Learning to Deal with Depression & Anxiety in a Relationship  

I don't even have a blankie, but I fully understand and agree with Sav. a blankie or teddy, any item that provided consistent comfort and cosyness, is deeply special. and if you haven't experienced that safety item, you can't comment

“Just because you’re having a bad day, doesn’t mean it’s a bad life. “ love you both 🤍

When Sav says I’m gonna cry again and Josh responds with okay, I’m right here. That’s it 🥺❤️

Even if Josh doesn’t understand the meaning of the blanket, I think he should want Sav have an item of comfort!! That feeling of nostalgia is unmatched! reminds you of better days, your childhood, etc. #supportBlankey 😂❤

I’m going to love this, I have struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life and didn’t acknowledge it until about a year ago

So I’m at the depression part of the pod, I’m also in school to be a therapist (so I’m sharing what I’ve learned since we are learning the DSM currently). It is normal to experience a depressive mood and not necessarily qualify for a diagnosis of depression. There is a certain period of time for you to be experiencing it to qualify for the diagnosis. (There are more qualifiers but that is a simple answer)

It’s definitely so hard to understand things that people go through that you’ve never had but putting in the effort to understand someone is truly suffering is so helpful in the end

You guys are doing great! I remember when I had anxiety to the point I had extremely bad panic attacks. I would think I’m having a heart attack and feel like I would pass out. I took the medicine, but I wasn’t happy at all because it made me drowsy and I just didn’t feel like my normal self. I was so tormented mentally but God delivered and healed me. I am not foggy in the mind mentally, I don’t have any more panic attacks or symptoms! Sav, it’s okay to cry, Jesus will heal you completely as you continue to open your heart to Him & be vulnerable. I’ve had so many leaders hurt me, and the enemy tried to make me look at God differently but God showed me that wasn’t Him in those situations, now I am healed from so much hurt. God will & is doing it for y’all! Y’all are so sweet, & great parents! Keep pushing & soaring! Love y’all

Thanks for being so transparent guys. I was watching with my headphones while vacuuming and remembered listening to you guys while I was vacuuming like a year ago. Talking about how you met and watching your videos even before you had RiRi. So it just came full circle for me. I was like man I've been watching them for a long time. I really love you guys and your girls and fur babies. Praying for you all. PS: I am 33 and still have Mickey & Minnie BLANKY I was wrapped in when I was born! I don't sleep with it anymore but I used to every night haha

I have my same blankly since I was 6, it’s on my bed every night and when I go away I take it with me as a comfort item. I’m 26, I don’t NEED it but I would like/enjoy to keep it around. My blanky was there for me through everythinggggg! Caught every tear, and was there for me when I felt alone.

Silent supporter here….but had to come and say how much I appreciated the authenticity and vulnerability of this podcast. I think people need to see couples talk through things, express themselves, own mistakes and how they can grow and learn as a couple in healthy ways. The realness and flow between the two of you today was unlike anything I’ve seen with you all before. It was a special space. Thank you both for opening up in such a mature and healthy way. Praying continued healing for each of you and His blessings over your family and marriage.

I’m 43 and I still have my blanket! I moved to Florida from Michigan for college and I didn’t take it with me. After my brother passed away my dad brought it to me when I flew back for his funeral. I rub the silky corner piece when I have a hard hard day missing my mom and brother, it gives me the safety and comfort ❤ every time I travel to another state I get sick when I come home we call it the Florida flu, cali cooties, ect 😂 When I was going through so much I was embarrassed to ask for help and I pray nobody ever feels the sadness and ashamed that I felt as a Christian ❤ I would love if you guys would end in a prayer for us just to help get us through the week!

I still have the blanket I was brought home from the hospital in and the clothes I wore coming home from the hospital in. My mother kept them for and me had them cleaned. They were in brand new mint condition. I brought my daughter home from the hospital in them. She lived one month and passed away of sids. Most devastating thing I've ever lived through.

I’ve never been through depression but I am a military spouse and I’ve gone through many deployments with my husband being gone and me at home holding it down with our kids. (And the worst time was during covid and I lost 6 family members within 7 months). And I can tell you that my spouse is my peace in a stressful moment. So @Josh&Sav the best way for me to explain what a hug can do is give you that moment of a sign of relief. So imagine a ball so full to the point it’s about to pop, but instead you just ease a little air out, that’s what a hug is. That simple moment of release to allow a moment of peace.

My husband and I so relate to having to work towards not having an ego in our marriage. We’ve gotten such a good relationship just being willing to be vulnerable with each other, and we’re huge on not being silent in any tough times and saying literally anything we can think of to each other because it helps both of us just work through those thoughts and understanding each other better. Y’all are so sweet sharing!! Love yall 😊💛

Im 28 and i still have my blankie and my first stuffed animal as a kid. I dont think id ever get rid of these. Just knowing i still have them on really rough days is comforting to me. I completely relate.

This made me cry I know exactly how Sav is feeling and my husband and I communication is temporarily not as good as it once was and I struggle with anxiety and depression so bad y’all are so blessed to have a spouse that is there for you emotionally

To be diagnosed with depression you have to experience a variety of symptoms for at least a two week period and these symptoms affect your overall functioning, generally sadness and depressive symptoms are what can happen in your days but if it’s not continuous for two weeks or more then it’s not depression (MDD- major depressive disorder) 💗

this podcast seems like a cry from the both of you, TO one another. “maybe” “or like” “i guess” - praying for the both of you; you are one and you will feel together, and the uniqueness is that God created you all to handle things different togetherrrr! so happy you all shared this moment of transparency

Honestly I do I have my “banana pajama” blanket/ towel from when I was in kindergarten lol. It’s just something you can’t let go of. It’s a comfort thing to know you have something all these time, that held so much sentimental value 💓

I’m usually a silent viewer-but the discussion about the Christian viewpoint on mental health reminded me of a story my preacher has shared before. A man was stranded on top of his home during a flood. A row boat came by and tried to rescue him but he refused to get on saying “the Lord will save me. I’m trusting in Him.” Next, a motorboat came along and offered help, but again, he refused to get on. The water was steadily rising and finally a helicopter flew overhead and offered to rescue him. Again he refused claiming he was waiting for the Lord to rescue him. Eventually the man drowned. In Heaven, he asked God why he didn’t save him. God replied- “I sent a row boat, a motorboat, and a helicopter to try to save you! You wouldn’t accept the help I sent.” Just a silly little reminder that God can work in so many ways and through so many things-even therapists and modern medicine!

I’m 24 with 2 little ones and I have held onto my stuffed dog throughout the years of my childhood into adulthood and now passed it on to my boys. I did not sleep with it but I do remember picking it up in the past during hard times and finding so much comfort in it ❤

I have never responded to anything on social media but God just placed it on my heart to respond because this episode was the realest conversation I’ve ever been blessed to hear. I am a believer and have medically diagnosed anxiety. When I heard Sav say how others can make us feel like we can just “pray away our anxiety”, this hit so hard because I dealt with this from people in my community, but from myself as well. When I was having panic attacks I used to think I didn’t have a strong enough faith and I would read devotionals that say worrying means you are a failure in trusting God and I would just beat myself up. I felt like I should be stronger and not need medicine. So when you said “that is why God created medicine” I instantly teared up because I remember when I came to that realization as well and agreed to take medication. There is so much more I could say but I hope you two never stop having these important conversations, you are really changing the culture and have such a big impact

I have a lamby that I had since I was born & I don’t sleep with it anymore but now I handed it down to my son. It’s very meaningful, I could never get rid of it.. however I don’t “need” it or to sleep with it. I just wouldn’t get rid of it bc of the meaning behind it!

I suffer from anxiety & depression and I remember friends I’ve had before try to say it’s “situational” and “you aren’t depressed like me” and I’m just like what exactly does that look like?! Just because I smile and make everyone else happy doesn’t mean I am 100% there myself. My boyfriend definitely didn’t really understand at first what it was all about, but he’s helped in a lot of ways by educating himself and in the moments I feel how I feel he will ask me what exactly do I need in that moment and what can he do to help. Our relationship has gotten so much sweeter because I was able to get a grip. Journaling, reading, adult coloring books have helped significantly. I live near a few beaches so when I feel super anxious or depressed I will go sit by the water or call a friend to meet. In the process of finding a therapist. It’s not something that can be brushed off, but something to actively work on for your own mental health and to better the relationships around you. You’re brave for speaking on this, Sav. Just know you’re not alone ❤

I totally get Sav, blankie or stuffy....whatever it's a comfort no matter what age. It feels better that it's at least in the house, even if not used anymore. Men are fixers, want to fix us, things etc. Every being has anxiety & depression at certain times in our lives. Live & Learn!!! ((Hugs))

Hello, I'm from Albuquerque NM and I'm a 45-year-old woman and I have my blankie in my closet. I can't get rid of it or throw it away. So I can relate to Sav, and girl keep it! My teenage boys have a blankie and they still keep it.

Your podcast has helped me so much watching today! My husband and I are in the midst of a moving decision and I am feeling so torn with a ton of emotions . Definitely seeking God’s guidance and peace. Big life change is very scary because of the unknown. You two are such a blessing! I enjoy every podcast and vlog! 🙏🏻❤️

Thank you for being vulnerable guys ❤ Me and hubby are navigating a season and to know that we aren't alone through similar things, gave me revelation and hope! I found you guys last week I think or the week before and you are both relatable to our lives and marriage, so thank you! Thank You Father for the sosh team 🥰 love you guys

I'm 44 years old and yes I still have my blankie I use my blinky when I'm sick

Savanna it is okay to cry. It is part of your healing process.

It’s sentimental, a feeling of nostalgia. I still have a lot of my stuffed animals from when I was little. I don’t sleep with them anymore, but I still have them. Yes! depression and anxiety are total opposites, I completely agree. I don’t get them both at the same time, but I have both, been diagnosed with both. I’ve noticed I have more anxiety now than I use to though. My twenties and even earlier was more of a depressing time for me, but my thirties are more of an anxious time for me. When I’m anxious and stressed, I start shaking and sometimes I’ll even just start crying and I’ll go to a friend or my boyfriend and just start venting out everything in my head or whatever I’m going through. Or if I’m in a public setting and I feel I can’t do something or I feel I can’t be around a crowd of people, I just start shaking uncontrollably and whoever I’m with will be like “okay, we’re leaving here and we’re going to wait for you to calm down and figure this out”. And sometimes I just need to be alone for awhile and listen to music or watch something or just be with my cat who just turned 11 yesterday.

Bless your heart....One day when you are ready to face whatever yuckiness needs facing, God will replace the blanky and you will be free of whatever bondages are holding you hostage ❤ im going through such a season of chucking out the mess and reminding myself to not make the situation greater than God 🙏 praying the same for you

I have a blanket and I’m 58 years old. It is just a Security blanket. I’ve been married for 33 years and my husband is ok with the blanket. Especially if you suffer from anxiety.

Yes! I do believe on depression, faith, prayer, deliverance and YES medication is needed in some cases.

Thank you for having this conversation. Especially as Christians. I appreciate you guys unapologetically sharing your opinions and experiences❤

2:14 pm CST- suggestion for the blanket. Put it in a shadow box with some photos and other things from your childhood. Then it’s on the wall as a displayed memory.

My dad passed away 5 years ago and I kept one of his shirts and I sleep with it. I will keep it forever. It's a piece of him. I'm 53 and for comfort, I UNDERSTAND Sav. If I had something I was connected to from childhood that brings her comfort I'm cool with Sav keeping it.

Dear Sav and Josh I pray continued blessings over your life and that you both are completely healed from anxiety and depression and any addiction that y’all may face together or separately.I pray that y’all are always covered in the strongest foundation ever. No weapon formed against y’all shall prosper in Jesus name Amen.

I don’t have a blankie but I have a pillow. I’ve had it sense I was 3 years old and I will be 26 in December. On the topic of anxiety and depression, I was diagnosed with both in 5th grade. I ended up trying to take my life last summer, my pillow was allowed to come with me. It’s 1000% a comfort item for me. It’s something that I run to when I’m having a panic attack, or something I run to when I just need something to calm me down.

I think we all experience depression everyone has at one point in our lives . I love watching this none judgmental Christian channel. I suffer bad from anxiety . I didn’t even know what anxiety was until i got older u almost feel like ur crawling out of ur body but my faith is so strong and i pray

22 and still sleep with my blanket every night, it eases a lot of anxiety and makes me feel closer to my grandma who made it by hand, one for me and one for my cousin who was the same age, it's super tattered now but I'll never get rid of it. My dream is to find someone who can repair it

This is so great, Ive had depression before and I have suicidal thoughts and this is so nice to have. Im so glad you came on here to talk about it to air yourself out and you probably dont know how many people you help while your helping yourself i love you sav and josh all of your podcasts help me some way and help all the world and I just wanted to say thank you for that you are a huge chunk of the worlds enjoyment!! ❤

I’m single but this gave me so much insight on conversations I need to have before I get married and make sure my partner understands what I need when I feel “low”. Thank you for your beautiful vulnerability. ❤️

You guys podcast is great this one really hit me I’m going through a tuff time for me . After 25 years of marriage. My husband left me and abandon our home . I been in counseling since then. It was something I never expect. I just need lots of prayers. I enjoy listening to u both. May God keep using in many ways. Also to help authors. 😢🙏🙏😘

Thanks for opening up about Anxiety and Depression! These are things I have dealt with since middle school and I'm now 28.. I recently have been unofficially diagnosed with social anxiety since covid! Its so so hard not being able to leave the house or feeling sick to my stomach when I have to do something where I'll possibly interact with others.. life is crazy and full of blessings! I wish there was a cookie cutter way to make it go away but everyone is so so different..

"Needing /Wanting" vs. "Not Needing/Wanting" a blankie is the issue here. If any grown adult "needs/wants" a blankie to cope with life, then there's no doubt an emotional problem of sorts at play. I agree with Josh: As a grown a** adult, a blankie is not a "normal" need or a want. Children can certainly develop "unhealthy attachments" to objects and humans that can prevent them from living a 'normal" life" or from functioning normally "as adults. Praying for this couple and their marriage. ❤

love you guys! stay strong in the faith. Keep God first no matter what. He is faithful! ❤

Loved this! As someone who is currently going through some things ,i literally cried at the ebd where Josh said "just know it is ok to feel that way" Thank you for being so transparent. Sav- i would love to hear more about your journey with depression/anxiety if you are willing to share it (the one that you said took you about 6 months). I know that can be difficult so i understand if you dont want to. God bless you both! Looking forward to more videos!

A hug goes a long way when I’m having anxiety and he comes and soothe my back and holds me it slowly goes away the shaking and all

I'm 28 and still love and sleep with stuffed animals. ❤️ It's a self-soothing and emotion regulation tool. They have sentimental value.

I have my OG blanky still ❤ at age 28 😅 I call it blanky too. It was also a touch thing with me, needing to move my fingers between a silk corner of the blanket. My mom actually made a tote for each of her kids that has a lot of our baby stuff in it. Blanky, first stuff animal as a baby, baby book, baptism dress, and etc. are all in it.

I totally have a COMFORT thing I do w blankets that I’ve done since I can remember and I’ve been married to my husband for 14 yrs and I JUST told him about it maybe 2-3 yrs ago!! Once I told him he admitted that he’s seen me doing it and just kept silent because he just put it off as a way to relieve my anxiety and stress because he noticed I did it more when I’m stressed!! And he’s so right…when I’m stressed or have anxiety I’ll take the edge of a blanket…bottom of my shirt…ANY material and fold it and run it under my nails..sometimes I do it so hard the tips of my fingers get sore 🥴 so ur not alone sav…I understand ‼️

I had to watch this again but with my man in the second time cause most of people really dont be understanding a depressed person ..in a way both my man and i went through depression after we lost our baby and he just wanted to fully be there for me and didn't focus on himself ..this was really helpful i love love love you guys ❤❤❤

I still have a blanket from my childhood. ❤ I'm 41. It's a twin size so I use it on the couch when I'm sick.

Josh there is always something or someone we all cherish and will never get rid of..It reminds us where you came from and let us know it’s so hard to say GOOD BYE TO YESTERDAY

Based on what Josh described it sounds more like shame, the getting downn on yourself and feeling bad about your decisions. I deal with that at times, just beating myself up, if you stay there I do believe it can lead to depression.

27 years old and have my blankie that I’ve had since I was born. I don’t sleep with it, but I have it near.

Noooo..keep the blanket! I still have my blanket and teddy and I am 47 yrs old. It is sooo sentimental and I have these and a few dolls that are so special. My Mum still has her teddy and it is so special to her in her 70’s. I have my grandma’s doll she treasured until the day she passed away at 97.

I’m am so glad the 2 of you worked through the struggles and came out on the other end. For some perspective I use to be Josh, never understood depression and anxiety (I literally see myself with everything he is saying). Then I had my daughter (almost 3 years ago) and I am what Sav is explaining she went through. I commend her for recognizing it. I still struggle & hope to get to where she has!

I love the way you two communicate. I love your conversations. And see the love you have for one another! Thank you for being such a blessing! ❤️

I love watching y'all and how you keep it real even talking about something so serious as this. I'm 41 years old and I just have to say y'all are very mature and wise beyond your years! This includes BOTH of you. I've watched other young married couples on RU-vid and one couple in particular that y'all actually done a podcast with and it's shown me just how those people are so immature compared to you both! I just want to thank y'all for just being the amazing people you are!

I have my blankie that was hand-quilted before I was born (34 years ago) but I don't use it. I handed it down to my children. My one-year-old currently uses it.

I have anxiety and depression and I can't thank y'all enough for speaking on this, you definitely have helped❤

I just have to say that I had my baby girl 3 weeks ago and the postpartum baby blues have really hit me on day 2 so just knowing that sav has gone through anxiety and depression just makes me feel not so alone in this.

I appreciate this very deep level of vulnerability and openness ❤ And no matter where I go in life I will always look up to you both as a beautiful exemplary companion. God bless you 2 really from the bottom of my heart ❤

Thank you both for sharing your experiences. I think that a lot of times we forget that everyone goes through something. Being able to understand what is going on is the hardest part. Sav the crying is because of the hormones. It will get better but never go away. I have 3 littles and sometimes a good cry is all we need.

I've always watched and admired you guys for your strength. But I admire you guys even more now. Seeing you guys overcome so much through postpartum. I wish my ex would have been more understanding and help me more through my postpartum depression. I honestly didn't even know what was going on because mine presented as extreme rage and people never talked about that part.

I have not one but TWO blankies.. idk if it’s a southern thing but I’m from the south so my siblings and I had aunts who would hand knit/sow blankets that my and my sisters got at birth. Like Sav said at times it can be a keep sake especially when it’s handmade. I haven’t had my blankets out since middle school but I’ll definitely keep them for as long as possible 🥲 so 24 years and counting 😅 I’m not a sentimental personal AT ALL I declutter like twice a year so my childhood blankies are the only thing I’ve kept for this long!

I'm almost 23 and I have a stuffed dog that I refused to throw away. It has followed me every where I've moved and will continue to😊 I understand your argument Savanna!

I really do appreciate your vulnerability with us, you guys are really inspiring and a role model to a lot of relationships out there, dating, marriage and even friendships! Never stop being you and may God bless you both! ❤️❤️

"How did you meet your blankie?" killed me!!! 🤣 hey, I'm 24. I don't have a blankie, but I do have a teddy bear that I've had since I was 4. It is a cute bear so I keep it on my bed when I make it. I should probably try to restuff it though lol. However, when I get married it will be going into the closet or something.

As someone who grew up in a Christian home my whole life, who’s step dad is a pastor, I fully stand with Savannah’s opinion regarding medication. Unfortunately, that caused the division between me and my parents/family

I’m due to give birth really soon and I’m so nervous for the feelings to come. I pray for best case scenario of course but, I hope if not I can communicate and be vulnerable with my partner. I know I have troubles with being vulnerable so I pray I can overcome. Thank you for this guys ❤️

You gotta make peace with it on your own terms! Give it to God girlie!! If he tells you to keep it then keep it but if you need to get rid of it it will have to be on your own time.

I do not have a blanky from when I was a child, but I do have blanky (full size throw blanket) that I take with me everywhere that I’m going to stay the night at. It’s comforting & if I’m not staying at my house, I sure will have my blanky with me 🧸

Raw, real and relatable. This was amazing, just pulling out of both . Much love and grace to all dealing with both..

the blankie / relief blanket IS AN IDOL

Yes Josh you are her blanket childhood is over very true

S/o to all the psychologists out there!!!❤ We have one of the toughest jobs and most of the time no one asks us how we are

i don’t have a blankie, but i know many that do! I think it’s a sentimental thing to most & brings back childhood memories! For instance, i have some toys of mine I’ve saved for my future children! I love you guys and Sav you were on point today! 💗👏🏼

btw i have been watching you guys for years now & i have to say i love how much y’all have grown and stayed consistent! I’ve been watching since Savs black hair days and i just want to say y’all have matured so much and i love the podcasts/vlogs/dating distant & i can’t wait for what’s in store for y’all 🥹❤️

Josh and Sav thanks for the Podcast that one really touched me and gave me something’s to think about on how to deal with certain situations and how to reach out and ask what’s going on. Love the Podcast, stay blessed guys 🙏🏽🙏🏽

I would say give your blankie a purpose if you no longer use it to sleep. You could turn it into a pillow case or something else a throw, anything that has more of a purpose. I have mine but I never go back to it anymore I just have it saved now as a memory but now turning into something sounds like a good idea lol

Thank you for such a real and raw conversation. I cried while watching this. I love you guys!

I agree with Sav 1000%. It’s a special item and it IS a keepsake. You guys will keep things from your daughters that are special. Those things should not be thrown away, at least kept in a box for storage :) I haven’t watched the rest of the podcast, just had to say that! Can’t wait to hear the rest!

It’s sentimental to Savanna ,so thoes are the things you keep , Thank you for sharing what you been through some times other feel ashamed we don’t have to be strong all the time. GOD BLESS YOU TWO .

I 1000000% know what you mean about “feeling” a particular spot in your blankie Sav!! I too still have my baby blanket that my mom got me when I was about 2. I used to specifically love to rub the Silk feeling tag between my thumbs, so much so that i rubbed off the writing on the tag lol. I couldn’t sleep without that, and my favorite stuffed bunny (I also still have- since i was born❤). WHY would I get rid of them? They bring such comfort and remind me of wonderful childhood memories. She’s BEEN THERE! I don’t sleep with them, but wouldn’t think it weird if I wanted to now and again😂 it’s a keepsake for my own memories, but also one day I could pass them on to one of my kids- God willing ❤❤ love y’all!

I’m honestly so grateful to hear discussion about a topic that literally affects everyone in one way or another and like I’m so proud of you both for being transparent enough to share feelings about anxiety/depression because it’s a real thing that’s SO hard to navigate even though you’re a Christian🥹💕

Josh putting his hand on Sav’s leg. 🥹🫠♥️ I loved this podcast. It was so timely for my husband and me. Thank you for sharing this! 😊

Josh is worried about Sav's blanket but doesn't consume water. Boy is worried about the wrong stuff 😂😂😂

I had a stuffed moose. As a 20 year old adult at the time I would cry with it. I was in a difficult marriage and my moose was always there for me. Fast forward to years later. I still have it but its a keepsake now. I'm in a better situation but won't ever get rid of it.

This came across my instagram today and something told me to watch. Just want you guys to know this podcast did help me today. To want to get up and be motivated. Thank you!

I’m 32 years old, married with 2 kids and I still have my blanket from when I was a baby. It’s in our closet, I haven’t pulled it out in years but yes I still have it!😊. No matter what my husband says, it’s not going anywhere LOL, it’s kinda sentimental

I still have a "blanky" and I am 30 (mines is more like a little towel). I do not sleep w/o it. No shame in that. There is neuroscience behind it - my mother reached out to someone because she was worried when I was much younger. Apparently my brain is just very busy and my body finds a way to zone in on one thing in order to calm down and wind down. It's not a biggie.

I don’t have a blankie, but I do have a teddy bear that I’ve had since I was born. My grandparents bought me it. I don’t sleep with it, it’s not in my husband & I’s room, but I do have it stored in my closet. Reason being is my grams once told me that she threw hers away as a young adult and she regretted it. She has since passed and when I come across it it reminds me of her, so that’s why I still have it!

I am 57 and still have a blanky. When I was little my Mom had to take my tea towel from me when I was asleep to wash it. Before my Daddy passed he asked me what I wanted of his. I have his pj's and when I wear them it is like he is giving me a hug.

I love that you have ur blanket!! I still have mine in my closet too! I had a favorite corner as well and just thinking of that makes me want to rub the corner of it

Just loved this topic cannot wait for next week episode

I’m 27 and yes I still sleep with my “blankey” except it’s a pillow. My mom said i was crying real bad one night as a baby and when they showed me this pillow i became calm. Had it ever since