Mac DeMarco meeting his father outside gig at The Constellation Room at the Observatory in Santa Ana. Mac played there April 6, 2013. (Thanks to darthdj31)
Side note: I should prob mentioned to the ones wondering that this clip. Is few years old. I don´t know the exact year? Maybe someone else does. But im guessing 2013-2014? It´s taken from the "MAC DEMARCO BRGRTV SPOTLIGHT" interview. The place being Constellation Room at the Observatory in Santa Ana ( Thanks to darthdj31)
Thanks for the year! Also I tried reading most comments here.Love to all the ones going through the same thing. And please remember to be kind to one another.
Hey the ending of the video made me realize that's the Constellation Room at the Observatory in Santa Ana. Mac played there April 6, 2013. Definitely in SoCal because his dad talks about going to the Redwoods the next day, and Mac is going to San Diego. He played in San Diego at the Hideout April 7th, 2013, as he said he would in the video.
Clinton Leonard my dad. Its all reletive to how people deal with it, hence why im so cold about all of this. My older brother is the one who too all the brunt of sadness. the way I see it is dealing with it in 2 ways, one is turning into an alcoholic and drug addict, which is what my brother did (thankfully hes turning around) or what I did. be cold about it and move on.
Marcin Ratajczyk how did Mac ever get through it? Actually blows my fucking mind, not that I’m soo close with my old man but at least he was here and was here to love my mother :(
I say not really because it just isnt. Mac looks absolutely fine and dandy, and hes gotten this far without a father. (Granted we dont know how he is behind closed doors, but still) He has 2 ways of being, a huge piece of trash and no better then his father, (Like my own brother) or he can push forward and be better then his father. (Like I'm trying to).
i had a similar moment outside of a grocery store, i was with my girlfriend at the time and i told her, i think that guy loading bags in his truck is my dad...she was all excited and said lets go up to him i was like no its been over 7yrs last time we spoke, she convinced me and we went over and my dad looked like he saw a ghost and didnt know where to hide, he said hi and said how are you son i said ok, i helped him with the rest of his groceries i introduced him to my girlfriend and wow was that awkward, he got into his truck i said goodbye but when when he was driving away he said "you have a beautiful girlfriend and you look great son, im sorry" and drove away...i walked away, but when i looked over to my girlfriend she was crying like a baby, i told her its ok an she said no its not...
1:09 "oh no, I've got to go, I'll be back" they way he said it so fast really just made me shake my head. I don't know if he did actually come back but I feel like he didn't... love you Mac
As a bass player it is in your essence the moment you pick up that instrument. You actually need to legally add on "I play the bass" to your maiden name.
Chelsea Baker yeah, this whole scenario felt pretty cold. I know Mac had told people not to demonize his father, that he still loves him, but still. Give your son a hug dude...
Well with a parent like tht that disappears and is always in and out of your life thats how you tend to treat em. Just kind of not taking their promises or what they say in general seriously. Just be nice cuz theres no point in being a dick, it wont erase the memories. Its better to just be cool and take it in stride instead of continuing to get hurt
you ever seen the scene in the fresh prince of bel-air where will is about to go on a trip with his father and his father just leaves? this is essentially it
Guy Fieri ok , so if I tell you that your dad is going to the store to buy some cigs Do you think he is going to comeback? Of course it doesn't make sense that he don't comeback
My cousin's got a dad like that. sadly. But, hey, my dad has never even reached out to me, so at least you've got something to work your idealizations of your relationship off of/
I can´t imagine for my life the strength it must have taken Mac to handle this, as well as he did. He seems to yearn for some sort of acknowledgement from his father. And I don´t know what happened after this. But im not so sure his father really DID come back.. Given his past behaviour/problems in life. Just feeling I had upon watching this. In fairness im sure it was hard on both of them..Sad and heartbreaking. So much love and respect for Mac. he really got that "man of the people"vibe going on.
I agree,. I mean he might not have had the best background himself, but he turned that around and made something out of himself His mum should obviously have alot of credit, she raised him damn well :). So many ppl use that as an excuse instead for NOT doing anything. A bit like the underdog going topdog. Gotta respect that indeed :)
washedinsilver1 I think a lot of boys (including myself) yearns some acknowledgement, safety and love from our fathers, and It can be shattering If we do not get it. This movie is hardbreaking..
"And even though we barely know each other It still hurts watching him fade away, watching him fade away Watching him fade away, watching him fade away" Lyrics from This Old Dog's last song :(
I'm 36 and had never even seen a photo of my father. My grandfather died a few months ago (my father's step father who raised him). I went to the funeral and of course my father was there. He approached me after eyeballing me from afar for about half an hour. All he said was "I haven't seen you since you were about this big" holding his band down by his knee even though I wasn't even walking the last time he'd seen me. He then said "it's good to see you" and then went back to his seat. After the service was over, I walked out into the hallway, he saw me, turned and ran full speed to the parking lot. He had a long history of abusing women and children and i'd always built him up in my mind to be some tall, handsome player type since I've heard so many stories about him sleeping around and running off between women and manipulating them. But really he was a short, sad looking old dude who clearly doesn't have anything going for him in life. It was an awkward experience but I was glad to see him for what he really is instead of the picture I'd painted in my mind.
this was powerful man. giving that i have a son now i never want to be a father like that. i hope you don’t either, we take these things that happen to us and use that experience for our future. Have a good day man
I didn't even look at the comments and didn't know the context and my first thoughts were 'what a cool supportive dad,' then I scrolled down. I guess I need to take a look at my own relationship with my dad, cause I thought this was normal
Yeah this isn't supportive at all. All his dad's comments here are so surface level. Seems like the bare minimum of what you should say to your own son. *Also don't read my message as targeted towards you, just frustrated toward dads like this
Reminds me of my dad. I used to ask him to come by my moms house and spend time with my sister and I and he would refuse because his wife may get crazy jealous. I get that, but when I bought my own house and asked him if he would come by and spend time now that's my house and there's no reason for his wife to be jealous he gave me some bullshit answer and refused. That shit broke my heart.
That's heartbreaking, man. You just gotta move on, I'd say. If he doesn't wanna be in your life, then let him be. You know you tried your best and now you know that he's the reason you guys didn't have a healthy relationship
I don't know anything about Mac Demarco's personal life, but something tells me his relationship with his father is an atypical one. Having lived my whole life without a father I have just gained a lot more respect for Mac. It's a hard thing to do, and anyone who handles it as well as he does has earned my respect
My life is shit. I'm a mess. But my dad is always there when I need him. I'm lucky. I wouldn't give that up for all the success and cash. Love you mac. You deserve better
@@nyko9631 Thank you man! I completely forgot about this comment. I’m now 17 months sober from drugs and alcohol and my life is a lot better. Thank you x
He put his father on the guest list.... That makes my heart ache. I can be ur father. I'm only a 19 year old girl, but I swear I'd be a better father. lol.
Man my pops and I can’t seem to see eye to eye on about everything. He an old style Mexican dad and he thinks about think in a old fashioned way and I’m the opposite and we end up arguing all the time. I’ve tried to get along and man it sucks. He has good intentions but the world changes and that’s something he doesn’t want to see. I probably shouldn’t be complaining cuz there are others who have had it worse but having him so close but not being able to interact comfortably really hurts.
I wouldn't call myself old style, but me and my dad are the inverse of that situation. We butt heads on a lot of stuff, some stuff that I feel guilty of afterwards, but I'm glad he's around
Thats normal mexican parents don't know how to show affection. Especially in mexico they grow so fast mentally while they're so young. So the parents don't show love or affection.
Me and my dad have a pretty weird relationship too. There are some days where we hang out and spend lots of time and talk and stuff. Then there are other days where we basically don't look at each other. I particularly don't like being around him when he's had a few too many shots. I wish our relationship could be more stable and normal but after a reading a lot of the comments on this video, I'm just proud to have a dad at all and that he's still with me. Best of wishes to all.
I can really relate to that lack of interest, I'm a musician and my parents have never seen me perform. Either they cant be bothered or 11:00pm is just "too late" for them. Feeling like your family has interest in what you do with your life is an under-rated thing. It can mean alot
I love Mac, love his music, sense of humor and personality. He seems like such a sweetheart, like such a chill dude that anyone would be happy to hang with. Watching this clip and reading the comments made me sad though. Reminds me of that song Cat's In The Cradle. Some fathers just have no clue how much their absence/presence makes a difference in their kid's life.
It’s weird running into your dad when you’re with your friends and you’re not close. I’ve been in this situation a few times. What else but play it cool and be honest? Not everyone gets a good father but everyone must do the best they can with what is handed to them.
I remember being 17 hadn't seen my dad since I was 4. I ran into my sister in the store who I also hadn't seen in that long. We talked and she told me that my father was wanting to talk to me. He was suffering from alcoholism and that he wanted to just see how I was doing. She gave me his number and I didn't call him. I threw it away.... 2 weeks later he committed suicide. I never got the chance to hear him out or tell him I forgive him for leaving. Even if shit makes you uncomfortable just do it. You'll be better off.
I'm in a some what same situation. My dad has been trying to leave me since I was little my mom pushed him to give in to us, i idolized him even if he didn't want us. until the day he put hands on my little brother and I beat the shit outta him. Ever since that day I did i hate him and he has been trying to contact me for the past 2 years. Every one tells me to talk to him before I regret it but im not sure I will. I just don't wanna be old and then regret it lol. Sorry to hear that man life has its ups and downs and that must've been a big down for you. Hope you doing better.
God damn this is heartbreaking. and to think me and my father never get along but he has always been there for me, regardless of his emotional distance. Makes me feel like a piece of shit, which I am.
Dammm I recognize that gas station and cashier in the beginning I go there all the time, t’s in Fountain Valley corner of Mile Sqaure on Warner and Brookhurst, crazy
Imagine having thousands of strangers paying to see you, some of them travelling hours just to be in your presence - many who would pay top dollar just to spend 5 minutes with you afterwards… and then your own Father is in the parking lot acting like he’s more or less indifferent to you. Ouch!!
2:09 "thats my old man my pops" I can see in that moment the sadness Mac carries. Why can I see it? Because so many of us have had a moment like this.....Im proud Demarco is happy/successful and has good relationships. Usually people with bad dads carry a wound that never heals.....oh man. Big fan and This Old Dog swan song to his dad.
It's like the "colleague" conversation I always have with my dad. It just feels akward and forced and I always feel like he just does it cuz he is my dad but not because he wants to. Seeing this just confirmed the feeling I already had towards songs on his albums and know I know it's almost the same. Love how perfect mac describes it..
this is so heartbreaking. i listened to watching him fade away for the first time and cried my eyes out, then came here and cried even more. mac's so strong.
as someone who grew up without a parent, its not that heartbreaking, they have never been there for you, the heartbreak has existed before, your whole life. now thats heartbreaking.
"Not until you see, as the heart grows stronger sometimes love is pushed away" This is odd because this showed up on my YT feed a day after I saw my dad after 3 months of having bailed out on me. He acted as if nothing happened and as if I hadn't struggled with money in the past three months (hilariously, he even got mad at me because I didn't call him). And I actually handled it pretty much like Mac did. And for some reason this is kind of reconforting because I realize that I grew a lot in those months and that there's nothing wrong with the fact that I don't hold hard feelings towards him. Maybe Mac has coped with something I am starting to cope with. Three months are nothing compared to years but my dad has been absent most of my life and so far has managed to make me become very distant despite all my attempts at having a healthy relation with him. And that's realizing that they may not ever change their minds and you have to go on without them. But, I dunno. I'm just some dude who likes Mac's music.
wtff I was listening to "My Old Man" and read the line "Not until you see, as the heart grows stronger sometimes love is pushed away" in the exact time Mac sung it. creepy af lol
Obviously the focus of the video is drawing the most attention but it’s pretty hilarious that the guy wouldn’t sell Mac beer because his ID is from “Canady”
Alcol are illegal under the youngs of 21 in Canady, exept prvoince of diffrent like Ontarios. Life of beverage is 19 youngs. Quebecks is 18th youngs. Most drink avoid age.
the shuriken stop making excuses for men who abandoned their children!! I'm so tired of hearing these excuses just because they are men. If it was a mother, she would be a monster without doubt, but if is a men... well, "maybe he has his reasons"
@@celestica8474 Where'd anyone but you bring anything up about women? Or do you just have to use every opportunity to expose your idiocy and victim mentality? Maybe they we're just having an empathetic moment trying to view the situation from the father's shoes, probably wrong - but at least they made an attempt of understanding someone instead of just using this video as an excuse to whine about how oppressed dead beat mother's are! Deadbeat parents of any gender are monsters, without a doubt, and sometimes she has her reasons as much as the man may have his.
@@celestica8474 Not an excuse but it is a reason. And it’s probably most likely true as that’s pretty common, he probably feels guilt about what he’s done and just doesn’t know what to do. Doesn’t excuse his actions but it does explain them.
Reading all these comments made me cry, i don't know how to feel and I don't know if I relate, my dad died of cancer when I was 11 months old, never knew him or saw him excpet for pictures, I also don't really feel anything towards him as bad as it sounds, because I grew up all my life without a dad figure and I wasn't attached to him, sometimes my dad's family part asks me if I miss him or love him and I just don't know how to answer because I don't know who he is. I always wonder how it would've been like to have a father and how much my life would be different.
I never knew my father and let me tell you something that empty feeling never goes away. Having no one to give a Father’s Day present to or even having someone to teach how to be a man or shave, to play ball with. That empty feeling.
I understand how infinitely fortunate and lucky I am just to think of how my dad would never just talk to me from inside the car like that, especially if we spent some time apart. He's a trucker, so he's often away from home, doing what he can to provide for us. Whenever he's around, tho, we gather with my mom and brother and go out to get beer, burgers and goodies with whatever cash we all managed to save from our jobs throughout the month. My dad is everything I try to be every day. Everything I do is an attempt to be more and more like him, as much as I possibly can.
This hurts man, constantly burying feeling and emotion with laughs and see you laters, always keeping up the charade that everything's all good. I love Macs music it helped me during a time when I was becoming a man all on my own, I never realized how much I relate to him.
My dad randomly left after years of marriage with my mom. I see him sometimes, but every time I look into his eyes ... I realized my dad died that day, and never came back.
Y’all this hits so hard rn. I had to block my own biological father that I’ve been waiting 31 years to hear from and meet. I couldn’t keep him in my life because he is a danger to me and my family but my heart hurts so bad just watching this video. Mac Demarco is my dad now though so it’s okay
