Yes, part 2 please. I am just starting to accept that my obesity is because of emotional eating. I am just starting to make my emotions, and will try journaling.
❤ Carla, you have given me the perfect tools for my current life situation. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in Dec 2023, had surgery this January and is now in chemo for 6 months. I am his 24/7 caregiver. I recently have been triggered from the lack of safety and uncertainty and realized it stemmed back to my childhood. I have been having so many cravings which felt odd after having the strength to lose 80 lbs so far. Life's twists and turns are always happening. I'm starting therapy again this week. Thank you again for all your helpful mental health tips ❤😊
If you have cravings it could be because the body doesn't get enough vitamins or minerals. You're not what you eat you're what your body manages to ultimately absorb. Which is why when you're losing weight it's extra important to eat less but *healthy*, by which I don't mean veganism or other extreme idea, but simply various types of meat, fruits, fish and juices so that your body can pick what it needs, not what you think it needs. And based on how the cravings evolve make proper conclusions. By which I mean cravings might not be 100% emotional, partly it could be because the body lacks something and is trying to tell. Just my 0.04$ (0.04 because of inflation).
@@georgecarlin2656 Really good , wise advice. I'd also reccomend, in addition to that varied, healthy diet....a good , food-based multivitamin, and if the person is into herbs, herbal infusions which are very nutritious and have minerals, such as nettles infusion, oatstraw infusion, red rasberry leaf, etc.
I am not far into the video, but I’m on my way to losing 100 lbs and using RU-vid as a tool to keep my reasons top of mind. I tend to start really strong, feel better, and the goal stops feeling as urgent until I backslide. This is the first time one of your videos popped up for me and I’m glad it did! Just wanted to add that I was in a bit of an anxious mood and your voice knocked me right out of it. It’s so pleasant ❤
Just please try not to do the classic mistake of losing weight too fast so that you don't end up with lots of skin. Afaik the idea is that the body gets rid of extra skin naturally if it has enough time to do so. I also have a weight issue but only with 10 extra lbs so I'm more lucky (or maybe not).
The concept of getting "comfortable with discomfort" has been placed in front of me repeatedly over the last months. It makes a lot of sense and what you said here, Carla, struck a big nerve. I'm feeling a fair amount of anxiety after listening to you, which tells me this is something I need to explore in myself. Thank you for your content, and, yes, please continue this series.
❤ It is like you are reading my mind. I can relate with food choices, drinking wine or shopping. Thanks so much Carla, I'm at the end of my 1st BS journey and am about a third of the way through to reaching my D2D target. Your weekly seminars have helped SO much to contextualise Ger's weekly lecture. I am very grateful to you for being so generous with sharing your journey ❤❤❤
I have issues because I'm a binger with no trigger, no trauma. I just like the taste, since I was very little (age 5 maybe? I don't even remember tbh) I've had issues. I'm not numbing anything. I have lost 60 lbs I have to lose like 120 more.. I'm in the middle. I know I can do it. I still struggle though. Its day by day. Week by week Like a drug addict. Only drugs addicts don't need the drugs to live longterm. But we need food. ❤
You CAN do it ! You are 1/3 of the way there, this is wonderful ! Keep going , slow and steady wins the race. Carla had some good vids on "the messy middle"....you will get through it.
💓ways to deal with discomfort:.....remind self that it is only temporary.....take a walk, especially in Nature.....hug yourself, rock yourself ......hug a teddy bear or other stuffed animal, or a pillow, it may sound weird for adults ,but is very effective! ( learned this from a friend who led self-help groups online during early pandemic, to combat isolation!)......yogic breathing...take a nap......write about it, venting is ok......sing!...play an instrument or your fave music recording....make a cup of herbal tea and sip slowly....meditate......dance out your feelings.
❤ I discovered you just a few months ago and it couldn't have come at a better time. I really struggle with living with the "uncomfortable" and despite loads of therapy and self help, I continue to reach for food (or spend money) so that I don't have to feel. You are so very helpful for me, thank you. I'd love a part 2!
This came at just the right time. I was triggered yesterday from work stress and made a knee-jerk reaction reaching for food. I refuse to punish myself for it but i can acknowledge i fell short and try to do better today. Thank you for bringing mindfulness into the conversation because it feels so hard to ground one's self in those triggering moments but i will make a point to be more aware in those moments. ❤❤
I know exactly what my discomfort is-a feeling of constant overwhelm in my adulthood due to military moves and always uprooting my life, trying to settle back down at our next home, and not having enough time to settle before real life sets in and I can’t get down the things that would make me feel like our house is a home. So I have daily messes around me AND moving-in messes that take lower priority but cause the daily messes to be worse. It’s easier to sit and eat/soothe.
My mind right now, is saying it's Saturday, you've done well all week.... Time to treat yourself! It wants double chocolate zucchini muffins! 😢, I'm gonna try my best too fight this feeling... And tell myself NO!
How about finding another way to treat youself? I'm currently working on developing new habits, and I've found that it's hard to restrain if I don't have something that gives me a similar feeling. I'm trying integrating hobbies to reach for when I'm bored instead of food
❤ Thank you for your insight and providing those needed details such as the steps for some simple grounding or the way you can utilize journaling to become more aware of the underlying thoughts, feelings, and needs. I love this so much! You are doing great work to help others.
I had a great deal of discomfort during my weight loss phase in 2017 & 2018. Now that I am in my maintenance phase, I still have discomfort because I have to keep up with my lifestyle changes. This discomfort however is waaaay less than the discomfort and pain that I experienced with my life long struggles with obesity. I'll gladly choose my current discomforts over my pre-2017 discomforts. ❤😊
Carla, I appreciate you and this video so much! Lots of love to you, currently on a journey of holding my own hand through the discomforts of losing weight, and I'm starting to understand it so much more holistically. Thank you!
❤️thank you Carla! As a Christian, I try to pray on my troubles what ever they may be. Depending on what stresses I am dealing with, I will try and talk about it with my husband. Talking through stuff can be so helpful.
Yaaaay 100k subs 🎉 congrats Carla! Well deserved absolutely love your content! I definitely identify with using food to escape feelings and situations, sometimes focusing so much on needing getting and eating food I wouldn’t even notice or have to acknowledge anything had triggered or upset me. watching your videos has really helped me to start recognising this and how much might be buried under the food issues. So I contacted a therapist today to book my first session 😊 thank you so much for your videos. Lots of love from a Corkonian ❤ xx
🖤💜🖤💜🖤part two pretty please!!! This video was EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now dealing with massive weight gain caused by me coping with food and not addressing my stressors.
❤ yes carla to this I live in Dublin and mine is missing home and family so i comfort eat 😢 i want to get healthy for my girls im glad i found your videos xx
I am so happy I found this channel, your kindness shows ! As someone who struggled with anorexia, during 15 years , what you say resonates so much and I have tried my best to heal from traumas and toxicity, not listen to this mean voice in my head, and stop being so harsh on myself but It is an every second job, somehow... The healing journey takes time, journaling helps me too, mindfulness and mantras. Thank you
💕 Thank you Carla. Honestly I'm learning self compassion and to deal with my underlying trauma from your videos. I'm grateful for your content and your bravery to share your experiences. You're doing great, please keep it up. 💕
❤Carla, you continue to be a shining light leading me through the challenging task of working through those things that no longer serve me, so I can achieve and maintain weight loss. Thank you for being the real deal in all of this and for sharing so openly❤
Carla, this was so beautifully said. The interesting thing is that sometimes we'll get defensive about our negative self-beliefs when questioned about them. We'll dig in our heels and insist that we "believe them because they're true!" when actually they're not true at all. They're just opinions, and destructive ones at that. I've found it so helpful to cut out a lot of negative content/books/people and switch to more uplifting and encouraging ones, which eventually helped me build a different and more positive world view in my head.
I have been following you for years and adore you :) I'm curious if you have any videos talking about regain that I may have missed? I guess my question is what would you consider to be Regain (I don't mean when you are pregnant) And then how you dealt with it?. I'm getting close to my goal. Weight and regain is on my mind even if it's just 5, 10 lb. I'm curious
Dear Carla, I am worried, because you look strained in this video. Hopefully you are just a bit tired. If you are unwell or in a bad place at the moment, I wish you all the best and a better time soon! You are very nice and very kind and deserve a good life! May there always be someone for you, the way you are there for us! 😘
🖤❤🖤 I know this probably isn't the kind of comment you were looking for on this video, but a couple of things occurred to me whilst listening to this chat. I'm not in a place where I have to worry about the 'getting comfortable with discomfort' part of weight-loss, but I was having a rather wildly manic moment in the kitchen earlier, where I started ranting on to my other half about something political or social that was annoying the bejeezus out of me, and the poor guy was just sat listening to me, trying to follow the twists and turns of my long, rambling, diatribe (If you think my comments are ridiculously long, you should hear the absolute whackadoodle level of nonsense-mongering that comes out of my mouth during a rant, lol!) And then he asked me if I'd taken one of my meds that is supposed to bring down levels of noradrenaline and cortisol in my brain (because apparently my brain likes to think it can stay awake for days on end, trying to figure out the meaning of the universe, lol). I hadn't and I realise that as probably largely to blame for my very hyper state. So I took my tablet, and then clicked RU-vid on and saw this video. And I know it wasn't aimed at me or my particular situation, but the things you were saying, a few of them really resonated with me in the moment. That need to get ahold of what was getting me all angsty, deciding whether it was worth worrying about, and instead putting it to bed. The parts about grounding myself were perfect. I've been told to try that before but forgot all about it, so as I was listening to you, I went through that process of focusing on my foot, working my way through all my toes, paying attention to my arches, my heels, the way my cool floor made my foot feel....and it really worked to get me to stop letting my thoughts get away from me, instead getting me to take a deep breath, ground myself, let go of whatever it was I was all worked up about, and become calmer, before that medication even had time to help calm down my poor hyperactive brain. And I tell you all this, because it occurred to me as I was listening to you speak, that whilst the information and advice you were giving were both solid and helpful in the moment, your voice was also very soothing and pleasant to listen to. Your intonation, cadence and warmth make for a very gentle yet authoritative (and I mean that in the way that you're speaking from a history of having personally engaged with the advice you were giving - not that you were coming off like Mussolini, lol!) fashion. And I know that you have your career right now and however you choose to move forward in that is going to be exactly right for you when you choose it. But if you ever come to a point where you think you might want to go do something else, a career in counselling or as a psychologist, might just be something you'd fancy doing, one distant day in the future. Because you have a very natural way of calming the listener, keeping them engaged, and making us feel as though you're coming at this all from a place of true care and compassion. No I'm not telling you to quit your RU-vid career and suddenly go off and do something else. But you really are good at connecting to your audience when you have these calm, one-to-one, helpful and informative chats. I just think that you have a gift for speaking to people and making people feel like they're being spoken to by someone who isn't just reeling off a list of ideas, you project real understanding, self-awareness, and communicate in a way that not a lot of people are able to do. But you're a natural. So if you ever thought of getting into any aspect of the mental health field, one day long in the future, I think you'd be brilliant at it. Sorry for taking the conversation off in a random direction, but I just had to say so. Hope you don't mind or think I'm overstepping the mark by suggesting any of this. Have a lovely Thursday Bex 🖤❤🖤 P.S. Yes absolutely to a Part 2. And also, congratulations on the well deserved 100,000 subscribers! 🖤🥳
Hello Carla, i have a question. it seems that my perception of my appearance is distorded, in my mind im so obese that im afraid to get stuck in doorways. according to my family that is not the case.. dont get me wrong, im fat but according to others not that fat. how do i get a true picture of my self in my own mind?
❤ thank you very much, Carla. Every evening before going to bed I feel me very anxious. I am afraid that I will nog sleep well and have very bad day tomorrow. I am reaching voor food each evening to numb my anxiety.
My go to tool for dealing with discomfort, stress and difficult emotions is EFT tapping! I've been practicing it for many years now. The tapping itself is easy to learn and it can be really helpful once you learn how to use it in the best way that suits you it's even more effective. For me it works well for regulating my nervous system, developing self compassion/understanding, inner child healing, breaking internal patterns, to release stuck or be present with emotions (especially the very uncomfortable and painful ones), grounding myself in my body etc. I have CPTSD and my emotional eating stems from childhood trauma as well. I've done a lot of other inner work over the years but tapping is my number 1 tool because it can be used for so many things. I know it can seem like it's just BS and I myself was very skeptical at first, thinking ''how could tapping on your face/body possibly help''. I hope someone reads this and wants to try it out and that it will help them too! Also, I appreciate your honesty about these topics! It's so important that we go to the root of things instead of just trying to ''fix'' the symtoms. 💙
( heart- my computer won't let me use an emoji) I love to meditate... I try to meditate twice a day when i can. It really helps get all the " Background noise" out of my head and brings me clarity so I can focus on what the real issue might be... I would love to see a Part 2 to this video!!!
I just can’t seem to move it, I definitely eat below 2000 calories. And I have been doing “work outs” every 2 days for months. I donno wether to just cut back even more?
Definitely eat below 2000 cal or are you measuring all your food intake including oil you use while cooking and sauses? It's important. I didn't shed much until I cut out a lot of cheese I was consuming and started counting hard.
❤ Looking forward to part 2. I love this type of video that you do where you talk about the mental health aspects of the weight loss journey. It really isn't just about counting calories and exercising, is it?
This is an excellent video about addiction! Really breaking down what the issue is. Learning to process discomfort in a mature way. Very timely as I am doing a reset during a very stressful time of lots of sadness and grief but also joy and gratitude. You nailed it. Thanks
Thanks so Carla! This was perfect timing for me, I was feeling really low tonight and it was all to do with constant comfort eating over the last few months. You’ve pinpointed what’s going on - I’m going to use these tips starting now. Thank you so much! 💜
❤I am in the last week of the current round of BodySlims. I haven't been feeling well due to some kind of bug bite I had a reaction to. I wasn't feeling well enough to do the 10K walk yesterday like I had planned. I was beating myself up a LOT (I still am) and the trigger for me with this situation? Remembering all the training I went through for the half marathon here and having to quit at 9 miles. I just couldn't finish. I ate so much junk food yesterday and now I'm beating myself up even more. I think the cure will be to get out and walk. This has been a tough round for me amd I still have quite a bit to lose. I will just pick myself up and keep going. Please do a part 2! ❤
You speak to me and I'm thankful I've found you. Thank you and please do part 2. I've been eating for comfort most of my life. I have learned these tools before, tried them and they worked, but then they faded away for me. I need to remember to use them -- to make them a habit. I am joining BodySlims in September and I really want to already have the skills you mentioned in place before beginning the program.
