Misophonia Explained (IsThere A Link With Autism or ADHD?) 

Thank you! I'm an autsitic ADHDer and I have very severe misophonia. I can't stand forks, breathing, pages turning, lip and tongue smacking, sibilance, sniffling, etc. It is not a deliberate response. It is so awful! Thank you for talking about this!

Snoring is the hugest trigger for me. I just discovered what misophonia is, sitting on the bathroom floor in my hotel room after being driven to tears by the sound of my dear mother’s snoring. You phrased everything I experience with that particular trigger sound perfectly. The rage, extreme emotions, and instant sensory overload. I guess snoring doesn’t JUST “bother” me, lol.

I remember the exact moment I first experienced what I suspect is misophonia at about age 9, my dad had a bad habit of eating directly out of the pot my mom was cooking with, he leaned over some stew she had cooking, grabbed the spoon, scooped some up, then proceeded to make the most God awful slurping, guttural gulping, then folloed by this "mmhhh" sound. That was 32 years ago and to this day I get an overwhelming urge to choke someone every time I hear them making mouth sounds like that.

I avoid the break room at work because someone is always eating something loud like carrots and apples. I get upset when I see someone chewing (especially gum!!) bc I can imagine the sounds in my head. I can’t control it. It is awful. And if I remember correctly it did start around age 9…..I remember thinking “why can I suddenly hear so many gross awful things” Thank you for making this video I related to every word!!

After finding about misophonia, I feel a lot better about myself, especially having 10+ pet peeves it's a bit hard getting through a normal day, and my mom always told me to get over it. Thank you so much, Ella for bringing attention to this.

Like you I am autistic (diagnosed with "Asperger's syndrome" over a decade ago) and have had misophonia since the age of 12 -- practically a textbook case. Over the years my misophonia trigger sounds have increased. I can tell the difference between my misophonia and my autistic sound sensitivity -- I would describe one as "outside" me (autistic sound sensitivity) and one as "inside" me (misophonia). Misophonia feels like someone has an electrode in my brain and zaps me whenever I hear a trigger sound. I flinch automatically as though shocked with electricity. But autistic sound sensitivity is definitely a case of an external sound being too loud, or too high-pitched, or too sudden -- the outside world is being oppressive. The source of the distress is outside me. With misophonia it feels like the source of the distress is the fact that my brain and body are reacting automatically, as though triggered by an electrode, rather than the sounds itself. Misophonia is torture, as you aptly describe.

Thankyou so much for posting this. I have really bad issues with sound, when my partner eats cereal next to me i have to use my ear defenders...it drives me to the point of pure rage. I hate it. It seems so unreasonable that sounds make me so mad and irritable. Trickling water, bubbling water, tapping of keys on a keyboard, loud sudden noises, music that i am not actively listening to, rustling of packets, the list goes on. I am on a waiting list for an autism assessment, but sensitivity to sound is one of my big sensitivity issues, as well as abnormal hatred of the sun, bright sunny days, bright lights etc. Im waffling on, but thankyou for all the content you put out, because its so interesting and helpful.

Misophonia can be so exhausting. Thank you for making this video, as it has helped a friend better understand the things we go through just to attempt to live a normal day.

I came here looking to see if there was something to describe my condition better to people. 15 seconds in and now I'm like "WHY DID YOU INCLUDE THE SOUNDS AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA"

First time I can recall being sensitive to sound was, as a child hearing a dryer. The metal "clink" sounds would drive me insane as clothes bounced around inside, and my room was right next to the laundry room. Sleeping has always been hard. At my age now (37), I sleep with a fan, ear plugs, and sometimes a sound machine. I will still hear sounds that probably aren't even there, and constantly have to adjust things to hopefully sleep. Another one is speech, in particular words that begin with an S, or just have that S sound within it. Often, it's a woman who does this to me, her S's are sharp in her words. They stick out and, as usual, become extremely noticeable and difficult to listen to. I've had to refund audio books because of this. Unfortunately this video was kind of hard to get through because of it. I appreciate it though, to see that we are not alone here.

I am triggered by the sound that people make when walking or stumping on the apartment above me or beside me. Everytime I hear that vibrating thump my heart beat spikes I feel a tingle in my chest like I am about to get angry annoyed frustrated. Like I am about to start thinking about ways to get back at them. I hate it soooo much! I need to live in a single home in this economy 😒

I'm 41 and this is something I've experienced since I was around 6. I remember staring at my father in rage over the breakfast table because of the sounds he would make. Even then I had anxiety over the fact that I knew he wasn't doing anything wrong and that it wasn't fair to be mad at him for things that are totally normal. But no amount of reasoning made the rage go away and I would blow up. I was married for a while from 2011-2013. During that time I avoided quiet eating situations at all cost, and if it was unavoidable I found relief in doing my own eating and crunching food as loudly as I could. After that I lived alone for many years and during that time my sensitivity to certain sounds only increased. I am now at the point where I don't even think I could live with someone due to the anxiety I experience when trying to cope with triggering sounds. I have found a few things that help. I noticed that if there are any quiet sounds at all my brain will start picking them out. For instance my mother had a wall clock that ticked. The ticking sound wasn't annoying to me but it seemed to grab my attention and then force all the other little sounds into focus. I bought a silent clock for her and that helps the situation. I do not eat in company with silence. Ever. If it's not possible to turn on some kind of background noise, like a podcast or music, then I will stand and eat with distance between other people. I've told everyone I know that I have this problem and that it's MY problem, not theirs, and that when I react they should understand that it has nothing to do with them I even explain that the sound of my own mouth is a trigger due to my fear that it may be triggering someone else. This gives me some room to exit a situation without having to explain or offend other people. Unfortunately, since other people doesn't experience this, it's hard for them to fathom the distress. And I understand that because it is totally irrational. And yet there it is. I have not found any sort of self talk that makes the irritation, and rage, subside. If anyone has any tips on how to live with this I'm "all ears" lol. As long as you aren't eating anything!

Someone I was friends with from university (undergrad) has misophonia and while I am not qualified to diagnose people, I feel like he's undiagnosed autistic due to other factors as well. Because of my friend, I often get worried about eating certain foods around other people in case anyone around me has misophonia.

For me it's the sound of dogs barking, weedeaters, lawn mowers, leaf blowers, the sound of noise coming from phone speakers, digital metronomes and a lot of female vocal registers. It's interesting hearing the "difference" between sensory overload and misophonia; dogs & lawn equipment elicit a total panic response, but female vocal registers, digital metronomes & the sound of noise coming from phones just gradually annoys me into overload. Thank you for this video!

100% me! It drives me absolutely crazy!!! It creates a completely unreasonable visceral response, causing me to feel sick to my stomach, angry, frustrated, and anxious if I'm having to hide these feelings. Mouth sounds of all types, loud noises or noises that seem loud in a quiet setting, people being oblivious, other annoying bodily sounds, gloppy sounds like stirring gooey food in a bowl or pot, etc....Just typing that out causes the reaction. It's absolutely maddening and frustrating. I was diagnosed with ADD at 17, 25 years ago.

Everyone always says “you are in control of your emotions “ but when I get triggered I don’t feel like I am😢

I had a really really bad episode this week during a test. A girl right next to me refuses to blow her nose, and the room was utterly quiet other than her heavy breathing. I couldn't focus on my test and no matter how much I try to suppress my emotions, its a complete flight or fight response. I had to step out until the girl left, and the poor teacher tried to console me. It's hard trying to tell people I'm fine and not actually upset when I'm literally crying over somebody breathing. I'm not diagnosed but noise has been a huge hindrance for me as of late, especially when I started my college classes... I can't use headphones in most of my situations and I often can't just leave the room, so I'm stuck literally having to bite my tongue.

Struggled with misophonia my whole life. My family used to laugh at how I had such sensitive hearing and tell me I was imagining it. Now I’m older, I get it and ASMR videos are the worst thing ever invented! Self diagnosed autistic and a massive sensory avoider - I do wonder whether that is a big part of misohponia.

The pitch and sound of certain voices along with certain editing styles in RU-vid vids can make me literally want to scream. Sadly I can not watch or listen to certain people for these reasons, even though I really want to listen to what they have to share.

Thank you for this video. I didn't know there was a name for what I experience. I had put it down to me hearing everything in my environment at the same volume level. I could not block out sounds that cause me to feel angry and make me have to get away from the situation. My main trigger sounds are men biting or sucking their moustache hair (thanks hipsters). Sets of keys jingling on a belt loop. Coins clinking in a persons pocket. Plastic wrappers on rustling on sweets during a movie . I can't go to the cinema, although art house cinemas goers seem to eat less :) so that can be doable. Cutlery touching a person's teeth. Cutlery falling on the floor. Incidentally I clicked on ASMR videos here to see what all the fuss is about, in the hopes of finding nice sounds. They were absolutely terrible for me. The people's mouth sounds whispering in my headphones? The clicking soind of their pronunciation was totally revolting.

I suffer from this and its really affected my life. Eating, chewing, breathing, yawning ,sneezing too. My partner is a naturally loud breather and we cant sit in the same room together in silence (ie reading or a quiet tense thriller on Tv etc. We never watch TV/vidoes together and I wont go to movies with him either. Also I hate the sound of my cat grooming himself and to make matters worse , my cat is an overgroomer! I feel so bad telling him off all the time or putting him out of the room all the time .

AS you were talking about this Ella, I'm wondering if there is a component of this that is also related to self-awareness. As a child I learned to suppress, and deny my feelings - even pain. I had stomach ulcers from about age 8? - 20 and did not know it until it was "caught" during a Upper GI x-ray series. Since my diagnosis, the more I learn to attend to my physical and psychological feelings, the more I become aware of that I did not acknowledge before.

I have misophonia too and I relate so much. Like even though the person that is triggering my misophonia is my loved one, I can’t control it. I just get so mad, in my head I’m screaming. My Misophonia started between 7-9 years old and my dad used to chew so loud and when i told him to stop chewing, he would shout at me and call me “sick”. Since then, no one knows except my family cause I’m scared they’re gonna call me “sick” too. And as I’m writing this, my family is eating dinner downstairs and even though how hungry I am, I can’t get myself to go downstairs and eat with them cause I know I’m probably gonna have an anxiety attack.

i remember repetitive noises deeply enraging me during my school years, especially during tests and quiet time. i was incapable of focusing on anything else. at home, one particular sound immediately comes to mind. my dad would swirl the ice in his beverage in a glass, and that tinking noise was unbelievably overwhelming and made me SO ANGRY…. not so proud but have blown up quite a few times over this….. self awareness goes a long way… and deep breathing lol

I've not been diagnosed with autism or ADHD, but I've had misophonia since I was young. I thought it was just me, then I found so many people online who experienced it, too. Sounds that generally annoyed people like the squeak of a chalk board didn't bother me, but everyday sounds like chewing, heavy breathing, and especially metal on metal (like eating utensils, or a serving spoon and pot) would send me through the roof. The other sounds are highly irritating, I have to leave the room, but the metal on metal literally causes me pain. It's as if a lightning bolt starts at the base of my spine and shoots to the base of my skull and reverberates down my arms. It's the worse feeling in the world and I end up grabbing my head and shrieking. I wish there was a way to just make it stop, but nothing I've found offers any suggestions other than to leave or plug your ears. Maybe one day. 😔

Also, good luck to your daughter. Knowing what it's like must make it hard watching your little girl starting down a long and hard road in life. It's good though, if she has someone like you to help her.

Bouncing one leg up and down is one of my stims.

More knowledgeable content well thought out and presented to help. Thanks again.

I don't know if this is the same thing. I'm also an autistic / ADHDer. If someone is sitting in their car and opens the door with the keys still in the ignition, then tries talking to me while that frickin dinging sound is going off in the car. Forget about me hearing anything ,except that noise. I have more than once, reached across someone, took the keys out of their ignition and told them to repeat everything they just said, because the only thing I could hear ,was the dinging.

I have begun doing research on misophinia because of all of the symptoms i have been experiencing since I’ve been a young kid, and this video was very helpful! I’ll definitely be checking out your channel

I’ve been looking for a awnser for so long. Thank you so much

This is a super cool vid to see having not seen any mention of this before. I am autistic/adhd and have been dealing with misophonia in the form of "my soundscapes" and "auditory triggers". Some of my most distressing pre-diagnosis experiences of my sensory issues (and misophonia) include believing every night no matter what I do/how i hide spiders swarm my whole body, and sound sensitivity that caused lack of sleep/mental consequences of sleep deprivation. I would be hearing my whole house at night every person in my family and every action they did. I thought I had super powers cuz i would imagine what it looked like while trying to sleep and it was like i could see everyone and know what was going on all night. Once I moved out and experienced difficulty adjusting to life on my own I was able to stumble upon the Purple Ella channel and get guidance to a much healthier perspective on neurodiversity and I was inspired to eventually seek a rediagnosis. I think my clearest understanding of my personal misophonia is that it is intermingled with my trauma history. Sometimes I'll be shushing everyone and freaking out about hearing the neighbors because I feel like I'm going to get in trouble or someone else will for making noise or that I'm going to overhear something and there will be a consequence, which are just not rational thoughts in my circumstances anymore. Misophonia is still a large part of my personal neurodivergent experience and I haven't even watched the vid yet but I'm hopeful to hear a validating connection to consider.

Yeahhh I think . Finally I'm not alone. I have ADHD ombind and just going through the ASD referral. Sounds lights and smells can full on send me wild and or upset me.🤯

My cats bathing themselves (or any animal grooming) is a trigger, as well as people eating. The worst? My husband eating a banana. I mean, anything he eats is annoying, but bananas are completely unbearable. For the record, I have ADHD and autism as well.

I’m a 65 year old male and I can relate to everything that you said. I find myself sitting in another room just to handle every day situations. Definitely puts a strain on relationships.

This is a great and informative video! I struggle with severe Misophonia to the point where I cry daily. I have many triggers chewing being a great one and there’s not much way to escape it in places such as my school (I am in middle school) or certain social situations. Anyways, I just wanted to say that there are probably many people with this condition watching this video and I noticed in the beginning you demonstrated someone eating chips (crisps) and I don’t think including the sounds in the video were the best idea because it did bother me. I’m not sure everyone can say the same but I went to watch this wanting to learn more about my condition only to be met with it. Thank you so much for this education though.

WOW YES I have this to an extreme degree. I didn’t even know misophonia was a thing with a name until this video… THANK YOU. Now I’m a new subscriber! I have vivid memories of so many moments experiencing this over the past 40+ years. I quit a great job because I got moved into a “pod” which was just a big cube with 12 people in it. 😳 It was excruciating, even with headphones. And I couldn’t not see people peripherally on top of that since I wasn’t even in my own cubical.

Good description of what Miso is like for you. Thanks for sharing.

This was very helpful and relatable. At this point in my life, I am 99.9% certain I have ADHD -- a short of yours I watched yesterday put the last piece in the biological puzzle in place, so thank you so much for that. I have serious autistic traits , and am maybe 70% certain there, but that's been trickier to untangle. Sensory overload/misophonia is one of those places, but I am aware of when I developed misophonic traits, probably around 11 or 12, and I remember the specific event. It has an odd interface with inattentive ADHD. A cartoonist whose books I read did a cartoon about someone eating with their mouth open, and did a very broad, overstated treatment of that. It triggered disgust and awareness in me, and I realized that both I and my father (who was either autistic, ADHD or both) did this. Suddenly perceiving just how annoying this was, I immediately taught myself to eat with my mouth closed (not completely positive I always do, though. One impatient ADHD trait is that I cannot eat slowly). But I struggled mightily from then on with my father doing it. It is possible for me to not notice things like this, but once I do, the irritation is almost unbearable, and yes the physiology of irritation feels exactly like what you describe. When I am irritable, almost anything will irritate me, and I now think this is about focus issues when trying to engage executive functioning...and the sound is the proverbial squirrel. So it is sort of sensory processing, but on the ADHD side, like it might feel to a NT if they were trying to do their taxes in the middle of a drunken frat party. If I'm in automatic/habit mode, I don't always respond to sounds. But if I'm thinking hard, or just trying to be aware and not inattentive...everything becomes that frat party.

This is so interesting. I've always thought this was just a me problem and I couldn't understand why I always got so upset at certain sounds. My mom tends to be the person I get the most upset at and I always feel bad for feeling angry. She constantly picks the dry skin on her feet as well as her toenails and fingernails. She also has some breathing condition that causes her to breath very loud (sounds like she is snoring while awake). And unfortunately she got covid like 6 months ago but has not been able to stop coughing. Not to mention, I work in an open concept office at work and a lot of people tap their foot and one guy has severe dandruff and is constantly scratching his head. All these sounds upset me so much and I wonder if this is the reason. I didn't know there was even a real term for this. But it's very strange because some sounds do not bother me at all. If someone is chewing food or slurping something, it has no effect on me. I think maybe things that I associate with being gross are what upset me the most (picking feet, scratching dandruff, coughing, etc.) where as chewing is just an everyday sound to me.

I experience this with chewing noises, slurping, eating. It literally makes me want to rage. I have to put in ear plugs eating around my loved ones. It's so so hard to explain to others who don't have it! And, I am neurodivergent.

Thank you for this video, for a long time I thought I was going mad... my issues mainly revolve around our dog barking. She is very old and senile, her barking can be incessant. People thought I was unkind as I would raise my voice or take myself of into another room, trying to explain how it made me feel... how it was so painful, like I had become so sensitive like it was a million times louder and I could feel it in every tiny molecule of my body... I can't even put into words but am sure people who also suffer can relate as they go through it themselves. I would try and explain why I could go from happy to moody, be reactive and act out of character because of the noise. I have a long journey ahead of me, but feel relieved to know I wasn't imagining it... I just wish the people who judge or think badly of me... could walk in my shoes and feel what I feel.

I hate chewing sounds, snoring, those noises for example when you open a bag of chips, heavy breathing. But any sticky sound is SO awful

Thank You for this precious video.

Its sneezing for me…i get such a depressing feeling and i immediately feel drained and i forget stuff like names and im out of it for most of the remaining day

I hate people whistling but only certain people sound super awful and I want to tell them to shut up. I also hate the sound of foam and the sound of people’s clothes against a car, it brings me shivers up to spine, have had this since I was little. I also hate the sound of kissing from others and the sound of some people when they take a bite of chips when they do it so slowly. Just bite it fast please!!

Thanks for this video, this is exactly what it is like. I generally hide my condition from outsiders because I think there’s no real reason to tell them. It’s something that I have to deal with and I don’t want to make someone feel bad for doing something completely normal. Sometimes it’s the hardest thing in the world to tell a family member to stop doing something like leg tapping or eating. It feels unloving

i found out about misophonia a few weeks ago and i was SO HAPPY that i did cause i’ve been struggling with it since i was a kid and had no clue what it was. i constantly felt bitchy and rude because i couldn’t stop myself from snapping at people when they would cough or sneeze or hiccup even though i knew it was involuntary. even when i do those things, i feel like i’m in agony and i get so angry and overwhelmed. it’s really nice to see a community of people who also experience this, it makes me feel less confused and alone

Thank you for this video, very good timing for myself as I was wondering about Misophonia only last week. I have been triggered by certain music which has led to meltdown and shutdown but I wondered if it was just sensory overload. It is something in modern pop music when they make their voices sound like a robot it both enrages me and makes me feel sick.

You just triggered some insight. I can no longer deal with my parents. As well as my neuro divergence they have it too. I find I get all sorts of symptoms when they are visiting. These could be asthma, muscle spasms or mood swings. I'm 53 and am finding that I need to restrict any contact with them. Whatever it takes for however long! Thank you!

*Bru WDF! I Never Knew It Had A Name 😂😂😂. Thank You This Brings So Much Clarity. Thank you for the beginning being silent ❤. Thank God for ear buds!!!*

You explained it perfectly, I actually found that creating a massive list of all the sounds (and visual cues if applicable) and then explaining to people how I know it sounds stupid but it's very much true about myself and then I explain how it how misophonia translates to "hatred of sound" and I explain the feelings I get and then talk about the sounds and visual ticks then if they are interested and not launching at me by that point I let them go through the list while I explain how difficult things in my life have been beacause of it and MOST people are very understanding by that point and will often do much better at not triggering you or they will notice when they do and applogize which actually does make me feel somewhat better about it....maybe just hearing the words gives me the affirmation that they understand what they did and know it upsets you but they cared enough to make amends....of course the whole time you know that deep burning fire of horrible thoughts inside you is just that...INSIDE...but it still feeeeeels real and the words from the other person quickly bring that part of the rage back down just as fast as it went up 😊

OMG its not just me!!!! I eill snap out completely over "unnecessary noise" like people dragging a plastic chair across a cementt porch. People tapping. My husband used to shake ine leg and tap his fing3rs or a pen. I would snap out like a lunatic. I didnt know this was a real thing

for me my misophonia includes stuff like scratching of things like paper, carboard, and yea. ive watched some "asmr diy paper blid bag" stuff but that shook me to the core more than it did "calm" me

OMG, this is exactly why I stopped going to the movies, I couldn't concentrate when people were opening there goodies, eating popcorn, or even drinking 😂I always thought I suffered from real bad PMS! I suffer from everything you mentioned 😢

why make a video explaining misophonia and literally make the noise of one of the most common triggers..?

Insect buzzing. Especially with flies or mosquitoes. Sends me into an absolute rage

My daughter has said the same things about herself for years. When she reaches her limits and expresses herself, I am finally seeing what she is going through. She is not really lashing out at me or attacking me, she has had enough. This sometimes happens after the tiniest of triggers - sounds, movements, etc. I really need to work more on my end of it. I wish that I started long ago.

I have had misophonia for about 3 years. I use to share a room with my sister who kept eating crisps in our room. I continuously asked her to go and eat in downstairs in the dining room but she would. I remember when I got really triggered by it and accidentally smashed a picture frame. I never thought it could be related to autism or adhd.

I am autistic and struggle with Misaphonia. Saying it I find it hard would not do how difficult I find it justice.

I'm 55 and have had this all my life and just finding out that there is an actual name for my condition. I suffer from severe anxiety also. It's so bad I feed my dogs in another room. Mexican food restaurants are so hard, especially with the chips, I can literally hear everyone in the place at once

I believe I have misophonia. I just want to crawl out of my skin & rip her hand out of her mouth whenever my sister picks her cuticles or bites her fingers until they bleed‼️ I just want to scream STOP IT whenever someone chews ice. The slightest sound (gum chewing for instance) can cause me extreme agitation. Thank you so much for doing this video!!! Never knew what I experienced had an actual name. Much love to you Ella I hope you’re okay 💕

YEEEEEEESSSSSSSS QUEEEN!!!! I have misophonia and I’ve never really had *full* help with it.

You explained it well. Misophonia for me started at age 8 and it got worse over time. Any sound related to eating alsl stresses me out (cutlery, packet sounds etc). Just the fact that eating is involved stressesme out. Breathing sounds (even my pets breathing), stress me out (even during what should be a relaxing yoga class). I also agree that its different to sensory overload, as you said, it builds up over time and I can kinda feel it coming and do certain things to soothe the oncoming overload (not always but sometimes). Misophonia is an instant and severe trigger and it has caused a lot of issues growing up.

I have ADHD and this is my biggest problem , I have to walk off to another room , I get extremely iterated angry and my jaws clench .

Whoa!! I was jusT THINKING THIS YESTERDAY AND SEARCHING FOR AN ANSWER AND HERE IT IS. I’ve been wondering this for awhile.

I never heard of it but can definitely relate it drives me crazy

What’s worse, in my case, is once I hear a particularly wretched sound I despise, it STAYS in my head long after the sound has been made and won’t leave until my blood pressure had been racked up to bursting.

Hi Ella, I do have this, but I thought it was from the SPD, I am also autistic with ADHD.... Thanks for sharing!

Chewing gum. I hate it so much. Feels like my skin is literally crawling off my body. Also found my family bothers me the most. Maybe it's cause I'm around them the most. My autism kind of keeps me away from strangers as much as possible.

Thank you Ella. I have this too - spoons or forks clattering on teeth and people incessantly talking with a mouth full of food. I tend to go quiet when this happens and just work through my responses calmly but it’s hard !

Right, specific sounds irritate me. I didn’t know this was a thing until recently so I’m glad there was a video about it.

someone somehow had the nerve to bring an apple and do you-know-what in a theater

Thanks for sharing this. While I am free of such condition. Sometimes things in life are on a case by case basis. Per say, I have been for a year, I walked like no other time seeking employment. I became irate at the fact I was declined employment, that the smallest sound bothered me. That’s because my mind was not focused on something productive, I was more open to everything else in my environment. However, sometimes there are evil people deliberately make noise in a confined space, as a result, anyone’s ear would become sensitive. It’s what happened to me. I thought I was becoming sensitive, it was insensitive peoples

It’s the eating sounds and people licking lips or smacking their lips when they talk. Like a slight squelch sound. Even thinking of it activates me now. I can’t go to cinemas or dinners with family. I feel like a rage come over me with disgust. I spend most my life with music playing in my ears to stop me hearing things. So I long for peace and quiet.

My experience with misophonia is rather miserable. The noise triggers are instantaneous and severe. I liken it to how it might feel if you suddenly got whacked in the face by a tree branch when walking in the woods. If someone with misophonia asks that the person tapping their pencil on the desk while they think up an answer to a test question to please stop , the request will be met with an angry retort. People do not understand the high level of stress their noise is creating for you. They appear to think you are being a petty complainer.

Children/babies screaming is one of my biggest triggers, especially when its in little, short, unpredictable bursts of screaming, almost sounds like a gunshot to me. Also, plates breaking or clanking together really loudly, grew up in an abusive household where dishes were thrown so its one of my biggest triggers as well.

1:30 " . . . Where they bounce one leg up and down." LOL, I was tapping my foot to stim and realized I was when you said that and instantly stopped. 😆👍 Edit: and then restarted when I realized it wasn't bothering anyone 🤗

In 6th grade this kid next to me had one of those skateboards you flip with your fingers and the noise of it clicking on the desk as he fiddled with it just made me so upset for some reason I ended up lashing out at him and crying and I just couldn’t understand why. Other things that has driven me to lashing out is certain music on the radio, snorting, and talking.

I started struggling with this as a tween. I thought I was a terrible and mean person! For me my trigger is mouth sounds, especially sounds made when for example a speaker has a dry mouth. I wanna snap at them and throw a water bottle at them lol. Table manners come in a close second ...messy open mouth chewing, and licking of fingers. Heavy breathing is another but I feel really bad about that because I know it's not deliberate and is often for health reasons.

I had this as a kid and got tested (negatively) for ADD. Recently it's come back and I felt like an asshole, but my therapist told me it's quite common and she has it a bit too. Really helped understanding myself and dealing with it so far, putting a name to it. I'm trying to learn more about it. Thanks!

Thanks Ella, I always appreciate your videos and relate to a lot of them! I'm not yet diagnosed, but I identify as an autistic ADHDer, and your videos have played a big part in helping me understand that. When it comes to misophonia, I have this really badly - for me it's basically exactly as you describe with regards to chewing and slurping sounds. One of my children is quite a noisy eater and it really affects my enjoyment of certain foods which are slurpy or crunchy and brings a lot of stress to dinner time. I try to calmly ask her to eat with her mouth closed, not suggesting that she's doing something wrong, but that I really need that accommodation. I've noticed that mentioning it in a calm way redirects what I feel as disgust+anger, to a feeling of more... intense disgust? It's still really hard to take, but I feel that redirection might be useful because it's more about me and not really about anyone around me doing something wrong. Other things I've been experimenting with recently is wearing ear muffs at dinner time (haha: some bright orange safety ear muffs I just happen to have, also useful for managing noise sensitivity at home), and playing music at meal times. Leaving the room is sometimes necessary though. A very odd thing I've noticed is that paying visual attention to the source of the noise might lessen the effect, somewhat? I've seen it suggested somewhere that misophonia could be due to the brain incorrectly attributing the source of the noise to oneself, so I guess this could make some sense. I wouldn't say I've don't this experiment carefully yet... because paying attention is hard. It's the opposite of what I what to do which is to escape or ignore the source of the sound at all costs!

Eating cereal is the worst my homie at discord often eats cereal and i just can't keep it together

Clocks ticking drives me absolutely nuts. Also if someone is tapping, clicking a pen, etc..

Ive read all the comments and I suffer with nearly all of the triggers mentioned. All started in my early teens, I could not sit next to my dad at the table because he had false teeth and the noise of his chewing drive me nuts! I’m now 78 and I still suffer. Only found out it had a name about 3/4 years ago. Before I just thought I was a bit of a nutcase! Im surprised my husband of 56 years is still with me.

worst cases I cry, but mostly I get angry and irritable , and with some movements too, sometimes it gives me physical pain and I feel itchy

My whole life my mom and brother made me feel mean for my outburst.. I could never explain the anxiety and rage I’d experience when my brother who had sinus problems would breathe too audibly. Or chew with his mouth open. I’m almost 34 and I still struggle to regulate. I can’t handle my own noises much less another persons. I can’t eat around anyone I have to eat in private with sound such as the tv or radio going. Even when I’m alone it still has to be on. I can’t handle “quiet” noises. I can’t handle the quiet period honestly. Almost every asmr video is an instant skip. The whispering ones make me want to cry. It’s such a relief to see I’m not alone in the comments with these triggers. Such a relief to know it’s a real thing and not just me being weird (although yes it’s still weird but atleast there are other weird ones out there with me 🤭)

THIS EXPLAINS SO MUCH,

Way to start off the video 😂 Eating chips out of a bag is one of the ones I hate the most!!!! Especially their hands reaching in and the crinkling of the bag!

Thank you so much for this video! Misophonia is something I really really struggle with and its nice to know that there is a term for what I experience. Do you know what kind of a therapist or doctor would treat Misophonia?

There's this ceiling fan that irks and hurts me. I work from home by myself, and this particular hot day everyone else was home. So the ceiling fan was turned on. Of course they have a right to cool down, but that darn fan smh. I asked if it needed to be in and could we turn it off. I was called crazy (said as in "silly" not insulting). I couldn't get away from it. I couldn't concentrate on my work Every other sound combined into a sensory overload. I could only cry and hit my head on the wall while at my desk. I turned off all lights, took some sleeping pills and stayed in my room with my pillow over my head

Hi, i'm David from France and i have the same trouble like you. Noises of mouth and heels drive me crazy. So i put on earplugs everyday to avoid noise, in that way i can keep quiet. Thank you for the video !

I think that I have misophonia, because I hate snoring, sniffing over and over, sneezing and coughing, people talking loudly. That’s all, good video!

Good timing. It hadn't happened to me in quite a while (too depressed and depersonalized) but yesterday a lady on the bus kept not using a tissue and her nose noises were so enraging....

People banging, making loud noise, hammering, loud bass. I go from completely calm to a murderous rage. Its horrible and I find it traumatic to have violent thoughts and self injurious behaviour like punching walls and myself. I was diagnosed with ADHD but think I'm autistic. It puts me off getting into a relationship as I don't think anyone would want to be around me.

i used to hate chewing and i thought it was weird. i found out what misophonia was and i slowly grew more triggers such as snoring, chewing, and sniffles.

I know exactly what she's saying I go through the same thing. Also someone repetitively taps me on my shoulder to get my attention, repetitive beats and sounds that continue over and over and over really trigger my anger, frustrations and intolerance. It's really hard fighting yourself to not react in a negative mean way to others when this happens.🤷🏼

my triggering noise is snow crunching underneath my feet. I think it might also be the combined sensory feeling too, but I’ve also listened to a video about a sensory toy that made the same noise that equally triggered me just by sound alone.

I can't even hear people talking around me. It's sad because I get beyond stressed and I am rude to everyone around. I have had this since I can remember.

I get extremely irritated and furious at the sounds of rubbing dry cloth or guitar strings but I'm confused if it's misophonia cuz I've literally not seen a single comment with the same problem of these specific sounds 💀