See this is a real moment. Marge is told the bad advice her mother was told which was psychologically abusive. Then she realizes how bad it was and apologizes to Lisa. It’s one of those classic simpsons moments with heart that has been missing for a long time.
This scene is such a beautiful "breaking the cycle" thing. Marge forces herself to smile because that's what her mother told her to do, but Marge loves Lisa too much to see her going through the same, and how she's just gonna drive backwards and snatch Lisa into the car when she sees people mistreating her! And "Now I feel like smilling" is so fucking sweet I love this.
@@JawncoreIL yeah. The early seasons really had better more heartfelt family moments. One question I've had for a long time about Marge's mother, in Marge's childhood flashbacks, her mother always seemed cheerful and pleasant. But in present time episodes, Jacquine Bouvier is bitter and negative. What happened to change her? It can't just be because she got old because I've known happy elderly folks
The turning around of the car doesn't add up. It was already parked along side the curb. Then 180 degrees across the road. Then pulled in trough the passenger door ... ???
@@Gias1 well cartoons aren't meant to be completely realistic. But I think it's meant to show marge realising her mistake. Of giving her daughter bad advice and taking it back. After seeing how lisa gets treated in school.
It's also a little bittersweet. Marge doesn't think she deserves the same grace she affords Lisa at the end. She is willing to "fall on the sword" for her daughter and while completely noble and touching is still quite sad that she doesn't see herself as worthy/able to recieve the same.
1:29 Always be yourself, if you want to be sad, be sad, we'll ride it out with you Probably the greatest line ever from the Simpsons about unconditional love, and what every person feeling sad should know
And this is exactly why I was disgusted when they had Marge Simpson depicted, as being sexually assaulted by quagmire, which was a line that Seth MacFarlane should not have crossed… Marge to us was like all of America’s mom and even though she was an animated character on TV we still have a genuine emotional connection to her as a motherly figure And it was painful to have saw her violated and I agree with Matt Groening almost Ending the friendship between Seth.
That's such a beautiful sentiment to share with someone who could be depressed and not wanna smile. A lot of people instantly say don't frown or don't cry, even though it's coming from a good meaning place that's the first thing we say. Marge is saying it's ok to not feel happy, and that if that's how you truly feel in that moment that's ok. You ride through the storm and those that love and care about you will understand and ride it out alongside you. What a beautiful message to convey.
This might be my personal favorite moment in any Simpsons episode. At least, on an emotional level. I have bipolar disorder and I'm on the autism spectrum. One of the more relatable things in this scene is I, like other people with forms of autism, can have difficulty smiling or feigning happiness. So sometimes I would pretend to, like Lisa does. But I've never really been good at pretending anything and most of the time it's so hard to hide the stuff my conditions and life cause me to deal with. Throughout my life there were people, including myself, that wanted me to not be different or ill and to pretend to smile and to bury all those differences, emotions, frustrations, and suffering. But it was my mom who encouraged me to be who I was and the one who backed me up and supported me through good days and bad. So this scene, especially the end of it, hits pretty hard for me. It makes me cry. But it also makes me...smile.
Like she full on apologises to her own child. That is never something I would have expected from my own mother and it's so damn refreshing to see. I intend to always apologise to my future child when I'm in the wrong!
It's really a strong moment because it's not just Lisa learning, it's Marge too. She gives the advice she knows, and then sees how it works out, and takes it back- admitting she was wrong and changing because she sees her daughter going through the same shit she went through and realises it won't stop until she makes it stop. She's not too old to learn and change, and she can help the next generation do better than hers.
One thing about Marge she learns quickly in this case realizing her first advice wasn't exactly good (understatement) but the second time around not only was it good it was heartwarming 💕
I always find myself returning to this clip. When I was a kid I never really understood this episode, or where any of the conflict stemmed from. Years later, after going through my own battles with depression, this became one of my longtime favourite moments, conveying the method of masking and how unhelpful it is. It's ok not to be ok. Be yourself, never sacrifice who you are to chase the illusion of normalcy
Back when the Simpsons had heart. These earlier seasons were masterpieces. Marge is a complete badass in these earlier seasons. She literally drag Lisa in the damn car. You can't mess with a mother's children. ;D
Its tragic how accurate this is old family values, especially on women (but men to in a different way) were just as fake and a pure facade and unlealthy. we are still feeling the culture lag of this even today.
I cried when this came on the other day. I don't remeber seeing it before. But I think so many sad people want to simply hear that someone will stand by them. And maybe that is enough.
Marge: Now lisa, lisent to me. This is important. I want you to smile today. Lisa: But i dont feel like smiling. Marge: Well it doesn't matter how you feel inside, you know? It's what shows up on the surface that counts. That's was my mother taught to me. Take all your bad feelings and push them down, all the way down, past your knees until you are almost walking on them. And then, you'll fit in, and you'll be invited to parties, and boys will like you, and happiness will follow.
This scene is very powerful. For all the crass it got for Bart mouthing off and being sassy, this show really had so much to say on the social commentary of its day. Still does.
One of my favourite emotional Simpsons moments. To touch on this subject matter, in a cartoon, in its very first season says a lot. Very profound and extremely relatable to many of us who struggle. The entire last 15 years of the Simpsons haven’t come close to moments like this (except maybe ‘Barthood’). With what the show has become now people forget how amazing the 90’s seasons truly were.
Season 1 is so serious. Its was much more of a drama than a comedy. The characters were as grounded as King of the Hill characters, maybe more honestly
If you fake you’re smile and you being happy in the end once you’ve had enough and you can take it anymore you’ll start crying it has happened to me where I keep pretending that I’m happy but I’m not whenever you can’t take anything anymore at all you just start crying my mom said to never hide your feelings and if you’re sad it’s OK to be sad 💕
Theres something about the phrase, "push your feelings past your knees, until youre walking on top of them", that really stuck with me. I think its beautiful writing, and it does sound encouraging instead of obviously messed up. Too many shows put in messed up stuff for their characters to say that sounds so obviously weird and bad, but here its almost empowering, you know? You can tell Marge took a lot of courage from this idea. And its also true, when i felt really bad (when someone in our family died) but had to be brave for everyone else because i didnt want to add to the suffering, it did feel like physically pushing the feeling down into the ground. I almost tried to make that feeling sink into the earth and trample over it. Its sort of morbidly beautiful. Bad advice, but i love how true it sounds
Best Marge moment of the entire series! The golden age of the series was absolutely great at shining a light on a lot of the toxicity kids grew up with back in the day!
Pathos in the Simpsons was absolute gold. They should have had much more touching moments to balance out the comedy and then it wouldn't have gone stupid.
I used to be self conscious when I open-mouth-smiled because my gums showed and I thought that was ugly. Now I just don't care and I do it anyway. I hope you guys will someday have the same attitude.
Same and so many people are like “why don’t you smile?”, I just say “I don’t feel like smiling” then I realize that it sounds like I’m depressed and I don’t want them to think like that
This is actually a proven psychological trick, tho. I got therapy through the VA that would’ve cost a me fortune otherwise. Forcing a joker-level smile actually CAN help you improve your mood. Your face communicates to your mind via your muscles. It makes me laugh when I do it because I know I look ridiculous, but it does work when I need to fight off those darkest of thoughts… This scene has a good message, but don’t knock the power that smiling can have as an emotional parachute 😊
Mom: I want you to smile today Me: i dont feel like smiling. Mom: well it doesn’t matter what you feel inside you know? It’s what shows up on the surface that counts. That’s what my mom taught me. take all your bad feelings and push them down. Alllllll the way down. Past your knee almost where your walking on them.”
OK so according to the commentary for this episode, the kid with the purple sweater is apparently suppose to be Ralph. As in Ralph Wiggum's original design.
I'm surprised I can't find a Lofi/Chillmix song with Marges speech in it. *edit* Nevermind, after reading the comments, I found something that has a little bit of her speech, but not the best part.
depressed people; brain; now listen to me this is important i want you to smile today feelings; but i don't feel like smiling brain; it doesn't matter how you feel inside you know, it's what shows up on a surface that counts, that's what society thought us, take all your bad felling and push them down all the way down past your knees until you're almost walking on them and when you're alone you can show your real felling and cry feelings; okey i'll smile 🙂
I feel like all humans were created to feel sad. “Happiness” is just a memory. A fake one. It makes me seem like I’m trying too hard. Trying too hard to be a normal happy human.
Happiness is a natural emotion in humans and animals. But like any other emotion, it varies between hosts. Different people find joy in different things, from massive accomplishments to little things like a Simpsons clip. I don't know what your life is like, but if you're sad, it's okay to feel that way. The world won't hate you for it. People who care about you will help you through it. And even after that, you don't have to suddenly be all smiles and sunshine. I think real happiness comes from being comfortable with who you are.
who's here from the bootleg boy's "bad feelings" video i think it's just me still, although i don't really like the show myself, this truly is a quite adorable and touching scene