He owned and lived in a bus. He travelled around the USA and visited every VA hospital in the nation. He was a great actor and a wonderful human being.
@@billwendell6886 Look at the bright side. We have Trump because these days being a zero integrity piece of scheiss does not disqualify you from anything including the most important job in the nation.
@@billwendell6886, yeah… you’re probably right. I guess it depends on how one defines patriot. Simply waving the flag and saying ‘we’re #1!” Ain’t it. G’day, mate.
WOW!! TY for adding that!! I didn't know. EB was later on the TV show McHale's Navy- and any number of films- But I loved him, adore his work in the Wild Bunch!!
He said in an interview that he knew he had the role 'sewed up' when he did an informal read of this scene for Delbert Mann and Paddy Chayefsky, and they started crying. 😢
Great comments. I have had loves in my life. When I was young I thought I couldn't be happy unless I had a romantic connection. It wasn't until much later I knew I could be, and was, happy being single. My dear (younger) friend is stuck in the relationship cycle and is not happy. Makes me sad for her. My worry used to be that I don't want to be alone when I'm old. I realized I won't be because I have a great friends network. Many other single moms that I'm tight with. We are there for each other. Also... A very tight relationship with my son. I know he will be there for me. 💕
"Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone." -Paul Tillich
It is easy to rationalize and accept you've failed yourself, but having to face letting down everyone who had hopes and expectations for you is much worse.
@@triumph_cv He didn't need to comfort her. She was the one putting the pressure on him. The ending is still to Hollywood and doesn't represent reality for a lot of men.
A simple yet moving film about ordinary people, not mega-rich models, stock brokers, and influencers. No explosions, no car cases, no CGI, no aliens. Refreshing and, nearly 70 years later, people can still relate to what Borgnine's character was feeling.
You guys are getting really weird about it. “No tattoos, no swearing” 😂 you like movies about unicorns and the tooth fairy as well? Some people like gritty movies some people like the whimsical stuff. There’s nothing wrong with either of them so get off your high horse.
it never got this dramatic or heartbreaking but 1 night after being repeatedly rejected at salsa class I thought I am not enjoying this let me spend my time else where
His family and friends knock down the girl that he does like. Then Marty realizes that the only one who has to like the girl is HIM. His life improves once he lives for himself, not his family.
If they were thinking about it enough to roll a major motion picture on the subject, I have to wonder if it was actually just as relatable. The older I get the more I find things maybe haven't changed as much as people want to think they have. Humans will be humans after all.
@@WayneMarion and what are you basing that on? I’m going to tell you something that your parents never told you and should have….you are unintelligent and need to rectify that soon…I’d be more explicit but RU-vid will censor me
Ernest Borgnine truly was a great actor, but he was also a really decent guy... Back in the 90s, he and his son stopped in their motorhome for fuel at my dad's Service Center in Spring, Texas. Mr. Borgnine actually walked in to the cashier's building himself to pay for the diesel. All of the guys in the shop recognized him from about 150 feet away and walked over to say hello... And he obliged everyone for a good twenty minutes. It's unimaginable today, that any current "Star" could or even would do anything like that. Both he and his son were very nice people.
Not true about today's celebrities. Just the huge fake ones. But so many actors enjoy meeting people and lingering and chatting. It happened to a friend of mine when Casey Affleck walked into the store she worked at in Berlin.
If I recall… his “friends” were part of the problem. And we can all relate to feeling like this. Our inner dialogue, a constant refrain of “what’s wrong with me?” He was the quintessential “nice guy” who was unlucky in love… until he wasn’t. ❤️
"So I'll die without a son." To be an unmarried man in an Italian family, and not a priest was a mark of shame and worry on that family in those times. Borgnine is brilliant at showing pain in subtle ways. His call to Mary Feeny in the movie and that rejection he conveys is incredibly believable.
As one who knows your pain...I can suggest this...go see, the Philippines. I am sure as I have done this myself...you will be selected by a woman you feel is wayyy out of your league. She will choose you, it will be a whirl wind experiance and you will never feel the same way about yourself. Ever again. As I said...I know this...first hand. All you have to do, is pack and fly. You will be changed forever.
@RevLeigh55 This woman reminds me of my mother constantly pushing if you're not married, you're nothing. I'm a widow for 19 years. And dating is horrible even after a few long-term relationships. The 19 years I've been a widow, it really is not worth it. I am happy bing single, enjoying my three sons and my two dogs. Society brainwashes us that we need a partner, a husband or we're not gonna be happy.
@@Sun2day-f6fThat’s true. The other day I told my husband the guy next door said hello and we commented about the loud thunder. My husband said he ignores people because you never know what mood they’re in. I don’t get angry or hurt when I’m ignored.
The issue is, if you truly belive that your ugly, and that's what you feel. And if you feel that your ugly, then that's what you see. Trust me, I know that feeling very well. Granted I got much better over the years, but there were many years that I felt just like this character. That's why people love this scene, as it's very relateable for many men.
I had the great pleasure of interviewing Ernest Borgnine, and though it had nothing to do with Marty, I couldn't help but take a moment to compliment him on this movie, which I have alway loved. He was as gracious as you would expect, a true gentleman and one hell of an actor.
In 3 weeks I'll be 67. Single my whole life, no kids. This hits hard. Life isn't so glamorous for millions of us. If only Mothers would JUST back off and let their son's become who they want to be, NOT who THEY want them to be!
I wish I would have had the freedom to have become myself. I always tried to please others including my mother. It got me nowhere except into an inescapable trap I'll never get out of.
It's sad that they can't make movies like this anymore. Just a simple story about life, great performances, heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. No studio would take a chance on this.
Very true. Dating in 2024 is much different than in 1954. It makes things easier but it took the personal element from it. Women dont love themselves anymore. They don’t respect themselves anymore. They’re not discreet anymore. They don’t leave anything to imagination anymore. They expose themselves in every single way on facebook, instagram, tik tok, etc. if a woman is doin that, what type of men they’re gonna meet? Creeps. Kinda sad.
Even then, social media would reject him, mostly because he’s a 30 year-old man, white, straight, fat, short (Ernest, and thereby Marty, was 5 foot, 9 and a half inches tall) and lives at home with his mom. Modern society standards would have excluded Marty, even on social media.
@@ghanasoul The majority of people in poverty r womenn and children and males now outnumber womenn in the world because of males committing femicide. Male tyranny and crimes against humanity need to be addressed. Until then enjoy the male loneliness epidemic and declining birth rates. 🐱🥂🐻
I can relate, after a while it gets ridiculous to continue. But I fully understand that you can’t win if you don’t enter. So I’ll be a loser, somebody has to be.
Caucasian young men in the 60s decided they didn't want to do that anymore. They didn't want to put on suits and show a girl they could dance. The girls finally stopped trying to twist their arms. What replaced it was avoidance (like Marty) or mosh pit jiggles, pickups, heavy drinking and drugs. No indication that the guy couldn't dance of that he thought he looked g-y. He felt confident just sitting or leaning and watching the parade. In the late 70s the music industry tried to restart the couples dancing in the non latin sector by showcasing popular actors like Travolta, Bacon and Swayze in movies. Young men rejected it again in the 80s. I think Xanadu killed it. Too elaborate and a bit too effeminate with the young men in the film. By then 20 years had passed and such clubs were long gone or being torn down.
@@STho205 You forgot the rise of discos in the '70s & '80s.. That was a real trend toward dance clubs. Studio 54 and all the copycat places around the country.. Don't distort history.
@@DexterHaven which became a hive for club girls and gay men. The US disco trend lasted about 10 years centered on 1977, and was mostly replaced by the comedy club return.
The egos have taken over. There is no humility (humbleness) in actors, let alone any of the rest of Hollywood, today. Only a truly humble person can deliver a humble performance. And only a truly humble person can truly love, like Ernest Borgnine.
Formula Movies are made by mega studios to make money . That’s why I watch independent films, foreign films that deal with people, their emotions and the artists that translate their vision onto the screen.
He gave a free talk at the la noho library-standing room only all ages-he exuded warmth kindness sincerity and love for all-no ego-said he got paid $500 for “Marty” - what a film-what a guy-genuine -his smile lit up the room-amongst all else he talked about buying his RV to see America & it was wonderful to feel the love he had for his family - need more like him
When I add up the years of all my long-term relationships, it comes to about 30 years. I'm solo now. I went from one relationship to the next without any real time-out. After my last one ended, a voice inside myself said, "You need some time to be on your own for a while before the next one." With some effort on part, along with some time, and to my utter surprise, I came to embrace the solo lifestyle. Man oh man, I absolutely LOVE it! I have no desire to get into a relationship again. And the more time that goes by, the more and more I love solo living even more so. I learned that ALONE vs. LONELINESS are two different things. Alone is just the physical thing of having no one around. Loneliness is a mental state. You can feel totally lonely when you are in a roomful of people, or you can feel totally at peace and content when you are all by yourself. 😃
In an interview Borgnine said while filming “Marty” in Hoboken he needed extra security because he was receiving death threats because his character killed Frank Sinatra’s character in “ From Here To Eternity “. LoL Ernest played some dark characters but Marty was wonderful and through his interviews you can tell that he loved life and was a genuinely good guy
Marty is my spirit animal. I feel his pain when it comes to suffering from loneliness and being neglected. Hoping to find happiness and all you keep getting in return is more hurt and pain from heartbreak and rejection. This movie has a message I really wish some took to heart these days.
This movie was moving and real. It felt so sad that he was alone and everyone wanted him to “ find “ someone BUT then when he finally finds a girl All the ppl in his life tried to discourage him for their own selfish reasons. He finally realized he HAD to choose happiness for himself Disspite his friends and family. A true life lesson
It must have been surreal experience for Ernest Borgnine to win the best actor Oscar over fellow nominee, Spencer Tracy, who he co-stared in "Bad Day at Black Rock" also in 1955. He respected Spencer so much.
Tracy advised Borgnine not to take the part in "Marty", saying that it would be a little black & white movie that no one would ever see. At the Academy Award ceremony, as Borgnine walked to the stage to accept the Oscar, he passed Tracy, and Tracy said "you never listen to me, do you?"
I watched this movie a few years ago on TCM. The plot is so simple but kept me riveted. When folks say they don’t make them like they used to, this is what they mean. The best story telling doesn’t need a whole lot of flash and bang. Marty is absolutely the best of story telling.
Even just thinking about this scene and this entire movie, makes me tear up. Such honesty about the human condition. And what amazing performances, that script! One of my most favorite films for sure
The first time I saw this movie I stumbled upon it and had been single for 6 years…I went another 5 years single, this scene literally made me cry my eyes out for years, I’ve always felt a deep connection to Marty since that seeing it for the first time.
I only knew the man from Airwolf, but I seem to remember him making me cry as a young man, he was in retrospect the true gem of that show. This was a great scene, it really tugged at the roots of my heart. Brilliant performance mr Borgnine👏
If you haven't seen "Marty" do yourself a favor and check it out. It is a great movie and Ernest Borgnine truly earned the Oscar for it. Casablanca was similar in that neither movie was really supposed to be anything special but somehow everything came together and they turned out to be really special movies. it really is a heart warming movie.
Our media-driven culture really got it's start in the 1950s. We had Paul Newman, Marlon Brando and James Dean in the movies...so guys like "Marty" compared themselves to them and decided they were deficient. Our country is driven by celebrity.
Huge Borgnine fan. He played a sadistic character who beat Sinatra to death in "From Here to Eternity" and then masterfully played Marty, a sensitive and vulnerable man. In real life, he was cheerful and friendly.
Boy is that the power of art reflecting/portraying realities! Being on the phone as a 47 yr old guy frustration dumping recently to my 77 year old mother on the phone. "You don't understand!" I exclaimed. She replied; " I do understand ". Then as the conversation continued she proved she didn't understand. I don't look like a "Marty" on the outside but feel the suffering of one. on the inside.
The character of Marty is only supposed to be in his mid-30s. It's amazing how society can make you feel like you have no chance at finding your person after such a young age! And I felt the exact same way at 34, and met my now-husband at 35. If you want to find someone, you don't have to give up.
My husband was 37 when we met. His whole family thought he'd never marry. They never liked me much but that didn't bother us. 40 years later most of them are gone and we're still married.
Isn't ABSOLUTELY AMAZING how such classic movies are SO RELATABLE in our Lives,...up-to-date...??? The emotion,...the relatable of Character, Marty,..performed to it's full potential by Ernest Borgnine...Blessings to everyone that relates to such Heart-Felt movies..💙💙💙
Reminds me of The Carpenters Superstar “ Loneliness is such a sad affair “ . That really got to me after seeing this clip. My hat off to the one who thought of putting this clip on RU-vid.
Whatever people say about the guy, I was a nobody, met him at Dragoncon in 2008, when i met him again at the same con in 2012, he stepped past the two young ladies fronting his table, held his hands to me, and smiled, and said "Brother Tim"! my nerd friends were floored -- as was I, he remembered our conversation, like it had been the day before, he died, like a year later.
Glad you got to see Enie then. I remember going to DragonCon and seeing him but was afraid to pay the 75 bucks for meet and greet because i just lost my job. I still regret it being a huge fan. My distant cousin worked with him on Marty.
Wow! Just wow! So much in one little scene. The pressing on of vicarious desire in the face of abject defeat. The never ending circle of unfulfilled goals played off against each other, in a very real setting, and with, I think, very real relatable lines.....
