Learn to trust again (recover from hyper-independence)

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In this video I'm sharing a little example from my own life and how it reminded me to soften and receive support and other good things. If you're so used to handling things on your own, you may sometimes forget that it's ok to let others in and support you. In our day and age many of us have become so hyper-independent - including me - I used to be like that as well, until I realized it's not natural and it doesn't do me any good. We're humans and need and deserve connection, support and love. So I'm hoping to inspire you today with my little story to allow yourself to soften and learn to trust others a little more again. :)
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With love, Vanessa.
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Hey there, I'm Vanessa. Welcome to my corner of the internet. I'm a somatic therapist, breathwork teacher and sound healer. I have a deep desire to help people discover and accept who they are at the core, own their gifts and learn to thrive in their unique way.
I realized I have so many thoughts when I'm taking my daily walks and I love sharing them, so here we are. Come along on my vlogging journey, take what resonates and leave the rest for someone else.
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28 июн 2024

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@habibbdvs 7 дней назад

Thank you for sharing your journey with vulnerability and learning to receive support. It's a powerful reminder to embrace trust and allow others to hold space for us. Beautifully expressed!

@VanessaNaumann27 6 дней назад

Thank you for sharing, @habibbdvs. I'm glad it resonates. All the best for you.

@audy2174 7 дней назад

Haha, I was triggered from the title alone. Hearing you express your experience at the yoga place though, it opened my eyes that the reason I was triggered was because I was using past memories and past experiences that contained painful situations of people who were not the right matches for me -- and your story illustrated for me the possibility that there are people who can be the right match, who can give that safety that I need in order to receive. Thank you for that hope and perspective!

@VanessaNaumann27 6 дней назад

@audy2174 thank you for sharing so vulnerably. I get that this can feel triggering, I've had moments of that as well and I love the reframe/conclusion you shared - there are definitely people out there that are a match for you and that are capable to hold you even though you had the opposite experience. I didn't believe that for a long time until I allowed myself to open to the possibility bit by bit. And also, it's ok to be picky :) trust your intuition. Wishing you all the best.

@aapaap2943 8 дней назад

I think it's a beautiful video, thank you for the insightful message. One thing that I personally find difficult is when people tell you to let go of past experiences by realising it wasn't your fault. Isn't something that happens to you always partly "your fault"? Not in the sense that you were the sole cause but nothing in this world happens in isolation right?

@VanessaNaumann27 8 дней назад

Hi Aapa, thanks for sharing. The part about "it wasn't your fault" I relate specifically to things we experience as children. I don't believe it's a child's fault when you are treated in a disrespectful way and take away pain and self-limiting beliefs. However as adults, we do have the power to reflect and process our wounds and held emotions around these issues - and are able to take self-responsibility to change our behaviour to not harm ourselves and others. I don't believe in simply "letting go", that happens rarely without emotionally and mentally processing and could lead to bypassing which isn't solving any of our problems. Thanks for pointing out your perspective, I fully agree and it gave me the possibility to make my point clearer. :)

@aapaap2943 8 дней назад

@@VanessaNaumann27 Thank you, I resonate a lot with this

@posthardcoresinger 6 дней назад

I think learning to do that can add a ton of meaning and calm to your life, or at least it sounds like a nice idea. It's a bizarre concept for men though. I think independence comes more naturally to men or maybe is beaten into us, little bit of both. I think that stress which basically just builds and builds unless you try to cope and run away from it (which ironically only adds more long term spiritual suffering) might have something to do with why we don't live as long. Funny you mention parents using you as a translator lol, I was not an immigrant but my parents were deaf and needed me to help communicate with hearing people a lot.

@VanessaNaumann27 6 дней назад

@posthardcoresinger thanks for sharing. Accumulating stress in your system is definitely impacting our health and no matter what gender you identify with, we all carry conditioning that may create stress within us. Independence is a great quality and learning to trust others to support you can help reduce stress. Men I've worked with often shared with me that taking help or asking for support would make them feel weak until they learned that being vulnerable is ok and welcomed. Thanks also for sharing your story about your parents, I can image that may have felt challenging to help communicate for the 3 of you at a young age. But I bet you also learned a ton. The immigrant example isn't personal but I have friends and clients that went through this and it impacted them. Wishing you all the best.

@kultigin4208 6 дней назад

Then, that person betrays or ignores you... An eternal cycle.

@VanessaNaumann27 6 дней назад

@kultigin4208 I know it can feel daunting to give people a chance and learn to trust again. I get that you may feel anger and pain and that's valid. From my experience, it all starts with processing the pain we carry so we understand what we deserve and can make choices that benefit ourselves and say no to people that don't treat us with respect and love. There was a time in my life when I wasn't at all aware of what I deserved and I felt at the mercy of people's behaviour - and I did feel rejected and betrayed, ghosted, all of that. I started looking at my life, the narratives I told myself and the emotional wounds that I carried from growing up. And once I understood why I attracted certain patterns of people into my life again and again, I started feeling empowered - because suddenly I saw that I could set boundaries, say no to certain behaviours that felt disrespectful to me and started to give myself the love and attention I was seeking from others. This meant being alone for a while but to take care of myself first. When we grow up a certain way, we may not learn how people behave that are actually loving and have your best interest. This all may sound triggering to you but I only share what works for me and my clients - and that is taking your life into your hands, allow yourself to grief, look deep inside and learn to understand that you deserve better but in order to learn to read people and their behaviours more clearly, you got to see yourself clearly first, understand your core needs and practice meeting them. I recommend working with a seasoned practitioner on this. Don't give up, sending you all the best.