Marriage Counseling Tips and advice | Question 2: How Do I Become A Priority For My Spouse?

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Every single one of us wants to feel special & valued. One of the biggest complaints I get while doing marriage counseling is that people don’t feel like they are a priority for their spouse. When a person feels unimportant then they stop striving. Many people ask: How do you become a priority for your spouse?
Watch as Sr. Haleh explains ways to bring about positive change in your marriage by doing the things you want more of in your relationship. Take initiative and make your spouse feel like a priority in order for them to make you a priority.
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About Haleh Banani, M.A. Clinical Psychology and Faith-Based Counselor
As a Muslim mental health professional, Haleh Banani has practiced Islamically-integrated counseling since 1998 helping thousands of Muslim families worldwide in crisis situations overcome emotional and relationship obstacles by empowering them with proven, psychological methods she’s developed within the Quran and sunnah.
A faith-based mental health professional, mental health advocate, host of her own T.V. show ‘With Haleh’ appearing on Al-Jazeerah and Huda TV (call in expert) with Sheikh Mohammad Salah. An international speaker and writer fueled with the passion to spread optimism, revolutionize Islamic characteristics with the aim to strengthen the family unit and improve the overall quality of the Muslim household.
She has a thriving private practice with a two month wait masha’Allah. She has gained a stellar reputation for achieving amazing results by using fast and effective methods that restore relationships, save marriages, build strong families, heal emotions and rebuild self-esteem.
Founder of several online programs:
1. 5 Pillars of Marriage (a self-paced, online program which has saved hundreds of marriages alhamdulillah) www.5pillarsofmarriage.com
2. Laugh and Learn (premarital program with comedian Baba Ali) courses.halehb...
Global Support Group for Sisters: The Mindful Hearts Academy themindfulhear...
Website: www.halehbanani.com
She’s very grateful for receiving her ijaza for the recitation of the Quran in Egypt alhamdulillah in 2012. Her biggest accomplishment is being happily married masha’Allah tabarakAllah for 24 years with her best friend Abdelmajeed Muriby and raising 3 amazing children mashaAllah Amir, Kareem and Layla ages 21, 18 & 16. Her and her husband have raised exemplary children who are carrying on the mission to contribute to the community by giving khutbahs, teaching Quran classes and being business owners masha’Allah tabarakAllah.
Her work has been endorsed by Dr. Omar Suleiman, Dr. Yasir Qadhi, Mufti Menk, Dr. Waleed Basyouni, Sh. Mohammad Salah and many more faith-leaders, psychiatrists and mental health professionals. Alhamdullilah

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@nivep8686 8 лет назад

Alhamdulillah. I did not know so many others were in similar situations. Unfortunately 3 years of making hubby a top priority has resulted in the complete opposite for me. I looked back few months ago and realised how much of my time i had put into trying to make marriage work. if someone is self centred, stubborn or cannot see outside their own issues then much less to zero success. I dint give up easily but realised I will never be a priority, didnt take long before silence and withdrawal occured (in which case the other should have realised something is wrong 😔) but nothing....so it all falls apart😟. Difficult to stay positive sis. I sincerely hope these sessions continue to provide benefit to those in need In sha Allah

@hananbellaismail9254 7 лет назад

Nive P this is very true. Seen this with my parents marriage

@yasminebahemia8486 6 лет назад

True

@nazeemahpretorius4615 2 года назад

I have experienced the same, may Allah grant us spouses who appreciate our efforts, and who will be a covering for us, and be the coolness of our eyes, in sha Allah, Ameen

@Ela-mj5bc 2 года назад

Especially if they are narcistics.

@snigdhashondhani7364 7 лет назад

My husband doesnt want me to do anything excluding household chores. But it was my passion to do business obviously after maintaining my family. But the problem is when i do anything excluding household chores like sewing a dress for sell, my husband thinks im not giving concentration on my family works and doing the outside job.

@Jorjina.hayatt 5 лет назад

The advice in the video must be good for some people but a lot of men have been raised in a way that they just like being porioritized & pampered and do not have in them to value the other person the same way, its so very frustrating to live with such a person for a long time.

@silmaifthikhar 4 года назад

Absolutely. What if one is always giving priority and yet he takes it for granted and still doesn’t show priority?

@abutaslimahasan9136 4 года назад

@@silmaifthikhar What happens when its the wife, no one thinks like tht, if the husband gives gives and gives yet gets a wife tht is distant due to past arguments ans fighting yet not let go and says spitful things what then??????? Women think its always husband fault, yes I have been pampered and look after by my mum before marriage but in the realtionship I give & And give yet still seen as not worthy enough????

@nduxmaryam 8 лет назад

kindness begets kindness. it is so difficult to be indifferent to someone who is being so nice to you. BarakAllah fiik sister Haleh for this.

@lailaalkassabi3933 5 лет назад

I’m still in the intro ,but I had to say THIS IS THE EXACT VIDEO I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR ,,, I was a “daddy-less” daughter and I feel I’m sooooo scared of any sign of negligence and I get angry and cry because that little girl comes up

@kkhan4933 8 лет назад

if u give them some important then they just think they deserve it thinking ok now this woman is on right track but don't consider it as give and take

@fatikay5735 8 лет назад

assalamu alaikum sister, I would recommend reading surah 92, al layl. These ayat touch me very much, and I wanted to share them with you: " [He] who gives [from] his wealth to purify himself, And not [giving] for anyone who has [done him] a favor to be rewarded, But only seeking the countenance of his Lord, Most High. And he is going to be satisfied." (92:18-21). Do it for the pleasure of Allah my dear sister, and I promise you won't be disappointed. Also pray the night prayer and ask Allah to make it easier for you, and He will. :) Salaam, xx

@YasminKhan-hl3rm 8 лет назад

So hard to do that! Especially when she said 20-30 days!! I guess it's hard to be the bigger person, to lose that ego or stubbornness. For me, I can be kind but if I'm not getting a reaction I'll give up and think what's the point a leopard can't change their spots.

@principessailaria 2 года назад

subhanAllah sister Haleh i can't even begin to describe how precious these videos of yours are for myself and i truly believe for the entire Ummah SubhanAllah

@haleh_banani Год назад

Jazakallah khair. I am glad it has a positive impact on you.

@fatmahassan4790 5 лет назад

Shukran for your wonderful advice. But should it be on both sides??.

@sadaqah117 7 лет назад

I have given in every marriage to the max. given all I could. if the brother is just using you, it will never work. if the brother has no fear of Allah, it won't work. if the husband is abusive, get out.

@perwezahmad6580 5 лет назад

Excellent work sister. With heart felt dua

@rahmamuktar2880 6 лет назад

JazakaAllahu khairan,,,beautiful advice mashaAllah

@afrahdoski4150 7 лет назад

great video, keep up the good work

@sevilledelacruz3997 8 лет назад

would you make a video on multiple wives and Qur'an? I feel you may have encountered this topic through your work.

@rashidaparveenca 7 лет назад

assalamu alaikum... suggest how should I stop myself reacting on negative words?

@fizza2675 2 года назад

I don’t think making someone a priority guarantees they giving back to you. Infact it makes the situation more worse for you because you start expecting.

@alyaamostafa3936 4 года назад

Sorry to be negative, I do same as you have said for more than 20 years and my spouse is the only priority for me and made him the priority for all our kids and same we leave anything we do when he comes home and I always do whatever he wants or even whatever he thinks. So do you have another methods , please.

@haleh_banani 3 года назад

That's great that you have made such an effort for 20 years mash'aallah. Sometimes you need to simply stop doing a few things that may annoy your spouse and that can make him more open and receptive. Give that a try and for step-by-step approach to saving your marriage I recommend my marriage program: www.5pillarsofmarriage.com/save.