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I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
True it can be hard for an heterosexual relationship to function well. Men and women are so different, nevertheless they can also find many similarities, their differences and capacity to learn from one another and cherish their differences can make a couple last long. They can grow together and see the world differently, an example is that men can learn to be more patient, while women can learn to say what they think more often. Though these characteristics can be developed without being in a relationship. We tend to bound from experience, goals, values, attraction, principles and character. Everything that you have said can describe a women, but it is not merely what a women is every time, I myself have some masculine traits, I like to be alone, I don’t enjoy physical touch that much, i don’t express my emotions that much, though I am a female, we have different shades to ourselves, since we are humans after all. Men can also have feminine traits, such as intuition or emotional expression, while still being males, since they also have different shades to themselves for being human. In the end it tend to be more about the person’s character, some don’t like to go out of their comfort zone or get hurt a lot, they want maturity, therefore will go with women as women. Due to past relationships with males, finding other lesbian women more masculine, society, abuse. Or it also depends on physical attraction(doesn’t mean that it should matter more than true connection). Some like a rather sharp and logical relationship, why some men might like other men. It can also be due to only pure attraction, sometimes society, abuse or growing up with an single mother.
Not sure women are "more compassionate, etc..." all these traits you bring up in women as a positive, may not be a positive, I know blasphemous. But, if you are able to escape being female the gender and its mind. As seen by men, to emote about your emotions for the day, for the hour for the 15 min, just to repeat that the next day, and so on and so on, seems wasteful. It is this compulsion to emote to a female friend, who then takes her turn to emote. This process goes on for decades till death. In the end what did you accomplish besides placating and craddling your delicate emotions. Men see emotions as ephemeral, changes minute to minute, hour to hour, that lacks authenticity. Maybe you should try to understand the male brain. Seems man having a better understanding of the female brain and its addiction to emotions and feeling the feelings.
