My ex was always scared. He was big af and men still tried taking me from him in front of him. They didn't give af. And it would be his own 'friends' sometimes. He wanted to hit up every broad in his phone, but the attention I got came naturally. He hated that, and competed with me.
@@Hagar-yn8jm that part!! As women we can never get too comfortable when it comes to our up keeping and our appearance, especially in a relationship. They’re just waiting for you to have an off day so you appear less desirable to other men/including friends.
@@biancaholler5170a special kind of petty. 😂 Like just in case you forgot I AM that girl and u can’t even go to the bathroom without me. Now what? 😂😂😂😂
This is so true. Idris Elba mentioned in an interview that he knew his wife was the one because she wouldn’t argue back with him she just remained calmed and walked away. Men don’t know what’s next with calm women. The crazy ones are so predictable and easier to manipulate
@@HoneyBunches100 he knows he’s with a woman that he can’t manipulate emotionally and that changes the entire narrative. Not only will she leave she will find someone even better. Some women know they can find someone else
I have no time for games I see you moving disrespectful without a cause I just tell you my mind and keep it moving. Don't have anytime to be this or that way so that they will know if to choose me or not that's bs.
Silence is the BEST weapon! Don't be afraid to let him go, and never look back if need be! When you take him back, especially without a price, he will disrespect you more the 2nd time!
Omg that is EXACTLY what happened to me! I took his trifling ass back and he was WORSE than before. Thank God I finally woke up but when I did I felt soooo stupid. In final process of letting that go and forgiving myself. 💜
Nah you could block a good financial blessing if he’s willing to buy back into your good graces. By then you won’t care anyway, put that money into your savings
👸precisely! he ghosted the pain 💔 felt beyond unbearable😭! forced myself to accept it w/grace. he tried to come back on day 5 but i couldn't trust him not to do that again bc ghosters are cheaters & repeaters guaranteed. w/o trust u got nothing🤬. ghosting is the ultimate disrespect. told him, 🙅♀️no, nope, nah & hell nah will u talk to me again. thank God we never 🙏had s-ex. halelujah! bye grown-boy.
@AliSand if he’s buys back in how are you being left broke ? Doesn’t make sense. Get your money at all times, if he leaves who cares you benefited & will always have the last laugh
This is crucial to know. Sticking around while a man is being disrespectful won't make a man love me. He's gonna see me as having little to no value. I will walk away from anyone disrespecting me, including family/friends. As a matter of fact, I will try not to put myself in the situation to begin with. I have no time for foolishness as I'm on my level up journey !
Ladies, NEVER EVER be in need and ALWAYS have MONEY that can maintain YOUR LIFESTYLE. When you have that down, you’ll NEVER CHASE a man and will always be able to walk away ANYTIME
@@agirlsghost3173 When a ghost comes back, you just text him your PayPal link and tell him you'll talk to him after he deposits $10K in your account. Otherwise, he can F off. That's how you charge them. Make him pay to even speak to you.
@@michaelpalumbo4880 why? When he has every reason to file for divorce if he doesn’t want to be with her. He’s not incapable or a baby. You’re also not married so your opinion on someone else’s marriage doesn’t hold much weight as you do physically ☺️
So so wise, last year I had a very financially successful man be emotionally abusive to me and I calmly walked away and never looked back. At that time it was painful but walking away and staying away helped me gain power to glow up, he’s tried multiple times to come back. At the time I felt stupid, embarrassed but didn’t know walking away was actually very very smart. What she’s saying is true and men say it too. If you can’t walk away from a man you can never keep him and most importantly you can’t keep yourself! Walk away not to teach him anything but actively choose you. Learn how to be turned off by poor treatment. You can never lose when you bet on yourself and your happiness. You are the most important person in your life. You have to be a good woman to yourself before you can be a good woman to anyone else. Sending you love and strength❤️
36, single mom, never been married and this is why. I won’t settle for unreasonable behavior. I met someone who enjoys talking to me and taking it slow, so far no games. Let’s see where it goes. But it’s nice to go slow and feel genuine interest. Too much jumping into dating now days too. Not for me. Stay strong ladies! You only live once!
Its like they test you to see if you will take all the disrespect... then they get a shock when you walk away forever because you don't tolerate their disrespect.... so daft
Sprinkle Sprinkle!!! Walking away works like a charm...the only problem is, when you walk away from the very person you thought you couldn't live without...when they come back usually you don't even want them anymore! I've experienced this on more than one occasion!!🤔 😂
as a man i support shera her message to women: women level up stop dealing with thugs, stop dating ghetto thugs and stop getting pregnant before marriage! and get your life togheter!! props to shera for bringing facts back!!
I had this happen recently. When you leave he will chase you x100. Blocked dude off all my phone numbers and he managed to find my email and message me there. Still gave him no response. When you are serious and mean something don’t falter. Know your worth, know when to walk away and know you can attract so much better.
@You got games on your phone? Yes. I ghost as early as possible. Don't waste my time, sir. Fix up, then come back to me. " pay me what you owe me"🤣🤣 I stay taxing!!!
@@chivonfortney1656This means that he settled for women who have less value than you because as we all know men collect/run through women who are easy
U have to stand out. Men look for sex first so u have to stand out. So if u brought value after sleeping wit em like prob cleaning or helping him wit something without being asked by the way he will keep u. Men are more simple then y’all think
Please LISTEN to Shera !! This is facts ! They are laughing at you, showing their friends your texts and calls if desparation. Always be willing to walk away.
they're even showing girls the texts. this sugar daddy was trying to brag that he's the prize and showed me a popular IG girl sending him paragraphs of desperation asking for a house :/
Girls never see yourselves as victims when a shitty relationship ends , always see yourselves as winners cus walking away thinking that you were a victim is going to hurt like a bitch .... And you'll find yourselves seeking closer therefore giving that person more power over you
I’m living that well known lesson “the universe keeps giving you the same lesson to make sure you’ve learned it” Tonight I’ve decided I’ve learned it and I’m done!
When they ghost you they disrespect you, they mean that they don't want to hear or listen to your thoughts, voice see you and that you mean nothing to them. If you accept without consequences they think you are trash and disrespect even more.
Some men ghost, bcuz they know it messing with your head. Women get all in their feelings trying to figure out why etc. It's a manipulation & torture tactic. Other men will ghost in attempt to look macho as if they don't care but in actuality, they are hurt js as much if not more than the female. It's all a mind-game...Don't fall for it!
@@siriusakari6729walk away don’t ever let anyone disrespect you I agree with shera on this but it’s levels to levelling up it you’re job to be on such a level not just looks but on a level that you will be hard to replace but he disrespecting you by seeing another woman walk away
“Any woman can be an independent woman but not any woman can leave a man and bag another one by the end of the week making her financially stable”.. a light bulb clicked in my head after you said that!! Thank you for your wisdom shera!!!!
I just broke up with a man who owns two homes out right but just lost his job as VP of a well known company. This guy was talking about if I ever live with him, I'd have to pay for something, electricity, food, something. Sherah is right a man who is well off and thinks that way might as well be broke. He was generous and jealous too but I quickly got tired of his insecurities and the nonsense he was talking about. I'm also dating a dentist and another business man. I have 4 kids none of them know about. They all wonder why I'm so busy, I say work....lol. thank you Sherah.
He was looking for a roommate with benefits. Notice he said "If you live with me" Not when we get married and I put your name on the deed. A lot of retired dusty homeowners think like this. They want to sit at home all day and move a woman in to pay their utilities. Like living with a man is a prize 🙄
If I was born a man I would NEVER let my woman pay for anything. I don't know how these males get the audacity.. it's like expecting a child to pay when you're a full grown man. Yes, women are adults but they aren't suppose to pay just like a child isn't suppose to pay. Heck, I even hate when anyone younger than me pays for me whether that be male of female!
If someone blocks or ghosts you why would you allow them to come back. It makes no sense to me. Especially if they are a narcissist. Ladies give them what they ask for or not ask for and go no contact and stay no contact. Know your value!! Periodt.🙏🏾❤️
Men never really leave though. I usually attract the ones that never leave but have emotionally checked out. Your insight is different. Most men don’t want their woman to be desirable to other men just him that’s why they have a problem when you get dolled up, hair makeup, outfit and nails.
Shera is so right about learning from past mistakes and using them as tools to do better, from dating a complete dusty I told myself that would be the last time. Now I’m currently only dating millionaires & high 6 figures & life is good baby! Never making that ugly mistake again lol
"Always look good when you leave the house" Why is this so hard 😫I just wanna go to the grocery store in my pj's! I'm a lazy couch potato at heart. But honestly, whenever I do look good when I go out, it boost my self-confidence with or without a man.
I’m the same way, if I’m just running an errand there’s no need to dress up. Because I’m not trying to attract a lying ass man. I put forth effort to look sloppy to repel them bastards.
@chante when they approach you just smile and tell them you gotta go because you gotta head to the pharmacy before they close to pick up ur gonorrhea medicine. Make sure you carry a small Bible in ur purse while saying that. 😃😇. Betchu they step off quick then.😀
This is so true, I tried to leave a guy alone and it made him want me more…. When he texts me I purposely make him wait hours and when I do text back he texts me back within the same minute😊
One of the things I love most about Shera is that she allows the child in her to play! She never stops having fun on the journey! I’ve embraced this side of myself as well and is inspired by her! I don’t think she even realizes that she’s teaching us to take care of the child within all of us! Thank you for being the mentor I NEEDED! Everything I’ve learned that has benefited me these past few years, I’ve learned from you, Shera! I love you and happy birthday! ✨Sprinkle sprinkle✨
I used to be a gold digger as a job (worked as a stripper and hustled regulars on a side) and simultaneously I was a pickmeisha in personal life (I’m ashamed to admit but I remember sitting with a guy at the dinner and explaining to him my career aspirations and that I’d never accept money from a man). I mistakenly thought that this was how I was differentiating “job” from personal time. I can’t explain why, but for years, I haven’t notice that I should be acting the same way off work like I am at work. Of course there is only one right way and that’s gold digging all the way 24/7/365 😂
You weren't even being a gold digger as a job, you were actually working. You're supposed to be taking money from men without doing any work, geez, learn to be a gold digger properly girl
Lmao!!!!! Right??? When I started to understand is that by being this independent woman, I was putting a target on my back to specifically attract men who want to extract resources from me. I didn't cough up money, beverages I just didn't have it in me. I wasn't getting things from them. They wouldn't pour into me. Now, I am still independent, but I act dependent AF. I can't do nothing! I can't open nothing, I can't fix nothing. My wrists don't work nomo!!!! I am resting in my full feminine/ taker/receptive energy.
They must always feel like they hang in the balance. If not always, then from time to time. Showing your independence can be a feminine expression of dolling yourself up, going for a day of beauty, dressing up for no reason…taking a pottery or dance class, very important. He must feel as if he is a part of YOUR world. We don’t beg, chase or follow…we attract and garner respect.
“You want back in its gon cost you baby” Big MOOD😅😂 there’s always a bill that need to be paid !! An older wealthy man I was seeing a few years ago told me every time I leave and cut off communication it make him desire me more. That’s when I discovered the trick💯 she putting a lot of women on game. Even when it hurt.. LEAVE HIS ASS ✌🏾
I hate relationships everything about a relationship is stressful and exhausting Stay Single you may be lonely but you won’t leave under false pretenses like the majority of the world is so be different if you dare stand alone
I completely agree and when I say that I am single by choice there’s always a man trying to make me feel inadequate because I don’t have a man. What they failed to realize is that I decided that I do not want a man. I am taking time to focus on myself and what’s best for me. Sometimes a man is not always the answer.
The equivalent to a man saying they like us natural would be like us asking them to act broke around attractive women in the agenda for the women to find them unattractive 😂🤞
Yep! This is true. I left a gaslighting ex. Walked away, started dating a man we both knew who is a stand up higher caliber man….. he was so hurt and I brought a new home and did some other big things…. Now he left feeling less than! Sweet revenge
Babyyy... this!!!!! Very very true, it doesn't matter how "badd", "beautiful", or much of "that girl" you are... Men don't want what they can't be in pursuit of!
I always leave for myself and no one else, that's where people go wrong, jumping out of one relationship, going straight to another. Give self time to heal or celebrate or whatever. Learn from the past, so that you won't be bitter and take it to the next.
The part about not caring, being unbothered, and charging admission is very important/lucrative! 6 figure savings on that alone. 🤑😄 "Gold digging on a ghost" 😄
“There’s no reason why we should see you looking your worst because you ran out of toilet paper. . . You standing in line at CVS with a big ole thang of toilet paper, with a bonnet, and some pajamas. DON’T DO IT! Don’t be a victim! 😂😂😂”
I honestly needed this video because I've started caring for a guy who can't give me the time of day so just being here n watching this is inspiring me...
Just deal with people who want to deal with you . Someone who is interested isn't going to put you in a predicament to walk away just to see if you would . Them very type of relationships never work out in the end . If you were actually going to leave the knowing you would leave, would be just that. But, a man seeing that you would leave is also a man seeing you'd come back . Usually, the type of woman that gets cheated on . Stay away from men who will test you. And yes this is a test bc, once he sees it either you're still there or you're actually gone.
Used your advice and told my lying, cheating ex that he must pay ALL my bills and I want a brand new 💍! And both must happen BEFORE we get back together!
@@nikachua2002 Eh, I found out after my grandmother passed away, that there was an *asterisk in her 62yr marriage... That 4 years in to it, she caught grandpa fooling around, so she took revenge & divorced him for another man... 6months later, she was back & grandpa said their marriage was stronger for all of it, in the end... (Though that grandma always kept her foot on his neck lmao)
I do agree that being able to walk away increases one's value. But I disagree with being content with the relationship, where your significant other is cheating on you, just for financial benefits. Yes, you can benefit financially , as long as he allows, but children and disease can also come with accepting and allowing infidelity. Who is really winning?, money, bags, and gifts aren't enough. Respect .
@Rita’s Journey they can break, but hey, if you are ok with giving your body away for materialistic profit, to each their own🤷🏿♀️, apparently, most modern women are liberated by that these days, I see it as a loss.
Made my ex pay me after coming back into my life after watching this. All we did was talk on the phone. He cashapped me $500. I’m going to make him pay me again if he wants to have my presence.
Also yes!!! I always said (even to other ppl) that I’m never worried about my man talking to other girls bc I know he won’t and even if he does then it’s a huge loss for him bc he’s not gonna find better than me!! And IF he does then I’ll be damn impressed 😅 I always had this mentality and I’m so glad I did
In literally trying to download this so I can put it on repeat while I sleep for work tonight. I'm a BSN registered nurse, educated and ambitious, home owner and investor but when it comes to love, my decisions are horrible. Thank you for helping me straighten my crown!
Look up the personal development school. It will help you heal your insecure attachment. Literally takes 30 days to reprogram your core wounds. Heal that codependency girl!
Hahah yup that's true. I miss my crazy single days in my 20s. I did all that. Works like magic. My mother kept asking:" how are your bills paid when you don't work while going to college" . Well THIS is the answer *Sprinkle sprinkle* I have exes from 7-10 years ago still hitting me up. But sir I'm happily married....bye. *sprinkle sprinkle* Walking away....
This man that I’m really into and hooked up with a few times, keeps telling me he doesn’t want me. However gets mad when I put my time and attention else where and it’s very confusing. I’m going to choose me and let him go. It’s not worth it.
If someone tells you they don't want you, you should NEVER speak to them again. I can tell you have super low self esteem and you will continue to deal with the man you're talking about who sees you as a dumb jumpoff. Please, learn to love yourself.
Interesting.. Sometimes I’ve let my shadow side out & had harsh/crazy words to end dealing with a man.. and he still comes back obsessed. I let my inner brat out, give no f✨ks and go quiet after that… 🤷🏾♀️ I do believe silence is golden, I’ve been practicing that way more. I also don’t stop myself from being Ursula if I want to ✨😊
Hahahah I told my One of my friends you know what, I’m starting to like when men mess up! That’s when you get the most and the best out of them. I don’t want to man to ack right 😂 shoot get you a man that messes up! And that can pay.
Yeah the girls get pregnant by them, not me. Imma get free housing and stack my money and take his money and work on my own goals and not get pregnant. and when he starts acting too stupidly imma walk away and get my own shit.
Thank you for this reading I’ve took my ex back so many times and I’m so embarrassed about it but better late then never to change it up right. I’m tired and moving on for the better ❤
Shera I just wanted to thank you for your teaching ❤ yesterday I felt really heartbroken and fooled because of a guy I had a crush on (my age), but watching your videos made me feel so much better and helped me to learn my lesson, thank you ❤
Right! Women say there shouldn't be any judgment on how you look at the beauty supply store. I'm like HELL no. Just because you need supplies doesn't mean it's okay to come outside looking like Beast from X men. 🐗
Ha ha, theoritically.. problem is they are not good enough for those women, so they settle for something they don't really want rather than take responsibility and heal/change.
Yes, Mam.!! 🔥 Wise Women Know This One Well 🔥 'Even if You Deeply Love Him'. ' Learn Their Nature'. His Deep desire to Continually Comquer Something ....Will Not Simply Dissappear . Always Morph, into a Better Version, of Yourself as often as possible. Most of All, Know your, Value 🙏
Men always complian about women saying we so complicated yet they r the one who's complicated 🙄 I cannot understand them at all and I'm tired of been single 😢😢😢😢😢😢
Oh Happy Birthday week🎉 can’t send now in middle of selling /buying home 🏡 But you must know because of you I think smarter do better and got out of a Bob the Builder marriage. I have a beautiful wonderful life thanks to YOU. The key was not to get emotional...he called me horrible names as he wrote out that check I moved to Alabama leveled up, learned more lessons now buying a new construction home. I got you as soon as the home is sold.
For the ladies that got to walk away be thankful u could...alot of these men get dangerous they refuse to let u walk away from it peacefully, they don't like arguing but they also don't like u just up and walking away quietly either....yea be thankful and be careful for the next time these men are dangerous out here they be just as desperate sometimes 😢
