Another woman here, 100% agree. It's sad how far men would push their bodies just to attract women when most of us is not even attracted to that. Media lies to them. They should watch media for women to see the female gaze like kpop, kdrama, shoujo ect. I don't even like all that chiselled jaw, hunter eyes, super muscular and crap, just turns me off and is repulsive.
As a male, I can only thank you together with the youtubers who talked about the female gaze VS the male gaze. It clarifies what women tend to like and how far you will go in your path to personal improvement. You don't need to become a gym rat to improve. Most of the male gaze, compared to the female gaze, is BS, included being hyper-masculine. I bet most women think that dudes like Andrew Tate are cringy (I agree with them).
As someone who dropped my muscle to attract more females, I can cornfirm. This happened during my college years. When I first got into campus (Freshman year was the biggest i ever was at around 80 kilos and carried between 15 to 20 percent bodyfat) I remember in my third year I decided to got a serious cut and as shredded as I possibly could. I dropped to 73 kilos and got as lean as I could. I then found myself getting more looks from the girls than the guys and this actually made me surprised that my smv went up. Long story short I pulled more girls with the smaller me than the big me did. Females dont drool over the super mascular dude. Just be lean, look strong, and have a muscular frame. The girls will pull up👌
This was the most hopeful and encouraging blackpill video I've ever seen, so refreshing. I was exactly in the situation you outlined, a 5-6 with a bad hair cut, chubby, awkward with no idea how to dress. Surprisingly I still attracted women (in real life, not dating apps lol, a charming personality does a lot guys), but now that I've put on a lot of muscle and am well put together, I'm getting girls left and right and my confidence is sky high.
@@Shom1715 I really think the "gotta be 10% bodyfat if you want to even remotely stand a chance in the dating scene" shit is horrendously overblown. I'm like 20% bodyfat and still have no issues attracting women, what really matters is the size of your arms and chest. That's what they're always commenting on when it comes to me.
as a girl... PLEASE dont worry about getting too big guys!! All the shots that were taking are with good lighting and a pump in. Dont hold back when it comes to masculinity, we love it!! (PS as long you natty, youre fine!)
Calisthenics falls short for leg training and the resistance falls short rather quickly, you'll have to get onto weighted calisthenics or gym training sooner or later because it starts to become a waste of time. Calisthenics alone can build some muscle that's beneficial for the physique of some lanky guys that are genetically prone to be lean. Oh, you aren't? Bad luck, you'll look like a DYEL with clothes and just a regular dude without them.
@@gabrielpirry it falls short for leg training? You mean you want big legs, so just say that. Bodyweight alone can create extremely powerful, functional, and aesthetic legs. Try uphill sprints, reverse Nordic curls and nordics, pistol squats, squats in general. You don’t need weights, unless you’re trying to really build massive legs. Resistance is resistance.
Glad I figured this out a super long time ago before even learning about RP. I could never understand how so many guys really thought getting extra bulky would attract girls
All facts, this is the only video from this channel I've seen and I have zero problems with it. Not the usual PUA bullshit trap that so many young men fall into. This is a real, practical, actionable reality check.
Back when I was a lot bigger and had much shorter hair I wasn't attracting women that much, still got more than the average but it was nothing to shout about. At one point because of stress, work and a break up I lost a lot of muscle mass and became a lot leaner, grew out my hair into pretty much a lion's mane because I was too lazy to cut it and the amount of women that started coming was mind boggling. I had inadvertently looks max without even knowing what was going on, I don't have to approach women anymore, they'd come to me or just find a way to get my attention.
@@localhost00 good thing i let my hair grow, I currently have the 'curtain' hairstyle and planning on growing it out more. But i do need to get lean, VERY lean
Realistic and yet encouraging video. I've always agreed that a man can add 2-3 points out of 10 to his appearance without going through drastic and expensive changes, simply by getting in good shape (lean physique with good muscle definition as you've mentioned) and improving your hygiene and wardrobe. Whether you're are 3/10 or a 7/10, the worst thing you can do is not doing anything at all and bitch about it all day. Getting dealt a bad hand doesn't guarantee that you lose the game, playing it poorly does.
Let's be honest. 99% of guys out there can train their asses off an still don't get the muscular overdeveloped bodybuilding look. This will just not happen natutally. Not to mention that you can't maintain low bodyfat percentage 24/7. Train like mad and get your nutrition on point, and you will get a nice muscular beachboy physique at best. But you will never look like Arnold. So don't be afraid to reach your natural limit.
Yeah most people will never have to worry about getting too big naturally for sure. But the mistake most men make is they don't realise that being lean is SOOO much more important for looks than adding muscle. So people bulk too hard thinking they need to be as big as possible to attract women when in all likeliness as soon as you get above 15% you start to become invisible to most women unless you have godly facial genetics. I'd also say from experience staying 10-12% is very easy with 0 negative effects, you need to get below 10% for an extended time to start worrying about sustainability.
@@berryvolcano3787 It depends. For example, I was very thin and needed to bulk. If you want muscles as a thin hard gainer like I was, you have to eat a lot.
And also being funny. I had several guys wanting me at the same time in hs. Only two I really considered, one was 6'2, athletic, light eyes, popular and squared jawed handsome. All my friends thought he was fine and that I should choose him. The other guy was average cute, medium physique and 5'9 and funny asf..I could laugh and talk to him all night. Guess what, we are celebrating our 24th anniversary this year.
@@yeatdagoat173 Nah I've seen some really cute guys working at barnes n' nobles. I used to crush on them when I was a teen. Status doesn't matter to everyone, I can testify to that.
This is a great video. I'd like to also see a video on male vs female gaze on women just to have a general idea 😊 these days the fitness industry is really pushing for women to look too lean 🤷♀
@@comkioxd not a good comparison. Both of them are technically male gaze. Female gaze for women is a lean body, like runaway models. Though Female gaze on women doesn't COMPLETELY rely on the woman's body, but modesty. Like Harely Quinn in the suicide squad (male gaze) vs in birds of prey(female gaze).
It can also depend on cultural preference too. As a woman of color, I've noticed in the AA and hispanic culture, men seemed to like women with fuller curves. What some other men would consider slim or a runway model's figure, they would call skinny. Different strokes for different folks.🤷
Don't forget that you can get from an average to an attractive looking face just by dropping some body fat %. When I'm bulking my face sometimes looks bloated and a little saggy. Easily makes me ugly if I slept face down on the pillow. When I'm lean (and have no pimples/scars on my face) I instantly become a better looking guy just by having more face definition and less "filler" between the aesthetic parts. Getting enough muscle proportionate to your skeleton size and maintaining that at 10%-12% BF is enough to look good. But we always feel like we don't have enough... I mean, I got shredded twice and I looked way better than I do now, but I still feel the need to bulk simply because my shoulder circumferece is still too narrow and I would love some more muscle.
That one example you showed of the guy who went from 18 to 38 was so sad to watch, was genuinely really good looking before the PEDs and Bulk and how has permanently ruined his looks forever.
This actually solid advice! And is an excellent alternative to relying on black nihilism or red pill rage. Doesn't hurt to also know what you strengths and weaknesses of face has like if you have a heart shaped head or triangle head. Never look down on yourself and keep your mental health up guys. As Zyzz used to say "We're all gonna make it bruvs!"
Not gonna lie bro, these videos are amazing and very well-put. The narration, editing, and basically all of it works tremendously well together. I can envision you becoming one of the dominant self-improvement channels in a few months to a few years give or take. You haven't even covered a fraction of the topics out there, so the sky is the limit. I'm a part-time freelance copywriter and I wanna help you grow. If you're interested let's work together, I see a lot of potential in your skills.
Girlie here, just do what makes you happy guys. If you want to get BIG big then who's stopping you? This is your journey, your life and about your happiness. If you're that worried about women thinking you're too muscular, just stay natty. The right girl will see you for who you are, and honestly, you won't find this person on dating apps. Stay positive friends, you're probably doing a lot better than you think you are.
Honestly the girls that come here and leave these pleasant comments are angels. You understand how these men feel and encourage them. I appreciate it, your a special person. I hope your living well.
I mean he's not wrong, every man out there will look better by being fitter, looking more aesthetic, dressing better and being more confident. Don't compete with others, compete with yourself
dude this is fucking spot on and ive been preaching this for years. Ive always been disrespected by guys for being more of a "pretty boy" and I have always had great muscle definition because I did sports and boxing but I have never been bulky. I was always "skinny buff". Im not even tall, just 5ft9 but i cannot fucking tell you how many times ive stolen a girl from a dude who from the male perspective should be way better than me but the girl liked me cause I was "pretty". The biggest experience that stands out to me was one time i was at a party and the girl i liked was hanging around this 6ft2 massive buff guy all night. I thought I had zero chance but then the day after the party she hit me up and said she wished shed been with me all night. She came over and we smashed. none of my boys believed me because from the male perspective the guy she was with was tall, buff and massive with a beard and I was average height, skinny and just a pretty boy but at the end of the day it's not about the male gaze.
Those same dudes are the type to think it’s ok to have a greasy-ass face and not do any type of grooming because “tHaTs WoMeN sHiT” even though their grandfathers and great-grandfathers had grooming standards.
My brother is 5’4 ginger and a receding hairline still in college and pretty smart has a cute girlfriend. My co worker is like legit 5’2 average face Mexican has a wife that’s a 6 with 5 kids of his own. I see pretty girls with average or even ugly looking guys before. This whole black pill movement makes you unattractive. Legit going outside and just talking will get you more results and obv still work on yourself but I promise it’s not that deep.
@@roadto1percent thats what I said in my comment, just videos like these promotes looks over everything which results in low confidence/self esteem. no one watches these and feels happier, they feel like shit.
Best guy I know with girls is like 5'9 and got some recessed jaw going on. He isn't ugly but he doesn't look like what the blackpillers say you have to look like. But he still slays because the dude is just so damn charismatic. He would routinely go home with the prettiest girl while the two other friends I have with classic good looks did not. Thanks to growing up with these guys and seeing it with my own eyes I have never taken the black pill too seriously
Mens bodys were built for hunting not weightlifting and thus women evolved to be attracted to that, the best physique for women to be attracted to is skin tight muscle, muscle that is very defined but dosent look like its got air under it. Combat sports athletes have very good physiques when it comes to attractiveness
@@roadto1percent I never said skinny, I mean lean muscle that dosent look ballooned up, the more functional and athletic your body looks the more attractive it is
shouldve mentioned that going on a bulk is generally not a bad thing. staying on a bulk is a bad thing for looksmaxing. if you bulk up to 20%+ bodyfat just make sure u cut in time too.
I’m starting to lean out from a weight loss journey (315-198lbs 6’1 22) and the female gaze is starting to be noticeable 240-210 nothing at all once I dropped under 205 I noticed girls starting to look a lot more and more likes on tinder which is cool and all but we ain’t done grinding boys 🗿
That's awesome to hear! I'm around the same height at 6ft2 and I'm currently 334lbs but I remember when I lost weight in the past once I got to 205-200lbs that's when the female looks starting coming in.
As an ex body builder and divorcee, just train for yourself and be a good human, whatever that means to you Any female that falls for you based on your physique is blinded by short term thinking. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news gym bros 😂
Nah. Thats only 1 part of the equation bro. Dont say that. Being a body builder doesnt gurantee you lotsa w0men, ive seen that. The female gaze is real but at least its better than being a loser
I would like to lift or practice calisthenics to build the body akin to an Ancient Warrior. I want the physique to fight and defend, women can wait 💪✝️
I'm really tall but I'd like my muscles to be kinda like Bruce Lee's (with maybe more body fat). I also wanna get into sprinting so I can't be too big if I wanna run fast.
Man speak to point, let me bring my experience. Before gym, I was fat and people will call me ugly and fat.. And in tinder.. I barely got any like but after I go to gym and gain muscle and lose weight, is not hard to get match.
This is the most informative 5 minute video i have ever seen on this topic omg. And you are literally so grounded in reality and not extreme on any side.
True, and I would also add Brad Pitt's physique in Troy or Fight Club. So I would say a good, well-trained and natural physique is what women absolutely like the most. Those pumped-up and huge physiques (besides the obsession they create in those who pursue them) frankly only appeal to frustrated men.
While I definitely agree, ive heard from some ppl that getting rlly big appeals to a certain niche and they go crazy over you. High quality video good style g
I disagree that average guy can become a chad through gym- or looksmaxxing. But the most important thing that blackpill community doesn't understand is that working out greatly improves psychological health
Nice vid! Just on a practical level, I think it makes sense to not waste time whining on forums about being unattractive. Either make the best of what you have, or give up dating and make the most of ones life with family and hobbies. May as well make the most of it and be happy in this life.
Best video I have seen yet male vs female gaze. Please do one about Mewing how mewing only works if you have a weak jawline already and if you are already wide faced or masculine it decreases attractiveness as not many people realise this and damage their facial appearance.
Exactly, some guys don't understand the female gaze. Looks are the top over height and body. Most women prefer lean athletic men over bulky, overly muscular men. If she were to pick, an attractive slim/lean man will be chosen over some average looking/ugly super muscular guy. They like the pretty boy/chad look more.
I swear that the male and female gaze is real. Back in my 20s I used to do the cut-bulk diet. When I was in my bulking phase, MOST praises I got were from men. When I was in my cutting phase, MOST praises I got were from women and gay men.
@@epaminon6196oh... I didn't expect that I already watched this video, wrote a comment and even have a reply. Anyhow, I want to add more details because I learned new things since I last wrote that comment. For some reason, right now where I'm in my mid-30s and I'm not shredded and also not big, the only compliments I get regarding my physique are from gay guys in 20s and 30s and older women who are 40 and above. So yeah, in case anyone out there wants to attract gay men in their 20s and 30s and women who are 40 and above just copy my current body physique 😅
funny, until now I thought I was the only one who had realized that. I tell my bros I've been lifting for 15 years, and they don't understand why I am not big.
Maybe I'm just not the type of audience for these kind of vids but I think comparing yourself to other people is not something that'll be productive for ya, I don't think putting your face/body on a self percieved beauty scale really does anything in the end. Being an authentic person to both yourself and the others is something that'll make you great friends and even romantic interests, the more time I spent understanding myself and straying from people pleasing the more life became clear and simpler with many benefits to reap in my interpersonal relationships.
Just some other tips, figure out the vertices of your face and sculp your facial hair along those vertices. Shaving should be an artistic ritualistic practice where you sculp out the ideal version of your face, with your facial hair emphasizing your facial expressions and making you easier to read, and thus more trustworthy and approachable.
I used to want to get big and bulky but honestly now I'm at a point where I just want people to be able to see I work out when I'm not shirtless and be leaner
I come from a culture where it is ultimately an "arranged marriage", no dating, no love, no heartbreak, no bs so Why tf should I care about "female gaze", I'm gonna continue pumping the iron and musclemaxxx 🏋🏻♂️ 💪🏻
I say this humbly, but he's right. I have been told all my life I'm a good looking guy & when I'm lean ,female's go crazy. Now I'm trying to get my peak physique to have the most options 😎
i am a 8/10 in looks but I am asian and always had a problem with women because I was too friendly and talkative which doesnt build any sexual tension or attraction. I stopped talking and have improved my eyecontact to be strong not just when looking at womens eyes but everything. I started studying so I can change career but it shows im ambition and driven which helped unbelievably. I am drowning in 8/10s-10/10s now i cannot even fathom girls asking me on dates and to live with them.
Dude that’s bs I’m talkative and friendly af to the point my gf thought I was a little bit gay and I still pull easily. Nothing to do with that. Ofc there are women that don’t like that. I’m calling cap on the last part lmao
@@RizZRizZ- honest man nothing to lie about. Seem to be calling cap on everything just because its different to your situation. Like you said different girls like different things but all i know is I have them lining up doing what seems to be optimal for myself. People also think im gay and i have been called feminine many times on appearance but not personality
I always thought I was trippin when i walked into the gym and chicks would seemingly be checking me out despite being around a bunch of dude literally twice my size. Even chicks that were with dudes(in my mind) better looking than me would take peeks or glances to the point where their man would stand in front to block their view. This just gave me the confidence to continue just working on my strength and not need to get that big. Ill still try to get to 170bw maybe.
Even guys who are genetically good looking cannot afford to be over 18 percent bodyfat. Especially if that person is like 20+ percent bodyfat with very little muscle. For guys who have a good base, genetically, but are high body fat and low muscle mass. Then, being lean + muscle is going to be life changing. Also, while an unlooksmaxxed HTN face will beat out a MTN face. If the HTN face is out of shape, skinny fat, no sex appeal, then the MTN with high sex appeal will have the edge. Espefially if HTN + autism + low appeal.
Do you really think the biggest & best bodybuilders care how women perceive them? Or how anyone perceives them for that matter? There comes a point when it just doesn't matter because the goal isn't to attract women but win a show. The five most dangerous words in the English Dictionary is "What will other people think?"
My man, this was a phenomenal video. A shotgun round of truth very few wanna hear. Don't wanna say too much, but I the message and your content. Here before 5K subs.
You don't listen about looksmaxxing to other men, lol. I remember getting a buzz cut because all of guys i knew told me i would look much better and get more girls instead have a pretty boy look... You can guess what happened, yes, all the guys told me i looked better, but you know what? The girls that told me i'm cute and attractive, told me i'm not that cute anymore, one girl told me i look better with a buzz cut and she was a lesbian that acted too masculine, lol.
depends on niche you fall into. if you have pretty boy look, it won’t look that good but if you have full on masculine facial features, it would look good
Hey guys, if you are going to the gym and building your physique to impress or get girls you shouldn't be. You are supposed to do these things for yourself and reach your goals, not the standards of random people. Focus on reaching your dreams, become a beacon of positivity and joy and the girls will come to you and all the men will look up to you
Am I the only one who gets the audio cut out at 3:30 - 3:53? Aside from that I hella agree with your video, and it tells the necessary truth when it comes to maxing looks
Really good video brotha! And spot on too. I think the age thing differences itself among each indiivdual though. But definitely "weight gain" will casue you to look older and somewhat lethargic too! Keep up the good work brotha!
that’s rare, only high tier pretty boys can di that (high tier pretty boys are really rare). i don’t think chads can do that. most chads hit the gym as they look weird without muscles. below high-tier pretty boys only smash average or below average looking women. studies show girls who view themselves attractive are into masculine guys so into chads or hypermasculine guys with 6-8 rating. your defenition of ‘hot’ girls might be different tho.
@@qasimimtiaz9668 I would agree that attractive women are into chads and kinda masculine/ fit men, but I dont think they are into hypermasculine men. These are the type of women who either have mental issues or their personality is of that kind that you would not want to have her as a woman. Obviously cant generalize it for all, but this tendency is rather high. Smart women prefer men who are fit and do have some feminine traits as well, but obviously DO NOT act feminine AT ALL.
I'm not "too big" by any stretch (5'7'', 150 lbs). I used to do the Polish truck driver buzzcut, but now I grow it longer and use pomade, so I have upgraded to the Turkish immigrant fade. I mainly work out for asceticism. It just feels good and lets me shut off my brain. The biggest thing holding me back from super low body fat is probably alcohol, so instead it's like 12%, enough for abs, but not enough to be like the fighter Khabib.
0:52. 71kg to 100kg That’s a massive difference between the two. He’s also short so the weight difference is accentuated. I’m 97kg right around 6’0. (Like 5’11 and 1/2-3/4 stfu)
Moral: Get as big as you possibly can while staying natty, never try gear Never get a buzz cut Never grow your facial hair too long, keep it nice & neat
'You are competing against locals' is the very best way to explain this. Because we AREN'T chads or tyrones, we aren't playing at their level. They have no reason to shoot down, when they can score much higher, much easier.
I think it's the unnatural looking physiques that women are turned off by. Which are commonly caused by a steriods use. I.e. thick neck and Traps, freaky forearms, and oversized quads. People who use steroids facial structure even changes. Look at Barry bonds over the years. As long as you train naturally, you want have this problem. Also women like stocky guys as well. I never knew until I got heavier. For a long time I was depressed about gaining so much weight until I realized it's just a different look. Confidence matters the most though.
@@rodplays3726 If you're 6'4 you can get girls, even if you're ugly. Get a haircut, take gym more seriously, and if you can grow a beard grow it out. I have seen many girls say they would rather go out with a ugly guy who is 6'+ instead of a good looking guy under 5'5.
I’ve never got really buff before but I have grown out a grizzly beard before and I did only get complements from men. I asked a girl for an honest opinion and she said it made me look too old for my age.
Guys, work out for yourself, do it to set pr’s and better your health. I’ve gotten pretty lean from an avid running habit, diet with weights & calisthenics and let me tell you I’m even more invisible to the opposite sex, especially on dating apps, and social media. Granted, I am by no means a massive guy, but I think you should find something you’re passionate about, and maybe you’ll find someone who actually enjoys your company. Anyway, don’t fall into the virtual dating, red pilled world of self degradation and conformity.
