Maddie & Joey Foster Care Story: Day 1 - when foster kids come back into care 

Maybe ask if she can eat in a classroom with a teacher who regularly does that? I used to have that option back in middle school due to the sheer amount of noise. It was a lifesaver.

@@CamdenKaneakaNeptunesdaughter we are working on it, we have a social worker and other professionals involved. She is only 4 and so it is a different situation from an older kid. The school is working with us to figure out what will help her be more comfortable.

I have this issue as well and ate in peace while the nurse did paperwork :) Maybe call the school nurse about that option ? Hope she adjusts ❤ It’s amazing how you word things. Not “she won’t eat” because that’s all i got. Very compassionate

That’s what I did in elementary school too

I also really struggle with that, it's wonderful and really important that you are so compassionet, and that in itself I am sure is helping her a lot ❤️

Yes I agree these videos model good self-care too including even for our younger "parts" (that's a parts work term referring to "inner child" and "inner caregiver" sort of parts we all have in us).

I totally agree. I don't have or plan to have kids, but my partner struggles with their mental health and these videos often help for me too by role modelling being there for someone in a supporting, calm way

Me too, I thought I was kind of weird for feeling this way. I wish everyone gets it has gotten this kind of treatment in their childhood and beyond. Love, respect, patience, support in their every day needs and challenges. Can you imagine? What a beautiful thought ❤️‍🩹🌈

My youngest child is 18 and it still helps me relate to him and respect his boundaries. They also help me respect what I need as well. Thank you for excellent modeling behaviors for ourselves and others ❤

Same! ❤❤

I have some of the same issues too and it's so wonderful to see people being so empathetic about it ❤️

What can I do for my daughter. She seems a little uneasy around food at times and I think I've totally screwed up my approach. She's 11 and it isn't too severe but this comment resonated with me and who better to ask than someone who may be going through it?

@@flowersforthedead5182 Be compassionet and know that she isn't just being picky or dramatic. Ask her about how she feels and be open yourself and apologise for past mistakes. Her knowing you believe her about what she is going through and you won't be angry at her can go a long way. Is she ND? My own issues primarily relate to me being autistic (though I wasn't diagnosed until I was 17). As well as severe insecurity from my my mother constantly making comments about how I would eat. Primarily that I sometimes hold cuttlery weirdly, also an autistic thing. Wether she's ND or not it's very important that you validate her expirience. What exactly does she struggle with? Unless it's something that activly harms her I wouldn't recommend trying to "fix" it. And if things do need to change talk to her about it and ask for her opinions and feelings. It's really wonderful that you are asking about this 😊 I wish you both the best ❤️

@@flowersforthedead5182 I agree with @Afairyist and I think you should also try to gradually expose her to more foods without forcing them on her (i.e. keeping different foods around the house; going to different restaurants etc.). I also found for myself that the tactic of "the more you eat it the more you will like it" did not work for me but I also found ways to eat stuff that I may not eat while comfortable at home but can somewhat eat a little in public. I also know for myself that I like to have a little 'treat' after eating something I may not totally like, such as eating a little chocolate or mint. I think it's great that you're also noticing how she gets uneasy around food, and if she is getting all her nutritional values then I wouldn't worry too much about her feeling uneasy as long as her "safe" foods are somewhat healthy and nutritional.

@@katielear6570 Oh yes gradually introducing her to a variety of food is really great! It helped me so much to find new things I liked and felt comfortable eating ❤

Same here, I'm literally crying just cuz it feels so.. idk the word. Kind, nice, happy, etc. It's what I wish I had and what I want to give to my children

I hope your ok now 😊

Haha, I'm an adult and I keep thinking I'd love to sleepover at this woman's house. She's so nice! I've never been in foster care or anything like it but I'd love to get that kind of care and attention - with the boundaries she makes sure to include!

Thank you for watching!

How old were you when your mom fostered? I’ve seen some bio kids (adult now) write that they loved helping out kids in need and other say it was so hard to say goodbye to foster siblings each time, other didn’t feel prioritized… thanks for any reply ❤

That’s a good question! BUMP!

I guess that is not very likely to happen.

I totally agree ❤

Yes! I agree. 💛💛💛

We're lucky, aren't we! I think everyone deserves to be treated thoughtfully ❤️ and we're learning how right here😊

As a past parent I wish I had seen this type of parenting before I began my own. Really I mostly saw my own parents who weren't like this at all (1960s & 70s, so understandable since corporal punishment was still accepted back then; authoritarian style was usual) so my models weren't the best.