The first year of Kim and LeRoy's marriage drove a wedge between them. They refused divorce, so lived for 8 years as roommates to raise their children, until one day Kim couldn't take it anymore.
My husband does the same thing to me. He thinks I'm a baby and whiny when I show emotion. And it's real emotion, it's not me being whiny and a baby. It's really sad when you can't go to your husband for comfort.
April Lockaby Radford u see the point here wasnt about the husbands fault or the wife! Yet it is about they didnt fully surrendered to God! They tought it was other persons fault which is totaly wrong! Marraige is b/n man and women ordained of God! If God is out the picture then it is in vain. Try God, read Bible & pray u will see wonders!
I feel u girl and yeah it needs gid i justed fininshed praying and crying .i even said lord giv me the serenity to accept what hasnt change.but i did say in jesus name send an angel to the women who took my husband abd let her fear god for the god he is to me and u because they are our husband and we hav the right to claim back our vowels .i feel jesus will not let them decieve us u watch.
God is great... my husband and i almost got divorced in 2017 and God got a hold of me and i was born again and by his grace and mercy he saved our marriage and is working is us day by day. Praise be to the almighty God of the universe. Thank you for sharing your testimony. May the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you
Many people believe that marrying young or marrying too quickly means the relationship will fail. This is not true at all!!! I was 19 when I married my husband. We only knew each other three months. We have been very happily married for 17 1/2 years. Your commitment to each other is what is important. Ben and I are both committed to our marriage and to making it work. We take those vows very seriously. I love that man more and more with every passing year.
It's fascinating how in almost all of these married couple testimonials it's both parties realizing those parts of their lives that are dysfunctional in ways they don't realize, that leads to misconceptions of God, others and themselves. Once they get on the same page and communicate, with God's word as a guide, they find an oasis of love they didn't experience previously.
this resonates with me so much! thanks for sharing your story. it's so similar to my struggles in my marriage. where my wife wants to express her frustrations often in a highly-emotional state, and I've got no 'tools' to deal with it... I don't know how to answer so not to offend her and not to take the argument to the next level... fear of not being able to provide, not being good enough... all this stuff that LeRoy was sharing - been there and on some level probably still am... almost exactly 1 year ago I accepted Christ in my life and it has significantly affected me and our marriage... I just regret I didn't do that earlier - so many wasted years
Uldis Zalcmanis be blessed the name of the Lord! U r not late brother pray and read the word of God each day! God will guide u wt to do and He will restore ur marraige ! Give it all! He will deal with ur wife! Trust Him wiz all u got, He went let u down , he never does ! He is a good good God!
You could start praying for her. Like now. When you get up in the morning go to bed at night, or maybe five minutes here or there while you are at work. I didn't know what to do with my job or my boss or even have the right words. So, I would just spend ten minutes in the bathroom at work being silent and quiet and kneel on the floor on the toliet until I had strength and peace again and then would get up and do my work. And I would step aside in my car or while driving or in the shower or wherever...praying in the spirit.
It's called empathy. If you love yourself you're first reaction seeing your wife emotional is to show care and understanding. Why is it so difficult to be compassionate with your partner. Because lots of people are blocked and need to fix themselves before marriage.
@@chaeafri1153 Scripture says that husband are supposed to love their wives as Christ loved His church and gave his life up as an offering for her. It's about putting others needs above our own always in Christianity.
@@RenewalCreations What scripture? The one that the Caucasian dwellers wrote. Man in flesh and full off disagreeable behavior. Christianity is an indoctrination at his worst.
I thank you both for sharing. UR willingness and honesty put a light on other people's marriage. Shocking to know that we have similar problems. Hallelujah to both of you!! Keep up the very good communication!
I tell my husband all the time that I feel like we're roommates instead of a married couple living together. It's really sad. I have very bad depression and anxiety and so this just keeps me low. I have gained a lot of weight due to the medication I'm on, and my teeth are horrible, I need them pulled and dentures or implants, but I don't have the money. It's very embarrassing. My shame and self-consciousness keeps me even more secluded than I was before. I had to quit my job as a CNA working in a nursing home due to a lot of horrible treatment, and being way overworked and stressed to the max, horrible, mean coworkers, it Literally made me bad sick, and I couldn't take it anymore. I had a nervous breakdown. It's been a few months, and I'm trying to recover from everything. It's very hard. I don't have any money, no food, I can't take care of myself or my animals like I should. Its very heartbreaking and depressing. Also I have been off my depression and anxiety medicines since I no longer have money to pay for the doctors appointment and prescriptions. My husband wrecked his truck. We don't have much left anymore, and no way to get anywhere. We need prayers badly, please people. Our marriage needs a lot of prayers also. My mom lives with us and is in very bad health, it's all just so much stress on us. I'm only 27 years old. There should be help, I shouldn't be stuck. There should be some kind of help for us. Please pray for us. Thank you very much and God bless you all.
It sounds like you need a break. I’m sorry about your heartache and stress. I want you to love yourself. You deserve as much love as anyone ever did. Part of God’s perfect creation. You sound like a very caring compassionate person. Your dealing with so many challenges. Keep being strong and remember what makes you feel happy
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't begin to imagine how you feel. I encourage you to continually turn to God. Remember that HE is your source of security and comfort. Get plugged in a christian community by going to church. If you are self- conscious, know that you will probably feel awkward, uncomfortable and fearful being in church around other people, but push through those feelings and begin to develop acquaintances with others (gradually turning into friendship). Seek pastoral help as well. Of course, before you do any of these things, ask your Heavenly Father for guidance. Proverbs 3:5-6 is His promise to you: 'Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not depend on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.' God is in control and if you turn to Him, He will help you and give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33- "Seek First the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Then everything you need shall be added unto you." This is God's promise. Follow the principle and see the results.
April Lockaby Radford God loves us despite our physical appearance. I’m trying to eat better just eating more veggies. Declining sugar filled desserts, walking. Start with small steps. Nursing CNA, is one of the most taxing jobs you will ever have. I know. Find something better. Pray with sincerity and attend church, others will reach out in service to you. Things will change for you. As men, we should love our wife unconditionally, they sacrifice everything to have children. God really does love you.
Ayesha Live13 Pray Galatians 5 the Fruit of,the Spirit over your husband. Find little ways to speak life and encouragement over yourself and your marriage. I do not know you, but I will pray that G-d will allow your husband to see you as the beautiful Queen that you are. G-d bless you🌹
This story touches me everytime I watch it. My marriage scenario is so very similar, especially since my husband and I share similar personalities to this couple. I pray that at some point there will be restoration.
I pray that God opens our spiritual eyes and ears to never expect a spouse to fulfill voids in our hearts that only Jesus can fill.. May we never expect our spouse to be what we should be ourselves.. Let's all surrender to God and be willing vessels to be broken, refined and moulded to that man/woman God called us to be.. Singles let's learn from these testimonies as well so we can avoid such mistakes when we are in marriage
So blessed by your story. God is really so good. In restoring your marriage and your love for each other., God has enabled you to become an inspiration to hurting couples to stay still and let God work in their marriages.
I’m walking threw this right now. We don’t even share the same room. It is the worst feeling of loneliness to live with someone you desperately want to be together with in marriage but he is only a “ shell” of the man I married. I’m continuing to seek Gods help and rest( or honestly trying hard to rest) knowing Gods in control. It’s lonely but Jesus is near.. it’s sad butJesus is the one I’m looking towards for joy. I know God will answer. I believe I just need to continue to search my heart and do my best so God sees m trying. I know He is able to turn things around.. I just pray for patients and understanding. Please keep us in your prayers . I pray for all your marriages.! I seriously do.
My spouse moved out of the bedroom into another part of the house 2 days after we married, due to the influence of his mother. 4 years ago he's still in there! today is my birthday and it took him all day to say anything, and my sister called and told me happy birthday, then he did. Oh, he claims he's a Christian!
There are those that think of themselves as Chr1stian, but are not. I will add here, that I've seen situations where the woman is an extremely light sleeper and is also domineering; this is a woman better off alone and one in which a man will relinquish the notion of a happy marriage bed. This is the sort of situation that a separate room might equate to the best thing, just as long as the s3x is a happy medium for both still. There needs to be more communication prior to marriage to access these sorts of issues. A massive questionnaire would be a good place to start and then some.
I'm in the same exact situation and I'm physically sick once again. I'm going downhill physically and I'm afraid I'm not going to make it. I'm from the US and married a Canadian. The changes and loss have been hard enough on me. My joy and happiness are gone. I feel zapped ... completely zapped.
Look to God he will help you, reach out to him read the bible pray dont put your eyes on him and your problem the answer is Jesus Christ and him crucified. Watch SBN on TV Jimmy Swaggart you will be blessed
Ashton Gilmore unfortunately the way men and women are wired is that they trigger one another. Even an expression of a need or a hurt, is often taken as a criticism by the man...then he acts defensive, basically invalidating the woman’s feelings and concerns. A woman often expresses those as a way to get connected, closer...but doesn’t realize that it can be taken as a criticism or attack by a man...so the cycle goes and goes. If both sides can take things (the ones that are their triggers) less personally...it makes a big difference. But takes a setting aside of ego and pride, but truly reaching out and empathizing. The best aphrodisiac for most women, is the foreplay of listening and validating that happens in the moments outside the bedroom. If a woman feels heard and valued....its game on, for most the women I know!! Withdrawal and ignoring is also a terrible aphrodisiac...it’s basically a man communicating with non-verbal, “I don’t care about, or value, you” No woman is turned on by that.
@@Alphacentauri819 perhaps some men use silence as a method of silent protest( which is a form of manipulation), while others' silence is a result of constant censorship. Censorship in that words dont work, or are frequently reused as a weapon of manipulation by women. We as a society are well aware of the frequently documented bad behavior of men, and so there seems to be some consensus that women are always the victim. That sentiment (in my opinion), demolishes most attempts at resolving gender conflict, at their beginning. Because if you ask women, women are always right.
Ashton Gilmore and I do not agree that women are always the victim...believing absolutes such as “always” prevents us from seeing any info to the contrary. There are definitely SOME women that are harsh and cruel to men. And men might be “victims” in these circumstances? Unless there is abuse...I prefer not to use the term victim... that’s just me. Most the time it’s adults, getting stuck in their amygdala/hippocampus (primitive) zone...acting fearful and hurt. What those behaviors are, is individual to those people in individual situations... Either side...it needs to get better. And it starts with each person, bettering themselves. After that it’s a willingness to hear another person... Most people are so undeveloped socially, mentally, emotionally that few have any business being in a relationship...but they inevitably happen despite any readiness.
I am a muslim and I really agree that faith is everything. The most important thing in ourd life. Try not to lose it because is the most beautiful thing that makes us human.
This cycle is a serious and real thing. Anyone struggling with this, please read the book, Running On Empty! The cycle of shutting down when confronted with emotional responses needs healing and professional help!
I hope I will have a nice marrige with a beautiful girl. I am just 20 years old. But I think that God will give me wife and He will help me to do everything.I hope they will help me me and my future wife too. A Godly marrige is one of the biggest mercy of God.
This whats happening to us now I wana leave him but I cant coz our kids. I loved him but I lost my respect on him because of his controlling behaviour. We fight very often for nonesense reason. Im fed up on him and it affects me mentally.
We have been married for 41 years and have been through ups and downs and the isolation at times. I want to encourage you. God’s Word works. I have prayed the Ephesians 1:16-23 prayer for my husband and myself over the years when needed. God changed me first. My husband has grown slowly, but he suddenly started to grow exponentially since studying the Bible together from last year. God revealed to him to read 1 Corinthians 13 daily out loud. He now shows more emotions and empathy.
My ex is just like Leroi but when I talked about God he didn't want to hear it and when I said I wanted to talk he said I have nothing to talk about. I asked God to divorce me and things are comming along and I never felt better. I'm glad it worked for this guys.
If you said "WE", that would have created a stronger argument. Since you say "I", it lends to the question of 'what about him?'; this especially in relation to 'wine tasting'?
Ardent Pr4yer No 1. Where there is a will there is a way; inclusive of looking at yourself for change. I would take my gaze backwards and see where any threads might have been broken and revise these with baby steps. As a man, the things that I find attractive in a woman are 1) continued effort i.e. love in action 2) lots of s3x 3) meals of love, 4) continuing to learn, grow and do new things; this without pushing i.e. No > I want it, I want it all and I want it now.
Lord Please help my marriage. Please restore us and bring us together, let us be built upon the Rock, You, Jesus Christ. I claim blessings and restoration physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, for me and my husband and my mom and family members and loved ones. I pray and declare Jesus over all of us, and for God to really do a great work in our lives. Please Lord Jesus, bring us hope and happiness. I love you so much Lord, thank You for all of your many blessings. In Jesus Christ's name I pray, Amen!
What god puts together let no man put us under and if god is for us me omega and my husband danny delarosa who can be against us so i say the same for ur marriage in the name of our lord jesus amen
It’s hard keeping a marriage alive when it’s not based on being in love from the beginning. I’m struggling and was really hoping this would help me. This was stupid.
That is why, in my opinion, you shouldn't marry right away. Instead of rushing into marriage me and my future husband decided to be patient and wait on the Lord to tell us when. We will marry in 2020, after 5+ years of dating! We took the time to know one another well and to talk extensively about our emotions, our expectations and how we viewed life (faith, marriage, raising children, finances and politics and so on). The Lord gave us patience and understanding and aligned our hearts to match one another.
Much communication, inclusive of finding massive questionnaire. Unfortunately the question of s3xual compatibility becomes an issue, something of which the waiting can potentially weed out in way of accessing if a person is honest; still, if you are dealing with v1rgins, then this is an unknown, let alone knowing if the other will, at a later date, start to use it as a weap0n (this regardless of religion); this of course also goes back to your position of waiting and accessing the other person. Everyone wears a mask and are adapt at creating new masks. One of the greatest factors is knowing and seeing the depth of love that the other person has for you; this without 'neediness', 'brokenness' or psychosis, of which the other person 'thinks they love you'. Actions help reveal love and commitment, inclusive of if they whine about things. I've also learnt to access if the other person is a very light sleeper (snorer even etc). Unfortunately experience makes for knowing the sorts of questions to ask, of which those green would never think or are in too much of a hurry to even contemplate to ask or find out personally. I would even say that regarding your '5 years' that people might be busy and also have blinders on i..e dismissing the obvious / not willing to see. I would use this time and all encounters to gauge the other person. I would also go out of your comfort zone to create encounters to help answer questions. It is in your benefit that the other person does so likewise.
@@dylanjames7031 Thank you for your answer, it was interesting to read! It was important for us to wait and explore our compatibility before marrying because we are friends since high school, and our social environment is exactly the same, his close friends are my close friends too. We are a very tight group, very much like a family and our relationship has an impact on the dynamic of that group. But being part of the same social circle also helps with trust and in knowing the person in depth. There were a lot of things I didn't need to ask myself when we started dating because I already knew them. I knew what he was like in public, in more private settings and I even knew if he snored or not (he snores like a chainsaw and I couldn't care less). Also what prompted us to be more patient was the end of my parents' marriage. After 35+ years they separated, and the main reason is that they simply weren't compatible. They are completely different people, with nothing in common but their children. When I asked them why they didn't address their issues before marrying, they told me that it wasn't done before. In their community, you married the first person who asked and that your parents approved of. On the contrary my fiancé's parents are happily married for 30+ years so that gives us hope! The question of intimacy is indeed a difficult one, especially for me. I was sexually abused by an adult when I was a teenager, and that is hard to recover from. After 5 years we think we're ready, everything is clicking into place and we thank God for it. We both want to build a home, a family with the Lord at the center. Our bond is strong, and I couldn't have hoped for a better man, God truly blessed me! He is kind and generous and thinks of others before himself. He's secure in who he is as a man but he is also aware of his flaws and his sins. He's a humble servant and I love that about him.
Im currently in a different place spiritually than my husband. He believes in Jesus but has no desire to read the Bible or pray with me. Whenever I talk about God he gets frustrated and doesn’t listen. And he disagrees with me even if it’s God’s word. And he tells me how there’s a lot of things about me I have to work on and i have to grow up. I don’t do this to him . I don’t find ways to make him feel he isn’t good enough . Or tell him things he needs to fix. But I just keep praying for him that God will give him a new heart. Because i think my husbands talks with me about our relationship, are just his way of telling me he really wants to leave . And he just doesn’t know if he can leave because I have 2 kids
Wow...that is a really difficult situation you are in, but God is able my Sister. You can't force him to want God or to read the Word..May I advise you to ask God if there is anything He thinks you should do differently? If there is then you do your part and.God will do His. Definitely keep praying for your husband, ask the Holy Spirit to take a hold of him and for the Lord to open his heart and bring him to repentance.
@@elisianemendesdasilva3233 😄 on my husband's defense he does work a lot plus he's going to school. I know my husband loves me though but his personality is a lot like this man 😂 God has a funny way of putting opposites together.
Darlene Candelaria same here . He works a lot and he is getting his master degree so 😂 yes, my husband loves me a lot too I just need to focus on that 😊 but I am very intense and he is calm like this guy in the video . Yes, God knows what He does 😂😊
@@elisianemendesdasilva3233 Praise the Lord 🙌 my husband is getting his masters too in automotive technology 😊 but yes I understand being married to a man of very few words 😭 been married 15 years now and I just now came to the conclusion that that's just the way he is 😂 and lots of godly couples counseling. It's not easy but with God all things are possible! 🙏
I’ve been a loyal roommate for 19 of 39 years. I have no desire for her now but would never abandon her. I know I’ll never be able to make a home perfect enough or read her mind the way I’m supposed to or remember everything I’m supposed to. I have begged God to make my sex drive stop torturing me. It’s not as bad as it used to be but it’s still there and now feels more like a demon than a gift. There’s a reason there’s no sex in heaven. It causes way to many problems and death here. Pray God can fix me because I can’t. So there. I said it to an empty room.
So grateful they did not divorce. But they allowed Yahweh to work in your marriage with them individually to see what was really going on. That is so beautiful because we can fall in and out of love with each other but marriage is a commitment that we keep till death do us part! Especially when there is no infidelity or abuse!
He sounds very narcissistic and those are the kind of men you run from as fast as you can.. it sounds like to me she took all the responsibility of why her marriage was failing..
God is doing it today. He really is, second testimony which 100% similar to my story and I am blessed because I am still in my journey to healing. Thank you Holy Spirit, thank you Jesus.
Why is it always the woman. We need more men in the world that don't have to be pulled a long by a woman and simply know how to lead, love, and show up for their family consistently and not fold like a two dollar suitcase.
Im sorry she was convinced by her bible that she was the problem. Im sorry he didn't uphold the rule of loving your wife as christ loved the church. How is the head of the household not held responsible for the failing of it?
Many many marriages suffer through some point of emotional abuse, it's not impossible. It hurts but it's usually both parties not having the tools or guidance from the holy spirit to communicate effectively. Check out Heather Lindsey she is on youtube. I follow her instagram too @heatherllove she and her husband are prayer warriors and lead together in ministry, she was just speaking on this issue actually this week check her out . Praying for you I know how it feels to be in that situation, both the receiving and giving end, you're not alone ❤ Jesus can heal any marriage no matter how broken.
The best place to start is 1 Corinthians 13. The love chapter 😊. Ask the Lord to reveal to you where you have been falling short while you ask Him for His intervention in your marriage. Whatever the Holy Spirit tells you that needs to change within you, ask Him to help you make the necessary changes. Then you can read the book of Ephesians. I hope this helps
What if Jesus had allowed his “emotions” to guide his actions? Would he have gone to the cross? Emotions are always fleeting and being controlled by them is a sign of weakness. If you’re unhappy and emotional, you’re not grateful to God for your opportunity at life!
I am glad they are better but I think it is weird for the man to ignore his wife by going to sleep on his wedding night. We are supposed to give sexually to our partners also the bible mention this.
Women's emotionality leads men astray. Biblical Eve was evicted from Eden because she's easily lead to temptation. This is what you become when you let emotions rule your life.
