Love, Lust, and Loneliness: Inside Japan’s Sexless Epidemic 

Japan’s work culture is toxic and disastrous for the country’s social well-being. Plenty of Japanese people do seem to understand this, but still nothing changes. It’s depressing.

worked to death and no sex. what a dystopian nightmare. In that environment I would not work, be homeless and do nothing.

This is happening on a global scale.

Lets be honest guys , this is a world wide problem. No one is having relationships due to fear of infidelity , economic decline , and people have a ego problem.

All the money in the world for weapons but little money to support families.

I'm 34 and I live alone and enjoy watching fishing videos for fun. I actually enjoy being alone and spending my money on myself. I can relate with Nakamura..

My guy Totoro being an ENGINEER making more money in dolls than his actual career is wild😭

Financially people can't afford families anymore

It's sad that married men's relationship with their wives deteriorated to the point that they need to use dolls for sex.

6 days a week of school into 6-7 days a week work with no days off leads to this

It’s funny how older people in America accuse younger people of being selfish for not wanting kids. Yet the same thing is happening in Japan, so there is something else going on. Maybe relationships are too difficult to balance with work. More money and time to raise children would be helpful. If the powers that be want us to reproduce, maybe they should cut us some slack.

ive been cheated on so much, it has actually destroyed my desire to seek out sex from others.. its understandable

After being with multiple women and such I have gotten to the point in where I don’t want to get married or have kids and I just want peace and no drama or whatever problems relationships brings from these chicks

Even though I didn't live in Japan, I understand how being alone can have benefits for one's well-being.

15:38 can’t help but be unsettled at how this doll and a lot of other ones look like a young girl and is wearing a school uniform

Basically it all comes down to because everything is so darn expensive these days.

I misread it as "sexiness epidemic" for a second.

They’re having sex. Prostitution is legal. They’re just not having sex with a regular partner. Also something like 80% of married Japanese people cheat but they don’t consider it cheating if there’s no love confession.

38 Years old and I am alone. Marriage feels like unnecessary liability (eventually results with having children) financially. Maybe Japan having more problems than other countries but it will be same everywhere. Give it 3-7 years and population decline will show up in graphs because of upkeep cost of family & children(s).

I’m 33 and I can’t express how much I enjoy my alone time after a toxic 8 year relationship. I easily spend money on myself, travel, cook, and do work overtime on my own terms. My sleep quality drastically improved, I read books more, my exercise/gym routine greatly improved, and confidence skyrocketed. What I’ve noted though is that women I’ve had nights with were all in relationships

"Sex doll rental" oh no

meanwhile some Japanese men have sex with about 5000 women in Japan... not to mention the huge prostitution and brothels can found all over Japan don't have to believe everything they say about themselves... just the Japanese don't think of prostitution as sex

For a single 19 year old, his English language skills are AMAZING

I am a 70 year old American. I respect Japan and the great people there. I have a VERY difficult time getting my head around this video.

Very casual, easy going narration and lounge music used to report the demise of a society.

Problem is, long work hours and work being more valuable in Japan. Everything is expensive and apartments too small. When I lived in Japan, I lived in a 12m² apartment. The host clubs sound very fun, but mostly only japanese women are allowed in there and second, it easily happens that women spend too much money there. They fall in love, but the love is never, or in very rare cases, are on both sides. Some men there make a lot of money with that. Currently, in all western and developed countries, actually in all first world countries, we have this problem currently. Everything expensive, work and relationships just don't work out anymore. It got way much harder nowadays than it was in the past. And what I have noticed, the trust in humanity, has reached a low point. So if you can't trust, how can you find a person? And with the current AI, more and more people fall in love with bots and turn to them. And they evolve daily. I am more into that field and also working there. So one week ago I thought, "Wouldn't it be nice if bot can do this?" and now they can already. Bots and AI evolve now at an extreme speed. It is super nice, but the consequence of it is, no real human relationships. And because some here were shocked about sex dolls. To get to sex dolls, via online, is for the first world very easy. But can be expensive. But when I look online, so many men already have sex dolls at home. And, I can't say it enough, but only putting the market on sex dolls for men, is not enough. Women also feel lonely and want sex. Not only men, and not only men feel lonely these days.

On the bright side no STDs and unwanted pregnancies.

I'm chinese and I travel to Japan every month for work and I can say that while they are super respectful they are also super self controlled to the point that they show no feelings. I don't hang out with japanese people not because don't like them it's just because I like to go out have a beer, and just openly talk to my friends about any topic which it's super hard for japanese people to do so. And every time me and my foreigners co-workers go have lunch we always have fun and chill but you can see a lot of japanese people eating by themself... I hope they can change and be less defensive with their lifes

This video is motivating for me. Everyone is saying marriage is important. As an adult, if you have free time, urges will definitely come. However, after watching this, I want to remain single. Just consider one thing: countries with high birth rates are often considered third-class.

If youre gonna have a sex doll at least make it look like an adult. That kid shit is sick

All work and no play made Jack a dull boy.

Y’know, just a thought… Have the Japanese people ever heard of a “work-life-balance.” Having proper time away from work to make love and leisure and form relationships isn’t lazy as long as you balance it with your productivity. Japanese people desperately need to learn this balance. For a culture that understands the nature of yin and yang, they certainly don’t practice it with work and life. Balance, people. Balance is key.

That young lad, Kisaburo Nakamura, thank you for showing us your life and for clearly taking the time to learn English as a second language. I can't say for sure you did so for this video, but I commend you for giving a great interview for us in the English world.

It seems affluence, materialism, high educational levels, and massive electronic connectivity, destroy the human urge to maintain some kind of legacy, and ones bloodline. I think the artist and filmmaker Mishima warned about this when the spirit of a nation dies, and no longer becomes sustainable.

all east Asian countries have a low birth rate, China and Japan maintain a 1.3, Korea and Taiwan Hongkong keep below 1, the aging population spend huge amount of social money and leave youngers high tax, low salary and high social pressure, youngers are working overtime and still can not afford a house, that is why people are losing interest at marriage and having baby.

Lack of companionship and sex and loneliness are killers. God created us in pairs.

Being in a relationship becomes a nightmare after a while. All you have is self-centered and materialistic society that inlfuences it's members to put themselves, and not the relationship, in the first place. You are continuously fed prompts of fabulous vacations and unsustainable living standards (sex included) as if those are the norm and not the exception. This makes a relationships last until the as good as it gets phase. Then the nightmare phase begins. "We've been together for two years and my bf hasn't taken me once on a yatch vacation" isn't an absurd phrase nowadays

The two things that must struck me are: A) Japanese couples are encouraged to abstain from sex. I've never heard anyone say that so I'm curious if it's even close to true. B) Using sex dolls for Alzheimer's patients. That's just insane, especially as the son of a parent with the disease.

My Japanese GF is no longer sexless. We did it bois

I'm living in Japan since 2019 and I've experienced some of the cultural and day by day life! I believe this generation's lack of interest in having relationships with the opposite sex is closely linked to the financial and economics struglings conditions experienced in Japanese society! For example, salaries have not seen a real increasing since the last 3 decades, and in recent years, contrary to what is reported in the media that the country suffers from deflation, in practice and in the population daily lives exactly the other way happens, since in the face of american dollar, the Japanese yen is increasingly devalued every day and inflation in the prices of fuel, energy and food products is increasing at a dizzying pace! Not to mention that the prices for services, rent and admission to universities are appalling and discourage young people from engaging in relationships when they do not have the means to support themselves! Japan is broke, with the highest public debt ever seen and is at the top of the list of debtor countries, and this undoubtedly has repercussions on the habits of society and the population!

Um…some of the dolls look like children.

Japans view of sex is extremely casual. Sex is just another basic bodily function.

I’m 30 & I don’t have any children..this is a problem everywhere 💔🙃 Children are expensive

No, the very first footage is Korea, not Japan.

The smooth jazz throughout this video successfully got me in the mood. Has Japan tried Jazz?

The situation in a nutshell... Japanese government: Have more kids. Repopulate! Please! Japanese workers: mute, silent, stuck at work, waiting for the boss to go home. Japanese government (gathering together, spending millions on research): Hmmmm.... why are these people not meeting and mating? Any one else looking at the situation from the outside: You are unable to solve this problem? Really? You're kidding me, right? Japanese government: We have tried everything. Any one else looking at the situation from the outside: Well... for starters... just spitballing here... you could ask the boss to go home at a reasonable time. Japanese government: No... we can't do that! Any one else looking at the situation from the outside: Well, suit yourself. Have fun with your dwindling population.

Being alone sometimes is... alright. But staying alone is never okay. I'm pretty sure it's gonna affect your mental state in the long run.

15:45 "please save me, i've done things that can no longer get me into being a proper mannequin at a fashion store." *internally crying*

Impressed. Yuki has no accent

being alone is way better than having to deal with your girlfriend's drama

Perhaps this is the natural and protective response of our species when facing overcrowding and overpopulation.

I am 33 live in abu dubai, i live alone and work in hospital. When i see old people, i feel that I need a life partner. But in a relationship, you lost freedom of life. It is really difficult to decide whether to live a single or in a live-in relationship.

The single life for me is all about survival, saving money and taking care of yourself first. You have the freedom to what you enjoy and and have that serenity.

The sex dolls are so disturbing, they have the body of a teenager and the head of a child. Ew!

But we are constantly being bombarded by Japan's stellar education, values, cleanliness, respect, etc...

AI Robots will take over the working class.

"In Japan, after marriage couples rarely engage in sexual relationships." So, just like in every American sitcom from 1950 to 2017?

Very good documentary

Wild times we are living

Great video noticed the dolls are light skin and all have non Japanese eyes. Does anybody notice alot of Japanese men are very feminine. Its like you can hardly tell the difference between a man and a woman. I

I'm 34, live alone and never had a partner. I never thought of it as a problem, I enjoy it like this. I can see the economic problems if everyone would think about it like this, though. Still I don't like the undertone on this topic in many documentaries, not everybody has to strive for marriage and children or even boy/girlfriends.

I was raised in a dysfunctional family, with both my parents in a toxic relationship and my sister. That is why both me and my sister, are not so positive on the idea of marriage and children. Most people are in toxic relationships, because of fear of loneliness. The dating culture is tragic, because people's bar status is low for both men and women. Men enter the dating culture being disappointed, because women can't keep up with their expectations, while women are forced to think between career but single or in a relationship with marriage and children and then divorce.

Single is much better... Having in a relationship or kids is not necessary... Every people has choices in life...

Feel like tbh it’s not just Japan that’s going through this, feel it’s a world thing tbh

20 sq meters for an apartment is scary.

my hot take: romance is dead in Japan and somehow the work culture is a major contributor.

Holding down a job until your 60/65, providing an adequate pension in a time of ever increasing state pension age, big mortgages, car loans, and the cost of bringing up kids. A 50% chance of ending up divorced. I can't blame young people for staying single.

When I was at genz age I have been through so many relationship but unfortunately nothing worked out. I am 34 and don't want to get into any kind of relationship.. I hope I will get married to someone who will respect me and is loyal to me forever ❤❤.. No relationship only for marriage ❤❤

is it just me or do all the doll faces look like children?

Sex without desire feels awful. No love shared, there’s no desire. Women, in general, have only 25-50% of the libido men do. Many of us can live without it just fine. If we marry, it’s expected at male libido demands and with enthusiastic performance. But like I said, without love shown there’s little, if any desire, and it feels awful. Women have had to endure it for millennia. Thankfully, women in western countries don’t have to anymore unless they find love, have a matching libido to their partner, and want to. It’s such a gift to have such freedom.

Just remember folks only take these videos with a grain of salt.

Damn I hope Japan figures it out because the culture is so cool I don’t want them to die out

This is the saddest thing I have ever seen. I have now begun to realize that when people are very alone, as a default survival mechanism they convince themselves that it’s more enjoyable to live alone than to be around other people. That’s horrible for your psyche and it’s sad to see people living in this state of hollowed our existence.

Ive always thought this had something to do with how androgynous japanese men have become

Maybe this is one of the reasons why we have not found intelligence outside earth: it seems intelligence is a risk factor for species survival, not only because of self destruction but also for this, personal wellbeing over species survival. There will always be a cohort of humanity more connected with their animality, willing to procreate. Those shall inherit the earth, it seems.

I live alone in London and yet maintain a great relationship and I had 5 kids who always need me and I love every second of it. I don’t need much to be happy. I just don’t get this.

Not everyone wants to have children or a relationship for that matter, but there's still a lot of people who want those very things.

40% never having sex is just incredible, and I’m sure most of them are men. The hypergamy of women have never been so prevalent in history. Most of the women end up sleeping with the same men. Roughly a 15% of male population have access to 90% of female population. A man in that 15%, dates and have sex with multiple women throughout his life. And he rejects or not even considers only the 10% of the women in the dating market. But women are all looking for the same guys. They sometimes still date outside of that 15%, but rarely and shortly. That’s why you hear some guys getting a sexual experience once in a blue moon and others hooking up with multiple women in a single week. Believe it or not, not even in the Medieval Ages, hypergamy of women were this much rampant. Not even in the Islamic conquest era. Not even in the Stone Age! Just a 75 years ago though, the hypergamy was in its lowest point. More than 95% of men were married back then, and most of the remaining 5% had sexual or romantic relationships. It was the norm. 50s were also the peak era of monogamy. But today, not just the hypergamy of women is in historical rise, but the polygamy as well. Back in my childhood, rich men with multiple partners were shunned. Nowadays they’re encouraged to have multiple “sugar babies”, it’s considered a validation of success. Of course not every rich guy has a harem, but it’s started to be normalized. And that’s basically the origin story of the historical polygamy we all know about. There’re also open marriages, which are also a direct product of the hypergamy. Sometimes hypergamy forces women to marry a man they really don’t find attractive, mainly for monetary reasons, and they find the solution in open relationships, if they can somehow convince their partners of course. Although monetary gain is one of the main aspects of the hypergamy, it of course is not what it is all about. The bad boy archetype is a sexual object for most women, as well as a healthy and good looking man. Intelligence, the status, and manners in overall are also quite important for hypergamy. Finding all of these attributes at the same time is almost impossible. That’s why we end up with only 15% of male population. In which not all of them are meeting all the criteria already, but at least if you’re a bad boy, you still end up in this 15% anyhow. This phenomenon leaves us with a huge male population that is lone and sexless. They always end up being rejected for various reasons. Which we never experienced in our history as a spicy. How did we end up here? I really don’t know. I’m also not sure what it will lead to.

Younger generation addicted to porn, social media, and video games. Its as addictive as cocaine and the kids start young.

Why was the reporter doing that to the dolls toes though? 😂 #OnTheRoadTo100K. #Robloak.

Be careful living alone is very addictive but as long as you are having conversation with your neighbour, friends, family members everyday you are fine

I can imagine a far future generation watching this as a documentary in class and everyone thinking this was fiction

Disturbing and disgusting that these dolls are underage school girls…

I’m 40 and live alone with my two cats and have a few friends but not close friends. Everyone I know including family have married and divorced and had kids and are paying the financial consequences of getting involved with someone else or having kids on a limited budget. No One Is Worth The Added Cost!! Better to be single, free and alone with no expectations other than the ones you impose on yourself!! #Freedom

Japan: I like my air conditioner like I like my women, cold, quiet and remote operable.

Dolls are better than marriage

Being alone is the most powerful thing to do, I see couples holding hands, it seems good from far, but the things which comes with this locking of hands are very different. This is a very important topic we need to analyze this topic to evolve to be a better individuals.

Surprisingly most Japanese people can speak fluent in English

At some point one has to say to one self I will not comply, I mean I will be the best worker above all the others so when I am done I will leave and do what I want, ie, have a social life. Don't like it, fire me, I know my skills and what I have to offer is not easy to replace, so let us reason together or too bad, so sad, I will go, that is why I am my own boss .Got it, good! I guess that is why I am not Japanese, however I respect Japan and their people.

If it's happening on Japan, it's also happening worldwide due to modern feminism 😂

They make some high quality Dolls there in Japan. Those were the bargain bin version compared to what i have seen. Still they don't hold a candle to Abyss Creations Dolls.

I feel like you'd have to really stretch your imagination to "be" with a doll. It would get so dull pretty quickly.

Companies: No, we will not raise wages or benefits! Also companies: WHAT DO YOU MEAN ALL THE EMPLOYEES HAVE RETIRED AND THERE IS NOBODY TO TAKE THEIR PLACE!?!?!?! Even the WEF must realize that their plans require a stable population, right?

How can this happen if 70% of the male population but 60% of the female population is single? Where do women get their partners from? Do several women share one man?

its not only in Japan,its happening all over the world

This is really just a weird insane society.

The reasons in Japan are different, but the problems are the same. No one wants to start families anymore.

Those sex toys are having big impact in their lives

1:00 WTF is that?

I've been married for almost 15 years now. I dated my wife for two. I miss being single.