How do you deal with it when he doesn't have time to spend with you (during exams, etc.) ? What is your favorite and least favorite part of being married to a medical student?
Awesome video! So real! It helps to see how the journey impacts the most important relationships. Apart from the instructional value for the rest of us (thank you), this will be good for you to reflect upon in 20 years or so. For what it's worth, the encouragement you guys give is priceless. Cheers!
I'm a wife and mom but I'm the one going to med school, and my husband is a pastor and works part-time, what kind of encouragement and expectations should I think about? How can I help him and my kids prepare for me not being around as much? I'm currently a stay at home mom. My oldest 2 will be in school and 1 will be home with daddy.
I'm actually getting ready for a three year CRNA program. I'm moving my family of five away from Utah where my wife has lived her entire life. What advice do you have for my wife as we move away from her support group? How can I best support her?
aww, you had me at the tender heart. Thanks for exposing yourselves to the medical community as large. I love your video's! And share them often. They leave me smiling.
Carlie! You are AMAZING!! My husband is unbelievably supportive like you, and he always says "Don't you dare giving up! You're my early retirement plan!". He totally tells everybody without any shame he's gonna stop working once I (we) "make it" l 😂
Can you make a video/blog about a regular day as a med student ex. what time do you wake up, what are classes like, how long do you study, study habits, what do you do on your free time and how much free time you have Thanks ...
Dr. Chris, first of all, ohmygosh, she is so awesome and gorgeous! You and your kids are super lucky to have such a witty, smart, and beautiful mother in the household! My question is for Mrs. Thompson, what dating advice would you give a 21 year old student who's going to start medical school in the fall? Do you think your relationship with Chris would be as strong today if you two met during the preclinical years?
I've been dating a doctor for 7 months, he is in fellowship now. It's very different than any situation I've been in and find it very challenging to develop a depth to the relationship when time together is so limited. How do I support him when he acts like he doesn't need it. We keep trying and obviously feel enough to keep going but some days I'm not sure if I'm even being what he needs. I appreciate this video! There aren't many people out there talking about how difficult it is for doctors and their partners to make it work.
How do you make time to offer hours of studying without feeling guilty about sacrificing your family time? Do you use a strict study schedule? I find this hard for me to do because I want to do well in medical school, but I also want to have a family to go home to at night when I am done :/
I'm so happy you're making her a part of your series! Carlie: What was the transition like from life before med school to life during med school? What were some of your biggest hurdles and how did you overcome them? Thanks! - A potential med student wife
I'm concerned about my future family. How do you make time for your family (Kids/spouse) while in medical school? As the spouse who has to go through their significant other being in medical school, how does it feel? Is it stressful, do you get into arguments for not making enough time for you or the kids?
I'm a wife of a first year. Several questions - What's a good time to have kids, financially and otherwise? When did you have kids and how did it work for you? Do you work, and do you feel like you need to work to have a sense of self? Do you find yourselves spending more time with other med students or non med students? Do you have family near by and how did med school affect your relationships with your families?
So, I'm a BYU grad. Seriously, these videos are PERFECT for pre-meds at BYU. I'm in an almost identical situation as a pre-med and these videos are fantastic. The difference is I'm 32 and just finished my post-bacc, getting ready to take the MCAT June 2 and my applications will go out at the same time. I'm married with three kids and fighting with everything I have to get into med school so I can make a good life for my family and myself. I am curious, what was your undergrad and post-bacc GPA? How did you do on the MCAT? The MCAT is different now, but it'd still give me a good idea about how I'm doing as a student in a VERY similar situation to where you were going into applications. If you'd be willing to chat for a few minutes sometime, I'd be super grateful. I have a pretty solid idea, but I've only seen a couple of stats on people in my situation. To Carlie, congratulations on your journey. It's clearly as much of a challenge for the spouse as it is for the student to get through the rigors of med school. When the day finally comes where residency is over and you have your first real job be sure TREAT YO' SELF!
I have a question: i feel like this alot lately being a med school student. Do you ever feel like your dream of becoming a doctor gets in the way of her dreams. Me and my husband agreed to this together that i would go to med school. But now that we have a son it is getting so much harder and i feel like he is resenting me. How do i keep this from happening?
Carlie, how do you keep your sanity with a husband who is a med student (when generally med students don't really have a school-life balance) and having three kids? I'm asking this because my wife might have to go through that.
I understand medical school is incredibly difficult and that it will physically and mentally put me through a wringer. However, what are some things I can reasonably do in order to support my wife? (She will be doing more than her fair share of supporting me).
My husband doesn't understand how grueling medical school is and when I need to study (which is all the time) he throws a shit fit or makes me feel guilty, then I get angry. What can I tell him to calm him down or help him to understand.
I'm not a doctor but I would tell him that this whole thing with u bring super busy won't last forever...that it's just these few years of hard work and then the pay off is huge, remind this of him regularly
Thank you for the suggestion but that was the first thing I did, maybe I can get him to talk to another medical student spouse face to face. I have even told him its just for a couple more years then he can stop working and just stay home while I work but in order to do so I have to study......I just don't know what to tell him any more.
Rebecca Boese I think your right, ill just have to keep reminding him, thats the only thing I can due until I am done with school. I have talked about this with my fellow school mates and they all seem to be going through the same thing with either their friends, spouse or parents.
How did you deal with his stress in finels? What would you say to him when he is upset and miserable ? And for Dr. Thompson : Did it happened to you when you study hard but get low scores? How to overcome such a disappointment? Do you feel like the stress of medical school can render you cold person ?
Alright. Good timing with this video Dr. Thompson. I just finished my first year of medical school and as you can imagine, I'm really looking forward to second year (please appreciate my sarcasm). My wife and I are expecting a baby in December. So the question...1. Do you have any tips for me, as a medical student, that can lead to a more balanced 2nd year? 2. Carlie, from your perspective, what was the most important thing that Chris did (or could have done. Don't answer if that's too personal.) that improved second year? Thanks for sharing the videos, they have been incredibly helpful!
We're about to go into med school in August with one child after 4 years of marriage. You guys are so funny! How do you keep the family united? Carlie, how do you get over him missing out of things (dates, parties, birthdays, Childs miles stones)? Carlie, does doing finances during med school stress you out? I love doing our finances but I feel like it's so hard for me to process paying our expenses with student loans.
I've been thinking alot about marriage and pursuing my dream to be a kickass doctor. I even thought of just marrying a doctor so we both undetstand each others busy schedule but I also feel like marrying a doctor would mean busier parents for my kids (Also how do I make the time to be a badass doctor & a mum to 5 kids) :( Suggestions?
Q: Carlie, Whats your list of requirements for him that you expect of him in order for you to feel like the lines of communication are open? Any non-negotiable things? Q: Student Dr. Thompson, Pulled in so many directions would you say that guilt becomes a factor to manage? And how do you manage that? When you can't be all places at once and feel like you miss out with your wife and kids?
What is the best thing that a girlfriend/boyfriend can do to make the other's transition into school and moving away from home? Also what can the one going through school do to support the other one?
in the minimal research done I didn't see this question asked: how do you cover health insurance for your family while in med school? I'll be leaving the military and am scared that we'll end up broke, with only my wife working as an RN and a 2 year old, and it's honestly the biggest concern in changing careers
I'm about to start college(I'm 19) and I'm married 1 year out of high school I've always thought it would be awesome to be a doctor but it takes so long and my wife wants kids in a few years and moving out and all that and I want my wife to stay home with our kids like yours I was wondering how hard is it to live on student loans like you said you have in one of your other videos and how does the finance stuff work I guess haha anyways love your vids! Ya are awesome!-Thanks, Austin
when you feel stressed, what specifically do you do, to stop being overwhelmed and underproductive with work? Im a first year med student. p.s your videos are great! :)
My husband is starting med school next year. we'll have 2 kids by then and I'm debating if I should be working to help financially and for sanity sake. did Carlie ever work at all? If not, what kept her sane through those tough 4 years?!
With him spending so much time at school and clinicals (essentially a part of his life that's pretty separate from you), how do you continue to build trust with each other and grow your relationship? I would love to hear how you two work together on that :)
You guys are too funny! How do you manage to have an enjoyable life together, when it seems that his life (as a med student) is so devoted to studying?
I'm currently an undergrad with plans of going to medical school. I am married with one son (21 months) and another on the way. I have heard numerous times there is no way to work while in med school, so how does your family survive financially?
How did you deal with finding places to live when you didn't have verifiable income? My husband is in pharmacy school and we have 2 almost 3 kids who I stay home with and finding places to rent can be pretty tough because we pay our rent with student loans.
dr. thomspon, did you work during med school or were the RU-vid checks a great source of income? when Dr. thomspon is stressed out after or before a test, how do you comfort him?
Is it possible to have kids during medical school? If so, what year would be the best? Does Carlie ever get frustrated with how many hours you spend studying at school? Or do you just go to school for lectures and study at home?
Omg 2nd year sucks- wait we’re 3rd year crap 3rd year sucks too... 💓 I’m relating to this so much! Husband is in medical school and we are going on 7 years married / 12 together.
I don’t know if y’all are still doing movies or still married (hope you are) but I’m going through this and would love another wife to talk to. My husband is already a chiropractor and is back in school to get his MD. We have two kids (3 & 1). I don’t have anyone to talk to that understands.
Oh, *Carlie! VERY IMPORTANT I forgot to ask: what is the hardest part about being a pre-med/med student's support system? How can we make your lives better/happier? What are the little things that WE can do to make a difference in your life due to our constant absence? Now, on the family planning theme. What are the hardest challenges of having children in med school? And lastly, tips on marriage survival PLEASE!! Thank you so much for all that you do! From "the other side" you are so unbelievably appreciated - we feel like we will never be able to "pay you back" for your loyalty, partnership, and immense faith in our dream - every.single.day. Blessings to you!
+intergalactic_feline thanks a lot for your advice, I thought about it so much because I have a great passion for biology ,I think that dentistry is a lot better for me than medicine but still so confused about choosing between them .
Married for 7 years, if you dont mind me asking how old are you when you graduated med school? I'll also be married for 7 years when I graduate in 2018.
How hard is to balance family life and medical school for an average medical student (not a genius)? How much do you interact and spend time with each other, as medical school is a full time "job"? :) Thanks!
Love the videoz guys , my question is as the years go by does it become harder to pass or learn for your exams and the same for your relationship, in other words does it affect your relationship more with the years becoming stronger etc... Anyway thanxx and keep doing what you do Peace from 🇨🇭
Omar Khaled I've thought about this too tbh. I just jumped to the conclusion that I don't want to think about med school during my honeymoon so I feel like right after graduation is the best moment
Being humble and self-depracating and having a sense of humor about your situation is all well and good. But expressing your marriage in that way in a first video is a red flag.
