‘’Learning to ignore things is one of the greatest paths to inner peace’’. Robert J Sawyer I keep realizing this concept more deeply each day. It’s our reactions to our environment that dictate our emotional/mental state. ‘Things’ can be people, places or situations. Walk away whenever possible if it’s not peaceful. Or look away if the sight is unpleasant. Definitely don’t engage in contentious communications. I’ve also learned the value of, ‘restraint of pen, tongue and send button’. Many people regret saying something and not that many regret saying nothing. Maya Angelou said, ‘people will usually forget what you say, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel’.
you cannot act as if nothing bothers you, because the bother will make u weak and depressed. it has to be natural. and that can only come from overcoming everything and anything.
While there may be situations where maintaining a calm demeanor is beneficial, pretending that nothing bothers you can have negative consequences on mental health and relationships.
That is true. I would apply resiliency by acknowledging my emotions but understand that these emotions do not make up my current identity. By acknowledging my emotions and true identity, I can move on knowing I can do/be better than my mistake.
This is AI. Sounds pretty good but it’s cut up too much and I’ve never heard this speech from Brian Tracy before it’s too cookie-cutter. He does a way better job than this.
The author is not living in that way for sure,or he is the most boring person ever,anybody can come and through their S…on him and he apparently say OK NO PROBLEM,or he is using something quite strong my advice please don’t drive ,you could hurt someone,I don’t believe in answer back or hitting someone,but I am not anymore someone punch bag n any chape or form 😊
I grew up in a very reactive household. It is hard for me to remain calm in a difficult situation because thats not how we do things at home. Its a learning process :)
I want to quit my job to another carreer but I don't have experience..I'm worried if I'll get another one immediately cause I fear getting on overstay(I'm in a foreign country 😢)
@husnahhamisi4488, I feel you. I was also the type of person who feared taking risks. But then felt so bad of my situation and started complaining, but I learned that it was not a good coping mechanism. And lately I started taking action despite the fear and I saw results that i longed for. So what i can advise you is to start looking for job offers on the career path you want to move to, then check what are the requirements in term of experience or education and see if your current level can allow you to apply. In some cases, you can even apply even if you think you don't fulfill all the requirements just as a test. Then you can also decide to take a step further and maybe get the level of education that is needed or another career path that is close to the one of your dream just to get some experience and see how far it takes you even on a personal growth journey. Just like it was stated in the video, sometimes it only takes small steps, on at the time. I wish you the best on your journey. May God bless you.
You can use your first experince to get a better job. It all depends on how you can market yourself in your CV. Work in your CV and dont be afraid of the Job you desire. But if you have to acquire a skill then go for it,it pays at the long run
I dont think this worksin a marriage situation when you never react to the other's pain. it invalidates them and makes them think you don't care. In marriage, vulnerability is essential for true intimacy.
I agree but if you want to survive in some work places, or other situations by choice or necessity it’s a must sometimes or there will be complete alienation. The video makes it sound a little too easy in today’s world (understatement of the year)
@raym…I completely agree with you,you cannot ignore someone that makes your life miserable,or you transform yourself into a bully narcissist or you get out of people that makes your life miserable,I cut ties with my family 18 years ago my life started to make sense no more suicidal thoughts,6 years ago I listened to some people and I let my brother back into my life,them the hell broke loose again,3 years now that I decided that life is only one and I will live well, I am 62 and live start at 60💯🤩
@@raymondrobinson4924 yes i get your point, ive done that before, and it made me very unwell. these days im more authentic, and i am accepted. i stick up for myself, i am not a push over anymore and i dont give a rats ass what anyone says about me. with this new strategy i haven't been bullied at work for the last 2 years
@@feubalde1215 You ever fought in a war? Worked a pandemic? Treated a brother dying of a gun shot dying in your arms? Ever have a mother give you her dead toddler to resuscitate? I have. You underestimate the situational factors that affect even the strongest minds. I've been through all this and more, Ill have nightmares for the rest of my life, not bc I'm weak bc I am human. It is not about "strong" it's about resilience and grit + courage to uphold what you value despite the surroundings. If you 've experienced any of these situations you wouldn't be quick to say, "if you have strong mind you can handle anything" that's toxic masculinity syndrome. There difference is watching the game on TV or playing 4 quarters, get some reps in.
Only if a good amount of folks do what you teach, just imagine how many millionaires we already have or will have in the future. I have been looking at similar opportunities. As Warren Buffet noted, he has witnessed this occur frequently. Never did my husband and I make more money than others in the middle class. With a $250k stock portfolio, we intend to retire at age 58. Never have we ever sold even one share of stock.
❤ If you want to act like nothing bothers you, start by mastering your reactions. When something annoys you, take a deep breath and keep a calm face. Don’t let small stuff shake your confidence. The more you practice staying cool, the more people will see you as strong and unbothered. Remember, your peace of mind is your superpower.
Great video thanks. "Acting" as if nothing bothers you seems fake. Why not "genuinely" not let things bother you instead? Then there is less need to "act". A useful approach is to become aware that we are not our thoughts. The moment we do this it creates the "space" we need to choose and decide whether or not to "swipe left" on the movie trailer(our thoughts), or change the channel on any thought that enters our awareness. Once we "unlearn" all the supposed societal truths and empty our ego's we no longer "label" or fight any thoughts but instead let them arise, accept them, and then let them go. P.S. I do agree smiling alone does help make us happy even though this seems fake. Good luck to all.
@@thandosdance1504you are so welcome. You will do it! It is not easy but it is simple right? De-conditioning our thoughts to the present moment via focus on our breathing. Once we catch our thoughts taking us on a ride and become aware of it....the lightbulb goes off then we do it more and more until eventually we are truly "here" and now vs. in our future or past thoughts. Liberating for sure!
Nothing really brothers me anyway and I mean everything and anything too I am going to use that to separate myself from everybody and anybody too and I mean everybody and anybody too
I like your suggestion to give your self time and plan your goals and do your best and look for new opportunites balance work and home life very inspiring tips thank you so much 😊
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