"Reading all the encouraging comments to my love story with my late wife, Doris on The Royal Singapore and here on RU-vid that's coming in every day, brings lots of tears to my eyes. You are well loved Doris, and so am I, I guess. . Thanks guys, you are awesome!
You are an AWESOME man Sir.My brother had schizophrenia for 20 years before dying aged 35 , his illness was and still is the toughest thing we had to deal with mental illness doesn't affect the sick only but their family mrmbers too nut LOVE has a huge role to ease the journey, so seeing how you stuck around Doris , is really something speacial.
you did a great job and your love to her was so big and immense that it touched us who heard your story. I've been in touch with a number of mental illnesses, depressives or obessives, these people are rather OK to handle, but schizophrenics and persecutory delusives are toughest to deal with, since there are occasions they simply lost their mind completely (living in delusions) and you can do nothing, that's really tough for the family and I wholeheartedly sympathize their plights. what I can do somehow is just to listen to those family members who want someone to talk with and blah everything out. That's basically what I could do for them.
“I am deeply grateful with the uplifting wonderful comments on our love story - Doris and myself that was produced by the GREAT production team of The Royal Singapore which has been uploaded on Facebook as well as on RU-vid. I am happy that our story is going viral- every day. Readers made the effort to write their heartfelt feelings. This is one way we can build a far better society. And I have achieved what I set out to do for 10 years - as a staunch mental health advocate - by changing perceptions where people fully understand the struggles caregivers and patients face when we take ‘the road less travelled.’ So that someday, some how, persons with mental illness can gain acceptance in society. Then we can become a truly inclusive society. Most certainly, I want to surround myself with people who can lift me higher. God bless all of you abundantly. You made the DIFFERENCE."' -Raymond Anthony Fernando -
Hope TRS can change the title of this video. Doris was a wife , sister and daughter, much more than an illness. Society needs to realise that people with psychiatric disorders are sufferers themselves and not the disease. The title should be "Living with a spouse who had schizophrenia." God bless Raymond for staying on the narrow road of LIFE. Matthew 7:13-14
Raymond, Doris left not because of schizo but pneumonia, you have succeeded. You left your job and take care of her and held her hand to walk the tough journey together. I am so touch. You are a good hearted man. Take good care, May God bless you in every way!
20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes the key words in scaling greater heights is, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfill your dreams.
Omg this braught me to tears. My son has Schizophrenia. And those around him love him. He is a wonderful man who takes his meds and embraces this horrible illness. Although he claims it's not to bad. When he is quiet I sit with him, and then bursts of my old son come out. He will never be the same again. We raised a soft beautiful cuddly little boy to manhood. Then this disease took his mind.
Yes, u can only love them till the day we all be renew n change in a moment, hope that day come soon, God bless ur family & may God restore all his lost years some day,❤❤
Besides being a staunch advocate for the mentally ill and their caregivers, I have also become a kindness advocate. Such efforts require a great deal of hard work and discipline. Discipline of the mind is important for us to be pure in heart, to stay calm and not to harm anyone. Being disciplined means you stay obedient to God, be faithful to our spouse and give unconditional love to our children; and of course, to our parents who gave us life. Have a nice day, folks! Cheers, Raymond Anthony Fernando
My brother in law is schizophrenic for more than 30years and i've realized that the really important thing of this kind of illness is you need to support him, love him, taking care of him because this illness is a lifetime. Right now he's not taking any medication since the last 10years i guess we used to manage him but sometimes there is a relapse but most of the time he is controllable but the auditory hallucination is always there. He always whisper and keep on noding like there is someone talking to him. God bless you sir for not abandoning your wife since her last breath. Your truely a guardian angel to her.
thank God within just 3 months there are more than 100,000 people on RU-vid alone who love my story and are supportive of my efforts to de-stigmatize mental illness
"One of the most important things caregivers of the mentally ill must remember at all times ,especially during loved ones' relapses is to ..Separate the illness from the person." -Raymond Anthony Fernando-
Mr Fernando, Doris is fortunate to have you as her husband. You are her guardian angel. I really respect you for not abandoning her this 40 years. I totally understand the life that you have been through. My mother has schizophrenia since I was young. For 20 years she has been with us and when she passed on with another illness, our house suddenly becomes so lonely. I guessed because life suddenly becomes a lot easier for us and we feel a sudden emptiness in our heart. Doris knew that you suffered a lot for her and she loves you and wanted to give back your freedom and happiness that she thinks you deserve it. I wish you to have a blessful life always.
When a family member passed away, there's a sense of desolation at home. The heart is bereft of the family member's presence. As the adverse effects of the illness no longer exist, obviously the family condition becomes less turbulent.
Dear Raymond, you have a heart like Jesus' ..... May God use your testimony to reach out to those who are going through similar situations and to save souls for the glory of His kingdom. Be blessed Raymond.
Oh! I remember this couple!!!! When I was hospitalised at IMH & going back for out-patient appointments, I’d see their photograph on posters as advocates for mental health & caregiver well-being. Glad to be able to hear from the man himself.
Crying and send you much love from Canada. It's all anybody wants in this life is to be loved and never abandoned. You sir are the epitome of a great husband. God Bless you and God Bless Doris
20 years ago, I had a dream, and as difficult as it seemed at the time, I was hungry to fulfill that dream. Yes, the key words in scaling greater heights are, Dream and Hungry. Don't allow obstacles or anyone to prevent you from being hungry to fulfil your dreams. Toss aside naysayers, just be hungry and continue to dream.
Salute sir... As a person with depression and moods swings, finding a partner with a full of understanding is a Blessing. Your wife is so lucky to have you by her side. Mental health problems is not a joke.
U are an amazing soul Raymond, u be rewarded abundantly in eternity, God bless n thank U so so much for taking care of Doris, u r the best gift of God to her!❤❤
I salute you, sir! You are such a strong guy mentally and physically! You are the angel guardian of your wife, she couldn't be happier without you! God bless you
Hi Raymond, i was going through my books the other day and came across your book and thought to myself -- how have you been? just grateful i found you here and knowing TRS covered your story and reaching out to thousands more! i must admit i teared watching this video. thank you for continuing your mission to help the community. Keep writing and keeping you in prayers!
@@raymondafernando Loving a Schizophrenic. u stopped by our church @St iggy's and we were at the first morning mass.. so glad to know you continue to create awareness . Take care !
Hi Raymond ! I have had the wonderful opportunity to meet you many donkey years ago when we gathered at SPH Centre to promote our books. At that time, you did mention your beloved wife Doris and had spoken of her condition. After watching your Love story on RU-vid, I am immensely touched by your devoted love to Doris, to love unconditionally and care for her since Day 1. Not many men can do what you had selflessly done. Please take good care of yourself and stay strong. You ARE Wonderful !
thanks , Terrence, yes, I have spoken about her condition, openly, many times in her presence such as when I gave talks to a wide audience, on TV where she sometimes participated with me in the interview /s. and now after she passed on. We both had a purposes,- to free the mentally ill from their prisoners and to counter prejudice.
You, Sir, are an extraordinary man. Your devotion and dedication are remarkable. Thank you for shining such a loving and compassionate light on the struggles caused by mental illnesses. Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman.
I can understand that you love your wife very much. As you would stand by her through thick and thin. This story has told me that no matter of all kinds of sickness, the love will dissolve all stolidity with the power of true loving. I am sure she is still there by your side no matter the distance in between you and her.
I was the same like him. Until now 36 yrs with my husband. He has the same sickness. My children and my grandchildren use to him when he is switch off.
Must be difficult to internalize how easy it would be for the man to break things off with his wife due to her mental condition way before her passing. Instead the opposite occurred, and now he remains steadfast in his beliefs that you must stay firm at all costs, no matter how hard it could possibly be.
Raymond...Sir, I absolutely salute you. Your patience and perseverance is astronomical. The more I listen to your video, I am inclined to believe your love for Doris knows no bound and its that very essence of life - LOVE that propels you to be an extraordinary human being. It would be remiss to not acknowledge Royal Singapore. Thank you for showing uplifting and motivational real life videos that we can embrace.
Raymond has such a strong heart and a force of will! I find this story very admirable by many. May god bless you for taking care of your wife with utmost care ❤️
When a man truly loves a woman!!! Thanks Raymond for sharing your pain, sufferings, challenges which I believed you have had tried to camouflage all along! So sorry for your loss Please take care God bless you
OMG Mr.Raymond when everyone in Singapore is racing for money & pleasure, am I alive seeing a just perfect human.Mr Raymond.you have been so dedicated in your duty of taking care of your wife for forty long years. Salute your patience & love. You are just...... Amazing sir. Respect you to the summit.
Hi Raymond, thank you for sharing your story which is so encouraging and definitely give hope to many people with mental illness as well as families struggling to cope with a family member having mental illness. I’m deeply touched by the love, strength and courage you and your wife had for each other to cope with the challenges life and the illness presented. Your unconditional love and care for her and full acceptance and understanding of her mental condition showed us that a person having mental illness needs as much love and acceptance like everyone to live well. Thank you so much! You are a great man!
Thank you so much Angela, God Bless you & your loved ones. My advocacy efforts continues as there are still a few people who discriminate and try to hit out at me.
Raymond, you are really inspiring me, i have a similiar situation but more lighter cases. You are really give me motivation to keep going in future and a truly agree "love is powering everything!" Thank you Raymond & Doris, May God blessing you both!
Wow! My husband said he was dumping me because of PTSD. Today, he is married to a healthy woman while I am suffering with a whole lot of medical complications. He truly is a loser. I never trusted a man again and settled for wiener dogs.
Life after PTSD may not be easy. If you can find comfort and trust in dogs, it may be a beginning of healing. May you find peace and trust in your own time and your own ways. Prayers and blessings!
You are the loser. Nobody owe u anything,esp if he wasnt the cause of your ptsd. Some people can take the mental strain some cannot. He is free to choose how he live his life. Nobody in right mind wants to be in toxic relationships. i have cptsd/AD/dtd,pdd
I cried to hear how you walked through the journey with ur late wife, Doris no matter how tough it was. Your deep love for her moved me. Please take care, and be happy Sir ❤ There are still many of us who care about you and all 🌻🌈💪🏼
Wow.. such an amazing man of strength and honor, to be able to love this way and keep holding on even when times got tough . My deepest condolences for your loss and thank you for sharing your very inspiring story. It rekindles my faith in the intrinsic goodness of Men and that we humans are capable of loving truly and deeply .
Raymond, you are one special man. I hope to one day find a husband like you. Once of the sweetest love stories I have ever heard. God Bless you Raymond and continue resting in peace Doris
I bought your book way back when there is a closing sale of books at the corner of China Town ...I think that was 2013 or later....once in a while I read it....but when my daughter bought it it took me about 3 months before I read the whole book....so busy with my grandsons and grandaughter at Ang Mo Kio Heights😍😘🤩 very informative and very loving....true love do exist😍😘🤩❤❤❤❤❤💙💙💙💙💙💚💚💚💚💚
@@raymondafernando Mr Fernando, I am a Muslim lady. frm malaysia. my sincerest sisterly advice to u is do not ever try to commit suicide. life is precious and everything that happens to all of us humans r live obstacles knownly tests thru our journey of life...... yr presence is very important to many others. u hv been blessed with a heart filled with so much of love, kindness and patience. these priceless self values that u possess can b shared to many more out there......bring happiness to those who need them...... i too hd gone thru a blast of turbulences in my life. and i also tout that my life was of no use at all. but i spoke to God Almighty....to guide me. and i then realised that what i was going thru was a life test.....and i strenghthened my faith and moved forward and went thru the tests......i steeled myself.....and so here I am today..... don waste yr time with sad memories. be happy and take pride in yrself that u were a good husband.....in every aspect. and b happy that u cared for yr dear wife with so much of love, kindness and patience. u r indeed a one in a million husband.....a candle in d dark that nvr allows its tiniest flicker to die out to bring shine to darkness.....thats who u r, sir......
I wish my mom has same husband like you, very caring walking her through the journey for the rest of her life. Never leave her alone to care for another woman. She will be very lucky i guess. Unfortunately not in the husband aspect its okay because i care n love about her very much with all my heart. But God has more love for her. February this year she's gone to heaven. I feel lucky to have her as my mom. Thank you for the happiness you give to your wife dorris. Thank you for the amazing you who accept even from the start when you're dating, sir. After she died you're still mourning for a year can't sleep. Its amaze me. Otherwise my father already laughing calling another woman planning to remarry. I'm so disappointed with him. No respect leave for him. But with you, I wish you joy, health and happiness you deserved, sir.
A Lighted Blessed Candle, A collective Prayer A get-well message specially dedicated to 3 WO Jeffrey Heng Dear Jeffrey Heng, You must have spent hours training for the Grand Parade Certainly, the Red Lions stand tall As many will attest, you guys are simply great! Despite the risks in parachuting from the sky The Red Lions and you, Jeffrey, adopt an attitude of - never-say-die As with every dedicated serviceman, you answered the nation’s call Your bravery is recognized - even with that accidental hard fall I may not know you, Jeffrey, but I feel for you and your family Like many Singaporeans, we all stand with you - in solidarity For you Jeffrey, a blessed candle now burns at my altar Trust me, the power of prayer is as solid as the Rock of Gibraltar For you, Jeffrey, I call on all citizens to embrace a collective prayer For you are one person who dares to dream, I do declare I have every confidence that the Good Lord will help you to recover And a faith helps, you will, on all accounts, discover Jeffrey, the doctors and nurses will put you on the road to recovery And when you’re back on your feet again, Jeffrey Hey! Wouldn’t that be just lovely! Rest well and keep your spirits high And before you know, you’ll be parachuting all over again From that beautiful blue sky With best wishes, Raymond Anthony Fernando (@) copyrightraymondFernando 9Aug2022
