Marriage Makeover (1/5) - Self Development - Haleh Banani - Quran Weekly 

Been married for 60years,it is absolutely important to give and take ,be patient and not be self righteous that made work for us

I wish I had these kinds of advice before so I didn't end up blaming my husband for all the problems we have to day instead I could work on my self ,but I'm glad I got it now I will for sure insha'allah put it in work and work on my self to fix the shortcomings I had ,thank you so much dear sister and please pray for me

Amazing advice. Even though I'm not married, I learned a lot. Self development is so important, to always better yourself and to work on your flaws. We women tend to lose who we are when we get married and stick to being only the wife and mother. But we should always make sure that we are constantly working on ourselves mentally, psychically and emotionally.

she has so much Noor in her face . beautiful video

Can we just take a moment to appreciate this woman's amazing style. Her abbaya+hijab game is on point. Allahuma barik 💕

All her advice is so, so important. If only people would seek out this wisdom.

Practicing muslims have always found out to be extremely humble . Her personality, for instance, motivated me to be a better muslimah. Ma sha Allah sister. May Allah subhana wa tallah bless you with His mercy in this life and the life hereafter ameen suma ameen

i believe men only complain that their wives cry too much, or complain about everything is because the husband doesnt not truly understand how much pressure and stress ever single day she has a female . always trying to be the perfect daughter, chef, maid ,housewife. women, mother, sister, daughter-in-law, income provider, teacher to the kids, muslima. if a husband/male really understood the amount of pressure a women/wife has to deal with on a daily bases he would help her rather than fight with her.

I'm not married yet but all these advices will help me in future.InshAllah.

good advice sister,mashalla. one thing to clealy state is violence / abuse is not allowed. also the wife and husband need to meet in the middle. so the Dr advancing in his career that you talk about, needs to absolutely appreciate his wifes work in the home, and needs to take the time to also be on the same level as her. i think that can only be done by spending quality time with his family/ wife. her job at home is just as important as his, if not more. she is raising the next generation. time spent as a family is the key. marriage and having kids is hard work, but with communication and respect/love, it can go far.

Really good. Useful not just for Muslims, but common sense ideas that anyone can use.

Sub'han'Allah... JazakAllahu khair sister... Thank you so much for starting such a series... May Allah make all our married brothers and sisters listen to this and bring peace and satisfaction to their relationships...

YES!!! MashaAllah!!! You are an amazing woman. THANK YOU for all of this advice!! It's Sooooo NEEDED in the Muslim community for people to understand the psycological aspects of relationships. There's a big issue with many Sheikh's just saying "have more faith in Allah", when it comes to advice, and although this is true it is also very general and doesn't address the very real issues people face. You brought tears to my eyes because we NEED more women speaking out and being represented who are intelligent and have so much to give to the universal community.

جزاكم الله خير الجزاء دكتوره هاله ، إفادة عظيمه وقيمه جدا

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this was so awesome, thank u so much. just one thing that I have to say though. u said that woman after marriage should continue to stay mentally stimulated. however in many cases that's impossible. the man wants food warm and the way he likes it when he's home, kids taken care of and looked after, the home cleaned and looked after, in some cases the in laws looked after, and oh yeah, she should also look all glam and pretty and be totally happy when he's home, and the list goes on .... she doesn't have time for her self. shes up all night with babies and she's busy all day with looking after everything. She doesn't have even a day to relax let alone a day to stimulate her brain. there are some dudes who want their wives not to work at all, and practically be house maids, but then there are others who expect their wives to have a job and do all the house work and look after kids as well. and sometimes men will say that she can have a job if she wants but has to still look after " her responsibility. perhaps another issue that should be mentioned about men is that they don't see marriage as a dual responsibility. Godforbid that the head of the house hold ever cooks something, cleans, changes diapers and stays up with his own babies. nah that's the woman's job. man's job is just make sure he has a job to supply money. that's impossible and unfair. Did the prophet saw not help his wives? and also, men have such a possessive problem sometimes. they have to control their wives and tell them how to live, what to do, what not to do, where to go and when. it sucks, especially because the girl once lived a free women when she grew up with her parents, and now she's bound to the "will" of her lover. that's rough. idk if ppl understand. but again, I don't mean that this is every man in the world.thank Allah for that😊

Thank you sister Haleh Banani :)

Excellent talk; Very engaging and beneficial! I loved her ideas what women and men should Improve 🙌🏾

Assalamu alaikum jazakallah Quran weekly for this- very helpful especially about continuing to grow intellectually. Cultural and societal (not Islamic!) expectations often dampen this for women. I hope I don't sound patronising but thank you also for putting a sister on here and not being worried that people will make daft comments about women being visible. May Allah bless this sister.

Mashallah good advice may allah reward u

informative.......amazing scholar....thanks and God bless~

mashaallah, really a great advice and help from someone professional in psychologic area of marriage and marriage in general! barakallahu feeki

This was a very good an informative video. Thank you very much for your hard work and time.

Mashaallah very beautiful

MashAllah really helpful AND practical advice. I am at a point in my life when I really need advice like this. Really looking forward to the next video in the series. May Allah bless you sister, and the entire Quran Weekly team, and may He grant you success in your dawah. Ameen.

Thank you so much for great advice.

thank you so much for your beautiful advice.

Amazing machallah! Thank you for your lesson😍😘

Awesome advice and tips for someone single like me :) جزاكم الله خيرا

🤗🤗🤗 i love this new series! yaaaaay i liked this ep,self development is always important.i def need to work on my emotions ,esp lately the past month.

Great lessons for all! But useless if not applied. InshaAllah we can all work towards making our selves better people in humanity for the sake of Allah swt! That I think is the easiest way to change, when we put set our mind on doing the things that will please Allah!

ماشاء الله بارك الله فيك

Jazaki Allahu khayran

THIS IS SO GOOD!!!

what a great lady...

I'm sure if we know of the challenges of marriage prior to marriage, we will be better equipped in dealing with them. Alhamdulillah, that the sister's advice was very concise: self-control, be expressive, and be appealing (honestly, praying to be like Prophet Yusuf:))

thank you , really needed this

more please

Glory to be Allah 🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓

Self improvement for women: Emotional sustainability: be in control of the emotions Being secure: feel good about ourselves Growing intellectually Self improvement in man Self control: not being abusive Being expressive Become appealing for your spouse

Self Development Advices for women 1. Build emotional stability 2. Be secure 3. Growing intellectually Advices for men 1. Control your emotions 2. Being expressive 3. Be appealing to your spouce

اللهم صل وسلم وبارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى اله وصحبه اجمعين

watching this i think i am not capeable of marrige of realationships xD

Women 1. Emotional stability 2. Insecurity 3. Intellectual development Men 1. Self Control (Emotional) 2. Expressive (acknowledgement).. Common books, audio etc.. 3. Appealing to your spouse.. make her priority...make her feel loved

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Okay- how do you properly control and being secure when your husband continues to look at filthy naked women? Then trying to compare me to these “unrealistic women” please help me overcome this mindset- because it makes me very insecure.. and he is on his phone , so much- I wish I was his phone- just so I can get some attention from him 😭

Asalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaah, do you have any book recommendations about marriage?

Excellent in Arabic

Please pray for me. I'm looking for a good spouse. May Allah make me a good wife and give me a good husband, ameen.

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I am not sure if its me or my husband. He is always on laptop watching movies and reading stuff. I slog myself . I have to work at office, cook and clean and its like he just enjoys after work. I know he pays for everything but does it mean i have to be the maid . At the end of the day he even asks me to share expenses . Ours was love marriage as in we liked each other before marriage but i guess it was my biggest mistake now. I feel i dont love him nor he does. He has never expressed after marriage except for the frst year that my prescence in his life mattered except for cooking and cleaning. Is a women so cheap ? My parens ask me to adjust and its been 8 years i have no kids and m adjusting. I dont understand the meaning of marriage. I would say i would prefer death once than dying everyday for no love but just compromise. I have already lost 8 years of my life.

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Even sisters who work outside the home can suffer from neglecting their intellectual development.

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A man who slaps his wife is not a true man. No matter what provokes it, it is not due to any other factor apart from their lack of respect and goodness.

good advice but women Muslim not allowed to talk in public