the baby on their own they will definitely face the pressure of the society and parents and in most cases they cant get jobs in places like Korea where to get a job it is so much competition. No money and the person who should take care run away like a chicken. and dont forget in many cases the girl cant abort due to medical conditions too. Its funny everything it was the women's fault even though both men and women did it together. and many cases women do want to keep them but her parents are the one who threw the kids without her knowing. The girl who is depend on her parents as no right to go against their wishes.This is Asia where words of parents matter more than your happiness and life. where child abuse is considered super normal form of parenting. Before blaming the woman what if she was never given any choice in first place and everyone around her took decisions for her and all the blame goes to her.
Heart felt thanks to the mothers who brought their babies to a safe place. Men can walk away from responsibility & the women are left to raise or give their babies up as they receive no help from their families or the government. Heartbreaking
Yes. Even if a man walks away from the baby he created, the woman still has a baby growing inside her body and has to inevitably birth/abort the baby. Women literally can't run away from parenthood responsibilities/realities the way men can.
@@user-py7ttFr my father left me when I was around one? My mom and him were never married and he has ran away I belive we know where he is and he refused to pay child support and has been to jail from it
@@blossom1643 trying to trigger people with your comments on different threads, aren't ya. Smh. Trying to guilt trip females for having sex outside of marriage? Guess what, this has been happening since the beginning of time. So get off your pedestal and just stop.
This pastor and volunteers are absolute angels. Oh my gosh. The love, passion and determination they have. I'm so glad that they are a safe haven for these beautiful little babies. It's breaking my heart to the ones that love and want to be with their babies and cannot.
Omg why is no one talking about the man donating huge bags of rice to that center every month? It’s crazy the only help they seem to get is a random act of kindness from a stranger.
It’s absolutely bizarre how the fathers are pretty much totally absent from this film, but it shows very clearly that even the makers of this documentary don’t think the men have an equal responsibility in this situation, even though they are massively advantaged by Korean society and would be far more able to support these children if they remained in the picture. Korea is so modern in some ways, but 100 years in the past when it comes to how their society functions.
What you're trying to say that is that S.korea is at the bleeding edge of technology in the 21st century, but like in the 1940 in terms of cultural and societal progress.
The problem isn't the teenaged father. The overriding problem for both the teen father and the teen mother is that they're consumed with fear about the punishment they'll receive from their parent (s) if they learn about the baby. You heard them on the video, eg, the teen mother fears her parent won't let the baby in the house. If I'd been in that situation as a teen, I wouldn't have gone home because I would've been beaten by my parents.
When I studied abroad in Korea I volunteered at an orphanage twice per week. All they needed us to do was to hold the babies so they can feel the warmth of a person. My heart still remembers 12 years later a particular baby girl. She was a few days old. I hope she is doing well. Thank you for this, you are doing Gods work. Edit: thank you all for the comments and the likes. I remembered when I graduated college I put this volunteer experience on my resume. I was looking for a job as a nurse and my manager who hired me told me he adopted a baby from the same orphanage. What an amazing coincidence. That job was where I met my husband, now we have a baby and another on the way. I would do it over and over again. Would love to adopt myself one day if possible. Please I would encourage everyone to find opportunities locally to volunteer and help children in need. We are all need every where. God bless you all! ❤
I remember the first time I did this type of volunteering and the way the baby held on to me. It broke my heart. They told me that they had so many babies that most of them weren’t held more than maybe 10 minutes a day because the carers just had too much to do. Even now as a mum when my kid is being clingy I remember how innately those babies craved my warmth and touch and it makes me cry if I dwell too long on it.
Thanks for your help who takes care of the poor baby, god blessed you all for your kindness help , how a mother can abandon her baby 😢 I'm mother, I can't understand 😢
@@lesly3905starvation can make a woman give up her children, which is probably way these women gave up their babies. Better than what happens in India and China.
I felt so sorry for the young teenage couple who had nowhere to go. The stigma surrounding teen pregnancies is so destructive, not only to the young mother but the society in which they live.
The thing is..they low key showed signs of trauma bonding. They 9/10 wouldn’t have been in that situation if they weren’t abandoned and shown love as a kid. It’s sad because I’m a sense history repeats itself. I feel bad for the parents of that child as well as that child.
@@charlenetowneruk family registers go back generations. It’s seen as shameful to have a baby out of wedlock at that at a young age. Their parents or grandparents would’ve disowned them. A lot of Asian parents care about what others think of them..that’s why you see many people in the video saying that asked their parents and they said no..so they can’t register.
The Korean government is adding to this problem by requiring these babies be registered under their family register. This is an antiquated law that should be changed for the sake of compassion for these babies and mothers.
I was sobbing watching this the entire time. My daughter had her son at 14 years old and ran away 4 months after he was born, she said she couldn't do it. She suffered with post partum depression, anxiety and had a mental breakdown. I raise my grandson and he calls me mommy. He is 3 years old today and I love him so much. I understand how hard it is for a teen mom. They need the support mentally. My daughter is on medication and unfortunately cant care for her son. But my grandson is my world and im glad to raise him with love ❤
Although I am glad that you are there for your grandson, it would be better if you could support your daughter in her role as the mother to your grandson. Does she refuse to be involved with him? She sounds like she is still only an adolescent at 17. She probably needs you as well. I am not criticizing, just asking.
@@ctgctg1This is so sad. There is so much shame! Hidden pregnancies and solo births. The thing that really caught me off gaurd was when they said single mothers have no way to register the birth? Thats crazy sad. The momma in me wants to give all those babies a safe place but also all those scared teenage moms a hug.
@@dianaharrell8416 it is. I was not criticizing the original poster. Just asking. Family is everything and I am glad you had the support you needed. Post-partum depression is tough.
@@dianaharrell8416 I am so glad you had the support of your family. I was not criticizing the original poster. Postpartum depression is brutal, as is the sleep deprivation that follows birth. I am forever grateful to my mom and spouse for helping my daughter and I get through that time. I just know, I would have been hurt if my daughter had called my mom, mommy. My mom has always been so careful about this point and always supported my role as the parent. But each situation is different, and what matters most is for the safety of the baby. Glad things are going well for you.
@@dianaharrell8416 My niece had a horrific birth and all she wanted was to cry and sleep. The nurses kindof forced the child on her chest, saying she was 'mean' for not letting him drink and saying things like; 'Don't you love him?!" She was in her early 30's and absolutely devastated after she was told (by her christian relatives) that birthgiving would be a piece of cake and it wasn't. She did get over it, in a few months time, but another girl I know (that got the baby through r@pe) is now 7 years further and she can barely look at the (now child)baby without vomiting. That story was heartbreaking, she was 13 when she was impregnated and her (christian, also) parents made her keep the baby, even though she didn't want it. They only visited her in the insane-asylum wíth the baby, otherwise they wouldn't come, they wanted her to hold him and kiss him. She would just vomit, cry and then pass out.
The child registration laws seem to be a big part of the problem, from what this documentary shows. This was filmed in 2016, I hope the babies are doing well and I hope the government has done something to help these young mothers. I felt so sad for that one mom who had to abandon her baby to the childcare facility because she was unable to find a way to register her son's birth without her family finding out.
@@HadassaMoon144 countries that have good sex education barely have teen pregnancies. they of course still would need help but its better the start looking at what it creates. then just damage control
@@hieonkd9572Korean fertility rate is astonishingly low. They don’t really have an issue with contraceptive availability. This program looks at how horrible the options are once the baby is born under ‘undesirable’ conditions.
As a person who was raised by a single teenage mother, I know how much family helped her, not just financially but emotionally. My grandma is like another mother to me, she helped raise me so that my mother could go to work but also to do some growing herself, she gave her so much emotional strength during the tough times and wouldn’t let anyone talk bad about me or my mom. It makes me sad to see so many young moms who want to have they’re babies but can’t cause they’re own families wouldn’t accept them and the lack of help from the government. I think what the baby box does is amazing, all those volunteers put they’re entire being into helping those babies and mothers, I pray the very best for them
The point is to not encourage single mothers in the first place. Look at Asian citizens even in western cultures, even then they have the lowest out of wedlock rates because it is a cultural expectation of not being a single mother.
@irresponsibleparents3 when it happens should we punish the babies as well? Being a single mother will be punishment enough for the her. Families should definitely help when they can.
My wife was a box baby and was left on somebody's doorstep. She was adopted by my in-laws at 7 months old here in the US. You can see her in my profile pic 😊 Happy ending on her part.
I was abandoned, not in Korea but elsewhere. In the 1970s there was no love for abandoned babies born out of wedlock. It's normally a joyous time when a baby is born; but when we're born unwanted and unloved, we know. It follows us for always. Peace and blessings.
You are loved. Jesus loves you. God gave you the breath of life for a loving purpose. May His love give you the joy and peace your birth parents could not provide.
To the pastor and the volunteer women who put forth ALL of their time and efforts to make sure each child feels warmth, love, is fed and clothed, cleaned and pampered.....you all deserve the greatest honors in this Earthly life and deserve a reserved spot in the afterlife in the arms of angels because you are all angels sent to this Earth.❤❤❤
Don't forget to use condom or contraception for ur legal premarital sex,ur government also should support this program free condom free contraception,not just free sex,so world can't see this "heartbreaking" of ur developed country that pushing u work almost 24h. Oh my the innocent babies😢
As human beings I've come to realize as connecting beings-we are not the only ones interesting enough *.*-that we are meant to care for each other no matter who we are where we live, language etc. I've come to really feel more thoughtful from many sources and even an amazing show called: The Walking Dead." It's not really about zombies it's about PEOPLE! So many guidelines to life and I only keep wishing people were all a family the way the character survive and live. We are supposed to look out for each other like family! It's so simple! We are only human and have beautiful flaws that make us real and needing each other. It's in our nature to connect. Why can't this always happen no matter what the situation is? This is the best of our species, one of our purposes, connecting. To others, nature, other life.🌎🌳
So this is just telling me that their government prefers a mother to abandon a baby than to allow them, or have a way, for them to register their baby and raise them? This is inhuman. This broke my heart in so many pieces, and I cried during the entire documentary. 😢😢 My prayers go out to the moms and babies. And a big applause to the Pastor and volunteers, they are doing and amazing job and of course all their sponsors, you guys are Angels on earth ❤
The mom who left crying because she could not find a way to register her baby broke my heart. You can clearly see she loved that baby. This was not an abandoned baby, it was stolen by governmental bureaucracy 😭
Korea actually has a ton of support for babies and new parents. Monthly stipends, free daycare, the National healthcare is great. The issue is the social stigma placed by society.
I have been a single mother since I gave birth to my now 2 year old and I have been crying through this whole documentary… I feel so privileged to live in Germany, where there is a social system in place so that no single mother has to struggle financially and is supported and nobody is forced to give away their baby… I cannot fathom how a country would rather pay for facilities than pay the mothers/fathers doing a 24/7 job of raising the future citizens of the country in a loving home with their mothers and/or fathers. I cannot imagine how difficult it would have been to find a job and go to work while taking care of a baby, it seems so ridiculous to me in a way…
@@irresponsibleparent3 right, as a single mother I think back to what the hell was I thinking when I got pregnant, I was in no place financially and the father was an idiot. Without even thinking I had in the back of my head….welfare. That’s what those programs do, they encourage poor choices
@@Liminein I feel for you... I really feel for all the mothers who became single mothers not by their choice, but because they didn't know better. For anyone else reading this comment: I saw this documentary years and years ago, and I'm glad it's still being given the attention it deserves. Adults need to be more cautious/careful when it comes to ANYTHING involving having a child. Think about the children and their welfare more. Don't have a child if you're struggling financially, or physically, or mentally. Why would you bring a helpless infant into the world to suffer with you? Even adults who can provide a stable life should consider that many children come out of the womb with disabilities -- are they ready and equipped to handle that? Also, you may be a wonderful person, but what if your partner isn't, and they leave you as a single parent? Would you be able to support yourself and the child? Think through all these things before deciding to have a child, or in some cases, engaging in irresponsible sex.
I am a korean orphan and I can tell you, that is precisely the problem with south Korea. The system cares about saving face by putting up the façade that they too are an OECD 1st world nation, yet do not invest much at all in the social welfare system. They have them in place- to say they too have those benefits, yet its only in surface and in application, it fails miserably.
As a 23 year old, I would never imagined myself having a baby at this age but seeing all these newborns made me want to adopt all of them😭. I started tearing up when the young couple had to dropped off their baby even they didn’t want to do but they had to. My heart goes out to the all of the volunteers and the pastor, I hope god continues to bless them eternally for all the hard work they’ve done for these innocent souls🤍
@@MC-of7owexactly, what in the hell is wrong with ppl in these day and age with all of the contraceptive available all over even over the counter. So in responsible a condom is cheaper then the contraceptive pill to avoid all this burden and heartbreak!
As a 50+ year old, I want to adopt all those young mothers so they can raise their children. It’s just incredibly devastating that governmental and societal pressures keep them apart. Just devastating.
As a mother it would break my heart that my daughter felt like she couldn’t get support, that she felt she couldn’t tell me. I would be more hurt and sad that she went though all that alone and had to give up her baby, than the maybe disappointed that she got pregnant. I don’t have a daughter, I have two young sons. But I will make sure my sons know This too and their girlfriends if they choose to have them in the future ❤
The mother that refused to help her daughter bc she herself had been a single mother to the teen mom made my blood boil. I get that filial piety is common, not just in East Asia but even my own background being middle eastern, but some of these teen mothers’ parents (not the women in this video but the parents of these girls that intentionally made an already difficult situation insurmountably worse) don’t deserve the respect or comfortable retirement or reputation they’re forcing these kids to provide for them.
We lived in Korea for several years. We adopted a baby girl. Best blessing ever. I actually became pregnant about when she was born. I was 4 months pregnant when I found out. We got her when she was 17 days old. Her adoption became final when she was about 11 months old. Our children are 9 months apart. When the adoption agency found out I was pregnant, they were concerned. They called us in to the agency. They asked about the family position of our little girl. I looked at her confused. I said I don’t understand - she’s our first born! I guess because I said she was our first born and not our eldest child, they knew our baby girl would be fine. We are so blessed. Both of our children were born in Korea. We went back to the US when our son was 2 months old. I am so grateful to her birth mother. I hope that we will be able to meet her one day.
I am approaching 35 and have given up on having a child of my own. But this makes me realise how many babies need a mother. Those of us that cant have our own, may be able to help. I want to adopt, if my financial situation improves. The work the volunteers are doing at the baby box, what amazing people.
Were you unable to have them in your early 20s? Was education/work a priority for you then? Could you have gotten married earlier to someone in a good situation? I’m not judging, it’s just that, many people put off having children until it’s way too late. Even if there are physical issues, modern medicine has been able to reverse certain fertility issues in young women…
@@kingrobotnik6950 You don't just 'get married to someone in a good situation' like love and commitment is for fairytales, Nik. Your questions are weird.
@@kingrobotnik6950 maybe she didn't want them? why do you have to get married to have kids? you don't. also people should not have children if they aren't ready for it, this is how children end up neglected, physically or emotionally. better have them late or not at all than have them when you aren't ready.
눈물이 멈추지 않고 하염없이 난다...아기들도 불쌍하지만 사회와 가정의 따뜻한 보살핌 없이 두려움을 갖고 아이를 낳은 어린 학생들 때문에 가슴이 찢어진다. 한국은 맨날 출생률 때문에 난리지만 보호 받지 못하고 태어나는 아이들에 대해선 아무 관심도 대책도 없음. 오직 “정상가족”만 수호하고 지키려고 함. 제발 구시대 과거에 머물며 눈 가리고 귀 막지 말고 미래를 보고 인간을 위한 관용을 가져라. 자원봉사자님들 정말 감사합니다...
This is an amazing life saving place. The pastor and volunteers, rice delivery and careers and teams that create this company are fantastic. A miracle for these babies
As a Father of 2, my tears were the size of Niagra Falls. Those infants did not deserve this. Yes, it is a Godsend to have facilities like the dropbox(we have them in the States), but still sad. And WHERE ARE THE FATHERS?????? To me they are nothing but COWARDS who do not go to their families about the pregnacy nor the child. Have balls(besides using them to make a kid) and become REAL DADS!!!! Help the Moms, forget your family "honor." Your family started once that child was born.
You need to learn something about the culture of Korea. Just because that is the way western culture feels about it, other cultures do not. If you were born and raised in Korea your thoughts would be different.
In some cultures slavery is still allowed but most have seen that it is amoral and evil. If these 'men' refuse to see that their pleasure has consequences then they do not deserve to be regarded with honor as they have none! @@LadyLeda2
Registering your baby with your family registry is so alien to most part of the world. I didn’t know such a concept exists. So, the mom or the father could register the baby with either families, and they fear doing so out of embarrassment or being scolded or being rejected? My college roommate in the early 1990’s was Korean and she told me it is not OK to adopt children in Korea because bloodlines are so important, explaining why there are so many Korean adoptees in the West. I hope the culture is now different and these babies are adopted to good homes.
I don’t understand the concept of bloodlines. It smacks of eugenics to me which I consider toxic. No child should have to spend their life in an orphanage because others in their society are concerned about bloodlines. Any family willing to adopt and love a child should be encouraged to. Period. Especially if there is a social stigma associated with being an orphan.
@@HKim0072that is why it says “paradox”. Look at the meaning of paradox and you will understand why the baby box is a “paradox” to the low fertility rate.
@@takahiro5528 It's total apples vs oranges. They aren't connected at all. Abortions were illegal back when this was filmed. It's conflating two subject matters that shouldn't be compared and contrasted.
It's so upsetting. If the government helped single mums most of these babies could be kept together with their mums. They don't really want to leave them but what choices do they gave without any support? It's broken my heart watching this. Thank god this place exists. Also the volunteers who work tirelessly around the clock caring for the abandoned babies should get recognised for the work they do. They are all amazing 😊
@bevtooth Yup, its called SNAP, State Aid, Benefits, etc it has it's problems!! It isn't a good system. Here's the thing I had 2 children, 10 years apart. I would have had more BUT I couldn't afford more, My home wasn't big enough, etc. People need to bs responsible and families on both sides need to help when "mistakes" are made.
@@JustDiane71easier said than done. Lots of people don’t have family and the system you are talking about aren’t available to them and usually don’t even help in America. They are being responsible and giving the child away when they can’t provide much better than bringing a child onto the street
I saw another video where Korea has a falling birthrate so why can’t the Government support well the desperate mums so they can bring up their own babies?
I'm glad these innocent babies were being taken care by dedicated and loving people. I couldn't help but cried through out this documentary. Thank you for helping those single mothers and the babies. Fighting! 😊😊❤❤
Why Americans over there and cuz I don't know what country is it career China or what is it Gilmore babies here in America by abortion than they telling you that part they don't they don't have the first thing that all this about the money they can't afford it that's what they holler people are faking and I'm going to say it those people don't care about no baby that's bullcrap the money that comes with that child children get abused here in America Nabi cares about is the money and if you check up and look it up America has the highest abortion rate there is look it up and I just kids America's the worst country taking we got thousands on the street homeless and I government they don't do nothing to help anybody you have to understand America's a greedy country and if they do something at ternative motive behind it I'm going there learning from you people and I wouldn't trust you just don't know what they are I live in the country that abort babies thousands of babies every year and where the women act like they locate take nothing to protect myself from getting pregnant it's like it's Skittles that ain't nothing to them you just don't know what America really is you hear what they want you to hear
My heart goes for those babies because like most of them I was born out of wedlock and was abandoned by my parents. Now, I'm happily married and has a 10 years old daughter whom I love the most. I hope and pray that those babies will also find true happiness and contentment when they grow up.
I cried watching this....35 years ago we adopted our beautiful son ( and then years later our precious daughter) from Korea. Every single day I am thankful to their birth mothers for giving them to us!
안녕하세요. 저희 가족은 2년전 미국으로 입양보냈던 나의 동생을 만나게 되었습니다. 동생의 나이는 40세 입니다. 재회하는데 오래 걸렸어요. 당신의 아름다운 글에 내동생도 미국의 부모님에게 사랑을 많이 받고 자랐을것이라고 생각하며 안심합니다. 너무 감사합니다. 내동생이 행복한 삶을 살았길 바랍니다. 지금 연락하며 동생에게 모든걸 해주고 싶은 마음입니다. 당신이 늘 건강하고 축복받으며 지내시길 바라요.
@@바람타고-z6cyou are a beautiful person, God bless you. There are good loving people all over the world. Many Americans adopt babies from other countries and give the babies all their love.
Tears through this whole vid. It was nice to see some babies were not totally abandoned... Knowing this is not just a baby drop off but sometimes used as a way to have time to think about things or get things in order to prepare was good to hear.
@@tinajack444I’m guessing it creates new pressure from the parents on the child involving their grandchildren. Parents involved when they aren’t wanted, comments when they aren’t needed, and meddling when un-wanted. This could be completely wrong but it’s just a thought…
Back in 1968 when we adopted our Korean American daughter, we were told that children with no fathers were rejected by the Korean society. The father is paramount. Since the father of our daughter was an American service man, the mother gave up our daughter for adoption. International Social Service was the adoption agency that facilitated the adoption. Our daughter is a wonderful person.The foster family who cared for her sent her to America with a beautiful Korean traditional costume which showed how much she was loved.
부끄러운 한국의 현실입니다.혼혈 아이를 포기하고 미국으로 입양 보내도록 한국 정부가 어머니들을 설득 했습니다.어머니들은 모두 울면서 비행기를 보며 손을 흔들었습니다.당시 미군들이 한국여자들과 아이들을 버리고 미국으로 가버린 경우가 상당히 많았습니다.전쟁후 빈곤한 나라에 여자와 아이를 버린것은 죽거나 아이를 포기하라는 뜻입니다.....그 이후로 아이를 혼자키우는것은 사회의 차가운 시선을 받아야했고 현재 아이를 키우고싶어도 한달에 20만원 30만원의 지원비로는 절대 키울수없습니다.아이 아버지는 양육비도 주지 않으며 양육비 청구소송에서 승소하더라도 아기의 아버지가 안주면 그만입니다.한국에서 여자 혼자 아이를 키우는것이 얼마나 힘든지 이해하지 못할것입니다.너무 슬프다 한국도 빨리 한부모 가정에 대한 지원과 사회적 시선이 좋아졌으면 좋겠습니다.
If it’s traditional Korean clothing. It is NOT a costume. I worry you probably had micro aggressions against your child you did not realize. But it is a learning experience for some.
ya Allah 😢 terima kasih krn mau merawat anak-anak itu. bagaimanapun mereka tidak meminta untuk dilahirkan 😢 hatiku hancur melihat mereka tumbuh tanpa sosok orang tua apalagi keluarga 😔💔 semoga kalian semua tumbuh menjadi anak-anak yg berbakti dan sukses di masa depan!
I was one of these babies. Born in Seoul 1995, adopted, was raised and lived a life across the world. Never went searching for my biological parents and never will.
Yeah, i have no sympathy for mothers unless they are rape victims, if you are old enough to have sex then you are as responsible as an adult mother, a baby has to pay for your few moments enjoyment all his/ her life, not many find happy homes
@@kymraf4786 how many men are good fathers? To me its not that common ,they don't carry the baby for 9 months, to me they aren't worth putting blsme on, sort of like predators you only expect worse of them, its the female who allowed them ,to me her responsibility is far bigger
@@Maria-dx1fm not worth putting blame on the father? you have internalized misogyny planted deeply in your head. Yr so pathetic and sad for solely blaming the women in this situation smh. I hope you get educated and get a wake up call.
So heartbreaking to hear the government hasn’t implemented a program for these single mothers. Thank you God for this facility and their diligent workers who keep this place running, I pray they stay healthy along with those beautiful babies.
Oh no, thats not all, korean society like to scorn and make Even more difficult the life. Of single mothers ... Thats why women don't want kids all together but they are all Pikachu face that their birth rates are LOWERING
@@franciastone5048actually I am American single mom they do have programs to help cause I have gotten helped since my daughter has been she is 2 1/2 now
My heart absolutely breaks for those poor mothers who have given birth alone without any support or medical care, and then manage to bring their babies all the way to the baby box and climb up those stairs while still bleeding and not even having a chance to recover from childbirth. If you've given birth or cared for someone who has, you know how physically tolling it is. Those poor young women and the horrible sacrifice they're making.
I came here to write essentially the same thing! How scary, painful, and dangerous. And how brave these girls are for having the wherewithal and strength to bring their babies there so soon after birth.
I was thinking the same thing. We also have baby boxes like this in my country (Austria) but they are rarely used because there is the possibility of giving birth anonimously at the hospital. The children will be placed with adoptive parents as soon as they are ready to leave the hospital but the mother still has a few months time to revoke her decision and get her child back. And there is the possibility of letting the adoptive parents know the name of the mother without registering it officially which is a good thing for the child later on I think.
It's heartbreaking. I bet some of them were assaulted. I see some are just kids themselves. The one girl walking around and wearing shorts just a week after giving birth is wild to me.😮
So your heart breaks for the poor mother but not for the babies who face the reject and abandonment from the one person who's suppossed to love them unconditionally... Babies know their mom scent and they are aware they are being abandoned.
Now that I am a mother I can genuinely sympathize with these babies. I can feel their sadness from crying out for their mother's warmth. This is so heartbreaking 😢
If I lived anywhere near South Korea (I sadly don't) I would be in there volunteering as much as possible! I'm older (57) but could be like a surrogate grandma for these poor babies. I feel very bad for the moms/dads who had to give up these babies, they are backed into a corner and have very little choice, they need help too. 😞
@@charlottesmom There are poor and abandoned children everywhere in the world. I'm sure you can help someone if you so wish and have the means to it regardless of where you live.
@stillfangirlingtoday1468 I 100% agree with you. I myself have been helping babies and children in my country, a third-world country that's infested with teenage pregnancy and child neglect. Sad to say that it is common all year around and all around the world.
My dad told me many stories of his time stationed in Korea in the 50’s. His platoon would often take army rations (blankets and food) to the orphanages. He had many sad stories to tell. One happy time, or was a happy time at first, was they took cake and ice cream as a special treat for the kids. The kids loved the new food but it made all of them really sick as they weren’t use to eating American sweets. One time they took a bunch of blankets when they realized the orphanage had little or no heat. My dad was shocked when they made a return visit and realized the nuns had sewn all the blankets together so the children could lay on the floor in a big circle to use their body heat collectively with the blankets to keep warm.
@@Jane5720 they did that all over the world. During WW2, while the men were away fighting, the sleezy Americans, who refused to join the war because they were doing business with Germany, visited many countries & had their way with many lonely women, just to abandon & forget all about them when they left.
I cried throughout this. All countries, not just Korea, need to work on getting more support for single parents. Especially considering the declining birthrate.
I agree with you, full heartedly. The nuclear family model from the 1980's is long gone. Diversifying our definition of 'family' will help end the stigma of single parents, divorcess, widows and everyone in between, who is not part of the 'norm.'
The problem because free sex and man who Not responsible. They have high education, all developed and developing countries have the same problem, free sex and other deviations.
I love watching you guys - this is sad because i feel so bad for the mothers /parents who are in such a desperate situation. But also for these poor babies. However this is such a great service, obviously wish there was no need for it, but glad its available.
Sad😢 Why can’t they adopt out the child? As an adopted child myself, I do not understand a society that does not support mothers to chose an adoptive family to place their child with. Are there no Korean families that want to adopt? I love that they encourage the birth mum’s to write a letter to their baby for the future❤ The mother should be able to register the birth independent of anyone else, so the baby knows who it’s birth mother is, even if the baby is adopted by another Korean family.
@@imoSTAYi whole heartly agree with you. i know this has been said before but, the reason of birth decline is "shit=expensive". they neeed to pass abortion and positive reinforce protection used.
Hats off to the volunteers ❤ I wish I could be a volunteer too My heart torn into pieces when I see the babies crying without their moms😢 I respect and love my parents for raising me upto this day and helping me in my every difficult time❤
I cried watching this, I was a single Mother at 16 but I was lucky to have the support of my Parents, i really felt for these girls, to give your baby up because no one supports you is so sad. The baby box centre is a blessing, so much love for evry baby that is left there
You were indeed part of the lucy minority. I hope society will be kinder to teen moms in the future because not all families are created equal! Wishing you nothing but joy and happiness, for you and your child ♡
I was 19, in Australia and had support from both my parents and my government. That little baby is 24 now and such a joy. I couldn't imagine having to have been forced to surrender her. So so heart breaking. Those dear, sweet innocent little babes, and their poor mothers.
This is so sad, for the mothers, babies, to have to deal with. I wish the Korean government would help raise these babies and provide good homes for them to be happily adopted within the Korean community. The Baby box is a good program, so wonderful and God's blessings to the church, pastor, and the volunteers helping out these unfortunate little babies
It is hard when the social stigma against unmarried single mothers and you realised the family registry that was mentioned a lot in this video....is part of the social fabric of the korean culture. It has every thing to do with inheritance....and registration of school, marriage, employment...enrolment into korean universities.......if the father of those babies do not register.....their out of wedlock babies...the mother cannot do anything legally to seek child support because the baby is not recognised as an official member of society......a bastard child.......meant nothing in the eyes of the law........SK is a patriachal society......and those romanticising marrying their oppa would be in for a rude surprise...
Sad, but the need to protect people at all costs has been generally overlooked by SK society. It has led to a population problem and so the sick cycle continues. It is a norm that lessens the value of a person for the general "productivity" for society and speaks a lot of a culture and the need for change, if that change can be made. SK has a lot of problems and it's people face many types of hardships distinct to itself that are a vicious cycle. But despite all the negatives, I'm glad that there are real volunteers to help those babies in that baby box program. And I read that at least for unregistered babies, they can now be available for adoption since a change in Korea's laws. We have to value people and hear them out, versus the cancel culture we are so well aware of both in our society and theirs. I can't speak for most people, but it seems degrading and devaluing to people, and it has got to stop. People do too much of it and cause too many problems already. We all should make a journey to being more accepting of people and their backgrounds to provide hope, healing, and encouragement to those needing it the most, and by working towards those goals, we can work towards healing and reconciliation and bring good purpose with it to a broken and stubborn world today. Maybe that is what the volunteers are doing. There are a lot of issues with how people are treated but I think learning to increase awareness of these issues can teach us more about what the norms in our culture are and what we allow for our mindsets to work towards, can really make us work towards brighter things.
This is heartbreaking on so many levels 😢 for a parent to give up their child is devastating. May god bless you for the work you guys do. It’s incredible ❤ so much respect to you all x
I really love this documentary as it is so heart warming to see that some of these babies are abandoned but are still well taken care of. This makes me want to work there to care for these children
I am not a mother but looking at those babies being abandoned made my heart sink. I'm praying for Eunji to be blessed with favor. Even if she's doing this alone, I'm so happy that she decided even though it is going to be tough to come back for her baby. I hope the government realizes that this is reality and if they don't intervene with assistance, their country will continue to decline in population. May the grace of God continue to bless this place, the Pastor, and the volunteers who works nonstop to provide protection and well-being these precious babies.
I felt kind of bad for Eunji. I can really see and feel how attached she was to her baby. Deciding to raise the baby after her bf disapproved and took the risk to go back home with her baby after disappearing is a very big feet. I couldn't imagine the fear she must be feeling at that moment (especially since mother's recently just gave birth tend to be emotionally unstable due to their hormonal imbalance after giving birth) so she and all the other mothers who did that big of a risk are very brave I hope society could help them more. Especially those parent/parents who really wanted to live with their children but are unable to even register them or give them enough financially stability. I only hope Eunji and all the other single mothers' family could accept them. I know they may be thinking of how hard it must be but being a parent is always not easy no matter how rich or capable you are. Look, im not condoning early and unplanned pregnancy but things happen especially when you're still young and ignorant. It's obvious how some have realized their mistakes so I hope the family could at least see and be proud of how their children (those single and young mothers) took the hard risk of raising their babies despite the harsh reality. It just shows how brave and loving a mother they could be. I'm not saying those who abandoned their babies are bad, some have different circumstances but at least some also took the high risk to choose this road with their babies
I feel so bad for single mothers but Eunji's case is more painful cause her bf and she registered the baby still Eunji's boyfriend fight with Eunji and left her with her baby alone .. May Eunji live happily with child and HER BF hope nobody get such MONSTER BOYFRIEND
I am especially worried about Hyunmin's mother. Is she fine? She seemed really dedicated and adamant about taking her baby home with her. This documentary broke my heart - all the babies are so beautiful! May they all have a beautiful life.
@@bunnicula3221 True! Her baby is so adorable! I hope Hyunmin and the other beautiful box babies get to live a happy life. I hope Hyunmin and his mama can meet someday and be reunited.
This hits me so hard! I want to be a mom someday, and I feel horrible for those little ones. While the volunteers can’t replace a mother’s love, I commend for wanting to do something to help and being kind and gentle.
Blessed this volunteers and the orphanage who take. Cares of these babies from birth. My heart goes to these lil angels as I once worked as a neonatal ICU nurse. 🙏❤️ Wished I can adopt one of these babies and raise as one of my own❤️
The reality is, this situation doesn’t just exist in Korea, there’s many instances in wealthy developed countries where this occurs, I could only imagine the scale in developing countries who don’t have havens like the baby box. It’s heartwarming the dedication of the staffs at the baby box. Thank the heavens that these places exist.
I agree. Women in poverty will always get the short end of the stick, that's why the Korean government should get involved but they're too busy stuffing their own pockets.
I live in a developing country It's NOT common at all As we are muslims mostly and even the minority non muslims who are christians have the same rule No sex before marrege It makes cases like this very rare An unheard of
@@SalmaMohamed-nn6cg I think we might be from the same country or at least region (based on what you said it's like ) and I'm telling you, it happens way more often than you think. They just get good at keeping it under wraps. It's not people having sex before marriage that's really causing this. It's people being unaware of possibilities, not being prepared for it, not knowing about preventive measures.
I'm extremely impressed with these mothers and care takers. It's brave to continue the pregnancy and give the baby to caring adults. The care takers are earth bound angels. All donators, your wonderful!
my heart breaks for all these moms. Especially the young ones who actually wanted to raise their little ones like the couple and Jihye. I had my daughter at 27 but my parents never wanted me to have kids and have been trying for years to break the bond we have with our daughter including taking us to court over false made up issues the judge believed cuz we had zero support. Long story short sometimes we're quick to blame the mom when the issue could have been Jihye's mom was against her raising the baby and made her abandon him. I had to give up being a parent to my daughter but still get to see her. These young moms don't since they are robbed of being a mom because of the burden behind registering the baby's birth. Honestly society needs to stop telling people when they should have babies and if they do have a baby young commend them for taking on a big but life changing and rewarding goal but NEVER EVER treat someone like their life is completely over or gone to waste because they had a child before you thought they should have kids. Sorry for the long rant. Hopefully people get where I am coming from
Single moms will always be looked down upon and its somehow their fault. How come they never judge the guy that left them… My mom was a single mom and thats why I never wanted to have any kind of romance with a guy. I fell in love at 19 and got prego just like my mom but I was so scared of judgement from family because I never told anyone I was seeing someone. I went with a friend to get an abortion pill and I was so depressed and miserable the next few days. I cried when i knew I had miscarried. Inside I wish I had told my mom but I knew that if I did, she’d get mad. Since she always talked shit about single mothers when she saw one, even though she was one too.
@@vminhope3040 Thank you for sharing one of the hardest parts of your life. I'm sorry for what you have been through and hope you are healing or on the way to being in a better space mentally. Also I love your user name we need more V, Min, and Hope in this world💜
49 years ago a beautiful baby girl came into our lives….she was just hours old when she was found in an alley in Inchon S.K…..she is a gift and I thank God everyday that He gave us such a wonderful gift…we talk about her birth mother and I always reminder that her mother loved her so much that she was willing to share her with me….❤
Her birth mother left her in an alley, but you say she loved her baby so much? I don’t think you understand what love actually is, because that is not love. She left that baby there to die.
@@summm4075 The original comment said "49 years ago". I assume that means she is now 49 years old. If, at 49 years old, you are still spoonfed the lie that "all mothers love their babies", then you are simply not prepared to handle the fact that you have been adopted. No, not all mothers love their babies. That is natural and understandable. Most of these abandoned babies were likely unwanted in the first place. Let me ask you this: Is it kinder to admit that not everyone is ready to be a parent and to be adopted by people who ARE ready, or is it kinder to force children to be traumatized by parents who do not want them and do not love them? Your answer will say all we need to know about how you truly feel. So answer wisely.
I'm so happy that they took pictures of the babies, as they came, wrapped and with whatever they had and the gene samples. those are vital information for the children if they ever want to find their mothers again.
This is my first time crying so much over a documentary. God bless all the volunteers who worked there. And thanks to baby box young parents can decide what to do without rushing, cuz otherwise they might do something wrong but baby box is giving them the chance to think about what to do. It's such a wise thing and I hope other countries will do the same thing in the future
I remember being 13-14 and had a few classmates who became single mothers. It became more common in high school. I’d sometimes help babysit their kids. We were kids raising kids. I’m 25 now and I am not sure if I want kids, but watching this documentary I think back to that time. It’s honestly not the best situation, as this happens in my country due to a mix of poverty and lack of sex education. So I wish the Korean government would do more to help single mothers.
Is also about girls are so naive to be lured by boys by sweet words, words mean nothing where they cant even take care of themselves and their responsibilities
My heart goes out to the volunteers, the babies and yes even the mothers. S. Korea really needs to help out these parents especially with their already low birth rate to provide at least free health care for the babies until a certain age for starters.
They provides nothing that is why they are so many abandoned child, without mentioning that abortion was available only a few years ago (2 years ago) adding this with financial issues that cause low birth it’s like a vicious circle.
The cruel social stigma of being a young unwed mother needs to stop. It’s not helping anyone and it hurts the moms who want to get jobs. Also they feel alienated from family and friends…so sad.
i mean .. look at S. Korea jambore this year.. absolute disaster , this period president is bad . can't really hope anything . no president is 100% clean. but , i hope all our president is at least have sense of proportion .
I really can't understand why the baby cannot be registered. In my place, all babies can get a birth certificate as long as the mother is a citizen, regardless of whether she is married or not. It doesn't matter who the father is.
Revoking the social Stigma would Help even more. Still there are the ones that dont want a Baby and need an easy, but Safe way to give IT up, so keep the boxes around.
I am at a loss for words. I was holding it together pretty well until the sweet lady says she cries with the babies at night who misses their mothers. I’m sure this takes an emotional toll on the volunteers and the pastor, and I’m so grateful they’re there to take in these beautiful souls. I hope SK changes their registration laws because that seems to be majority of the problem, that and young mothers worrying about what others would think of them being single moms
Korean govt crying for a low birth rate. No doubt why they had low birth rate because they cant even support these babies and even the single mothers. I cry for this babies😢. To Pastor Lee and the rest of BABY BOX Foundation may God Cherish your charity for giving unconditional love and care to the abandoned babies. God Bless you all
this is heartbreaking and OMG what an incredible program....I just want to adopt all of these unwanted babies, it's amazing to see so many people get involved...Citizens of the world deserve better support everywhere. My heart goes out to all mothers affected by abandonment, rejection, shame, abuse, rape, hardship.
@@mousehouse3591 Fr, those babies are so loved but their mothers just don’t have the means to take care of them 💜 (Not to mention completely useless, absent fathers)
My husband and I are parents of two amazing adult kids we adopted as infants from S. Korea 27 years ago. Neither of them were abandoned, but placed directly for adoption through social services. It breaks my heart to see these little ones and their distraught mothers, but I am so glad that they have a safe and caring place to go.
Heart-breaking! What do you say and do. Pastor Lee Jongrak - such a great idea re: the baby box. To all from the pastors , volunteers and donators you guys rock . Keep up the great work. If ever I visit South Korea I would love to meet with Pastor Jongrak ,plus visit the baby box. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. 😍
This documentary was heartbreaking. I had tears in my eyes from beginning to end. I can only imagine the pain these poor girls feel in their hearts after having to make that decision. May God be with all of them and with every sweet baby in that baby box. 🥺
I am out of words about how much of a good deed is Mr.Pastor and his volunteers are doing? Being a 23 years old, one of my goal in life is to adopt a child and make their living worth all of their suffering. This encouraged me to work hard and become financially stable in order to provide for the lil one who is going to come into my life!
Thank you for all the helpers! I can‘t imagine how many babies where left during Corona… If I visit Korea again I’ll totally go there and spend something.
I’ve not cried as much as I did watching this Doc. My heart is breaking .... I wish I could adopt 1 or 2 of these babies and bring them back home to the US with me, if it’s possible. Definitely I would like to visit this church (even tho I’m not a Christian) when I make a trip to SK. God Bless these wonderful volunteers, Pastor Lee who started it all, Pastor Cho, the people who donate & the beautiful babies ❤️
I adopted an abandoned child from Korea 42 years ago. He was about 3-4 at the time. I’m sure he had to go through much fear and unhappiness at such a young age. I’m happy some places in Korea are finding a way to give people the option not to just leave a child in an unprotected place
To add to my post: i was so blessed when my son got off that plane. He has brought me such joy and love. I just wish he would be able to find family members in Korea. It would bring him peace to know the circumstances of his life before he became a member of our family. We are hoping DNA might bring them together.
I watched the baby box and it breaks my heart we’ve been trying to have a baby but no luck . We are planning to adopt a baby in Korea but we don’t know who to contact about the baby box ?
@@sherrillsaligumba4547 It may help you to Google how to adopt a baby from South Korea. Times have changed in the last 40+ years since the original poster said she adopted her son; the procedure may very well be different. Try to find the official sources if possible. If you cannot figure this out even a little bit, you may not be ready for a child. After all, what would you do if your future child tried to ask you a question you didn't know the answer to? Would you ask a random commenter, or help your child figure out an answer to their question? The first step to having a child, whether by birth or adoption, relies entirely on you and your partner to do the work. If you must adopt, you still have to work for that adoption. So work on it.
This is so heartbreaking 😢 These little angels deserve all the love and care that they could get. I hope they are all healthy and loved wherever they may be. Kudos to all the volunteers and sponsors.
My heart hurts watching this for everyone involved. Thank you so much to those who make this an option for these girls, families and their babies. Baby box is such an incredibly beautiful and compassionate organisation for doing all that they do. ❤
This is so heartbreaking. I really couldn’t hold back my tears. This baby’s are so beautiful and precious. I’m so happy and thankful that the people who work at the baby box place take care of these little angels. It must be so hard and emotional to work there. But I also feel for the mothers it’s not always that they don’t want their kids but they can’t support them financially. God bless the baby’s✨💎