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I just dont understand why she stayed on the date after the first "look" 🤨. She didnt deserve to be disrespected, but she definitely stayed and took it for some reason
@@JeanG645 sometimes it's that weird obligation some people feel to not hurt other feelings/break social etiquette. Even when they are being treated like trash/that person isn't abiding by social etiquette. The look I could(Lol) look past as sometimes you can miss read a look. But the second he went your bigger than I thought with the tone he definitely used. I'd have been gone. I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect I'd have gotten up. Gone to the waiter asked for my portion of the bill and left.
@@JeanG645 Social obligation, along with years of being gaslit into feeling like something is wrong with you. I guarantee when he gave her that nasty look she probably thought it was in her head. It happens a lot. Women are societally programmed to think WE did something wrong, when in fact the other person is just a fucking asshole.
That Applebees story was so sad! That wasn’t even about him being broke. I sure hope she’s learned to love herself to be able to stand up, turn around, and call her ride back with the first rude comment if that ever happens again.
Never let anyone go for 2 for 2 the look was strike one...I would just have gotten up and left and sat on another table gotten food and enjoyed myself he can enjoy his water!
The story where the guy wanted her to pay but didn't want to look bad: girl, I would've told the waiter to split the bill and paid only for my meal before leaving him stranded.
My sister worked at Applebee’s in high school and all the kids that worked there nicknamed it “CrappleFleas” and I’ll never think of it as anything else lol
It's not the brokeness, it's the rudeness and general audacity of some of these guys. I've known broke men who still treated their partners with basic human decency - when they can't even manage that, being broke is just the cherry on top of the bs sundae that these guys keep serving up.
I was shocked to hear that her mom said that! I'm almost 70 and have never made a plate of food for a guy...not unless I cooked and was dishing it up for everybody.
Sometimes I wish they would stop hogging the kitchen too and standing over me when I do try to make something of course there going to shame women there because if they let you make something they don't like that because then they can't take credit for it. So they throw a pizza in there and burn if or forget the creamer for the coffee. Some of them could build a bridge or house but not do basic chores. Or if they can do chores and house work you could never convince them to work a day in there life and they think social security is enough to survive on and no don't find a job babe there's not extra stuff we don't need or bills that need paying.
@@mi3helle707 So, theres this known thing in the US (and I say US cause, I live here😂) that men in the military are usually not the nicest to date, whether there looking for someone to wife hella quick to have stability for when they come home, or they’re just looking for someone to have sex with at least until their next deployment. Of course this is not all men in the military that are like this, but it happens often enough where it’s more common than not to date an asshole, who just so happens to also be in the military😂 at least that what I and some of my friends have experienced🤷🏽♀️anyone else reading this can share there thoughts, I hope I’m not alone in this but I also feel like I’m not😂
And LADIES: IF HE REFUSED TO PAY FOR HIS SHIT- HAVE THE WAITRESS SPLIT THE CHECK AND GO TO THE BATHROOM AND DIP LIKE LADIES DO NOT FALL FOR HIS SCAMMING CHEAP-ASS BS
A lot of single married moms out here I see! Wish my mom would have been able to see this change. So she can understand she didn’t need my dad, my dad needed her! Ladies don’t stress yourself for no man, because once you pass, he on to the next victim!
There's no shame in not being loaded with cash, but don't offer to pay for stuff or ask someone out if you know you can't afford much. Or at least have the decency to tell your date beforehand. This isn't just for guys, it's for girls too. There are other ways to date without spending any money, really just depends on your own mentality and sometimes the type of person you're dating.
Exactly. Just being honest about needing to split the bill, go to a cheaper restaurant, or even saying you can do a picnic in the park would be better than this.
🙄😒 Do ppl not realize servers look at the name on the card? I had several girls/guys pretend it was his card. Servers are taught (upscale dining) to present the check back by announcing the last name. “Thank u Ms. Suchnsuch 😑
From what I've seen a lot of beautiful women often have horrible taste in men. It's usually just how good they look which is destined to be a disaster..
When she showed up to Applebees and homeboy said he ain’t paying and the started CRITICIZING her? Girl, throw some water in a guys face if he acts like that and walk out the door, don’t be a damn doormat!
When you don't have any money be open and do inexpensive things, but when you're inviting someone somewhere, not just a date to get to know each other, invite someone - you're paying and don't try any of these things.
I was dating a guy and he did a lot of cheap things one being him always shaking the gas pump before putting it back for a few extra drops. Every time. Also he went on a cruise with his family and after he gave me this promise ring that he said was his moms… my finger turned green after two weeks of wearing it. He denied that it was fake silver, his brother later told me that he bought in the gift shop for 10 dollars. No shame, I wouldn’t have cared if he didn’t lie to me about it. I don’t care about jewelry but I fucking hate liars.
I feel like if a man suggest going to Applebees, TGI Friday’s or Chili’s trust that’s a dam 🚩 I’ve never had a decent date or hear of anyone having a decent date when any of those places are involved Texas Rhodehouse is an exception bcuz them rolls and butter can at least cure my broken heart 🥰🥰
Because quality healthy minds people don't go there for dates. Maybe with friends but it's low effort dates just like cheap coffee/tea dates. Ladies, please learn how to vet men and don't accept bare minimum treatment. Have high standards, take good care of yourself, and be selective.
Holy sh! The girl at 1:30..big ups to her. She is beautiful and handled that miraculously. So much respect. I hope she to this day knows her worth and how awesome she is.
The story about the "big girl" (sorry I don't know your name) is awful. It actually made tears come to my eyes to know that there are people who treat others like that. I hope she finds a wonderful, loving and generous in all ways man to treat her like the treasure she is.
His story is actually from a show called extreme cheapskates a man did this with his wife so he could take her to the movies. They were actually eating popcorn taken from the trash it was disgusting
I have had my share of broke men . But I have never ever let them pretend like my credit card is theirs . So now before I go out on a date I ask my date we are going to a park or something right cause I ain't got no money to be paying . They usually laugh and say girl stop playing , but when they see that I'm dead ass serious they say the park it is. I'm sorry but I work 2 full time jobs to be wasting my money on someone I might never see again.
The girl with her mom saying "that's what a woman does" you family is toxic. You deserve so much better and your mom should have felt ashamed telling you that. Now if it's a cultural/religion thing and you follow that as well, then I'm sorry.
Take your credit card with you ladies.... A CANCELLED ONE and be sure to take SEPARATE CARS in case some shyt like this happens leave your card on the table excuse yourself to the restroom tell him you'll be right back AND LEAVE BYTCH! 😂😂😂 LEAVE when you get back in your car IMMEDIATELY block that trash a** dude. Any suggestions ladies?? Put it in the comments 😂😂We gotta help one another 🤣🤣
I dnt understand whyy these women don't just leave these "men" high and dry ... I would've paid my own half and left and many of these i would've left before the food even got there 🙃 😅 💀 like fr
The girl about being married and still be 50/50. Girls please don’t fall for that. Even in relationships if a guy tells you to go 50/50 on everything they of course will ask you for that even if you’re married and have children. And what are they going to do??
Everyone always talks about women assuming the man they are dating is going to pay for their meal, but no one talks about how men do the same shit sometimes 🤣🤣
I feel like if you are going to be crappy to a guy just because they don’t have money, you don’t deserve them when they do have money. Yes some people use others for money, but it is not the only reason to respect someone.
You shoulda left when he said he couldn't buy you a drink. Bought you own drink and then called an Uber. You allowed him to mistreat you in the name of being nice. Its good you didnt give him what he wanted. Self respect, its a good look.
one stole the tip i left for hotel cleaners. Another said i was asking for too much when i asked him to show up for a picnic that i ordered food for and organized. Another got really angry when i said i wsnt going to sleep him after he bought mea 20 dollar drink. my guy friend borred 200 from me to set up an elaborate birthday party for a girl he has been simping over fro 12 years, I never got that money back. Clearly i am the problem.
I made $16 an hour plus commission in high school, bought a car with cash in a month and had a savings. All while being a high school student, my nephew is in high school and has a savings over $15,000
@@mikalyonsoneal9890 ....... and?? That is great. I was a manager in high school. Scheduled my own hours and hired some of my friends. It is not the norm.
3:28 Oh my God. I'm not even a big woman and I was appalled. She should've said his name. POS From now on, I'm making sure we discuss date expectations before we meet including that ensuring that their funds are available, credit cards are working, etc. WTF
met a guy off bumble. we went to a cafe. i drove myself to meet him here. he shows up, tells me the cafe of choice is a 5 mins walk from his place. sits down, and orders nothing. both hands folded. how is this a coffee date ????
I'd have absolutely no problem embarrassing a boy (clearly not a man) who shows up for a date he invited me to with no money to pay for at least himself. I would have the server split the bill, pay my portion (with tax and tip) and leave his a*s at the table to figure his portion out explaining to the server that he attempted to scam the wrong one. As women, we are always told never go to a place where you cannot cover at least what you order (just in case). No self respecting man would ever do such a thing. Get up, walk out, block his number, and drive or get a ride home (he should not be your ride on a first date anyway). By not covering his, he also can't walk out with you. Two birds with one stone. That said, I have been with my husband since I was 16 (so over half my life) and doubt I will have any more dates for strangers.
this guy asked me out to eat, but i had the car so I really took us to eat. He said “imma show you something”..we pull up to Whole Foods, make to go plates in the little hot foods section. He says “just follow me” and leads me straight out the door…did not pay. Then we went to the mall across the street and ate our stolen Whole Foods meals at the food court 😮💨😂 my life is a comedy.
When I was 20 I took a girl out on our first date to eat. She was 18. This happned 23 years ago. We were walking down the famus street on South Beach Miami Florida. We were looking around and she spotted a nice looking restaurants. She said. Let's go here. That place looked expensive to me but I said, sure let's go. We sat down. They bring the menu and guess what, prices aren't listed at all. She then said, this place must be expensive, the menu doesnt show prices, if you want let's go to another restaurant. Me wanted to impress her I said, don't worry it's OK. She even said, are you sure? we can go. No I said, I got this. I won't lie, the food was phenomenal so was the price, lol. When the bill came She said, oh my Lord. I can help pay for it if you want. I said with a normal face, no, that's ok. I got it. But inside me I was dying, damn it was expensive i should've said yes to her suggestion. $160 a plate and $20 a drink, back in 1999. Plus the damn tip. Crazy. We walked out and said to myself. I will never ever, bring her back here again. Here's the funny part of the story. That same girl and I have been married for 21 years now and 4 kids. Some 5 years ago I told her about that restaurant experience and told her what I am writing here of how I felt and was going through my mind. She said, why? We should've left. Now I joke about it, but back then? no way it wasn't funny at all. That hurt my wallet at 20. Back in 1999 I was making $6.25 an hour. Funny thing is that when we had our 20 year wedding anniversary, we flow down to Miami to took her to the same restaurant. 😀 I was wearing a nice tuxedo which she bought for me, and she was wearing her nice elegant red dress which i bought for her. We both laughed as we were walking in holding hands and making fun of our ourselves remembering that experience and saying Can you imagine IF.... Just wanted to share something positive and funny.
Wowww 1:30 had so many red flags, but dude wtf 😂 you oughta know that buying someone stuff doesn't entitle you to anything, but his case is even worse than that. I would've just left as soon as he made the weird comment.
Not condoning disrespecting anyone on a date (or ever, really), but I personally won't go on a date if I don't have money to pay for myself. It's traditional that the guy pays, at least the first time, but I don't expect it. If the roles were reversed, I wouldn't like someone expecting I would pay. Maybe that's my slowly-recovering self esteem talking, but there it is.
Lmao now here I am the brokest thing a man has done was ask me to get drinks for our date. And i ended up canceling the date because…no lol these stores have me mortified
Regarding the “big girl” story… why entertain a bad date? He showed you his true colors from the getgo!!! Why didn’t let his stupid ass the moment he made nasty remarks about your weight!!! ????
I don’t know why people don’t talk before they go out. If you’re dating a guy and he says he wants to always pay for the date, awesome. But I really think all people should carry around some means of payment at all times. Maybe you won’t be using it, whatever. But what if there’s emergency? You need to have something on you, a card, cash, Apple Pay, whatever.
