MEN, we have a problem… 

My value is not on what women think of me, but what Christ thinks of me and how he took it upon himself to be crucified for my sake. I’m grateful for that.

Finally, someone who's actually in a successful marriage speaking on relationship advice.

Thank you for talking about this. The ultimate "High Value man" is Jesus. He wouldn't treat women like the red pilll movement preaches

Exactly. I would add that these red pill guys dunk on promiscuous women all the time, yet encourage young men to go out there and sleep with as many women as possible. These guys are literally adding to the problem that they hate so much. How about we encourage both men and women to stay celibate until marriage? That's actually a logical solution to the promiscuity problem.

The red pill recognizes that hookup culture is a problem and their solution is to engage in it! 😂

I'm a young man and this was very helpful. Thanks

As a non christian I think this video is brilliant

As a young male teenager seeking to have a family in the future, I'm shocked at how young men blindly follow the advice of these narcissist & insecure men. Our guidance to find a good wife comes from God, not men who are friends with this world.

I am an agnostic, but man I somehow always end up coming back to your videos, keep up the good work🙌

I've been consuming more of the red pill content for some months now after i got my heart broken and was cheated on , my attitude drastically changed towards the women around me after I started watching those content. Even getting women telling me I'm been mean to them . As a Christian this video has helped me to understand what true value is . Please make more videos like this in the future. Please 🙏 ❤

Thank you for reminding us how to be a man in today’s runaway culture.

I’m lonely sometimes and I’m a married female. I have 3 children ages 6,8&10 and a husband. Jesus the Holy Spirit helps me not feel lonely. For real God is the way to not feel lonely anymore.

Yes, please may the REAL MEN STAND UP! Society needs your voice so much!

as someone who was formerly Red pill and is now gospel centric , few people understand how angry at the world you get cause everything seems stacked against you from the start. but now as a follower of christ its like a mountain has been removed from my shoulders and he has become my everything

As a man who has been married for 36 years, you are correct. I would add that a Godly woman is key. You both need to see your value through Christ. Additionally, you have to learn to forgive. After being married this long, I firmly am convinced part of the purpose of marriage, besides raising a family and having a partner, is teaching us how to forgive. You and your spouse will hurt each other and you will screw up. Learning to love and not keep score is key to reaping the benefits down the road of a long term partner. The world basis lust as love. Pride over humility. Follow those rules and yep, you will end up alone, eventually if not immediately.

As a young Gen Z man I can say from experience that I used to be very sexist and insecure before I was a Christian. What helped me get out of that was coming to Christ and seeing the amazing work that He did in my own life but also seeing the women of the kingdom of God and knowing that there were lots of amazing women out there and that ultimately all of us are part of the problem but by coming ti Christ we can become part of the solution instead.

Finding value from God is what made me finally get over my ex. I realized how disgusting he treated me, how manipulative he was. It also helped me to specifically forgive the debts I felt he owed me for. This should also apply to men. When you receive value from God, you won’t accept filthy treatment from heartless, selfish people.

This was a wonderfully articulated video on male-female relationships, and also ultimately our relationship as we love God and one another, probably one of the best articulations of this relationship.

If you focus all your time and energy on trying to attract narcissistic women, guess what type of women you get?

The problem with many of these philosophies is they take a fragment of truth and turn it into a colossal lie. They also don’t offer any solutions other than conformity or despair. As a single man, I think the best solution is to help good men and women find each other. Obviously, if I knew how to do that, I wouldn’t be single, but I refuse to believe that all women are shallow and corrupt, even if a large portion of them seem to be.

WOW YOU ARE TRULY DOING GOD’S WORK!! The enemy is at work against men!

You are truly doing God’s work by addressing this issue. As a woman I can tell you it is so horrific to watch what they say on these ridiculous podcasts and it is so difficult to try and talk to a man with this type of mindset. I just simply won’t even try anymore. Thank you for trying to lead by being better. I hope more men will look up to somebody like you than the fresh and fits and Andrew Tate’s of the world. Because I promise you, no good woman wants them.

Let's not forget that these red pill men say that they're not controlled by women, yet a lot of the things they do is for the sake of women. These men's lives are heavily centered around women to the point where it's idolatry. Whether they like to admit it or not, women are their god. As believers our focus should be centered around Christ and learning how to be great Christian men according to His word.

It’s a shame. Unfortunately going down this road is a perpetuating cycle. It only forces to kill any potential for a healthy relationship. It’s sad that we are in a place where the mentality seems to be men vs women. In order for a healthy relationship to function, it’s a necessary for both individuals to support and assist one another while taking personal responsibility for our faults. . The purpose of a relationship, biblically speaking is to be a demonstration of Christ and the church. We can’t do this when we walk in bitterness, selfishness and blame shifting regardless of gender.

You’re right there is more to be said. More people need to see this! Both men and women 💃🏾 God bless!

For me personally, i think it was necessary to fall for these red pill channel’s crap and then realize their issues. They helped me move past certain problems and now that I’ve realized their problems, I have moved past those. I now have a girlfriend and am able to take responsibility for myself and understand both my own and my woman’s life dealings. For men, we need to grow throughout these phases, not cling to comfort in fellow men or other connections. Edit: I still don’t have a six pack or money

Jon I knew you wouldn't let me down! I've been waiting for you to make a video on this exact topic. Thanks for all your hard work. I'm so thankful for your consistent gospel reminders.

Well said, having knowledge of yourself and a backbone doesn’t mean treating people like dirt.

Thank you for articulating what I have been observing about the "red pill" movement. It has been truly concerning. We must seek our value in Christ not in ourselves.

Ugh, I agree with all you have said, but what mental gymnastics this has become!! I love my husband and he loves me and we both serve the Lord according to our roles. Simple and fulfilling 🥰

Always appreciate your content. Thank you for shining truth onto these destructive lies.

I would not want to be dating in today's world,i got married just before the online dating apps took off. My wife feels the same way when she talks to her single girlfriends.

The Way of The Biblical Man 🙏

You’re hitting the nail on the head here. Honestly watching those videos always made me feel worse. These guys on those channels have no nuance in their discussions. I think you’re solution is better :) Great word, man. Really appreciate this

Also seeing a man tell a woman her mother has “failed”because she has a job…..that quote stuck out to me quite a bit. My mother had to do that especially when my dad was sick and was dying. He passed away and she became her kids’ soul provider…. Again these guys occasionally have good things to say but ultimately what they further divides the two genders.

I'm a simple man, you upload a video, I like it.

As an 18 year old, I should be the perfect audience for these channels but something always felt wrong. Even if I was following the world, just following basic logic would show how counterintuitive their methods are. Be disciplined but not in terms of sexuality. Generalise to all women despite their favourite weapon, statistics, showing that the promiscuous behaviours they exhibit attract promiscuous women. Promote stats yet either misinterpret the nuances or completely use false data. I get that we seek bonds based on experiences (which funnily enough falls into a parasocial relationship in this case, despite them saying to avoid them because women) but these guys can't be the ones to bond with. Much like the Tates, red pill creators are broken clocks, right occasionally but not to be relied upon for usefulness.

"Women don't want a jerk who's going to treat them like crap." (7:43) Exactly! As you say, women want men who have a backbone AND who are kind. And in addition to that, I'd like to add women want men who are trustworthy. A man can be poor and sickly and still have all of those characteristics. I'm glad you are offering good advice, Whadda You Meme.

Good points. I do agree with your main message about red pill is that they come off as insecure because they are ultimately putting a woman's validation as the utmost highest value. In my personal opinion however, I do think that the current modern version of the Christian church is not really conducive to masculine fellowship or masculine discipleship for young men to develop "a backbone" as you put it. Most churches are majority women and from my experience the churches i've been to have all been full of these simpy guys that let their wives walk all over them and publically disrespect them. Not really the type of guys that have backbones. Additionally, churches do the same thing that the rest of the world does. They just shame men for not "being a man and marrying a woman" as if that's just going to fix all their problems. I really feel for young men in this generation, they really don't have any more masculine spaces anymore where they can learn how to be men by older wiser men. Additionally, young men are being told that they are bad people for existing and being masculine. Then, if they try to voice their concerns they get called incel or some other pejorative and are told that it's their own fault. No one gives a crap about young men and it's sad. I think that's why young men turn to red pill because at least there someone is telling them "it's not your fault". It's not the best solution and you maybe you're right it may cause more damage, but what is the alternative message for young men? Everywhere else, the world is telling them to just disappear and no one wants you around, the church is telling them just be an bank account for a woman and her children. Does anyone even care about what young men want? Just my two cents. Also just a minor disagreement about your point about our bodies inevitably getting fat. You don't have to get fat as you age. There are a lot of studies out now that show that if you continue to resistance train as you get older your body retains most of it's muscle as well as its bone density. Additionally, you can stave off the mental effects of aging and hormone loss by continuing to train. Just because you get old doesn't mean you have to look like the average American that ages and become obese. But I get your main point about not putting all your value in how you look.

Masculinity is about what you do for others rather than yourself that's just selfishness. be a leader , a worker a friend just be there for someone ,masculinity also doesn't come from blaming women for your failures.

This is an absolute breath of fresh air!!!!!! Amen 🙌🏼

I am so grateful for my husband who clearly holds the bottom line in the decisions in our family, but also is kind. loving and engaged in myself and our girls. His "Backbone" is a supporting post for the shelter and well-being of our family, not a totem pole to his own image.

THANK YOU! if my husband thought half the stuff this guys think, we wouldn't be married. Nobody wants to be treated like crap.

On hind site, there’s nothing wrong with being single forever. Paul even talks about this

This Man who makes these Videos has a Wise Head OVER HIS SHOULDERS; he's a Critical Thinker and he is Smart. He's also a backbone Christian that is Not Easily fooled. Love him.

As always the answer is found in scripture: Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Become more like Christ and you will attract the right woman.

Great video and great message.🙏🏼

I appreciate how calm you are. A lot of content creators are sensationalist. You’re easy to listen to and make intelligent points. Thank you

All facts, this video needs WAY more views, for now you’ve got a new subscriber👍

I can’t express how this video is meaningful and important, touching the key issue for men today. In Christ we have all the confidence we need.

Modern women and modern men are both contemptible, that much is true. But living a Christian life remedies that. Instead of embracing the incel mindset and placing the blame outside ourselves, we need to embrace Christ, and the divine order He establishes in our lives. For some of us, that means raising a traditional Christian family. For others, that means embracing worshipful celibacy, without bitterness, but with joy at the opportunity to devote ourselves fully to God.

Literally when I stopped listening to these red pill advice channels and started trusting in God and being myself. I found my wife and am now happily married. The Bible has the best advice on everything including dating.

The manosphere is a town that you just need to visit once, kinda like Vegas. 24 hours and get out, never to return again lol

Thank you for being a man and speaking up about this. It’s so sick to hear men denigrate marriage, women and children. Men and women both need to step up and create strong marriages. We all need help. We didn’t get it from society or our parents.

Oh my goodness... That show is just degrading women. 😂 I am so grateful that I dodged the dating scene in today's world. I am so grateful for my hubby. He was the first man to ever take me on a real date... And he was so polite when I met him. I love him so much.

As a person who has been cheated and divorced, some of the red pill resonated with me. Some of it is solid advice, others not so much.

Too much focus on worldly things will always cause strife, and will take focus off God. This is why Paul said it is better not to marry.

Technically the Internet is the problem . A man will always seek the best mating potential in looks and if he thinks most women look like the filtered Instagram version they would want that. Its unrealistic. But his brain doesn't understand that. And if women sees rich men on there Internet, they would want that. The point is. The human male or female will always seek the best possible mate potential to replicate with and our perception of what's available is augmented. But what's happening is natural. It's totally natural to want best from what's available. But the problem is its not the reality. Most women are not as pretty as their Instagram and most men are not as rich as they claim. I guess it could be settled of filters aren't allowed or lying about your finances are illegal. But if you want men to not want hot girls, or girls to want men who ask money from her. Never gonna happen. We are not built that way.

Well articulated video, thanks for sharing man! Christ is the standard and emulation. Men and Women have value, no one is to be treated as trash.

As much as i am exhausted from seeing these types of vids (earthly manosphere mindset, fyi) thank you for this. God bless

You are right brother!

God will usually give you signs for the people who are right for you, not just romantically, in general. Sometimes we refuse to see the signs. Many men of this type just project their insecurities, which of course isn't kind or helpful

There just needs to be balance. The modern mentality of women is absolutely shocking and hasn't been challenged for a looooong time. The mentality has come largely through man-hating feminism, but we as Christians should know not to base our thinking on earthly mentalities. The ends of both spectrums don't have a godly base, so they base their values on nonsense. Godly women and godly men have a different attitude and a different type of confidence. I did find myself waking up from blaming men for everything, and from having this brainwashed notion that women are more moral than men... somehow that's been sponged into the thinking of the masses. I didn't grow up thinking like that, but i picked it up sometime in the last 10 to 15 years...Nancy Pearcey said some interesting stuff on an interview with Beckett Cook

Wow! So well said!! Dear lord, let this message reach the ears of young men that are hopeless, angry, and enticed by the red pill community. Offer them the hope of this message to build a beautiful life in Christ. Amen!

Glad you covered this! This conversation is important. There’s such a division.

Great Video. It's important for Christian men to understand the difference between dating advice pertaining to the "world" and dating advice for us. Christian men should not get sucked into the redpill stuff because its void of biblical principles.

This video reminds me of something I heard years ago from a sermon. It went something like this: "God didn't take Eve from his feet to be under man. He didn't take her from his head to be above him. God took her from the rib to walk beside him." We are equal under God. Much love Jon!

Thank you for analysing the good and bad of both side. . . This is why I always say, don't look for someone to complete you. . . You have to be complete on your own BEFORE looking to share your life with another.

Thank you for spreading a cautionary message about these manosphere guys. I’m a married man with a child and I run a business and these channels disgust me. The best conceptualization I’ve seen of these channels is that they serve what immature children think masculinity is like. (But that doesn’t even touch on the internally contradicting and incoherent philosophy they propose)

One of my favorite videos! Thanks for putting this out for people to hear. Blessings!

I loved this! The messages I've seen from the redpill space have bothered me so much, so it's really good to see someone advocating for love and respect (and not hating or devaluing women).

This is why we need the patriarchy! All this bad behavior are men and women crying out for real parenting. Even in the 40s and 50s, when blacks had over 80 percent of fathers in the home and faced real racism, blacks worked hard, committed very little crime, stayed in school, and married! Following the breakdown of the patriarchy, we are falling apart as a society without morals and values.

Hey I just want you to know that as a Christian I 100% agree with your message, but I disagree on a couple of small points. Let me give you a little backstory: I’m a 33 year old man who has been going through a divorce for the last three years and been fighting to get full custody of my three kids who I am barely able to see and talk to at this time. I currently live with my parents in another state and have been living like a pauper. At this point I have no idea when my divorce will be finalized, but when it does it’s gonna take a couple of years to get myself financially re-established, and by the time I’m eligible to date again I’ll most likely be in my late 30’s. And even though I want full custody of my kids and have them be here near their grandparents, what’s more likely going to happen is that I’m gonna have to move back to where my ex and kids are, which is where I originally met my ex back when I was in the Air Force, so that I can be closer to my kids. So here’s where I disagree with some of your points. I’m making it my goal to make a lot of money so that I can take care of my kids and also to make myself desirable for the next woman I may end up meeting. If I am gonna date again (where my kids are living it’s probably gonna be a low chance of that happening), I’m not gonna want to go for the women in my age group who will most likely be either divorced or widowed with kids of their own. I’m not gonna spend my hard earned money on someone else’s kids when I haven’t been able to raise my own kids. So if I’m instead gonna go for a younger woman who doesn’t have kids, then I better be the top sh*t so that she would be attracted to me over a guy her age, and that includes having high wealth and high fitness. But overall I love your work and keep it up. God bless you.

Once again, you nailed it. Spot on!🙌

To maybe add to this conversation, I was just thinking about how often we react to hatred with hate. We abhor and rebuke it, but we only end up hating in turn. I think a lot of people assume the opposite is simply loving what we hate, which it is, but that's not what we want to do either because we'll never try to fix any of our problems. If we turn our hearts to sorrow instead, we can build a bigger capacity to see things for how they are. Because we neither hate nor love the world as it is, we can turn the thoughts inward and look to see if WE are the problem. Instead of trying to point out the flaws in others, we should seek to highlight their beauty, and allow them to fix their flaws along their own way. We're all lost and alone in this world we call home, and we just want to feel love from others who know what it's like to be where we are. Christ taught us this throughout his life as he sought out and dwelled with the injured, the infirm, the iniquitous, and the imperfect.

I know it's been a while since you brought back the outro music, but I'm glad you did. What a JAM!

Really, men need to be busy with being devout Christian men, women need be busy with being devout Christian women. This includes health and wealth building in order to be equipped to do whatever work the Lord has for you to do. Pretty much after I made the decision for it to be me and God, he sent me my man. At the time he was going through his own struggle, and was busying himself with being more of a Christian man, we're now on that journey together.

Oh my gosh you posted finally ❤

This just makes me love my husband even more! Thank you so much for your videos. God bless you ❤️🙏

Speaking facts brother! Watching with my family.

The things these men are teaching young men are very dangerous for our society. When I was in college I knew an older women who was going late because of a relationship change. Her high-school sweet heart was very abusive and degrading towards her. She one time said how she mastered a skill of crying out one eye so she could turn a stern face to her husband as he called her worthless, hiding that she was actually weeping on the side of her face he couldn't see. She finally left him and later married a new man who encouraged her to go to college and pursue her dreams. What kind of young men do we as a society want to raise? Will we raise Tater Tots to abuse women as they mask their own insecurity? Or will we raise real men who are more focused on the well-being of their family than themself?

I wish that I could give more than one like. This was so insightful and right on the mark. Good stuff!!

Finally! Someone said it!

VERY good analysis!!! I like the conclusion! I never thought about it that way : )

These red-pill men you showed at the start are so disrespectful to women. Whether it's modern women's fault or not, disrespect should not be the solution. Though the truth is it's the sin nature that's the real problem, and each of us have a sin nature, both and women. Placing our trust in Christ is the real solution, because it gives us security both in this life and in the life to come. So this video is much needed.

Having a backbone and being respectful, is a very common sense approach to relationships and life.

Excellent video as always Mr. Meme. I will be honest, I really do think the standards of many women are way too high. The videos we watch online are extreme examples, but even in the church I’ve noticed an uptick in standards that wouldn’t have even been considered in generations past. And fellas, ima keep it real…some of yall have too high of standards as well However, I agree with every other point you’ve made. Whether we feel the game is rigged against us or not, what’s most important is finding our identity in Christ, because only He can make us truly whole. Not only that, but if we obey God despite the massive opposition that didn’t exist in generations past, I believe God takes note of that and delights in us even more. No person, man or woman, deserves to be put down or disrespected, even if their standards are unrealistic. It may be funny to listen to, but the point stays the same. Be true to who God has made you to be, and treat others as He wants you to treat others, and you will live the most satisfying life you could ever imagine. Praise the Lord 🙏🏻

Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this.

All men and women are PRECIOUS and worth a lot!!!!

"Judge not by appearance but judge by righteous judgment." "That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit."

Jon due to the complex and relevant nature of this topic I would encourage you to continue periodically producing videos like this. Perhaps you could do an interview with Orion Taraban from PyschHacks. He covers a lot of topics in the realm of gender dynamics from a more clinical and respectful perspective.

Thanks John. I really appreciate your perspective. Thr Red Pilled men channels are addictive. But you've changed my perspective

My boyfriend and I have had an ongoing conversation about this topic since Andrew Tate always seems to be in the news. At the end of the day, both men and women want to find someone to love and be loved by. You described how women feel as well, many are terrified they will lose their spouse as they mature, and we struggle in all the ways you describe men struggle trying to find a relationship. As I look at the solutions both men and women turn to trying to figure out how to attract the right person, I see women doing the same thing--focusing on trying to be more beautiful, and sexy--often overlooking internal growth and maturity, or they demand to be accepted as they are, and demand the things they want in a relationship without giving. Just yesterday, I shared this same theory with my boyfriend, that if we learn to value ourselves as children of God, we can create strong healthy relationships that encourage our growth as individuals, as a couple, and as a family. You said it so much better. As always, well-considered and well-said.

Very good video, thank you for posting this, hope more people see

I take the Jeremiah approach. 1. Dating is an examination for marriage. 2. Marriage is a ministry that you have to be called and equipped for. 3. Given my future as a pastor, a potential spouse will have to either fend for herself while I'm in prison or find me dead. Although I'll probably have to watch her get murdered first. Therefore, since I'm not prepared to endure that, am not intending to marry anybody, or treating someone as if I intend to, I'm going to remain content in singleness until called otherwise.

This is so good! Well done!!

I think it really comes down to 2 problems the problem of sin and the problem of how men and women view relationships.

Love how you always bring it home!!

I'm not lonely, I'm just tired of being accused of being a piece of sht. I value women. I love women. I just wish they wouldn't treat me like every other man that has wronged them. Move on!

Everything you said is SPOT ON. I’m so glad you shared this - thank you! Love your videos!