@aaliyahtheinvestor1044 You are so right. About once a month I get EXTREMELY lonely and want to reach out to a less-than-qualified man. I finally realized that it was my cycle causing me to feel this way.
Thats being masculine.You will only attract a beta male who is not interested in fucking you around anyway.For that he will live off your success while he allows you to brow beat him.
I used to pride myself as being the emotional woman. It was self-defeating, self-sabotaging and humiliating. The anger I feel toward my past, I decided to let go and re-invent a new me.
tee I'm a mother I always thought this was a bad way of thinking until I got walked on like a door mat you got this information now use it young lady....
She probably didn’t even know about it herself. Women are groomed to be taken advantage of lately. This type of advice has been lost because people associate it with malicious intent. It’s not malicious, it’s just a realistic way of protecting yourself. We are conditioned to make ourselves available all the time, but that is what eventually makes us seem “used up” over time. I’m glad that many women have learned to appreciate this info more.
You hit the nail with this, I’ve witnessed men falling for me/ doing more things when I’m not emotionally attached. So, it’s in a woman’s best interest to put herself first and this is one of your best videos thus far.
Jdore Couture yes!!!! I broke it off last year in December with this dude I was dating because he was in a situation shop where he still was living wit his ex. So I’m like I’m not stupid I like you but I want more for myself so I’m ending this period of dating you because I want marriage and someone for me. Girlll in today’s present day. He moved out ended the relationship and telling me daily to pray for us and a longevity in us building and maintaining a relationship
aneema chowdhury I started to not make myself too accessible and still had hobbies. So, it made them think I have a life and it was a honor to talk to me.
@@eyeofra4059 He must be broke living with an ex but dating other people. Run girl. Get someone on your level or higher with no baggage. Don't let someone guilt you into being with them. Date up. He already showed you his true colors. Believe him.
“When women don’t care is when men care the most.” No truer words have been said. Ladies: Don’t give them too much too soon. Keep your standards VERY HIGH, this will weed out dusty men. Don’t be TOO nice, people will notice this and take advantage of you. Don’t commit EVER until you’re married.
That saying is so true. I remember I liked this guy for 3 years, I was so emotional for him, but then one day I completely pulled back and told myself to move on. A year later he hit my dms and basically fell in love with me
I was only 13 when this video came out, and I was watching it because I was stressing over my first lil boyfriend 😂. Years have past and let me tell you, this woman has really helped me enjoy my youth with and WITHOUT men.
If I saw this when I was 13 my life would have gone completely differently. Im 36 now and married with a child. It doesnt change after marriage, you still have to keep your emotions in check and not be too nice.
@@Shortstacksandticktacks I don’t want to live a life like this… not yours per se but if I have to hold back then what’s the point?? It’s just dumb to me -edit: my cycle came. I was PMSing. My head is back in the game
This was a HARD pill to swallow. I’ve been a pickmeshia and overly emotional. Whole time wondering why I attract “top tier” men only to lose them. Shera, you’re the missing piece I needed!! THANK YOU SO MUCH❤
So very true as I have recently experienced. I forgot this strategic tip, lost sense of my goal and became emotional with this guy. Thankfully there was no sex to be even more attached! He ghosted after 4 strong months. Viewing SheRa was initially harsh. That was bcuz I was still hurting which I blamed myself for. Now, U see her as sharing valuable relationship info to save many many heart sick women! I am appreciative of her insights and ur comment. Thank you much.
I just LITERALLY watched a podcast with men bragging about how regular looking women, single mothers and cougars treat them like kings. Yet they were talking about how the INSTAGRAM types don't do anything but they still wanted them. What you're saying is 100% true.
Majority of men who desire instagram type women only do for pleasure, not to marry and build happy lives with. The instagram type woman spends time investing in things that won’t matter in the long run. Look for men with husband characteristics and who are dating to marry, and stop letting these entertainers (podcasters) steer you in the wrong direction.
Every woman who has mastered the art of emotional stability and all the other skills to become a high value woman has a personal responsibility and obligation to teach every young woman close to her these skills and knowledge. Sprinkle Sprinkle revolution 🎉🎉
Men know this men know anyone who is overly emotional is a basket case and easily subdued. All humans are emotional. Emotion is energy in motion. They use this to manipulate and control women. That’s why they constantly drive it in our heads that we are emotional and get hella pissed when we are strategic, a strategic woman is extremely powerful men know this!
Moneybags Anderson I'm sorry but you guys are terribly misguided. A good man does not want a power struggle with his wife. If you have a good man, then there is nothing wrong with being submissive to him.
Been there done that she speaks the truth🤷🏾♀️. Also when you remove your feelings you see the situation CLEARLY for what it is. Men dont operate like we do the sooner women realize that the better.
I TRIED THIS TATIC AND IT WORKS! I GOT THE GUY THAT I WAS MADLY IN LOVE WITH CHASING AND DOING EVERYTHING FOR ME ...LOL ITS LIKE THEY LIKE THE WOMEN THAT DOG THEM OUT BUT HEY IF THATS HOW U WANT IT LOL I LOVE IT ..I JUST HAVE A I DONT CARE ATTITUDE NOW ( WHILE PAINTING MY NAILS) LOL
Can't wait for "he started showing his true colors" update. Yall pretend to want good guys, but will play dumb ass games...YET act brand new when the dude is a playa as well. And that's why people say women can't think logically............
**✍🏾Cliff notes for the newcomers ** - If you are 25+, Date for money and lifestyle, NOT for love! Also, don't date for looks. ((- If you are under 25, just date for fun. Date for looks and for puppy love. Experience that "dusty phase" while you are still young. Just don't pay for dates and DON'T get pregnant.)) - Pick the correct targets (make sure he likes you way more than you do) - Getting a provider is a numbers game...u gotta be out and about in public several times a week! Almost everyday! And make sure u look good from all angles. - If he starts playing games, just get another man (preferably multiple men) - Dont give the 🐱 up unless he is paying all your bills - LEVEL UP !! Look GOOD every time you leave your house (hair,makeup,nails on point) - Go to the nice side of town for happy hours. Go by yourself. - Online dating is a waste of time - Never pay for dates -Don't cook don't clean - No 50/50 roommate situation! He needs to provide 100%. - Date OLDER men, preferably 15 years+ older than you - Do not tell them upfront that you have kids - ALL men cheat (you can cheat back 🤷🏾♀️) - Men fall in LUST, they don't fall in love with women - Start making up sob/damsel in distress stories to encourage men to spend on u ( "I just paid my granma's rent, I lost my job, my aunt is sick i gotta pay her hospital bills"🥺...) - Stay unbothered and don't let other people's opinion affect u - Always prioritize yourself - Never play fair in an unfair world - When men give you money, save it to invest in yourself (start your own business so u dont have to work a 9-5 anymore) - Sprinkle Sprinkle 💰
Ya I’m tired of playing the nice “I want to make you happy type of person”. Because for some odd reason that always leaves me feeling unhappy. Sorta sad how we can’t just make each other happy- someone always loses- I don’t like being the loser.
A man’s energy (masculine energy) is similar to a line; it is straightforward, to the point and action oriented. As compared to a woman’s feminine energy which is the spiral and is complex, swirling, and more spiritual and emotion based. A man is BASED ENERGETICALLY on ACTION, a man shows you how you feel based on action on doing on building If his ACTIONS don’t show you he “loves” you then he doesn’t care about you point blank period no excuses. Want to know what a man’s version of love for a woman is? You know how your parents, which is undoubtably the ONLY TRUE FORM OF LOVE on this earth is, take care of you? Feed you, clothe you, let you live in their home and not pay rent, and all of those parent things they do for you? Yea, that. If a man doesn’t provide for you, protect you, take care of you similar to how your parents do, he doesn’t give a shit about you. Sorry but that’s the real world
@shogun harlem look, we are not here to keep men loyal..we cleaned and cooked and they still cheated and didn't even give shit. Its okey let him cheat, as long as my bills are paid to the T, and the insurance, and the upgrades. Coz I can still cheat too..everybody got private parts..
Top 5 videos EVER created. Nothing but damn gems. I used to be this girl and since I’ve started investing in myself rather than men and stopped getting emotionally attached to the people around me my life has done a complete 180. Now instead of being the chaser I am now the one being chased. All the guys I used to sweat over now look at me like the missed opportunity and been trying desperately to double back. Y’all better listen. Shera is God sent.
I agree with you S.C.. An older Man more mature if you are looking for a provider/ commitment. "Older" is relative as well. If your in your 20's look for a guy in his mid 30's, if your 30 look for a guy in his 40's and so forth.
My mom taught me the exact opposite of this very valuable information. Had to untrain myself from her pick me behavior where she is the alpha and is basically paying my dad to be with her, paying most of the bills, cleaning, cooking for him and says she is happy just because she can boast 50 years of marriage. I deserve better!
Being with an emotionally abusive man for 15 years taught me that if i don’t put myself first no one will! I learned to love myself so much that i fell out of love with him. Because if he isn’t going to treat me as well as i treat myself, we’re done.
She's right 💯 been there done that. The more you do for a man the less they respect and appreciate you period. Its sad but listen to what she is saying, if i had this video a few years ago it wouldve saved me from alot of heartache.
When I get worried my man could be cheating, I just think “he should be worried if IM cheating” , “He should be worried I’m not interested in him anymore “
I only get irritated if I know I’m right and if my time is wasted, and my man knows better bc he knows that at the end of the day I can just drop him and move on
Been married before. Now divorced, won't do it again... Being a wife isn't an end all goal... It's the beginning of torture and he'll emotionally. Why would I want that? From a man? Just to say we are together? Just be yourself that's all a man wants, and don't play games with them... Especially if you have feelings for them, and they are petty? Your feelings will be hurt more.
And when he does not treat you rite ..... law intervened and Eureka you get paid for it ..... and then the magical word comes in the becoming “Financial Security”
I remember this guy, my ex when I was young like 21 brought his laundry to my apartment talking bout do my laundry for me, we had a huge argument, I was like we don't live together, you pay no bills or rent, we aren't married.. he demanded I did his laundry so I pretended like ok lemmie get this laundry and I dumped it down 3 flights of stairs and said, go get that.
You cannot meet every guy believing that he is the one. Take it slow and follow the signs. Go out on day dates, lunch dates and reserve dinner dates for the person you are some what interested in. All alone the way , you are looking for signs of 1. Who is he as a person. 2. Is this person reliable, can you count on him? 3. How does he handle love, grief, loss , when things are not going right. 4. Is this man responsible? Does he have financial order in his life? And never lend any money at any time to him.
Shera is right about everything, if you don't believe her there's a man out there who's going to make you realise and you're going to learn the hard way
The only times I have been successful with men was when I either completely ignored them, got over them before they got over me or gave them minimal attention. It’s so fucking sad....
It seems as though roles have been reversed. Nowadays you see guys wanting girls to “prove” themselves to guys so guys can make the decision to keep them or not . Guys be wanting girls to chase them. I see it all of the time and experienced it . I will never chase a guy though 😂😂😂 🤦🏽♀️
I followed all this advice and I'm proud to say I landed a sugar daddy who is spoiling me. He's ready and waiting and I'm filing my nails and rolling my eyes lol thanks SheRah we need to get you a pulpit and a choir for these sermons they are invaluable. Dropped my dusty on Wednesday got a sugar daddy on a Friday lol no longer letting these stupid ass men waste my time, #stay winning...listen ladies her advice works and when we change these men change.
Congratulations! I'm dropping mine tonight. I have an older electrician who owns his own company, former military and chilin' who has let me know he's interested. I kept putting him off while the DUSTY my age kept finding ways not to spend money and kept trying to get some. I haven't given it up yet and now I never will. He's dust. This electrician, however, may get it after he gives me what I want. We're having that conversation tomorrow over brunch. Hehe. I have lots of things that need to be done around my house AND I need new tires for my car. Let's see how badly he wants it.
Baby Moscato yep the more feminine and girly the better. Compliment him like it's so nice to see a hard working man shit like that work on his ego...you have to boost it up so that if you leave he will end up in a sunken place lol his self esteem should depend on you...I'm so happy you got rid of that loser...you deserve better all of us women do.
It’s just biology. Women make life in their bodies, all they need is some sperm. A man can impregnate a woman, but the child is still inside her. It’s ultimately up to her who has the child. This is the ultimate biological advantage.
"You don t marry the type of woman who would do anything for you, who is a doormat. Because you will never truly respect her or love her." this one hit me hard
I literally had a guy tell me that I give too much. I also do laundry, cook, and clean and my kids father called me desperate. First time I've ever been called desperate and it was amazing to me how stupid and ungrateful people are.
It’s human nature to take people for granted. If you have a man paying your bills for a year and he stops you’re going to feel some type of way. Never put yourself in that position because men are not appreciative of that. They want a pretty princess that THEY cater to and can show off. Men don’t fall in love with what you do for them they fall in love with what they do for YOU. Promise
He called you desperate, because sadly you did all of those things & you still aren’t a wife. It’s a harsh truth, and be glad he told you. Now you know better & will never make that mistake again. You’re BEAUTIFUL 😍💕
No,your baby daddy likes you,that is why he is telling Truth,he doesn't want you to continue your desperado in the next relationship, because he had absolutely nothing to gain and a lot to lose to be honest with you
You cant pretend to have one foot in and ine foot out....you really have to feel this way. Don't be invested in it be willing to let it go if it's not a good fit. Women invest quickly and get dumped just as fast.
If I had known half of the knowledge you drop back in my day, life would have been so much better. These young women better listen, you be dropping gems. #wisdom
I cooked for a man one time and guess who he dedicated a Valentine’s Day Facebook post to…the woman he said he had broken up with when he came to my house asking for food…I had been knowing this man since middle school and had never done anything for him. I will never put myself in that situation again.
I initially rejected the first video I saw 2 days ago... “Omg is this lady for real talking about being a gold digger??” And then I kept her on and actually listened to her. Still in slight judgment mode for about all of 10 -20 mins AND THEN I realized that she is actually telling the truth and more importantly all our truths but we were taught that this is wrong. So yeah the lying part is not easy for me to co-sign on but ya know what??? She is good for those of us who tend to be “PickMeshas” or just too trusting and “lovedrunk” aka dumb. I’m listening to her 7+ hours a day and for 2 nights switch out my ASMR for her videos to help rewire my 💭 thoughts. I have swayed left/right for so long that @SheRaSeven1 will help me be more balanced. #ByeDusties #LevelUp
You are so right with these tips. I used to be that over emotional girl at some point. But I have learned that is worst mistake ever because men will take advantage of you like nothing. My current man is always telling me that he don't think I really love him the way he adores me lol. I love hearing him say that because I love him, I just don't show him that much so he keeps guessing.
I needed to hear this. I was getting emotionally attach and I could feel myself. I will definitely pull back. It's not a game it's to protect myself from someone who's not going to be my husband.
What are you psychic or something, cause girl you hit the nail on the head.. Haven't dated in like 5years, cause ive been about my money.. But i was that cry baby, the dumb one, very overly emotional.. I wonder if this came from not having my dad in my life.. Love you tho you real as they come, you my big sister now lol
This is one of SheRa's best videos! Hands down! Pure instruction and wisdom. This is my second or third time watching, I already know the game - I just watch again for reminder and to build more mental strength.
