Once You Learn These Life Lessons, You Will Never Be The Same (Advice From Old People) 

I've learned ,n it's a lesson well takin in

Very true, especially if you're a man. Any sign of weakness and you will be disrespected and used.

That's a stupid bit of advice.

I learned that the hard way with my ex wife

Indeed. I’ve learned my lesson to this.

Truth, 100%

Misery loves company. I won’t enable bad habits in others & have had to cut people lose who only wanted sympathy & validation of their weakness.

Well said 🥀

When it is your DIL that's when you can lose a son.

Love the one (work at your job to make a living; work on yourself and make a fortune)...WOW that is profound and so true cause at the end you only can count on a loving, fresh, well educate on life, yourself. Big hug and happiness everybody...

So true 😢that’s why starting this week I’m letting it all go. And start fresh.

Ouch. That one hit hard. Thanks 🕉

And remember not to depend too much on them lol. 00:29 Nevermind that interdependence is innate to us. No one is independent.

And sadly you might become one of them😳

Also , it can be very difficult to free yourself from despicable "human parasites" who play the sympathy card because they know that you are known to be a " soft touch" as I have always been. I have been drained of emotional and physical energy many times in my life . However I have only realised it fully in recent months . However , it was something that I had to realise for myself and to learn not to feel guilty if I say " No more." I finally asked God , through prayer to help me to recognise those truly in need of my help , both spiritually and physically . I finally realised that my own wisdom was sadly lacking and that I actually needed help myself . Last week , God opened my spiritual eyes and helped me to cut away from a "human leech" whom I have known for quite a few years and the release I feel is enormous . He soon latched onto someone else , who will probably no doubt have to come to realise for themselves . It's a very difficult journey before reaching that stage though. James 1 : 5 "If any one of you is lacking in wisdom , let him keep asking God , for he gives generously to all and without reproaching , and it will begiven him." While I try to do as Jesus taught and help others , I now know that there has to be a demarcation line to distinguish the genuine ones ... just as Jesus filters our prayers to God , so that some people cannot attempt to take advantage of his undeserved loving kindness . Prayer is a huge privilege which only exists because of Jesus died for our sins and bearing our shame , and to bring us closer to God in our daily lives . 🤍

It is Morgan Freeman.

true!, thanks for sharing

One I remember on health is: "Healthy people have many dreams. Sick people only have one dream. "

Goes for both physical and mental health. Both has to be cured. Nowadays people don't want others to give them advice about bad habits or unmoral living. They want to pretend all is good on their end and becomes agitated if anyone referring to their dark side.

True!

..."to everyone" (instead of 'anyone'😉) is the small correction😊🙋🏼‍♀️🌞

I need to learn this

Yes. Venting is a bad defence mechanism. Grandma Gai

so well said the the a.i even said it twice in a ten seconds span.. you guys are the true bots.

Can someone write it out as a list?

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Suzanne Ann Walters

You wont regret it

Yes amen!!!

Give and take is the yin and yang or cement of Human partnerships. Understanding is what the Yin and Yang of life pivot around.

Blaa blaa blaa. narrow style of thinking, world is your oyster. All are your brothers and sisters

How do you cut off that toxic small circle

@jps8678 Concentrate on your own life and let others live their lives. You can't be this naive. With your blaaa sarcasm, you'll be used by cunning individuals.

@@laken1804 Live like you want to. If you like to live in Plato's gave. Same to me.

Lol you've met shallow people ​@@jps8678

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Time heals tho it works both ways ! Leave gracefully and achieve

@@_Lazare Nope. Time heals only what can be healed. Some things can't.

@@VB-lc4xz I won't argued that 👍

Narcissist is my ex wife

👍🏽Awesome. You moved with focused intent and with a clear end goal. Good for you. That’s admirable and I respect you for not just half stepping or talking about what you wanted to do. Might be cliche but it’s true. Just do it. And you did.

There's nothing worse than being pushed into a corner for years and left there after the same person who pushed you there doesn't want or feels your need for them to follow through and lend you their hand in pulling you back out.

Gave my everything….received nothing. Live and learn! 😊❤️🙏🏼

Happens too most of us. You've learned an important lesson. Me too 😊

I have someone like that, stalking and harrassing me and my family because I told her a few home truths and dumped her. Nobody dunps her and gets away with it😂. Every single time, I phone the police and I firmly intend to keep going until she is charged. She has complaints the length of my arm now. I will never move, change number or anything else for a frienemy. I told the police if they dont do sonething with her, I will take the law into my own hands myself and not even her kids will recognise her. Im done with abuse.

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Exactly 💯💯💯 They the wrong people aren't worth the time

Never try to please and try to hard on your first date or with anyone new in your life... be yourself and you choose them IF you feel o.k. with him, you make the choice NOT him. PERIOD

Long ago, my Dad cautioned me. It's inaccurate, unreliable, to guess and assign what we PERCIEVE Another's feelings or motivation to be. It seems to me, the more tragic, to make severing decisions on a mistaken impression 😂❤❤❤

Wise words. Godbless you and thank you.

I don't know if it would help. These have to be learned the hard way.

Me too I had to learn the hard way

Me too, must be something about 77

I'm 54 and still learning

and how do you know they're trustworthy

@@42smash36 If you don't know, then they are not. Use the force my young Padawan.

Your mother teaches you well.🤍

Great motherly advice ❤

Your Mom, wisely speaks truth and you are wise in heeding it ✝️❤️

In other terms Unless they are potentially harmful, only say to someone, face2face, what you think of them,.

❤❤❤

Are u bi?

Takes a long time to plan an exit strategy and pull apart. In 2004, I decided to leave my partner. He had no idea of my decision. I kept it between me and my therapist. About nine months later, I left. No regrets whatsoever. I’m now married. It’s not perfect, but relationships never are. Still, though, the good far outweighs the bad.

I thought I knew my spouse until I realised all his lies... he even lies for something so trivial, so what is not a lie? Four years single now, my heart has no regret.

Well done you, good luck going forward

Correct

That's what friends are for . Not others .. friends

@@Burdello82admitit friends may likely not be one's therapist and may not have skills nor knowledge to actually provide that emotional support or guidance when needed

@@Selfloveyoga1111 Venting to friends is a stand out a lending ear , compared to Venting to others.... who need not be a therapist but are needed to be there just a freind .. yadi yada.. +++

I've always lived by that. Your own counsel is the best counsel. Besides nobody listens nowadays anyway. Can't get a word in edgeways...so full of themselves. Of course there were always people inclined to be like that but now it's everywhere.

If your not prepared to make reparation, how can you accept your own forgiveness

Just checked your channel garageman brutal training keep it up grandpa💪

I started doing CrossFit at 41 years old 2 months ago. My life took a strong turn and I feel better in every aspect of my life. I still need to work in being more responsible towards my family (mother, brother, father) and trying to spend more time with them really. 20 years ago I left my home in the search for a better life 4000+km away from them, I was just a kid still and I learned all what this video says by myself the hard way....but I don't feel sorry for nothing and the best it yet to come since I opened my eyes so much in this world and truly learned what matters most.....is the family.🤍💪

Absolutely. I'm also 53. Just did my 100th 1/2 marathon. Same fitness as my 30s and 40s. It's just eating the right things and keeping busy.

And you prove it on your channel garageman subbed👊

Consider yourself a late bloomer but not too old. I am 64, it takes more weight & reps to build muscle after 60, plus it is more difficult to get motivated to work out.

Well said, Tim.

Thanks Tim, your words make me feel alright and strong 😊

This is your advice and how you feel through hindsight as it's always 20/20. I'd rather hear the mistakes you made and how you overcame them and the history surrounding where you grew up to better understand why you made said choices. The cave I fear to enter does not hold anything I want. It is wholly evil and to enter it is to forever alter myself in ways I can never come back from. You cannot unpickle a pickle. I get you're 68, but before you dole out advice, please, realize who you are giving what advice to.

@ccoonansr I guess I could tell you about my recovery from alcoholism (1988)and my 35 year marriage to my sweet wife. The loss of my business during the financial crisis of 2009 and losing almost everything. Going on the road for almost a year working in a city 250 miles from my family to support them but in 2016 buying our first property after renting for 40 years. How we are nearing completion of our mountain lodge style cabin to retire to built with our own hands completely debt free. It will all be in the book! Ha! (When I have some free time!)

@@timcisneros1351 Now THAT sounds like an epic read. If you do in fact write a book, I will be happy to read it.

That’s why it’s wise to lower them.

There's a scripture that says..." expectation postponed makes the heart sick". Amazing

Ya my hearts been broke about 10 times...

@@donrios3728 Just take notes and learn from the experience so you can break the cycle! There’s always hope my friend and it starts from within.👍🏾

@@andreaholmes180 👍🏾🙏🏾

But then you would not have been a youth perhaps?

@@adamfreeman2348 However it would have saved me a bit of heartache!

@@adamfreeman2348 So true. Youth is for making errors and learning fast and hard to recover from them and avoid those traps.

@@adamfreeman2348 Precisely!!! We should all enjoy our childhoods..

Don’t we all but , that is called growing .

Learned that the toughest way😢

Almost or too late sometimes.

@@jaysfacts3842 Me Too

I think that hit a lot of people hard.

Dont worry about it. They weren't meant for you

@tracyurueta7611 Your comment is the best one I read here. . acknowledging that we get treated the way we allow others to treat us. I too have no time for that nonsense nor them anymore

Well said.

Love this one. Tit for tat

BUT U MUST GET EVEN, THAN BURN THE BRIGE

I don't give airtime to hyperventilating people!

The God who doesn't give a fuck.

Amen

@@wickhunter7733 100% agree I don't think god's priority at this moment in time is to monitor who is pleasing him or not. He must have the most beautiful wife or wives in the universe and he is supposed to be looking at us anxiously and write what he sees, to judge us in decades, instead of having a good time with his partners?

Beware of naked flames (Especially naked old flames). (not mine, probably an old fax joke... ok yes I'm that old)

Nicely said 🌺

Ughhhh I got burned twice by the same jerk. Yea I know, my fault🙄 My fault for trusting, helping, 2nd chance, etc...🙄

Amen to this powerful quote

Exactly!

Sometimes people don't hear until they have made the mistake. It's OK. Everyone learns by their own terms. ❤

Young people wouldn’t listen. They already know everything … 😂

@@ma3stro681 young people don't want to be around cynical old people.

Sadly we only learn through our own mistakes

But we are the best ❤❤❤❤

Thank you, I pray you receive God's divine favor, divine preservation & abundant life in the name of Jesus Christ.

Thank you! Many blessings to you 🙏🙏🙏

Looks like your invisible friend doesn’t love the Palestinians trapped in Gaza. I guess they don’t deserve this kind of “love”.

Blessings

@@gwarlow I don't listen to the media or news to know what is going on the world, I cast all care unto God.

Oh

Really?

Maybe the "former friend" was genuinely concerned about your well-being...

Oh

@primroselim6897,are u codependent? *No, if she had been genuinely concerned about my well-being:* 1) She wouldn't have treated me so badly for so long that I had to end a 30 year relationship that had meant a lot to me. The last few years, she made my life heII. I held on to hope she'd change until it was unbearable. 2) She would have personally DRIVEN the 45 minutes to my house to check on me. She has my house key. 3) She wouldn't have waited A MONTH to "check" on me. She knew she effed up and was being a drama queen.

I loved that one.

Yes Patience is a virtue Good times are just around the corner

Amen❤

Exactly, it is tomorrow

I wish that were true, but I doubt it.

Remember to take oxygen mask first for yourself. After that you can help others.

I love that. Thanks. :)

Just be yourself? But most people are naturally dicks!

What do U mean

It depends, if someone is actually working or taking care of a child, they won't have time on your every whim at least. It is also important not to expect too much of others and respect that they need time to rest and other things in their lifes.

Share with preparation that brings balance... Equal work , Equal play , E Qulity

What they're REALLY saying is "my agenda is the important one, not you" EVEN IF you're doing a task for them, and/or you're half way through an agreement, and didn't need to be ghosted by the very person you're doing the favor FOR! This happens too often today. No excuses.

Too busy like right now . Depends on the circumstances. Usually ample timing and communication makes anyone pre emptive !

@@Burdello82admitit that's the excuse AFTER being ghosted for two months as well!! What scares me is these are not tweens shovelling that crap. these are people my age down to 30 that have ZERO life experience or really bad work habits.

Why should we fear the Lord ???

@@treystephens6166 Proverbs 9 :10-12 Because no one else has the power to punish you for all eternity

That's one of my favorite quotes n So True

Judge Judy always says this😊

God bless you and your family 🙏

Psalm 37:25 Neither in my youth, nor now in old age have I ever seen the just abandoned or their children begging bread.

jeezus doesn't exist! It's just a made up story. Read a science book. Evolution. Your great grandfather 185 billion generations ago was a fish!

It was nice reading your post man. Keep up the good work

PRAISE JESUS for your Faith..JESUS IS FAITHFUL TO MEET ALL YOUR NEEDS!!

I also noticed it immediately.

Your use of capital letters is so powerful🤣🤣🤣

@@vericacvetkovic9093 That's because you're very special, I noticed that about you, although not immediately.

What if i really like boats?

@@adelhartreisig9020 (and loud) q8)

see that cliff over there? heard it's a quick one, you've never done it

@@42smash36 Are you suggesting to, jump?

and yet Soooooooooooooooooooooooo many exceptions to the rule.

Someone needs to teach the parents first. Too many parents don't live by this either.

Imagine your only child doing that after a lifetime of sacrifice for their wellbeing. I finally learned to walk away.

@@Nanasfsw it’s sad. But sometimes parents are also toxic in many ways during the upbringing of the child so when the child grows up he or she feels resentful and hurt. Of course this is not in every situation and a grown up child can also be influenced by others and turn against their parents.

@@krishnagondhea7428 I know. I was overprotective, but we had a great relationship until she met her husband. For 18 years she’s been using the grandchildren as weapons. I definitely feel it’s her husband egging her on. I honestly have PTSD from this. I’ve overlooked so many hurtful things just to keep the peace. I lost my peace.

Exactly right 💯%. and the most important thing is keeping in contact with your family as much as you can..... when they are gone is when you realize how much they meant to you.🤍

Beware, a pearl is often just an irritant caked in calcium. (That ones me... so it itself may be one of those 'Pearls')

Keep on living in the clouds. It seems to be working for you. 😊

Reported you for false information and offensive content

Please advise what was false and offensive? Listen to the clip and hear what was posted was quoted .Thanks

thank you for your sharing!

"Galileo was basically run out of town from the University of Pisa because his mechanistic philosophy contradicted the Aristotelian ‘commonsense’ of the time. Darwin, whose theory of evolution by natural selection was assailed by numerous critics as an assault on the ‘commonsensical’ idea that humans are unique, divine creations. Einstein, whose theory of relativity was mocked by a number of eminent scientists-most famously Philip Lenard-for flouting the “simple, sound common sense” that space and time must be absolute. Question everything, if your lucky, you might be wrong! My dad basically said to me "This is MY garage.... Try not to break things". So I was using a lathe unsupervised as a 10yo... I bet no parent would do that today.. I fear what those kids will grow up to be like tomorrow... (You can quote me on that one but "The Butler" may not stick it out historically... ) q8)

Good comment. Especially in a world where more and more of us fall are prone to misinformation, because something is "just common sense".

Wise words🤍

Really If you love someone you should want them happy no matter where the joy comes from. I want those i love to love others and i want others to love them too. True love is NOT selfish. Why would anyone want someone who does not love others?

I think it regards to a husband

Why would you see that ? Why would you be in contact or near them to see that happen ? Cut off all connections, finish, gone, over !!!

Don't judge. Love comes differently everytime forr each one of us.

@@Shirley-ov1qs oh hard to watch someone cheat on you. Oh well never mind no im not watching that so i left. I guess im different even then i wanted him happy. So i bowed out. After over twenty five years l have not seen him I still love him still married to him. She died he is in a nursing home. I am retired i travel love on my grandchildren and make pretty wreaths, baskets and artwork. I am loving my life. I don’t believe in divorce so…🤷🏽‍♀️😁

Very well said 🥀

Best one❤

I'm generous with my time. and ecstatic when someone appreciates it. I guess it's just me.

Great way to create a lonely planet where neighbors don't know neighbors. A society where individuals turn to government for help.

@@AmeriGlobalTrue. We need self respect and not self importance.. The planet is already lonely even with 7 billion people. 😮😢

Well, I disagree with that one!

@@marym.338it depends. Playing is Safe while driving is good.

@@treystephens6166 For sure, as in other areas as well!

@@treystephens6166 and other areas as well!

@@Soxfandan don't think so

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Perhaps at 0.75 playback.

Yet it may not be

Guess so too... I like the voice.

It is...

💯 % ....👍

She's so lucky

thanks for your sharing!

Yep

Sounds like him but may not be. Sounds lovely to listen to . 🌱

They already know they "suck" . You cutting them off silently shows them how you are a way better person than them and an educated one as well. There is no better honor than knowing to separate yourself from bad companies and avoid trouble without actually showing off......real men usually stay silent when the fools try to impress by over talking everything and everyone.

There is great wisdom and understanding in this statement Robert It strikes a cord in my soul thank you for sharing that

In times of darkness I know that I will always be there for me.

@@TheButlerNZ I would suggest you have not experienced true darkness. Not even close.

@@Robert-xs2mv Possibly because I have learnt by personal and others experiences... I live a good life.

@@TheButlerNZ I doubt that very much. I to live a good life, and my experiences definitely included me leaving myself for my shadow. How I managed to get through those times still mesmerises me. Have I learned anything, only my next dark shadowy period will tell. I might have become far stronger, but so has my shadow become far darker.

Where is all these friendly folks at. You must live in a different dimension.

​@@ahhwe-any7434And you must live surrounded by the wrong "friends". There are good people if you know how to open your heart toward others......if you think that such people don't exist in your "dimension" you must live in the wrong one my friend. To receive love and friendship you need to be able to offer the same first.

Change your thoughts and you'll be ok

With friends like those people who needs enemies

They aren't very good friends, with " friends" like those who needs enemies

I don't necessarily agree with that quote- there are times that unburdening oneself brings relief - to one's heart and mind. And when it's shared with the right person, brings comfort. One can't know what another suffers unless it's shared sometimes.