Left My Parents to Marry him, but he's Cheating on Me! 

Recently I met a girl on instagram on 27 may 2020. She was very nice , intelligent extroverted and mature. I got really obsessed with her in just day one. I just used like to talk to her very much. With a thought of loosing her I used to cry a lot secretly. Thats how I badly fell in love with her. Actually I don't have any friends in real life not even my parents. I live alone. My parents got divorced 2 years back. Actually I was happy when they did so because they were very toxic and used to fight with each other a lot. And Thankfully I am financially independent to manage my expenses. But when I got her in my life ( though virtually) my life became like shining star. She called me friend. It was like eating a chocolate for the first time even after 19 years of existence on this planet. I got really obsessed with her. I used to interact with her almost everyday on behalf of stories. She was too osm. But one day on 16th June 2020 she blocked me. The reason was I asked her whether she is my best friend or not. She said no. But I kept on saying you are my bestest friend ever. And said never leave me alone. She got really scared and blocked me off. It was too depressing for me. . I did not able to move on quickly. I talked to her on 1st July 2020. She said she hates me because I am creepy and weird. She just broke me off.😕😕 Pls help me I am really depressed 🥺. Hope you will help me.❤️

Pls dii make a video on toxic relationship n there symptoms pls

Plz provide me ur email ID di

Prachi d moment opened ur video , I adored d quote dt u hv put tdy, on point, it gvs clear msg . loved it & need of d hour💓😇

@@harshdeepsingh8211 Bro many people out there do not have friends.....please try to stay positive !!!! Maybe there is something positive in this situation too. Take care

Indeed 🔥

True

@Rishabh Anand everything you told was very nice and true 💯. But in last lines you screwed up. Being in love and getting a partner you love unconditionally and getting that unconditional love back is a blessing and without experiencing it and just by watching movies or some instances, you cannot make a judgement that I am safe. You never find love, it comes to you automatically. Its in our hands that how we make the relationship more beautiful by loving, caring, supporting, tolerating, adjusting with each other. No relationship in the world comes without any adjustments. Whether you are a girl or a boy, Whether arranged marriage or love, whether living in a joint family or alone. But being in a healthy true relationship makes you feel supported, loved, important and you are always encouraged to love yourself more. This is the actual side of love. Nowadays what people are calling love is just a hook up culture and not really love. When you are happy making adjustments for your partner or your partner doesn't let you adjust, that's true love. And love is a true blessing. Because not everyone gets that. Love doesn't hold your growth back. It helps to grow better. I can say just because I am in love. Living together making adjustments is not love. That is passing life but love makes you live your life ❤️. All I wanted to tell is that you are lucky for not getting into any toxic relationship. But you are unlucky as well that you haven't found true love.

@Rishabh Anand I think you are absolutely right about women leaving men for small small things but I would like to point out one thing. well it is the girl that leaves her house after marriage, girls do not have any official right over her real parents house ...she is the one who gets pregnant.. in future she might have to leave her job because women have different bodies..some women are not left in the condition to resume work after labour for years so ofcourse she will look for someone who has money and is stable. it might seem to you like there are only two or three sacrifices but women sacrifice a lot more than men. you have to prove yourself to her that you are capable of looking after her and you are capable of handling any financial burden. I am sorry but the idea of everything will work out if you love each is only relevant in movies. I do not think there is anything wrong in wanting good for yourself and understand that women go through a lot and it might seem a bit unfair but you have to prove yourself to a woman before marrying her

@Rishabh Anand i said about official address...not properties. And i know this is comming from a place of ego...feminism is about getting equal pay and opportunity... even though men and women are same in terms of opportunities they will never be same in terms of their body structures and you just have to accept that. When men sleep with girls, party it is fine but when women do the same thing it is a sin. That is why girls do that. I know you are a male and will never understand the compromises a women makes. Men have pressure on themselves to prove themselves and so do women these days . Also i wanted to ask you why do men go for the skinnier girls...this is a pattern i have noticed...even chubby boys go for skinner girls when they have options. Why do men think it is girls fault when she gets raped because she wore short cloths where maximum rapes are to those who wear suits and sarees. Why are men so offended when we say all men are same but they label "all" feminists as sluts, the one who parties etc. Why do men think that periods are not that worse...we never commented on any of the guy issues because we know that they are infact issues but men always say that women do not have any problems. Men say women should not breast feed in public but thay will piss infornt of everyone in open. When a men is naked everyone closes their eyes but when women is naked everyone opens their camera. Men say women are overly sensitive but men are the one who can't control their emotions when they see a girl alone at night.

@@Aniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii12345 actually you don't need to justify this guy, as he is just trying to boast his ego and trying to put men above women. You don't have to debate with a misogynist who can't understand what a woman goes through, so it's fine. Have a nice day😉

@@ruminationsubs2784 glad to see someone in support...it definitely felt like debating to at boomer who is conservative as hell😭❤

I think bonding with a female would be difficult for any female.

@@FlashCardsK-t8p depends on the females... We can't generalise so many people.... Most females have other female friends so... I guess it just depends if they get along in terms of opinions, personalities and most importantly lifestyles since they're living together 🖤🖤

I also experience this my sil..they are the worst

Completely agree!!! I feel like every woman is different, so the only thing candy needs to do is see if her SIL is like this or not...

I experienced same...

Haa me bhi english sikh rhaa hu

Download Duolingo or if u wanna learn more professional n complicated English u should try skill share.

I'm completely agree with you 👍

I think this is a good thought to ponder upon

Yes, exactly, we don't know how her SIL or MIL actually is... I guess she just has to observe and try to guess

Also, feel bad for you, hope things somehow improve 🖤🖤

Meri sister ko v yhi problem hai wo hamesha mere sath rahegi jis ladki ko karna hai kare nhi karna mt kare main apni sis ko nhi chorunga

Proud of you for being so brave and strong. Breaking up with a toxic, controlling guy can be very difficult. Almost every single time, it's the same story... Threating suicide, threatening to make public your private pictures, it's shameful how some Indian men continue to behave in this time and age.

I was in a similar situation like this. It took me 1 year to breakup with him completely and some depression and anxiety medicines prescribed by psychiatrist. I was only 18. Hardest phase of my life till now.

Yes ,do it

Hai na! Love them 🙂

@@SubhraSubhadarsini yes

Whatever u mentioned above is not signs of being toxic but ur personality. These is ur personality. About breaking friendship if you are not guilt tripping or gaslighting anybody then its ok . Short simple breakups are better then messy once.

You are not a toxic person 🖤 Don't worry 😄 A toxic person blackmails, and tries to separate a person from all their friends and family, so that they only trust and fear you. You're not like that 😊 So you are not toxic ❤️

As u said ds problem exists from many years so all of sudden u cant bring changes , so concentrate on ur new job, keep urself busy, occupy urself with new learning that u r interested in, if like reading read books , excercise, meditate , do gardening etc to cm out of depression , make trustworthy frnz, pour ur emotions with them & concentrate on ur career, talk ur mom like a councellor once u r completely healed, bygones r bygones.. u can try to talk to ur dad in a dear way if he is ready to listen or request once to listen to u, dont argue js try to talk in polite manner. Encourage ur mom to indulge in activites dt she likes to may be gardening or listening to music or take her for a walk in nature & then try to talk to her openly to knw her actual opinions

hey i am 18 and i am faced exactly very same issue for few years now my dad is fine but still i feel depressed of those days nightmares are keep coming. Just u are not alone

Let your brother get a little independent. Let him have a job. Till then please make sure he doesn't pick any toxic traits of your dad. You, your mother and your brother need to be close to each other and support each other. You are raising your voice alone that's why you end up being weak. When you two will be able to manage your finances without any help of your father, then you three shouldn't be tolerating this behavior. If he doesn't want to come home let him not come. Please take care of your mother. And please seek help if you have any relatives who can help you in this case.

There's a video she did about questions a girl should ask before marriage Maybe check that out 🖤🖤

All d best ☺

I wish you luck from my heart❤️

All the best. Keep cool, relax and remember, it's just an exam. No results, nothing defines your life better than you. :)

@@SmileWithPrachi Thank you so much 💕

@@user-wh6zu1dr7n Thank u so much 💛

File a police complain against your father. I know it might sound stupid but if you'll not stop this he'll make yr life hell like your mom. If he managed to get you married there'll be very minimal chances of turning back. Nd yr father will continuously abuse your mother. You have to study and become financial independent in order to achieve your dreams. Call to women helpline in case police doesn't help. Its a matter of quick decision. Hurry up

Try to complete ur education first in all possible ways , dont agrue it would affect further , approach any of ur frnz who resides in city & find a job , be financialy independt , dont act emotionally, think critically , hence u r educated.. analyz that hw u can cm out of this situation, u r d problem solver of ur own problems with the right choices. nothing is impossible , u have to dare with the right option with the right mindset, u cant change ur father or bt definelty u can change ur present scenario, be diplomatic , dont give up & suffer.

@@user-wh6zu1dr7n bt she doesn't have that much time.

May I help u in suggesting

@@amazingideas713 agree with u completely , bt hence itz village donno wtz her condition, in most of the backward village panchayat system exists wr dey gv deir opinions as u knw or we donno d mindset of police men there, if dey too r of backward mentality, then der vl b moral policing .. itz btr to sugarcoat her father dt she would marry after completing her studies & elope to d city if she got any trustworthy person there to handle her & continue her studies . in worst case if her father or relatives have contacts with police then gone case

Marry and settle in canada.... It's a beautiful country...don't compromise on job or studies

You are lucky that you are getting nri match

Your friends, family and your dreams matter. For some people Canada is a big deal. For some people staying with old friends is a bigger deal. Get your priorities straight and give validation to your feelings. Also, be open to the idea of getting to know the guy. What if you start feeling differently if you fall in love? What if he plans to come back to India in few years?

hi dear. I too married an NRI. As months pass you will start missing India, family, friends. You will not have the same environment as in India. Also talking about job, ask them if you can get a job there. because if you don't work after marriage then you need to rely on your husband. I would say job is very imp after marriage.. please think about this...

Email her It's in the description box ❤️❤️

@@champagneproblemz7386 it's not there in the description box

@@joybrotobose106 ohhh it's usually there 😬

@@champagneproblemz7386 actually it's a bit urgent

@UC5BIUPWA3fKB7M0hGYcYM0g sry I'm trying to search for it for you but I can't find it.. I'll see if I can, then I'll tell 😊

As a dog lover myself, who feeds stray animals, it might be slightly difficult for me to give you an unprejudiced view. But I understand that limits need to be defined. If the dogs just come, eat and sometimes stay over to sleep or play - that's not exactly a nuisance. But if they bark too much or poop which is creating too much mess, you should confront them and demand that they should be trained. Dogs can be trained for such things very easily, and they must take steps. If not, it's totally okay to call the authorities.

@@SmileWithPrachi They're feeding 7 to 8 dogs. It's pooping in front of our gates, barking continuously. Yeah, I'm gonna complaint to Local Authorities. I'm not opposite to feeding stray dogs but I don't think feeding dogs in a lane where people are surrounded is correct. Thanks for your reply 🙏

@@sri3199 poison the dogs😈

Get the dogs kidnapped if that is not possible , get them kil!ed.

@@goldeneagle5999 🤣🤣🙃

Just been insanely tired and sleep deprived 😔

@@SmileWithPrachi take care of yourself ❤

So should she take her own sister too, and will everybody be fine by that?

I do not think it is fine to label anyone as selfish as we do not know the full story...maybe she had her plans and now she can't do that now her in-laws are living with her...stop labeling people when you do not know her

@@nirupamasharma4389 ya if she have any problem n she dnt have any brother or sister then she should take care of her parents n vise versa ..... Just becoz u want to b with ur partner doesnt mean u should stop livibg with them.. Iam daying that any boy or girl if ur family nedd u then u should b there for them

@@Aniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii12345 it looks selfish to me by reading her letter... She judges her by saying if she dnt mary n thats her brother before her husband

@Priyanka Rana i wil say selfish if some one dnt wanna take care of his/her parents or siblings.... I really think its selfish just becoz u want to stay with ur partnr doesnt mean u should nt take care of ur other family member.... I m saying dis for about both girl n boy.... If girl have no one to takecare of her parents then her husband should take responsiblity n vise versa.... Y we call family i am sure she want to stay with her husband but at the time of problem she will call everyone