@@Tameka731 yes and she claims she is autistic...she lies alot ,she is a "pick me" and a "me too".. type of person...I find it really weird that shebdoesnt show the dark skin kids .only the yeow one..and I think mikko is his only child with her.the boys have a different bio dad..to me I discern she has favoritism to the light skin kid and always just speaking on the boys...I said a year ago mikko was verbal.. and all of a sudden after 2 months of therapy she speaks... this channel/family is odd...it's like dad plays video games .I think they are military living..and her golden trophy is driving her insane..but mikko is a whole different child with dad..why are we hiding the boys?... mom used to be obese she had weight lost surgery..I wanna know why is she ashamed
Such an amazing mom. My daughter has same level of autism at 3 and she can be very much like this some days. The level of patience needed is saintly. You doing an amazing job and you inspire my patience with ny child as well
You look so exhausted I can't imagine the level of parenting that you go through everyday. No one expects to have a child with autism and you are so patient and loving. Such a good mom. Never forget that.
I truly don’t think I could handle this. That’s a lot. I’d probably cut her hair or loc it. And I probably wouldn’t have waited at the car for her to calm down. I can’t imagine needing to work or do anything else. Kids are a blessing and I don’t mean this to diminish their love, but just to acknowledge even the average decent person would really struggle in this scenario. We salute you and all the parents who attempt to be their best.
It's a LOT of work for any main caregiver, regardless of your marital status. My married son was dealing with a older child battle with childhood cancer AND with premature twins (one whom has autism), as they say THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. Mommy you are doing a wonderful job with your daughter ❤
Always tough to hear babies/children cry. It must be allowed as it is a way for them to express their frustration, sadness or fear. The key is balance. This is the concern I have with my adult niece who punishes her 3yr old for crying. She frustrates the child by not addressing her needs then disciplines her for crying in frustration. My niece says she doesn't want her toddler to be a crybaby. I tell her she should have patience and recognize the tears for what they are, a cry for help. Not just crying for the sake of crying. Mikko has a very gentle Mommie. It's what I wish for my baby niece, understanding and gentleness.🤗
God gives special children to loving, patient and kind people that are blessed with a gift such as your daughter because you are the chosen! God bless you and your beautiful daughter! ❤
It might be time for her to go to a daycare or a pre-k that specializes in children with autism. Maybe if she has something more to look forward to in the morning, it may help.
Agreed. My son is 4years old, non-verbal with level 2 autism. He has an IEP and attends pre-k part-time. He has made drastic improvement in speech, interacting with peers, and regulating emotions.
I agree. I worked with autistic preschoolers exclusively and schools like the ones I worked at are valuable for growth of the child and mental balance & health for parents. This awesome mom and her partner really needs to consider letting Miko be in school.
Mom she knows you very well and knows what and when to do certain things. She throws Tantrums so that you will give in to her. She's very Smart. SHE has to Learn that when Mommy says No or it's time to Go Mommy means it.
Hi Mom, Have you considered having Mikko attend preschool a few hours 1-2 days a week? She maybe ready and you could use a little time to yourself. Lots of love to you and your family.
But you do know there is a fine line between a meltdown and a tantrum?? I saw a lot of tantrums! Which that’s normal!! She’s a toddler! A lot of people who has autistic children feel as though for some reason they can’t correct tantrum episodes! Which they absolutely can. Just because a child is autistic doesn’t mean they don’t understand right from wrong. That’s the misconception! They’re highly intelligent. I appreciate your balance! You’re firm yet gentle!
Wow! This is a lot! You might want to consider seeking out help for Mikko as well as for yourself. This has to be extra hard on you! As a Mom who loves her child, I know you'll do whatever you have too. But, your only human your going through a lot and from just watching this video, I couldn't imagine having to go through this every day, all day! Mentally, I don't think I could handle it. Your amazing! Thanks for sharing your story, this has definitely given me a totally different insight on the behavior of some children with Autism. I wanted to ask if Mikko reactions are the same with her Dad?
It looks like Mikko is struggling with transitions.... I know you got your routine down, which helps.... might I suggest a "transitions song" (either a modified real song, or something you make up) to use during transitions like brushing teeth finishing and then off to the next thing
Im crying, we have not yet evaluated my son and I know for sure he’s on the spectrum. Today I’ve had such a hard day and my little man went down for a nap but I lost it. I lost it today and I feel like the worst mom. It’s hard dealing with so many tantrums in a day but feels good to see I’m not alone
Oh my goodness! I am in tears right now for you and Mikko's mother. I am a 65 year old woman and my heart is breaking for all of the mothers going through this with their babies. I'm going to immediately start praying that God gives you strength and patience and that you not give in to frustration and exhaustion.🙏🏼❤️
@@lorrainejohnson5461 yes it’s something so hard. Specially when going out, many people think our babies are just tantrum spoiled kids. In reality we’re trying our best for them to behave and feel loved. It’s hard. There’s harder days then others but I’m praying to go to give me the strength to push. I’ve actually recently came back to the lord and he’s given so much strength in these moments.
Wow. This comment hit home. My son has not yet been diagnosed, but he is absolutely on the spectrum. We just don’t know where. We will officially know next month at his evaluation visit. Watching these videos let’s me know I’m not alone. That I have more patience and understanding for this.
Thank you, you make me a better mum to my son with autism. You have shown me how to have more patience and more self aware when i feel myself get stressed out. Of course i have bad days where i have a good cry but every day is a learning day. Where the new little thing's he learns and does means so much more as we thought for years he would be non verbal but hes 7 now and wont be quiet even tho a lot of the time he is reciting favourite shows hes watched on you tube 😂
@TheGentleLife Mom, may I suggest you research an independent picture schedule. Where you'll place photos of activities paired with a timer and reward system for completing and transitioning to new tasks without tantrums. It's gotta be done in steps. She given some control as she is the one who starts the timer and stops the timer. I was ABA specialist for over 4+ years with children with Autism. This strategy helped with easing into other activities without resistance. By the way, you're doing a great job!❤
@phoxxy2516 There were techniques that were not approved for where I worked years ago. We stayed heavily on positive reinforcement. We used the "No, no, prompt," technique, which falls along the line with what mom is doing here. Do your research. All ABA techniques aren't bad. You go to work late, they dock your paid. Guess what? That's ABA. You go to work, do your work, and you get paid. Guess what? That's ABA. ABA is used in everyday life to modify people's behaviors. You don't always have people using it correctly. That doesn't mean it's all bad. That's a generalized statement that isn't true. Stop trying to breed fear.
Great suggestions. Those autism often struggle with transitions, and young kids, in general, struggle with the concept of time. Knowing when activities happen is a method of patterning.
I've never had to raise a child with challenges, but you seem to handle it well. My only concern is Mikko is very smart and has learned to manipulate you. She knows so much and so pretty 😍
@@Avastylistexactly! My grandson was just like that as a toddler. He is 15 now and one of the calmest people I know 🥰. Each year got a little easier with him as he learned and matured. She will be just fine. 🙃✌🏻
Mama is passive aggressive asf love to mess with the girl is good hair and she is really doing a number on this kid, trust me she is going to live to regret this, all she do is mess with the kid is hair, anyone would be so mad at somebody like this she is making the girl crazy asf
autistic people don't like transitioning between tasks very much. warnings help. maybe if you're at the park you can say adter we go on the swings we'll go home
I definitely understand that! It’s really hard to stop repetitive actions. I also have a hard time with explaining to her what steps are because she is nonverbal and doesn’t understand much. But I will keep trying and will keep talking to her 💛 thank you
You could try saying it simply like "slide, swings, then home" then after slide "swing, then home". You could print pictures and laminate them and she could even help with the order of things! I'd start small though, just a couple of activities.
Boy! U look so drained…. Have u looked into a nursery school for kids with autism??? Mom! 3-4 hours a day@school!! This would be great for your mental health and that me time for yourself. All positive 💕
Great job mom! Take some pictures of places you two like to go. Introduce them with simple names. Each day show her where you’re going. You can take pictures of routines for daily life too. Always talking. Play soft music to prepare for rest time. Peace and blessings to you and your family! These are suggestion only. No one way works for everyone. Keep doing what works for your family.
You don’t half to be mean or yell at her but you need to let here know who’s the BOSS she pays no bills and can’t take care of herself without you. You need a voice to let her know your not playing. Your the Boss and she needs to know that. Get them pampers off of her
As a mom to a severely autistic non verbal 4y/o boy, I can relate to all of this. I’m so exhausted most of the time. Everything we do is a battle, eating ,getting dressed, doing hair, brushing teeth. You’re doing a great job stay strong mom !
I realize that they've diagnosed Mikko. But honestly, her behavior including the screaming is typical of a child who gets a lot of love and attention. They call our child spoiled, lol 😆. You're doing an awesome job, please don't stress Mom.
Watching this and I’m worried about you. I am a mother cerebral child he’s not a child anymore. He’s 48 years old I’ve been taking care of him for nearly 50 years …so please let me say this to you find a caretaker for her maybe a family member who you can trust or another professional in that field ,allocate her to someone else so you can get a break even if it’s only two or three hours a week. I’ve been lucky that I’ve had caretakers to take him over the weekend once a month so that my mind and body get a bit of rest .I wish only God‘s blessing to you and your family. Remember this if you are sick, emotional, physical spiritually your family will not run as peaceful as it is now, so please take care of yourself. You are important ,you matter, loved and cared for … you are fearfully and wonderfully made but you still need a break every now and again.
Thank you for always being so transparent and real on your chanel. Your strength and patience are really admirable. With my 3 year old grandson (also autistic) it helps to count down minutes to the next event/transion. Ex: Ok Liam in 2 minutes we are going to leave the park. 1 minute to leave. Ok Liam it is time to go. It doesn't always go smoothly but for the most part, he knows that something else is going to happen and it gives him some time to be aware of the next thing. Sometimes he is ready before the count down is done and other times I have to extend it, however it feels less traumatic some how for the both of us. Nap time is also tough, and sometimes he doesn't fall asleep and crys but offten times he calms his breathing and lays on his bed until he is ready for what comes next. I hope that you know that your not alone and that Mikko is blessed to have you as a Mom. You all have come a long way in this journey of love, patience and joy. Thank you for all that you and your family do for each other and all of us. Many blessings 🙌🏾 🙏🏾 💜💜💜
I love that you are recognizing the changes while still able to give her a form of discipline/ boundaries. She will in time accept it and also respond better as she grows and matures. It's great that you speak to her the way you do instead of babying(is that really a word) her. I guess the hardest thing is the autism along with what is just her age. Cuz at the end of the day... she's 3.
Mikko is learning thar she can do things on her own but doesn't want your constant reassurance to stop. That's actually a sign that you have been and are doing the right thing. You're an amazing mom. She values your support even when she's knows she doesn't need it, just wants it. You are amazing😊🎉
Visual timers might help or a now and next board. Good work Mama you got this! The thing about her seeking reassurance could be anxiety and she just needs that extra re-assurance, I'd also look out for skill regression, losing skills she once was able to, it can be quite common in Autistic kiddos.
You're doing great. My almost 4 year old throws tantrums still as well. It is different day to day. Only thoughts I am having are that maybe she would like to push the button on a timer and turn it off so she has some sense of control for an activity transitioning?
Just being honest I would need a break. Daycare, family, babysitter. This is your life till death do you part. The bigger she gets may be harder to control. Bless you
You’re an amazing mom, it takes a lot of patience and love. My sons as autism and he has his tantrum and behavioral issues but with patience and love we get through it. He’s getting better especially with early intervention and school it helped a lot. Praying for you and your beautiful family.
Don’t be too hard on yourself mama aside from her diagnosis a lot of her behavior is age based. My son is 3 no diagnosis as of yet but he is speech delay & he’s WILD lol I’m from Jersey so he started public school already & his teachers just remind me that it’s all understandable.
I truly appreciate you for sharing this video. Often times family channels only cherrypick and share their best moments--which is all fine and to each their own, but I think having diversity in medias of being a parent is important. It's okay to have bad days and struggles sometimes. Most important reason being, to have people learn what parenting looks like with an open mind. Parenting is unique on every families out there and it's an amazing learning experience to get to understand each.
❤️🔥 & 🙏🏽 goes out to all of us parents and families of Autistic children and adults ❤ I love your support channel, your family is a blessing to me personally, “WE Are Not Alone !”
Precious you are a wonderful mother. You have a lot of patience. I realize that Mikko is autistic, but I do feel she knows what's she's doing. Special needs or not, you have to let her know that you're the parent and what you say goes. Always lifting you and family in prayers.
Yes bkose after each cry she waits to see mom’s reaction👀👀 I know it’s hard to deal with but in my opinion she should let her cry just a little before approaching her and see how long it will last just saying!!!!!!
Oh poor baby girl. Sometimes we all have hard days. You’re doing great mom. Maybe you can make a schedule with pictures with Velcro and she can see what tasks are for the day she can add and remove them throughout the day. You can reward her good behavior of that task to help with the transition to the next. So she knows what’s coming for the day. You’re doing fantastic and you’re doing the best you can like the rest of us. So many great suggestions in this comment section to tray and that amazing. She also is a trying toddler as well and pushes your buttons to see how far she can go before discipline. She’s got lots of personality momma one day at a time.
She likes Doc McStuffins!? Id bet they have toys ( Doc McStuffins) that could be beneficial to Mikko's motor skills development. You're endlessly patient. It's absolutely a blessing to your family. Dont forget it mom. ❤
Keep your head up Mom, you’re doing a great job! God never promised us a life with no troubles but He did promise to comfort us and strengthen us through them. Matthew 11:28 😊😊❤❤
As someone with autism (Im not that high on the spectrum) I'm glad you know how to handle it so well. I would be so grateful to have a mother like you because you know your childs boundaries and sensory needs and you help when Mikko is feeling overwhelmed. Autism can be really hard to live with and the ways that you try to help Mikko to adapt to it. You're amazing :)
My sister almost had an autistic son, first she instantly rejected the situation as a NIGERIAN. SHE stopped the socking by doing it the African way. She did not encourage almost of things as she has 3 younger ones. She put him in daycare. He cried a while but he adjusted and right now he is 13+ and doing very well.
You’re doing a wonderful job with Mikko. The routine & transitions are hard for all autistic children. Have you tried a visual schedule (pictures & words) of how her routine day will go? It works really well because they can see first & next.
@merillo5 denial is very common amongst parents a health professional once told me in conversation! Research and speaking to my health visitor about my daughters development allowed me to understand what I was dealing with which in turn allowed me to embrace her and everything in a healthy way.
It's ok to have some alone time mama, if you don't have family to help, then find a place that specializes in her needs, I think once she is in school, it's going to be a lot better for both of you " your are absolutely amazing 🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️🤩❤️
Also, I feel her so much on the difficulty transitioning activities. Im 25 and those are still the hardest parts of my day most often. My heart goes out to her, some days are just extra overstimulating, and existing is exhausting for us. I really appreciate you, just like my mom, being so patient and gentle with her.
Do you have an “all done” routine to warn for the end of an activity and then finally signal the end of the activity? I am asking bc I believe your thumbnail said “please help” lol. I am not here to ask inane or unsolicited questions.
I feel like my "normal" children at this age had trouble regulating their emotions. Im sure with autism its worse, just be patient. I see that you are good at stopping and redirecting or slowing down with tasks. You are a good mother.
Transitions are so hard! We sometimes have luck giving our child a countdown (anywhere from 5 - 20 minutes) with a lot of warnings so she's at least aware for a while that the current activity is going to end. I'd love to know how y'all learned to deal with the hair dryer! She's obviously very unhappy with it, poor thing, but she's also still letting you use it. Her ability to sit through something she finds upsetting is impressive.
You're doing a Great job Mom..even when she cries, you show her that things still have to be done and it helps her to push through...you are so tender and patient..even when she is having her difficult moments.❤
My 8yr old autistic son used to be very difficult each morning when we'd do his "get-ready" routine.. and I soon realized that I could make everything so much easier on the both of us just by putting him in a tub of warm water, with some calm scented oils, and gently wash him down with a wash cloth for 10 mins each morning before we get him dressed and do his hair. I know it sounds like a bath every morning is so much extra work - but I cant express enough how the bath has calmed my son, making every step afterward so much easier. It has actually ended up saving us almost an extra 40 mins of time in the mornings by giving him a bath. I know this wont work for every family... but if its something you can manage, I highly recommend trying it.
Sending up prayers for the storm to be calmed. You have so much patience and love ❤️🙏. She’s going through those obstinate stages; my prayers are with and for you and your family.
I have been going thru the same thing, my daughter will be 3 next Monday and has the Spectrum, she has been acting so different lately, the outburst of emotions, wanted things how and when she wants them, screaming, etc…I have tried calming her down with rubs and hugs, nothing works…I’m so lost and break down often..but I know God will guide me
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You are so patient, mama. Mikko is blessed to have the family she has. You're doing amazing ❤❤
Nikki’s “THANK YOU” melts my ❤️ And-Mikko is your twin! The older she gets the more she looks like her Mom.😊 Watching Mikko grow and your love and dedication are so beautiful to witness. Thank you for such uplifting content.
Check out your local school district. Both of you need a break. This will help Mikko socially and behaviorally! She really needs to be around other kids. You are really trying hard, mom!
Such an amazing and beautiful family ❤ mikko will become so so much introverse and infipendent because you support is all she needs ❤ all my blessings and love share❤
Hey! I really love how you are with Mikko (& your other kids too ofc) you are such an amazing mum -so much respect to you ❤ Our best friends kids have both got similar issues -Freddie didn't talk till he was about four & my other friends daughter has struggled with speech & has just turned two.. but, much like Mikko has started to learn & pick up on convo skills very quickly. Freds is 8 now, and doing brilliantly so I really hope the same for your girl ☺️💜 I've not had kids myself, but have studied child psychology & generally love good people so hope all is okay with you and yours. All the very best xx
How do you determine that this behavior is related to autism versus just being the behavior of the typical two or three year old who wants to have their way?
My tantrums increased from age 3 to 6. I think this is because the brain is starting to become more mature. Frontal lobe and other areas of the brain are developing and more demands are being put on the information processing areas. Personalities also begin to develop at that age. It's just a lot in a short amount of time.
You look and sound like me. My daughter is 9 and is the same way. We are gonna be starting ABA therapy soon. It breaks my heart to see her struggling with everyday things that we as "normal" people have no issues with. It will get better just keep teaching her over and over because she will get it in her own time. Good luck and God bless
Your an amazing Mom with a very full morning routine & maybe you can cut something out or back like only combing her hair once and instead of going to the park just go for a walk around the neighborhood where she can walk some and ride in her stroller this way y’all don’t become so overwhelmed by the morning routine 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Oh no...there comes that bottom lip curling upon precious Mikko 😢. I know she will have challenging days but Lord it just crushes my heart. On the other side you are doing the best job with Mikko. You are a good mom.
Such a wonderful, amazing momma. The children are so blessed to have you and your husband. We've falling in love with Mikko and pray God continues to guide you, give you strength and the ability to balance it all. He knew who Mikko should be gifted as parents and thank you for sharing this precious little girl with us. I'm learning so much. Take good care of yourself momma, so you can continue to give such great love, compassion and empathy for your children, especially Mikko. God bless you all on this journey of life and may you find peace and comfort in knowing the world needs educated and that we want to see this sweet girl thrive. Good job! 🙏🏻💕✌🏻🌈🌞🍭🦋🎠🧸😊
You are never ALONE God will always guide you... no it's not going be easy but in your patience there will be a reward more than you ever imagined. Patience = True love.... God sees what you are giving to the rest of us out here.... and He is definitely Smiling .... thank you
My cousin has Autism and is verbal but sometimes he has meltdowns that my grandparents struggle to calm down, so I try talking to him, taking him for little walks, or just holding him and singing to him. You did all the right things to calm her down, and your patience was extraordinary!
She is frustrated because she doesn’t know how to talk and explain to me what’s going on. She is nonverbal and it’s completely different than a child that can talk and chooses not to verse a child that physically can not talk to express her needs. I also have other children and yes I can agree that sometimes they use to whin when they didn’t get their way, and that’s ok too because most children do that, but as long as it’s corrected.
Transitions are so hard for my kids. I tell them consistently like over and over before we are going to leave so they’re prepared, and then when meltdown comes I just reflect to them what I think they’re feeling… like you’re bummed out you had so much fun at the park you don’t want to get back in the car bla bla bla. I think it helps them lol. You are sooo patient mama my goodness, the patience of a saint! Also Do y’all have one of those hanging cloth swings? They can be out indoors. Those have been very helpful at my house. As a hide out for quite time or to swing play and move in.
Maybe you could use some sign, like the word “finish” so she understands when she hears that word that the activity has finished and understands why she can’t keep brushing? I can see she is able to understand when she needs something so simple sign like finish, help, juice, car could really help and give her a sense of autonomy Also you could have a visual timetable and get to tick/remove each task once you’ve completed it so that there’s more incentive to move in to the next. That way she knows what’s happening next and can feel more in control. You are doing absolutely amazing and Miko is coming along in leaps and bounds!
When she grows up and come and see all these memories ❤ she will be so proud of herself that you made her become a better version of herself by being such a patient and loving mum ❤
Thank you for showing me your patience and yet persistence in teaching and loving Meiko ❤ it can be frustrating to see our children kind of regress and struggle with things that we know they can do. We are going through some of the same things with my 2 year old granddaughter…however watching you has given me inspiration to let her figure things out and not rush her because I know she can do it. I think Meiko is such a smart baby and she will figure things out for herself ❤ Thanks for sharing your morning with us 😊
You're doing great. You definitely need and deserve breaks. If you can get a trained person or family member to spend one day a week with her she can develop a routine with them and you can do you. It will help you feel refreshed.