“I don’t care what anyone says about you, you’re alright” is honestly the sweetest thing. Dad being on your side AND appreciating you? Best feeling in the world.
Ah, I've always heard 'I don't care what THEY say about you, you're alright' -Implying that everyone is saying bad things about you, thus making the compliment backhanded. The way he says it sounds much sweeter- since it implies he doesn't care what anyone thinks- rather than articulating that EVERYONE says something negative about you. 😅
Unfortunately, it took me over 30 years to understand that my dad was trying to spend time with me when he had me hold the flashlight, set up the oil pan, etc. Now I ask him to come over and help with some household task about once every two weeks. They are things I can absolutely handle on my own, but it's noticeable how happy my dad is pulling his toolkit out of the pickup truck and asking "where's the problem?" ♥️
@@IsaacWassomdo it. My dad just stopped over to help me mow grass, and afterwards we had a couple beers and talked about the old days. The roles get reversed. His way of saying "I love you" was making you help him hold a flashlight. Now, your way of saying "I love you" is asking him to help with fixing something or help with yard work.
The backhanded compliments and knowing his son would absolutely love the "I love you" but resisting it and knowing it because of *dad thoughts* is too accurate
Yeah, he pretty much nailed it, i was in my late 20s when I realized what and why he said the things he did and did his best to teach me anything and everything about being a man, he's been gone for 20 years now and I miss him so much and think of him everyday.
Not Midwest dads, just tradesman dads lol. Great relationship with my dad, always get the firm handshake and the update on the latest home repair he did
The bit about chores was my Dad (British) through and through. Never told me loved me but did once leave me a sarky voicemail of 'My name is XXX. I think we might be related' because I hadn't called home in a week...
😂I grew up Iowa and this was…still is my dad and I and I’m 51. My son is 18 and started to realize this is how I show my love to him. At his graduation party last summer, I gave him a firm hand shake with a side bro hug and said I didn’t think you had it in you to graduate and I’m proud of you. In his own smart and sarcastic voice he said I knew you loved me. 😂 I’m sure he will carry on the Midwest dads love for his son.
Man my dad and i are both emotionally constipated but we atleast let each other know we love the other and give a goood quick dude hug with the customary pat/slap on the back as hard as you can. Think it stems from my dad losing his dad when he was 11.... idk. Never seen him cry though.
Mid west… Man this applies to Mexican household! Thanks for the translation, there is many back hand comments growing up that now I understand where meant with love
When he said I need you to hold the flashlight for me I said NOPE out loud 😂 my dad would get aggravated with whatever he was fixing and start yelling I wasn’t holding the flashlight right.
Oh wow! This is so spot on! Grew up in Michigan and this was “the water” we swam in that we all just didn’t realize was there and took it for granted as “this is the way it is”. Parents didn’t come to my high school graduation or give me any gift but Mom said, “time to start paying rent” the next day. Guys I dated had a distant, passive, vague and shut-down way of communicating--because that is how they were taught to think and communicate. Glad for the solid values and work ethic it gave me….and glad I left.
A dad who may not be warm and fuzzy all the time, but provides stability that you take for granted, helps you with those big projects and shows up for you when you need it is a blessing.
My dad helped me take the backseat out of my Datsun (many years ago) and I'll never forget that. He couldn't understand why I wanted the seat out, but he was ready to help. Looking back, I realize it wasn't the brightest idea I ever had but it was kind of fun at the time.
0:14 My dad told me to go down stairs to get a tool for him but immediately followed it up with a condescending "do you know what that is". I responded "yea, of course I do." I had no idea but I couldn't let him know that. On the way down the stairs, I googled a picture of the tool on my iPod Touch. You betcha I returned with the correct tool!
Just wait until he awkwardly comes around your kids and pretends like he was a parent at any point in his life. Always a solid one. You can then talk about the local sports team with him or the weather, which is important to your relationship.
And sisters! Don't forget politics, ya also get to do the politicking, jest don't disagree too much or ya might end up gettin written outta the will again, And then what would you do without that 40-year-old rusted out Toro? Best tah saving the disaggreeing part of the politics for turkey day when dad's half or full in the bag so he won't remember whose side any1 was on😅😂
Better yet, they "earned it", so they're going to spend it. Nothing left to us stupid Millenials who didn't pull ourselves up by our bootstraps. But he will make sure he leaves me with a shed full of junk that I have to get rid of somehow.@@ang8925
I think you missed the point of the video. He was a good parent. He showed love. You just didn’t process the love or appreciate and process the wisdom he had.
This is a word for word except my dad didn't it in Polish. But i will say this gents hang out with him as much as you can because when he's gone that's it. I lost mine Dec 1 23 for real guys as much as you might not like him hang out with him
I never knew my dad... That was a good thing. He was a terrible human being. Would've been interesting to know what it's like to have a father. But my grandpa was my make role model.
