making friends when I love to be alone - how I find connection

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making friends when I love to be alone - how I find connection
I wanted to make a video adding on to one I made a couple months ago about friendship. It seemed to resonate with a lot of people, so I thought I'd make a little video celebrating unconventional friendships. Nature is such an enormous source of peace for me, it is one of the reasons I love to make these videos: it helps me support my local conservation programs and fund the planting of trees (I always link charities down below that I love to work with). This is a short video this week but I hope you enjoy it, sending much love
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@BonBonHassan Год назад

I always feel guilty for not having "enough" friends or putting myself out there but I really struggle with connection and honestly I enjoy being alone

@joeschmo7957 Год назад

I'm exactly that way. My ladyfriend, Phyllis, always said it was weird that I did not have several guy friends to hang out with. Not interested, really, in partying or gathering with others, always managed being alone, and it never has really gotten "old".

@kaushiksamanta8542 Год назад

Thank you for sharing. I now feel it's okay to be alone and enjoy it, too . I am 32, married with a toddler. I don't like socializing much as my friends and relative don't understand my mental zone and I can't cope with theirs. I felt anxious, I might endup alone when old and my child will be an introvert. But i love my wife and child's company. Thats enough.

@mohdbilalansari5687 Год назад

Same here 🍃

@cb98808 Год назад

Me too I love being alone 😊

@rakhi4513 Год назад

Same here. It’s better to be alone than to have fake superficial friends. And as we know world is full of shallow people.

@katiakatia54 Год назад

I'm almost 70yrs old and have been blessed with a beautiful life of solitude. Don't be pressured to be anyone but who you truly are.

@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau Год назад

I fully understand you. I like contact with people but also being at home alone makes me happy. It's just ourselves that know what's good for us.

@annmariemerlino3102 Год назад

Kathy B, I love this so much. I feel a constant pull between who I am and getting out there and "being social", "stepping outside of the box." I love my box. I don't know why I can't just be happy and grow in here.

@carmennatividad8804 Год назад

i agree

@4ke_1978 Год назад

I agree too. Since I took a step back from (too much) social contact, I feel so much more like myself. I do have a couple of friends, but we don’t need to see eachother every week or month. I work in a school and I love all the kids and their stories and noises, but I’m so happy to come home in my quiet place ❤

@mom4x1 Год назад

I am 70 and have always had friends but now I love being alone the most.

@annmariemerlino3102 Год назад

To all my fellow introverts who have commented on this beautiful post -- I want to say THANK YOU. I struggle with this issue every single day of my life. Reading all of your comments makes me feel like I should just put my foot down and live authentically unsocial .... and that it will absolutely okay to do so! Thank you my friends.

@susannyloves Год назад

“Obligated to fit in.” Perfectly describes my young life. What freedom it is to no longer have that need!

@marciabyram6003 Год назад

Ha,ha! I used to hate it when people would tell me to smile. Now days I reply, "Don't tell me what to do." 🤠

@sweetestaphrodite Год назад

That was me throughout high school. I felt anxious at the thought of being noticeably different, and that was, to me, being quiet and alone. Out of fear, I prioritised just hanging around people-even if they weren’t good people, and oftentimes, they weren’t-rather than trying to find and surrounding myself with persons of value/like-minded individuals. This is evident by the fact that I don’t speak to a single “friend” I made in high school. Partly because I knew they weren’t good for my life, but also because they didn’t care for me enough to try and keep in contact. I wished I hadn’t feared being without people around me. I wish I was comfortable in my self and in being alone like I am now-I rather revel in it now.

@-blackcherry3918 Год назад

@@sweetestaphrodite i'm that situation right now...should I stay alone ? It's hard to stop talking to them you know, they are my classmates.

@darkpumpDP Год назад

@@marciabyram6003 I'm guessing you are from a (more) civilized country. If so, then good for you, truly. In my country, saying what you said could potentially lead to bloodshed. Heck, even just by ignoring people when they tell you to smile and walking away could still have the same effect.

@susangridley8354 Год назад

One of my lives unlived was an archeologist. I have been fascinated by it since I was a child. So at 67 I joined my local archaeological society. I am taking courses and this summer I am going to dig as a volunteer! Never too late to live your dreams. 😊

@HollyJordan15 Год назад

Oh wow, that is amazing & so inspiring.

@priscilla9995 Год назад

This is amazing!

@the_exiled_soul Год назад

Wonderful ❤ there is another chapter of your life for you to live in 🥰

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

So wonderful ❤ thank you for sharing, it is inspiring!

@goblinco Год назад

that's awesome!

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

I wanted to make a video adding on to one I made a couple months ago about friendship. It seemed to resonate with a lot of people, so I thought I'd make a little video celebrating unconventional friendships. Nature is such an enormous source of peace for me, it is one of the reasons I love to make these videos: it helps me support my local conservation programs and fund the planting of trees (I always link charities that I love to work with). So far this year we are well on our way to planting 1000 trees and support several other environmental projects, hurray! This is a short video this week but I hope you enjoy it, sending much love

@oooapple000 Год назад

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤝😊

@eveinu2159 Год назад

You are living my dream life 💓

@vanessaandoleit3428 Год назад

Herzlichen Dank für Ihr Video. Auch ich bin seit meiner Kindheit viel in der Natur. Enge Freunde gibt es ebenfalls wenige, wenngleich ich immer meine soziale Seite ausleben konnte, ist ein Teil von mir mit mich umgebenden Pflanzen, Tieren und der Natur verbunden. Wir sind mit allem was uns guttut Eins. Einsamkeit ist ein Teil unseres Lebens und beinhaltet ein Geschenk das wir uns ein Freund sein können, unsere innere Stimme hören und ihr folgen dürfen. Alles hat seine Zeit. Ich liebe es wie sie die kostbare Zeit in der Natur genießen und die mit uns teilen. Ich habe heute "zerowaste" beim Kochen bewusst eingesetzt und aus Gemüseresten eine Suppe hergestellt. Unser Lebensstil macht gleichzeitig etwas mit uns, es ist ein zur Ruhe kommen. Ich danke Ihnen. Sie zeigen, dass wir niemals allein sein werden. Namaste.

@stacycheck7951 Год назад

When I was a small, I would frequently disappear at social gatherings to wherever the family critters had curled up away from the bustling activity for a cozy, quiet snooze. We’d cuddle together for long swaths of time, enjoying our little slice of peace. My two cat boys have become great friends, and I love the many ways they communicate with me. Owls, chickadees, squirrels, foxes, coyotes… I’d like to have more human friends, but I’m gradually making peace with the fact that all relationships are valuable and worthy of being cherished, and that for me personally, the number of human friends I have is not a helpful measure of a successful life. Thank you for your videos on this subject, Paola! They help me feel a bit less alien! 🌸

@larsdjonson1108 Год назад

@gwen9620 Год назад

"We read to know that we are not alone." C.S. Lewis xo

@deniseunterman9652 Год назад

I've always loved this quote. I have a close and solid group of friends, yet it's books-- especially good novels that capture human nature-- that feel like connective tissue to me. Thank you for posting this.

@motalenko Год назад

Book characters are my best friends 💖

@collierincolor8972 Год назад

This video came at the exact right time for me. I have been feeling insecure for not having a large number of close friends and struggling to connect with people on a deeper level. You're right that it is "normal" to not be an overly social person and to not have large numbers of human connections. I think embracing our natural tendencies can leave us more open to connection than shaming ourselves for not being as social as those around us.

@OllieSmiless Год назад

Beautifully said.

@jellybeanie9190 Год назад

I have been feeling the same recently. I'm quite ashamed of not having large friend groups and the 2 friends that I have they're quite of an introvert themselves. Sometimes I wish I had such outgoing fun friends but I never attract such friends unfortunately. I've been feeling quite shitty about it too. I'm someone who usually enjoys her alone time but sometimes I love to socialise and go out and enjoy, obviously with people I'm comfortable with.

@AA-bt2kd Год назад

I am a 60 yr old widow. My husband was my best friend. After losing him I feel so alone. I am very introvert with few friends.

@1Wendy_Woo Год назад

I have zero in-life, day to day friends. Left my husband of 35+ years almost seven months ago. I believe I will be alone until my dying day. I have to be okay with that. No dating apps for me. No bending over backwards trying to make connections that no one seems to want. I appreciate honesty. And others who recognize the ok-ness of being alone. Friendless. And let me say, animals are the best friends anyway. ~Peace~ 🌿🕊💕🌍

@fremont111 Год назад

I love that 'no bending over backwards trying to make connections that no one seems to want,' truer words have never been spoken. I've been alone 11 years now and tried the whole online thing, what a waste of time. I love my own company and couldn't care less any more whether or not I meet someone else.

@colleenlouise4521 Год назад

when you have a dog, a cat, a bird, a horse etc. You are not alone!

@erikamarie3144 Год назад

I love to be alone as well, but when I began living alone recently, I tried to be a little more social and tried to make friends and I did manage to live that kind of life for a while, but I found myself realizing the very same thing: people claim they want connections with others, but that didn't really seem to be the case. So out of all the people I met and became close with for a short time, I have no one left and I am fine with that. I'm back to being alone and I too believe I will be alone until my dying day and I'm fine with that as well. Trying to make connections with people seemed to take a lot of time and energy and all of it amounted to nothing in the end, so I would rather spend my time with animals and engaging in hobbies and living a peaceful life by myself ❤

@1Wendy_Woo Год назад

Sending hugs to each of you. It's comforting to hear I am not alone in my aloneness yet a bit perplexing as well. We ALL have so much to offer, as ourselves, authentic and real, love, laughs, our time, yet not finding it with others around us. Somehow the world has closed us off, or perhaps hurt us so deeply that trying-again isn't something many want to do anymore. (?) Not speaking for us here but as a whole. A society. Do you think it's the internet? Less outside stimulation? It's puzzling. I do love my own quiet time, my own schedule, etc. But someone to share some new experiences with is welcome too. Being creative, fun and joyful is something I always strive for. And of course gratitude for another day. ~Peace and Love~ 🌿🕊💕🌍

@kayc1357 Год назад

I love being alone. It’s so peaceful.

@Nuffsaid22 Год назад

Peace. Exactly.

@anakirola9204 Год назад

Same. I never feel alone though. The universe is with us. Just because we cannot see it does not mean it is not there.

@bernalfys Год назад

Me eìther being alone does not mean your lonely.but having peace of mind.

@giauphan9019 Год назад

You can meditation everywhere.❤🎉. If you love peace. I'm from Vietnam ❤.

@eternitywithjesus777 Год назад

I think many of us who had turmoil in our lives really really appreciate the peace and solitude of being alone.

@vickifeick8812 Год назад

I used to hide away in high school in a old stairwell during my lunch period. These steps were not used very often. I would sit on the top step and read while eating my lunch. I did this for quite a while till one day a teacher discovered me there. She wanted to tell me to go to the cafeteria but instead stopped herself and told me I could sit there. I was surprised and relieved. I will always remember her for allowing me to sit there. I just needed that quiet time during the day and I really feel that made my school year more bearable. Just a much needed escape!

@lianne578 Год назад

I can relate to this so well as I used to stay in the toilet cubicle during my lunch period when in secondary school. I preferred lesson times as one would not stand out being alone when others got together in their groups during lunch. I did mingle but did not like being superficial. Anyway, shy people usually get "sidelined" in group conversations.

@judypomicter9540 Год назад

At least you had a stairwell I used to read in the bathroom

@old-soul Год назад

I can totally relate to you. I'm already working and I just hide from my coworkers during lunch break. I have zero friends. I feel so at peace with myself.

@kinjo5416 Год назад

I sometimes feel more alone in a crowd of people than I do when I am by myself. Thank you for your videos Paola. Your voice is so calming, the images lovely, and the messages meaningful.

@luba-healthywithluba6866 Год назад

I agree about feeling alone in a crowd!

@songbird3094 Год назад

I feel the same. It can even happen with my own siblings. I've always been an introvert, shy and awkward, due to bullying. Constant talking and "noise" drains me, I prefer to be alone.

@roland6954 Год назад

I also often feel more lonely in a group of people, than I do being alone in my small piece of "heaven" in a very rural area!

@JannJohnstone Год назад

Paola, I am many, many years older than you and yet still aspire to achieve your level of grace and serenity. Your videos are such a gift to those of us who wasted too much of their precious lives in a fruitless struggle to fit in.

@kathys.5263 Год назад

And I am 63. I only found freedom from trying to fit in at 57.

@spiritualfairy999 Год назад

My dear youthful sisters. Age is just a number. You can start your new life at any point of time in your life. So born new now. Enjoy each and every moment of your life. Those who are not able to socialize much are really blessed ones. We are not in the herd group who are trying to live fake life. Just stand outside the herd and live your own unique life. Believe me, it's really blissful and peaceful. God bless you abundantly.

@tonja7408 Год назад

Amen!

@giftsofspring Год назад

just yes. 💚💚💚

@katharenchamberlain5721 Год назад

Yes, this, yes…

@charlesmiddleton3247 Год назад

Being alone is a way to find yourself and to nurture your inner being. Been to myself for 40 years. Friends are gone and family doesn't really exist anymore, so we all need to have that time just just be you. To all who read this...be all you can be and cherish the time you've been given...

@charlesmiddleton3247 Год назад

@@mariapiecuch417 Maria, It's ok to be alone at this time in your life. Take this time to get to know You!! I already know, you have so much to give to the world... Find what you love and love eventually will find you. Be gentle... Be kind to YOU... for you are worthy of greater things!!

@pranitbhatt1971 Год назад

@@mariapiecuch417 i agree, sometimes loneliness can be painful and hard .if, we'll look at the positive side of it .we can know ourself better ,and it's a hard truth friend's family members everyone leave at one point of life, in the end you are alone ,so you can utilise that time to find the things you love and explore yourself .

@pamzibell6309 Год назад

I do worry at 70 how long I can for myself. No option really but know I have made it this far

@charlesmiddleton3247 Год назад

@@pamzibell6309 I too am your age. It is time to take care of our inner self and nurture this soul of ours. I've taken care of others thru Nursing career, volunteering and military but it is time to just rest, regroup and take one step at a time forward. You are worthy of greater things, so be kind and gentle to your inner child. I wish you wellness and inner peace!

@gabrielaramos9293 Год назад

Gracias!

@margaretdang6018 Год назад

When I am feeling overwhelmed and misunderstood I watch one of your videos. Then I feel happy and peaceful. Thank you.

@Gigi-wo8yv Год назад

Excellent!

@roland6954 Год назад

Me too!!!

@schutba Год назад

You are not Alone. I find Peace and inner solitude as healing.

@Rawvirgin Год назад

Amazing.❤

@higherheightsmelaninmagic2772 Год назад

I relate so much. As a child, i was amazed that people would say, "why are you so quiet". I had so many thoughts and conversations within. Eventually feeling pressured to be more sociable, i tried fitting in, only to find myself daydreaming of my world within. Now as a senior, i have just accepted, everyone is different, and it is a gift to be happily self contained. I love your content. thank you

@deewise552 Год назад

A couple of decades ago, Hollywood brought a slew of comedies to television that showed groups of people bonding, socializing & supporting one another. Taxi, Cheers, Friends, Golden Girls, Big Bang Theory glorified & romanticized multiple personalities forming lasting friendships. As an introvert, it left me feeling out in the cold. What was I doing wrong, what was wrong with me that I couldn’t find these fulfilling friendships? Your insights on being a contented introvert has been enormously satisfying.

@ashleyv7437 Год назад

Yes!

@thehamstersmum Год назад

These 'wonderful lives' of lots of people around actually always seemed like a nightmare to me.

@lisaa6099 Год назад

Agree

@eternitywithjesus777 Год назад

Agree. I never related to those shows at all. I am happy with my very close family relationships, animal relationships, and spending time with God and nature.

@Existentialnausea Год назад

You're not alone, when you have yourself. When I was a kid, I had just a couple of friends & even then, I couldn't wait to get home & play with my toys & be in my own world, whenever I'd be out with friends.

@creativelady7 Год назад

Same here! Just wanted to go into my room and sew, and create art, and craft!

@Ssaidak Год назад

@@creativelady7 I only wanted to read.

@niknoks6387 Год назад

I have a degree in biology, you definitely spend more time in nature than most of us biologists do. I’m actually envious ❤️🇬🇧

@tr9066 Год назад

When I was younger I thought that I wanted to be the kind of person who could effortlessly invite lots of people into my home and throw big parties that created wonderful memories for everyone involved. After opening my home several times as a host, I found myself feeling so anxious, exhausted and overwhelmed whenever I did so that it took me days alone to recover my energy. Doing a bit of soul searching helped me figure out that I’m an introvert who wants to be an extrovert and it’s ok to have just a few select close friends in my life. I don’t have to be popular to be loved or happy with my life. I would much prefer having a good friend come by to visit for a simple cup of tea any day.

@Babesinthewood97 Год назад

Gardens, porches and a cup of tea are better any day :)

@camillea7697 Год назад

As a HSP who 5 years ago realized this, I love animals, nature and a very few people only. Now know nothing wrong w me. Had trauma as child which compounded my special personality. Love creating new ways of doing things/designing spaces. Thank you for your effort in doing this. It’s Real Love to gather all us kindred souls!!

@1925garden Год назад

Loved the zoomed-in shots of wildlife, and your striking views of the stark snowy landscape; you perfectly capture the natural beauty of every season. Great message too; introverts are often pressured as young people to be more extroverted, but then, like you, as we go along in life, we realize that we just have our own different way of socializing, and there's nothing wrong with that. Anyway, love your channel and love this video.

@anjou6497 Год назад

I agree so much. Her voice gently draws me in too; along with the stunning landscape and animal scenes. The stark snow scenes always move me ! Wishing you well Roy. ☺️🌱🧡🌿

@1925garden Год назад

@@anjou6497 Thanks for your lovely response, we are so lucky to have her. And I wish you well too.

@1925garden Год назад

@@darleneengebretsen1468 Yes! The footage of the snowy landscape and the wildlife was truly exceptional.

@moriel01 Год назад

*_My heart skips a beat whenever I see a new upload from The Cottage Fairy._* 😊

@marionsellman7517 Год назад

@moriel01 .... Me too ! Thankfully there are enough of her previous ones for me to catch up on. Thank you Paola , you quiet my busy mind and life with your beautiful videos. Not least with your calm voice. Most nights I settle down in bed and play a few of your videos to relax myself to sleep. Blessings to you and all you hold dear to your heart.....nature included xx Sending my love. Have a wonderful week 🌹

@peggybaggenstoss3817 Год назад

As a child I enjoyed many hours alone reading. My brother and I would play together but I was happy traveling to world through books. I’m now 69 , retired from a busy medical career and am enjoying the solitude again. I’ll always be learning and have projects. You’re never too old to learn new skills. I wanted to be a geologist and archaeologist but instead was a nurse. I collect rocks everywhere I go. I love your videos.

@maryblair3618 Год назад

I am 65 years old. I have always loved nature and have had very few good friends. I spent summers going fishing with my mother and my dog. Truthfully, i loved sitting beside streams watching the wildlife around me. I am a very loving person but just haven't connected with a lot of people. Even the dear friends i do have aren't necessarily like me, on the contrary we are very different. I am much more solitary, i enjoy nature, love visiting with birds and enjoy watching dragonflies. I don't watch television and i love my books. You and i are not so different... there are many more that are like us than we realize! Blessings and much love to you and yours! ❤🌱🐦

@kimscrushinit3767 Год назад

Thank you for confirming to many of us via your lovely videos that it's okay to enjoy alone time creating art, enjoying nature, or doing whatever, and to keep only a small circle of close human relationships. Have been this way for nearly 59 years now, and though others may not understand me, it is who I am, and I am just fine. I wouldn't want to live any other way. Though I must admit that it took years to accept that I will not ever fit in with mainstream society, and that's okay. The quiet, simpler life suits me and is necessary for my well-being. Here's to loving and honoring our unique selves. Thank you for this beautiful, heartfelt, peaceful video.

@joeschmo7957 Год назад

"The quiet, simpler life suits me and is necessary for my well-being." Me, too, young lady. I am VERY MUCH your age... I like the way you think.

@kimscrushinit3767 Год назад

@@joeschmo7957 wishing us many more quiet, easy-going years!

@zzzendyaz4208 Год назад

Thank you this. In my situation, I live in a constant internal pressure to sustain an active, social as this is the "right" thing to do for my daughter. I understand my family's point of view but too much of it exhausts my introvert spirit. Im often in crossroads if I should oush my daughter to be more sociable yet it seems to contradict as well to who she is which deep inside I understand. I think as I got older it felt more right for me to accept who I am - someone who loves and finds peace in nature, books and a few solid friends.

@kimscrushinit3767 Год назад

@Zendy Azarias I completely understand and also struggled similarly when I was raising my children. Interestingly, they're both more like me now that they're young adults. I'm enjoying being older and feeling comfortable in my own skin, living on my own terms. Best wishes to you as you live authentically.

@Englishroserebecca Год назад

@@zzzendyaz4208 The problem is not us but how people respond to us and want to make us like them. By changing to suit them we are not happy any more. I wish people would leave people to do what they want to do. I remember my mother in law having a big party. It was impossible not to go wasn’t it? She asked me to make a flower arrangement for every table, which stressed me out but I did it, then when the party started she asked me to go around and socialise as people hadn’t seen me for a long time I wanted to sit in the corner. Now I just say I’m not a party person. Sorry. I’m so much happier.

@sadiekromm3692 Год назад

the cinematography is outstanding in this. to be able to capture moments like that on film without the wildlife feeling disturbed or let alone notice, is a gift. this is truly a safe space for all.

@susanwagner9443 Год назад

This journey you are on is for the very young, very old, and every age in between. We’re all just trying to find our true selves and be surrounded by people who value us.

@Madhuvanidasi Год назад

“I Spend time watching and waiting for the beauty hidden in plain sight”… very lovely Thankyou for the inspiration as always 🙏♥️

@helenebisaillon9256 Год назад

Hi from Québec, Canada. I am doing my best to write to you in english so … please excuse errors that i might make in my comments. I am 74 years old and during all my life i never had many friends. I was also told by teachers that i was not « fitting » with the group ! I spent a lot of time by myself reading and doing arts … i think it really help healing … I was so happy and moved to discover you. Your videos are so peaceful and allow me to connect with my soul. Thank you so much. I bought your art from Etsy and i love it.

@CJBray_historyonaplate Год назад

I am from Canada as well and your English is perfect! ❤

@tinaaa_ Год назад

Hi fellow Canadian! Je résonne beaucoup avec votre message. Votre anglais est excellent 😊

@Gigi-wo8yv Год назад

You composed this beautifully. Thank you!

@floatingmischief Год назад

Love this ❤

@farinaceaclover Год назад

I love the solitude; it has always suited me. I am a happy hermit. 🦋 This video was captivating. Thank you!

@gannamohammed839 Год назад

I love the reality of how your videos can make peace with myself, I am so grateful to you and to all your loving fans, their wonderful comments means alot to me 💗

@sammiecollier8783 Год назад

I love being out in nature! When I was younger I wanted to be a wildlife photographer, even though that never happened I still love taking nature and wildlife pictures. Love the images of the wildlife in your video!

@susanross1651 Год назад

I’ve never had many friends, but the few I’ve had in life have been good ones. I can’t do shallow casual acquaintances. I’ve always preferred animals, especially dogs, they have been some of my most deep & trusting relationships. I used to feel a bit insecure, but with age my confidence grew, especially after I finally retired & didn’t have to be a people pleaser anymore x

@suNRze Год назад

I have said this many times to my friends - while the pandemic has been devastating in many ways, it has been a blessing too. I’ve slowed my life down and reassessed. I have never been one to be bothered by spending time alone as, like you, I’m artistic in a sense. My grandmother taught me the art of knitting and crocheting and I’ve spent many hours listening to music or the clock ticking while crocheting. I have friends and family but I also love my alone time. Thank you

@sagebay2803 Год назад

ooohh, me too. I just sit and knit. lol

@__rishikasingh Год назад

7 minutes of sheer brilliance Such beautifully captured shots Mind is blown ❄️❤️

@vickiephilbrick6738 Год назад

The wolf was magnificent! How lucky you are to have been graced with his presence.

@GrowingonVancouverIsland Год назад

I definitely relate to finding friends in nature. I think I have made many friends in nature in my life so far.

@lesleystrong8865 Год назад

Having a book taken away in a break at school and told to be 'normal' is one I completely relate to. I'm listening to my friends this morning, their birdsong is beautiful 🐦

@czarina7786 Год назад

I was yelled at for drawing instead of doing numbers in first grade. I still hear her. I now becoming an artist at 63. I understand.

@Avelithe Год назад

So many people I know feel so confused when I tell them that I am content in my loneliness. I tell them, “I am alone, but I do not feel alone.” They do not understand that I find absolute peace in solitude. I do enjoy socializing, but when I am at home, I am in a sacred space for myself. I understand that not everyone feels this way, but the concept of introversion ought to be respected instead of rejected. It is not a terrible thing.

@pennycampbell7458 Год назад

I am 61 yrs old. You remind me of myself when younger. I struggle with making human friends to this day. But have learnt to be ok with that. As that is who I am. Thankyou for this video.

@PeachesSkinCare Год назад

I love this❤ I would rather be by the water or in the garden or giving love to nature. At 57 I have a few very special friends. I choose them carefully as I mature. I have learned that it isn’t the amount of people you allow in, but the quality of the human. I do love helping others but that doesn’t mean they become friends, it simply means I want to leave behind joy in this world. Love who you are, you are a very special spirit 🍑🙌🏻🧡Lisa

@shannonlynne1558 Год назад

“Giving love to nature” what a beautiful expression. 💕

@PeachesSkinCare Год назад

@@shannonlynne1558 🙌🏻🧡❤️🍑

@MaryBeth1965 Год назад

Lisa...I too am 57 and choose my friends extremely carefully. Those people with negative energy I'll never let in. It makes life easier. :-)

@PeachesSkinCare Год назад

@@MaryBeth1965 I could not agree more. I wished I had learned this so long ago. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and bring joy to your life. Have a wonderful weekend Mary Beth🙌🏻🍑🧡Lisa

@courtneyawalsh Год назад

I feel blessed by many amazing, heart centered & soulful friendships…kindreds are both everywhere & rare all at once…and I dearly love my alone time to recharge, too. Best of both worlds. I think you may count us all as your friend, Paola. Though we’ve never met, your heart shines through these artful & lovely videos. And I, for one, find them both soothing & uplifting. Thank you for being a friend: to us, to nature, to your community, your animals, your family and to whimsy & grace. You remind us what’s real, good & wholesome and the world desperately needs that now…more than ever. Thank you for all you do & are.

@elevationview673 Год назад

Beautifully put

@TheCottageFairy Год назад

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤ sending much love

@creativelady7 Год назад

Courtney, I agree!

@zhannas3033 Год назад

I spent most of my childhood as an observer sitting on our 2nd story balcony watching other kids play from a distance. Parties and large gatherings have always been very draining to me. I’ve always been completely content being in my own company and now in my 50s I actually consciously understand and accept this as a good thing.

@mohdbilalansari5687 Год назад

I thought that I am alone in this but happy to know there are many more like me 🌸🍁💕

@hanchad Год назад

As a (relatively) recently diagnosed autistic adult, and very recently becoming to accept it and learning to unmask, I now realise how much of an introvert I am and am becoming more comfortable with saying I like being alone. I felt wrong as a child that I never wanted to play with the neighbouring kids and felt happier playing alone, like a square peg being made to try and fit in a round hole! I now work in a shop and the few hours of that is enough social for me. It is surprising how many people out there are introverts. I haven’t ever thought of deriving connection and friendship in unconventional ways, I really like that. Thank you for sharing your wise words again Paola.

@AngelaNewcomb Год назад

As a child and as an adult I’m the same way. After having my two kids, now I truly have forever friends. I homeschool them, I teach them art and music all day. I feel like iv reached a level of happiness that as a child I didn’t think I would have. Thanks to the support of my husband, my dreams came true. Your videos are beautiful ❤

@yeshalloween Год назад

This is me as well. Home with my 4 little children all day, everyday. Homeschooling and feeling bliss. My one true friend is my husband.

@CJBray_historyonaplate Год назад

I always have said that when I had kids I made my own best friends. 😂 ❤

@cathylynnpietranton Год назад

My husband and I would rather just spend time together and out in nature. We don't have friends just acquaintances. Family is important to us. Sending hugs ❤

@suzy1335 Год назад

Listening to you has given me permission to accept myself. Thank You.

@lena_buttercup Год назад

Thank you for your beautiful & calming videos. They inspire me so much. You are such a lovely soul. So grateful for your presence. 🌿💛

@francesmoseley3316 Год назад

I am an introvert who has never found the need for a busy social life or a great many friends. I have a couple of very dear friends and a number of just friends (like my colleagues at school---I am a teacher.) Like you, I value my own company and being out in nature. I find that if I am too busy and don't have time to myself, I am very irritable and cranky. My alone time grounds me. Thank you for these videos. They resonate with many of us.

@marycooney2194 Год назад

I have always been an introvert. What resonated with me most in this video is that you know you will only have a few good friendships in this life. feel the same but they are the people who get me and let me be who I am, no judgement. That's all I need. My other fiends are trees and birds, seeing that hawk made my day. I got 100 ft from a mama bald eagle the other day, sitting in a field so my week has been full of friends.

@katherandefy Год назад

Hi Paola. I watch all your videos as soon as they come out. I rarely comment. But I want to say that even though I follow many YT makers I don’t watch their content as soon as it hits. I mostly use the platform to listen to music or audiobooks, lectures, look at dance, architecture and art. The reason I watch your vids is I relate to your tales of your life in the world you know other than human interaction. They’re mostly reflections and expressions of all kinds of wondering. As a deaf person raised outside the deaf community who went to normal school my life has remained as inexplicable to me as it has always been to the people around me. Because of course my interactions and perceptions are so different. I can relate well to your videos of living through a lens that so many others have no access to. Thanks for giving us a glimpse behind yours. ☺️

@ND1966p Год назад

I always felt such a failure for not having large groups of friends and an exciting social life, but I was always shy and introverted. Now I’m older, I value my very small circle of friends, and my husband and cats, my garden and trees, and my solitude.. I do love your videos.. I’ve been here for a number of seasons, seeing your spring, summer fall and winter. Your videos inspire me to even more appreciate nature and peace.

@anjou6497 Год назад

What a lovely comment. 🧡🌱

@ND1966p Год назад

@@anjou6497 ❤️

@lianne578 Год назад

I've just come across this channel and very glad to know that I am not alone. Many of the comments here are actually description of me too. I am shy but of cheerful nature and like positivity in life. It's not guilt or weird as such but more like embarrassment, to say I do not have friends (apart from one but she passed away). To be honest, this isn't a choice I'd have, I like the balance of me time but also some interactions with humans, not superficially but deeper honest friendships. I live in the UK with my husband and my grown up children (I am in my mid 50s), I love my family dearly, however, I can honestly say I still have room in my heart to add new women friends so I keep hoping. I long for the joy of good honest friendship and sharing mutual interest.

@gabriellagirardi4741 Год назад

Sometimes I need to be alone, it is really important, but also friendship is a great gift. Thanks a lot for sharing.

@carriann3725 Год назад

Thank you for touching my heart and spirit. I am often teased by people around me for having unconventional friends with nature. You have encouraged me not to give up on that. I live in an apartment and have turned my little home into my sanctuary of nature and books and some of your artwork. I also am surrounded by very special stuffed animals and dolls that mean the world to me since I had a very rough childhood full of abuse. I have to be very careful walking alone in the parks here even though I absolutely love it. 🧸🦄🧚‍♀️💖😊💕

@offcoloratura Год назад

When I was in middle school I used to eat lunch on the library steps reading a book. School was exhausting and I needed some decompression time in the world of a good book. My parents were called by my teachers, with great concern, that I wasn't socializing at lunch, and my parents gave me the assignment of trying to socialize with a different classmate every lunch period. I made several attempts to make lunch dates (students ate in circles that changed locations, so arrangements had to be made in advance where to meet) and was stood up by several. I eventually gave up the project. What a cruel thing to do to an introverted kid.

@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Год назад

Teachers who accepted me as I was as a child and nurtured my uniqueness were rare, and they are the few Teachers that I remember fondly more than half a century later. The other teachers who wanted me to conform, I have completely forgotten about. I loved books as a child, I still love books as an elderly man. I loved learning as a child. I still love to learn as an elderly man. Your Channel, Paola, is a delightful and beautiful and very welcome breath of fresh perspective and insight and wisdom. Thank you. 🌹 The most valuable lesson in life is to teach children to be You-nique. There are hidden gifts and talents and abilities in every person.

@coletteg.4548 Год назад

I was an only child and nature was where I stayed. I’m 60 yrs old and I still find peace in nature more than with people. I always rebelled with the fitting in part during my teenage years and I still do . I guess I always wanted to just be myself. I see myself in you . You are an inspiration sweet lady ❣️ Much love from Tennessee.

@jeffersonmorant215 Год назад

Hello Colette how are you doing, where are you from?

@miigs4167 Год назад

Your videos are so affirming to us who prefer to live quietly alone or with our partners. Women get a lot of social pressure to have constant connection (in the US anyway) . I also prefer the company of my animals and just being outdoors watching the wildlife who share my backyard, neighborhood and local parks. 💕

@inspirationsetmerveilles424 Год назад

Thank you one more time for this beautiful vlog... I used to be a flight attendant for 30 years. I had a very active social life at this time. I was also dancing in a small local dance club and had many friends and I dedicated a lot of my free time to this activity, preparing end of the year shows etc... Now, I am retired and since the covid sanitary crisis, I realised I am now in deep need of nature, slow and quiet life. My old friends don't understand the changes I operated in my life. Now, I love (and need) to walk alone in the country side, paint outside, read books, poetry, I love to write... The way you live resonate a lot with the way I decides to live now... You are a beautifull person, dear Paola.. And yes, nature is full of a different kind of friends...

@sarahjmorelli Год назад

I really appreciate your videos. I am an introvert and have been teased my whole life because I enjoy my time in solitude. Most days I would rather paint, write or read then be in the company of others. I also love the peaceful healing that nature brings living in a rural area. I have recently made some new friends as I like to feed the hummingbirds from my balcony and watch the butterflies amongst the flowers. My little cat enjoys sitting on the window sill and watching the outside world. To our delight a black squirrel was perching in the arms of the tree right before us with a nut he held like treasure yesterday.

@hilltopvt Год назад

Being a good teacher takes special traits - awareness and appreciation of different personality traits, and the ability to help children see what is special about themselves, being among the most important. Saying, "Go be normal!" to a child, when they already ARE being normal for them, is appalling. You have many followers who adore you 💖

@leonakay6491 Год назад

Totally resonate with how you felt within your childhood. Being a sensitive soul, as many of us are, I also connect more with animals and trees. Always have. And still do. Their spirits are loving, pure, and give us such companionship and guidance. It can't be compared to. Can't be properly explained to those who don't understand. It just is. Love and blessings to you from Australia.

@thomasanderson9196 Год назад

Hi pretty lady. How are you doing today? And how is the weather over there

@ElizabethPoet Год назад

Since I live alone some folks were concerned about me during the pandemic. But, I went to a bird refuge two to three times a week and visited my friends there, the birds, and did not feel alone but rather, connected. I feel understood by you!

@libbysworld7649 Год назад

Your content is outstanding! Thank you for sharing the beauty of your surroundings and giving us a view into your scope of such.

@kimmberlie573 Год назад

So true! Simple and beautiful.

@vivienvan9478 Год назад

You are such an inspiration! Thank you all your work. I really appreciate your videos as well as your book. It is a joy to read! Take care 🌷✨

@oliveappleby8672 Год назад

I was forced to fit in for over 40+ years….and I am miserable because of that. If I was let be me,I believe I wouldn’t be suffering from depression. I have a few close friends who get me, now I’m much older I’m me, if folk don’t like me, their problem. 🥰🥰🥰🥰

@sophiaisabelle01 Год назад

We find inner peace in solitude, as they all say. Making friends can be difficult, due to our current circumstances, however we can still make things work, even if the odds aren't always in our favor.

@pollydunn3191 Год назад

It is hard in this world where being social is kind of thrown at you on social media. It does make you feel odd when you are content just living in your own world you've created. Even family can make you feel odd but I would never want to lose that total peace and contentment I feel in my own company. I have traveled with people and I've traveled alone and I prefer traveling alone. I never really feel alone because I do feel God taking care of me. He gets me out of any situations I get into and He shows me His incredible creations when I least expect it. He had also shown me His incredible sense of humor on some of my travels. He is the best companion for me. ❤️

@Serenity-fu8xz Год назад

I love to be alone too sending you love I actually really enjoy my own company and I get tired when I am around other people it’s exhausting I’m an introvert so I feel everyone’s emotions and feelings and it’s just a lot sometimes. I treasure my alone time. And animals have always been my safe place. I am so lucky to have a horse that I spend most every day with and we have built trust in each other that far surpasses any trust with any human anyways so grateful to have my beautiful Mare in my life We just got back from going to the beach today and walking in the surf together her protecting me on her back and me protecting her. thank you for your episodes. Sending you my love.

@ValerieWeyrich Год назад

This resonates so much. As a sensitive introvert, I feel overextended when I spend a lot of time with friends. I love befriending my own pets and the nature that I live among. I've spent many a meal staring at the evergreen across the window from my dining table :) In appreciation,

@Gigi-wo8yv Год назад

I can identify.

@judypomicter9540 Год назад

I have always loved my solitude. Everybody thought I was odd when I was young as well. I have always preferred a walk in the woods over a gab fest with people. I have two good friends I have know for over 13 years now, both of which accept I often go quiet for weeks and even months at a time but we reconnect like we spoke the day prior. The only people who truly understand that I am happy without constant conversation. Curling up with a book, painting or hiking are basically what I live for.

@pinkroses135 Год назад

The biggest thing for me when it comes to friendship is they have to click just right with me or meet a standard and I don't come across that often. When you do though it can be something special. Being this way does give you more time to focus on causes that mean a lot to you which is a huge plus. I think some of us are meant to be like this for that reason. It's how we contribute to the world.

@evegrace12 Год назад

I'm glad you mentioned trees as your friends because I feel the same way. Trees are living creatures capable of forming bonds. When I step into the woods, I am surrounded by friends.

@marybethbush8614 Год назад

I so enjoy your videos. I can relate to how you feel about wanting to be alone more than have a lot of friends. Some people make me very tired just by their energy. I also wanted to say how lovely your new bookshelves that Luke built for you came out! What a cozy nook you two have created!

@AnaBela1990 Год назад

this was incredibly beautiful Paola, thank you for creating it

@ihavepeace5792 Год назад

It's interesting to learn to be alone. Adjustments do not always come easy, but when you break thru it holds a whole different world. Getting to know who you are. Learning and growing makes you see the person you are becoming.

@sheilamann6721 Год назад

Completely agree.A walking the woods with ducks,squirrels and birds fills up the soul! Plants at home necessary too.

@operacionanaconda Год назад

After years of anxiety, depression and isolated myself I don't have friends & I had always felt like an alien but lately I really started to value how to become my own best friend and how to be proud of every part of me. ❤️

@bec1.618 Год назад

I am so so sorry for everyone who was told that their safe space, being with themselves, being quiet or reading, was weird or wrong. Just in case you need the validation, it’s not wrong. Your quiet nature is also something to be celebrated, and your interests are equally valuable if not more for being ‘rarer’. It’s important to hold space for yourself to exist just as you are, and I think this video is a beautiful example of that ❤ thank you

@alanmralphsralphs7434 Год назад

Love that graceful, silent, solitary flight of your owl friend …

@alliewhisson8902 Год назад

God watching you is like watching myself, and it makes me feel more accepting of myself. Thankyou

@beverleyroberts1025 Год назад

There is no such thing as normal, we are all unique. I do have friends but I also prefer time on my own too. Being social is not always my favourite thing, but we sometimes have to do it. You should do what makes you happy and be proud of that. If a walk in nature, being alone or reading a book makes you happy, then that's what you should do. 🌸🌻 🍃🌱🌾

@EnglishCoach3Ts Год назад

Yes. So sweet. I tend to be ambiverted. While I love spending time with people and conversation is an art I love, I also love time alone.

@grannyp.w.4343 Год назад

It’s been a rough week and your quiet video gives me peace and hope…❄️

@thomasreed181 Год назад

It’s like watching one of my favorite TV shows but better. Sweet young lady far more mature than her young years. God Bless You and your husband.

@craftysenora1840 Год назад

Thanks for sharing this insightful video, Paola. I am an introvert and enjoy solitude. Some people find it difficult to be alone and enjoy their own company. Because of this, it’s difficult for them to understand the love of solitude. In my youth, I struggled bc I enjoyed solitude and loved r effective activities. I often thought there was something wrong with me, but at 67, I absolutely understand and know that I am more than ok. A red flag in possible friendships is that scary comment, “ I do not like being alone”. I find these people to be high maintenance bc they want me to be with them constantly so that they don’t have to be alone…..sad

@terrischumann8917 Год назад

Your library room is so beautiful and just perfect for you. Tell Luke his craftmanship on the bookshelves is so touching because they're such a reflection of what you love. Blessings to you both!

@jannybranciforte9295 Год назад

This video was such an exquisite work of art, Paola. The out in nature scenes at the opening were magnificent. And then, inside your beautiful cottage with your beautiful friends ( books) and candle, all glowed and invited each of us in to share your thoughts on friendship. It truly felt like an invitation on a Winter’s day, to quietly join you. Friendships come in all different forms. I’ve learned over the years to accept the big part of myself that so enjoys my need for solitude and to appreciate my own uniqueness in not being one with the interest, desire or ability to easily make small talk or need to have many friends. To be one’s own best friend is an art and skill that incredibly enriches one’s life. To me, it is the ultimate in living with joy and freedom, and developing a few exquisite friendships from a place of fullness, rather than emptiness and neediness. The fullness of one’s being enables one to truly express and live accordingly a life of self love and acceptance ( which I’ve learned over time) and sense of self completeness. It allows one to relax and truly give lovingkindness from a happy heart and appreciate the few and very precious friends that we find, and who find us. You might be very surprised to know how many of us are likeminded and relate to your being one who dances to your own music, and not to society’s noise…

@jennyc1846 Год назад

True friends are few Paola. I am 69 and could count on one hand my true friends. No matter how much time goes by without seeing them its like yesterday when you do. I also love my own company and space. As the old saying goes you can be lonely when surrounded by people. Go with your heart, be true to yourself. I also was a loner at school and would happily lose myself in a book rather than mix with others which I found very difficult to do. You are a very special person and anyone would be proud to call you their friend🤗🥰🌹🙏🦘🦘 much love from Western Australia 💜

@olgacvetkova114 Год назад

Your videos are so beautiful and calming! I really enjoyed this one 👍😊🍀🌼🌹 And you are becoming a wonderful wildlife photographer 👍👍👍

@marthareynoso990 Год назад

Dear beautiful Paula, you are an inspiration to me ♥️ thank you for your videos! As a child growing up, I wanted to have friends but no one wanted to be my friend. I was never pretty, bullied for being ugly. Now as un adult I enjoy very much being alone and as you have inspired my to be with my friends in nature. ♥️ God bless you so much ♥️

@KeilaniJasmine Год назад

I truly enjoyed this video and your “No friends “ video as well. You mentioned that you are a highly sensitive person (HSP) in the video. It made me smile because I’m also an HSP. Many HSPs enjoy alone time. And they need alone time to recuperate themselves. I’m the same way. I’m writhing this from Japan 🇯🇵 and sending you warm hugs 🧸🍵

@jeanniecollier6763 Год назад

When your video started playing 4 out of 6 of my cats (2 were already asleep) came and sat with me while we watched. They love the soothing music and the animals you video. Thank you for sharing your world.

@flowertree2732 Год назад

Kindered spirit! ✨ I use to be a social butterfly and always was in customer services jobs! I Just hit a point where I was sooooo drained emotionally and physically! I didn’t have great friends around me and too never felt such a peace as being a lone with animals/ nature and higher!! Completely disconnected and best thing I did for myself! I think it is special to enjoy oneself and animals the earth. I would never go back to my old life. My thoughts now for people I am around are quality not quantity. ✌️❣️🇨🇦

@candyclews4047 Год назад

I love solitude but it took me many decades to realise this was ok. To know and appreciate this at your age, Paola, is a gift.

@elizabethriley8850 Год назад

I happen to be quite a social person and have many friends, but only 2 that I know I could count on no matter what. I feel blessed to have those two "sisters" as I know they are the rare kind of friend that most people can't find. Also, I had a counselor tell me once (we were talking about my shy son) that it doesn't matter so much that he has many friends, but it does matter that he has at least one friend. Also, was thinking of something that Beethoven once was supposed to have said in answer to a question......"I am alone most of the time, but, because of the music, I am never lonely." You have art and nature and your husband and family. You are blessed.