Men, Intimacy & The "Right to Sex" - Between The Scenes | The Daily Show 

Yes, sharing your vulnerability takes courage. Thank goodness you were there to offer him comfort in a time of need. That moment is what love and compassion are all about.

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May you be blessed with the opportunities and courage to create many more moments of connection like this 🥰

did you 69 afterwards? 🤣🤣

That's beautiful man. Thank you for sharing.

Yes I agree with you.

100% ... We don't just need Trevor around ... WE NEED MORE MEN WITH THIS KIND OF COMPASSION & UNDERSTANDING ... If we did the World 🌎 would be on a better track to becoming better for EVERYONE!

He’s not going anywhere really, just moving into the next frame 😊

@@ThrivingEcosystems true but I’m not going to get to enjoy him on a regular bases anymore

Hot take - Trever starts his own online news series once he finally leaves, takes down the internet

Agreed... They didn't realize how serious/beautiful this conversation truly is... I'll miss Trevor's daily perception

Yeah, that bugged me, as nothing he was saying was (nor was meant to be) funny...I think it was just the expectation that "we're on a comedy show, right? We're supposed to laugh at something!", instead of truly *listening* to what was being said...

I watched it with no sound, just subtitles, and I don't know what parts the audience would have laughed at?? He just made great point after great point

@@aprilupfold6424 exactly. I think it was a mix of expecting humor (it’s Trevor Noah after all) and the kind of laughter we exhibit when we’re embarrassed or uncomfortable. Really surreal cause none of it was “funny”.

thank you!

I get a chair massage about once a month for pain management. Just yesterday, while I was getting a massage, I was thinking that, if I were alone with no family or friends, a massage would be a safe way to experience human touch. I’m blessed to have a husband and friends who are the hugging type. Not everyone has that.

It’s deeper than just social media. That men should be tough and not touchy-feely is engrained in our society.

Disgusting!

What a beautiful comment!💙

May I suggest that he didn't just need to be held? He also needs to see you more often.

I wish my dad was capable of noticing something like that. I am 100% certain he does not experience regular human emotion. Something like sociopathy or psychopathy no doubt. I once saw him pretend to get emotional when I caught him killing his GF’s dog, it was really over the top and fake

thank you for sharing that, it made me feel warm and happy in my heart

Very moving. Thank you for sharing.

He leaving?

Women realised a long time ago. Men are the ones not catching up. Individually and on a societal level.

@@ichbineddie I believe he leaves December the 8th. He wants to go out and do his own thing for a while.

@@molchmolchmolchmolch I would rather say it is society having failed (on this subject) men, rather than men having failed themselves. The issue here is masculinity, and the concept of masculinity is created by society as a whole. It stems from the idea of needing to be strong, which is something that existed for millenia.

@@ichbineddie yeah I think his last show is Dec 6th? I forget

Very on point. I wish he had called out the crowd on that reaction, because he didn't deliver that as a joke. The crowd laughed at even the hypothetical idea of a man asking for support from another man, that's how alien it still is.

For that show, the crowd is warmed up to laugh easier and told to laugh out loud. This is an in between conversation. The crowd wasn't prepped or ready for a convo this deep.

Not entirely, it's also because he is a comedian and we are waiting for a punch line that we giggle

@@WarriorBoy Reactions aren´t planned. They are spontaneous.

@@WarriorBoy He also needs to respect the crowds reactions. He made a point. Great! Now people take their time to internalize it.

... Dua Lipa?

I wish he could meet my daughter!

Yes 🙌🏼 ! I couldn’t agree more. What a beautiful man, mind, and soul he is 💖

@@valorietodd4698 I’m here I can meet her too lol jk

As long as that person isn't white, right? "White people problems"

I originally dug his work cuz he was on the outside looking in. Being boy from the USA.

Too.

100% agree. I’m going to miss him for sure.

hes actually rly restricted on what he can say probably a reason why he wants to leave the show

Trevor is the Confucius of our time. His philosophy is so on point.

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

Thanks

​@@AC-mp7cx His message was a positive one about men, where was the demonetization? Bizarre thing to say.

@@AC-mp7cx Okay, but let's unpack that a little. Men being affectionate with each other is demonized, leads to isolation, feeling like they don't matter because they can't get or don't even realize they need that affection because it's taboo, and the perpetuation of the demonization is a social issue that gets internalized just like any oppression can get subconsciously internalized by the victims. When men lack self-awareness about these things, and straight men especially can only look for intimacy in women who are 'more than friends,' their existence begins to be seen as inherently problematic because they want to die on that hill rather than consider conversations like this.

@@chanajeffus4371 I think he is saying that isn't the problem. Not saying Trevor was treating people bad. It is society. Not sure I entirely agree, but I do know men often leave their friends for a relationship. Hence the phrase, "bros before hoes"... because typically it is hoes before bros. There is a ton of stand up comedy about men "disappearing" to date someone, only to come back a few months later to rejoin the group.

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Agreed!

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I agree ❤

Best show of 2022

But times are changing friend..❤❤ All i have is my hope 💖✨

100%. He is so special.

Did he stop?

I hope he makes a RU-vid channel and continues to talk about stuff

For me it’s a tie between him and John Oliver.

@@bladegalaxy5298 His ratings were so low and he's not funny so he was canned.

yes to this 🙌🙌🙌

Yes please

FORREALZ

Before he retires from the Daily Show, he certainly needs to be given SOME kind of award. Most definitely.

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

Remember when the BLM protests were happening, and the home talk Trevor gave about the societal contract? Truly deep and dear, yet somehow we’ve forgotten it and its relevance, especially now.

@@GladysAlicea You haven't forgotten it. There are more than you realize haven't forgotten it either.

This is the show that I started respecting him. Best breakdown I've seen in years

Yes, Most of the men in Fundamental patriarchal countries, men don't know what is intimacy actually

Facts!

True, it's genuinely heart breaking to see. Most of the men I know don't even realise what they're missing and as a woman that just baffles me.

I kid you not there are men around me, the open minded men who still feels they can only share their intimacy with a female(their mum, sis or a friend) as they never experienced or seen two men having teary-eyed/deep conversations. They neither expects a response like they get from a female, nor are prepared to give one. And i know as I used to be one of 'em. Credits to the women being miles ahead. The love or shall I say compassion between two humans can be equivalent (on a human understanding level) irrespective of gender as mostly the hormones are same.

Dat Part💯👆🏿

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

@@AC-mp7cx wow, somebody has issues...respectfully

@@lca7084 Today's feminism is not about equality though...

@@patbenz4327 yea it is. in fact, the only groups really working for male issues are feminists. successes and efforts in parental court to respect father's rights is an excellent example of this. it's not "today's feminism" you're complaining about... it's a couple twitter morons blown out of proportion by people that don't like feminism.

@@AC-mp7cx try a therapist instead of RU-vid.

"female friends?" Oh boy. Where to start!? This is an "L" right from the jump.

talk to your parents lol not the internet

I can relate. As a boy, I talk to girls & enbies more often than boys, and I think it's because I resonate with them better.

@@slylockfox85 ur so cringe. I almost want to laugh.

@@jetfuel-cant-melt-stealbea5518 What's cringe is your lack of grammar and proper spelling. You're either so young that you think it's "cool" to talk like that, and therefore your opinion on relevant matters is worthless, or you're older but lack the ability to understand that how you communicate says a lot about you. I often find that people like you who respond to me on RU-vid never actually say anything that refutes my points/comments. They just throw out some lame, cliche comeback that only plays well with other fellow smooth-brains.

Had to add bro there, hu?

I am sure if this happened in some random street corner it would be a drug bust. I am definitely asking "what did he give you? What are you hiding? Empty your pockets!"

Agree. He definitely has a much bigger calling awaiting and shoes to fill of his own. There is something big out there that l feel Trevor will grab and just take off. Maybe its just something that he is creating without realizing he is and its a Diamond in the ruff. 💎 Looking forward to following his New Journey. ❤️❤️❤️Love you Trevor.🤗🥰 But l am also enjoying every minute of you while you are still here with us on The Daily Show.🙌🏽❤️❤️❤️

In a non-sarcastic way and really in a proud way, Trevor is what "woke" is. The manliest man I can think of, brave enough to be vulnerable.

every time he smiles the world is a little better.

absolutely

me

They're emotionally cheating on their partners. Not what I would call the Nicest guys.

@@spookyariel1 you forgot single people exist for a second? 😂

@@spookyariel1 i get that but i still understands what she’s saying. shes not saying theyre right. you can be a nice guy doing the wrong thing. these men needed a friend is what shes trying to say. most other men shes come across were not like these guys. i feel for them and her.

@@spookyariel1 you have literally no idea. She said they asked for *advice* about their partners-that’s not emotional cheating, that’s asking for help because they likely don’t feel comfortable asking the same questions to any of their MALE friends….which was the whole point of this segment, just in case you missed it….

@@miriam4235 the comment I responded to said her clients were asking advice about their wives become her regulars And taking her bowling? Wanna bet their wives have no idea they're paying to "hang out with a friend"

Absolutely. Now that I think of it. Women although single they'd more often than not, would have a mother, a sister, a child, a nephew/ niece, a set of girl-friends with whom they express I love you's, hugs and deep intimate conversations. Whereas a man in the same position would have surface-level bro friendships/ acquaintances which would turn instantly awkward if the words I love you were to be said out loud

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

@@AC-mp7cx Spewed? You're angry.. You're exactly the type of mn who needs a hug, a haaaarrrddd long hug

@@AC-mp7cx In some ways, I think you just agreed with me- you just disagree with HOW men feel like they are valued and not demonized. Is there some level of demonization that happens to straight cis men right now? Maybe in some communities online, but not in the real world, to any extent. Comparing men and women, women, in my experience, have much deeper connections with their close friends, whereas me and my guy friends can talk and play video games every day without really going much deeper than surface level. I've had a friend commit suicide, and he seemed normal but lonely until the day he took his own life. A lot of troubled men, including school shooters, tend to follow that same trend. Because of this, single women tend to be more well adjusted than men, because men rely heavily on that relationship to dump all their emotions into- maybe things have changed in recent generations, but that's been my experience. If you listen to red pillers, they tend to follow the high school route of valuing high body counts for establishing a sense of importance or self worth, and the other means of improving your life are kind of a means to an end. That's why people like Andre Tate always brag about how many women they're with and show them off on camera. The problem is, most guys can't pull that off, even if that weren't a dumb way to find meaning in life. Instead, it's much more reasonable to just form close friendships, but that's not the cultural norm at the moment.

Don’t pay attention to this troll bot. He posts this in every reply.

My parents were married for 63 years and I can't remember a day that they didn't take a walk hand in hand even when one of them wasn't happy at the moment

I'm so sorry for your loss. Much love a healing to you, Mary❤️

My dad also has terminal cancer 😢So sorry for your loss. And thank you for the hugging tip. Just tried that with my wife and i was surprised how happy it made her, haha. Should have tried it much sooner. Trevor was right. As usual. Haha.

@@AnimefortheLazyman take every opportunity to tell both of them how much you love them. We never know how long we have with those we love

My condolences 😢 💜 May your heart be renewed each day and may you find loving hugs unexpectedly when you need them most!

Men are the ones who claim and assert that they don't have those particular social needs, so how can they now blame women and/or society for not providing it for them?

When you find someone to listen to you when you’re not making sense to yourself, you tend to hold onto them for dear life and protect them at all costs. We can’t live without them.

I did not know being single could be a habit 🤔. I thought I was single for lack of attractions in my vicinity. Oh if I could manifest myself in one of these RU-vid videos I definitely would not be single🤤💃🏼🥲. Alas 😞!

​@lindiwehlatshwayo8105 the magic of youtube is that you can be in a video

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

I noticed that laughter as well. It's like everyone got uncomfortable with him just saying that out loud.

@@AC-mp7cx everyone needs human touch tho

I just replied in Comments. I’ve been accidentally research this for about a year now. It’s an important topic.

@@AC-mp7cx both of you are right. There's not enough vulnerability from men. There's not enough real companionship for men. And men are too often predetermined to be sexist, objectifying monsters. "Male privilege" is used more as a discourse stopper, not an observation (and when someone uses it, you know they're thinking rich guys.) The audience might have cheered at the end but I guarantee 99.8% of them would perpetuate toxic gender norms when faced with a vulnerable man because it's what they're most comfortable with, and men are reluctant to change because they already feel like the socially acceptable punching bag.

Patriarchy hurts men, too!

Yep

I legit didn't understand why they laughed. I thought it was already widely known, than men in current society are starved of physical comfort. I'm so sorry you're living through this, my dude.

Same here. I read it as a bit of a nervous laugh. We're not comfortable talking about this. They kind of took it like he was being funny. He wasn't.

@@TheDivayenta um no that's the matriarchy. I never get told I'm a p*ssy for wanting intimacy by men, it's by these "strong confident women." My male friends and I hug and encourage each other to speak their feelings all the time. Yet Somehow, you still manage to blame it on more men. Typical feminist bull. It's the women

I agree. And it’s sad that I’m fear to be seen as weak. Instead of seeing their need for vulnerability they instead turns to commiserating about their grievances, entitlement and bitterness. They get connection but in the wrong form

As a genderfluid asexual person, I've been talking about the importance of this for so many years, and I am SO grateful he brought it up.

@@Jerepasaurus 😂

No one ever discusses what asexual is & every person in a relationship experiences this after a certain time if they aren’t already asexual in general (if that makes sense)

It’s so important.

Only because I've always mixed up the two, how would you say that being asexual is different from being aromantic? I've always been curious about that, and I constantly mix up the two in my head. Any clarification would be much appreciated ☺️

This story was beautiful!

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

@@AC-mp7cx Okay, stop botting.....you are a bot!

Beautiful.

@@AC-mp7cx Emotional isolation was certainly addressed here- so where is the isolation? It can't be physical isolation, because I see men every day. (Sometimes I'll even speak to them!) The self-imposed emotional isolation among men is precisely what was being discussed. This doesn't make a man any more or less than he already is; it only makes him human. What is demonizing about acknowledging that men care for one another? After all, you obviously care about them by caring about what happens; it's just another form of expressing care.

Sorry for your loss

Condolences to you and your family, @Kate. I've had friends go 'that way' - it 's shattering.

Love’s in need of love today- Stevie Wonder ❤

I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you and your brother’s friends and family are doing well now! Take care of yourself! ❤

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Change is way overdue. 💔

the youtube algorithm wants to promote things that 4-year-olds care about

Plus the title is a little misleading. They should have named it something else. It's doesn't do the message the justice it deserves.

It's not sensationalist. Remember, "it's what keeps the people 'going'"

Five minutes of my head in my BF's lap with him softly running his palm over my back... And All Was Right With The World. Nothing has ever made me smile more, talk about feeling serene.

Have you read his book, 'Born a Crime'? He learned a lot of lessons well.

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

@@AC-mp7cx you’ve written this comment several times already. Have you considered that you might be preoccupied with seeking validation? Do you feel better when someone finally clicks “like”? I’m saying in all seriousness that you are probably in desperate need of a hug.

@arnaldo nombambela Part genetics, part education, part life experience.

@@AC-mp7cx Second thread I read, second time I read this same comment from you. Get off 4chan or where ever it is you wallow in your selfpity and try and use the engergy you waste on this copy-pasted recruitment drive for sad men into making yourself and those men like you happier instead of angrier.

Jeez, the man is not dying 😂 (kidding here, we're all gonna miss his daily takes 🥲)

Yes, the audience reaction proved his point.

As women, we've definitely created support structures around us. It really helps us cope. I wish my husband could just talk about everything that stressed him out. Instead he hangs out on occasion having a few beers with his male friends and they just talk nonsense.

But do men want to be held for real? I mean deep inside?

​@@Ljounieh Oh yes, many more than you think. Maybe they rather confide in this to their female than to their male friends

The bias against mens intimacy by other men

Keep childs away my friend.

Exactly what I was thinking (but you expressed it better). Yes.

ive had a lot of people drop out of my life, it hurts, i didnt have a Dad ( its ok lol) but yours sounds amazing. If thats your real picture too you look like my best friends brother who died, then she died, its painful, keep friendships.

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

I remember learning about Soviet experiments on orphan babies where only the basic most essential contact was given. The resulting consequences was deemed "failure to thrive" with physical, mental and emotional issues in all the test cases. The toxic aspects of masculinity have basically repeated this throughout adult male society. Isolating a social creature of any age is bound to have negative consequences. Feeling is believing as words are cheap, so continue to hug your son and he'll never doubt your love.

Your son’s a fool too.

@@scottmwilhelms2437 love this-beautifully put.

My husband and I hug our son. We give him cheek kisses, I love yous are said very often. As he's getting dropped off for sch, I tell him I love you, have a great day and be careful. The thing is, we weren't raised that way. Our cultures largely believe showing boys affection will dampen their masculinity and make them sissies. How? I don't want toxic kids. He's only 9 but we want to make sure if something happened to us today, he should have the memory of being loved and hopefully, be able to use it.

its not about hugs lol. It's the demonization of men

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he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

It's interesting to me how slow the audience was to applaud or cheer until he prompted them at the end. I think it speaks to the fact that this is such a minefield.

@@AC-mp7cx aren't there reasons for that? 🙃

@@AC-mp7cx The comments under this video is full of men saying they relate to what Trevor is saying. I have also talked to men that say they find it hard to be emotionally vulnerable. He’s not “spewing a feminist narrative”, maybe it’s you who’s spewing a incel narrative instead of listening to other men.

@@AC-mp7cx Isolation = never getting hugs, you're talking about the same subject but for some reason you felt the need to make it political. Do you need a hug my man?

Higher suicide rate in young men, traumas and JP said "it is a shame a lot of people are dying due to the lack of a kind word". The moment the discussion became Men Vs Women, we(men and women) already lost.

he just spewed a feminist narrative tbh. Men are struggling due to demonization, and isolation. Not due to them not being held, or not being able to cry, or say ily to their bros. Men don't feel like they matter, and that they are an issue, by existing

Lol...that's funny. Considering how many men are still k*lling their wives + children. What did they lack?

@@AC-mp7cx Isolation = never getting hugs, you're talking about the same subject but for some reason you felt the need to make it political. Do you need a hug my man?

It's seen as week. Then again, who asked about weakness?

I find it very misleading and sexist as somebody who is experienced the opposite of this in every relationship I've been around and watched what female Behavior has become today I think it's a both sides thing and I don't see why it has to be addressed as being between two men I think the intimacy between men and women has been largely lost and probably was never there in the first place in a lot of ways and it shouldn't be viewed exactly identical

They can, they choose not to or choose to ridicule each other for it out of groupthink and fear that they create for themselves

@@kissit012 there are some men that ridicule other men for this, and there are men who are fine with being vulnerable and don't ridicule others. But I doubt there'd be many men who want to be vulnerable but also ridicule others as well, and even if they are, it is probably because of underlying insecurities and societal expectations, women may also uphold this in some cases.

@@kissit012 In a perfect scenario. Yes, you'd be right. But there are also a ton of women who ridicule men if they show any kind if vulnerability. It's just a vicuous cycle that many are trying to change and often times when it's brought up. It's downplayed like its nothing.

He should do an edited podcast like Chappelle did with the midnight miracle, and we would just get his thoughts about any subject. That would make me really happy

He needs a Podcast. Not the daily show. Someone else can do the "Lets make fun of Matt Gaetz" jokes. Trevors strength is in these deeper conversations.

Top reply 💯lol👋

Couldn't agree more.....

YES!! I’m gonna miss him.

agree 💯%. I could listen to an hour long podcast by Trevor about this exact topic.

Yes! As opposed to the Jordan Peterson’s who claim to help men but impress their fascist and fundamentalist philosophies on them.

Great idea, but can you imagine the speed wobble the Republicans would get?!?! 🤔 🤪😅🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

It's been discussed for years but usually within academic circles or picked up on newsfeeds outside of pop culture 🤷🏻‍♀️

@@Vitamin_D Who cares? Everyone oughta give this topic some _deep thought_

Trevor is the best!

My mind immediately went to the same place. Without saying he's talking about the need for men to be vulnerable in order to be whole, he's talking about it 💜

He said in his book at age TEN his mother was telling him how to satisfy a woman . He questioned am ONLY ten . If he didn't no NOW he knows

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Alot of dudes aren't toxic. Just average and women have so many options, those average or below average men fall below the cracks. No amount of therapy can fix a bad hairline or unattractive face.

You'd ruin the film by inserting this thought-provoking stuff before it.

How about this instead of campaign ads? This in an ad slot is a great idea!