I am a Muslim from Canada and everything Mr. Gungor said here is exactly what we believe to. It's tough living in a secular culture where I've always felt self-conscious explaining my beliefs to others as I feel it comes across to them as too conservative. So it's really nice to see that we as Muslims aren't alone when it comes to beliefs regarding marriage and relationships!
Appreciate this comment. Thank you for sharing this because I aways feel so judged for my beliefs on marriage...especially my views on what I'm called to be as a wife. I'm treated as a traitor to the entire female population.
I’m finding that the closer I live to the Ten Commandments handed down by Yehovah to Moses the better my life is. It’s difficult to find a woman who believes the same. Yeshua said do not follow the takkanot of men, but he still followed the ten handed down from above on my Sinai.
Your religion has some truth in it, a good lie is 90% true and 10% false. Because of your religion not accepting Jesus as God in the flesh and our Saviour, means you are on your way to hell. What does it profit a man if he has a good marriage, but loses his soul?
We should go back to courting. Dating is nothing more than dinner, maybe a movie, then sleeping together. God is dealing with me on stuff right now and I don’t even have the energy to date. I have to work on my own stuff right now. I thank God for that revelation.
Dating doesn't imply sex. Hooking up/shacking up/ect involves sex. Courting, by tradition and convention is a very tightly controlled practice that came in a time where the concept of marriage was more a social contract than a vessel of intimacy that the Bible describes marriage as. Ultimately the only measurable difference between dating and courting in today day and age is semantics, which shadows and hides the real problems that exist today in the realm of dating, marriage, and sex
@@isaachousley325 honestly in this day and age it kinda does. That's why whenever I talk with peers and the conversation goes there, I always make clear what I define as dating. And what my absolute don'ts are or like boundaries. Because I realize my christian values (and even non-christian ig but conservative or just different values from the norm) are gonna make it difficult to find someone who doesn't expect sex and favors.
SuperKathio she has no need for that. From the name I am assuming she is Muslim and everything Mark says in the video is also in agreement with Muslim faith. So why consider changing religion?
@@beulahsaid1059 Jesus (peace be upon him) was the messenger and prophet sent by God just like many other prophets like Moses, Abraham etc. And Muhammad (PBUH) being the last and final messenger of God was sent with The Holy Quran. This book is for all of humanity that tells us to follow only Quran and Sunnah (teachings of prophet Muhammad pbuh) and thus this only is the right path.. May Allah guide us all. Ameen
Farben Froh In Islam our sins can only be forgiven by Allah (God), no other. Jesus for us , is only a prophet sent by God to guide the people, nothing more.
Wow. Am glad I've watched this. Thank you Lord. I wish I had listened to this while in my teens. Am now 29. But I thank God that I have listened to this.
This is sound advice. Wish I would have had it many moons ago, but am so happy to hear it even now. Very helpful. It is my hope that these young people are really listening and taking in this valuable information.
If he is an ex-murderer....garl move on, Bible never talks about finding your soulmate Wow i love this sermon...the principles of Christianity once followed would be enough to get any two christians along with each other.
God has a plan for each person, and that includes a spouse. The Bible says in ALL your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. I see no exception to finding a spouse in that.
his plan for us is to make disciples, make relationships. it is the only thing we bring to heaven! no-one is physically married in heaven, but we keep those relationships.
Exactly But does not mean God has chosen just one person for you to live with God has specified the qualities of the person you're supposed to be with in his word He hasn't chosen an Angela or Emelia who lives in your city with a dog and has a job in the convenience store for you to marry No
@@amakie925 So you're saying that we shouldn't look to God for guidance in that? You're saying that we should follow our own will instead of God's will?
@@Mato1970 God has a will sure but He guides according to His will. But according God's will to one particular person isn't advisable. You don't have a soulmate. Like Pastor Mark said it isn't biblical. Picking one particular person and saying God chose the person for you isn't biblical either. God will give you a criteria and lead you to one who fits it when you're already walking in your purpose which is God's will first and foremost. I'm saying that God will not tell you that the woman He has picked is 6ft. tall and fair with a dog called spike who lives in Atlanta and works at Wal-Mart. That's what I'm saying God will not do. He never did it in the bible and he never will. He will guide sure but it's unlikely that God has created a particular person with specific DNA waiting for you. That isn't biblical. I hope you understand me now
@@amakie925 I have heard testimonies that state otherwise. These people though are doing mighty things for God. They also have a measure of faith that would appear to be strange to many Christians living in the United States. or example, there is a woman named Heidi Baker. She was and still is all in for God. In college she had been engaged to a man. They truly loved each other. The Lord told her to cut off the engagement. She was devastated. The Lord one day told her the name of her husband. They later married and now that have an empire. They have been serving the poor and the rich. They are both authors of I don't know how many books. I have traveled all over the world, saving lives. I would look at God paring Esther and her king. God knew what he was doing when he put Hadasa (later Esther) in the palace. I also believe that God knew who Isaac was going to marry when he led Abraham's servant to him. He knew that she was the one who was going to be chosen. To me it's more than finding a good Christian who one can laugh with. To me its about love but also purpose and creating a legacy. There are plenty of stories where God directed someone to a specific individual and they have a fruitful marriage. Do I think that he allows some to choose? Yes, God is not cookie cutter, but I also believe for some who he chooses a spouse for they gave God a big yes and trusted him.
Thank you! Love it! Thank you. I met a young man few years ago who was simply terrible. I mean, terrible. It never matter how kind I was to him, everythin I did or said was a trigger for an indirect insult or somethin demeaning. Well, I learned from his other video to quit talkin about the past in order to truly forgive. I appreciate that as well. In light of the topic, I thought about how this young man excuse was he was only twenty five, which according to him should excuse his behaviors. Aka he was too young then to know better. Well, I was also twenty five. I guess two dummies, huh? Imagine twenty five years old! I’ve a bro almost like that. Going on twenty six and still actin as if he’d turned twelve: expects me to take full financial responsibility of the apt he lives with me. I had to put my foot down and say, ‘young man I need you to get a job; get serious. Help.’ About tht young man, I am only glad I never engaged in anything physical with him but mane I which I’d valued myself then to simply quickly walked away. My goodness. I used to wondered who raised him. Anyways, enough of the past because it’s boring to talk about. I wish every young man and woman would watch this video. And get the message because what is going on in our so called modern day world of delay ‘maturity’ is atrocious. I’ve seen men as old as fifty or forty something tk about they’re ready to settle or they’re lookin for the ‘one.’ I let them know to keep lookin. She might show up as late as eighty years old
I dated a bunch of fools who were not meant for me. I always said I wanted a man who was like my Dad, who was a very honourable and kind and hard working and a selfless person who loved others more than himself. He was faithful and committed to my mother and our family right up to the day he passed. It took me 44 years to find my SO. My blinders came off and there he was. The man who I had been looking for. He loves Jesus and loves me. I am so blessed. He has all the characteristics that I was looking for and ones I didn't know I needed. Thank you Lord!
They say it takes a village to raise a child. But in reality it takes a village to marry off a girl to a proper guy, so that that child can be born in the first place. With all due respect to Mark Gungor, these talks should be geared to primarily the parents.. most all the successful marriages I know were guided by their elders, not the individuals who were dating ea other. You're also clearly what, most of us older single women, wish our father was like in teaching us the truth about boys (& how they're wired). Yet, based on the unfortunate new era we've created in society, (of live and let live), it seems that obsessing to find a mate is a fruitless task, and we should rather direct our attention better on being the best sons & daughters of God we can be. And hence celebrate the blessing of the state of life God is currently giving us, to grow & be a blessing to society. Because ultimately, to need to find a mate in order to contribute to society is a waste of energy that can be utilized for serving our communities. The intense attention by our sexual nature, Hollywood, & talks about how to find a mate like this, keeps us focused on the dating merry-go-round. W/ all due respect, there's few if any talks on how to celebrate & optimize whatever current state we find ourselves in, as beloved sons & daughters of God, as fully worthy contributors to a healthy society.
Thank You So So very much ...i was enjoying it and laughed so hard , the thing that impacted me was the reset button , second chances , Your Amazing At What You Do , You Do It Well . well i m single and going to watch the dating video , GOD BLESS YOU ...💫
It's incredible how, while many are struggling to just eek out a decent existence around the globe, here I am wanting to find a love that lasts a lifetime, to build a family. Don't we all want stability and what's right and good in life? Why do we always want the best? Humanity always chasing dreams, and sometimes catching them, like the men who invented flight. I'm determined to dream on and pray in hopes that maybe, maybe~ Btw, with your ending about marrying earlier: my grandmother had nine children, and the ones with successful happy marriages were those who married in their late 20s and early 30s. The others who married super young are divorced. Might want to see if all those values took yet in that other person, and I feel time is a pretty good revealer of that. I'm sure there's exceptions, and also times were different back then. Different times call for different measures.
That's silly. Do you really want a first date to be a marriage interview? I don't. You can't just walk into a serious relationship right away, it has to start somewhere. A great way to kill a budding relationship is to start putting marital expectations on it.
mingming Yang: Agree. Nearly every girl is looking for something meaningful and long term. She is looking for her hero. Sure it’s fun for the guy, he has nothing to lose. He is getting satiated & satisfied. Men “having fun” creates embittered & disappointed women. Women need to learn to not emotionally invest right away...men have to first earn our love & prove their intentions.
If you're hanging out with a great person, dating often is fun. But there should always be the running question, "At some point in the future, could I marry this person?" At the beginning the answer will be, "Possibly, I don't really know yet." If you've been dating for a while and its still "I don't know yet", figure out WHY you don't know yet. And if the answer ever is, "marriage to this person is a bad idea," then dating after this is also a bad idea.
I accepted Jesus at 14 and for the next 16 years I had an on again; off again walk. I had issues from growing up in a house with extreme child and spousal, from a parent with narcissistic personality disorder and who went from irritated to a blind rage in seconds. My sister has it too. They are/were sociopaths. I inherited that temper, and because I felt worthless and blamed myself for their problems I engaged in self destructive risk taking behavior. It took me until I was in my mid-30's to get control of my temper. But I married a NPD woman.. She repeatedly demanded a divorce after I turned my life over to Jesus for good. Jesus did change me, but it was a process, which took years. And that temper is still there, but I avoid the things that trigger it, and keep it from getting to the point where the temper controls me. But it took years of self discipline and God's help. No woman can change a man unless; 1. He wants to change. 2. It isn't something hard wired in. 3. they don't try to control and dominate him. 4. She doesn't expect him to be just like a woman internally. AND 4 out of 5 women want 2 or more of those things when they say, "I can change him."
This was an amazing video that has re-energized me to be happier than ever. I have been divorced once & widowed twice. God is my focus & I pray before everything. You have made my day with this info & I have shared it to all my family & friends. God bless you & continue to give you strength & knowledge to share with us all.
Thank you Mark Gungor!! This is so good to hear! I am watching this because I wanted yo gollow the oattern of Christ. I know what not to do but I wanted to know more what TO do! Thank you!!
All of this makes so much sense to me and it baffles me that people do the things he's saying not to! I see so many people do this stuff, and I don't see how they don't realize why things keep going wrong for them. It's crazy!
Boy this issue really opens up a Pandora’s box. Hard lessons I’ve had to learn. Thankfully we are in transition out of the Jezebel feminist spirit so pervasive on women these days. The main thing I see in dating is the lack of balance. People who try to Christianse their way out of issues that are emotional and mentally based, that a true therapist can fix. And those who don’t spend enough time on the word asking God for his direction. You have to be a whole person in order to attract a whole person. Be emotionally open, present and available so you can attract the same. You attract who and what you are, bottom line. I’m waiting until marriage for sex, even kissing. I’m doing it the Lords way going forward.
So good. I excepted Jesus 10 years ago. And now just starting to heal, recovering from drugs and alchol, and not in a relationship. I am more focused on myself. But hope to one day have a good christian man in my life.
The bible used the term "yolked" for a reason if one of the animals pulling a wagon is slacking off the other animal with slowly but surely tear it's body apart and kill itself pulling more weight than it was meant to carry so please please please don't hitch yourself up to a weak ox on purpose cus you think you can fix them
Whatever he preaches is EXACTLY what I have always practised. God bless I have a happy n blessed life. Everyday is so beautiful for me n my family. PREVENTION is better than CURE 😊
I laughed at completely different things than the audience. And yeah, I'm dating for a few months, I'm starting to see it as serious... This helped so much! :)
raqeeba shayista I agree with you everything he says is Islamic laws and Sunnah’s of how to find a spouse give to us 1400years ago by our prophet peace be upon him. It’s like he picked up the Quran and went step by step
Except for the twisted stories of prophets David and Solomon peace be upon them.... read their true stories in the Quran; it is respectful and descent as is supposed to be for God prophets...
Yet Islam teaches polygamy, Muhamed had severel wives, including a child, and sharia is quite anti-woman. I would never marry a man who saw Muhamed as a role model or who accepted sharia law as God-willed. Integrity and character are so important. Jesus is the only perfect Person. And He is the only one who sets free and purifies man's heart.
He is really what is needed....valid biblical guidance in dating and marriage through comedy - but someone really good at it, if not the Tiger Woods of this space. I've been watching him for nearly 10 years.
I’m getting ready to go on my first date in many many years. Don’t even know how to start.... I just want my friend that I really like to be a buddy, go fishing, hiking.... We are both Christians! It’s his character that attracts me to him.
He says very wise things. You want a mature Christian not a newby Christian. They don't have any maturity in Christ and that makes the difference not their age. God has work to do in this person's life before you are able to really see who they're becoming. You need to be able to trust that for better or worse is something they are able capable dealing with. Children trust you are taking care of them. Meaning you had forethought about this person and seeing if capable of being a parent- being loving, good provider, homemaker, raising children in a godly manner.
I do personally feel like God will put someone in your life if you stay true to him. I’ve been celibate for a year now and I would pray to God for a God fearing loving man that was like me that could be my husband. People would come up to me and tell me that one day god will bless me with a husband and I hadn’t said anything to them. I took care of my mom who recently passed away and 3 days later I got a text from a old high school friend. He’s exactly what I’d prayed for in my opinion. We share similarities in many ways and though I haven’t seen in him a couple of years, just by our somewhat daily talks, he’s opened about his past, his truth, and who he is yet he’s flawed and has a interesting past. Would I married him to him as time goes, but so far he’s cool.
So he says not to marry after dating for just 7 months...how long did he date DeAnna? His first wife died in December 2017, and he married DeAnna sometime in 2018...
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Forget dinner. Ladies rule the outcome of a meeting. Meet for coffee & dessert, comfy clothes and talk. You know within an hour if you want to see this person again or not. Cheers! PS. I was engaged 16 months and didn't live with him before marriage. Wedding night horrors!
Love is NOT blind. Use your brains to check about their CHARACTER, how many ppl have they dated or slept with😝👎, about their health, their education level, family background amongst other things.
Thank you Ps.Mark.....for along time av always wanted to be there for people and just couldnt value myself and felt stepped on by everyone around me....i always thought i have a problem..yes i did because i just didnt value myself.But thank you for hitting out this stupid belief in me. am worthy and am gonna value myself.
Don't judge people on their past...this is highly unfair. Having crazy family does not mean that you are marrying someone who is going to be crazy to you...this is stupid reasoning
Cheryl G past behavior is best predictor of future behavior. If they’ve not been changed for a minimum of 6 months, likelihood is theyre still the same person who did those thing. As for the family thing... as he said, even if SO is sane, you’ll still at least have to deal with their family. And if they spend a lot of time with their crazy family then 99% likelihood they are crazy too. You dont spend time with crazy people and not go crazy yourself.
I have to disagree with you. I found my soul mate and we were together for over 30 years when he passed away. I had the forever kind of love that most people search for but never find.
Thats Good to hear yoyr story. Id like to add...the fact that you were together till death did u apart, is no evidence that soulmates exist. Like the Pastor said, the two of you may have lived unselfish towards each other. And work for the best interest of your marriage.
@@007unity There do exist soul or spirit mates...that God chose long ago for me even before i was born...I Do know....You can tell who they are to you when you found them just as Matthew realized who Jesus is when he first saw Him...
@@sweet-ju6hx You will need to provide sufficient bible evidence to support that. These soulmate ideas come from greek mythology. The god Zeus curse mankind to search his whole life for his soulmate.
I absolutely adore any love story that feels the way you have felt and I wish that for everyone! However, the fact that it is so rare to find someone like that, and a relationship like that both was such a blessing for you but also evidence that we don’t have soulmates given by God, otherwise what does that mean for everyone who hasn’t found theirs? And what would that mean for the idea of God’s plan being sovereign.
@@realtalktina why shouldn't I? No one will understand what I say here in Russian and I still don't know Bulgarian) Yes, I understand what he says in the video, but my eyes are still drawn to familiar letter shapes and my mind tries to decode them unconsciously.
What has this all to do with beeing a Christian? This is logical thinking! like people can't think for themselves without a god? Even without the Christian thing he's got a point! it's great!
you have to pray ask god send you somebody's single not marry you dont want what someone else has you want yours own not nobody else husband or wife or there spouse
It seems young men these days care more about climbing mountains then to settle down with a young lady, marrying her and having a family. This is what I am observing these days. Very sad.
The right girl with the right guy will take you just as you are. That is true love. Women will not accept abuse whether it be verbally or physically. Nor will they accept flirting or cheating with other women. If the woman won't accept you as you are, then she isn't the one for you. Same thing for women. If a man won't accept you as you are, then move on, cause he ain't the one! All work and no play (time together), makes for a dull day :) Blessings to you!
When I react, I get emotionally overwhelmed and either start crying uncontrollably or withdraw and hide away from people until I have figured out how to deal with the problem rationally. What does that say about me?
@@xxxxxxxx8903 thank you for your response! I do practice, using techniques that my therapist has taught me, but the improvement is slow. I'm doing better with learning to communicate effectively, though, and part of that is staying calm and present. Today I had some very challenging situations where I had to communicate with a hostile and unreasonable person, and it went well on my end and I didn't break down in tears, although I wanted to. I am learning not to put so much emphasis on vindicating myself (because she will hate me and believe I'm a bad person no matter what I say), and more on handling the situation calmly and maturely without backing down and letting her walk all over me.
@@olivest509 I think that's a very good answer to your first question. "What does it say about me... That I put time and effort into practice so that I will be able to handle situations calmly and maturely without backing down and letting other people walk all over me?"
My last boyfriend acted this way. He could not have relationship. He was abusive I'm every way. He could not communicate. He got very overwhelmed all the time. Needed his video games to calm down. But he was autistic. The most difficult experience of my life. Just sharing.
