This was me, an outcast that never fit in. Never thought I'd marry, or have kids, until I met my wife. She was the only woman that truly loved me, believed in me, and was worth having a child with. She died a few weeks ago, but we were happy for over 25 years. I'm a very lucky man....
Late husband died 7 1/2 years ago. 32 great years. Was 36 when we met, he was 47. He was divorced. Instant click that only got better each day. Sure we argued, never violence, just clearing the air from time to time. Both had serious illnesses, helped each other. Family illnesses both sides. Navigated together. Read each other’s minds. You walk in step, finish each other’s sentences, pass food on table even before being asked, 6th develops. Miss him every moment. Will miss to my last breath. Close to his kids & grandkids. Good rapport. Can’t ask for more.
@@Bisonzilla I can't stand people on speaker phone. I get into arguments with them now. If you are going to disrespect me, then I am going to ruin your phone call. So rude!
@@kathleenking47 Yes, he was the voice of Mermaid-Man, and his former co-star on the 1960's sitcom "McHale's Navy," Tim Conway, voiced Barnacle Boy. Casting Borgnine and Conway together again was a brilliant move by Spongebob's producers.
@@tonybaloney8401 The Internet hasn't changed humanity - there always have been/always will be shallow, narcissistic people, but there are still decent, kind people looking for real relationships even in 2024.
I have a Marty of my own. Only his name is Ric. He's built for hugging, not speeding, is a wonderful cook, a kind and gentle person, and the most devoted hubby. And after 12 years of marriage he still thinks I am a 'babe'. And wait....when we married I was almost 60!!!
@@V3inmistress He had been married before, but I had not. Ric was 60-ish...He was a merchant seaman. So our wedding (City Hall NY 6/24/2008)... foto caption says, "Old salt weds ripe tomato.."..Still gets huge laughs, 13 years later!!
***** There are so many heartbreaking scenes in this movie...and what makes it worse, is that there are so many in this world who have been through them.
Lemon Drops Oh man, now I have to admit, this was like watching my best friend and I many years ago! When I first saw this film it really struck a nerve. For years I begged my friend to watch it with me. We finally did, but it made him uncomfortable, too close to home I guess!.And yes, I am still single at 53!
***** It hit home real hard for me as well. Watched this with my mom, and I choked up at so many times - the loneliness, rejection, despair...all that struck a chord. I too am single! This movie has really stood the test of time and it still relates so well to human misery and want after all these years.
The scene after Marty walks Clara home is the absolute best of the movie. When he slaps the bus stop sign you know he has just realized not only is he in love but that he will spend the rest of his life with her. And anything life throws at them, whether good or bad they will see it out together. It’s what I call “ a Marty moment “. If a man is lucky enough he will have his Marty moment. You only get one in your life. And if a man is really lucky, I mean really LUCKY, he will be smart enough to realize it. I had mine in 1985. Saw her getting off the bus at Mohawk College in Stoney Creek. Said to the guy standing beside me “ You see that girl, the one with the white blouse and glasses. I’m gonna marry her “. This September will be 30 years for us.
I had that feeling once, and then one day she woke up and told me she didn't love me anymore. Didn't have a reason why, or something I did, thanked me for being the best to her, and treating her like a queen, but she did not want me anymore. This is all bullshit romantic love isn't real it's some shit we made up to raise kids in effective households, and motivate men to go to war.
I just saw this for the first time and wept with such hope. My birthday is Nov 8 just like Marty's in the film and I'm 29 like Clara. And I pray.... i find my person like they did.
My darling son is 28 and right now he's seeing a young lady, but my husband and I don't feel they are right for each other.🤷🏻♀️ But we keep this feeling to ourselves, since it's ultimately their choice. So I'm praying that the LORD Jesus will send them the right person. I know he will, since he answers good prayers. He answered my husband's prayer for a wife and he knew the moment he saw me.☺️ Don't give up hope!💕
@@TheBereangirlThe problem with your prayer is that you are praying to god based on what you want. You never considered gods will for your son. You and your husband may not like her but God may have intended for them to be together. So instead of just praying for your son to find someone else, pray that your will be done. Your son doesn’t need your approvals of who he has enter his life. Neither does his need your approval of who he intends to enter your son’s life.
@@jonathanm9986 the problem with your opinion is that it stinks like your armpits. I'm allowed to pray for what I want, God said so, but of course I yield to my God's will, what he wants goes, he has the final say, yes? Yes. How horrible it is for me to want a godly woman that loves my son. Your comment is absolutely garbage. So I bid you adieu, troll.😊💕
What I love about this scene is this is when the character manned up. He took control of his own life and his own happiness and didn't allow his friends to drag him down. If they are his friends, they would be happy for him.
Marty finally wises up and decides to take a chance and grab love and happiness and never let go despite everyone else who would rather see him unhappy and miserable! What a great ending and a powerful performance by Ernest Borgnine, whose Academy Award win was well deserved!
RIP Ernest Borgnine. Your performance of Marty Pileti will always be one of my favorites, never fails to make me cry. Thank you Sir, and God Bless :,-(
These are the kinds of guys that lead each other down the road of loneliness and confusion instead of choosing happiness and commitment with the woman they love. I’m glad Marty woke up at the end and took his happiness into his own hands.
Ernest borgnine was one of the most versatile actors I have ever seen he can play The worst bad guy in the most believable way and then do a roll like this in Marty and pull it off amazingly, it is said that he was one of the nicest persons that you would ever want to meet
Interesting how Clara [Betsy Blair] is characterized as a dog. As if the guys making such judgements are the blue plate special. Betsy Blair may not be ravishing, but she is surely beautiful. She was married for many years to Gene Kelly, for cyring out loud. Now, in the original TV/Live Play version, where Rod Steiger played Marty, Nancy Marchand [who in her autumn years potrayed Livia Soprano] played Clara, who is more believable as a Plain Jane type. Be that as it may, the chemistry between Borgnine and Blair is so very touching. Something to be said for kindness as an enduring character of actual factual MEN.
I've said this since I first watched the movie. Why is Clara seen as this ugly girl? She's adorable. Just all her little things, her shyness, she's adorable.
This scene resonates with me so much. I met a guy at a party; the nicest man I ever met. He was honest, he looked after others before he looked after himself, he was grounded, he offered help when he can, and saw the good in everyone. He wasn't the most attractive, but his traits made me fall for him. The family liked him but their issue? He was an atheist. They convinced me to break it off with him because he wasn't a man of God. I have respect for those who devoted to religion, but my family had experiences with Catholic husbands, devoted as they were, who cheated and physically abused my aunts and cousins. Realizing what I lost because of others' petty advice, I told them off, saying I don't care if he's an atheist, he's a great guy and I lost him because of a stupid reason?! No, I'm not gonna let that happen. My boyfriend and I got back together. We are now entering 6 years and the religion thing doesn't bother us. My family has learned to accept it because he is such a nice guy. 2024 Update! We’ve been together for 13 years and happy!
Religion has nothing to do with actual morality. One of the problems with the world is we think we have the morality thing already taken care of because we have "religion". Religion did not stop WW 2 where people of the same religions were killing each other or now with Islamists killing each other. Religions are just " tribes" and act like them.
"Whataya doin tonight? Whataya doin tonight?! ....Watami hang's around with you guys for!!?" Great scene! I just saw this for the first time a few days ago. A great movie with a lot of heart.
Sometimes though, you can have a marriage, lots of kids, lots of friends and still be lonely. I have a close family, a wonderful, loving partner of 30 years and yet nobody understands me. Some days I feel as lonely as an old hermit! Work that out.
Marty gave in to what society, his friends and family thought of him. Before he finally realised what truly mattered in life and to himself. Love. Love above all else is priceless. It is truly the greatest resources this world has to offer and I am glad he realised this in the end. Go get her Marty
I love how Angie looks so ashamed when Marty calls him out. Joe Mantell sells it pefectly. He doesn't have much to work with during the rest of the movie, just being a sourpuss the whole time, but this scene is great.
A lot of people don't know this but Ernest Borgnine was also a war hero as he commanded PT Boat 73 during WWII . He was beloved by his crew who interestingly included the actor Tim Conway who later starred on the Carol Burnett Show. Thanks for your service both of you.
When Marty finally realizes that he doesn't give a damn what anybody else thinks, he wants Clara is absolutely stunning, even better when he starts to chide Angie about not being married yet "you should be ashamed of yourself".
Ernest Borgnine certainly deserved his Best Actor Oscar. I've watched Rod Steiger's performance and Borgnine's and props to the former, I absolutely love Ernest's performance.
No comparison. Ernie is Marty!! When he says( here in this scene) " fat & ugly" , it is kind of hard imagining Steiger in his performance being that. One hell of a movie!! Ernie really deserved that Oscar. Ernie was as sweet & down to earth as Marty. A very good guy.
If you love EB in this movie, you really must catch him as Sgt Fatso Judson in "From Here to Eternity". Polar opposite from Marty shows EB's amazing range as an actor. Even did a really nice cameo in 2010 movie "RED" looking great at 93.
I watched this movie last night because some of the clips popped up in my RU-vid feeds. What an excellent film with a perfect ending because they didn't overdo it by showing them getting married.
@@rikiishitoru8885this is the age of the internet and dating apps, 66% of young men are single, most women are competing for the top percentage of men
@@SoFloCo-ne4rk if i was a girl i would have snapped him up in a heart beat!! I'm FAT AND UGLY i learned a long time ago that appearance mean NOTHING! I have 3 successful marriages to 3 wonderful women I lost them all to CANCER but was happy and successful through them all.
When I was a kid in the 1960's I thought my grandfather was fat. Now I look at his photos and realize I'm fat and he was a fit and handsome man. Almost all my friends are even fatter than me. Obesity is rampant in the United States and the impact on our health is greater than almost any other factor.
I lost a girl because of immaturity and letting my Mother have to much control. My Mother always had to be in control and today, 35 years later it still bothers me and the “ what if “. At 57 I have a great wife and two strong and independent adult children. But I still think of that girl. I use to feel bad, thinking that wasn’t fair to my wife and maybe it isn’t. But knowing I let an outside influence play a part in ending a relationship, still eats at me. I’m still bitter about getting mixed up in my parents problems and letting my Mother have to much control of my life.
It should eat at you. Let it eat at you and feel the pain. But don't let it eat at you forever. The pain is teaching you something. Learn from it. Then do better.
I like these types old black a white American movies, no swearing and sex which todays movies are inundated with, and their phrasings for things was funny
I love this scene when he decides to call the girl, when you find someone who cares for you and you care for him, don’t waste time get to know him, he could be the one.
Have visited many you tube content regarding this fine film..how seldom is mentioned the name of it's writer, the remarkable Paddy Chayevsky....one of his later scripts was "Network", WOW" .,I'm mad as hell and I 'm not going to take it any more!!"
Marty hanging on to the pole and clearly agonizing about what he should do was painful to watch. Many people can identify with this indecision. The ending is clever because he snaps out of it and you end up cheering for him
