Im in a similar boat as you were Mark.... My business got crushed after covid. I built it back up and in 2022 my business partner got cancer and the business got crushed again. Then in 2023 my wife asked for a divorce. I'm 47 and have to completely rebuild my life from scratch. You're videos are a big help. It's comforting to know others have been through the same thing and came out ok...
Hi Mark, been watching your videos tonight - glad i found them :) at 47, went through a divorce i did not want - my biggest concern and worry was the effect on our two girls who were 10 and 8 and that time (i'm three years divorced last month) - while it was amicable for the most part, having to sell our house, getting laid off at my job while going through the divorce and my Dad passing just before the divorce happened, i have never been in a lower place - for a year and half i was freakin' depressed, developed brutal anxiety over my body giving me pains that i have never had before - this time last year i had to get my life back on track because i could not live like that anymore and i needed to be physically and mentally fit to raise my girls. Your videos are very inspirational and I can relate to all of them so well. Thank you for posting these :)
Good to hear from you, Mark. I find your messages helpful and hopeful. It's been hard to get my head around starting over with a new life that I didn't want, this late in life. Especially one that redefines how I defined myself. You're right about getting our mental software straight. Also dealing with the emotional aspect. And the overarching spiritual. Not to mention financial and all the real world pressures. I've seen some people take it more in stride, but for myself it's been the hardest thing ever, and I've done some hard things. Can't tell you how much I appreciate you putting your guidance out for us.
You’re a good man. I wasn’t able to overcome the series of setbacks. It included my wife’s betrayal, parental abduction to asia, career firing. And total collapse
Glad I saw your video. I'm 38 years old. 9 years of marriage and 3 awesome kids but we are getting divorced. I don't want this divorce. We actually stopped divorce proceedings a few months ago to work on our marriage but my wife is just not interested. I'm blamed for everything. I feel the worst for our kids. They are little but they know something is wrong.
I went through the same thing 2 years ago three kids,15 years of marriage. I almost had an identical situation with my wife filing and then her supposedly giving me a second chance, and I still can't understand what I could have changed to make our marriage last. If your wife has checked out only a miracle will save your marriage because it takes two people who want to make a marriage work not just one. And today's society rewards women and that is the unfortunate truth, to almost encourage them to divorce their spouse. I feel your pain fight for your kids to be the best dad you can for them because they will truly see who the more loving parent is in the end.
@@seth1704 hi. as a man who has been through all this and more, I would just add to your comment by saying it’s really important not to think of which parent is better or more loving etc etc. Very difficult to do, but we must. hope this makes some sense.
@@seth1704 I agree with everything you said. The courts do favor women when it comes to divorce. Is it any wonder why 80% of divorces nowadays are initiated by women? It's very sad. My wife checked out years ago. She is putting her emotional needs above everything else. Men tend to want to try to fix things and we don't want to just quit. I took my vows seriously and we have children so I would do just about anything to make it work but you're right, it takes two.
@@Onlinesully I see what you're saying, I maybe should have a worded it differently, and maybe I'm just assuming that everyone's situation is similar here, granted I'm no psychologist and I don't know if psychologist can diagnose it perfectly all the time either, but my spouse was very narcissistical, and to be divorcing a loving father with three children is a pretty selfish ambition, I would just like to point out to the dads out here to love their children in a non-narcissistical way. No child should have to love one parent over the other, but if your spouse is seemingly using them for financial gain and really not spending time with them you would want to be the better parent and show them what true love is.
@@seth1704 hi Seth. I understand all of what you’re saying. It’s so difficult. Sometime, i can try and tell you what happened in my life and what I’m trying to live with. It’s been so horribly difficult.
I'm in the middle of a divorce now... Two kids, perfect house, dog... I feel guilt and great loss, worrying. Got a heavy stone in my chest. Right now I just want to feel anger, in a positive way. It's so inspiring two watch your videos, helps a little. What you say I know is right on the inside.
Hi Mark, I really want to ask you how did you hold your confidence and self esteem together, when you’d experienced loss of wife and livelihood. Thanks again,
It's amazing how everyone you have helped takes a royal crap on you when things go pair shaped. But that's what you need is rock bottom to build a castle.
