I find it insane that being a “angry black man” is seen as unacceptable even though the anger is justified, but we’re told that we should try to sit down and understand white conservative hog rage.
Plz don't make this about groups (conservatives/liberals). Black folks have been burnt by both, just as by republicrats/demopublicans. This is an at-home matter.
@@nastynealsmancave6574 My point was that being a “angry black man” is justified when you take into account all the shit they’ve had to deal with from slavery, Jim Crow, and modern systemic racism. Yet in the media there are think pieces and articles talking about how we should try to understand and sympathize with angry white conservatives and even nazis (I forget what outlet wrote that piece that was an interview with a nazi piglet and was trying to show that he was just an “average joe” even though he happened to be nazi scum) who are pissed they can’t be racist without consequences, or that they can’t sexually harass women without getting fired or sent to jail, or that they can’t force their lgbtq+ child into “conversion” camps anymore, etc. My point is the double standard when it comes to anger and the justification for that anger.
@@AlexeiIgnavich The pope before the current one was a nazi. Pope Benedict was in the Hitler Youth, while his predecessor was hiding people from nazis in Poland. That shows clearly that hateful ideology can infiltrate any part of our society.
@@AlexeiIgnavich I think your argument is valid, but it is most certainly true that there is racism throughout both parties, & that racism is systemic in my country. It’s been kept going by the ruling class IMO, to continue to see division. I think plenty of folks are starting to question the propaganda & misinformation now. Not enough, but we’re getting there
I see it more as "my skin tone is viewed as a crime", and how does one respond when actions/comments come from people of authority (law enforcement) from that point of accusation (just looking for an actual law infraction)?!
It's sadly a common story and a common set of thoughts among minorities who've faced violence, especially black men*. And that is truly a tragedy. We shouldn't have to life in fear or develop trauma disorders purely because abuse is deemed acceptable when it's toward someone who doesnt fit societal standards.
I'm thinking about it. Give me time to process the fact that he even responded. I'm still sitting in the moment in quiet contemplation. Thanks for the support though.
As another black woman..Alabama to be exact🙌🏽..I agree with you.. his videos make so much sense ..it’s very refreshing to see people who give honest- from the -heart responses..🥰🥰
@@brianmartinez7530 Really you compare a vaccine to slavery and racism. A global pandemic which has now killed more people here than the Spanish flu...and all we had to do was all pull together and you call yourself a pure blood...like you've never had any vaccinations or blood transfusion. Slavery, racism is not yours to change your selfish stance on a United front to help save lives....just leave us out of your false narrative.
Grew up white in Utah, visited Louisiana, had no idea why people of color there seemed to hate me, they'd never met me! Got indignant. Also couldn't figure out why there were Confederate statues everywhere... disturbing and surreal. Later, heard a podcast, a young woman, a Black woman, explaining, shaking with emotion, why white people should try to hear her... how every day of her life looked different from mine, how even the simplest things were a challenge. Never understood white privilege until that moment. Sir, please keep writing, and speaking. You will be heard, eventually even by shut-ins like me.
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Joe Biden can call a black man, who's one of his senior advisors "boy", so that word is officially NOT racist anymore!! Here's the link: ru-vid.comrchgYSS2OjU?feature=share
@@wassupstock I used to be against BLM until like 3 years ago , so many black people also stand up for other ethnic groups and even whites when their rights are taken away by a unjust criminal justice system that effects everyone.
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I didn't expect to be crying today but this story just broke me up. The least of white privilege is being left in peace and I can only imagine this man's torture, though I can feel the pain, and as long as this continues, we shouldn't consider ourselves free, none of us, not like this!
This is what parents say to their children in war zones . The fact that the talk even needs to be had makes one feel as though they are in a hostile nation.
Beau, I appreciate your honesty. One thing that African Americans don’t like is someone with a “white savior” complex. I think you know what I mean by that. In this video you are showing us that you are not the white man with all the answers and it is very much appreciated.
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“My skin tone isn’t viewed as a weapon” stopped me cold. I can’t relate to this situation. Can’t imagine how it feels. One thing I can do is say I believe it exists. Validate it. Try my best to raise a child who sees and acknowledges the injustices as well. And hope the next generation will do better than mine has.
Beau said "I don't see them sitting on me until I'm dead," and "My skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon," and I broke and teared up. I _needed_ to see this video, after constantly being accused of reverse racism and race card-playing in the Comment sections. Well-spoken again, Beau! God bless! ✊🏿
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Sorry about that spam reply, I reported it. I was going to say I agree with you. I was bullied throughout school, not because I was black (I'm not) but because I had to wear glasses and was (still am) ugly as home-made sin.
As a kid I was told by my racist grandfather, and several other racists, never to say "sir" or "ma'am" to black people, but to always say it to white people. Ever since then I've made it a point to say "sir" or "ma'am" to black people whenever I can, as a sign of respect.
@@lulubugz2852 I agree it's the bare minimum, and it's far from the only thing I do... but, it's just one little thing. For years few people in the South would do that, so it is noticed, after generations of things like being called "boy." It's a little thing, but little things can add up.
I'm with Beau. My heart goes out to black men caught in this toxic minefield. The fact that more have NOT fallen into this trap is a testimony to the character of these men and how much white Americans can stand to learn from their fortitude.
Beau, I'm a 62 yr old black man and your response was spot on 💯. I felt his rage but at 62 my rage subsides much quicker. Growing up in Alabama and drinking from Colored only water fountains at the country store I remember hearing my grandfather being referred to as "boy" a few time. He would then be very quite for a long time. It wasn't until I got older and reflected on those incidents that I understood the pain and anguish my grandfather felt. He never spoke on it. When we drove by a field at night with crosses burning we knew not to say anything. We didn't quite understand it but we knew that it was bad and grandpa probably was gonna be silent again for a long time. The rage and anger I felt eventually turned to tears and sadness for my grandpa. What I realized later was that our views on racism did not come from him. It came from our own experiences. When my kids were born I wasn't sure how to address racism. Each of them had a racist experience in elementary school that they still carry. When Yale recruited my son to play football one of the questions was "talk about an event that changed you as a person." He wrote about the 4th grade incident with a racist phys ed teacher. He will take that to his grave and so will I.
I remember my first blatantly racist encounter at age 7, and it was at school too. You're right you always carry it. There were other looks, mutterings and attitudes before, but that time was the first I was able to recognise it for what it was. Of course there have been many, MANY others since, sometimes worse, even here in the UK. But being dismissed, or more often than not goaded, as an 'angry black woman' sucks, no matter where it comes from.
Having no answer Beau, is better than a bull sit answers I here from whites that try to whitewash the problem or blame the black people for complaining! Thank you for your honesty.
@@thomasbrown9699 I think society could benefit from whitewashing the responsibility of racism. I stopped looking at racism as a black people's issue long ago, it's my issue to deal with, my peers and family that need to be delt with. I'm sorry you bear the consequences of my people's issues, and I'm sorry those consequences are so grave.
I to had a situation in the 4th or 5th grade that I have never forgotten (@47). It was picture day and I wore a beautiful yellow dress. just before the pictures were taken, a brown skinned girl from Hawaii (mind you there were only three brown/black people in the whole school) walked up to me and said you know what? You look like burnt toast with butter on it. I've never fogotten her.
"PTSD" isn't the wrong term, neither is the man's use of the word "torture" because it describes the torturer's aim perfectly, i.e. to use cruelty in order to inflict the most pain. Through his chosen words, I felt that man's insufferable pain.
Yes, as a white, Australian, woman, the only thing I can add is that PTSD can happen to anyone, not just soldiers. It can be caused by something sudden, like a car crash, or near drowning, or something prolonged, like domestic violence. In fact it seems to be pretty common in DV, which has a lot of parallels with what this man is describing - walking on eggshells, always looking over your shoulder, never knowing when something is going to blow up, always being the one at fault even when you know you're not. To the man who wrote the letter, hugs, best wishes, and respect, from the other side of the world.
Still chocked up. I've been waiting for decades to hear a white man use his privilege with the deep understanding that it's impossible to relate to what a black man (and women) has experienced yet be empathetic as well as supportive while providing space for processing and progress. Thx Beau for being that man. I really appreciate you.
Beau, I’m a 38 year old black man and watching this felt like having a beer with my oldest best friend who really really gets it. Can’t wait until the next one my friend. Keep the thoughts coming.
Man I was thinking the same thing. As black people in America we've all had to build a shell around us to deflect all the nonsense from America at large and from the personal interactions that happen from time to time that remind us there's something really inhumane about certain people. Sometimes I get angry and upset and my wife will ask me why and I just tell her it can all be too much. What's frustrating is I'm an optimist and I know the world can get better. I'm just super impatient about it.
So true. Patrice O'Neil even had a bit about this. Chasing after a white kid who called him a name and the kid ran to a teacher and Patrice was the only one that got in trouble. It's not like you're gonna murder him, you just want an apology and some mutual respect but the fucker ran lol. Ah, memories!
@@privateprivate5302 Yes, it's a provocation that they know they have the high ground on. I've always claimed there is a blurry line between racist sentiments and anger because when a person gets pissed and wants to fight then the racism comes out. IMO it's a cultural and societal conditioning that if there is this divide in an interpersonal conflict then the white person can always defer to the law to make their case, implicit in that is that structural racism benefits them. I've watched this play out my whole life and watched as some political parties platform gaslighting and claim it doesn't exist. I don't see it as much anymore because we've progressed and I live in a diverse community now. But growing up in an all-white community you watch racism ooze out as they forget you're different from them. But to be fair there is also an element of curiosity where they are genuinely interested in your experience of being different. Which by today's standards would get trashed by the woke. But it is coming from a sincere place of wanting to understand. You can only know the distinction between experiencing it rather than through a tweet or post.
@@YukonBloamie I am 44yrs old. I live is Missouri. My knowledge of racist actions, reactions and the motivations behind them come from first hand experience. Just like it's a "culture of racism" I am from a generation where elders TEACHING black children how to NAVIGATE racism is also a"culture". I was blessed to be born of a generation that DIRECTLY benefitted from the civil rights movement I was blessed to have grown up in an era, where white flight was in full effect, but the neighborhood i grew up in, though predominantly black, was predominantly working class. My school district was one of the wealthiest in the state. where living in a black neighborhood didn't automatically mean disenfranchisement. My neighborhood was black, my schools were predominantly black, my teachers were of ALL races and ALL had marched on Washington. St Louis is a segregated city, but my part was only predominantly black. ALL our teachers cared for us. Taught us black history. Explained racism and the motivations behind it. And taught us as black kids how to navigate it. On field trips when we were going to be mixing with "the white schools from the racists parts Missouri" Our teachers, like parents, taught is what we would encounter from those segregated farm land schools. Prepared us to be provoked by students and their teachers calling us Niggers, and micro and Macro aggressions. As kids, that's just the way of the world. "White people from those far out farm lands are just racists and ignorant and not exposed" we were taught We. Even had to protect our white students, we were predominantly black, but not completely And it was more uncomfortable for our white classmates to be in the middle of or bear witness too racist aggressions toward us, than it was for is as black kids But as kids we were protected As a young adult though armed with all my knowledge on race relations, experiencing it without the protection of an elder was like The Matrix I didn't realize it was as bad as it was under the protection of an all black school in an all black neighborhood with progressive former civil rights activists as my shields I had to see and understand the reality of racism beyond the farm hands and the segregated school children I learned in college, white girls provoke and then play Victim I learned that even when they are wrong, administration will take their side I learned that a lot of the sht they did was MANIPULATIVE in that they THOUGHT they could predict how i would react and how they would be able to USE my reaction against me I learned NOT to be their puppet I learned to predict their games and the motivations behind those games I learned to choose my battles when I was attacked I learned life as a black person has to be lived BEYOND the guise of what's purely right vs wrong What I know is that for a black woman at least, it's a little bit easier, because hateful white men aren't also intimidated by me like they are with the black men that they hate Lesser threat meant decreased mistreatment Navigating racism is a life long journey. It will never end. Not in the United States
@@carrieullrich5059 One of many words my son hears a lot. I constantly worry about what ignorance he will have to deal with today. It is a rage that Noone deserves to live with and I have very few answers for him. I pray a lot. My hope for you is to always get home safely.
What you say is true and your words are wise. It would be wonderful if the officers of the law did exactly the same then maybe those doing the provoking would dial it back because they would no longer have the guarantee of the police deciding the victim is in the wrong before they even get to the scene of the fracas.
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"hey everyone, the way you convincingly fake caring is pausing for a few seconds to make the person your talking to think you actually give a damn... thats the right way, instead of actually giving a damn"
Just at first glance, seeing the title of this clip, “How Should Black People Respond to Racism,” literally *HORRIFIED* me! But, then, I breathed a welcome sigh of relief … Because my rational mind quickly caught up with my hair trigger emotional response, and it sharply reminded me: *”DON’T WORRY, GIRL! YOU KNOW DAMN WELL THAT BEAU HAS GOT THIS!!!”* Then I settled in to listen to Beau attempt to educate those whose white privilege supersedes their critical thinking capacity! ❤️Thank you, Beau! As always. Once again, one of your clips brought me to tears.❤️
When I read the title I was initially offended bc I thought to myself "you should have no opinion on how black people should respond to racism." I'm glad I watched bc your "I don't have an answer" was the best answer I've heard come from "the other side of the pool."
The only answer I have as a white woman raised in the South is to demand that those like me step up and speak out if we are a witness. It may not be much, but it isn't nothing. Which for too long has been the norm.
I, too, am a white woman in the south, and I can absolutely relate! Empathy, compassion, education, critical thinking, humility, honesty, and solidarity are integral components in the fight to end America’s enduring disease of systemic racism. I thank you for yours. 💗
I too am I white woman in the south and I pledge to be a better ally to my friends of color. To the author, I don't know the answer either but I hope you know that you are loved and supported by many people that you will never know. Your words brought tears to my eyes and touched my soul.
I'm not black, but I'm angry that anyone is made to feel like this man feels. All I can say is to realise that it's the racists who are something less than human, and to feel how you do, says you are truly human and my brother.
Then you have people who say “Stop playing the victim”, “that was a long time ago”, “I never owned ***, my ancestors never owned ***”, “Stop playing the race card”, “What about what you people do to each other in Chicago”, etc, etc. Deflect, Deflect, Deflect….
You made me cry when you said, "I can't really relate to this." And you are correct...it's exhausting!! Thank you for your thoughtful, empathetic response.
I think you handled this perfectly. I would only disagree with your thinking that someone who looks like you isn’t helpful in putting out a message such as the fellow who wrote so eloquently . It’s people who look exactly like you do Beau.. who sound like you & speak in the way you do, that WILL help change the hearts & minds of the brainwashed & the clueless. Hardcore racists? No, they’re a lost cause imho. I could be wrong. One of my many shortcomings is that’s I don’t tolerate fools for long. It’s the rest of the people who have the chance of changing. We need to come together against those who interminably divide us & keep some of us under their boot heels.. or their knees.
@@dshepherd107 I couldn't look less like Beau. I'm sure regarding skin color, I look something like the man who wrote the letter. I commend Beau because he just may get through to people who look like him (as you note). I know too deeply what happens when people who 'look like me' try to explain or describe these experiences, without support from people who 'look like' Beau.
@@cheriann6461 😄 Some new utube user maybe? Hi to you as well. I was following your conversation with the guy whining about the neighbors. I said my two cents worth, but I didn’t think it was my place to speak for someone else. You said everything I noticed about his comment. I think it’s just another form of creating discord. The trolls are getting more insidious.
This subject brings me to tears every time. As a black man, how do we turn this into something positive? It literally leaves me at a loss if words out of frustration and disgust.
Um... let's remember that black people wanted integration, you guys bought into "one for all" message, and never looked book. Be careful what you wish for.
The term you're looking for is 'Complex PTSD'. Where "normal" (for lack of a better word) ptsd is caused by hugely intense 'short' moments, complex ptsd is sustained stress and fear (i.e. hypervigilance) over a long time.
Complex PTSD refers to sustained trauma during childhood, usually. Because it has different consequences (in brain development) than similar situations would have later. It's often likened to surviving a POW camp. He almost certainly has it. I'd guess a good number of black people do. I do too. There are a lot of differences, but the two most relevant ones here (in my opinion) are 1 - that you are more likely to get triggered to anger more than fear, but also to suppress that anger, because it's not safe to feel and express it and you need to stay alert and clear headed. And 2 - that people don't really get your triggers, and don't take you seriously. Someone coming back from a war can point to an event that everyone can easily see is traumatic. They have only this sense of vague awfulness and can't find a comparable experience of their own, so they take it seriously. But us, with C-PTSD? Not so much. A lot of people will hear something like this man's words and they think that he's exaggerating for attention. That he's being oversensitive and unreasonable and needs to just deal. They do that because someone was mean to them in high school or their little brother always called them some annoying nickname and they think that it's the same experience. And you really don't have any good way to respond to that.
Thank you. This was the comment that I was looking for. Was going to state this too. Learnt about this term in recent years of growing up. And listening to a psychologist or two online about this topic.
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You don't get too many with a sound mind and honesty like Beau...like he said,the question alone is just a thought, and he didn't have an answer Much Respect
That was powerful. When I hear the phrase "angry black man," I immediately think of two men: Fredrick Douglass and Malcolm X. I think black people in the USA have a right to be mad. I mean, race is a social construct, but the systemic discrimination is real.
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Thank you for admitting that you don't gave a solution, because you can't relate. It means that you are far more aware and honest about the situation and what is at stake for black people.
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I was shaky coming into this. I thought "No, not Beau", and even more shaky listening cause I relived all of my experiences through this brilliant Brother. Thank you for sharing Beau, and always showing humanity lights the darkness of rage.
What would have been the problem with Beau giving his advice (if he felt he had any worth sharing) when he was asked for it? I can understand not wanting to be advised when you haven't asked for it, but.. if you do and you get angry once you are given the advice, then I'd say you are being quite unreasonable. The issue that is white to black racism isn't anything special, in terms of natural systems. It is simply another version of repression. If Beau was for example a poor white person in a rich neighbourhood he could have faced similar societal separation, or if he were raised in a deeply Christian family whilst not being one, he could have faced similar experiences in terms of societal repression and physical harm, or if he were a military person living with PTSD he could have shared how he deals with feeling threatened at every step or if he were an anti-government person during the Nixon days when such people were persecuted and imprisoned (or even today, whistleblowers for one). Granted, neither of those would probably result in his death, and neither would fully encapsulate all aspects of being a black person in the USA, but it's not unreasonable to assume that he could have had some advice on some aspects of it. And, granted, he doesn't so he just flat out says so. But why would you immediately assume he hasn't shared similar experiences or that it's impossible for him to have based on his race? What is it with this race division so deeply ingrained in our brains? Why do people divide themselves in blacks, whites and other such bullshit? We share 99.7% of our DNA with each other, we are very very close. Race is an illusion, a tool used for power. Why can't an Asian person give advice to a Black person or a Black person to a White person and vice-versa and so on, even on race related issues? It's all about if you have had a similar experience and if you feel it's something which might prove useful to the person asking you for the advice. It may not be, but that's okay, the person being given the advice will decide for themselves. To be honest, the self-preserving response a black person can take, to being verbally abused in public, is similar to being verbally abused at your workplace by your boss, which is the advice most workers can give you regardless of their race - you shut your mouth and don't respond in any way if you don't want to face repercussions. Granted, losing your job is a far smaller issue than facing imprisonment or cop abuse but that depends. If you're a poor white, latino, asian, w/e person, losing your job can be catastrophic. And if you're Will Smith, the repercussions probably won't result in your death. So... it comes down to power and privilege and the fact that black people have far less of it if they are lower or middle class. Granted. But a poor white person in Russia or Kazakhstan has far less power over their own life than a black person does in the USA. And a black person in some parts of Africa even less. My point is... sure, it's likely that a white person in the USA won't have proper advice for a black person in the USA. But assuming that they wouldn't is... well, it's racist, no other way to put it. We are rounding numbers, simplifying people's individual experiences into "us" and "them". That is not to say that white people should go giving advice to black people on how to live as a black person in the USA, hell no. To be honest, no person should give advice to anyone unless asked. But don't get angry at someone for responding when asked, especially as a third party. You can't know if their advice is good or not before hearing it out and you can't know if their advice is useful to the person asking. Same way you can't know if a black person's response would have been good or not. It all depends on the individuals. Anyway, hopefully one day the USA can resolve their racism issues by rooting it out from the government and corporation systems, which are the core of the problem, to my eyes at least. It's sad to see people so zealously separating themselves into "us" and "them".
@@arkthul8872 : How exactly does one go about giving advice for a situation they have never found themselves in? One might even consider that the epitome of the Dunning-Kruger syndrome. And Beau is certainly not someone who is too weak to be introspective.
@@arkthul8872 I don't know if there would necessarily be a problem in and if itself, but Beau answered from his heart here, and honestly, in doing so he forged a connection with the writer that said, "You're valid, you're being heard, and like you I don't have an answer." (I agree in general with a lot of your points here, so I won't respond to those other than to thank you for taking the time and thought to share those with us.
@Allen Greer Sir, I, like Beau, can't answer this man's eloquent and heart-rending question. But, a word in your comment struck home to me. 'relived' is that word. What I will tell you, through my struggle with combat related PTSD, is advise given to me by one of my VA therapists. She was asking me to share more of my combat experiences. I, as most vets do, had tried to forget them. Isolate them and and find a good place to bury 'em...deep. Her gentle, but persistent, prodding evoked from me a rage-response and I asked her if being a sadist was a required prerequisite to becoming a therapist or just a helpful bonus. I'll never forget her response. She said, " I need you to remember and share your horrible memories enough times 'til you can recall them without reliving them." Her words have helped me. So, I felt the urge to share them with you. I pray her words may help you as they have helped me.
I remember leaving Chicago with my dad to go to Louisiana on Amtrak cause his mom was dying. I enjoyed the train ride and dad introduced me to “ Onion soup “ which I loved. When we got down south to the ticket agent dad had forgotten his I.D. The ticket person said to my dad “ Boy don’t you know we could lynch you ? And nobody would know who you were ? “ as an 8 year old black girl that broke my heart😥 I immediately realized that my hero was just a man , I felt he was just a helpless Blackman and I was afraid for him . To this day some 50 years later I don’t care for my beloved “ Onion soup “ anymore. Hatred destroys and that’s all it does and will ever do. Thank you Beau. May God bless you and your family to prosper in every way ❤️🙏🏾❤️
I feel for the writer. No one should have to endure this sort of thing. He is no boy, he is a man and deserves all of the respect given to any other man. There is no excuse for this treatment.
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I appreciate that you did not try to answer and that you admitted as much. I am a black woman with three sons,I had my one and only daughter pass away from illness a few years back. The trauma of loss and the chronic trauma of having to live in a state of fear is overwhelming. We can not be angry,mad or even frustrated and scared. Our lives depend on taking a breath,being disrespected,and walking away. Yet we are expected to stand up for,fight for the very people that do it.
The only real experience I have, that might be a similar feeling, is when, as an abused spouse, I was told that if I was a good wife, he wouldn't hit me. The rage I felt, how trapped I felt, how powerless I felt. But, I eventually got away. This man can't get away from his skin tone. I hope he finds a way to find peace.
Except that why should he want to get away from his skin tone. It's the other guy who needs to find a way to get rid of his irrational fear of black skin.
@@margaretnicol3423 It's not the skin tone in itself, it's the treatment that American society gives to people with that skin tone. He could get away from it by emigrating, but that's a huge step. Just as leaving your spouse is.
@@margaretnicol3423 No arguments from me. Each person is whatever they were born. Not inherently good or bad, we all just are. Being judged for what a person is born as, no matter the topic (skin tone, gender, sexuality, nationality) is just wrong.
@@dalstein3708But even then move where? Africa? They don't know it, as that history was systematically taken from them. Move to Europe where it is better? I suppose they won't get killed as easily and quickly but even (t)here racism thrives, just in different forms. The biggest similarity between abuse in a relationship and racism would be in my very flawed opinion, that the abuse/racism is in no way the victims fault and the only thing they can do besides fleeing, is to endure it. Neither is great when it comes to the matter of skin tone. In fact, I would argue that they shouldn't have to do anything at all. Or at the very least not on their own. This is not a matter of them vs us, but solely a matter of us as human beings no matter the skin tone. As long as we as a society do not stand up and speak out and force others to listen to their stories, they cannot speak out. The only way forward is together. Anyway, I am just a man, who happened to be born with a skin tone that is not discriminated against in such a vile way. I do not have any answers or solutions. Most of what I said is based on feelings of how things should be and dreams of how they could be. Unfortunately hopes and dreams don't change reality and neither do my thoughts or prayers help when fellow humans experience this injustice on a daily basis. But as Martin Luther King said: "I have a dream", and it is my hope that one day his dream becomes real for all of us.
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One side keeps asking questions that keep getting answered, but they don't like the answers. The other side keeps asking questions that either aren't answered or with bullshit answers.
White in a very white European country, I have never experienced racism. I only knew classism: "She? Oh, it's nothing, she's my maid's daughter." or "She got a scholarship? I thought she was a good girl ..." and anti-intellectualism: "Are you going to college? How pretentious!" Rejected both by mine and by the bourgeoisie, I ended up pitying them, because a piece of soul is missing from people deprived of vision and warmth. Sir, you write wonderfully. Your soul is hurt, but it is whole, otherwise you would not be angry. I don't know what to tell you except that your words and your voice have power. I believe Beau is right: the world needs to hear from you.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” - Nelson Mandela
I would love to believe it but, i just cant, i honestly believe alot of people are born with nothing but hate and get off on people suffering or manipulating people for their benefit
KNOW HOW YOU FEEL MY FATHER CHANGED HIS LAST NAME TO GET A JOB BECAUSE WAS NATIVE AMERICAN WHEN I WAS BORN HE RAISED ME AS WHITE DIDN'T TELL ME WHO I WAS. WHEN I WENT FOR THE ARMY THEY CHECKED MY BACKGROUND THEY TOLD ME MY FATHER HAD NO BIRTH CERTIFICATE. WENT TO AND TOLD THEM TO LOOK UNDER LIGHTFOOT.TALKED WITH DAD AND HE DIDN'T WANT THE HATE HE WENT THRUE. FOUND OUT LATER IN TEXAS WHY HE DIDN'T. YEP HATE FOR A HALF BREED.
There's one thing people that don't look like him can do. They can be allies- we can all be allies to each other, and watch out for each other when hateful instigators show up.
Well said - you have "no idea" of how to respond to the Generational Trauma black men have had to endure here in the US. Continue pausing and speaking the truth my brotha. You are appreciated.
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Beau, PTSD is exactly the best description, because black people in general, and black men in particular are at war. Not war as in violence, while that does happen. But rather a Cold War, like the U.S.A. and Russia. Its a probing, prodding, hyper vigilant, state of distrust and anxiety. Its a burden that can't be put down. Thank you for articulating it so well.
Thank you, Friend ❤️ I have 2 teen Black sons; Kings in the making, that this video has helped me with. Thank you so much, My Friend 👑 The question alone and your response taught me a lot. Evil doesn't have a color. Black men are trying to dodge racism and black on black crimes. We have to respond to these 2 evils by still doing the WISE thing and having that relationship with God 🦋 #YouGotThisBrothers 💪🏿🖤✊🏿
There are a few things that I can't understand and racism is one of them. Thinking differently about anyone because of skin color is ridiculous and ignorant! I have absolutely no tolerance for racism. That letter is heart breaking.
I'm so grateful for my mom to move away from her tired old farm town of Alabama, to work at UAB in Birmingham. She raised me as a single working mom. Growing up in B'ham, my school was evenly mixed as far as race, and my elementary school best friend was black. It was never something I really considered, honestly. She came from a pretty racist family, but luckily for me she knew that was just wrong.
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As a white man, I can't relate to this either. I had my eyes opened last year when a black pastor guest preached at my church, and said something that will haunt me for the rest of my days. He said the he had to tell his children how to talk to cops, because "I'd rather pick them up from jail than the morgue." I will never have to have that talk with my two girls, and it is unfathomable and unconscionable to me that that's even a conversation that has to happen. I want so badly for my black brothers and sisters to have what I take for granted every day, and it's soul crushing that I, alone, can't give them what they rightfully deserve as human beings. I can vote, I can give to good causes, I can volunteer in my community and love my neighbor. But that never feels like enough. I wish I knew what to do.
When my kids first got their license my first words to them was "if you get pulled over keep your hands on the steering". Congratulations came second 😔😔.
I cry for my son as I have seen with my own eyes his pain .... I am so afraid for him the moment he leaves his home. He has asked me stop with my worry as he feels my energy & it is making him afraid of life. Thank you dear Sir
@@jeffengel2607 just checked his channel and realized that I recognize him from my recommend videos recently, guess the algorithm isn't completely wrong.
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Also check out CPTSD, a subcategory where trauma is sustained over time rather than from a single traumatic event. The hypervigilance, the emotional flooding, the same symptoms but often not properly understood as trauma.
This made me think of a lyric Frank Zappa wrote in 1965: I'm not black but there's a whole lots a times I wish I could say I'm not white. I cannot begin to feel what the man who wrote you feels but this shit just makes me nuts.
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Wow man you hit it right on the head. As a black man I tune in to you often with hopes that if you and I and people that look differently can just hear out the other side, we can make progress. Keep going 💪
That was the guy who wrote the message, not Beau. Racist incidents towards that guy who messaged Beau make him so mad and hurt inside he hits himself. ☹️ 💔
Indeed. Hit yourself somewhere else if you "need" to hit yourself (though having something you can use to hit something else would be better still). Else, you're doing what they want to do and you'll eventually become what they see you as, cognitively inferior.
Take it out of context and it reads like a textbook example of extreme child abuse. Our society is grinding a huge chunk of the adult population into a state that if it were to be happening in a single household, the violence of the state would be brought to bare in defense of the victim.
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When I was in the Navy a long time ago my Black friends that were called that always replied,” You See A Boy Knock Him Down “.Needless to say they always remand standing. I always respected them even more after that.
Honest conversations coupled with earnest actions towards serious change is the only way we can fix systematic problems like racism, sexism, and bigotry.
This one really hurts. This man deserves an answer because having to turn his anger back on himself is just adding more trauma onto the enormous pile of the trauma he already has.
@@evilsharkey8954 Not just depression. I have actually been in the hospital for depression and its pal anxiety. I can't even begin to tell you what that's like. Those conditions also cause physical illness which could become life-threatening. This should be considered assault, but good luck in making the charge stick. If the cops would even make an arrest, which I highly doubt.
@@Tam5115 : You're right, and he deserves more than an answer. It's unfortunate that this is one Beau cannot rightly answer though, since he could never even be in that position. There are however a whole lot of wise black men out there who can answer that question. Some of them even have youtube channels that are awesome. I can personally recommend _T1J_ and _DL Hughley._ T1J reminds me quite a lot of Beau in how he very logical and not at all sensationalist.
You are right. This man deserves an answer. But perhaps the outlet of release he chose this time (meaning the words he wrote to Beau) and Beau expressing his own inability to do the words justice will have a greater impact on more people than we can imagine. So many messages of support on the comment thread. So many people coming out of the shadows and relating to those words. Maybe it’s not enough...at least for anyone who has been subjected to this kind of hurtful and toxic rhetoric. But one small step leads to another...and another...and another as we all search for some kind of answer and some kind of peace.
His message was so eloquent. I don't know who you are, sir, but you have a gift; you painted a picture that I felt in my soul. I don't know what your aspirations are but I think you should write.
@@Andrea.1tree yes. I think security will be much better this time. Hopefully they leave the AR-15s at home. And I doubt Congress will be in session for them to threaten personally. Let them bring signs and whine like sore losers, it will be funny as long they're peaceful. How many will catch Covid and spread it? That's gonna happen. Their herd is self thinning 😂. Darwin awards for all.
@@comfortablynumb9342 I think the protest at the Capital will just be a distraction. I took a deep dive into many conservative channels last night, and the majority were full of conspiracy nut jobs screaming about the mark of the beast, Walmart’s closing down so the government can mass inject them, and end of the world fear mongering. Sept 18 is supposedly going to kick off their response. I am concerned.
And yet we do. Forty-three million of us, every single day. Any mundane interaction with a cop, social worker, or random racist neighbor could be a death sentence. And only because white people refuse to deal with their fear of Blackness.
@@lavenderkitchensink to add to this, anecdotally, I have three members of my family that are current or former police, yet I STILL tense up a little interacting with the police. It's a learned fear, but difficult to be rid of; like Beau said, I'm seen as a threat by default. It sucks.
It won't end until there's a mass response to black oppression until that time there are other countries this guy could consider living in. As black people we cannot avoid racism but in the US we are more likely to die by it because the system is built on it and defends it. The guy also needs to join a support group.
"Just because I prefer peace, doesn't mean I forgot how to be violent." Every person in history who fought back against a tormentor and didn't become one themselves.
@@deanjustdean7818 Baby steps.... incremental changes in perceptions of past and present situations that lead to more productive paths... "The art of not giving a f**k" Is a decent book for seeing the past-present connections as they were... Sometimes we run into bastards and it's not our fault. (100% - 0% percent responsibility) Sometimes we participated out of naive youthfulness or something. (50% - 50%) Sometimes responsibility is all ours and we're putting blame where it doesn't belong out of blind arrogance. 20% - 80% Taking 100% responsibility for the present-future connections and choices is what takes courage and emotional maturity.
@@deanjustdean7818 Sounds like you and I had some similarities in a sh!++y childhood. That rage sneaks up on me still at 56. I don't know if it affected me the same as it did you. I never got any help though. At 56 I still have my own issues.
I was too. You can at least be proud you unafraid to feel. Keep that strength alive. Crying is a good thing because it helps us release what would otherwise stay locked away behind walls of fear and so later become toxic rage, and even violence. Emotional balance is key to a healthy human. Hiding from our emotions greatly imbalances us and is extremely unhealthy. You on the other hand are doing fine.
I really never thought that the way I feel could be PTSD until you described it. The crazy part is I've been operating on that level for so long that I'm always angry even when I smile.This one hit too close to home.
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