I dated a guy who's homophobic parents said he was a cancer and should be shot right before they threw him out of the house. He was 16 years old when that happened, he told me he had to walk something like 40 miles to his grandmothers house. He told her what his parents did and said, the next day she went to her lawyers office and signed over his parents house over to him. From what he said his grandmother owned the house and they were renting it. I don't know the whole story but she said once his parents were out the house was his and it was already paid for. He still lives there with his new boyfriend or I should say now husband.
@@sarahweber3823 ... I just talked with that guy a few days ago, we're still friends. He said his grandmother is now a great grandmother to his two kids. His parents are out of his life for good..
As a survivor of one of those "camps," I say kudos to the Dr for punching that horrible excuse for a mother! And hats off to the dad for standing up for his daughter and loving her!
@@StellaMagic100 Some things I can't put here, but...Torture. Sleep deprivation. Electroshock treatments. Aversion therapy. Physical abuse. Verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. Spiritual abuse. This is just the tip of the iceberg.
You can tell he had that bottled up the whole episode the way he explodes on his own wife. It's awesome his daughter overheard every word so she knows he has her back
Yeah, and I’d say divorcing that Karen, and taking full custody of the daughter might be a good idea for him. If I was in the episode, I’d suggest that.
i think it was also because maggie was smaller and easier to target, as they explained that in the episode. BUT YES! i do agree that racism was involved too.
also the fact that she asked Maggie if they could speak to a doctor, without her considering Maggie was a doctor herself, that gave me immediately racist vibes...but it might just be me
@@weirdo_sushi2342 hi I would like to apologise if you thought I copied your comment, when this comment was written I had not yet read any other comments and I came to watch it after watching the episode to share my opinion. Although I saw your comment a little after I did not read it thoroughly but now that I have again I’m sorry if it seems as I was copying your comment, that was not my intention at all.
The dad’s speech was really great. I think the part where he says,”What is wrong with you that you DON’T?!” hits especially powerfully. Because there is something profoundly wrong with people who think like that mother.
@@ms.melissa1384 Many believe they're protecting them AND themselves from homophobic attacks, but really that's the completely *wrong* way to do it. And in this case? Yeah, this woman is just controlling and can't believe her husband has the audacity to threaten divorce. She just wanted the money from the suing, nothing about her child at all.
When i came out to my parents that i was Bi and had already been with same sex, my dad just looked at me and shrugged and said "ok" and just went with it, and mom just said "oh, well theres nothing wrong with that, i thought you were gonna say you got someone pregnant". I was very fortunate to have such beautiful chill parents 🎉
If I were your parent, I would look at you and go “and? What, do you need to get tested for STDs because you didn’t use protection? Also, if you make a mess here, you’d BETTER deal with it properly. You know how I am about germs.”
My coming out to my mom was just telling her my best friend was now my girlfriend, because I was excited to be dating someone (I was 14) I had absolutely no worry about my mother, she's a wonderful and loving person. I technically didn't tell my dad, not out of fear or anything, we just had a strained relationship in my teens and didn't talk as much, we're closer now.
Same..like one day I was eating breakfast & watching my dad play video games and he just asked me what my sexuality was..and I told him I was BI and he was like “ok” I swear parents always know 😂
@@Boujee_Bxrbie I imagine in cases like ours it's honestly a relief for them to just know what we feel and not have to guess. They can go back to business as usual which is great.
I remember leaping up from my couch and screaming "YES! You tell it to her face!" when the dad finally stood up for his kid. His speech about caring that his kid is loved and happy then made me cry because that's all a kid ever wants to hear from their parents.
I give the dad credit for finally standing up to that horrid woman, who I am sure she was controlling him. His speech really hits me in the gut as every child needs to have a family member who understands them and supports them no matter what.
The fact that when she came in she asked Maggie if they could speak to a doctor, without her considering Maggie might be a doctor herself, that gave me immediately racist vibes...but it might just be me.
@@jamiemations12 kind of like if they went to a country club and saw a black woman and immediately thought she was part of the staff and not a member. I mean why wouldn't they go in the hospital, see her, and think to ask her if *she's* a doctor and ask if they could talk to her. Yikes.
I lost my SIL a couple months back. About 8/9 years ago a Thanksgiving she asked her granddaughter why she didn't bring someone with her. She just said quietly there wasn't anyone to bring. Debra , bless her soul, looked at Beth and said Bull Sh**. You should have brought Melissa, you two make a cute couple. What you didn't think we knew? Beth jumped up and gave her grandma the biggest hug. You see Debra was straight laced, went to church every Sunday she could,, same as her daughter. Even though Beth knew she was loved, she really was scared about telling the family she was gay. For the last eight years Melissa has been at every Thanksgiving, Christmas, and birthdays right next to Beth. And Debra always made sure they knew they were loved.
Let’s take some time to appreciate how such a great monologue came from the guy who played Sikowitz. This is proof that you can be good at both comedic and dramatic acting.
@@secondchances1232 Why are you so focused on how long it took him to come to that realization and keep negatively harping on that as opposed to being glad that he finally got there, regardless of how long it took? It's completely unrealistic to expect everyone to either be immediately accepting of their child's sexuality or never accept it at all. Some people need time to process it, but they'll eventually come to accept it in their own time, and the dad is a good example of that
@@NYChica23 I am glad he finally got there. However finally standing up for his daughter rather than help in abusing her doesn't make him father of the year. It wasn't just the mother that drove their daughter to attempting suicide.
@@NYChica23 If all he did was not accept it to this point, you'd have a stronger point. He however chose to actively discriminate against her and treat her horribly. He was just as culpable in driving her to attempt suicide as his wife
@@secondchances1232 I agree there, but can you not at least give him credit for finally realizing how horrible his actions were and wanting to change his relationship with his daughter? There's people who will never reach that point at all, so at least celebrate some type of progress instead of making him out to be this villain who doesn't deserve a redemption arc
Maggie's one punch won't necessarily get her fired or charged with assault. If an angry person is violating your personal space in which retreat isn't possible; you can legally defend yourself. Maggie was forced to back up, but if she felt fear to be harmed at her workplace is questionable. Imo, Maggie need at least a two week unpaid vacation.
I could see her legitimately fearing harm. The lady was coming at her, yelling, getting in her face, and like you said she was forced to back up, and she only punched after hitting a wall and being cornered with no way to escape. While logically from the outside in we may know she wasn't in danger. Her instincts were telling her otherwise. She was well within her rights to defend herself and should receive no punishment outsidr of a verbal warning.
Uh no...thats a law made up in your own head..there were plenty of people in the room to detain her in a mature manner and call for back up..but they all stood around and did nothing..even after she violated hospital rules by punching a customer..you couldnt be more of a liar than you already are...you live in mafia hollywood land where you make up your own rules..i hope your boss punches you..how bout them apples..
The difference between the mom and dad Mom: Hates gay people, disrespects her own daughter Dad: Disagrees with it, but still loves his daughter and cares for her
Maria Rodriguez whether you disagree with it or not, you got to respect gay people. I’m Religious, while I might not wholeheartedly agree with it, it would be ungodly to disrespect someone because of their beliefs.
Gianluca Berger I understand. I am not intending homosexuals are to be denied by others. As a Born Again Christian, I disagree on the act of it, however I do not judge them. I do not love them any less. I love them and treat them humanely. When I commented, “exactly!” Is to what you commented primarily. Just making it clear.
I love the inclusion of the line, "What is wrong with you that you don't?!" It's not about differing values or belief systems; there is something _wrong_ with people who are this way.
Bisexual here, I grew up in a Catholic house hold. Mom religious, dad not religious. Both very accepting and loving despite disagreeing. I wanted to show people that my family is very religious, but they are very loving and accepting and I'm not the only LGBT person in the family. So I want everyone to know not all religious people are bad. Some grew up differently and are learning to accept, and you've got to give them credit for trying. Not all Christians are perfect just like not all queers are perfect either.
Just because you don’t take ur religion seriously doesn’t mean others should be like you. Like what’s the use of having a religion if ur not even gonna follow it. Don’t force your beliefs on others smh
@@mozzy2858 there's no problem if you want to follow your religion. No one's stopping you. What's wrong is allowing your religion to dictate you to do something you'll regret. What's wrong is if PARENTS put their religion before their OWN child's life.
I had a moment where i imagined my parents saying "i don't care if she's gay; i care if she's loved, i care if she's happy" to me and I got lots of chills and started crying after. I don't care if it's not their voices. it was just so nice to hear it from someone.
I’m so sorry. I know you can’t technically here my voice but I want you to hear it from a real person. “I don’t care if you are gay; I care if you’re loved, I care if you’re happy.” And I mean every word of it even if I don’t know you personally. Just continue to be yourself and nothing less😊
@@pambinobequeno5062 who cares? Why do you feel the need to stalk a person social life to be sympathethic about them? I dont give a flying fuck what schaltt has said and done i enjoy his content as well, because of that im i no longer allowed to be a pansexual? Are they not allowed to be part lf the comunity?. The only people you should be gatekeeping being gay from is homophobic people.
MAJOR props to the dad, you usually don't see them standing up to the wives in these situations, but he stood up for himself and his child. That mom didn't truly love her child, love doesn't mean controlling how your kids are.
I have a friend who's a lesbian and is also has autism and I care about her deeply. I don't care what you people say or do, I'll never ever make my sister feel bad!
My dad told me these words verbatim when I came out to him. He and I might have a complicated relationship at times, but knowing that your parent is there for you and that the only thing they care about is knowing that you are loved and happy is one of the best feeling ever! They really did it well in this episode!
I absolutely love the fact that you can see Callie's words working on the father. They're falling on deaf angry ears with that woman, but that father was AFFECTED by what Callie was telling him, that he was about to put his own child through hell for something he didn't actually care about. ❤️🥰
He likely didn't know what goes on in the camps, maybe assumed it's just some church service crap where they try to teach you and are open to anyone who wishes to listen and wants to understand, you know spiritual guidance, as soon as she made it clear it's basically mental torture and abusive he's more likely to take a Doctor's word for it over his obviously racist wife
That mom was SUPER DISRESPECTFUL, and got what she deserved, her husband.. GOLD, he’s a real one “I dont care if she’s gay, I care if she’s loved and happy”
I was so proud of the father in this clip. Finally standing up to his ignorant, homophobic, racist wife. Standing up for that black nurse who punched his own wife when he knew she deserved it, standing up for his daughters sexuality and getting her away from the mom trying to sent her to the camp ! 🥺❤️👏🏾🏳️🌈
@@GeekyFandomslover My bad, but thank you, Maggie didn’t do anything to her and she was just a bystander. The moms lucky that Maggie just punched her, she could’ve done much worse ! The lady was getting all up in her personal space and physically threatening her, Maggie had every right to defend herself !! 👏🏾✊🏾
Actually Callie is there to protect her patients, whats best for her patient & her patient only...it’s called a duty of care...and the women is not only a homophobic she’s also a racist
Yeah you didn't punch a visitor as an employee a medical establishment. In real life she would have been escorted by security to her car and her reputation was an MD would be tarnished. Charges would likely be filed as well. This is horseshit propaganda.
@@yosefshekelberg5433 Not necessarily. Maggie would very likely have been put on "administrative leave" while an investigation of the incident took place. There are cameras all over the hospital so it wouldn't take a genius to see that the mother zeroed in on Maggie out of the blue. She was going for Torres, but when she saw Torres wasn't about to cave to her screaming, she switched targets. Maggie felt so unsafe, she was backed into a wall. The mom still kept coming and screaming. A punch from fear isn't completely out of left field, but it IS still unacceptable. Maggie would probably ultimately be placed on leave until after the above was discovered. Then she would be made to take some kind of training, speak to HR, and even be on a probationary period. Given that she doesn't have a history and has a stellar record, she more than likely wouldn't be fired, especially if the family isn't going to press charges/sue (like the father said they wouldn't). That is the hospital's main concern. Even if she got fired, the most likely outcome there (coming from watching a situation where a friend who was a well respected doctor was accused of inappropriate conduct with witnesses to the contrary, cameras proving he didn't do it, and an absolutely spotless reputation), is she would transfer to another hospital with the quiet (where patients have no idea) full backing of her team at her current hospital and her reputation in the community would be just fine.
The way the father stands up to his homophobic wife is pure satisfactory! It makes me happy to hear that he cares about his daughter despite her sexuality.
Yeah, some clown named @Dwight Schrute on her said I was just defending Maggie because the mom is a homophobe, but I put that ignorant clown in his place !! 👑💕
That father….was AWESOME!! He stood up for his daughter and her happiness! He expressed unconditional love for his kid, and put his unreasonable wife IN CHECK!! That scene, was powerful!! I LOVED IT!!! 🥰🥲👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I am someone with Christian values. But I am not homophobic. However I do live in this world with friends and family who are gay and raised with somewhat strict Christian values. But we would never ever stoop so low and do that to anyone. Having Christian values means to treat everyone with respect and love. Accept differences. I do teach these values to my child, but I will wait for the day for them to tell me if they’re gay or lesbian and I still accept them. I would not love them any less. Because knowing what it feels like being let down and burned so many times. I wouldn’t wish that on my children or to anyone else, not even my worst enemy ❤️🙏🏾✨
Then you're doing the right thing in the right way. Kudos! I am also a person with Christian values and I agree with every word you've said here. Let's show non-believers that not all religious believers are close-minded, stupid, and selfish and that not all religious believers do terrible things in the name of their God.
Loving someone and respect someone doesn’t mean you go along with everything a person says does or thinks especially if it is contrary to the word of God
I'm Catholic and my brother is gay. I was shocked when he came out, but I was okay with it. I gave him a hug and told him I loved him. Come to find out sometime later, I discovered that I was asexual. Mom can't stand that her oldest son is gay and that her only daughter is asexual because she wants grandkids. She seems to forget that she has 3 other boys that can give her grandkids.
@@micahfranklin4560 What your deity's "word" is seems to change according to the version of the bible you're looking at and the Christians you choose to surround yourself with. I have Christian friends who are horrified at people like you.
Right Callie was the one who voiced her opinion to her Callie was the one who called and Callie literally stepped up to her when she came in and said “which one of you did it” so why Maggie? Because she’s a racist too
@@babygirllynn2264 I think it's cuz she sensed maggie was weak, callie was much taller and bigger so she would probs fight back, same with Alex. That's why she targeted Maggie, not everything has to do with race lol
@@chungleanne2690 it kinda did though bc in the beginning she didn’t even think Maggie was a doctor. You can tell that lady have problems she’s a racist and a homophone but her husband a real one
Probably a few reasons for that. Homophobia and racism are usually found in the same people (especially in the evangelical church). Also, Maggie is shorter than Torres…the whole “pick on someone your own size” goes out the window when you want to be right but you know deep down you’re not.
I think the mom deserved to get punched. She was very rude. I was glad when the dad finally told her to shut up. I was like "it's about time somebody told her to shut up".
my respect to the dad for the love for his daughter he put his foot down and told his bigot homophobic wife in her place making her to shut the hell up now that is a dad #Number1Dad
interesting take. this scene just made me angry. it took all of that - his daughter stepping in front of a train and his wife yelling for hours - just for him to grow an ounce of spine. we are praising this guy for doing something he should have done years ago.
@@JL-zo1wd dude is this where you want to go? When he could've shut up and let the shit fly? HE DID THE THING why is it always "well they should have done it at this time" instead "he finally learned"? When we KNOW some people never do. Why shit on his growth when it finally happens? Would you say that shit to an addict that finally made the step to get clean or can you understand that sometimes people work on their own timelines?
@@JL-zo1wd At least he finally came to that realization and his daughter woke up to hearing him defend her...that's more than we can say for the mom, who will likely never get to that point in her life even when it's too late. And people have different responses to dealing with change in their worldviews...some will accept it right away, for some, it will take time, but eventually they will arrive at that place, and some will die refusing to accept the change
Alex is a man and she knew she had no chance going up against him. Callie is not a skinny woman and would probably milly rock her out of existence so she had no chance going up against her either. Maggie is short and skinny and she figured she'd take her chances with her and still got her ass handed to her. Brilliant.
No it was because she was black , she obviously went straight towards her and she is homophobic. She was. Being racist towards the guy , I forget his name but she called him clueless
The girls smile at the end was amazing. Now she knows that she's loved and someone supports her! There's no better gift for someone that's struggling than that!! 😊😊
Unfortunately, it won't be a Hallmark happy ending. More than likely this has been ongoing for a very, very long time and he's only spoken up now. After this, the daughter will start to begin to process the damage and trauma from the abuse once she's safely away from that house. She'll likely be in therapy for years. My professor says that it takes approx. 2 years of therapy for every year of trauma/abuse.
That girl is lucky to have a dad like him and Maggie was in awe of him for being an advocate for his little girl. I feel like he was not only standing up for his daughter, he was standing up for the children of the LGBTQ communiy
@@luxitos2867 Especially since the dad seemed like he was also emotionally abused by the mom until he'd had enough and snapped, because that kind of rage doesn't happen without something building up inside to cause it
Kudos to this actress for being able to play such a hatable character so well. I was so happy when her character got punched, very well done in the acting.
Props to the mom’s actor, when you can make someone hate a fictional person so much than you did your job right Props to all the talented actors on this show
Considering the mom was walking towards Maggie menacingly, I think there would be a strong case that Maggie felt threatened and had to defend herself. And there would be witnesses willing to testify on her behalf.
That is one caring dad. And props to Maggie for slapping that sense back to the mother who doesn't have a care about her own child. I mean who doesn't care for their own children and betrays them. Almost feels to me like she was just in denial about her child's change, I get that. I waited almost a quarter of my life telling my mom that I was gay. Mothers need to be caring about their own children. I almost broke into tears when that dad said those words about his daughter
True its so potent and true you have to remember people like bethanys mother aren't just homophobic they just hate life they hate everything and everyone in it and instead of talking to people about it it's easier to put thier hate and bitterness onto others because they know they can break that person with enough anger and disgust
i love how amelia came in looking so proud of maggie and then we have meredith storming in all big sister mode: “WHAT HAPPENED?!” and then we have callie being like a cheerleader and even teaching her how to punch”
It doesn’t matter how many times I watch this, I always cry like it’s the first time I’ve ever seen it. It feels like a big, strong hug for my inner child. I can unfortunately relate to this situation a bit, but like this girl, I have a father who I know would do anything to protect and take care of me. Even as a grown woman, it’s so comforting to know when a parent has your back and you don’t question their love for you.
Her dad will get to share many priceless moments with her throughout the rest of her life because of this 10 seconds she saw him stand up for her. Can't say the same for mom. She has A LOT to make up for, if that's even possible. Because the daughter won't ever forget this.
I love the dad in this Instead of making him agree with it they make him not agree but care for his daughter and want her to be happy I love that. I see all the time in media it being homophobes vs people who 100% support but the real world is more complex than that. There are people who don’t agree with the act but know they don’t have a place to tell them to not be gay and they know a person’s happiness is more important than these beliefs.
True. The other side of this complex answer is that LGBT+ people know exactly what message is being conveyed. It's "I love and respect you despite---". It's still saying that the intimacy we share is wrong while heter-os and their intimacy and relationships are normal and natural ad nauseum (despite those being logical fallacies) from the start. So, yes, we are thankful for people like the dad because people like the mom do much more damage but we naturally gravitate toward people who accept us 100%, which gives us the legitimacy and support that we need for healthy development. Especially younger LGBT+ people like teens. I have no idea how parents can tell their kid that they love them but that their relationships and sex are "wrong" (with every ugly synonym that entails) and then act surprised when the poor kid has toxic issues maintaining any kind of relationship (let alone a healthy one) and self-loathing. So, it's nice to have people like the dad in a world full of the moms. But we're not gonna stick around the dad when there are people out there who do love and accept us 100%, full stop. Unlike the mom, though, the dad will get a call and a visit every now and then.
This is such a relief because usually the dad is homophobic and the mom stands up for the kid but I like how that trope is going away piece by piece it is really amazing how far the community has come
His reaction was everything for me. My youngest daughter was so scared to come out to me a few years ago and she thought I would be disappointed in her decision. I told I was so sorry for ever making her feel like she could ever do anything to disappoint me. I told her I Love Her no matter what and I just want her to be happy. And all I want is to be included in her life and her choices. Absolutely no one has the right to tell anyone who they should love. I'm so proud of my children. They are my everything. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I THANK YOU for posting this. I heard what the daughter was talking about in Shorts, and I just wanted to see how this was resolved. Father made the right choice. If the daughter wants to be in love, let her be in love. On a side note, the lady who played the mother played her part well. She was great. I have nothing against her.
3:39 Aww, that part is so sweet! That the father basically said that it doesn't matter that their daughter likes girls, as long as she's loved and that the daughter heard him 😊❤
He isn't a good parental example. He stood by his wife as she discriminated against their daughter and did nothing about it until after they drove her to attempting suicide
@secondchances1232 as a gay man myself I can say it does take a lot of parents time to understand how to support their kids... how he started isn't who he is, it's how he ended. Life is a journey and we're all constantly evolving.
@@secondchances1232 How do you know he didn't already think those things before he went on his rant? With that bottled up anger he had and the expression on his face after Callie called the mom out on wanting to send their daughter to a conversion camp, it makes me think that he was also being emotionally abused by the wife and realized that he'd had enough when he almost lost his daughter
I’m so happy his daughter was there to hear him say that. It’s so important to a child to know that they are loved no matter what or who they are. It’s even more important to hear their parent say it out loud because that makes it real. I almost cried, most of my dad’s side of the family are homophobic. I’m going to ask out a girl i’ve known for a while and come out today. Wish me luck kinda scared tbh
@@jadeshepherd8627 there's noting normal about a relgion that allows child marriage also it's not normalized it's just Forced on everyone and the fact that ur by her side clearly shows what kinda people all of are
As a Christian, I love this quote because the mom in this video is not acting like Christ. She's acting like a Pharisee. Thanks for challenging us Christians to do and be better, Gandhi. May you rest in peace, dear advocate of peace.
When he says, "what is wrong with you that you don't?" Like seriously! As a parent your only concern should be if the child is safe loved and happy and to love them unconditionally NO MATTER WHAT!
his speech brought me to tears. That scene is so powerful and makes me so proud to be apart of the lgbtq+ community. That is how every parent should act to their kid coming out.
@@specterman2000 Hopefully for everyone involved, you don't reproduce, and if you do, I pray you change your tune before your child ends up just like the one in this episode should they come out as LGBTQ+
@@specterman2000 How could you after hearing her homophobic bullshit. Shame on you for bringing disgrace to your religion, abusing the bible to attack the gay community, support those evil conversation camps and bigot families. You disrespect gay children, you are disrespecting God. Go to Hell
@@specterman2000 That's messed up. Those camps are disgusting and harmful and you should be ashamed of yourself if you support a racist homophobic person
An EPIC "The Reasons You Suck" speech from the husband! I hope he divorces that horrendous woman and he takes that sweet girl far away from her "mother's" toxicity.
His speech made me cry 😭 Loving your child is all you can do whether you are against homosexuality or not. I wouldn’t care. As long as my child is loved and accepted, that is all that matters to me ❤️
Absolutely, yes. Anyone who thinks like that witch is no true Christian in my opinion. I consider it my duty as a Christian to show compassion and sympathy to everyone rather than mistrust and hatred for anyone different.
