men: ‘I’m ugly, so girls won’t date me’-your looks aren’t the problem. 

For me I just accept that the world is unfair and that there are all kinds of crazy and unusual people out there. So I do my best to not take anything offensive to heart. I was also shy like you. But early on, I didn’t care so much about what people thought. So if a whole table of people got up and moved, I would just eat alone and not worry. One time I tried to isolate myself in class by sitting in a far corner away from everyone. The teacher got mad and said “No. I will not turn my head that far to look at you every time.” So he forced me to sit closer to everyone and I did it without any excuses or regret. You really need a thick skin to survive in this world. Ironically, i feel like I was much tougher back then. These days I tend to put others first because I’m OK with most things. I’m sure that part of me needs to change. I’m happy RU-vid recommended your channel to me while your channel is still small. I love to get in early and see RU-vid channels before they become popular and start being affected by sponsor and ad money. I spent much of the night watching your videos and now the sun is about to rise. I couldn’t fall asleep because I liked watching and thinking about your videos. I like the honest and blunt perspective you have. Now I don’t know if I should try to get a few hours sleep (and risk oversleeping). Or stay up and be a zombie for the rest of today. I hope we can both become successful in our own ways. I look forward to commenting on future videos.

Just an amazing video, there’s nothing else to write that hadn’t already been written here already. It’s perfect, real and actually has a sensible reason to be made.

The pugs or french bulldogs was a funny example lmao

I still believe you're harsh on yourself. You're gorgeous, no matter if with or without makeup on.

i am janis. i am a transgender woman. you are very beautiful. you were never ugly and you never will be. everybody looks good all the time.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I felt in a similar way in my childhood. Keep up your work, and don't give up! (I can't believe you only got 58 subscribers so far.)

When I was a youn teen, I was a fairly unattractive guy...now I'm fairly unattractive as an adult. I'm in good shape but my face isn't good. I don't do makeup, so I am not attractive to most women. Thankfully, I am very handy and that has made me many friends who want my help.

I gave up. Even the best version of me won't be good enough. Besides, I prefer living alone and not sharing a living space with anyone.

I found my Asian wife attractive because she didn’t use much if any makeup. No hiding. No pretending. This is who she is and like it or move on. Confidence in one’s self is So attractive. Is she stereotypically Asian beautiful. No and she’ll be the first one to say it. I find her beautiful and that’s enough for me and her. Remember to always DO YOU. If it’s not enough for someone else , move on quickly.

Honestly, I just came here prepared to hit the dislike button thinking "great, another feminist that's going to lecture me about what a horrible person I actually am". Of course, in the end, I was wrong and I didn't do it, even if I disagree with many of the things you said. But to add to the advice you gave in this video, I would add a couple of points that I think are among the most important things people should know: 1) *No one is going to judge you as harshly as you do yourself.* Most people are more worried about themselves than about you, and many times they won't even notice the flaws you hyper-fixate into until you point them out. You would be surprised about how much people misses about your appearance. Probably the most dramatic example I have was one of my professors, who spent half a year publicly speaking in front of a large classroom, waving his hands around, and not a single person noticed he was missing two fingers, a disability he was extremely self-conscious about. I myself didn't noticed it either until another person told me. Another big thing is that different people just have different perspectives and either will not give any importance at all to what you consider a big improvement, or won't mind what you consider a huge flaw. In extreme, cases, they can even see a positive in what you think is a negative. In fact, what you consider your ugly pictures ("hideous", "cortisol face", etc.) could perfectly be examples of what I would show my friends if they asked to what I aspire in life (and no, that's not a fake compliment). 2) *Surround yourself with the right people and get away from the social circles that are not working for you.* By far, the largest factor in other's peoples perception of you is the place you've been socially assigned in a community. Not your looks. Not your behavior. Not anything like that, but the inertia of the semi-random way in which someone started treating you when your identity in a group wasn't well established yet. Sometimes you will be given a raw deal through no fault of your own, simply because that's how they're supposed to view you as. For example, for many years, when I was in middle and high school, I felt miserable because girls there treated me like an insect and wouldn't give me a chance. Then, I went to college in a different city, where no one knew me, and in less than a week, I had my first kiss. It was no coincidence: when there is no precedence on how you should be treated, you are judged by your merits, and by merit alone I was no longer that horrible. Unfortunately, a series of circumstances made me go back to being an incel shortly later, but shit happens. 3) *Look for the environment that will appreciate you.* You are not necessarily compatible with the cultural environment you're born into. Certainly I am not. Aside from my differences with the city and region I live in, and how much I despise the things they like here, I just think that there's a problem with the Western world in general, and how judgmental and hostile it is becoming to a certain type of guys I happen to belong to. I, like many guys, have been disrespected, ridiculed and rejected because of the most stupid, superficial reasons. In fact, I was made to feel like a loser and a weirdo by westerners for the same exact reasons that I have been praised and admired by Chinese girls. So, the problem is not me, the problem is that I'm living in a culture that's deeply incompatible with me, in a time and place where the dominant ethos despises me. That's why I'm currently working on meeting a Chinese girl. But, anyway, that's my two cents.

Wow, I don't know where to start but this video made me figure out a few things. At first the subject wasn't something I thought would be of interest to me, but I was wrong. Part of the reason to me is the way you're expressing yourself sort of. I can tell that you do have a point you want to get to but, all these little digressions are what truly makes me understand some things. Like it gives my mind some time to wander not in a distracted way though, closer to a deep introspection. Found your channel completely randomly while I wasn't looking for anything in particular. I'm starting to think it wasn't entirely by chance ! I happen to be at a crossroad in my life where a lot of questionning occurs. Funnily enough watching some of your videos served as therapy or meditation I can't really express it, the timming is gold. I notice that this comment is way too long but I felt like it was necessary to leave one at least. Keep up the good work, hopefully I conveyed the essence of my thoughts and made it somewhat understandable 😅 English not being my first language I may have made some phrasing mistakes and apologize in advance !

You are love able everything created by Allah 💕 is beautiful

Why I’m watching this. Be your own person, not what someone else thinks,is correct.

I'm a male i have to be 100% honest i think agree that both males and female should be love treat it exactly but i disagree the majority popular mindset always say that being label it is a bad thing addicted is a bad thing i think there is nothing wrong if some want to be addicted to most things we live and being lazy i think that's not bad thing to me i think it's a good natural thing to me i also think there is nothing wrong if some of us don't want to get out of our confuse zone don't wanna try new things it's not bad thing to me either i see it as a good natural thing to me as well because i think i love being addicted to video games, being on my computer laptop, porn and most things because that's what makes me happy i don't like being force to do certain things i don't wanna do it won't make me happy i'm also shy i also think there is nothing wrong if some of us are shy too it's not bad thing either i think it's good natural thing too to me in my honest unpopular point of view perspective

You are truly beautiful inside and out...

Hi

That is really upsetting to hear. Looking at you i wouldn't have expected that but i am not familiar with that area or people. I could go through years of such experiences throughout my younger life. I of course different from you became larger, stronger, more aggressive, temperamental, and gained a bit of a reputation to be feared. I spent much time in the gym and went to Cho's Black Belt Academy. 😅😅😅😅😅😅 My main obstacle was gone but i still lack charm and personality. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢Ah, one day. 😂😂😂😂😂