Ladies! Protect Men! Put Some Clothes On! 

And yet men get so offended when women say they would rather encounter a random bear in the woods than a random man.

When men say that they cannot control their impulses when women dress "indecently," they insult themselves with the implication that they have no more self-control than a mere animal. It says far more about them then about the people they complain about.

I am SO tired of the phrase "boys will be boys." My wife and many of her friends endured this crap from their own mothers. Unfortunately those same mothers gave an excuse for misbehavior to their sons, and in some incidents to their husbands.

Rape is a crime of violence, not sex.

Yes! MEN, lust is YOUR problem. Deal with it.

I heard this from someone else: society would NEVER give a thief any sympathy or mitigation for stealing an expensive watch, because the owner/wearer was tempting the thief by wearing it.

Missus here: IT happens whether women are dressed modestly or not. Matthew 5 is perfect; giving men the responsibility for their own actions. Remember, sin starts in your mind. Well said Rev!

Anyone who thinks that "modest" clothing will keep men from being "naughty" should look into the experiences of women in places where they have to go fully veiled.

Men, grow up, have some honor and respect, and get control over your emotions!

I am tired of it. I have been wearing ankle length skirts and still have guys hitting on me or bugging me. I asked to be left alone . Why is it that a woman trying to live a godly life doesn't matter? If a man can't control himself around a woman maybe he is the one lacking spiritual maturity. I can't control what goes on in a man's mind. That's his responsibility not mine. If I can control myself around an attractive member of the opposite sex I don't see how they have the excuse that they just couldn't help themselves.

_Everything I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten_ Keep your hands (and other appendages) to yourself. Everything I see is _not_ mine. It's simple, really.

“But she was wearing that skimpy dress.” This is the excuse for assault men have used for eons. “Stop dressing the way you do women or we won’t be responsible for our actions.” There is a two word name for this, but I probably shouldn’t type it.

even if the girl is naked in front of you, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS AND CONTROL! love the sermon Ed. If the girl consents, and she changes her mind in the middle of the act, you stop, its that simple. I personally, don't care what thoughts go through your head, but as soon as you act on it, the act is done, and you must pay the repercussions of your actions. But yes leave the animal behind.

No responsibility on the men, honestly. I hope my son looks at the character of a person , man or woman. We expect men and women to not act on those natural urges in a civilized society. Clothes do not make the person.

I live in Maine. A few years ago a man sued his next door neighbor because she was mowing her lawn topless. It actually went to court. The case was found in her favor. On her own property she could wear, or not wear, what ever she wanted. Just for kicks once in awhile she would mow al natural.

🎵🎶 "I'm starting with the man in the mirror I'm asking him to change his ways And no message could've been any clearer If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself and then make a change" 🎶🎵

My neighbor recently came home driving a divine cherry-red sports car. I told him "you're going to need to park that car in your garage because you're forcing me to covet."

Angela Rayner is the Deputy Leader for Labour, our opposition party... Some Tories complained that Angela's legs were distracting them and suggested it might be intentional!! 😳 'Woman possesses legs in the seat of government, SHOCKER!!' 😱

I have a friend who is a teacher in middle school, and one of her classes is overloaded with boys, so she made a new seating arrangement where she scattered the girls among the boys, the idea being to stop the horsing around. As a retired teacher myself I understand, but I also see how even young girls are expected to regulate boys’ behavior. It is sad.

There's saunas, beaches, and campgrounds that men and women of all ages will go to where everyone is unclothed with no issues at all. There's peoples living in tropical areas where nudity and minimal clothing is very commonplace. Lust has nothing to do with how someone is dressed but is entirely an issue of self control on the person lusting and there's no excuse to not have that self control.

If I were walking down the street and I saw someone eating a delicious steak and I just took it off their plate and started eating it, no one would accept the excuse that I was pecking and it looked good. People who steal cars can’t blame the paint job. No one would blame a successful farmer for the actions of the poacher. Why is it only women, who sometimes experience horrible violence as a result, blamed for the actions of their attackers? Besides that, the clothes are just a convenient excuse that society will accept. It’s not like women don’t get cat called, harassed, and assaulted even when they’re dressed modestly. The clothes are an excuse.

Hard to believe God put us on this earth naked 🤔

Amen Reverend. As a man this always offends me. Yes as a straight male an attractive woman will catch my eye but i can control myself. It offends me that other men use saying that bs.

I grew up receiving the message from my church that if I was touched against my will it was my fault because of how I was dressed or how I behaved. Thank you for addressing this. Hopefully, the next generation can grow in the knowledge that being assaulted is never their fault!

My favorite line from The Big Lebowski is “He treats objects like women, man.”

It's like the story where they drag the adulteress before Jesus to be stoned. My question has been for a long time, "where's the man?". It's not like she committed adultery all by herself!! Both parties participated, both parties should face the same consequences.

It is legal to go topless in Oregon in public. Equality is for everyone not just the special people. People forget that it has only been about 100 years since men were allowed to go topless in public.

A long time ago I saw this cartoon. In the first panel the man sees a woman in a calf length skirt, long sleeve, high neck blouse. In his imagination he's picturing her naked. Second panel he sees a woman in hijab. He imagines her naked. Third panel, a woman walks by wearing just a pair of high heels 👠. In his imagination - nothing, empty. So obviously dressing modestly didn't help 😉

If you can't move beyond those animalistic desires, at least understand they are *your* desires and no one else's. Like your hands, keep them to yourself If you feel the need to pray over them, do so, just don't act on them unless it's with another consenting adult who reciprocates.

My former stepdad was career Army. Outside of his Army career he was a Southern Methodist Minister. When we got orders to move to what was then West Germany, my stepsister was 8, our baby sister was 4 & I had just turned 11. When we got orders back to the states, the Wall had come down, I was now 16 & driving, stepsister 13 & our now 10yo sister had already hit puberty. Of course as soon as we got set up at our new duty station all the friends & family started coming to visit. It was summer, super hot, & we were in a mobile home with no ac. Mom came in & told us someone was on their way over & we needed to go "put some clothes on." My stepdad stopped & said "Girls, don't move! Excuse me? What did you say? No, I don't think so! If our daughters have to "put clothes on" for them to come over then they're NOT coming in this house! So either you can go out & tell them when they get here or I am. And I'll make damn sure they know they aren't welcome back!"

Things never change. The nuns used to say this all the time back 60.70 years ago: keep your buttons buttoned, don’t wear straight skirts, or pullover sweaters, take off the make up you are an occasion of sin. I can’t tell you how long Ifelt sinfull because I wore aB34 bra

A more relevant analogy is if you went to the pub, which was serving alcohol, and asked them to stop serving alcohol while you were there because people might be tempted. You know, because the pub owner needs to help out the sinners.That's basically what you tried to shame women into doing. We women are trying to live our lives and inevitably there's some yahoo who thinks we should spend our time and energy helping men out. Help the same people who terrorize us, make laws over our bodies, pay us less, penalize us for being mothers, etc. We're not saints. Solve your own problems. I just can't with the entitlement men feel to us, our bodies and our time and labor.

I lived in a place with a bunch of other people for a couple of years. One guy who was devout in his religion (it wasn't Christianity, but I'm sure there are many Christians who would agree with his viewpoint) but he said that if a woman is sexually assaulted (he used the word that starts with the letter r but not sure if I use the word I will get banned from commenting for a period of time) that it's her fault for dressing like a (word that starts with the letter s). I don't care how a woman or man for that matter dresses no one has the right to do that to another person and it's their fault not the person who is dressed too sexy.

I hope you all see a beautiful flower today😊🌻

I could only watch a couple of minutes of this. That message has haunted me all my life. It's my fault that my dad started molesting me at "4." It's my fault I was raped twice in my teens. I did everything I could to keep the creeps away. This is a big reason women put on weight. It doesn't keep all the creeps away but it helps.

Nature is supposed to grow. Overcoming your own challenges is how you grow. Growing is the whole point. Making other people solve your problems for you is just a way to avoid them, and avoid growing.

Assault is always blamed on the clothes meanwhile old ladies, unfortunately little girls, babies boys, men, nuns etc. get attacked but somehow it's the clothes. This is why women and even some men would rather encounter a wild bear than a strange man. Every woman you know has a story about a man doing something to her. The bear for the most part doesn't want anything to do with me . If the bear does attack it's not doing so for fun or its pleasure and would not try to draw it out for sick purposes. Unfortunately, I cannot say the same about a human.

I dont do organized religion. I can't stand to hear preachers, pasters, fathers (or whatever you call your person) because of the puke that spills out of their mouths but i do like listening and agree with most of what rev. Ed Trevors says. He is the only one i listen to now.

If one’s godliness/righteousness is dependent on how a woman dresses, perhaps one isn’t as godly as they imagine.

This is sickening. Men have their hearts and minds off God. If this will be their excuse, men dress appropriately. No more spanks, Speedos, tight jeans, and put on a shirt! For goodness sakes pull up your pants! God bless you Rev. Ed. I love your. Insightful videos.

The men should stop tempting us women by flashing their wealth!! When I see that Rolex, that Bentley, I just HAVE to grab and take what I see. Men shouldn’t flash their wealth.

If we say something that implies that a man is not in total control, we’re in trouble. But this implies that men have absolutely no control over themselves and they need to be minded like children. But if we say “grow up” to a man behaving badly…Uh-oh look out! I’m getting old, but I have three teen daughters and it’s so hard not to be pessimistic and terrified for all the experiences they may have at the hands of people (other women especially) who will blame them for simply existing and getting hurt.

as a woman, i am so tired of being responsible for mens' thoughts/feelings/behavior/actions. it is something we are made aware of at a very young age, and its BS. we have to be responsible for ourselves AND all men? when do they take responsibility? we live our lives feeling like prey in a cage, and they tell us we cant hurt mens' feelings or ruin their life by reporting them, when a single choice any one of them makes can ruin ours. if that wasn't enough, some men dont even see us as humans worthy of living if we're not doing what they want. blaming it on dress is a copout. from experience, i can confirm that it does not matter. i was harrassed as much while covered up and visibly pregnant, as when i was young and showing skin. a man sexually assaulted an elderly woman in a NYC street recently. i doubt she was showing much skin. its just another way they try to make us take responsibility for their sins.

I don't dress to impress. I dress to blend in, to be comfortable. If you don't like what i wear, then don't look at me. Lucky for me, I'm not beautiful. 😊 No temptation here!😊

Since she was two days old and thwapped the bow of her forehead, our girl has believed "clothing is optional." She still hates shoes, but will usually keep her clothes on. All her dolls get theirs removed, though. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I’m an atheist so I’m not totally sure how this got into my algorithm but I’m glad it did! I really appreciated your thoughts on this and I couldn’t agree more, even if it is from a secular perspective 😊

My sister is Conservative and has said that multiple times. She was offended by women on the beach in swimsuits. I had to tell her she was being ridiculous. Men are responsible for their thoughts and actions, just like women are responsible for theirs. Your eyes are your own, your thoughts are your own. Take responsibility.

The very same fundamentalist Christians who say this, obliviously and cluelessly deride and ridicule Islamists who say the same thing.... 😂

Excellent! I hope that Churches that enforce the purity culture dogma may be inspired by what you have said. There is a very serious dark underbelly to that particular dogma.

I was sexually assaulted even though I was dressed modestly and was wearing an old baggy jeans and a thick large sweater that completely covered me up. Also, my hair was thrown back in a pony tail and I had no make-up on; I looked awful that evening. Older men used to hit on me all the time back in my teens and 20's and I have always dressed modestly because sexual attention makes me feel unsafe. Men who can't control themselves around women and girls are weak. They need to work on themselves instead of telling women and girls how to dress and behave.

I was told one time in a church that it was my fault a that an 80 year old deacon tried to rape me in the back of the church because my neck wasn't completely covered up. If he was a deacon dedicated to the Lord a women in a bathing suit should have been able to walk through the door and he wouldn't have had a problem with it. Although I do believe that women should dress modestly because that's what it says in the Bible, our sins are our sins not someone else's fault.

You had me going to the point where I clicked away, took 5 deep breaths, and said I want to come back to make sure he's saying what it sounds like he's saying. Came back for a couple more minutes and it turned out you were saying exactly the office of the weather initially sounded like you were saying. I sure am glad I gave you a full five minutes.

Covering up does not protect women. Or girls for that matter. Sad that so many in clergy won't face the reality of women's lives and instead identify with misbehaving men.

Some years ago in a homily, our priest pointed out that the very first time on record that we have a sin, the first thing Adam and Eve tried to do was pass the buck. Yes well, it was the woman who set me to it! Yes well, why aren't we talking about that snake? We can't know, but how might things in the Garden have shaken out differently if Adam had said "you're right! You told me what to do, and I knew what You told me, and yet here I am."

That bank across the street with all that money makes me nervous. how dare that bank house so much money. How dare men walk around with their wallets. I'll bet there's even money and credit cards in those wallets. That takes a lot of nerve to walk around with a wallet with money in it in front of me who lusts after money

The words MUST COME FROM YOUR OWN LIPS!

Thanks Rev Ed Great Rant love this totally Agree..Amen you said it wonderfully..Women have a right to dress the way theywant..I used to work with women and The way they dress there not sending singles to men there feeling good about themselves and feeling beautiful and having self esteem...This preacherbis way off key God Bless 🕊️ Nimultis

As a young, average-looking, but fairly well-endowed woman, I went out of my way to dress modestly--no tight pants or tops, always high-necked tops with full coverage, simple, natural hair, no makeup, etc., etc. Men still pawed at me, brushed against me, stared at my breasts, and made suggestive or even overtly sexual comments. This was in the 80s, so people were less aware, but still...it SURE wasn't about me trying to attract attention.

We all must take responsibility. It's the way we all should be. Thank you.🤗

So, I can blame the bank for tempting me to rob it?!?!

Same as forcing burkas & chadors on women. Sorry to pick on Muslims, but I used to be one & this always did stick in my craw.

I am so grateful for your suggestions for living. Thank you.

Started in the Garden of Eden. Perhaps that was really the first sin, Adam blaming Eve for his sin

Within the past decade, some school went after a female student because her clavicles (collar bones) were visible, tempting her male classmates. She needed to cover up. Sounds like the minister would rather have the women seen in large potato sacks, if even seen at all.

Years ago in Oklahoma City there was a house with a sign on the roof that said, Tv Dirty? Turn it off.

I had a pastor tell the entire congregation, including us straight women, to not look at, shop at or walk past a Victoria Secret store. I didn't get what the difference was between buying bras there and buying them at Wal-Mart

If women could stop harassment by covering up, then why have Islamic practices like niqab and burka failed? Why does purdah not result in safety for women rather than kept things as dangerous as the medieval era? Because it's not about removing temptation for men. It's about scapegoating women for the sins of men. As Fr. says here, sins are ours. Does anyone think the Son of God can't tell who's lacking in discipline?

Thank you for discussing this issue.

Maybe they can wear solar eclipse glasses 🕶 to prevent wandering 👀

I downloaded an online game the other day, and after booting it up, I jumped right into the character creation. They had different races, with both male and female models to choose and customize. The women were all dressed as scandalously as you could imagine... But they had a race of robot player characters. The male versions were all Android like models, all steel, giant limbs, no human like characteristics at all... But the female ROBOTS still had a bust, exposed skin, female faces. I uninstalled it immediately. It wasn't because I was tempted, I was angry. Why? Why do robots need breasts? An exposed midriff? There were 4 other races of humanoids to choose from... But they couldn't not do it. I've said it before, I hate this world. So much.

Amen.

Mt 5:28 in essence says: "grow up in spirit, stop your self serving thoughts and let God lead you away from temptation."

Thank you!!

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I'm not a very "churchy" person, nor do I consider myself Christian. I've studied Christianity some, and I've read several different versions of the Christian Bible. I've also had a great deal of exposure to conservative and reform Judaism, and some exposure to modern, Western Islam. I've done this learning mostly out of sheer, more-or-less academic curiosity. I suppose I'm what one might call "spiritual", rather than religious. My mother and I joked that I'm really judeo-pagan. I come to your videos with that perspective, and I find them inspiring. You give me hope for Christianity in particular and the world in general. It is so refreshing to hear someone celebrating the teachings of Jesus Christ! It is impressive that you are fully present in 2024 and yet also serious about the serious issues people are dealing with, and you have a positive, loving, RESPONSIBLE perspective, rather than the same old "fire and brimstone", fear-inspired, bullcrap! So anyway ... thank you. I appreciate what you have to say, on an intellectual and spiritual level. Thank you!

When you descend into the world of creeps you really have only yourself to blame.

What the preacher was saying, is Christian men will be Christian men. That doesn’t speak highly of the men in his church

Always love to hear those who espouse "personal responsibility" tell other how they should live so those espousing can live their "righteous life." If you can't take responsibility for your actions, that's on you! Don't hide behind religious text to point the finger (I'm look at ALL of the religions, not just Christianity).

I'm expected to strictly police my urges in order to eat less and remain thin enough to be alluring, but he is not responsible for policing his urges if iam alluring.

Tablecloths were invented to hide curvey table legs to keep men from getting lusty thoughts. 'Nough said.

EXACTLY.

i read a book about muslim women in the middle east. a mother, wearing a burqa takes her of-age daughter to the burqa store to get her first garment. as they walk in and the girl is in regular clothes the men on the street don't even look her way. when she comes out wearing the burqa all the men stared at her interested now. even a burqa can look sexy.

Agreed, there is fault on both sides but the local clergy has no business establishing boundaries.

I just wanted to take a moment to say how nice it is to follow someone who I can trust. I knew before I clicked this much of what the message would be. And I also thought of all of the pastors and church leaders I heard in the past talk the way that the person you're talking about did. Now thinking back it's a bit gross, but like so many things when you're young it's easy to believe what people who you're supposed to be able to trust tell you.

Interestingly, in a world where no-one wears cloths temptation is much less common. It is true that men tend to be weaker when it comes to sexual attraction. This is not genetics though. The difference is societal. Men are expected to be strong, virile, "manly". Women are expected to be chaste until marriage. While that expectation may have relaxed a bit on both sides on the whole, its still the expectation in many parts of the US and around the world. Its the Pavlov's dog thing. Its not enough to tell women to wear more cloths. In the Middle East, an exposed ankle or head of hair is enough. In the stricter countries a mesh covers the eye slit of the burka lest a man should catch a glimpse of the eyes. God forbid the woman should walk in a manner that could be interpreted as "sexy".

There's an old joke "men unzip their pants and their brain falls out."

Shouldn't men poke their eye out if they're having such trouble looking at women? Isn't that in the Bible somewhere? Edit to add: this "thinking about something is the same as doing it" is kind of problematic. It "flattens" the sin scale by making just thinking something the same as doing something.

"I tell no one any story but their own." (The Horse and his Boy)

So disgusted of the hypocrisy that puts a higher level of self control on woman than men, and blaming women for a man's emotional/ sexual lack of self control. What ever happened to personal responsibility and accountability? Lord knows I've had such lustful desire, and recognize what the woman is wearing is stirring such desires, I don't blame the women for wearing such an outfit as I own my own feelings and I'm responsible for for how I react to any situation or visual stimulus.

My mother once told me that we should all be able to run around in public naked without any fear for our safety. Society might not be that way, but that's not my problem. That's society's problem. However, I'm not naive. I still wear clothing. I also push society toward the goal of freedom and safety.

As I am getting older I have become mor modest 👍

If modesty matter children would never be sexually assaulted. Ime religion was a tool used by the men around me to blame women for everything bad they did and thought and to keep them from doing any childcare or housework. It would have been fun to be raised around men using religion to help people or be good people but I haven't run into any of those yet.

It's that step from liking someone to wanting to harm them. How does that work? I've truly never understood.

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Also women know lust too. Sometimes you'll be sitting behind a broad shouldered guy in a tight shirt and you have to stop staring. You find a way, and no one has to ever know how you felt at that moment, until you blast it in a RU-vid comment. All that to say, women know lust, they also know to deal with it. Men could try it.

I am not apposed to nakedness.

I really struggled with this problem during a particularly difficult time in my life. The church I attended had many beautiful young women in it (they dressed appropriately) it was MY problem. It got to the point where I couldn’t even hear the message, again, my problem. As you know Ed I live in the sermon on the mount, and visit the rest of the Bible. I plucked my eyes out. I sat in the front row, problem solved. Excuse me MY problem solved, and eventually I was able to see them as my sisters in Christ again. There’s a really funny story that goes along with this, another time maybe

You know I have never bought into the idea that we can't control our actions our emotions. We most definitely can if we choose to do so and the excuse of boys will be boys or they would not have gotten in trouble if they hadn't been wearing such skimpy clothing it just doesn't fly with me.

GOOD GRIEF!

I honestly heard (on BBC Radio 4) a Muslim man complaining that *a woman in a bourka* was "flaunting herself". Gentlemen, if you really can't stop thinking about sex constantly, take some heavy exercise. It worked perfectly well for the Victorian "Muscular Christians".