'Leaving Husband For Texting His Ex Wife' -- Reddit Story 

I would get a cute little white whale plushie and leave it there with the divorce papers 🐳

Absolutely mortifying that she felt that she had to keep being intimate out of fear.

The husband and ex deserve each other

I 100% support snooping on your partners phone if your inner alarm is going on. One time my boyfriend and I got into a fight & we didn’t really talk for days which was unusual. We live about 45 mins apart & only see each other on the weekend. So, the decreased conversation was weird. Later in the week I called him to talk about things and he told me he would call me back, when I asked him where he was he said he was with his brother. Sketch. Later that night I ended up driving to his place. We talked and everything seemed fine, he passed out & I decided to look through his phone. Hours earlier he was out on a date with some girl he’d been talking to after we got in that fight. For days. He’d seen her twice and still talked to her after I found out. I bet he would’ve never told me if I hadn’t of snooped through his phone. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I would not say anything, go to the police and press charges for taking those photos, get divorce papers served. She's seen MORE than enough.

My therapist once told me after I was wronged and felt I needed to throw what the person had done to me back in their face before signing off from the relationship, that true healing comes from within. The person already knew what they had done to me. Me leaving was explanation enough. I said to her “but I feel like in order for me to get the closure I need, I have to say ‘look I know what you did and that’s why I’m leaving’” Her response was “Why? He already knows, does he deserve more of your energy at this point, or do you?” And that hit me so hard. He never had access to me from that point on and I haven’t regretted it since. I didn’t need to say anything. Moving in silence is the ultimate power move.

The white whale nickname kinda confused me. I mean I get it because she was "fat" but in the literary world it has a whole other meaning. The term white whale was coined by Herman Melville in Moby Dick. It typically means "something that someone pursues obsessively with little to no chance of success." He wasn't obsessively pursuing her, he had her and lost her due to his own stupidity

i feel so hurt for her... this is truely evil and cruel. She sounds like such a strong woman! I hope she'll feel better soon ...

I’m petty enough that white whales would become part of my aesthetic so any time I ever saw them again or they saw my profile or pictures they’d see it and *know* also whales are cute

He proposed to her while she was her weight because she took very good care of him and he knew that. It’s so sad. What’s even more sad though is the fact that he knows nobody else would make the effort to try and attempt to make him happy and care for him. He’s sorry and I’m so happy she is moving on. She deserves so much better.

When trying to make your ex jealous goes to extremes

She’s right to leave him. Guaranteed he’ll get back together with his ex

My friend (an absolute legend) served her then-husband divorce papers when he was in jail because she wanted to make sure that he got them in front of all of his homeboys and he did, so, mission accomplished lol

People are disgusting and evil… you’re so right!

About halfway through rn; I feel like the husband, perhaps, wants to feel desired by his ex. Since she was the one who initially rejected him, he was trying to catch her interested so he could then reject her in turn.

women who feel like they have to go through their partners phone or socials are usually correct. i support women’s wrongs

It’s horrible because when you’re with someone you put yourself in a vulnerable position when you’re being intimate with them. I know I have parts of my body that I’m ashamed of and I know I shouldn’t be but I can’t help it I just have certain things that are a massive insecurity for me but when I’m with my boyfriend and we are being intimate I suddenly don’t have any shame because I know he loves me through and through. If it turned out my boyfriend was doing something like this behind my back I’d be beyond devastated, hurt, and heart broken.

This one was crazy. The woman would have had no idea if she didn’t find those messages, cause it sounds like he was treating her great to her face. That is so crappy. Talk about creating trust issues. You think you’re in a great happy marriage just to have it shattered by lies and betrayal.

I was betrayed by my ex fiancé who was a pathological liar, it definitely does a number to your self esteem and its a challenge picking yourself back up afterwards. But the best revenge is a life well lived, find what makes you happy again.

I think if you're married and if you have children you have the right to go through their phone if they're acting shady. you need to be able to protect yourself and for the people saying that don't be with them if you can't trust them it's a whole different ball game once you have kids. If someone is cheating on you they can expose you to STDs they can also expose your children to dangerous people. Maybe they're not cheating maybe it's something worse but if you can't just leave you need to be able to assess the situation

I paused it to rant at my SO. Lauren and I practically mirrored words... 😂

The reactions Lauren is having are perfect.

Men like that pick women they think won’t leave them while emotionally continuing to seek validation from the woman he actually thinks is better than him.

I would’ve sent him the pic of her sleeping back with something like “how I sleep knowing my ex doesn’t have to tolerate the white whale anymore”

It makes you not wanna put your guard down for no one but not everyone is like that. Sadly you never know which ones are the good ones.

If you are in a long term relationship or marriage, everything should be accessible by both partners. The only exception being work related stuff. I have access to my husbands stuff and he has access to mine. We both don’t check in each other but we could if we wanted! There should be nothing to hide!

I REALLY WISH Lauren said it's a knee cap now. 😭 I was dying at her knee hat waiting for her to get Morgan with a knee cap. And it never happened. Lol.

She’s an absolute legend.

She was feeling so down and depressed because she was having the fucking soul sucked from her by her husband and she didn't even realize it 😶

“Look at this beluga bitch” dog that was the funniest shit I’ve heard in a min and I’m an asshole and prolly will use that

He probably said white whale because it must be an interracial relationship. Idk why else anyone would say that as an insult if they’re the same race tbh.

this is absolutely disgusting, my heart hurts for her :(

Idk if I ever watched an episode with the same background & appreciate the indecisiveness 💛

I'd be getting a divorce and a murder charge fr

I love how comfy you guys look and the hats 😂❤

I would’ve texted the ex wife too so he doesn’t have a chance to tell her that he’s divorcing me or make it seem like he’s the one that left

I can't concentrate...The eyeballs behind them keep staring at me. Lmao

Poor girl. That’s not love mama, I’m glad you’re leaving him. I was with my husband for over a decade and we were hot when we met and we were still hot, fuck weight. He got chunky, I got chunky, then we lost weight, then we didn’t, etc. My point is I loved that man to where I didn’t give a fuck if he had a new stretch mark or whatever, he was mine and I would fight you for him and viceversa lol. Also queen, if all they have to talk about is you, even if they get back together, they’re doomed because then they won’t have anything to talk about. Leave and go be hot and single in a new city with new friends.

Glad I found it hope u post parts from older streams also 👍🔥

BTW THE JAPAN WEDDING SHE CHEATED WITH HIS BROTHER OR BROTHER IN LAW IF IT'S THE ONE YOUR THINKING OF....

Ah... this makes me feel even more terrible about myself after the rough night I've had.

It might be revenge on his ex? Stringing her along by pretending he was in an unhappy relationship. Make her waste years of her life being stuck on him and the idea of getting back together just for it to come to nothing.

I would also - “Why are you married?”

Would have loved to hear what he was gonna say. But good for her she made great moves.

Can OP pursue criminal charges against her husband for the pictures? I do not know much about USA law.

He had a symbiotic relationship with his ex. Their connection was his wife. He enjoyed still being in contact with her. So bitching about his wife was a means to stay connected to his ex. I am sure he did not feel that way. Did he deserve a divorce. YES!

I get ego broken too! Lol very self aware of you to recognize that that's what happens to you most of the time :p took me a long time to realize why it hurt so much

As far as the ex wife, why would you even want to entertain an ex who does people like that?

If I was her I probably would have gotten knocked up without him knowing and just taken the kid And just told the kid that he died and how crappy he was But then I realize that would probably traumatize the kid so birth control was probably a better choice

This whole situation is gross 🤮 it’s the audacity. If I could hug 🤗 you I would with open arms . You’re beautiful and never let anyone tell you otherwise. If they don’t have kids then he has no business being in contact with his EX Wife! Stop normalizing being cool with exes. He was wrong for being in contact with her and talking about his current relationship with his past . YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BETWEEN YOU , your spouse , and a therapist if you choose to seek counseling. I wouldn’t have even gave him the satisfaction of having s3x again, but all that matters is that YOU LEFT AND DID WHAT WAS BEST FOR YOU! You deserve better and will find soooo much better then this scum bag and weird a$$ ex wife

You sound like Dove Cameron I can’t listen to you without picturing my baby girl Dovey 🧡✨

My god, this makes me never want to trust anyone ever again

I love the painting on the wall behind you. who is the artist?

I want to find the original post😭 need to know the end of this

WAIT do they have full body scans that show any types of cancers? I’ve been trying to find testing as both sides of my family are filled to the brim with all kinds of cancer I don’t want to get multiple tests I’d rather take one test for everything.

I’m a firm believer in looking through your mans phone . The real him is in that phone.

In reply to the question towards the end how would you move on or date again… I was in a situation worse than this is the best way for me to put it I can’t say that it’s truly worse but to me in my mind I was put through worse and I was dumb for staying when I found what I found but I have yet to date it’s been three years… I just don’t trust anyone now. I have done a lot of soul-searching a lot of healing but I also feel like if I can’t trust then there’s no point in trying to date yet because I feel like I would be putting all of that baggage or trauma that I went through on the new person and that’s not fair! So therefore I just continue to keep to myself until maybe one day I feel I can trust people but with the way the world is in the more I hear stories and see things and I also am a dancer so I have trust issues from what I see every day at work also… and sorry I’m doing talk to text so don’t judge lol

Also i wonder how many men and women have stories about their inner alarm goes off about someone and they did indeed find something in the phone. People can lie, but they cant hide certain things

Honestly, everyone in that story sounds crazy

Idea she had at the end is a story on readit a girl did the same thing but never got to go through with the idea because her boyfriend saw her post

The tiktok video you talked about the bride was cheating on him with his brother in law. He made sure all family members knew

LAUREN i want to meet you and talk about your situation w/ a close friend you lived with stealing from you because i experienced THE SAME THING

I’m so disgusted

I can't even look through my husband's phone even if I wanted to. He speaks turkish and I dont read, write, or speak turkish.

18:30 WOW Don’t mess with Lauren!!!

I understand the birth control especially if she lacks a support system so she has to plan her leaving alone.

How do we know if this is real or fiction? It sounds like a fictional story to me. A good one.

The question about the birth control I find in the same way as the OP. She clearly says she’s playing it cool while she look for jobs, a place, and get her lawyer information. So to me common sense would peak and tell everyone listening that she’s clearly still having sex with him as well as her many other usual things. That’s kind of what playing it cool means in this scenario. Keeping true intentions under wrap until she’s well prepared to hit him with the papers and leave.

This is so fucking scary. OP is right, nobody should question why she’s taking BC pills. She said she’s still acting like everything is normal until she can get out. Everyone can judge but what woman hasn’t had sex with a man to keep them happy out of fear. I have, multiple times, and I’m not saying that’s my fault or that it’s normal but it’s very victim blame-y And not only that, That’s her husband, who she loves and sleeping with him in the same bed every night (I assume) it gets hard to say no because she still loves him. I’ve been cheated on in the past and slept with that person to feel closer to them. She’s protecting herself, so she isn’t connected to him for the rest of her life because of a child. Shit happens, we’re all human and make mistakes. She’s getting ahead of those mistakes she might make OR getting ahead of what she might face when she says no to him.

Omg this is so messed up

Ok, that's it. You got me. I subscribed lol.

Thank goodness she didnt have kids with him! It's so much harder once u have kids together.

Dropping deep facts at the end

This reminds me alot of a story of a friend of mine if anyone would like to hear it

I’m with Lauren host the event and invite the ex wife

Thank GOD that they don’t have children.

she needs the chicken one

I really like this podcast, Morgan sometimes you come off as a pick me but your co hosts balance it out perfectly. I love the dedication YOU put in this baby of yours, it's enjoyable to listen to

What’s his address? Asking for a friend.

I wish we could see what they looked like lok

Ahhh hell naw......

I am married to someone with this personality his (Gemini) if that helps and there are 2 faces the husband and mine husband. 😢

yeah.. lets just ignore the fact that they look like a freaking AI

Wasn't Moby Dick referred to as a white whale?

White Whale=Moby Dick, guys.

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Sadly, so many men act like this, and then try to play the nice guy.

White whale is the term used in Moby Dick