No lies in that clip. I will not date a man who doesn’t take the initiative. I’ve seen too many women lead from the beginning and it becomes the dynamic in marriage too
Then tell your fathers, uncles, grandfathers, OGs to stop sitting on their azzes talking about sports all day and go teach these boys how to be men. Even deacons and ministers in churches across the nation have dropped the ball in the areas of teaching boys how to be honorable men. But no one wants to discuss that part out loud.
@mca217 Where are their own fathers? That's their job. I understand the dysfunction in men, but the dysfunction in wmn needs to be addressed as well. Why are wmn picking scum as fathers/husbands and not honorable men for themselves to raise their kids? The church dropped the ball by not addressing broken homes years ago and holding ppl accountable for not valuing family as God does.
Yeah it was more convenient for me so I took initiative but then I started feeling so masculine. Him taking the lead from the start attracted me to him. But then he started not being able to take hints and wanted me to “aggressively ask” and I’m like…this isn’t normal I don’t feel feminine. Ended it the next day. It feels weird being a woman doing the pursuing
@@timothyrobinson3938 I’m not confusing anything. Maybe you could have asked me to clarify. I am an adult. I have my responsibilities. Taking care of what I need to, does not make me masculine. However doing the chasing as a woman doesn’t feel natural. Paying for a man doesn’t feel natural. Having to be “aggressive” doesn’t feel natural. I felt like I wasn’t BEING feminine and it was uncomfortable.
@@timothyrobinson3938 what are you even talking about?? Adults also listen…I didn’t get rejected…I literally said he asked me out and that initially attracted me to him. But that’s where his lead ended. figuring out you’re not compatible with someone isn’t “making excuses to shield you”. i want a man that leads and makes me feel secure and protected. If I don’t feel that, we aren’t compatible. Being a protector, a provider, a leader are masculine qualities. I have no interest in having to take on these roles as a woman when I don’t NEED to. Maybe breathe a bit before commenting this time. You’re projecting ALOT. It was not that serious my dude
It’s better than all the boys acting thirsty for her and wanting her. At least she’s safer going up to them then them going up to her and harassing her.
Yayyyy!! Ya'll finally got "THE" Bishop RC Blakes!! I love it!! Good stuff, RC! This man of God NEVER disappoints!! Pay attention ladies and gentlemen! 😍🙏🏽💯🎤💪🏽
This is wisdom speaking. Please don’t miss what he is saying or be offended. If you want to “shoot your shot” go ahead but don’t find it odd when that particular relationship is mostly led by you, if it even turns into that. He did not say a woman should not do anything, but it is a woman’s job to present herself well. Not to chase or pursue a guy. Do we really think it’s normal for a woman to pursue and even propose? Some of you have commented that this advice is stupid but it does have biblical backing, so is that stupid too? It would be best to just say you are not going to adhere to the advice, but it is most definitely not stupid.
Well it's the single mothers raising these boys now and wonder why men are weak now. These females raise the same boys their going to future disrespect.
It's true, as a female it sucks because we really shouldn't chase. When I did, I got no reciprocation. So sorry to burst everyone's bubble but we females end up marrying a different choice just because he reciprocated and pursues.
It doesn’t suck for me. I enjoy being chased & pursued by masculine men. It keeps me in my feminine & it feels natural. Only a desperate, masculine woman would chase a man
What in the world are you talking about? Are you serious ? All he has to do is say no or walk away. BM do not have to have every woman be his type, just one. Every woman shouldn't try to fulfill his personal wants. She needs to be herself. Some men actually like women who are direct. They don't have to guess whether they're chosen. Every man is not the same. The type of group narcissism where they pressure all males to say they are just as scary as them is only a way to cover for to their personal weakness. How do males doing so badly get to make demands, create rules, have BW hang on every word they say and have the most women leaving them of all men at the same time ? You are aware when you allow them to change your personality you're still chasing them ? You're making yourself into a lie to comfort a weak male. Be yourself and be with the right person for yourself. Be with a person who accepts the real you. Women get to choose in every way. BW need to be their authentic self. If a BM can't keep up so what ? There's someone else coming by every few minutes. They need to get out of your face with the bs though.
Crazy thing is, a woman doesn’t even have to leave her feminine to shoot her shot. She can do something real subtle but effective. But even then it’s the guys responsibility to pick up the hint and seal the deal. Her approach won’t be as direct as a man but a little smile , a little flick of the hair, a little greeting in passing. Y’all know the vibes lol
It is a woman’s job to present herself well. The man is very capable of approaching her. If she looks at you, smiles etc that’s still not her approaching a man and/or chasing him. What you mentioned is very different.
A man of God will always tell you the truth, unapologetically. I can respect EVERY word of that. Pastor Blakes is doing the Lords work. God bless you, Sir. I never miss one of your videos.
I have always believed that! You need to have enough confidence to come and say hello. This just happened to me recently. I just think at a certain age, men should know this. Be the man, and I will be the woman. Please 🙏🏾
I mean………..he right tho. If a man can’t do the first thing in leadership do you really want him anyway?!? You will forever be doing the work. I dated a guy he was not a leader and was a complete waste of time.
@@kindnesswins2025 I just had to block one who DM’d me looking for conversation but wasn’t giving any conversation but “hello beautiful” and after I declined giving him my number he got mad and said I wasn’t reciprocating any energy but all he was saying was good morning beautiful, I was asking the questions. Like how do you jump in somebody inbox and want them to chase you. It’s wicked out here!😫😂
The men today are sitting back waiting for the women to come to them...they don't shoot their shot anymore...I'm wondering if I'm playing on the wrong team bcuz I'm having no luck with men at all 😢
It’s crazy right, just sitting back feeling all entitled to whoever, I remember being in High school and we would get that new student to the school and if he was cute all the girls would be plotting, chasing to get his attention first. He ain’t have to do no work!! And that behavior created this feminine energy in the men and women are on the prowl doing the hunting. What’s weird is the comfortability in it all.
Leave them alone they will figure out that the woman that pursues them is a desperate pickme and the real woman will attract a masculine man. Just look amazing and act feminine they will approach you.
@timothyrobinson3938 you are full of 🧢. We didn’t “ask” for anything, men created the patriarchy which is crumbling. Woman is independent because she needs to take care of herself until she finds a mate. We will be keeping our standards high!!
I am a woman. Bishop R.C. Blakes is highly respected by us women. He speaks the whole truth!!!! Thank you for having this VERY WISE gentleman on your channel.I hope you have him on again. Great choice 🍃🌿🌺🍃🌺
You don't have to pursue him but you can drop hints that you're feeling him and if he doesn't pick up in it then leave...you never know what may come of it
Sorry, but she doesn't have to give hints. If a man wants you, he will open his mouth straight forward, she doesn't even have to look at him. Man shouldn't have it easier in any way. Stay as you are when it comes to approaching 👌
No they just need to be careful of who they allow to interview them. They’re a very classy couple. Women throw themselves at men they find attractive all the time, look at how they treat R&B singers. It’s life lol
#WHOOOOOOOAAAAAH when he said You're going to look desperate...manipulate you and run through you...AND THAT IS THE TRUTH....YOUR TIME WILL BE WASTED!! #SeparatedYouFromYourVirtue‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
It’s a difference between a woman’s aggressive approach versus a woman sub communicating her IOI(Indicator of interest). If you got to cold approach, you’ve already lost as a man. Don’t set yourself up for humiliation because you want to prove your so called confidence gentleman
In defense of the women. Some women would not have to be masculine/aggressive if the men would be a good leader. A lot of men have women doing all the work a man should be doing. My relationship end because the man i was in a relationship with became lazy. He stopped doing the manly things and wanted to stay. Watched me struggle to get things done while he sitting around doing nothing. He wasn't man enough to tell me he no longer wanted the relationship what he did was stop doing the mans role. So somebody had to do it. Me. I lost respect for him after that. I wish he would have broken up wirh me and left the home instead of becoming to me what i saw as an a hole.
He’s absolutely right. I’ve never shot my shot at a man but I am guilty of trying to push dates forward, coordinate our plans as far as time/date, pick the place etc after he’s shown interest and said he wants to take me out instead of waiting for him to lead us on where we’re going what we’re doing etc. I’m realizing my most of those men have been kinda lazy and didn’t want to put that extra effort in and it was easier for me to do it. They say where do you want to go and when. I know just telling them the days I’m free and leave it at that. It weeds out time wasters and men who didn’t want to put in effort from the start because they either cancel or expose their intentions by the place they choose to take me.
I am afraid of a weak man. A can't take me out, pay a bill when you always want to come over to my house and pack a takeout box that he brought for both of us to eat. Run women
I know a girl who proposed to a man he said yes and now 30 years of know each other he had been miserable the whole marriage. They never had a true marriage. He just work while sits at home doing nothing. He cooks, clean, etc not her. Red flag.
@elroyjetson6380... firstly, I have to address you being a 49er fan!! #bangbang49ergang It's pretty simple, I am not going to pull up on a man, asking for his number, trying to set up dates first! If we make eye contact, I'll simply speak and keep it moving. He has to have the courage to stop me and ask for my number. I never take a guy's number, I'll give my number, and it's on you if you use it. Females are emotional beingings, and we tend to tie everything to emotions. That's how we're wired. I won't emotionally tie myself to a number just because he gave it to me. What's the heart looking like, are the actions lining up with what they are saying, what are they looking for, what am I looking for. If I'm the one making the moves, how does he perceive me... oh, she's a woman who knows what she wants, wrong, that's a man that didn't have the courage to approach her, IF he was really interested. I think men give women their numbers that approach them because it takes the guesswork out of things. Shoot your shot! No one likes rejection, but everything/everyone shouldn't be accepted! There's blessings in the rejection! He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, Proverbs 18:22! Wives should be pursed, I'm a wife, I'm a whole rib out here waiting patiently! Lol 😆 🤣 If men are not looking for a wife, keep giving your numbers to women who approach you! I hope that answers your question.
@elroyjetson6380 firstly, I have to address you being a 49er fan!! #bangbang49ergang It's pretty simple, I am not going to pull up on a man, asking for his number, trying to set up dates first! If we make eye contact, I'll simply speak and keep it moving. He has to have the courage to stop me and ask for my number. I never take a guy's number, I'll give my number, and it's on you if you use it. Females are emotional beingings, and we tend to tie everything to emotions. That's how we're wired. I won't emotionally tie myself to a number just because he gave it to me. What's the heart looking like, are their actions lining up with what they are saying, what is he looking for, what I'm I looking for. If I'm the one making the moves, how does he perceive me... oh, she's a woman who knows what she wants, wrong, that's a man that didn't have the courage to approach her, IF he was really interested. I think men give women their numbers that approach them because it takes the guesswork out for them. Shoot your shot! No one likes rejection, but everything/everyone shouldn't be accepted! He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, Proverbs 18:22. I'm a wife, I'm a whole rib out here waiting patiently, lol 😆 If a man is not looking for a wife, then they can continue giving their numbers to women who approach them. I hope that answers your question.
@elroyjetson6380... firstly, I have to address you being a 49er fan!! #bangbang49ergang It's pretty simple, I am not going to pull up on a man, asking for his number, trying to set up dates first! If we make eye contact, I'll simply speak and keep it moving. He has to have the courage to stop me and ask for my number. I never take a guy's number, I'll give my number, and it's on you if you use it. Females are emotional beingings, and we tend to tie everything to emotions. That's how we're wired. I won't emotionally tie myself to a number just because he gave it to me. What's the heart looking like, are the actions lining up with what they are saying, what is he looking for, what I'm I looking for. If I'm the one making the moves, how does he perceive me... oh, she's a woman who knows what she wants, wrong, that's a man that didn't have the courage to approach her, if he was really interested. I think men give women their numbers that approach them because it takes the guesswork out for them. Shoot your shot! No one likes rejection, but everything/everyone shouldn't be accepted! He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, Proverbs 18:22. I'm a whole rib out here waiting patiently. I'm single, not desperate. If a man isn't looking for a wife, then he can continue giving his number to women who approach him! I hope that answers your question. 😊
I am so glad I don’t pursue no man!!!! Women remember the Bible say when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. Y’all trying rewrite the Bible as saying God you don’t know what your talking about.
Where does it say in the bible a man has to pursue? He who finds a wife finds a good thing ONCE that man considers to marry. Y’all literally flipped this verse into thinking men are supposed to chase and pursue y’all.
@@MochateaaaaWhen a female has honored the covenant between her and The Most High, heals and loves herself, she will be gifted with her husband. Husbands are guys who gave their lives to The Most High, and also honored THEIR covenant between himself and The Most High. That way, he was shown how to heal.. how to love himself, how to honor The Most High. And he gets in the energy of being a Husband. Then they can align. No "chasing" needed. They'll both be healed, both in Truth, and both able to DISCERN when they're being approached by their Husband. He who finds a Wife.
This is the only way a relationship will work with a masculine man. The man has to pursue the woman & like her more. Men choose their wives & control marriage. Being desperate won’t get you anywhere. Ladies stop focusing on who you like & focus on who likes you #FreeGame
Better yet, focus on liking yourSELF first. A Wife is a woman who is in connection with The Most High. A Husband is a man who is in connection with The Most High. We gotta stop being afraid of Solitude.
@@RighteousRockstar girl hush! This is about relationships & masculine women pursuing men. You’re just looking to disagree & argue bc your comment is completely off topic. Y’all are just single, lonely & bitter. When they ask how to be alone then you can give your expert advice about solitude.
Men have to worry about harassment charges. If she's not interested, you become creepy. Creepy means scary. You can literally lose your job or reputation. New world were in now.
There's still a difference between a female who is more masculine, energetically, vs a Female who has both Masculine and Feminine energy but operates in balanced energy of both.
@@RighteousRockstar money displayed in wads by a man or women, fast expensive cars whether owned by a man or woman, large extravagant opulent homes owned by a man or woman, expensive jewelry on a man or woman... A gun held by a man or woman, flashy expensive clothes worn by a man or a woman... Are all feminine energy. The process of building a house, obtaining the minerals that make a gun, building a car, making clothes, making the material for making clothes... Whether done by a man or a woman, are all masculine energy. Masculine and Feminine energy are abstract concepts not social traits.
Can we leave this relationship mess in 2023 please. Grown people just do what u want. Some men are simply scared of rejection or just super shy. Sometimes a female has to start the convo to let the guy know its ok. Everyone aint the same 😩.
I'm a very confident, strong woman and it takes a MAN to be with me. People come to me all the time like "so and so is interest in you or wants to know if you're single" Im never interested bc only teens do things like that. You have to be a man stepping to me bc I present so you can pursue.
A woman that makes the first move is a bold woman and not necessarily an aggressive or a desperate woman. Aggression has to do with character. Ruth pursued Boaz.
Exactly. Not buying it at all. And you already know the two men he is talking about think what he saying is BS. They will not chase women. Chase them for what?? Especially when they have other women that are showing Simone Biles level interest. Everyone should go where they are wanted. Not with a cat and mouse game lover.
Often it's not about being a leader lol. Pookies and pimps have no problem shooting their shot. Quick to call a man sassy for not wanting you instead of looking into why men aren't seeing you worthy of pursuit.
If the man doesn't want a woman then it's understandable that he isn't chasing her. That's what folks are warning Simone about now. Chasing her "catch" of a husband who didn't pursue her.
@@filmadcamp1512 Naw, Simone didn't chase, she went after what she wanted. He obviously indicated interest, or she wouldn't have wasted her time. BW just hate seeing a BM be pursued and win. The same harpies acting like they care about Simone are the same ones talking about her hair when she got married. She did the same thing the gold diggers, prostitutes and "boss babes" do; go after what she wanted, and got it. This is not the story the sistahood wants because it would push BW to put forth an effort instead of sitting around waiting on a saviour to drop out of the sky. The fact that she's as gorgeous and accomplished as she is and STILL was willing to effort bodes well. BW fawn over and Chase WM all day ( with few results) and that isn't a problem. This Simone Owens talk is really about the disgust BW feel when a high -earning BW isn't arrogant enough to see a BM who earns less as beneath her, and worthy of marriage.
What difference does it make when men ALREADY KNOW FROM DAY 1, what he's planning to do in that relationship. Men, and men with daughters, will talk GUY CODE in front of girls, ladies, woman and men, but BEHIND CLOSE DOORS when it's only guys are around tell the real truth, it's confusing when we fall for lies then called degrading names to justify non moral 👀 behavior like "you this, that". Fortunately not all guys are like that; women who watch this video will think the guy is being honest 😂😂😂 The truth is a lot of women know that if they fall in love, work, cook, clean, have your babies some will still cheat😂😂😂. Honesty always win. If you don't truly love that woman be honest; don't give the good woman a baby because you know she will raise your child/children properly then run off with easy morales people.👀 Don't follow these made up "predictable", compromising self sacrificing rules", predictable is easy" will always have the power.💯
If we would continue focusing on The Most High and building our relationship with The Most High FIRST, we would know that Self Love comes first. If you have a strong connection with The Most High, you're going to be shown how to love your Self. And that way, you won't be tricked by a guy who doesn't love you or doesn't love himself. A guy who doesn't love The Most High DOESN'T love himself. And that means he WON'T love you.
It's really creepy how he's using the word "we" as if he's okay with this spiritual graping men are doing. Anytime someone is hiding their true intentions in a relationship while taking from their partner that is spiritual grape.
But today society women are the one going after guys and a lot of times they end up getting married and I’m just like what the heck is going on I’m not chasing no guy it feels weird and unnatural
Wow! LORD JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH MAKE ME OVER! THANK YOU FOR THE STRENGTH FOR WHAT I HAD TO ENDURE TO BE WHERE I AM AT TODAY IN LIFE. BLESS YOU 🙏🏾 AND THANK YOU 💙
Thats not absolutely true, the person shooting their shot just finds the person they're shooting for attractive. The person might naturally also find them attractive but they're acting out in self discipline towards a goal maybe to compliment the shooters attraction. . .
I agree with the Bishop but it’s more like men “choose”, not “chase”. He doesn’t chase until he finds, he knows exactly what he’s looking for and only chooses her when he sees it in her. Chasing is inherently a cat & mouse ‘game’ and grown/mature men don’t entertain games. Remember, he who “finds”…….
