Losing my confidence + how I deal with criticism

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Today, I wanted to talk about some experiences that have impacted my life, specifically some situations that broke down my sense of self and my confidence. I gained a lot from those experiences, and learned how to demand respect and rebuild myself, learning to be more assertive and comfortable with negative criticism. Thank you all for your lovely letters and comments, I appreciate all of them even though I am not always able to reply.
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I try to not let painful experiences stand in the way of making progress and taking control of my story. After experiencing some very damaging and abusive relationships in my late teens, I seek to reach out to others who are potentially dealing with similar situations, presently or in the past. Your age, gender, race, spiritual/religious beliefs, is never - and will never - be a valid reason for someone to treat you with anything less than respect. I believe people who have ill intentions towards others are often very hurt themselves. They have forgotten, or have never been taught, to properly love other humans. Sometimes they come to a point where they wish to heal their hearts, and sometimes they don’t. But that is their burden to bear, not yours.

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@josephanthony8585 3 года назад

As an 82-y-o man I have found your videos to be very helpful. I have been going through some stress and this is the very last thing I want as I approach the end. So I find that your choice of music and your videos have had a very calming effect. And for that I am grateful to you.

@cathy3951 Год назад

Can we be pen pals?😀

@larryzuiker5721 Год назад

I also agree as age effects a view of life. Your videos and music are very calming.

@carolbenavidez2228 3 года назад

I'm an older woman and experienced the abusive side of being "too nice" for much too long. So happy to hear you learned your lessons at a young age. Still trying to learn about self love and boundaries. Thank you for sharing!

@Tiffany-bk4kz 3 года назад

I wish I'd learned it earlier, as well. Or, given myself permission to stand up for myself and to expect more from people and from life. Sadly, I was conditioned, early on, even expected, to settle for whatever life threw me, and to be happy about it. So, that's what I did. The 'grin & bear it' mentality. I sure put up with a lot, for a long time, before I realized it was ok to expect respect. So glad she learned it earlier... So glad we learned it, if later in life. Everyone deserves respect. Must expect it!

@carolbenavidez2228 3 года назад

@@Tiffany-bk4kz Yes! If anything, I tell myself "better late than never," because, as you say, the way I, too, was conditioned, it could easily have been "never." Congrats to us!

@anastasialatysh3809 3 года назад

Sending you Love and Peace 🙏🏻🌺

@loganturner3895 3 года назад

I am older man...I too was,to NICE,I guess it was the,blueprints,of up bringing!!🙏

@junerichards5741 3 года назад

Me too! J💕

@Homeycircle 3 года назад

I think you have a special gift of being able to convey your message creatively in videos, and touch people's hearts and souls. So I hope you don't stop creating videos that inspire and motivate people.

@Lovelybeepink 2 года назад

Your videos help bring my anxiety down. Thank you. -Vash ✨

@lisabarnfield1089 2 года назад

So right

@keiraLeeYuna 2 года назад

Eu concordo.. seus videos nos trazem paz e um desejo de cada vez ser melhor. Continue. Por favor. 🇧🇷❤

@andreafisherwriter 2 года назад

Beautifully said too 🙏

@Brooklynbaby47 3 года назад

Your channel is by far the most authentic and aesthetically rich. You’re a kind soul thanks so much for sharing it with us!

@lunakat5763 3 года назад

You may also like Jonna Jinton and The green witch channels. Jonna lives in Northern Sweden such beautiful scenery.

@lisasimpson8318 2 года назад

I prefer the cottage fairy

@joanncoopertroupe3506 Год назад

I Love all your Videos Jo Ann Age 64North Florida

@dod2304 Год назад

@@lunakat5763 I second that. Jonna and Paola are clearly different, but both share videos that bring us back to the wonder of nature and simple pleasures. I love both channels.

@angelinebrown8157 3 года назад

My husband and I cannot adequately express what a dear and gentle blessing you have been to each of us. We are old enough to be your grandparents and have lived through many types of experience in our lives. We watch your videos together , every week, and every time we are amazed at how insightful you are and how profound your wisdom, Paola. Thank you for being the transparent you that you are, you have been a huge encouragement and a precious friend. Your perspectives concerning your life have made us richer in our own.🏡💝 With love from our home

@kristenpage5174 3 года назад

What a beautiful comment and I agree wholeheartedly.

@LG-lb7sf 3 года назад

Yes, Paola, you are the bridge that binds us similar souls :)

@talesfromtheroad9530 3 года назад

I love that you and your husband watch these videos together ❤😊 That is so sweet

@mariamargaritagarcia8049 3 года назад

Angeline: I read your lovely comment with a smile from ear to ear ! Perfect words you have written ... This child has the mind, the soul and the attitude of an old soul. Such a beautiful angel in these difficult world !!

@trish3580 3 года назад

I feel the very same way...and am also old enough to be her grandmother :)

@judithbutler9695 2 года назад

To understand yourself at this young age is a miracle . I’m 66 and still working on this. I do not understand being unkind.

@Groovy-Baby-Yeah 3 года назад

The people who do cruel things to others are dead inside. They live in darkness and ignorance. On the other hand, happy people don't hurt others. It is what it is.

@NetiNeti-gm5bz 3 года назад

Healed people heal people

@tinabumbalina2602 2 года назад

Pablo, I like your comment, so simple yet so true.

@lvehaerin 2 года назад

So true

@devonseamoor 2 года назад

@Pablo Pistachio. Don't you think that there's also unhappy people who don't hurt others? The world isn't that black&white, as I perceive it. There are also cruel people who know well how to play nice, and charming, see?

@lvehaerin 2 года назад

@@devonseamoor ugh i really have to take the og comment into consideration bcoz of ur comment

@truthandgetthrough 3 года назад

I had no idea Dandelion was edible! I honestly am finding my lost innocence back again from your videos. I feel my childhood is being in a way restored. I used to love reading about the natural properties of plants & still am into herbal remedies rather than artificial but have allowed fear to take desire to actually try & search out ways to use normal common things such as Dandelions. Thank you for your videos.

@razgvozd 3 года назад

Dandelion is one of the best things you could eat. Especially if you have bad people around you or bad thoughts, they help reducing the heat of a flaming body. You need to balance them with something warming, so maybe a dandelion warm tea with a little lemon.

@wendyeskelin8765 3 года назад

I knew people ate the green part but I didn't know the top part too. I learned something new as well.

@osnatgoldman2259 2 года назад

I've been asking for much more flow and simplicity of action in my life and moving away from the feeling that I'm not doing enough. Your video's are allowing me to open up to more intuitive flowing and the feeling that that's enough! Bless your wise soul and thanks so much for sharing simplicity with us!!

@ashleymorgan9625 2 года назад

You can make dandelion tea and cook dandelion leaves like kale. They are bitter though, so you have to boil them and rinse a few times.

@melaleuca1881 2 года назад

I have very much felt the same. These videos have helped me reconnect with my sense of childlike wonder and joy, and I believe this will help me live a life I truly desire, regardless of the cultural expectations I have been taught to value even over my own personal values.

@TheCottageFairy 3 года назад

Haha to answer a question: my boyfriend also got a sandwich at the end of this video, it just wasn’t in the clip lol 😂 We both ate well lol Thank you all for your wonderful letters, comments, and messages. I find it very difficult to reply to everyone, but know I read and appreciate it very much ❤️ Everyday I try to not let negative experiences stand in the way of making progress in my own life. After going through some very damaging and abusive relationships in my late teens, I seek to reach out to others who are potentially dealing with similar situations, presently or in the past. Your age, gender, race, spiritual/religious beliefs, diet, etc is never - and will never - be a valid reason for someone to treat you with anything less than respect. I believe people who have ill intentions towards others are often very hurt themselves. They have forgotten, or have never been taught, to properly love other humans. Sometimes they come to a point where they wish to heal their hearts and seek help, and sometimes they don’t. But that is their burden to bear, not ours.

@chancbl 3 года назад

My problem is the OPPOSITE ;) People complained through my growing up years that my being ADHD was a pain--I was loud and like can't even hold a conversation--like even now LOL. So your so called 'nervousness' I see as STRENGTH I would not even call it nervousness but a quiet peace and calm. The only person(s) who related to me were professors and my advisor. Even today (as you can tell from my repsonses) is slip shot to the point. BUT I am who I am --as for relationships I can't even hold them down not because of them but me LOL --think I do better with dogs in any event you rock ok? As for my ADHD as my graduate advisor says, HEY you are gifted bright who cares what they think go change the world with your intellect later keep rocking

@nahulseyon54 3 года назад

My friend's name is Rohan too!

@StopListenThink 3 года назад

He’s so goofy 😋 love it 😊 perfect 👌

@savvy5297 3 года назад

A look into your work day would be so interesting! Love your message in this video : )

@julieb2398 3 года назад

This hit home. My oldest grand daughter who is on the spectrum went through exactly what you explained above. She is 19. She lives with me most of the time. I am here for her and holding space. Thank you so much. I would LOVE to see a weekday and your new work space. Brightest Blessings Paola. Love from Ohio.

@trulymagyar7169 Год назад

I know this video is a year old but I have just recently discovered your channel and I am watching from the beginning in chronological order and just wanted to say I am SOOOO glad you are doing these videos!! :). When you said you were nervous about uploading I was so glad you push through that feeling for all the people who want and need this LOVELY content. It truly feeds my soul. Your imagery and messages are from the Divine- and I want to thank you so much for sharing your art, aesthetics, insights and kindness with us.

@jasminevangeel2579 Год назад

As I read in one of the reactions above I also just discovered this channel since a couple of weeks. To me your videos are a very welcome and much needed alternative to the overload of noisy, superficial videos on RU-vid. I enjoy your creativity and honesty. Sitting down with a cup of tea and watch one of your videos (or even sometimes walking around while doing some household chores with headphones on) is a treat. Well made, beautiful scenery, meaningful content. Very very nice. This particular one really moved me. Happy you found a sweet lifepartner and brave you for sharing your stories so honestly!!! 🙏

@Li2na Год назад

I'm also watching from the beginning in chronological order! Ahaha

@user-dl2dh2bk5v Год назад

@@Li2na me too 😂

@AnnaLivingLove 9 месяцев назад

Me too ❤

@lynnann96 3 года назад

I’m 71 and tend towards being cynical. When that pressure builds, I watch a video from you. That feeling of sarcasm and cynicism falls away. Your sincerity comes through and won’t allow it to stay with me. 🙏

@TheMagicCrafter 2 года назад

Oooohh that part about running into those wicked souls... I recently had an experience like that too. I blindly put my trust into someone and ended up with a shattered heart and equally shattered trust in humanity. I truly thought that if you were kind to others, they would be kind in return. But sadly, not all people are that way. It's really unfortunate. :( I'm sorry that you've had similar experiences in the past. But it is so inspiring that you've found yourself a genuine gem of a human to enjoy life with. Congratulations to you both. :) Thank you for sharing your story. I just found your channel today, and it is so charming. Thank you for what you do!

@iluvmybangs 3 года назад

One of my high school teachers wrote in my yearbook “Don’t let people take advantage of your good nature and agreeable personality”. It struck me as odd at the time but sadly I realized what she meant after the first few years of my early adulthood. I’ve learned and am learning to be assertive and stand my ground. It’s difficult.

@sarahhicks1628 3 года назад

Be glad you learned it when you were young! I'm just now learning it in my mid thirties. But it's the most valuable lesson I've ever learned 😊

@NatureFreak1127 3 года назад

Do you have any channels on assertivity to recommend? I've been struggling with this my whole life.

@dukenegju 3 года назад

It's easy dear. Now you know. It's easy. Love

@iamnotevenanumber3312 3 года назад

Well, if you find the right friends, you dont have to be so assertive all the time.

@invisiblenadia 3 года назад

Wonderful Paola ✨ ! I was always uneasy in my skin! Always felt inadequate! Made terrible choices as a result! But your videos make me feel so much better about myself! Finally realised there are people like me ... Sending u love as well,

@donyahamidzadeh3697 3 года назад

Hey dear, Im Donya,a 17 years old girl from Iran, You can not imagine how great are your videos, Thanks alot🙏🙏 Sending my love💙

@pamelarose5843 2 года назад

Salam!?

@yupyup1562 3 года назад

Watching your videos is like stepping into how one often feels while immersed in a Jane Austin Novel. Please, never stop my friend.

@brandifree5010 2 года назад

“To treat my mistakes with gentle understanding” I absolutely love that idea and need to practice it. 💕

@MisisH 3 года назад

Sometimes the journey back to self love and confidence is rough. But with the help of someone who believes in you with that ‘unshakeable foundation of love and respect’ .. healing gets a little easier. 💕

@riannatripp6594 3 года назад

I wish I had said that 👏👏

@Paul020 3 года назад

@Misis H How beautifully said. Thank you for those words.

@SuzannesSimpleLiving 3 года назад

Wonderfully said...this is what I have found for the last 6 years with my partner now 😊🇬🇧👍

@zzzendyaz4208 3 года назад

Thank you for your words. This means a lot to me.

@MisisH 3 года назад

@@Paul020 thank u paul ❤️

@vantesyeojachingu2762 3 года назад

She lives in a Bob Ross's painting ❤

@alisonchang76 3 года назад

"I had to be brave and make my own decisions." I didn't know how much I needed to hear this until today. I'm in a similar situation and I didn't understand how people could be mean and cruel and unkind without cause, and has led to a lot of hurt recently for me, in a pandemic where I'm far away from my family and close friends. I have never felt more afraid and alone, but seeing your video really made me believe in that little light inside of me again. Thank you so much for making this beautiful art.

@carolewalker2486 3 года назад

There is so much negativity in the world today. In addition to these wonderful videos, try to concentrate on uplifting things that bring you pleasure. When you are happy you will attract like-minded people. I wish you well.

@Darcyyyyyyyyyyy 3 года назад

‘I learned not to agree with things just to be agreeable’ = powerful words most of us need to hear!

@paulathefairy676 3 года назад

There are many of us who are empaths, healers, creatives and have the desire for solitude and nature 🌼 you are a bright blessing, thank you for sharing your lovely life with us ❤️ and remember hurt people hurt people 💜

@ThornyRoseV 3 года назад

Hurt people also dont hurt people. It takes a certain kind of asshole to hurt others.

@voyance4elle 3 года назад

@The Rockall Times please don't spread bs. You can easily google the definition of an empath: The term empath comes from empathy, which is the ability to understand the experiences and feelings of others outside of your own perspective. As an empath, you take things a step further. You actually sense and feel emotions as if they’re part of your own experience. In other words, someone else’s pain and happiness become your pain and happiness. Simple.

@marns7260 3 года назад

@@ThornyRoseV yes, I totally agree!

@NetiNeti-gm5bz 3 года назад

But also always remember; Healed people heal people

@soladivinegoddess 2 года назад

🤍✅🙏

@rrhines3151 3 года назад

For a woman so young, often your words and videos touch me so deeply. You seem to be an old, wise gentle soul and my eyes filled with happy tears at the end of the video. Your sharing offers nourishment and comfort for the soul. You are indeed an artist in so many ways! 🤗💕🌿

@olgabombard6277 3 года назад

Oh yes! I feel the same. I can feel my body melting on the couch, that's how relaxing it is to watch her videos

@naturalwellnesswithgomolem6870 2 года назад

111😍✨

@madelinebell84 2 года назад

I can't possibly express my thankfulness that you didn't give in to the doubts that made you want to quit this channel, because the peace you've inspired me to discover has literally saved my life...no exaggeration. Your presence in this world is an invaluable gift.

@ShannonMarie_aguafiestasvlogs 3 года назад

Your videos are so peaceful and beautiful. Thank you for making them 💕

@AshleyLebedev 3 года назад

Same girl, SAME. I’m American he was Irish. Took me two years to get over it enough to just start to function in my life again. Inner confidence I think is really an inner compass. I found mine again one day. What I realized after several years of staying stuck is that I actually was perfectly beautiful and fine and always was. I lost nothing, he took nothing. I just forgot that when he did what he did. Realizing our own inherent value and being it and expressing is all we are really here for.

@sweetiebird3140 2 года назад

You’ve created a very special corner of the world for fellow introverts to meet. I love visiting here and so appreciate your efforts. ❤️

@johnimhof6568 2 года назад

I find your tapes to be very soothing. I suffer from severe psoriatic arthritis and stage 3 COPD and your outdoor scenes give me pleasant reminders of the times when I was able to do similar activities. Please continue to share your life and our connection as humans on our paths through life. John

@ashgarstin4307 3 года назад

My five year daughter has started asking if she can watch the movie about the girl in the woods. :) She is a sensitive child and I think she really responds to your quiet and beautiful videos.

@gabrielamaja9672 3 года назад

I love this!!!

@frithar 3 года назад

She might like an old movie from the '90s called The Secret of Roan Inish. It has a lot in common with this channel

@ashgarstin4307 3 года назад

@@frithar I've never heard of this film, but we will look in to it. Thank you!

@allrightallrightallright1919 3 года назад

Precious 😊

@juanpedro4083 3 года назад

No quiero tener hijos, el mundo no es fácil y todo indica que solo empeorará. Me sentiré culpable si traigo a una persona a este mundo.

@janjentz1053 3 года назад

I am certainly old enough to be your Grandmother; you my dear one, are wise beyond your years. I find each of your videos so beautifully filmed. Each one Give me peace, joy and so much enjoyment. I found this video of sharing past experiences very emotional. It makes me so happy you have found someone kind and gentle.

@theresalynngriffis4501 3 года назад

I am depressed and your videos are helping me to overcome the depression. Thank you.

@somerliwindsong803 3 года назад

I’ve often said ..I don’t understand the meaness in the world, and I don’t want to 🧡 .

@wingtrek8914 3 года назад

I'm an old guy. So don't take this the wrong way. I'm very happy to hear you have someone in your life. May your lives be bounteous and serene and filled with Love. I am happy for you.

@onepartwild 3 года назад

I've been there twice in my life with bad relationships. You are correct that a gentle, caring, trusting personality is a magnet to hurt, angry people that don't know how to love.

@kenyonbissett3512 3 года назад

They seem to want to absorb your life energy. Unfortunately they themselves are black holes of need.

@onepartwild 3 года назад

@@kenyonbissett3512 So true. They suck all the joy out of you.

@onepartwild 3 года назад

@The Rockall Times I didn't say it was mysterious to me. Considering how they seem able to turn it on and off at will, I don't find it mysterious at all. I have my own terms for that kind of behavior.

@PatriceMarieDobson 3 года назад

Your brother looks that is a lot of fun. So nice to see a very healthy relationship with your boyfriend. Blessings

@fz1792 3 года назад

In today's world I can hardly see some one being a s positive as you are Being in my late teens and the lack of understanding of how to be a an adult has already lowered my self confidence to a point where I have forgotten who I truly am but thanks to your videos I have started learning again who I truly am and what I want in my life. May be you'll never know but you're a great help to me in this period of self awareness for me. Lots of love ❤

@live_love_create1206 3 года назад

You are such a friendly, gentle and genuine human being. I think the world needs that kind of people to show up more often.Thank you. ❤

@juanpedro4083 3 года назад

No quiero tener hijos, el mundo no es fácil y todo indica que solo empeorará. Me sentiré culpable si traigo a una persona a este mundo.

@carmenn5609 3 года назад

Nice to have a brother with a sense of humor and doesn't mind looking/being silly. Good for him!

@abhaydubey1807 Год назад

Just tell me can something be more beautiful than this??💌

@TheOllieKee Год назад

Very relatable video. As a recovering person, who used to be very naive, trusting, believing in the best in people, too nice - I too have attracted people who took advantage of it throughout my life. I've only started to finally see this pattern so clearly well into my late 30s. In my early 40s now, I had to build a cautious backbone and I too still can't believe people would just be unkind and take advantage of kind souls. I will probably never understand it.

@ElizabethSampson 3 года назад

I love how you are teaching kindness, and unconditional love in the world!

@majeshna 2 года назад

I run from my stressful life into your harmony. This helps me so much. Sending my love and big hug from Croatia 🥰

@karunawoodroad1609 Год назад

You’re such a lovely being. So glad you exist. Your slow pace, calmness, ability to appreciate the beauty of nature, and to reinvent it in your wonderful way. Thank you for being kind, mindful, loving and making these videos.

@llawliet9753 3 года назад

Your voice is so soothing that I can literally fall asleep listening to you.

@paulaniclinseach8672 3 года назад

So soothing, I go into a trance just listening to her voice

@mieletea 3 года назад

This gave me so much hope. I just left an abusive relationship and feel like I don't ever want to brave the world of dating because of the existence of those toxic personalities. So thank you for saying that the possibility for genuine human connection is enough to try. You're so right.

@berthasbeauty 3 года назад

Each and everyone of your videos are little pieces of art, full of life and beauty. They bring joy and peace to my heart. ❤️

@koalafamily6934 3 года назад

I dearly wish that my children will remain close and connected with each other their whole lives as you and your siblings seem to. That relationship is so special.

@helenmcguinness6322 3 года назад

It’s so great to hear you laughing your head off at the end ‘outtakes’ Paola 😂😂😘

@xcherry.inkx1950 3 года назад

Dear Paola, I'm grateful for you. Thank you for your weekly upload, your kind and caring soul and your words of wisdom ✨

@squealypig717 3 года назад

Good comment 👍

@TheCottageFairy 3 года назад

Thank you very much ❤️

@AMothersNature 3 года назад

❤️That last shot of you sitting under the tree in the field- just before the fade to black when you started addressing the camera directly. That shot was so incredibly beautiful!! Amazing filmmaking! I also love the funny clip at the end- always nice to see some “behind the scenes” real life laughter!

@HLBear 3 года назад

You have learned very difficult lessons, and they have allowed you to grow into peace. Thank you for sharing your journey.

@RJ-oo3vf 3 года назад

These were my thoughts some time ago when I was alone with myself thinking about life: Life… Life is about sadness, learning from it and how to cope with it. Life is about joy and happiness, learning from it and share it. Life is about emotions, learning from it and deal with it. Life is about making mistakes, learning from it and move on with better knowledge. Life is about making decisions, learning from it and becoming better at it. Life is about caring for others, learning from it and being a better human being. Life is about ups and downs, learning from it, adapt and overcome. Life is about believing in yourself, learning from it and evolve. Life is about taking a moment to contemplate your life, why you live, how you live and how you can improve it… Enjoy your life while you can…, preferably with someone you love.

@adaylightdream 3 года назад

my eyes teared up, dearest Paola. thank you for your light.

@orangewarm1 3 года назад

I think you have it all: grace, strength, poetic talent, artistic talent, beauty, intelligence, humility. Plus you live in paradise and are happy with your work. You eat a lot of flowers. I live in London and I've never seen anyone eat flowers before, only my mum put dandelion in tea. You have a great voice, you could do a podcast.

@libbysworld7649 3 года назад

100% agree please do a podcast, oh my goodness!

@Evermore.Taylorswift. 3 года назад

So cute, the tree you were sitting under had a hole in it that kinda looked like a heart. Last clip was hilarious lmao ❤️

@jenjem5810 2 года назад

Forgiving abusers emboldens the cruel to trample. Forgiveness is granted, not demanded, to those who are repentant of doing harm.

@jessicahem4701 2 года назад

The clip of you eating your sandwich by the tree with your dog was extremely comforting. It felt very nostalgic- like a studio ghibly film. You're a beautiful storyteller. Sending so much love🤍

@meenakshitiwari126 3 года назад

I love when you said - Kind and gentle. Someone who can compliment you not control you💛. You are wonderful.

@vb7438 3 года назад

I agree, a wonderful desire and thing to find in a partner 😊

@auroreboreale6039 3 года назад

I agree too, wonderful ❣️

@clara-ln2gm Год назад

"I had to be brave and make my own decisions instead of letting someone else take over, I had to make peace with the body and mind and soul that was given to me. To let go of wishing things were different. To treat my mistakes with gentle understanding" -Paola This is a piece of poetry i'll copy down in my diary!! Really, one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard on youtube. Thank you for being yourself, you inspire others to be themselves too! 🤍

@ElleAshterra 3 года назад

You have such a beautiful, gentle and authentic soul, which comes through in your videos 🙏🏼🥰

@MS-bs8dd 3 года назад

Totally 💯💕❤️💫💛🌟

@theroaminggnomad 2 года назад

Don't give that power to other people. Own it. Who are they to judge and criticize anyway, flawed humans themselves who refuse to look inward but project their negativity onto others. Its usually out of pain or self-loathing that people hurt others. I agree with you, will never understand the unkindness but I know where it comes from at least. You are probably an INFJ Empath like myself. People love to hate those at peace because they themselves don't posess it. That's what I found in my growing up. The world needs more people like you. Shine on girl!

@starr6465 3 года назад

Everyone I believe has had bad experiences with negative people, as one matures we examine behaviors and learn not to repeat that hurtful experience again choosing to eliminate those kinds of people from our lives. It’s hard when your newly walking into the world as a grown up. So happy that you found a kind mate. You dog is Beautiful. Your channel is calming TUFS

@karinagrss 3 года назад

It is beyond my understanding how anyone can judge or see anything negative in your videos. Your beautiful videos and insights are truly a gift. I am grateful that you have the courage to put your videos out. I get so much from them and find them immeasurably valuable. Thank you.

@NatureFreak1127 3 года назад

Some people will hate you just for being content and happy.

@mcintoshpl 3 года назад

I was once told, "Any time you stick your head above the crowd, someone will throw tomatoes at it." You are doing a great service, there are people out there who need it.

@gailtester8749 3 года назад

Your videos are like a soothing balm. At 66 I still have much to learn from you and am inspired by your sweet and gentle nature. So happy to hear you have a kind and gentle man in your life. So do I....such a gift.

@pelof82 3 года назад

It's mindblowing how many women and people i know who have had a similar kind of relationship in their early adulthood (myself included)

@tubisa0234 3 года назад

Thats true i experience first hand

@pelof82 3 года назад

@The Rockall Times people in general

@kimkeck6266 3 года назад

Me too....mine last from age 18 to today June 1, 2021....the day that I said I am done fighting my ex- husband who has narcissist personality disorder to a T. People, INFJ'S, HSP, empathy please get educated and share the personality traits that once you know you will never forget! Also, know that abuse comes in many forms! If he would have just hit me once in 40 years that would have been it! The other forms of abuse can all be done so slowly that you don't even recognize it and they rob you of your joy! 🌺🙏😘❣

@jennydawson7411 3 года назад

Well done for moving on and learning from life's trials. My life were turned upside down after 36 years of marriage. Going through a divorce and losing your family home. But I am blessed to have 3 wonderful children and 3 grandkids. It takes time to figure it all out but there is still lots of joy in the simple things in life. Best wishes . 😘

@zzzendyaz4208 3 года назад

Your story gives me hope. I am a single mom raising my daughter. When I was young, I had a very naive and unrealistic view about marriage. I thought for a marriage to work I just had to swallow and suppressed myself... and it broke me within. Eventually I learned to leave a very emotionally abusive relationship and my ex-husband never made an effort to support or care for our only daughter. With the help of my family I have more or less moved on. Hearing other people's stories gives me quiet hope that eventually my life... hard as it may be at times... it will get better.

@zzzendyaz4208 3 года назад

Thank you for your story.

@lamar9331 3 года назад

Well said. And so true.

@gwencaster6485 3 года назад

@@zzzendyaz4208 I wish you the best of luck, your story sounds very tough, but it's a good thing that you managed to get out of that situation and your daughter still has her wonderful mother ! Best of luck, you can be proud of yourself!

@cherylwebb8340 3 года назад

God bless you ❤

@Annasdreaming 3 года назад

Omg this video is worth a month of therapy! I went through this many years ago and I wish I saw this video back then, it's soooo true 🥰

@arealowl 3 года назад

Your brother is an excellent cinematographer. This video felt like watching a big production film, and it was very nice. But I also think your videos with your iPhone turned out really well too, so I’m looking forward to seeing the result of your vision being supported by the increase of technical skills. I’m glad you’re happy with your new love now.

@jenniferbonynge5899 3 года назад

I find your openness refreshing and sincere. Sensitivity to all that is around us is an asset to my way of thinking...even if it leaves us a bit vulnerable. Love everything about your vlog!

@mrunalt7741 3 года назад

Dear Paula this video I got at the point where I actually broke up with my fiance. I did cry for a minute but aftr sometime I felt relief. Because I can't be controlled or humiliated for nothing. Aftr several chances I thought although I loved him but I can't lead a life with constant chaos. Thanks for uploading your story. Love from India

@janet-Spirit_of_the_Living_God 3 года назад

We would say you dodged a bullet. I'm so glad you had the insight and wisdom to say no to an unhealthy relationship that wouldn't value and support the person you and and want to become. May God show you a better way, and a better person in the future.

@dod2304 Год назад

I've learned to expect people, especially someone I'm romantically involved with, to "put their money where their mouth is". Meaning, All those nice words and apologies and promises to do better don't mean anything if they don't change. If everything still stays the same. And, think of this... your fiance was probably on his BEST behavior while you two were engaged! Imagine how bad it might have gotten after you were married!. Even if we realize a relationship isn't and will never give us what we want and need, it still hurts to end it. We mourn for the dreams we had for the future. Then we're grateful we realized the truth before it was too late. I think you needed to end that engagement because there is someone so much more wonderful and caring and kind waiting for you. I'm praying for that for you! Love and Light.

@debweissler7808 3 года назад

Blessings to you. I never knew a dandelion root was that big! Now I understand their success in my yard! 😳

@phoebeel 3 года назад

They can grow to 2 meters!

@bridget7890 3 года назад

you are very moving to me ,I don't know why ...tears are coming out...strange ...I am a very sensitive person and I cry easily .At church there is a lady which such an angelic voice that each time she leads the songs I cry in silence ...and everything I see from you, the way you care about details ,your apparent simple way of life ,your care for Mother Nature and all sentient beings ,your sweet voice...all is echoing so beautifully ,magically !.Be blessed for who you are and for what you share with us.Love and Light to your heart ,Bridget

@Tonggg123 3 месяца назад

The journey toward self-love and confidence can feel challenging at times, yet having someone who believes in you, with an unwavering foundation of love and respect, can make the healing process a little smoother.

@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933 3 года назад

Honey, you are an empath... a sensitive. This is who you are. Embrace it. I am age 70 and am looking backwards with just a bit of experience.

@colliecandle 3 года назад

i'm 71, and i approve your comment !

@DavidHatesNewYoutube 3 года назад

I completely understand, as a naturally timid, anxious person who has grown up in a household full of domestic abuse . Only within the last few years have I started to get my life back in order, and started to choose the people who give me the respect and care I give them over the ones who'd take advantage of my emotional vulnerabilities. I've come to an understanding and have forgiven those people to a certain extent, but I'm still wary of having them back in my life for now.

@dori9024 2 года назад

Some people don’t understand people who have a creative and intelligent mind. For example just to name a very few: Jane Austin, Ernest Hemingway, Michelle Basquiat were considered odd, but yet their creative contribution in the arts left a great legacy to literature and the arts. Don’t change you are perfect just the way you are.

@kathleenfrieden5948 3 года назад

You are a kind, gentle, and genuine spirit, and when we are not fitting the mold the world wants us to be, we need to protect the light others might try to put out. May peace and strength both lead you and follow you. Thank you for sharing. 🤗

@Hazelangel70 3 года назад

Your words always make me feel better , I don't why , but every time you speak it feels like you are comforting me

@thaohuyenCao 3 года назад

This is one of the rare times I wanna comment on a video on RU-vid, it’s because I see myself so much in what you said. I was vulnerable and being hurt so many times whenever I tried to be with people that I wanted to be with. And then I reached to the point that I lost all of my confidence because of my love life. I know self-love is hard but knowing I’m not alone in this journey really makes me feel better (even for a while). Thank you

@user-eb9tp9cb2w 3 года назад

This video helped me to realise that dandelions are my favorite flowers! Because when other plants are dying dandelion says: «I'm cracking the asphalt»

@kylielogan8771 3 года назад

Sunflowers too happy faces.

@cathy3951 Год назад

Unshakeable foundation of love, respect, and TRUST. We have to trust that our friend or companion knows we have their best interest at heart and that we wholeheartedly believe in them. Or else it gets exhausting trying to convince them otherwise and as you well said, makes us second guess what we're trying to do. You approached this subject with a gentle and wise heart. 🙏

@Cherie5353 3 года назад

I worked away from home and have spent a lot of time in hotel rooms and I really miss home and my happy things there. I retire today and I want you to know one of the things I can't wait to get home and see again are the beautiful art cards I ordered from you. They make me smile. You are truly gifted as an artist. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@mystikmusings5451 3 года назад

Not only is this amazing content, but also the energy in the comments is such a testament to the beautiful impact this channel is having. You have the gift of delivering very weighty solid messages with the lightness of a feather. I love everything about you & this channel.

@JB-pe2yn 3 года назад

I'm recovering and healing from a past relationship, currently learning to love myself & build a more peaceful life. You are an incredible inspiration ❤ Thank you for your beautiful videos!

@kruger2035 3 года назад

Thank you for sharing all these parts of your life with us. I work at a residential treatment facility for children facing crisis. Some days can be very difficult, emotionally and physically. Your voice, the music, the nature, and your demeanor make for a very peaceful and tranquil moment in an otherwise chaotic brain. Thank you.

@mayapapaya8925 3 года назад

I'm so happy for you that you have such a lovely person in your life now as opposed to the person who treated you horribly!

@bamagalforever 3 года назад

This will get lost in the comments, but... I'm going through a lot. Mentally. And, today, I'm going to the doctor to see what's going on. If it is what I think it is, then maybe they can put me on something for my happiness to last all the time. Your videos really help with my happiness, though. You're so inspiring!

@zo_muan_i 3 года назад

Good Luck to you 🍀

@bamagalforever 3 года назад

@@zo_muan_i thank you!!!

@neet7676 3 года назад

I hope that your doctor was helpful and you can see a path forwards that is positive. Wishing you health and happiness.

@emd5095 3 года назад

❤️🙏

@bamagalforever 3 года назад

@@neet7676 Thank you so very much! I went and saw the doctor last week and left with more answers than questions. I'm trying to get my life back to the way it ONCE was.

@carolyn888 3 года назад

As someone who comes from a broken family it's lovely to see someone doing well with the love and support of her family and significant other. I dream of someday being able to live somewhere surrounded by nature where I can go at my own pace. As an artist also struggling to gain confidence in myself again after so much trauma, your words are a balm to my heart. Thank you and be well

@janetcatalano8391 3 года назад

Love this video and your honesty about abuse from your earlier years. So helpful to many people who might be on the fence about distancing from someone who's being abusive to them. I hope your knee feels better soon.

@norikofurukawa6090 3 года назад

I wish there were multiple like buttons on youtube to send my appreciation for your video. Thank you so much as always for sharing your kind heart and artistic talent!

@tammyroyal7547 3 года назад

Loved this video. You & your boyfriend were so cute together!! And your brother so funny!! Don't ever let anybody break those beautiful fairy wings of yours!! You definitely add peace, beauty, & a hint of childhood whimsy to this world that is very much needed!! 💖

@orchid3457 2 года назад

You say that you are 24, yet speak like someone who had 50 or 60 years of experiences of life on this earth. Surely you are wiser beyond your age. I do appreciate you, fairy, If I had the same wisdom when I was younger, my life would have been converted into a better version. Thank you! Love from Sri Lanka!

@newdawn8488 3 года назад

We all have had experiences that made us question our value. Being able to accept that no one is perfect helps with forgiveness and with strengthening confidence. I love your videos.

@bridgetnielsen7379 3 года назад

“To not agree with things just to be agreeable”. This has been my biggest struggle/self learning in relationships. I always try to keep the peace. but I have learned the hard way that it is usually to my own detriment. I’ve learned that keeping the immediate peace by truncating yourself leads to bigger problems down the road. I’m in the middle of one of those now much bigger struggles. Working on voicing my truths and holding my boundaries. Thank you for sharing this. I felt the hopefulness of your story. I am glad you have someone now who is gentle and kind.

@Asmodea01 3 года назад

Your comment truly resonates with my own situation. I also tried to keep the peace, while the other person used this to his own advantage and as with you, led to bigger problems in the end. Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries, within reason, is more important than keeping quiet.

@itskristitea 3 года назад

Wishing you the warmest journey of putting yourself on the pedestal ✨❤️ have a great day

@delphinelisabeth 3 года назад

Totally understand "you'll stop missing them in time" .... never happens if you've grown up close-knit.

@210SAi 3 года назад

Never say never, time cannot be defined in her statement

@LauraP2501 3 года назад

I didn't forget ... and those are my best memories. 😌

@delphinelisabeth 3 года назад

In fact as I grow older I wish to spend even more time with them. To learn all I can. I think when you've had a loving family and a childhood where you got a glimpse of true unconditional love, you subconsciously long for that same thing in adult life. We want to map that setup, because it worked. The best thing in my opinion to do is to be kind with ourselves. We are on a journey to know more about ourselves.

@eyesofthegoddess2967 3 года назад

Fear never, never fear. You have a gentle soul, an old soul hence your sense of being old when you are so young. You are such a gentle being and love to listen and see you. Love from Canada.

@theresanania636 3 года назад

Paola, sound like you know which way u want to go in life now ! find happiness my girl and never forget u r so special, an artist with a beautiful soul and it shows n comes across the miles and touches my heart every time. A teacher who is teaching the world how to be good, blessings from suburbia.