Thank you! I realized We've been holding his favorite things hostage and I've been feeling like it's not working or the right thing to do. So this helped a lot!
I agree. But it's important to say "If you run over people, I'll have to take your tractor away." If you don't say it before just taking their toys away, the kids will start to fear for every little mistake because they don't know when you've decided to discipline them through consequences, which will make them hypervigilant. Speaking from personal experience.
I'd usually agree, but yesterday my child stood on his tricycle and immediately I put it away until after dinner. No warning for that one, the way he did it was SO dangerours. I usually warn him and tell him about the potential consequence, but not always with really serious stuff (being careless with a knife, climbing on top of moving things, ...).
As a preschool teacher I am constantly doing this, it’s called logical consequences … it has to be teaching them something, if I say that what they are doing is inappropriate then I have to let them know what is appropriate so that next time they have the opportunity to choose the better option - also I try to let them know ahead of time what will happen if they don’t choose correctly and by the end of the school year there is an emphasis on good and bad decisions and what happens with both
When i was raising my children when they were young, (they are grown now)i never had more than minute for makeup and certainly didnt have time for explaining in front of a camera, how to teach my good behavior.
