Losing my grandpa, getting a “mommy makeover” & getting my first period in 5 years | Ep. 58 

I lost my 21 year old son Jordan nearly 17 months ago from a catastrophic stroke due to his kidney disease. What I've been forced to learn along my path of grief is this.. Grief is heavy, not just emotionally, but physically. Grief does not care if you are walking down the grocery store aisle when you spot a bottle of hot sauce your son would have loved, or if you are filming a podcast. It will show up when it wants, and you have no choice but to let it come. Grief hurts, it literally makes your body hurt. I now understand where the phrase "broken heart" comes from, because my heart literally feels broken. I remember when we left the hospital, all I wanted was for someone to tell me how long this pain would last, like if there was this finite amount of time, and someone could give me a timeframe, then maybe I could survive what felt insurmountably unsurviveable. But grief isn't a period, it's a comma. It's forever. I was so deep into my grief, that when my big Sissy died 7 weeks later, it didn't even register. There could be no more or "bigger grief". It was grief upon deep grief..Give yourself grace and be patient with yourself. When grief visits, sit with it and let it surround you, and wait for the tidal wave to recede-you feel as if you are drowning-but eventually the waves push you just a tiny bit closer to an outreached hand on the shore. So much love to you ❤️‍🩹

Grief is so weird… you can be at peace with someone’s passing but still be sad and wish they were here still!

You gotta make Griffin a papa pillow. My son was about the same age as Griffin when my papa passed and we made him a papa pillow from one of his shirts. He is 11 and sleeps with that pillow every night

Abby I am so sorry for your loss ❤️ I also don’t think you should get a mummy make over 1. They are actually very dangerous 2. It shows your boys to love yourself the way you are and 3. Not once have I EVER looked at you and gone “eww she needs a makeover” I always though “I’m so jealous of Abby she has just pooped out 2 babies recently and looks great!” I think you are genuinely gorgeous you don’t need one!! ❤️❤️

Abby, you should have a podcast (or a do a special episode every month) and have your book club were you review/comment books with friends !

Abby do not apologize for your tears my grandpa passed away Nov 14th 2014 to lung cancer two weeks after he was diagnosed . He was one of my father figures I lived with him even almost 10 years later I cry and choke up grief comes up unexpectedly and goes in ways there's beauty and also grit much love I know you don't read the comments but your amazing don't feel bad for showing your emotion ❤❤❤❤

This is making me cry. I lost my grandfather not that long ago, and this is really relatable 😢 Glad your doing a bit better

In the Jewish tradition when someone has passed away, the family makes something that called “shiva”. That means that for seven days after the funeral family friends and people who cared for the deceased one come to the family home to visit and talk about them, from the morning up till the night. It makes the change being around people in those times. Sending a big hug Abby.

Abby, grief comes in waves, you can be fine and still have these moments sometimes where it hurts extra and you’re more emotional. Take care. 17:16

abbeyyy give yourself time! xxxxxxxxx i almost got a tummy tuck 9 months after my second and i was too nervous so i thought id wait and now im soooooo glad i did and i have 3 kids now and my tummy is sooooooooooooo much tighter after a few years! give it time you beautiful mama

I just lost my pappy as well to cancer we found out Black Friday and he passed January 6th. The best man, listening to you talk about your grandpa just makes me cry. I laid in bed last night just crying knowing I won’t ever hear him say “how are you girl, give me a hug”.

I'll always choose my dog over a human .. more loyal, more loving, unconditional love at that.never fake. They dont judge, or care ur size or what brand of clothes u wear, if u have bad breathe, etc dogs will still cuddle n comfort u without words If people don't like u or others at their worse times they don't get to have me I n their life at my best times

I lost my dad in ‘22 and he’s not a twin but his brothers look very similar to him. It was hard to look at my uncles without losing it. I wish it would have been comforting to see and hear them.

This episode is so tender! I lost my Grandma recently and it is so comforting to see that other people grieve too! You guys are amazing!!

My heart goes out Abby and her family and thank you to Abby’s grandfather for helping shape her into the person see on this podcast today.❤️

Abby I feel exactly how you do about your grandparents. I’m the exact same way with mine. My grandfather unexpectedly passed end of February last year. I was so so close to him, lived with them for multiple years. It’s over a year later and while the grief is still there, I look back on the times with him with a huge smile. I’ll be donating to March of Dimes in honor of your grandfather. Thank you for being so open about your grief. Praying for you and your family during this difficult time.

I can relate to Abby’s grandpa because my grandpa on my passed out along time ago. I’m deeply grateful sorry for your loss. I always say epiphany to my family, so thank you Matt for bringing that up.

Aww Abby honey, sending my deepest condolences & big healing Hugs 💔 :: I can deeply empathize but with my grandma, she taught me so much & I still miss her to this day. Cherish your memories 😘

Praying for you and your family. lost my bestie grandpa in 1998. I still can’t grasp that he has passed. Sometimes I feel sad. Sometimes it’s an unbearable pain. Oftentimes it’s just so much joy. Remembering the persons everything is fun to talk about with the family. I still love stopping and smelling Vicks or laughing with my family helps. I still have such incredibly bad days. The love of grandparents is unmatched. ❤

Abby thank you so much for sharing about your grandpa! My husband 25 very recently just lost his only grandpa in a very similar situation. We also had kept quiet about the loss. It just shows you never know what people are going through. I am so so sorry for your loss. I also appreciate how you talked about seeing his twin after his passing. Although my husband’s grandpa wasn’t a twin his brother is very similar and it was the most wild experience when we walking into his house and saw his brother in his place. Thank you for bringing to light all of the emotions and how grief isn’t linear it is a roller coaster. I love how real and open y’all are about your life. I love love love y’all’s podcast!

What a special love you guys shared. It shows on you Abby and the way you speak of him.. he must feel so honored and proud of you. Praying for comfort for you and your family

Baby are an awesome help when grieving. I lost my husband of 30+ years this past summer my sister brought her young son and I spent time holding and focusing on the new life and it truly helped. Prayers of peace and comfort

I am so sorry for your loss Abby. Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my dad to cancer this past May and I can empathize with you and your family so much. I've learned that there is never a straight path through grief and that there is no timeline. I can see that your grandpa was loved so much and that he is missed terribly. Thinking about you and your loved ones during this difficult time.

I really appreciate yall talking about loss. I lost my grandparents within 4 months of each other at the end of 2023, both due to cancer. It was really hard. and it’s really nice to know I’m not crazy for being so sad and still getting weepy when I think/talk about them. Yall are amazing. Btw I’m 28 and I look up to yall so much.

Thank you so much for sharing your loss. I really just enjoyed getting to know your grandparents through your content. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please don't apologize for your grief. I lost my grandma 12 years ago and I still weep when I talk about her. They are happy tears and they are my souls expression that I will miss her till the time I can finally see her again. Love exists even when the people we love aren't right there with us. You still love him and that is a beautiful thing.

I love listening to your podcast. Abby, so sorry for your loss. I had a close relationship with my Grandpa. I spent every Saturday night with him and went to Church with him on Sunday. He would pick me up from school on Wednesday and we would go to Church. Grandparents are the BEST. Matt, you need to write a song. I loved when you said “I don’t think you can justify not loving someone because of the pain of losing someone.”

Hearing you talk about your relationship with your grandpa made me smile. I never got to know any of my grandpa's but I was really close to my grandma and she died of cancer also pretty quickly and how I wish I had video of her. Miss her everyday but each day it gets better. I'm so happy you have videos of your grandpa that you can watch and show your kids. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Abby. My heart goes out to you and your family. I’ve watched every video on your Matt and Abby channel and your unplanned podcast channel and i grew to love your sweet grandparents so much. When Matt did the podcast and mentioned how you weren’t there and had to hop on a plane that day because of an unexpected incident my heart dropped. I prayed your grandparents were okay and it had nothing to do with them. Gosh they made me smile, thank you for sharing them with the world. Praying hard for your family & extra hard for your grandma. ❤

I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. I also want to thank you for sharing such a personal topic on loss. As much as I cried with you and it broke my heart for you. You sharing and how hard it's been and just that journey. It's real and others can absolutely relate. Why I love seeing the happy and fun times you share. I think it's beautiful you sharing the reality of hard times. I'm a momma with a teenager. He asks me often why it seems others are so happy all the time and don't have struggles etc. I remind him that everyone goes through struggles, failures and hard times. That some on social media only show us what they want us to see. I appreciate you and Matt speaking on many different topics. Imo it's so important so others know that they aren't alone. We all are human and go through struggles. It's okay to be vulnerable, emotionally and cry. It doesn't mean one is weak or less. I just adore you both. You guys remind me of me and my husband when we were younger. You both are in my continued prayers. Love on each other and your babies. God bless ❤🫂 🙏

You two. I am having trouble coming up with the right words. I am so impressed with both of you for the importance you place on family. Matt, the phone call with Papa touched my heart. What a special gift for the boys and for him. Abby I Love that you had such a special relationship with him. I have always thought you were an”old soul”, you are wise and mature like someone my age (51), but you fit right in with your friends normally. What a neat gift you got from Papa. I am going to look for the video he is on so I can put a face with the loving feelings. I’m sorry this is so long, but I can’t express enough how absolutely amazing you BOTH are. Stay strong but don’t be afraid to let yourself grieve.❤❤❤❤

Abby - thank you for sharing your heart about your Papa. Some of my favorite videos have your grandparents in them. I can tell they are special people.

Abby are you on Goodreads?!? I’d love to follow you. Everyone who’s totally here for Abby’s book channel like this comment 😂😂😂

Abby, I am in tears with you. 😢 I was at my grandparents' house all the time, too growing up. My grandparents were my best friends. It is great he got to meet your children. Mine never got to meet my boys, but I know he is watching over us everyday as I know your Pawpaw is watching over you & your family. Sending love and prayers your way!!

Abby I lost my grandpa 3 years ago and I was with him during his last few days. I believe our elders just don't leave us alone and go they do send their blessings every single minute to us. I still miss him so bad everyday. He handles hard situation like a pro. I am here for you girl🥲❤️🫂

I've been through in the past and know of someone has been through something not to long ago and I love and care for this person and they are on social media so this person has gone MIA for a while so it is also worse for them but I told them that they would always have that pain but it would eventually get better! And so will yours! Praying for all of you going through this!😭

Immediate tears! sorry for your loss Abbey, how wonderful it is though that you have all those beautiful memories to look back on and that you have so much of him with you always, because he instilled in you his joy and personality. It’s such a painful process to lose someone you love so dearly, but it’s only a loss because you love them so dearly. To have loved and have been loved like that is such a beautiful blessing. I love your podcast, and just your honesty and vulnerability. Wishing you all the best and you’ll be in my prayers during this grieving season ❤

Abby, I love the wholesome emotion in this. My grandpa was just put on hospice this week. I cried with you, the first time I’ve been able to feel my true my emotions. So thank you for feeling the emotion of loss with me.

I’m so sorry for your loss Abby. Your love for your grandpa is huge! I’m crying during this episode.

Abby, im soooo sorry! Hanging in there! Sending so much love and comfort your way!

Abby I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending love and prayers to you and your family.

I'm taken aback by your human quality. You are of help and example for many. I wish you all the success and love that is obviously coming your way. ❤

I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss Abby. 😢. Love you’re beautiful family and this podcast. Lots of love to you guys Matt and Abby ❤

The episode with your grandparents will always be a favorite of mine. So deeply sorry for your loss… deepest condolences 🫂

Thank you for sharing it’s okay to grieve. I lost 3 grandparents in the a span of 3 months…Dec. 2020, Jan. 2021, & Feb. 2021 while being a postpartum mama for the 1st time. Hardest year and it’s still hard for me. I was so numb to everything. Love you, Abby! Hang in there🩷

I am ugly crying watching this. I'm so glad you have such wonderful memories with him. Praying for your family.

I love this podcast and you guys are awesome. I love how open and genuine you are all. This podcast made me cry. Losing a grandparent is like no other pain. Grandparents are such a blessing. Praying for healing and your hearts. ❤

Yes, I am so grateful you let us meet him!!! My grandparents meant so much to me, and I was raised with them also. They also shaped me into who I am today. Love this podcast and watch it every week!! Much love from Missouri❤

I am so sorry yours and your families' loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Abby, you truly look amazing! I have the extra skin as well, and trust me right now, you have all of these thoughts and feelings about it, but you will feel differently about it later in life. You work out so hard that it'll hardly be noticeable down the road.

Matt has such a kind soul ✨Thank you Abby for opening up about your grandpa, I am so sorry for your loss 🤍 I will be praying for you and your family. Love this podcast channel

I cried the entire episode. Love you guys and it made me miss my grandma but also feel less alone in that.

Watching this podcast was very very comforting in a way because I’m only 19 and I lost my dad recently on November 29th 2023 so on a certain level I can relate. I’m so sorry for your loss Abby.

abby you’re so strong 🤍 sending so much love your way 🤍

This was so healing for me! I cried listening to the stories about you and your grandfather's relationship. I lost my grandfather a few weeks ago as well and I also grew up with him similar to your stories. I am so sorry you lost your grandfather too. Thank you for summarizing the grief, loss, and joy package, as I am in the same boat. I watch all of your guy's podcasts and adore you two!

Grief comes in waves. My family lost my Great Aunt in March of 2022. Her role was more of a grandmother to me & my siblings. Grief & tears still randomly hit me, especially around Easter. She loved to celebrate holidays & would go all out. My family spent Easter & Christmas with her growing up. I know you have young children & there is some processing with that too. I was pregnant with my son when my Aunt passed & I think what hit me hardest was that my son wouldn't have the opportunity to meet her & experience her special holidays. It is okay to cry & experience the grief, even years out. We knew she was going to pass (she had been fighting cancer for years) & I am at peace with it, but it does still hit sometimes. That is okay.

Hugs Abby! You are amazingly beautiful young woman! You are emotionally healthy to be able to share this! You are so loved! Yes you are very much an old soul! Brightest Blessings Guys!

I lost my Poppa suddenly in March 2021 to a brain bleed and to this day it still hurts when I think about him being gone. I've learned that you just need to take the grief as it comes and try to think of the positives (i.e. he always with me). I get it and feel for you Abby, big hugs.

Abby I am so so sorry this made me cry. I have been watching you guys for three years and I feel like I knew your grandpa through this and he seems so amazing I always loved your guys relationship. I will be praying for you and your family. I am sorry for your loss. 💖 thank you for being amazing genuine people

It’s not the same thing, but my uncle sounds soooo much like my dad, and my dad passed away at the beginning of 2020, and ever since I have especially loved talking to my uncle just to hear his voice. Hearing my uncle tell me how proud of me he is, how much he loves me,it is so special

Abby I'm so so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandfather in August just as soon as you; finding out a month before his passing that he had cancer. Hearing your story just breaks my heart bc I know how painful it must have been for you. Thank you for sharing your story!

Abby and I are basically twins in this! I have grown up with the same relationship with my grandparents! I was so so lucky to have my Pops until 2020 when cancer took him as well (he was 87)! I still have my grandma and the fact that they have gotten to be in my two sons' lives is incredible and something I'm so grateful for!! Were here for you Abby! cry when you need to cry and he will always be remembered fondly!

I lost my father exactly a month ago.. today is the first day i had the courage to open RU-vid n this was the 1 video which came to my page.. thank you sharing your story.. it felt weirdly comforting .. really sorry for your loss.. stay strong 🙏🏻

I'm getting a MMO in 12 days and I'm Soo excited! We had our two kids and we're done, so I'm ready to sew these abs back together. Like you I hit the gym hard and almost 2 years post partum from the final baby I'm ready to look and feel as strong as I did before the kids. You deserve to feel good!

I lost my grandpa when I was about 12 and it struck me really hard and even to this day I still struggle. Thank you for talking about your loss, Abby, and normalizing how different grief can be because I struggle with grief a lot still especially to this day

I suddenly lost my grandfather September of 2022, after a really short battle with cancer. We only found out about it literally under a month before he passed. It was a complete shock and it all happened so fast, I've never cried so hard. I still struggle with the changes now, I'm always panicked if another one of my family members has cancer and doesn't know. I suffer from huge anxiety as a result. I miss him everyday, and the pain's still so raw. My family have all been the same, and we, especially my Grandma, are still adjusting. I still can't quite believe it. Grief is never a straight line. Abby and Matt, please take care of yourselves and don't feel pressured to "put on a brace face". Cancer is cruel and loss is so hard to come to terms with, especially when it's your family. Love you guys, sending love ❤❤❤

Playing with Griffin at the airport had me in tears .. traumatic things happen , and a hug from your baby boy is so therapeutic..

Abby! This is so sweet! Be very grateful that he got to spend time with your children I’d give anything for my grandpas to be able to meet my daughter! 🥹 my condolences to you! Never let go of those memories!

My grandpa was an identical twin and I was my grandma's favorite. I can relate to this ALL so much. It's been a decade and longer since losing them all. But the tears flow at the most random times, smells, etc. It's a forever grieving process, but it's beautiful too. Cry away.

Ohhh Abby I'm.so so sorry for.your loss ❤❤❤ I lost my dad 2021 then my 21 year old Nephew in 2022 and lost my mom in 2023 ❤❤❤ So i feel for you xxx

Your boys are your papa’s legacy! So beautiful!

My opinion- seeing other people cry and openly grieve like this helps me with my grief. It’s a reminder that everyone has or will lose a loved one at some point, and that it’s okay to be sad that they’re gone. My grandma and great grandma raised me, my “father” (I call him my sperm donor bc that’s all he did) was never in my life, and my grandma was still basically raising my mom while raising my sister and I… I was very close to my grandma, and great grandma. I remember my mom, sister and I lived with my sisters dad, and I would call my grandma every night to come and pick me up. My sisters dad was mean to me, and I’m pretty certain he did other things to me, I think I’ve mostly blocked it out of my memory but.. I wasn’t okay sleeping there, at my home, in my room, in my bed, I couldn’t. And my grandma would always drive and come get me, and bring me back the next morning to get ready and take me and my sister to school. I slept in the same bed as my grandma every night until I was a young teenager. My grandma was murdered, going on 4 years ago now, wow, it literally feels like YESTERDAY. Her death was very.. so very traumatic for me, for my sisters. The hospital killed her. I can’t even say her name without choking up, I cry sometimes just walking into a store, cause I went there with her so many times. I don’t know how I will ever get over losing her. I miss her so much. We were supposed to have more time. 22 years wasn’t enough. She would’ve walked me down the aisle one day, she would’ve been the best great grandma to her future grandkids. There’s so much more I could say.. but it’s okay Abby, it’s okay to grieve the loss of your Papa. It’s abundantly clear how much you love him, and I know he loves you a million times more. Grief is love with nowhere to go. We will see them again❤️‍🩹🤍

ACCOTAR!! Yes, Abby!! I love those books...so good 😊 I'm so sorry about your Grandpa...hugs...

I lost my grandmother in June 2019 to dementia she had suffered for a few years. Unfortunately my brother and I living so far away we couldn’t go to the funeral. But knowing when I visit my family again (dad’s family) she won’t be there is difficult. When I found out about her passing I thought she doesn’t have to suffer anymore but also my grandma is gone. I still think about her all the time and I’m glad she lived a big life. I was her oldest granddaughter through her oldest son. I think she’s with my little dog who passed away over 4 years ago and that makes me smile.

Abby, I am so sorry for your loss. 🫂 Cherish all the beautiful memories you have with your PaPa.

So sorry for your loss, praying for peace for you and your family.

I lost my grandpa in December. He was there for everything. Everything. Miss him so much.

Being diagnosed with adhd has changed my life. Everything makes sense now. The reason you have anxiety going out is cause you know it’s going to be too over stimulating and stressful and it affects your adhd. Food is medicine. If you’re going to eat poorly like processed and fast food or sugary and artificial dyes it’s going to affect your mind and body. Do lots and lots of research 😊 also thank you Abby for being so understanding about it! Your support means everything to him while he navigates this new path. It’s honestly like you’re whole life is different now and you have to readjust to the new life with adhd

Abby i am so deeply sorry for your loss losing a family member who was one of your best friends who you were so close to is extremly hard . My prayers and positive thoughts go out to you and your fam. Do not feel bad to feel! The grief can come at the craziest times, embrace it and let it come. You are such a strong powerful woman and i know your papa is proud of everything you are and have become. Its truly so special that you have that podcast episode with your papa to treasure and enjoy his spirit again. All my love goes out to you ❤

Abby it is perfectly normal to be at peace with your PaPa's passing and still grieve. Grief is an emotional rollercoaster. And sweetheart those tears you are crying are for what you lost. You have lost a part of your heart and life that you have always had with you. Don't ever apologize for expressing your grief. What your tears tell me is that you were and are so loved by this amazing man. He was such an intregal part of your life and trying to imagine what it will be without him hurts. It hurts to the very core of your being. Please be gentle with yourself, anyone who has lost someone they love understands. He is still with you, nothing can take away the memories.

Take care Abby ❤

This made me cry so much.... Im so so sorry Abby!! 🙏 My heart goes out to you & your family! I know how you feel, I was 10 when my Dad passed away. I still to this day (& im 33 now) cry over random things that make me think of him or remember about him. I look at my kids & think about how he would be such a good Pappy to them & him not being able to see them grow up or let alone me & my brother & sister grow up. Just always remember you have an angel watching over you & the family at all times!! 💚🩵

Abby, i sat and cried with you. I am so happy your grandpa is at peace, i pray for you, and your family, especially grandma during this time. Grief will always come in waves ❤

Abby, I am crying right along with you. I was extremely close with my papaw. He passed in 2020. Grief comes and goes, but it never fully leaves. My grandfather was also sick, and I have to say no matter how much you “expect” it, it’s still a shock, and it hurts more than you could ever explain or even begin to imagine. I also feel peace that my Papaw isn’t in pain anymore. It doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt anymore. I was the favorite too 😂🩷 his brother came up to me at his funeral and whispered in my ear, “you were his favorite, yaknow…” Please take care of yourselves. I know that you have to do what you have to do for your family, but grief is a LONG process. I hope that you got some relief opening up about all of this, finally being able to release a lot of emotions that you’ve been holding in since the funereal. Sending you so much love 🩷

You two are such a sweet couple. I wish more people were like you. It's always hard when you lose a loved one, but eventually you learn to live on without them.

Thank you so much for sharing and being honest. Thinking of you all xx

You guys are such great parents!❤

Love your grandparents. What a genuine and charming couple ❤️. My deepest condolences to your grandmother, you and your family for the loss of your beloved grandfather 😢.

So so excited for this episode! You guys are truly some of the best most amazing inspiring people on RU-vid! We love you Matt and Abby!

Abby, I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my grandma (who raised me, she was my mom) to pancreatic cancer in 2008 when I was 14. It’s tough and I am at peace now but memories will always bring the tears back every time.

This podcast is so special . I’m so sorry for your loss Abby . I remember watching that podcast with your grandparents & my heart just breaks for you bc my grandma is my best friend. On a more happy note .. I love that you included that little detail about your grandma & the dog bc my grandpa got in a really bad motorcycle accident that caused him permanent brain damage so he got a puppy to help support him & then my grandpa ended up passing away & left the golden doodle for grandma 🤷🏼‍♀️ ahaha but I will say 5 years later they are besties & I think that’s what really kept her going through mourning the loss of my grandpa. It held her to a routine & gave her a companion. I’ll be praying for your family 🩷

Lost my grandma almost 3 years ago, daily something will remind me of her and I cry instantly. Drives me crazy but also feel a little better when it happens HUGS to you ❤

Praying for you all for comfort

My heart goes out to you, Abby. I had an extremely close, loving set of maternal grandparents and lost them when I was in high school. Still to this day at 37 years of age I miss them so deeply that it hurts. Those videos of your Papa are such a gift. Praying for comfort and peace for you & your family. I’m so sorry for your loss. 😔🙏🏼❤️

Abby, your relationship with your grandpa is so similar to mine with my Grandad. They lived 5 mins away. Showed up for EVERY school event. Treated up to dinners, vacations, etc. We lost him in December to cancer and congestive heart failure. I'm sitting here crying with you while you talk about him. I'm so so sorry you're going through this

Omg Abby I’m sitting here bawling with you. I was super close to my poppy and I don’t have anything with his voice or video of him to show my son cause he’ll never know him so keep that episode in a special place. Praying for you. Keep going though! His memory will live on thru you ❤ much love to you both

I'm praying for you Abby! And for your whole family. Losing a loved one is really really hard. I was also really close to my Papa and we lost him a little over 3 1/2 years ago. I completely understand how you feel and, while it gets easier, it's really really hard and that's okay.

My grandma & grandpa were also high school sweethearts. Every year for grandpas birthday since he’s passed I make sure to go to grandmas with a cake so we can still celebrate him 💞

Just on the ADHD topic, sending you love on the journey of diagnosis and everything that comes afterwards Matt. I was diagnosed last year and decided to try medication. I was really hopeful that it would help but for me it was not a good fit. I tried a lot of different types and doses and the small benefits did not outweigh the negative side effects. And at first it was very disappointing but I am at peace with it now. What helped me the most was self understanding (and diagnosis’ understanding), acceptance and cognitive behavioural therapy. CBT (adhd specific) gave me a handful of tangible tools and techniques that help me in areas that I struggle with that no medication will help.

Abby sending you hugs and love. ❤

Started watching this podcast but it’s already bed time for me! I’ll come back tomorrow, goodnight guys from az as well 🌵🫶 most importantly, stay strong Abi, your pops is looking over all of you 🫡💙

This podcast was sad and i cried. Sorry for your loss