Leslie Vernick - Emotionally Destructive Relationships 

I have backed off from my toxic marriage. I know it is dishonoring God and it is not good for either of us to continue this way. We have been married almost 6 years and I kept hoping he would change. But now I have faced the truth of my value as a woman and I refuse to be treated this way any longer. I don't want to hurt him but I know this can't go on. I rely on God for my strength to separate from this dysfunctional man in my life. You speak truth! He uses the Word of God to try and make me feel guilty and stay. I pray I can stay strong enough to go through it. God Bless You! Keep up the good work God has called you to.

Leslie you helped me walk away from an evil Sociopath who used and abused me for over a decade! Thank you for your work Leslie! I share the videos with all those who I've met who need help.

Everything takes on a much more insidious complexity when dealing with a narcissist. “Speaking up “ is futile. Setting boundaries becomes a threat deserving of punishment. They will make your life a hell if you rock their boat.

Your message ministered to me greatly. Thank you. I need a Godly perspective on dealing with my abusive spouse of 29 years. Unfortunately, the church hasn't helped me and o don't know where else to turn.

Crying my eyes out. I am so broken. Will i ever heal.

Beautiful summary. in your books and talks you have put words to what I was experiencing, validated it and helped me map out the path out of the abuse. Still on the healing path, but I have come a long, long way. Trusting God to take me all the way. #dancingdifferently

That piano playing behind you takes a week from your speaking. Makes you harder to really hear because the music behind you is annoying . I really like listening to you but the music takes away from you . But thank you for sharing all of your wisdom it is really good and I’m sure that you’re helping a lot of people.

My husband insists that he is only being protective of me. Some of his may be true, but I have realized that it is a form of manipulation and control. This way if I don’t adhere to any of his commands , he will get angry that I didn’t follow his command and how I put myself in danger. He wants me to think that I am not capable to think on my own and make good decisions. It does help me talk to God. I am not able to get out. I am only getting more angry. He speaks very bad and disrespectful of my deceased father that he hates till this day. My dad has been dead for 8 years. I have tried to go to counseling and it helps temporary, but he is not going to change if he does not recognize his behavior. I believe anyone can change but this type of controlling behavior is very hard to break. Every now and then I get a glimpse of it. I know he has issues that go beyond our marriage. Please pray for me to continue to rely on God and to stop giving in to Satan’s will and look for ways to retaliate. Help me to speak truth to my husband through scriptures.

Leslie, thanks so much for these videos!!! I appreciate them a lot!!

I was constantly told “I was no princess”, but he’s wrong, I’m a child of the king

I keep feeling the tension of staying away from my abusive mother. She recently had a stroke and my efforts to help from a distant safe space have been frustrated by her foolish stubbornness and my destructive, in the way baby sister. I love all the way on ye other side of the country and I recently divorced a destructive husband. I am solo parenting school aged children. I come from a west African culture and we are expected to help our parents as they age (not an inherently bad thing) and we are expected to take the abuse no matter what. I just have no heart for that. Yet, turning my back on my mother in her current state just bothers my soul. Any insights are appreciated. Thanks Leslie for your work.

Yes, suggestion - drop the music. Makes it seem like your not sharing something important and professional... But something sentimental and mushy. Your not, but that kind of music brings up those connotations

Thank you for this upload. What's the beautiful music playing in the background?

Whoa, thank you. I needed this.

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I'm broken hearted because I don't have my husband to hug me nor give me an embrace. We don't touch although we still can have a decent conversation. He is angry with what i did 17 years ago but I had good reasons to do what I did. Anyway, because of what I did, he has refused to forgive me and we Move so apart from each other since then. Now I'm suffering because I miss him alot that I feel very depressed. I'm on medication now because I'm seeing a psychiatrist n a psychologist. I need help desperately.

I have a similar story with family members. It can be very isolating and was affecting my marriage which is why I sought out your books and videos. It got me thinking in a different way and things started to improve. It is not easy but it can happen.

Thank you leslie 30 marriage years I have so lost my true self I really find unfruitful talking to my partner she took over money control which became a one way valve so I'm a very reluctant door mat I feel so lonely around her but I feel solatud on my own whith out getting run down I like to talk to IAM he has never run me down he has only embraced me jesus told me that his father chose my partner is so hard having a relationship with her because my feeling are so ignored I have put so much energy to keep up putting effort into my self love but it is so very hard to live with my doubting partner who loves to put in negative digs I could go on but I don't wont to cause net damage..🤐

Thank you do much this is so helpful...

This is so helpful. Thank you soooo much for doing this video.

Thank you Leslie 🌸💜

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