Madonna - Oh Father [Official Music Video] 

My father is a narcissistic, abusive and his entire family is toxic. My dad abuses my mother , my siblings . I cry and wish to die after seeing the dark bruises and the reason behind is his family. My Mom says its OK he is your father . Fuck you both go to hell . I want to be orphan . Leave me . His toxic family is too big .

Went through same. Glad you came out OK. ❤

i hope you're doing better now. And i hope you have only the good people around you to help with that. You deserve peace.

Bless you, allow me to embrace you from the distance. Daniela

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That hit so deep

That part is so painful.

Continuous cycles of abuse: the abused usually grows up to become the abuser. Sad, but true.

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It’s some of his best work. Next to Freedom 90, Janie’s Got a Gun, Vogue and Straight Up. He was a master at his craft in the 80’s and 90’s.

The beautiful melody attracts us in, then the video message shows complete depression and death.

Right. But the trauma amd pain stay.

Oh yes, so true.

We still gotta try and break generational trauma. It's so deep and painful.

My favorite part also…

I felt pity for my father and this line cemented it in my mind as a child. As a mother, I can't forgive any longer. I can't excuse the abuse. I suffered too, I was hurt but I changed the tide. I won't do that my child. Never will I make her hurt like I did. I'd rather cut out my tongue

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no one deserves what you went through Alexandros. we love you !

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Because she sings with the heart and heals people

I'm so glad to hear that. I hope you're doing fine. ❤🌻

madonn's father issues. no wonder she acted that way and looks the way she does now

Ms. The world would by far be a Lesser place without you. I very glad you're still here ... This hand of Friendship reaches out should you ever need a friend to talk to,, I'm on youside spiritually and feel your pain . I hope you can feel my enjoyment in writing this to you where ever you are or might Be. May the Light of the World Shine His Light onto your Face , and into your Heart . Shiloh The Savior has come . The Prince of Peace the Lord of Lords. Always DH.

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This song is hauntingly beautiful, some of Madonna's strongest vocals

sure

I totally agree with you.

Is writen by her true story in the infant Life... Sorry ,but someday...before to give your Life Votage...PLS learn the story ....

Over 40yrs & she still able to reach people across the world. What a woman. What a human being!

agree...it is stunning

I was about to comment the same thing, "Stunning...."

Cheers. I wondered why she got so heavy, Mettlehead.

​@@goosefarm3602 Madonna Oh Father 1989

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But but but what about Tay Tay? Swifties would disagree 😂

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Madonna is Our Icon and Good mother In one word SHE IS THE BEST

O.M.G.WHAT A SONG....WOW !!!!!!!!☺☺☺❤❤❤

@@spidermanbestmoments6503 Madonna - Oh Father 👨 [Official Music Video] 1989

@@spidermanbestmoments6503 Madonna Like A Prayer 1989

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I'm kind of confused about what this song is about is Madonna talking about her father mistreating her? did that really happen?

Yeah, it's a lovely song!

Stanley Woodward Yes. Mental abuse.....

Ursine ComicGeek Agree my friend, its lovely. For the same feelings, please find Kate Bush's .'Moments Of Pleasure'. Touches all the same feelings.

Ursine ComicGeek Somehow it helps me cope with my owng grief...If I knew He was in peace with the Lord (not that I wish that) but not knowing His wereabouts makes it even harder these days and always you know? I do not know if I will be able to forgive Him. No matter what life might spit at you, why do kids or sons have to suffer what is unknown to us....???

Yea, that's how itcwas for me . I can fully relate to what she sings about.

I have heard otherwise. Her brother disputes this

the queen of marketing - she got all of us broken kids. Im sure her mothers death really messed her and her father up.

It's incredible but lots of hard rock or punk fans love Madonna. I have been a fan of hers forever and she has always kept a punk attitude no matter what kind of songs she has written and produced. She started playing and singing rock/ska/pop punk songs in New York before she got a superstar and that background has never gone away from her. You can feel that attitude in everything she says and does, that's possibly why lots of rock and punk fans respect her. And yes, this song is an absolute masterpiece ❤

Progressive metal fan here. Still eagerly listening to several songs of her, the one included.

​@@sebastianocostantino1 Madonna

Same here, bro.

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Same for Madonna's Thgis Used To Be My Playground, Promisse To Try and To Have And Not To Hold

@@ginasousabranco5637 Madonna

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Madonna Love The 1989

Me to 😢😰

Agreed, my favourite part of the song and the video. Whether you're a survivor or not, it's an astonishing example Fincher's sensitivity. This video is as good as Vogue and yet seems overlooked these days.

@@soin74 Agree you don't need to be a survivor to appreciate! Overlooked? Perhaps because it's such a heavy subject? I don't know. Regardless, it's art. Livable, breathing art.

Yeah, it's a great scene. The whole video is just so amazing. People thought this was biographical, and in some ways it is. I think Madonna's mother dying really, really messed Madonna up. She was jealous of the housekeepers that tried to run the house, and I can't imagine how she felt when Tony married Joan. I'm sure he loves her very much, and I think he was upset when this video came out. I don't think he ever abused her, but I think she couldn't understand that he still had to live his life, and he moved on. I think Madonna has too, in some ways, but in some ways not.

Interesting fact. The beautiful little girl in the video I think didn’t awesome job acting turned out to be a professor in therapy. I know because she was my professor in my marriage and family therapy grad program :-) she’s really nice and she looks the same!

@@formerlyarandompropernameb9327 Wow! Thanks for sharing that. Glad to hear she's doing well and is quite successful.

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Yes

I lost my mom a year ago. Besties. The pain will never leave. But, she would be the one to say (carry on)

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I lost my mom two months ago and this video has me crying like a baby, it just hurts so bad sometimes. Mom, if you're watching over me, I love you so much and I will miss you forever.

Agreed, it's doubtlessly one of her best songs, but not her best song... And I'm getting tired of the word "underrated". Who determines which songs are underrated?

@@GeorgeKuenzli underrated because generally not the 1st song that comes to mind when thinking about this artist. Just an opinion.

​@mriyefa2196 Totally agree with you. It's a criminally underrated song. If this song was given its due upon release it would have gone to number 1 immediately. But it didn't do as well as all the other singles from Like. A Prayer, maybe the subject matter was deemed too heavy at the time. That being said, the song is amazing regardless of its commercial appeal. You can just gage by reading these comments how much this song means to countless people.

This is her masterpiece in my view. It's here that we glimpse the real woman and her feelings. It's such a powerful song, perhaps too much so, which is why it didn't do well on release. The Madonna we see today is a million miles away from this, sadly.

By my dad not a boyfriend...

@@tammyfields4270 ??? They are right?

I hope you are in a much better place now 💜💜

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@Gorgeous George why are you talking about genes???

Essa música me lembra um passado não muito distante em as músicas eram românticas e boas de se ouvir.

Yes! This video was truly a work of art, imo!!

It's over but go one in RU-vid

@@paulosidney3692 es verdad

Yes

She has an amazing body of work - music , tours and videos . You are in for a treat 😍

@@garycambridge5513 Madonna

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This used to be my playground which was really about nyc and aids the power of goodbye ur frozen Spanish eyes and her prequel to oh father her ultimate song LIVE TO TELL

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Doubtful Madonna worships Lucifer and the baphomet. She got to evaluate her life and make biiiiig changes if she ever wants to be back under God’s good graces

@@adsromek ok, lunatic. Have a nice day.

@@adsromek oh do shut up Abby, !!!

@@adsromek Thats not true.The captains of the music industri are forcing her to do that.Michael Jackson.complained aboud that too.

@@adsromek shut up.

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Madonna has so many masterpiece songs and its videos: Bad Girl, Ghosttown, Like a Prayer, Express Yourself, Papa Don't Preach, The Power of Goodbye, Rain , This Used To be My Palyground, Crave, Batuka, ...

Manajaj aí love you cuerno de discraça v

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Those who grew up with this are SHAPED BY THE MUSIC. when she passes, a part of me will go as well.....my god it all feels so surreal....2020 is monumental and I know she's not like dying or anything but it's just all so raw.....

Because its a sia song

still giving goosebumps in 2024..

👏👏👏 Everything you said x 💯!

Music can be such a catharsis, help us capture and express the pain and torment deep within us which is seeking expression and a way out!! It meant a lot to me, too, helped me dispel some of my own anger and grief and pain.

...I wish it is all long gone away from You now 😙

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I'm sorry you had to go through it, too. But I'm glad you are still here.

All I can day is..same here

Right?! 90% of what they call "music" these days is just garb anymore! It all slowly went downhill after the 90's

And right now too!

TIMELESS!!!

me too, and promise to try

Me too. 😥

Me too when she says oh father if you never wanted to live that way if you never wated to hurt me why am i runned

Whe can shake hands.

I think more people than you think world wide.

Good shout but I’d add ‘The Power of Goodbye’ too.

Yeah, M's voice go into deep there.

That´s true, Loakum

bobo semlimit true that gets me every time

The song makes me cry always as well. But the brilliance of the video is perfection. From the casting of that beautiful little girl, to all the imagery... I could go on and on about that. I wish the world could see this. I think it would be very healing to a lot of people

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Yep

So true!! And without the annoying vocal range battle like most of her female peers

and plus she writes her own lyrics

Absolutely

I totally agree with all of you

Very true

Agree. Madonna was early here... It was really in the 90s when Tori Amos and Fiona Apple tapped into this level of dark, brutal honesty that songs of this kind actually gained broad acceptance...

And of course the angry christians hated it back then, which makes it even better!!!

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Present. Hi.

Madonna

I had a turntable to sell, I rediscovered this title by putting the LP on to try it. Hello from Belgium 🙂🙋‍♂️

I HOPE you are okay now, Love Always😘

Same here sis

Different music genres. Like a Virgin is 100% pop and catchy. Oh Father is a pop ballad

Mark Millsaps yes but oh father is way deeper and more powerful and moving.,

One of Madonna's masterpieces. I always cry when I listen to and watch this video. 😢❤❤❤

@@ginasousabranco5637 live to tell was also a pop ballad and was a hit. This should've been a hit. All her songs deserved to be hits

This was the first Madonna video I'd had exposure to, as a young teen. Oh, I'd heard her songs on the radio before but I didn't watch a lot of TV until 1989/90. Basically it's the song that got me "into" Madonna. For that reason this song has always struck a very nostalgic chord with me. Definitely her most emotional song, and at the same time so very different than anything else she'd recorded up to that point aside from Live To Tell. It's almost like it came from a different artist, it was so different. But I agree, it should have been a much bigger hit, I was shocked when I started doing chart research it basically broker her top 10 streak. But that may be nostalgia speaking, and still speaking 30 years (ugh!) later.

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braktuun Stop! Don't use the word "Underrated" when you talk about a Madonna 👑 song she never gonna have nothing underrated is the most selling female artist all time! Come on....

@@grard4141 but this song is underrated, is a beautiful song with one of the best music videos OF ALL TIME, yet it was overlooked by: Grammys, MTV VMAS, AMAs, The Charts, and even Madonna herself who only performed it once and no even the full version of in a medley. DEF UNDERRATED.

IThinkTheFuckNot YoutrickassBitch Is a Classic bro and Classics don't need awards or whatever you think 🙄 and again Madonna don't now the word underrated she is the most excess full artists all time 💎💎💎

@@grard4141 calm down bobo

Her two best songs

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Can I get another Amen?!

Powerful comment & I've felt your words Honest Articulate & heartfelt thanks for sharing 💜❤

I love you! Thank you for sharing, and forgiving, and never giving up! Perspective is rich!

The chain has to be broken at some point. If you accept that a father was cruel because someone had hurt him, so you accept you can be a bad father yourself, because you've been hurt too, and so on... I do understand your point, but this goes on and on if we just accept it! All the best to you!

My brother... Was hurt by my father now it is he whom hurts his family...

Thats applicable alot of times not even just in the case of a father...alot of people never shown ANY love or someone that hurt them, they either are not capable of real love or go on to hurt someone else who doesn't deserve because they themselves were hurt..

@@marswmnwhoever2188 The lines “You didn’t mean to be cruel...somebody hurt you too” is the dictionary definition of moving.

And that's the line that I thought of about my Dad and it was true. And we have the best relationship ever now. Not saying that it was down to Madonna lol, but those particular lyrics always resonated with me.

Yes, that part breaks my heart

Absolutely

Same for me, I just did my makeup and now I'm crying like a baby.

I feel the same , it's an emotional expression of her life... Something powerful and beautifully written.

Have you seen oh father the dark ballet version?

@@drcokepepper , I haven't I will listen thank you.

they say that when a song makes you cry then is a masterpiece

Well if you’re 40 you better go way back to early 80s to call yourself a Madonna fan

I don't think too many people "Got it." But, you and I did, didn't we, Arzi124. :) This is her best song.

It was the only song that didn't hit #1. I don't think viewers were in a hurry to request such a sad song

I think you're right about that. At least we "got" it, right, Hali? :)

perhaps as it was released at xmas! maybe the controversy was slightly out timed - deffo not a xmas season song (a wrong decision t that point), had it been anther time if would have been appreciated.

Same ❤

Very happy for you for surviving and recovering!! We can and do heal and learn to break the destructive cycles!!

I knew the SIA version but didn't know it was a cover till now!

There are songs that are not meant to be hits, just little treasures for those who loves the artist that made them... this is one of these

I'm today's years old for this...

This was a TOP20 HIT on Billboard HOT100 in 1989-1990

ikr

Fun fact she was one of my professors in my doctoral program, she grew up and became a successful doctor.

That’s interesting. I wonder who played the father?

The double blink she does, before her “father” grabs her literally tears at my soul. Heartbreaking. I remember not being able to watch this video when it first came out, because that moment upset me so much.

Reminds me of B A T M A N 🪦

@@carbonfrog1Can you tell us her name?

Agree . Her catalog from the 80s n 90s is incredibly unique n timeless .

Whoever is saying that is full of it. Madonna is ICONIC. The press never understood her, and still don’t. Sadly they ignore her now. Her influence in music is everywhere.

If she never releases another Song noone Alive can surpass her!

Im.sorry how could you forgot her 2000s stuff thats how she turned into art

It's that she's so trashy" she's been a slut her whole life. She's blasphemed the Holy spirit. Yes her talent is undeniable" no doubt about it.

Stream Madonna

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@@xal1239 Los Planes de Renderos. 😊

Her like a prayer album is such a masterpiece

True Madonna fans can tell it was sped up at some points. Saw her live when I was 9.

what do you mean?

like at 2:44 and on?

Isobel Rapso the version on in bed with madonna is pretty cool it's a little different it's good

I agree. It stirs up so much emotion in me, something videos don't do for me anymore. I remember crying when I was a teen seeing this for the first time, and now at 39, I am having the same reaction. I want to meet her to tell her this is the song she should define her talent

Ursine ComicGeek You are so right.

Katie Didyk I Cry inside for the young girl or women who is being abused when I hear this song

Its her own fault for not adding her videography onto her vevo page

EAB82 Warner Bros,who has her material from 1982 to 2009,doesn't have a deal with VEVO.

I read an interview where she talks about not expecting to see her Mother's lip sewn together, Haunted her.

@d I'm not sure if he was abusive. But it does seem like they had a difficult relationship. Papa Don't Preach was another song that dealt with her daddy issues.

@d Italian Catholic dad, deeply religious and emotionally unavailable

An amazing analysis 👌💯

@@grantkyle8823 l often wonder would things have been better for if her mother had not have passed away.

Oh I feel ya hon! It’s been 6 years since I severed ties with my father, a few months after this song came on my car radio & I immediately had to pull over because I was sobbing so hard. It totally resonated with me in all aspects! My father was mentally physically and emotionally abusive to me and I lived through 13 years of hell because of him. So I understand how you feel sweetie. No one ever truly understands how difficult it is to process what happened to us let alone try to cope with the aftermath. I hope that you are well and thriving 🥰❤️ always remember that there is always light 💡 at the end of the tunnel ☺️ god bless you sweetie! ☺️🤜🏼🤛🏼

It sounds like Live to Tell part two.. her voice floating over strings

​@@paulwilliams1732I identify so strongly with live to tell. My first marriage was terrible I barely got out of it alive. Then I got married a second time worst mistake of my life he darn near killed me. Because of the trauma both of them subjected me to I now have PTSD. I'm in counseling and it's helping me to deal with the trauma and helping me to heal emotionally. This song really speaks to me. Madonna was one of my all time favorites that I listened to as a teen and a young woman. Her music helped me in so many ways. Music has the power to help us emotionally heal.

oh please... do you really believe that!? MJ has the Guiness Record for charities, one of the very few big personalities in this world that truly cared about children about the artist part, I really can't decide which of the two is the greatest, it's true though that Madonna's music feels a bit more pure, where MJ's was more 'made perfect to sell' and that's what he did

I agree!! This is one of Madonna's best.

You realize it was written by Sia don't you?? and not by Madonna. Sia is a master about writing songs about pain and sometimes victory at the same time even when tragedy may also occur.

O_O you are DRUNK the only Sia related thing in this song is that she made a good cover, that got absolutely nowhere

you are beautiful.

I grew up as a gay little boy with a very abusive dad. He'd hit me with a belt, throw my mother down the stairs, punch us, I was terrified of setting him off. I would get in trouble at school because I couldn't do my homework, and I'd be way to scares to ask my dad for help. And God bless my mother, she was amazing, but she isn't the cleverest. I started to rebel around age 14, I stopped going to school, got into drugs etc. I remember the first ever time I hit my dad back. He battered me for it, but it felt good. I might have been skinnier, but i was taller than u now dad. At 16 the legal age we leave school in the UK, my dad put me out. Now he wasn't obligated by the law to make sure I attend school etc, I could leave. I had nowhere to go. I'd walk the street all night aimlessly. I'd sit in parks, light the bin on fire. I started to sell myself, I'd go to the gay bars in town and would throw myself at any guy who was half decent. I had no respect for myself, I'd always been put down, called stupid, I'd never amount to anything etc. I'd sell myself for anything at first, a bed for the night, some cigs and drinks. I got older and started doing 'well' for myself, I became a good earner within the sex trade. But it never fulfilled me, I was always sad really, no matter how good I looked or how in shape I was. I was obsessed with my image, as I felt because I'm stupid and haven't gotten much to offer if I look good, and people wanna sleep with me, I'll feel better, i never did. So after about ten years, my mum had gotten ill with cancer and passed away. I as devastated. I tried to reconnect with my dad but I just couldn't forgive him. Another few years pass, I end up in jail for 18 months. My boyfriend at the time was dealing, and the police busted our flat. I was sentenced for possession of heroin. I didn't know who to call, I was very ill, I rang my sister and my she got in touch with my dad. He came and visited me. He seemed sad, said my mum would be devastated as she always wanted the best for me. She wanted me to have everything she didn't. As he was going to leave, my dad turned and said to me, I'm sorry boy. As he left the visiting I burst into tears. I didn't see him again til I came out. I went to visit him and he opened the door and again I began to cry. He said I'm sorry Alex. I said daddy I'm sorry too. He went on to tell me how his dad had beat him black and blue, I knew his dad was an alcoholic but he would never talk about him. He told me that an adult male close to my grandmother had sexually abused him as a kid. He told me he never felt like he knew how to show me he loved me. And the fact I was an effiminate little boy made it harder for him. Man I fell off the chair, I couldn't believe what he was saying. He cried, apologised over n over. He told me he'd always been so angry, and it had caused him to loose sight of what really matters etc. I looked at my dad, and I said daddy I'm sorry for letting u down. I'm sorry for embarrassing u, I felt like that little boy again. And then I told him, dad I forgive u. I didn't realise all these years that ur anger had come from a place of deep hurt. U hurt me, coz someone had hurt u too. I cried and balled when I got home. I don't know why my dad mellowed out as he got older, but I'm so glad he did. I was released from prison in 2012 and have rebuilt my life. I'm a hairstylist now. And have a loving amazing boyfriend. And yes, me and my dad are ok. We don't talk all the time, but we're good. He told me he loved me and I don't know why, even as a grown man, I felt so good. I needed to hear it. My mum had always said he loved us, he provides for us etc, but doesn't know how to show it. And I think now that yeah, she was right. Sorry this is so long, I've never ever unburdened myself like this before. Sending love from the UK x

Alex Carlson I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you! Continued success and happiness.

@@kittyglitter5376 thank you ever so much. The same to you! X

me too

Thank you for sharing Alex. ❤️

yes !,absolutamente

+Miłosz Płóciennik i suggest adding "Look of Love" to that list.

And frozen,nothing fails,falling free,...

+Miłosz Płóciennik She maybe known for her dance records but the woman writes spectacular ballads.. Oh Father is no exception.

Pray For Spanish Eyes, Crazy For You, Messiah, Love Don't Live Anymore, Time Stood Still

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