Marriage in Early Japan (...was it legal to KILL your wife?) | History of Japan 41 

No one: Linfamy: the fujiwara clan married their daughters into the imperial family.

"The secondary marriages started out casually..like kidnapping."

Women in my family wouldn't survive the Heian. My aunt knocked her husband with an iron skillet when she caught him cheating, and my great-grandmother tried to get my great-grandfather with a block of coal when he wasted some money that was supposed to go for stuff for their kids. My grandmother shot at her son in law for cheating. Her kitchen floor still has the bullet hole.

“Once in a While The husband would visit his Wife To Migrate His Tadpoles” *i fell of from my chair laughing*

I can't emphasise enough how impressed I am with the starter Pokemon comparison. Well played

"both families treated this first marriage like choosing a starter pokémon ... they had to consider all future ramifications." meanwhile me who just picks the cutest one without giving it much thought:

"Find another suger mama" i died at that line XD

I was wondering how I’d feel about marriage as a Heian noblewoman, but marriage in that time and culture is so different from my time and culture that they are almost impossible to compare. If my husband had an affair in the Heian era I doubt I’d feel personally betrayed or hurt since it seems more like a business arrangement and not a love marriage. I’d be worried about how that would affect my resources instead. The other downside as a Heian noblewoman is the potential to be killed for having my own affair. Although considering everyone was very wink-wink nudge-nudge about the whole thing I can see how many marriages were probably super chill. “I don’t love you, you don’t love me, but we’ve got a mutually beneficial arrangement here so let’s go bang other people and it’s all good.” This was probably the key to a happy marriage back then. Being a Heian noblewoman doesn’t seem so bad in comparison to the majority of women’s experiences in history, but I am still very thankful for being born in this time and culture.

With all this talk of how everyone cheated, it sounds like the 90s

The ghosting thing is actually a huge tragedy spoken about in Japanese poetry. This happened to the mother of Michitsuna (nobody knows her name other than that she was a Fujiwara) when she married Fujiwara no Kaneie (no incest, they were distantly related) as his secondary wife. It started out where he'd only visit her like once every few months, then once a year, and then years went by where she got ghosted and became suicidally depressed about it to the point where she seriously considered taking vows but couldn't because she had to protect her son. The Gossamer Diary, her diary and book of poetry, ends abruptly with a knock on the door.

One Dislike... Linfamy's Main Subscriber is jealous of all us, the Secondary Subscribers giving hundreds of likes.

How outdated are my pop culture references...

Although it wasn't strictly legal, in English law it used to be that if a husband caught his wife in bed with another man and killed his wife or the person she was with, he could use the situation as a defence against a murder charge. So the Heian position isn't unique. Also, they only got rid of that defence within the last fifty years.

Marrying Multiple Wives: *Exist* Emperor's: 1:06

Video of hein period exists: Linfamy: The Fujiwara clan famously married their daughters into the Imperial family.

And, I completely agree with you about Firefly's cancellation.

Migrate His tadpoles?!!😂😂😂😂

Did you know, in India too, polygyny was common, not just that polyandry (where a woman has multiple spouses) was also practiced (both were, obviously, just elite things)

Just like a korean/japanese drama By the way your art keeps getting better every video great job

Family drama and competition must’ve been a very casual/normalized thing, not just between wives and husbands, but also between all their children.

And the Fujiwara clan fomousely married multiple daughters into the imperial family is always mentioned 😂 man imagine how messed up being a daughter was in that clan. How dissapointed they would be if the daughters weren't chosen into the imperial family

could a secondary wife take main wife status if the main wife died?

I'd agree that squirtle is a good pick but over the generations I would argue that charmander and bulbasaur are better picks given the mega evolutions of their evolved froms they clearly have better options given that they are in ou/uber formats while the lowly Blastoise is relegated to RU (rarely used). Even disregarding their mega evolutions both venasaur and charizard have better rankings throughout the generations. I suggest you throw your squirtle in the trash where he belongs

Wife beating happens. When I lived in Fussa-shi, I've passed a house in Japan and could swear I've heard something like it.

Thanks for your videos! I've been living in Japan for a while actually, and your videos really keep me more motivated to study Japanese while I continue working full-time. Japan's a great country, but I'm also an Asian-American so I kind of have this awkward mix of both Asian and Western mindsets. Learning more about Japanese history really keeps me more in tuned and adjusted while living in Japn, so I really appreciate your videos! ^_^

*"migrate his tadpoles"* And this kids is how to cencor to not get demonetized

I love these vids, only discovered them yesterday in a random feed from Hungarian folk tales....another humorous and well-told albeit confusing fairy tales at times....who knew history could be so funny and entertaining! Keep up the good work! much respect and love from Trinidad...Caribbean

Curious: If a husband wasn't faithful, and didn't provide for his family, and could even abandon them, or demand the wife provides for him, then.... what was the point of him? What was in it for her, to make her take those risks, and accept such poor treatment?

Sounds like those Chinese dramas my grandparents watch-

"Squirtle is the best, prove me wrong" Actually, since YOU made the claim, YOU have to back up YOUR statement.

I'm in the Society for Creative Anachronism. I've been asked why I don't do a Heian period persona since I love Japanese culture so much. The clothes would be stiffing. I would barely be able to move. I would have to sit in the "house" all day. And now I would have to support my fake husband and he would get to have other fake wives too? No way! (No migrating tadpoles with the fake husband. Seems like that was the only perk for women in the Heian.)

I LOVE how you present every video... you make history interest and funny 👍😁

Geez why is Japanese relationship so much drama I guess that's why Japanese dramas are all the Rave over there especially traditional.😓

Just found your channel last night and I’m addicted. Love to learn about Japanese history and culture. ❤ Thanks

Your videos are informative as well as funny. Really creative. Love it always. 😅

"So was it a divorce or were they just on a break?" I KNEW THERE WAS GONNA BE A FRIEND'S REFERENCE AFTER THIS! You have a good sense of humor. 😂 Your videos are officially my favorite. 🥺👉👈

Seriously! These videos are soooooo good! There's so many times where I'm watching a hist doc (I'm writing about Heian/Kamakura) & I'm thinking; no that's not true exactly, or yeah but you left out a really important detail. In your videos though; it's not only well written but hilarious! Thank you!

Love ur videos. Japanese history told with plenty of humor. I like.

You got me at the "d!$# who canceled Firefly!" Great videos; Totally binge-worthy!

please keep recommending books about heian and other japanese period, i'd like to know better & kudos! *WHAT A GREAT JOB YOU'RE DOING,MAN*

I found your video on my recommendations and then I started watching 5 videos(this is my fifth)and I'm liking it very much!since I'm interested in Japan History for a long time!

I really like the sense-of-humor-mid-serious talk it's very entertaining and glues the information in my brain

7:33. WHAT. *CONFUSED NOISES*

"migrate his tadpoles"

Did that killing thing actually happen often? One would think that if everyone new that extramarital affairs were common and tolerated, most husbands wouldn't want to kill their wives over it.

Wow! Linfamy said my last name perfectly and didn’t even need to ask.

sugar mamas and sugar daddies? I only know glucose guardians

2:29 okay I'm going to make my guess now. My guess is that men could kill their main wife if they wanted a secondary wife to take her position.

8:59 History really repeat itself huh

I'm guessing disloyalty to the husband's family was considered grounds for killing a wife.

Great stories(all). I love your voice and the way & toning of your voice when you tell stories. Oh especially the pictures, etc that you choose for all stories, Love it!

1:28 Shiny Charizard maybe cool,but I love my turtle water squirrel thingy.

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Wait if the husband was ghosting the wife and she was just trying to remarry and the previous husband cought her can the husband still legally kill her?

My grandma kill a possum once and survived a tree falling on her at 88 years old. She is one tough cookie not sure if my grandfather was that strong he passed away before I met him. However knowing how strong my grandma was I say she would be a very good wife to have.

thank you for another interesting video ^^ P.S: That Friends reference was on point :)) I could hear Ross screaming "WE WERE ON A BREAK!". Keep up the good work!

Would you prefer a Heian type marriage?

seeing the picture of the dude and hearing the line "as his underwear disintegrated" was so funny , as I saw his facial expression in the picture

How do you just say those words so flawless?

Thanks for the book recommendation! I'm trying to write a paper on Heian noblewomen so anything helps

this is why im not into that kind of marriage. someone always seems to lose their head, figuratively or/and literally

Hmm should I comment or wait and watch this video ? II'l commet first

What if a member of a harem in a polygamous relationship is a yandere?

Polygyny: Husbands can have multiple wives (take for example, 3) Wives on the other hand could have only one husband (actually, in this example, only 1/3)

Hey man! Can you make a part 2? Also I love your vids

The marriage system fits chinese imperial marriage perfectly! Qing empress will adopt babies from The second wife, that sometimes create a rift between the two.

Beautifully fabulous. Now I need the book. ❤️

5:55 should've put "Bye Felicia..moto" instead

Reminds me of the Yotsuyakaidan story Where lemons lover sent the poison to disfigure Oiwa 1:58 furry 🤣😂

Say the thing Say the thing 1:34 There it is!!!!!!

I agree Firefly had great potential and it was pretty good to watch.

I swear to god everytime i hear fujiwara im just like... The fujiwara clan famoulsy married theyre daughters into the royal family.

7:38: Well... That explain a lot about Ghosting in modern day Japan .x. (The Husband/Wife that run away because his couple is to poor, or because she/he have debt)

The Fujiwara clan inside meme never gets old.*groans*

hEiAn jApAN wAs a MeSs *but go off bros*

I can just imagine margret pulling the hair of Jenny, as Karen is packing and sneakin the kids out the door.all the while you’re in the middle of this mess trying to stop the first two from killing each other.

So nobody mentioned the pic at around 7:20 where the woman's head is turn at a freaking 180??!!!

That Firefly comment was unexpected and very appreciated 😂

You have a very pleasant to listen to voice!! Gonna go binge your videos now

Will you do any videos on later periods of Japan?

1:27 Bulbasur does good against the first 2 gyms making for an easy start and less pressure about team building

I'm really wondering what LGBTQ stuff was handled back in Japanese history, especially lesbian relationships since i have seen or heard no info on those. Seems like no one has tackled that topic much or if at all on youtube

Okay this actually reminded me of the webtoon The Remarried Empress

F*** that s*** in gen 1 I always chose Charmander even if he was useless for the first two gyms I didn't give a s***. Gen 2 I always chose Totodile. Gentry was Treecko Gen 4 with Piplup. Gen 5 with Snivy. I'm still waiting on my Gen 4 remake

Love the way you educate us.

"But nope, she dies from the shock" Surprised Pikachu face. No, seriously, even in 1000 AD Japan was just a little bit weirder than the rest.

hearing from this period is depressing, but thanks for videos, truth is truth and you tell it well :)

# 1 Leave the toilet seat down. Yeah definitely top priority man:)

Yeah. The cancelation of Firefly was heartbreaking. It still damages my calm.

Why do I feel sick when I hear about polygamy, cheating , etc. I feel sick to my stomach and want to cry I don’t know why . I don’t even have a significant other to be sad about but it’s not sadness it just makes me sick to my stomach and nightmarish( maybe I see both my maternal and paternal grandmothers who suffered and traumatic and depressing events of sharing husbands) . Nonetheless very nice video

1,000th comment!! good job as always

Second wifes, am i right?

Really appreciate the FRIENDS reference😂😂😂

I was surprised to see that the Fujiwara family would marry their daughters off to gain 200 years of control

Why Charmander and Bulbasaur are better than Squirtle, an answer to 1:27. Reason 1: Strategic Depth Squirtle’s mega evolution is an excellent tactical pick to cover up weaknesses in your team line up. Squirtle line also has the added value of having access to Rapid Spin. That being said, Squirtle line is not a strategy. You can’t sweep with Blastoise. You can’t stall with Blastoise. You can’t set things up with Blastoise. Charmander’s X mega evolution and Bulbasaur’s mega evolution have excellent tactical and strategic depth. Venusaur is an excellent choice for stalling since its Thick Fat ability disallows certain tactical coverage options your opponent may be running. Mega Charizard X has access to Dragon Dance, which allows for sweep potential. Both Charizards and Venusaur have tactical value as well since both can play offensively or without set up moves. Reason 2: Stat Distribution Mega Blastoise is an offensive Pokémon with some team utility. It has excellent offensive coverage, but lacks sustain. That being said, offensive Pokémon are usually fast Pokémon that hit hard. Blastoise most certainly hits hard, but does not have the speed to deliver the damage. Both Mega Charizard have enough Speed to be threatening and Venusaur has sustain in terms of Giga Drain and Leech Seed. Reason 3: Kanto Story Line Picks In the process of going through the story line in either a Gen 1 or Gen 3 game, you’ll have plenty of access to Pokémon that can replace your Squirtle. Staryu is the choice that comes to mind since it is also a special attacker like Squirtle line, but has more speed for more convenient damage delivery. One could also run Cloyster or Gyarados for a physical option, not to mention that Gyarados is super accessible early on in the game, no matter who you pick as your starter. If one is looking for a bulky special attacker, Tentacruel can do just as well as Blastoise, but also has access to Black Sludge support in later games. Meanwhile, Charizard is difficult to replace since the only other special attacker choice is Magmar or Moltres who aren’t available until much later in the game after you get surf. Which means that by the time you get Magmar or Moltres, you probably won’t need a fire Pokémon for much else besides Lorelei’s Jynx and your rival’s Exeggutor. Ninetails is a choice, but has inferior type coverage in comparison to Charizard’s dual STAB. Which means only Moltres really compares in terms of performance. Venusaur has more competition, but is aided by its stat line since Oddish line, Bellsprout line, and Tangela are all inferior in terms of defensive performance in comparison to Bulbasaur line. Exeggutor is a fine pick, but in later generations becomes inferior with the introduction of mega stones and Black Sludge.

I watch this everyday after school.... *well I finished my homework first **mumbles**

If there were no clear marriage or divorce dates, then how did men prove they were still married to the women they killed? Could a family member or prosecutor not claim that they'd divorced, and she'd remarried?

Getting caught in the act, means that you really did not respect your husband at all. Or extremely unlucky. The point is that the husband is not expected to enter the bedroom unninvited, or even the house for that matter... Your female servant was suposed to keep a look out for that case too. Hell even if he comes home with that theres the fact she could delay him for a few hours. Keeping the act while the husband is at home is the part that makes this very disrespectfull.

To a certain point, China enforced the Confucian view on marriage more strongly in the later dynasties as a method of social and political control. Before, depending on the social moods at the time, there was greater or less tolerance. Some of the "sneaking" parts of marriage can be seen in ethnic minorities(走婚) in China which was less affected by the state.

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