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Let's Talk About Death | Rochelle Martin | TEDxKingStWomen 

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There is a 'Momentum' going on with all of us, with every breath, with every heart beat, we are moving closer to our end.
Better is possible. We can die and care for our dead better. We can face our cultural alienation from death head-on, and it starts with love - of our family and friends, of our communities, and of our earth.
Rochelle Martin is a Registered Nurse with specialty certification in Psychiatric and Mental Health Nursing. She holds a Master of Divinity degree from the University of Toronto, and has experience in emergency and acute psychiatry, palliative care, and spiritual care.
Certified as a Death Midwife and Home Funeral-Care Guide, Rochelle teaches individuals, families, and professional and community groups, about death-related care. In her work as a crisis-care RN, she supports families immediately following the sudden death of a loved one in ER.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

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Комментарии : 62   
@CristinaPerez-ib2uu
@CristinaPerez-ib2uu 3 года назад
"We save forests by planting ourselves". One of the greatest ideas I've ever heard.
@AlexandraFrosch
@AlexandraFrosch 5 лет назад
What a wonderful and compassionate talk. Right up my end of life doula street. It matters how we die - not just for the dying person. How we die lives on in all who survive us.
@depaula1710
@depaula1710 3 месяца назад
True and so important.
@homefuneralalliance
@homefuneralalliance 9 лет назад
NHFA member Rochelle Martin sums up beautifully this burgeoning move toward sustainable and authentic death and after-death care in this fabulous TEDx talk - one of the best explanations and most moving pleas - don't miss it!
@matrixkernel
@matrixkernel 3 года назад
Talking yourself to not fear it still doesn’t completely remove the fear once it becomes a closer reality.
@maryberon4193
@maryberon4193 Год назад
Very true!
@Alphacentauri819
@Alphacentauri819 7 месяцев назад
The fear can go...but it's a practice. It also involves letting go of the narratives, the control. If you haven't dealt with deep, subconscious, core wounds, programming, cognitive distortions and biases..those will drive and feed fear. When we are completely, fully, present with what is, and no expectation for the next moment...fear does not exist. -one who used to fear death a lot, despite working in healthcare. Mediation and mindfulness have been an amazing balm for the soul & I practice them daily, and am trying to bring them to all I do, every moment.
@depaula1710
@depaula1710 3 месяца назад
I am quite sure i will be afraid. And i am sad and moved by my relatives passing. But after habing spoken to them for 8 yers about their being sick and their dying, when they finally did, much of the process of grief had already taken place in our conversations. We went through all kinds of stages in those 8 years, and it has deepeed our connection infinitely. And when death came, it was more meeciful than we had feared.
@garykay7418
@garykay7418 Год назад
you are a thoughtful person. one notch below soylent green.
@coweatsman
@coweatsman 5 лет назад
We live longer than ever but mostly we live longer in declining health and disability.
@joaquincannon7898
@joaquincannon7898 3 года назад
a trick: watch series on flixzone. Me and my gf have been using them for watching a lot of movies these days.
@tannerjake7465
@tannerjake7465 3 года назад
@Joaquin Cannon yup, have been watching on Flixzone} for since november myself :D
@cboyken1
@cboyken1 8 лет назад
She did an awesome job. Thanks for the talk
@lisamarple3531
@lisamarple3531 5 лет назад
What a wonderful talk! One of the best I've heard. Thank you.
@swastirout7919
@swastirout7919 4 года назад
Absolute Best 💜🌼
@invisiblegirl28
@invisiblegirl28 Год назад
Putting a casket in the ground just never made sense. I think the body in the soil is better because it breaks down.
@depaula1710
@depaula1710 3 месяца назад
Totally! The body could turn into nutrients for the life of earth, but instead this whole process of embalming, caskets and concrete poisons and empoverishes the quality of the earth and environment. By wanting the body to keep its shape, we deprive the earth of it's health, nutrients and life. It's very bizarre. There's a rather beautiful way of practicing human composting, where we turn into rich soil. But we have to let go of the idea that the shape the person had is untouchable
@merilynnerush
@merilynnerush 7 лет назад
Amazing talk, Rochelle. Thank you! I plan to show this at the workshop I am teaching on End-of-life doula care and home funeral.
@claudiayanirarojas1808
@claudiayanirarojas1808 4 года назад
Merilynne Rush I work as a postpartum doula, I had never heard of end-of-life doula. Could you explain this, please. I’d love to hear what this job entitles. Thank you ❤️
@mintybusby434
@mintybusby434 Год назад
I don't know if we can know ahead of time whether we want DNR status or not. Years before her death, my mother was strongly opposed to DNR, but a representative from her hospital managed to talk her into it. But if my mother had known what her death would be like, I think she would have chosen more intervention. Her last words to me were loud and clear: "I don't want to die!" Those words haunt me. I had no power to save her. I still don't know if she was conscious trapped inside her paralyzed body for those last 9 days in inexpressible agony and misery and terror listening to people talking right in front of her about her coming death. I think we need to learn a lot more about death before we can have a clue how to improve the experience, but at least could we not talk about their death in the presence of their still-living but unresponsive bodies, just in case?
@Natalievcs
@Natalievcs 3 года назад
Brilliant talk thank you so much!
@karrot101
@karrot101 4 года назад
Thank you
@womble621
@womble621 2 года назад
Excellent! I agree entirely!
@keerthanaap4824
@keerthanaap4824 4 года назад
Enlightening !!!
@michelleglowala2360
@michelleglowala2360 4 года назад
Great Talk
@rnaidoo8349
@rnaidoo8349 3 года назад
Beautifully done, 😊
@paigehansen6491
@paigehansen6491 3 года назад
This should have more views! 🙌❤
@Andrea-dr2lt
@Andrea-dr2lt 5 лет назад
just planning to think more about death.. good reflections
@vijaysilver1927
@vijaysilver1927 3 года назад
Nice speech !
@ebybeehoney
@ebybeehoney 5 лет назад
Embalming is just a terrible thing. Nobody should be doing that anymore.
@k0smon
@k0smon 4 года назад
Kate///// Smells better than a stinking rotting corpse.
@ianconner7034
@ianconner7034 2 года назад
While I agree with you, there are some instances where ebalming is necessary.
@maryberon4193
@maryberon4193 Год назад
Now, 7 years later, in Canada, you now have medically assisted dying. Only a few states in the US. Wow. I didn't know that about cremation.
@poppamaddo5907
@poppamaddo5907 4 года назад
It is said that all life originated in the oceans. Why not let the oceans be our funeral casket? Would that not be more environmentally friendly and truly complete the cycle of the origin of life by returning our very matter to the place from whence it historically began?
@swastirout7919
@swastirout7919 4 года назад
What a wonderful idea! 💙
@maryberon4193
@maryberon4193 Год назад
Better than all the plastic that ends up there now.
@pawelsawicki7003
@pawelsawicki7003 4 года назад
It is okay
@antarshakti3093
@antarshakti3093 3 года назад
This woman is both very intelligent and very beautiful, a rare combination.
@kbmls3
@kbmls3 5 лет назад
Death positivity FTW
@mervinhanawalt7747
@mervinhanawalt7747 4 года назад
Canada & the USA's way of saying goodbye is so sad and such a terrible waste of money!
@Urania4007
@Urania4007 4 года назад
Memento mori: a phrase to live by
@aragornsargonath6793
@aragornsargonath6793 6 лет назад
How about I don't die since I'm planning to get bit by a vampire and live forever anyway?
@poppamaddo5907
@poppamaddo5907 4 года назад
With such a name it smacks of an historical previous life in Greek mythology times.
@winstonsolipsist1741
@winstonsolipsist1741 4 года назад
@@poppamaddo5907 Tolkien mythology
@romeovelasco4151
@romeovelasco4151 Год назад
Death is an appointment to man and to all living creatures. Lets not spend time dying but living for the Lord. 🕊️
@susanarmstrong4295
@susanarmstrong4295 6 лет назад
I don't think this new generation will want to do home funerals, cause they are always thinking about themselves and this is all about their loved one. We have to change that first. Thanks Rochelle,
@Lovuschka
@Lovuschka 5 лет назад
Sadly those options aren't available in Germany, as far as I know. You can't go to a national park and be buried there in a biodegradable coffin.
@ianconner7034
@ianconner7034 2 года назад
I don't think you can legally do that anywhere, but in a non-national park area or on a private property with the owner's permission, you can (or should be able to).
@languagefreeassangeteacher5338
Memento Mori - Remember that we are mortal. Thank you.
@arissalatiga6837
@arissalatiga6837 2 года назад
Islamic funeral is environmental friendly, it is can be said natural burial, affordable, and simple.
@VladyslavKL
@VladyslavKL 2 года назад
🐳
@lightoftheworld69
@lightoftheworld69 Год назад
I got Jesus bone
@thomascurry4762
@thomascurry4762 6 лет назад
I am definitely on board with what she is saying about embracing death, but her approach is something that I think would turn most people off. I just don't understand why she has to demonize current funerary practices in order to prop up how great she thinks her idea is. Again, I agree we could do better, but it doesn't mean we are doing the worst right now. Also, all this idealization of primitive cultures being so at home with death is a fallacy. Sorry to say, but Tibetans, Hindus, and other humans grieve the death of loved ones a lot despite the funerary practices. It's the individual factors of the person who grieves that determines how long, and of what type, he/she grieves. It has nothing to do with the funeral practice.
@shuepsx652
@shuepsx652 5 лет назад
It has a lot to do with the industry when the packages they offer don't fit what everyone wants. Who knows how many people does or doesn't fit their package if no one speaks about it? There are more than individual factors to consider when grieving. For instance, giving a loved one a burial and/or ritual that doesn't represent them at all, forever wandering if that's what they would have wanted. Also, the fact that some people may despise the death rituals of their own culture doesn't make a fallacy, in the same way that your comment is not a fallacy because you don't agree with her approach
@cheapa55gamingakacultistst80
@cheapa55gamingakacultistst80 5 лет назад
Idk is it all about money ?
@poppamaddo5907
@poppamaddo5907 4 года назад
Better grief be brief and life be long for the still living. Be happy for the gift of life don't be upset for what must inevitably end. To what end?
@carolmueller748
@carolmueller748 3 года назад
Would you believe that very soon death will be no more? That no one will get sick or cry tears of sorrow any more? Would you believe that these are the "last days" of man ruling man because God is going to have His will done on earth, as it is in heaven? Thrse are not my promises, read them from the One who is going to make all things new. Revelation21:4,5; Psalms 37:9-11,29; Daniel 2:44; Isaiah 55:11; Psalms 83:18!
@danajonesnolan2547
@danajonesnolan2547 Год назад
OH COME ON. None of that is true. Climb off that demonstrably false book with hundreds of contradictions.
@maryberon4193
@maryberon4193 Год назад
Nope
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