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Rule #2 You have no friends. Have acquaintances you’re friendly with, but are always vague with. Hang out with, but make no real promises with. I learned years back true friends are rare and you’re lucky if you have at least someone in your mid to late 30’s that would be worth really trusting. Everyone is out for themselves in life. The only person you can really trust is yourself.
This is deep wisdom and a hard truth. It’s more common to lose friends as you get older if you surpass them either financially or mentally because of the hearts of men succumbing to things like jealousy. I’m not saying it’s no possible to keep a good friend but it’s more likely that if you change and they don’t it’s more likely you’ll drift apart.
This might sound crazy but this video was recommended to me, but the funny thing is I am currently starting a company and my friends wants to hop on board. He claims he is skilled in the fields necessary but as I observe him I have doubts. But this video helped me think clearly about that decision, as I believe hiring him under me could be the business's downfall. Thanks for the great content!!!
A similar thing is what Azie did in NYC during the crack era. Once he got a connect that could give him an abundance of coke, he hired all his would be competition. Since his coke source was virtually unlimited, he didnt need the competition and he gave them such a low price they saw no reason not to join. Since they all were making money, he didn't have many enemies. Also, because they depended on his supply for business, warring with him would only hurt them... along with create enemies out of the whole hood, because they relied on Alpo too. It's in the movie Paid in Full.
our friends n enemies are a representation of our psyche and a means to higher self realizations. Know your enemies and your self and you will win all battles ~ Sun Tzu
Your enemies will tell you exactly the things your friends can’t or won’t tell you, Your enemies have more to get gain than your enemies so use your enemies to do the dirty work and don’t invest too much trust in those in your circle
no problem. follow this advice and you won't be bretrayed. 1) Check One's Motives. Why are they friends with you? How are you treated compared to others? 2) Stop trying to be Popular. Don't just make friends with anyone, Be Selective! Do background checks. I rather have 10 close friends than 100 superficial friends who only want to exploit me. 3) Important!! Judge their Character! Judge them base on how they treat GOOD PEOPLE. In other words, look at their track record towards Good People, even in their past. 4) Ask yourself, would you trust your friend with your kids or money? (I know this one is over the top but this will weed out 90% of the bad apples)
Like 'THE PRINCE' by Niccolo Machiavelli. His Treatise on Political Power, ... Ipse Dixit: " A humble work" he called it in his gratitude to the Medici family, that has stirred the world. This Machiavellian book was cut from the same wood, in that it is true, yet devious. One of my favorite lines out of the Prince was this one: "Man ought not to think more highly of himself, as man is so enamoured with his own qualities, that he is deceived by them"
I disagree with your commentary that perhaps one should manipulate his/her friends for their advantage. When you become accustomed to thinking and acting immorally, you set yourself up to be a mark. Nothing is hidden from the unseen. Within those unknown dimensions, actions are recorded and relayed.
+ChiefKeeffiyeh First. Thank you for watching the entire video. A large part of the commentary is me quoting the book so what specific part/timestamp of the video are you referring to that you disagreed with? In the end morals are subjective. But I do not know quite understand your last two sentences.
08:57-09:50…To use friends as scapegoats. That may qualify you to be a "mark" deserving of future retribution. Beyond that, even if one was slick about doing immoral things, for some reason they are never kept hidden. That is because there are unseen dimensions by which info is carried and relayed. This is esoteric information, but i believe to be true by experience and experiment. Think of Karma. Other than that, I've been listening to yr videos. I've read the book and it's good to have it broken down in parts. I appreciate your commentary, but I would dissuade you to use profanity as it may be off-putting to some audiences and may limit your reach. Profanity after all is a sign of hypocrisy. I know that humans are hypocrites, but that shouldn't keep us from striving for flawlessness. Peace and keep up the good work.
+ChiefKeeffiyeh I understand where your coming from now. I agree they are never kept hidden from universal laws and energies. But not everyone believes in these unseen dimensions like you and I do. On the topic of profanity, I don't see myself stopping to use it but instead using it only when I think it's needed to convey my emotion, as I've been doing. I'm not concerned about those who are offended by profanity. I encourage them to go elsewhere if they are. But I don't agree that it's a sign of hypocrisy (with my own values anyway). Words are merely a collection of sounds that we attribute meaning accordingly too. I can't be responsible for someone taking offence to a specific word or phrase I use when everyone attributes their own meaning to it. That may sound strange it's hard to explain in text but it comes from stoicism philosophy.
Not trusting friends isn't to hard for anyone who's been betrayed. The using enemies part is what I have a problem with. Maybe I should ask the stick up men around town to house sit while I'm away. ?
Hey, thank you very much for this awesome series of videos, would it be fine to just see the videos? I mean have you covered every point? Or I should also buy the book for reference? . Thank You again for spending so much time to create such good audio-video book.
Hey Nishit, I think the videos are definitely a good start. (Check out Illacertus for animated ones as well for more). I have not covered every point. There are so many amazing stories and examples that I haven't talked about simply for succinctness. Also Robert is an incredible writer who has a great method of delivering information and telling stories. In short, buy the book and compare it along side the videos. I would do that. (Link in the description if you want it)
It’s just like hiring a friend they’ll only work half ass because they think you won’t fire them, and if you try to get on their ass for not working they get mad at you.....just like loaning money to friends/family.....never works
I'm loving and learning a lot from these vids.Thanks. If I would've paid more attention to, and applied, such things much earlier in life, my life would be much better than it currently is, to say the least. So far however, and especially concerning this vid, I'm feeling that most of the examples and interpretations given illustrating these rules, are extreme ones. Nothing in existence is purely fixed, constant and absolute, apart from the existence of existence itself (and even then are we really sure about that either?) What I mean is, if one was to follow all of these rules in absolute totality, concerning everyone and everything in their lives, they would become something akin to a sociopath, at best. I don't say this to question the validity and usefulness of these rules/tools, far from it, I just believe they, like everything in life, apply to their correct context, time and place.
I love this book; however, I'm going to have to disagree with law 2. This is my least favorite law. My enemies stayed my enemies even after I made an offer for them or tried to make amends, they ended off ruining my career. I have friends since high school who NEVER stabbed me in the back, have a great bond, and we didn't start off as enemies! (I HAVE GREAT JUDGE OF CHARACTER) I refuse to make enemies for they piss me off. My friends and I don't agree with many many many things, but that's what makes it great. We share views and experience and get along GREAT. If you manipulate your friends for your own advantage, you will be a bad mark and will live a lonely life. I had people who tried the same approach of law 2 on me and I didn't buy it for I didn't trust them. I felt like they were trying to exploit me so I pulled a law 16 on them. Granted, I made few friends who were enemies but after a few years they ended up hating me again! My point is to choose your friends wisely!!! I believe this law is for those who makes poor choices of friends.
Its does not mean ditch your friends, it means, do not be surprised if they turn against you. You can't control your friends... but you can control your enemies.
I always look for another ambitious fell that wants to be the man so i can sit back while he battles in the meetings and i just give him a few pointers and draw my pay from “below”. Its nice to have your “boss” eating out of your hand.
disagree with this, no matter how hot you heat water, its always able to put out a flame. you can not rely on enemy. the only benefit of having an enemy is knowing that they exist and not trusting them.
@@YoungDen True. I only control a small group of people for self interest and that was already enough to turn some friends and allies of mine into my enemies. People's envy and jealousy are greater than most people think. Of course, now they are my enemy, I learn how to use them but this game of power can be both addictive and sabotaging to relationships at the same time. If you want to play the good guy all the time, this rule can be difficult to follow.
from what i am gathering the idea of friendship real genuine friendship doesnt exist and being trustworthy having integrity just doesnt really exist all of this takes energy time and calculation to avoid hurt n pain from people to me you must always have ur guard up to some extent i just rather not have any friends or just wont call people friends because the energy it takes to do all these calculations with people seems like a lot
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SEE WHEN YOU ARE IN THE MINDSET THAT WOMEN ARE PART OF A MANS REWARD...THIS GOES FOR BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE...THIS INCLUDES GOTTA WORK BRO MENTALITY...THEN YOU ARE FEEDING INTO THE CONCEPT THAT WOMEN ARE PROPERTY IF YOU WANNA BANG HOS BRING MONEY TOO THE PARTY IF YOU WANT TOO ENTER INTO A MUTUAL BOND OR MUTUAL CONSENTING RELATIONSHIP THEN YOU START AT A LEVEL AND BUILD TOGETHER.
My used to be be best friend is jealous of me anf always have been i find out when we had a blow out that was the end of it.she been doimg alot of baf thimgs to me as well as black magic so you ate right
+ilikejdmcars It's hard to say with fully understanding of your situation. But remember the story of when Ch'ien Shu (a traitor) visited emperor Sung. Sung didn't lock him up. Instead he honored him. He gave him a gift that contained all his murderous conspiracies. Shu realised that Sung knew of his plans yet had spared him nonetheless. This generosity won him over and he become one of Sung's most loyal vassals. You say you want revenge. Im sure a part of Shu did as well. But instead he transformed one of his enemies into a valuable asset. Maybe you can do the same. "You destroy an enemy when you make a friend of him" - Lincoln Or maybe making him a friend is unwise. Maybe you need to destroy him and his reputation. Or maybe ignoring his existence and cutting him out is wiser. Watch the video again and research the law further if your still unsure and need more clarity.
I got into a scuffle with him 2 years ago so I cut him off. We made peace. But now I regret it as he has crossed me again. It's at the point where I am trying to decide should I destroy him completely or just allow him to exist again? Did I mention I have established more powerful connections than he has? Like well I can't really say, but they are armed fellows
+ilikejdmcars If there is strong indicators he may disrespect/cross you again than it may be worth it to send him a message if it doesn't put you in a adverse position. But if you think your conflict with him is over, than save your time, energy, emotion and avoid the repercussions that will occur. Follow up with me once in some once it's settled I'd like to hear what happened.
