Lesson on Kindness: Teaching kids about why their words have power 🗣️🍎  

Well that’s different like if you tell a loved one they need to lose weight

@@JosephineSimmons776No…just no

I usually redirect my grandma. “Ugh she’s so skinny!” “I know, look how long her legs are, isn’t she gorgeous?”

Yes definitely

​@@JosephineSimmons776... im pretty sure that's the point of adults learning it cause I don't need random people commenting on my hair or body.

@@GardenRose7282 people should hear if someone hates their hair color…?

@@GardenRose7282 your using words like indoctrinate to an 11 year old child. Thinking you sound smarter because you’re putting down a teacher. Although it is more intelligent to speak in a way that the child can understand you. Plus, did you understand the message? She’s teaching them when it is and when it’s not ok to say something and what makes it appropriate

​@venessa62 no, she's indoctrinating. Teaching kids lies are ok if they're dressed up as kindness. Some of the kindest things ever said to me were brutal truths that changed my life. God bless truth

@@CannabrannaLammer yes, but many of the things they say are subjective. If someone says “I dislike your outfit” this is not true for everyone. Y’all don’t know what indoctrination means anymore

You have my interest, what generation you popped into?

Gen z

@@Denicia-rw6tr either I am or you are in a weird group because everyone I know is nice and learned this

People I know are all very rude and don’t care about peoples feelings but I’m sure people I’m around are different from the people your around yk?

@@Denicia-rw6tr yeah definitely, I'm sorry about those rude people, hope you have good ones around you too

Me either. But then again, I went to a public school.

I taught at a public school and taught these things to my students. ​@@AngelaCopas

we had a ‘no bullying tolerance’ at our school yet kids would call others the f slur down the hallways and make fun of others races, they got away with it

It's funny. I don't remember this being taught in school but for the life of me can't remember where I learned it as I do remember being taught the 30 seconds thing.

Same with mine 😊

A good Christian teaching

Mom would tell us..If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all

@@beth3139mine too

Yes, my dad taught me this and I have always reminded myself of it. It definitely sticks.

Better one: they might need to hear it, but make sure they need to hear it from you!

Yes I completely agree with you. Words hurt. And some people maybe they weren’t able to be taught this and had smth going on in there life that made it hard but you should always try your best

Ok, but my mind immediately went to "But what if you can see a woman's underwear through her clothes and she doesn't know?"

@@TheDuckGenie if she can change it in 30 seconds tell her. 😂 mostly it’s a quickie 😂no offense

What the fuck are you talking about, WRAPPING brains? You must be a Trumper, huh?

She made a 60 sec video about how you should only correct people if they can fix it in 30 sec. It's also kindness to help people be better and that doesn't happen in 30 sec. I can already imagine you some people fuming, here's the fun part: if replies come in in it proves my point.

​@@SpMileit's evil really because it will prevent people from fitting in.

Right, the demo with the toothpaste really brought the whole message home. My generation really does need this lesson.

​@@SpMile Yes, of course there's a broader picture, but she made a good point.

​@SpMile your words: "it's also kindness to help people be better" Yes, my friend, you are absolutely correct about THAT key point. But you're misunderstanding that she is teaching to an audience who was making unhelpful, unkind comments. If you listen more closely, you will see she gives examples of types of comments. Commenting on someone's hair is not kind or helpful because they can't change it. She's specifically addressing unkind comments. Meanwhile your subject is equally as valid, but completely separate, because your point is that kindness is helpful. If a comment is said with love, gently and respectfully and in the right time and context. Here's an example of that: (setting the person to the side, in private where they don't feel embarrassed, taking them for a walk with you so that they don't feel stared at, and letting them know you want to speak about their weight, because you care, and want to help, but that you don't want to push them or pressure them, and that you will wait for them to be ready to open up about this. The beautiful walk, fresh air and silence, and safe person to share with, might get them to open up, it will surprise :)).

Everyone is equally responsible to be a good role model/teacher for children. Children can't learn everything from just their parents.

They are in school the majority of the day, nothing wrong if the teacher reminds them about those very important lessons.

@@sbdmw1No - not equally. Parents - by law - are completely responsible for their children. Teachers - like this great teacher in the video - teach many things to children. Kindness is first taught by parents at home. It is reinforced by teachers and others.

@@sbdmw1Of course children are in school the majority of the day. Of course there is nothing wrong with teaching important lessons. What’s your point? Again - Teachers - like this great teacher in the video - teach many things to children. Kindness is first taught by parents at home. It is reinforced by teachers and others.

This is not kindness, this is arrogance/people pleasing

You are very smart. Bullies are insecure and need to put others down to feel good about themselves. Please know your worth does not rely on them. You are a child of the most high God. He loves you.

@@truthbtold2596 thank you :)

I’m sorry you have to go through that.

@@suebolton5 thanks :) but I’m glad that the newest generation is now being corrected so this won’t happen to anyone younger

I wish I could impart to every being...... that what someone else does says or thinks or feels never has anything to do with you. It can only always be a reflection about how they feel about themselves and that is their issue to deal with.❤ it's not our job to take over for the work they have to do within themselves, we have our own selves to love on and provide care and unconditional love for😊

Another version I've heard of was using a sheet of paper. Every harsh word/criticism is a fold or crumple, every insult is a tear, etc. At the end, you can try anything you can to fix it, but the paper will never be the same again.

Share the video link so they can watch it.

I know a whole society. Neurotypical adults especially.

​@@ginathecookie Yes, I know A WHOLE PLANET that needs this!

@@ginathecookie Normal people need to hear this?

@@Lance.Gardenhire What does normal mean? Neurotypical just means someone whose brain typically functions the same as others.

This kindness lesson should be taught at home first. If it was, it would not be necessary for a teacher to do a whole lesson on kindess.

They'll graduate illiterate, but they won't tease each other about it. 😅

They matter now they're not "the next generation" they exist and matter now.

​@@mewho6199 illiterate kind people is far better than a bunch of literate sociopaths who go around stabbing people for fun, But that's also irrelevant considering the fact that you can teach multiple subjects in the same class... A lot of the stuff in public school is just repeat anyway I might as well actually have some other substance especially when the government has defunded them so much that they don't even have money for a floor

Around the world is so true! So many cultures fat shame and say it's because they "care" about the health of the person- but they are really just being mean!

She's a great educator, and person. I hope her next lesson is about not buying into the whole Karen stereotype name shaming. Because it's hurting real people, women named Karen :(

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Let's be honest here. Most of the people who need this lesson won't listen because they like the hurt they inflict on others.

I wanted to say it, too. Sometimes you have to tell something unplesant to your relatives or good friends to help them. But it is also jot neccessary to hurt them choosing the best way how to say it.

And then you realize how many of them watch alpha Male podcasts and cry yourself to sleep

@@rainbowdiamond9944 HELP 😭😭😭

​@@rainbowdiamond9944 Alpha males can't just become betas in 30 seconds or less. Hypocrite!!

Teachers doing things that aren't part of their job is wrong . They can't decide what to teach to children or you end up with teachers spreading their opinions to kids

Very true.

The 30 second rule might be accurate most of the time and I suppose the age group she is talking to doesn’t have the emotional maturity to distinguish the potential deep seated reasons some things are more delicate but could be addressed with close friends and some things are just a part of a person’s identity and not your business But like “you smell bad” could be fixed in 30 seconds or less and still very hurtful if not approached delicately by someone close

Agreed! Everyone needs to hear this.

@@junebunny0712 I work as a designer with the public and it baffles me which people look normal only to have no human decency whatsoever

If that were a mandatory thing, I would not go. If it were an optional thing, I would not go.

@@Lance.Gardenhire say ur childish without saying it 🤢

@@BlizzyBeezz I'm not gonna sit in class for some woman to tell me to be nice to others. What she says is bullshit anyways. I say the blunt truth. Much more helpful to people.

This kindness lesson should be taught at home first. If it was, it would not be necessary for a teacher to do a whole lesson on kindess.

*Every PARENT needs to. But teachers are picking up the parenting slack, nowadays.

I think this lesson needs to be taught both at home and in schools. Children tend to pick up different habits in different spaces.

Sometimes I am really happy for the time I spent in church. It's such a nice community. The steriotypes some people have about churches are so wrong in some cases.

I had the toothpaste lesson in elementary public school in the 1990s, as well. I think it may have been health class? Don't fully remember, but this demonstration is well over 30 years old and I'm surprised that more people don't already know of it.❤❤

This isn't new... These teachings have been used to keep girls submissive for centuries. Silencing people because their words hurt your feelings is disgusting! Telling little girls to "shut up or be nice" is even worse! Rephrasing it, doesn't change the fact that this woman is teaching the next gen of girls to stay submissive, because what people think about you is more important than your well being.

How is commenting something about someone's appearance that they can't change quickly in any way important? Maybe dress codes, but that's not up to kids to police.

@@Lin-rh6qs Yeah that was not the core advice given. Nothing that requires more than 30 seconds to change.

@@Lin-rh6qs Did you even listen to her?

@@crocadileassprobably, but I think this person is a proven case of selective hearing. Another good thing for people who fall under this thread to learn, that some peoples advice is only from what they chose to hear.

@@mmosley1978 this advice is geared towards elementary kids who have zero filters. It's teaching them to think before they say anything. Kids will say the most out of pocket things to adults and peers without even thinking it could be an insult. THATS what she's trying to nip in the bud. Learning how to properly critique and receive criticism is a whole different lesson they'll learn when they get older. You gotta crawl before you can sprint.

This lesson is about Diversity and Inclusion. Ask your state politicians why they have a problem with those terms.