Don't be hard on yourself. It's a new place, with new people and you're far away from home. Everyone would feel anxious and lonely in those circumstances. You're beautiful, funny, interesting and caring. You have so much to give in a friendship and I'm sure in time you'll make some friends. I'll give you some advice on socialising. Everyone's number one favorite thing is themselves and their interests, so if you want to talk to people, ask them questions about themselves. Simple things like "what do you think is the best/worst thing on the menu in the cafeteria?" When you ask for someone's opinion it implies that you value their opinion and by extension them, which is something people like. Ask questions and listen to what they say. The more people say to you the more likely you'll be able to find an experience or opinion you have that is similar, which you can then contribute to the conversation. Most people will be forgiving in social situations, because everyone has been socially awkward at sometime, so they can relate more than you probably realise. Focus on all the positives and look forward as best you can! I look forward to hearing you play your guitar!
You're not weird. You're just extraordinary. Being introverted can be tough and socialising can be exhausting. You're an awesome person and many people would love to have you as a friend. Being introverted means it's hard work to be social, but it's absolutely doable. Doing group activities is a great way to meet people with similar interests. Sooner or later, you definitely will make actual good friends. You just need to keep at it. There's nothing wrong with you. Just try to meet people and some of them will stick around.
There are a lot of ways we enjoy knowing other people care about us that are not selfish. It feels nice to have someone ask how your day is going, or for them to want to hang out with you specifically, or invite you to go somewhere. It just feels good to know that we make others feel happy enough to be important to them. So don't feel bad about wanting to be cared about by people. Thank you a lot for this video Ito. I'm feeling all of these same emotions in college, and it feels nice to know that I'm not alone in having this kind of struggle, when it seems like everyone else easily falls into friend groups and study groups. Anyway, good luck! I hope you get to talk more with your friend from the ensemble soon!
Selfishness is the rule in this world. Don't worry about the selfish. Don't let the selfish destroy your self-esteem. There are people who genuinely care about others, but they are not the rule, you don't get them as easily as you get the selfish one. Egoists have their own destiny written and it is to create their own hell. Don't envy them, they don't even know what they're doing.
I really resonate with you. When I started College, Almost everyone knew eachother already from in highschool and I felt like the only new person there. People were hanging out in groups and I was always sitting alone, In the cafetaria, in the big classrooms, in the student lounges, even in the dorms I was always alone. When I started my second year of college, I knew from day 4 that I was going to be alone again the whole year. I feel like such an outsider. I look different than everyone and I seem to have ''weird'' hobbies and interests. I am nice to people if they do talk to me, but no one feels interested in me. It's so devastating. I struggle with socializing and anxiety so much that my only friends are online friends even though i only have like 4 people online too. Groupwork is the worst. going to school physically makes me feel bad about myself even though i kinda like who i am. I am a nerd and maybe a bit of a weirdo. I am a loner who enjoys listening to music and playing instruments and games. I don't want to change to fit in with the rest even though being like who i am now is the reason why i am alone.
14:00 "I don't want to burden people... maybe there is something wrong with me". Life after corona virus is lonely. People have learned they don't need each other. There are wars. But none of that is your fault.
Who cares if anyone finds you 'weird' for liking plushies, stickers, splatoon or whatever... your 'weird' is wonderful to some people. Find other 'nerds' to talk to, who will accept you for what you love. That is the best life, having people who accept you how you are and find it wonderful. Not everyone's opinion about you needs to matter.
It’s awesome that you joined a music club, getting to be with people who share your interests is a great way to meet a new friend(s). The Callie and Marie amiibos look beautiful, especially Marie, the umbrella is fabulous! And ayyyy Pearl and Marina as well? Girl you luckyyyy! It may be tough to connect with people socially, a bit of advice I can give if you ever do get into groups is ask about something simple, like “What food do you like/dont like? Or if you want to ask about something school related, “Can you give me some advice with this project?” It gives them the impression that you value their input and ideas, especially as you ask them more and more questions. It’s never selfish to want to connect with other people, and you being there with them is never a burden for others. You may be alone now, but NO ONE is ever born to be alone. I believe one day, you’ll be able to interact with people the way you want to. One day, you’ll have a group of friends/loved ones that love and care for you and your interests. The one thing I want you to do is to keep trying. Take baby steps, maybe point out something nice about someone’s outfit every day or in music club, compliment how someone played. A little compliment can go a long way to making people want to talk to you. Even outside of socializing, try to like list at least one thing you loved about the day, and over time try to list even more things you loved. Whether it be about yourself or the world around you, it helps to appreciate the world and life around you. Please, keep trying. Work towards a better tomorrow for yourself. Take care and love yourself Ito, we’re all rooting for you❤❤❤ (Also, a little excerpt from FFXIV cause I feel it might fit the title lol) “Stand tall, my friend May all of the dark deep inside you find light again This time, tumbling, turning we make amends Eternal winds from the land ascend Here to lift us that we won't end” Have a good day / night Old man Ito. Take care friend. ❤💕💖💕🦋
in my experience, "weird" means 'interesting.' some nuts are hard to crack, but are still worth the effort. maybe you're just one of the tough pistachios. i realize that some days i will just feel down or drained and i have a few things i'll do that at least clear my mind. i drink water … it's weird how many body responses are linked to dehydration. may i'll also have some protein, nuts, egg, etc. then i'll play minesweeper because it's hard but short and makes me focus. also i have some particular songs that always move me ¬ i think you would have luck with that too. be well.
You may not see it right now, but you will be ok. There are so many people out there that feel the same way you do. You are not alone, even if you feel like you are!
REAL TIP: For conversations and meeting people: - just dont talk. Dont make it about yourself. - most people do not have someone to talk to. If you want to be liked by someone, just ask about them. People are too busy being worried about themselves, to worry about you. And they too dont have people with whom to talk. So make it about them, not you. But they themselves may be just as awkward and unprepared, so create an easy system for you and them. "Can I ask a favor? I'd like to sit next to someone new. Can I sit here for a few minutes, and maybe ask 3-4 questions meanwhile?" Ask 3-4 questions, thank them, repeat that 2-3 days later, and once every week until it is a habit. And if you see it just wont work, then its no problem either because you make no exact binding promises. Your struggles come from you trying to improvise friendships. Do not. Do it like adult salesmen: systemize it. You create 3-4 easy questions, and you repeat the system until it has been normalized to both you and others. The easiest is to build habits, instead of friendships. In business networking events, people meet, ask 2-3 questions, thank each other, occasionally grab contacts, and move onto the next person. If the contact was interesting, they dont pursue it right then and there: they do it in a follow-up meeting or a separate one.
Super easy mode is also: - do it on a guy/man. Ask to sit there, ask 3-4 questions, thank them, and say "Thank you. You know, you are very kind." Congrats, that guy will literally remember it for the next 40 years. (Not joking: I remember the 1 time a girl in school asked me if I was alright because I was all alone lying flat on a bench. I thought she was so kind. That's 20 years ago, and I still occasionally think about it.)
I completely understand what you mean about wanting friends and feeling lonely at school. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. I never had to go to school really far from home, but I can imagine it would be lonely and frightening for me. I’ve definitely had long periods of time without friends to hang out with irl, and it’s always rough, though luckily I’ve also had family to do stuff with instead.
7:21 this always happens to me too bro I just be sitting there awkwardly and then the teacher puts me in a group and don't talk that much besides if im asked a question but like what am I supposed to talk about Dark Souls lore? everything I like is mad nerdy lol.
i was literally listening to ur videos like a podcast while working and i was thinking man it'd be so nice if the videos were longer and u posted this today. im so happy:3
I think I know what you mean with the dull type of pain that you described. I guess you have to drive it away by doing things that make you happy. I also had the feeling, that I was maybe not meant to have a lot of friends, because usually, if I meet someone and I really grow to like that certain person, something stupid happens and I loose that person. But I also think in a lot of ways, life is like a souls game. you die many times before eventually succeeding, so if you give up, you essentially become hollow. Which means, as you already said many times, we have to do our best. You being scared of people finding you weird is something, that indeed many people do but it is really sad, if you think about it, because everyone is weird in their own way. And then there is the question of who even decides what weird is. it is basically a socially made up concept to describe people, that are different from the majority. But that often just means, that they have something, that makes them special, which will be intriguing for a lot of people as well. I am really sure, that you will find friends in the music group you joined, as that is a place, where you should automatically meet likeminded people, so for now: time for your Bocchi The Rock ark to start!
Hey, we hear you, most of us here (or me at least) feels like you do and would like thing to go better or have gone in some other way, but the truth is social skills is something you build up from habit; in a way it makes it hard when starting from scratch but the good thing is that one day, if you begin to understand more and more on how to vommunicate and stuff, you'll have lots of friends or a group of besties that love you with all their heart content. Don't give up, we are here for you (even if we can just listen and text you) ❤ good luck
4:14 AHHH Callie AND MARIEEE I’m going to get the Side Order Pearl and Rina at some point! Probably Christmas because the gold and silver in looks immaculate And Pearls my favorite
Sometimes things are just in your head. There are obviously a lot of people that are interested in your true self, who want to be your friend. There r always people who have the same hobbies as you and can relate with you. Even so I know it's hard to act as yourself around people, the nervousness and anxiety just keep coming. Everyone has their own battle to fight, and I know I can't fully understand your feeling, but I hope we all can keep trying our best and keep going forward in life. Hope you the best🤍
I always freeze up when they say to group up in school and I just like sit there 😅 You say everything I feel sometimes, I have like 1 irl friend, I’m also introverted af. 😊
I start college tomorrow and I’m also super nervous. It’s an art college, so I’d expect to find people like me there, but I still really struggle to talk to people normally. Like I feel like I come off too strong with my interests, or that I don’t listen to them. I just hope I can find people like me who like me
i struggle with the same things you’re going through i can’t talk to people unless they talk about things i’m interested in and i also have this fear of being perceived as this weird girly for doing stuffs that i really like an enjoy and for wearing the clothes that people won’t find normal. even my own sister thinks i’m immature for being myself so i’d rather be isolated from everyone that wronged me though i know it’s not healthy but it’s far bad when u let them say awful things to you when all you do is be nice to them. i had no friends for years cus of my bad mental health due to bullying and fat shaming. i am having a really hard time socializing with new people. but i’m trying to change that since i’m getting old and i need to do adult stuffs hoping for tomorrows to be okay and someday i’ll get out of this strange feeling.
I feel this inner hurricane too i also feel spiking emotional pain constantly, i feel empty, but this makes me stronger, unfortunately i cannot reach my destiny without this challenge against me, endure it and you will see a better world literally none of these people will see it unless they want your suffering, it's evolution you will be a butterfly soon.
I absolutely love your content, the way that you talk n describe things in your videos is very therapeutic, also ur vids are pretty relatable and your titles of your vids , i been going thru some stuff mentally as well and i can relate to how you feel sometimes. I’m learning how to grieve and take time for myself as my dad has unfortunately passed 2 yrs ago. It’s been a hard time. Life is hard but we learn to keep moving forward, we learn things as we go and trying to learn not to give up.
Don't over think socializing or worry about what you feel people think. Most times, people might feeling the same way as you, but not show it in the same way. You're already taking good steps in finding groups/hobbies with similar interests like Anime club or music club. Just asking people in music club what instruments they play can be a great ice breaker.
You're very brave and amazing for sharing your innermost thoughts with strangers on the internet. I don't think I could ever do that. You're stronger and more charismatic than you give yourself credit for 💐
I too struggle at socializing and tend to feel lonely which sucks. This year I will try to meet new people and some other things, I hope everything goes well for you. Also, I saw your guitar video from Twitter, it was really nice!
You're doing amazing! Starting college can be tough, especially when it comes to making friends, but don't get discouraged! It takes time to find the right people who appreciate you for who you are. Keep being yourself, and soon you'll connect with people who truly value your friendship. You're strong, and you're on a great path. Keep going, you've got this! 👸🏻🫶❤️
man, this hits hard for me too. My college has just started a few weeks ago too, and I had this lingering feeling inside that I *need* to make friends and also connect with new people. The first week for me is just, well harsh. I am a nerd and it's my first time getting into an environment where being a "nerd" is looked at as weird (being a nerd is a cool thing in my hometown). The thing that I've learnt so far is that if I want to befriend these new folks, I have to act like them too... I tried being "normal", and, bam people talk to me a lot more easier... Though, I don't feel strong connection with them, they felt more like acquaintance that I call "friends" because... well, I don't have anyone else :/. Until I met some fellow nerds, whom I can feel actual connections with. So far? I've only felt 3 genuine connections with people in college. The others doesn't feel as close... Remember that you have just started :>>, it's the first semester, even if you've found friends, it doesn't mean that they'll stick with you anyway... So take your time, you don't need to rush finding friends who understands you, be patience, and just be yourself :
i really wish you know how much i and many others can relate to the loneliness you're feeling. i almost started laughing when you mentioned how you find it hard to talk cause i felt like i was listening to myself - i'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing that i end up saying absolutely nothing :) please keep your quirks and interests, that's what makes you you! get that madoka figure!!
Thank you for making this i felt the same way when it came to being alone, a burden to people, I understand what you mean cause I was worried about making friends but just getting to know someone an there interest is a good way to start, i understand that it's scary to socialize but it will be ok going into a new place an having experiences is difficult but I believe those things mold you into a person you never thought you would be, I am also introverted so I get it, I hope tomorrow will be better for you
You're describing how people with acute social anxiety feel, which includes myself, so you are definitely not the only one. You are undergoing pretty intense exposure therapy right now. It doesn't feel good and can feel too much too soon. But if you can hold on in there eventually you will notice that the anxiety will lessen, at least to a tolerable level. On the subject of being perceived as weird, it would surprise me that people pursuing art degrees would be so conservative. Being unique and your genuine self is your artistic power. Never conform!
It is more a matter of indecision, when you want to talk, a thousand scenarios go through your head of how it could go and you end up seeing that it is better to leave it for another time, you end up making a habit of leaving it for a better time, the only thing I could do to leave it was stopping thinking about the good things I already had to achieve what was supposed to make me happier.
one thing i do to reevaluate myself and what has happened on a particular day is journalling. you can think about it and can make clear choices on what to do and what not to. i have started doing journalling for 2 weeks almost. it has helped me plenty. hit me up if you wanna join with me on this journey. anyone and everyone interested is welcome.
I really hope you'll be okay!! Good thing to see you got your net for your plushies! And love to see your onesiee! Would look super cute and kawaii on you!! ANd it really suits you!! Love your amiibos!! Maria is so cutee!!! Its nice to see the gamestop employee is saving you stock too!!! It really nice to see a sense of community of where you live and how people are caring for you! I love hearing about your updates and it motivates me to continue with my life too!! Your super motivational and inspirational in my life! Your collection is so cool!! And I love how your coming along!! Your loneliness: Don't be hard on yourself! I understand being along, having no friends. I ABSOLUTELY understand why you feel nervous and feel left out! I felt like the same when I was in school! I wish I were there with you irl to be your personal assistant and to be beside you and to help you everyday with tasks and to make you feel unlonely! Don't let others thoughts intrude your mind, Don't let others think that your "weird" because your not! Its your hobby, its your interest and its cute and cool! Your super quirky and unique!! Personally: I think your unique that you carry stickers and plushies around with you!! Making friends is difficult. Even for myself. I know its hard to get along with people and making friends. I COMPLETELY understand with you. I feel the EXACT same with you. It might be just my autism but your super brave for putting yourself in a vulnerable position in front of a camera and talk about yourself. I like your whole personality and how you carry yourself. My advice: Just be yourself, give yourself a daily challenge such as "make small talk with a classmate you sit near". What I find helps is to ask people about their day and talk about themselves and ask the person questions. I have no friends irl. And I feel bothered by it sometimes. I just live my life and let it go on. I don't bother with "finding" people I let them find me. While I focus on improving myself little by little everyday as much as I can.
Remember ito, you can't depend on relying that tomorrow will happen, because it never will. What tomorrow is, will be today, and then there'll be a new tomorrow that we yearn. The future is now, you shouldn't depend on the future knowing that the future is ficction. Make your future today, the future is one second ahead from now, so right now. Start your ideal future, I repeat. The future is now
I grew up somewhat isolated in my teens, talking to people now is easier. Focusing on my goals as a person than the social norms of society. I struggled with talking to just individual people for a long time, just chitchatting seemed like a waste of time to spend on a stranger that I might never see again. Times have changed for me since then, I find that as I've started talking to more people (not many, but more than there use to be) over the past 5 years or so and that it is starting to get easier to talk to groups of people. Talking to others is not a waste of time now, I've made some amazing connections to others that only come from sharing your deepest, most inner thoughts. Everyone has hobbies and habits, just remember if you're not hurting someone, WHO CARES, who cares how weird you might think you act or how someone might perceive you. I will tell you, there is nothing more interesting and rewarding than to watch someone that is passionate about something. The formation of new ideas is a wonderful thing, and that only comes from a passionate individual. I hear you're in a dorm, what are you studying? Sorry if you may have mentioned before in another vlog. You're not alone! Keep going, you can do it! :)
I struggle with loneliness, and it's very severe. Sometimes, I don't understand people, and sometimes, i choose not to understand people because people are very complicated and sometimes judgemental, but i also sometimes prefer my alone time tbh I think i relate to this video alot.
So sorry for your struggles. I know solitude very well. When i was 13 i developed facial hyperhidrosis. Now I withdraw from others to avoid the embarrassment of seeing me sweat. Solitude is my default comfort state. I've learned to live in it.
Also don't invalidate your own feelings. It doesn't matter what you "should" or "shouldn't" think - accept your own emotions. It's perfectly fine to have good things in your life - which you acknowledge - but also feel sad and discontented sometimes! You are not being ungrateful, you are simply being human. There's nothing wrong or unworthy about you.
Just be yourself. If people find you weird they will stay away, the ones that don't are keepers. Let them discover you like some niche product in a vintage store.
just be patient. your're still in school, and you're very young too. one thing, is, is harder to find friends that like what you like. so just find friends first, and just ask questions, youll learn what they like and theyll find what you like, if you have a common ground, then you have something to share and talk about it, if you guys dont, then dont fret, youll learn new things, and they as well. but if youre just fixated on what you like, not saying in an obsessive way, but because its your safe haven, then thats ok as well, as long as you respect each others spaces. also, you seem like a really nice person, but dont ever let people use you to benefit themselves over you. be true to yourself, always. as for finding friends, youll find some at a workplace, or after you graduate. i remember when i first started getting friends, and how hard it was to hide things from them, from being scared of them to judge me. in those days, liking anime or video games, was considered childish and nerdy, and well, i was a nerd, magic the gathering and other card games as well, so i kept a lot to myself, until i found one of the friends i had was into anime too, then other friends from work, ect. like i said, have patience, and dont ever force things. having negative energy can bounce off people, they can sense it too, so you have to flow good energy inside you, and let it breathe because life is complicated, and no one ever said it was easy. so concentrate on whats really important, which is school, family will always be first, but school is top priority now, then it should be close friends, but you can replace that with the things you love. so just get out of your shell, little by little youll gain the confidence to say hi, good morning, hope you have a great day, good evening, hey what do you think about this or that. these conversation starters help alot with your confidence as well. never give up. and remember, if life gives you lemons, you throw them back.
if people think you are weird for things about yourself such as being quiet, loving stickers, carrying yourself in a way they dont like for some reason, then those people are not the people for you. people who uplift and support you typically dont want you to change the things about yourself that make you you. ( exceptions are if its self destructive or something as such but im talking about things like personality likes and dislikes, interests etc )
You know I was just thinking about loneliness being so lonely as of late. I didn’t use think a lot about loneliness. I didn’t even know the meaning of the word. I didn’t mind wandering around places on my own. It was just brought to my attention when some douche told me I was lonely.
Being alone sometimes is good, but that dreadful feeling of loneliness is just annoying to have. But its ok if you ever feel like that, everyone at one point does, and it'll get better, just don't give up. Anyways, I'm having a reality check from this channel wheahwaheahewh
It is harder in person than online, because it’s a process of trial and error, but you’ll find your people that will be more than happy to be your friend and listen to your rants
This might make it easier for you. In your mind, dream of how the perfect first time meeting some one new would be. But feel everything that they would be feeling and doing that would make you feel more comfortable and accepted. Do this over and over. Than start acting like that other person to people. This may not work at first or feel strange to do, but with time you will over come your current perception of yourself. You are just as interesting or more as anyone else from the videos I've watched. My daughter (10) has a natural talent to making friends. She just walks up to new kids and they are playing within a minute like they know each other. From what I understand she isn't too worried about the outcome and her sense of value does seem to be a little more inflated than other kids. Another thing to do is ask questions, get people to talk about themselves. People like to talk about themselves. Since you feel comfortable here. Ask questions for practice in your comments. But be aware of keeping boundaries. I'll chat more if I can. See you later.
i'm also shy too your not alone not the only one that feel this way i feel uncomfortable around others i think it's becuase i'm afraid what others think about me i just can't handle being judge at all that's why i refuse to be confident i do agree most give advice don't care what others think just don't ourselves but there is always gonna be apart of me and some of us that have a hard time that it's hard for some of us to not care what others think but i know some are brave enought to not care what others think even tho it's hard for some of us do not care what others think at the sametime there is apart of me i do love prefer being my real true self doing what makes me happy because i don't wanna be someone that i'm not just to please others because i know it won't make me happy at all i think i'm perfect just the way i am and i also think your perfect just the way you are don't change yourself just to please others i love prefer when your real true self i also wanna say that i know majority think being shy not getting out of our confuse zone is a bad unhealthy unantural thing but it's not bad thing to me trying to force peer pressure some of us to stop being shy i'm not ok with that because i love embrace my shyness, layness and weakness i know the majority demonized weakness and lazyness also a bad thing but it's also not a bad thing to me as well i think there is nothing wrong if some of us are shy, weak and lazy i see it as a good natural thing to me in my book i also love being werid i know the majority think being difference weird is a bad thing too but i thinnk being weird is not a bad thing either to me i think there is nothing wrong with being weird i think it's good natural thing to me i also get called weird too and some don't like how the way i look think i look ugly unattractive but there are some that think i look handsome attractive have there own difference perpective on me well just like most say can't please everyone there will be some that will accept us for who we are and some that won't accpet us for who we are i think it's ok to be weird difference being unique i also wanna say that i love being weird difference i also love to draw art that's my favorite hobby and video games are my favorite hobby too i'm also an outcast unpopular myself too i love prefer being outcast unpopularity over popularity because i always hate it popularity that's just me
I don't want to come off creepy or anything, but if around the end of next year if you're feeling up for it, I can be your talking buddy for a while! I was planning on going overseas for a holiday with my friends but I'm more than willing to help you if you need it. I also struggled with what you are going through right now, but I had to brute force my way? to becoming psuedo extroverted because in University I did NOT want to fail group projects etc. Usually if you didn't talk, you get paired with the worst people who tend to fail, so yeah. I can teach you the kind of things I did, we can practice etc. I really hope you are able to break out of your shell a little bit and care slightly less of what people think of you (I think that's a large key, to not be too wary of people around you, get what you need etc). Also this might be a little messed up, but socialising when you're older gets much easier, BECAUSE, everyone around you is no longer on equal footing, so there's not a huge emphasis on social hierarchy. Also you meet new groups of people so often that you get selective of what social interactions you want to partake in. Soz for the ramble, but best wishes. If need be, idk if you can send me a message but I'm here to talk online as well. Have a virtual hug hahaha
You're in a video game music club? That's awesome! That's kind of become my favorite music genre by now. xD And I totally approve you getting a Madoka figure, I have figures of all the original 5 main characters, best anime ever. Take care, and keep doing your best. :)
Maybe after World War III, the world’s social dynamic will change, and those who are lonely today will no longer feel lonely because of our shared trauma and experiences.
Imagine being so f*cking self-obsessed that you wish death and destruction upon billions because you believe it would make you feel better about how empty your life is. That was the dumbest f*cking thing I've read all day, thanks.
Ive always had a hard time making friends and approaching people and talking to people by the time I'd gone to college to when I graduated I still didn't end up making that many friends. I didn't want to bother anyone, make things awkward, make them uncomfortable or potentially waste their time. In hindsight I dont think I valued myself or what I had to say enough, I thought talking to me would be a chore or bringing up my niche interests or games I was playing would be boring to a stranger, showing my excitement about X or Y would come off as weird. I let those doubts about myself and my concern for other people convince me that making the effort to try and befriend others was a potential burden I was passing onto people. But fundamentally that's wrong, being friends isn't a one sided exchange its a trade, it is not that I get to have them as a friend BUT its also that they get to be friends with me. You dont just get to tell someone about yourself they get to listen and vice versa. I think its important to realize that kind of worth in yourself even if its kind of embarrassing or cringe, "you are funny" , "what you have to say is interesting" , "being friends with me is fun" , " I am fun to play games with", "talking to me is a delight", "my question is important". I like one piece none of my friends like it as much as I do and you know what I think theyre lucky to hear me rant about it every week despite not even knowing what Im talking about
there are no ways around talking if you want to get friends, as hard as it may seem. no one is gonna care for someone who they've never talked to. of course you cant change your personality from introverted to extraverted, but sometimes you just have to fake it. i love your vids, and based on them you are an interesting and unique person, so i bet you'll have tons of friends once you overcome your social anxiety !!! upd: try watching mr. robot. this show is precisely explores the themes of lonlines, and besides that has an amazing atmosphere and breath taking plot. you'll probably like this show even more since you are kinda a programmer. i think you'll like it.
ive been revising for an english exam I have tomorrow but had this playing in the background, and at around 13 minutes in, I related a little too hard, so I'm really hoping things do get better for you very soon :3
Aww you shouldn't be hard on yourself! I doubt anyone would find you weird, and if they do they are the weird ones!! You seem so kind and you're really pretty! I would be your friend if I knew you irl
I bet there are people in your classes who are scared to approach you. Asking themselves why they should because she will “think I’m weird”. You seem really nice, make it easier for them by simply smiling at them. Give someone a sticker for good luck in class. Imagine how you would feel if a classmate reciprocated your gesture with one of their stickers because they love stickers too. I had a classmate who got me through general chemistry and we met when she desperately needed a pen and I offered one if she shared her notes with me lol. We ended us as lab partners. Quality of friends is better than quantity.
This makes me feel so bad ugghhh 😭😞☹️ theres lowkey a bunch of people that like you could make friends with though. I bet if you went to a convention you'd find a bunch of cool people and make new friends 👍👍
to everyone whos reading this, remember to love and take care of yourself. you are amazing. remember to eat and drink and treat yourself to something nice every now and then 🌸
oof the talking about things you like or are interested in but feeling like nobody cares or is annoyed by it is so real im terrified of the way that people perceive me so i can't even with social interactions i wish you the best and all i can say is just keep trying
It will take a while to socialise, but you'll eventually adjust. I'm autistic, and have always struggled talking to people, but the more I kept talking to people...the more I naturally became normal when interacting to people. You'll get there イト. I believe in you!
Yes they will find you weird, not because of your interests, but because you havent cracked the code of socializing yet.. its a skill that starts with observation... and little steps.. you dont even know who you would like to get to know yet, do you? you need to be interested in others before they are interested in you, because they might feel just like you but without showing it.. its like flirting, some people just do it naturally, other has to learn it the hard way, some never try because they have already convinced themselves that it wont work.. And the only thing thats holding you back is your own feelings.. just be approachable to others, smalltalk, about the weather, the food, the time of year, the news or about whatever really.. loneliness is a global epidemic sweetie, the cure isnt in another digital screen or online, its face to face in the trenches of life.. YOU have to be brave enough to truly be responsible for YOUR own happiness.. you have to be your own responsible adult and help yourself to not get the bad ending.. go sit next to the group you wanna start talking to and relax next time you have lunch or whatever.. just relax.. strech a little, yawn, thats all.. You dont actually have to say something first.. Just say something back if someone speaks to you.... destress physically and you signal with your body language that you are a chill person.. it works on both cats and people ;)
Well I think your amazing, and its good to talk, you are who you are, thats why we are all different, just look after your self, and one thing, dont have to try to be better, just be you, one of a kind, your a star.
Hey man. Honestly, I've never been one to struggle with loneliness, so I won't lie to you and say that I know what you're going through. But I can offer you my support and reassurance. You'll find those friends that you want, best believe it. Sometimes all it takes is meeting just one person that can introduce you to others. You meet people through people ya know. For now, keep your head up, cuz you won't notice the wonderful people and things in front of you if you're looking down. Stay up, you got this homegirl!! ✊🏼
Thank you for inspiring me in feeling less alone Ito. Andnon the positive side you joined that music group which is social and youll find other people that share similar hobbies and feelings which will lead to going to movies and shopping and all kinds of stuff just you wait! Maybe you can volunteer to be a tutor also that might be a good way to talk to people make friends while going over a topic youre comfortable with? I look forward to your next video and remember you are fine the world is the one thats crazy your just an honest an genuine person everyone just hides it better!
idk, i had the same stuff + lang barrier, i went through two years of being completely neet + locked it, then a person found me and we just started hanging out together. social stuff is difficult and it is either i can't or i don't want in the moment to socialize yet in general i believe that i like hanging out w people. complicated af
Hmm, honestly it’s not as weird as you might think to have a favorite video game/plushies etc. that you obsess over, it’s actually an endearing trait imo. You’re in a group that likes videogame music, yeah? Splatoons is a video game, so if you find yourself working closely with another person, maybe bring it up! Who knows, they might also play lol, and even if not, maybe they’ll tell you about the games they love, and you can spend time telling eachother what you’re each missing out on! Maybe it gets awkward, but that’s just how is sometimes… but if you’re enthusiastic, people won’t be able to help but respect you, and if they don’t it's pretty much their loss. Whatever you choose to do though, even if you take baby steps, know that it’s worth it. You’re the heroine of your own story, so fight for your happiness! You got this, the wind is at your back, you just need to open the sails! Sorry lol, maybe all that seems corny, but I really do believe you have a bright future… my prayers go out to you, all blessings.
